Want to Stop Drinking FOREVER? Watch THIS for 2024

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Build the foundation for your sobriety with our FREE guide - The 5 Pillars of Sustainable Sobriety - soberful.com/5pillars
In this solo episode, Veronica explains why she dislikes the term 'sobriety toolbox' and why we need a sobriety habit instead. She explains the mindset and system that we need to build a life-long sobriety habit.
Chapters:
00:00 Building a Sobriety Habit
01:20 The Essential Elements of a Sobriety Practice
06:20 Managing Emotional Life in Sobriety
11:48 The goal vs. the system
13:12 The importance of consistency
19:11 The power of 1% improvement
23:05 Building a Sobriety Habit
24:18 Early Sobriety and Investment
27:59 Reaching the Critical Threshold
33:50 The importance of consistency in a sobriety practice
34:57 Changing language and identity in sobriety
37:33 The five pillars of sobriety
Find more information and resources at soberful.com/206
Host: / veronicajvalli
Editor & Thumbnail: @paulstennett
#podcast #quitdrinking #alcoholfree #alcoholism #mentalhealth

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@AkS143joyful 3 ай бұрын

I’m at 6 weeks sober today. I will not go back. No decisions need to be made anymore! Just not doing it. It feels like chains are lifted!

@markg.4246 10 ай бұрын

After "countless vain attempts" to "stop drinking", and zero success, I had a moment where I looked into the abyss and finally got honest with myself...Rigorously honest! That was the moment I began to recover. My focus completely shifted away from "not drinking", to how I was moving my feet! From the movie the "Shawshank Redemption"..."Get busy living, or get busy dying". That is the essence of recovery, and you're right Veronica about developing different habits, routines, and practices. Any elite athlete, or elite musician, or professional in whatever field, will tell you that they had to practice, and keep practicing. That is why after more than 29 yrs of continuous sobriety, I am more involved in recovery than ever. I don't want my skills to deteriorate, because the penalty for me is death. To end on a very positive note, my life today is so far beyond not drinking, that I have trouble processing it sometimes. I live in abundance by any definition of the word! Happy, joyous, and...FREE!

@lpsglitterpaws8536 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your content. I need to quit drinking forever. I go for 6-7 days then I start drinking again ( about 3 days) then I sober up again. I’m disappointed in myself and I want to live sober

@larahuffmaster5857 7 ай бұрын

AA or Celebrate Recovery

@TheJlee28 5 ай бұрын

True

@jujumulligan43 4 ай бұрын

That is exactly what I do but often get stuck on the rollercoaster ride from hell often for 5 or 6 days. I know I am running on willpower and it has a short shelf life. I'm working on loosing the Desire. I believe we can overcome this.

@lpsglitterpaws8536 4 ай бұрын

@@jujumulligan43 I started on the Sinclair Method about 4 months ago. It is starting to work now as I am not obsessed about my next drink and find myself forgetting to drink on some days. I heard it takes about 6 months before you reach pharmacological extinction where the brain returns to its pre-addictive state. It has been the best thing for me. Read the book The Cure for Alcoholism if you’re interested. Good luck to you 🌺

@AliceInWaterland 4 ай бұрын

Pressure ON HUMANITY.... too drink ourselves to death is VERY HIGH! OUR entire life.... Profits are made on, Messages to drink, to feel happy, accepted by others and Loved is LIES, LIES AND MORE LIES. Remember,.... We are ALL, DIVINE super natural miracles, walking around AS a robot. GRAB your heart & soul and own yourself! CONGRATULATIONS 🎊 🎶 🎵

@kd5499 4 ай бұрын

Freedom= driving by your old favorite liquor store and not thinking twice. I miss that...

@AprilPvd 10 ай бұрын

You are brilliant. You state a fact that is so intense it needs to be posted on the sides of all alcohol bottles. I used to say I drank to alter my brain to deal with reality. And I actually thought that was okay. Since March 14, 2023 I decided to alter my reality, remove stressful things and deal with what I was running from so I wouldn't need alcohol. I no longer "outsource my problems to alcohol". Thank you!

@juliomiranda3771 Жыл бұрын

Agreed completely on the element of fixing the element that make you feel bad about your life …unless you identify and work on those element you are going to go back to use alcohol to forget about it

@carolminick780 7 ай бұрын

Absolutely love your comment about consistency over intensity. That has been my mantra, decluttering our home, however, it is so appropriate to stop alcohol consumption. I quit drinking for three months, January February and March then started up again until today, October 7, 2023; I'm tired of feeling lousy.

@erinblu8551 5 ай бұрын

I'm currently reading Atomic Habits, and was thinking, wow, the idea of looking at the system rather than the outcome is so much like Clear's book! I think one thing that is shifting (3rd day sober) for me is that before, I couldn't trust myself. It was like I saw myself as this little weasel that would screw everything up if I even saw a drink. I worked to really gear myself up for dry January and I'm feeling so much more at peace and like I can stick with it, like I am not as likely to trip myself up! And I think a part of that is my focus on spirituality this time around. Love this video!

@anntastic1532 26 күн бұрын

I don't feel the 'more freedom" yet... I feel like I am drowning in a verbally/mentally abusive relationship and have no way out except an escape in alcohol now and then. 5 kids, 2nd marriage...how do we even begin to separate. I have failed, once again. 😢 And I was the stellar athlete, student, daughter, ..until my first divorce. 😪

@josefboys 3 күн бұрын

In my perspective it's not a question of failure or success, it's a question of more harm and less harm for you and your loved ones. Alcohol makes you get stuck in a loop of self-hatred and escapism and prevents real change! Learn to love instead of harming yourself through alcohol, you are worthy!!!!!!!!!! Get help, talk to someone outside!!!You can do it!!!!!

@anntastic1532 3 күн бұрын

@@josefboys thank you ❤ I am getting help and working on it. 🙏

@josefboys 3 күн бұрын

@@anntastic1532 Great!!!!!! Wish you the best!!!! I survived a devastating divorce (with 2 kids, now adults) and a life-threatening brain tumour, lost my ability to speak through the inevitable brain surgery, regained slowly but steadily a good quality of live! I've been in some dark places myself, hence my compassion. A good life is possible!!!! Without alcohol! With love and self-respect! Grasp it!!!!!

@thepragmatist 18 сағат бұрын

Thank you for this video. It's very helpful. I am not a big fan of AA and I like your pragmatic approach. Also, your podcast is impressive.

@Healingandchoices 10 күн бұрын

Consistancy for ANYTHING we want to build. We are either building up or building down. Everyone these days wants now now now. 🐢 turtle wins the race.

@michellemurphy4150 8 күн бұрын

Thank you for your work, Veronica. Can you kindly share the recording for building my sober practice. Regards

@jujumulligan43 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this. You described me like a mirror. I tried to catch the name of the book you referenced but could not. You are so wise here and very helpful. With much gratitude.

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 4 ай бұрын

I'm very glad it was helpful!

@jujumulligan43 4 ай бұрын

Oh yes. I'm so excited to find the book you mentioned, "Atomic Habits" is available at the library. I'm convinced that creating healing habits is where I have needed to focus on! Thank you 🙏!!❤❤❤

@joyconnell1318 24 күн бұрын

WOW! Thinking about stifling my emotions for 55 years is mind boggling - I didn’t start drinking until I was in my 30’s! Lately the enemy keeps telling me that I’m too old to ever beat the addiction but I’m still trying. Thank you for sharing your wisdom it’s reaching me on another level. I’ll keep listening ❤

@meisme12356 4 ай бұрын

GOD WORKS FOR ME 😊

@jeffreyjohnmann 4 ай бұрын

I just discovered your channel! This is great stuff. I am going to check out more of your videos. Thank you for sharing this ❤

@nv648 8 ай бұрын

Yes.. consistency is the most difficult aspect..

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, willpower alone won't get us there.

@emmastarr3755 8 ай бұрын

This video is literally going too change my life

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 6 ай бұрын

I hope it does

@rachelcipressi4509 5 ай бұрын

I loved listening to you! Thank you! ❤

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 5 ай бұрын

I'm so glad! Thanks for listeneing!

@samshailer8530 8 ай бұрын

Thank you. This is the best podcast I’ve heard on sobriety ever and I’ve heard a lot! I will be buying your book! 🙏😃❤

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 8 ай бұрын

Thank you. Let me know what you think about the book!

@jamestaylor9537 7 ай бұрын

You’re awesome

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 6 ай бұрын

You are!

@christinme8375 2 ай бұрын

How can I order your book ? I don’t see any links below . Maybe I missed it . Help please 🙏 Ty ;)

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 2 ай бұрын

Soberful by Veronica Valli is on Amazon

@LondonCryptic 8 ай бұрын

So many programs out there that promise you'll quit drinking from one day to the next and feel great for the rest of your life. Listen, Steffon Barkload's Quit Drinking Forever takes a lighter, safer approach which you decide to go with at your own pace. Best shortcut I go’ogled that only took days to rewire my brain to continually experience mental peace.

@anr8507 10 ай бұрын

Off topic you look like Sarah jESSICA Parkerr 🙂

@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks 8 ай бұрын

Never had that before

@JanineHyslop 6 ай бұрын

I see it a bit too

@danielleschexnayder5646 4 ай бұрын

Great podcast! I need this song!❤

@dannywoudt001 22 күн бұрын

Listening to this after a bottle of SC

@user-fc3dp6vk9r 3 ай бұрын

Are we live?

@user-fc3dp6vk9r 3 ай бұрын

I wish u were my therapist

@user-fc3dp6vk9r 3 ай бұрын

I'm an alcoholic and meth and pills.... the meth made me crazy

@margaretquinn6231 8 ай бұрын

I,m drinkin 2 escape, my husband is acholic,

@user-kj2dg8pf6j 8 ай бұрын

Hugs. You are not alone. Week 1 is hell. It gets easier.

@cheese8742 3 ай бұрын

HOW TO STOP DRINKING: 1. EAT SHROOMS 2. TURN OFF KZfaq 3. LOVE YOURSELF & LIVE YOUR LIFE FREE OF WEAPONIZED CONSUMABLE LIQUIDS

@AliceInWaterland 4 ай бұрын

It is a HABIT. The habit of...... Saying to Others.... I Dont Drink, CUZ it always makes me feel Badd. That's all! (and then , I Get A LOOK back, to say... What's wrong with you?)