Weaponizing Vulnerability: Lydia & Milton

Weaponizing Vulnerability: Lydia & Milton - Love Is Blind S5

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8 ай бұрын

Therapist analyses Lydia and Milton from Love Is Blind Season 5 based on personality types and cognitive functions.
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In this video, I also elaborate on the following personality types and how their cognitive functions correlate with relationship chemistry and behaviour:
Fi introverted Feeling, Fe extraverted Feeling,
Si introverted Sensing, Se extraverted Sensing,
ESFP, INFP
00:00 Intro
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@beautyfrmwithin 8 ай бұрын

Dr. Cherie is the Truth!!! I had a couple’s session with her and she was just as insightful (as she is in these videos)! It’s amazing the way she can interpret people.❤

@alexischilders7428 8 ай бұрын

I was telling my roommate as we were watching their last date scene that it seems like Lydia can criticize Milton all the time, but she can’t handle it when he criticized her once.

@thebighousencaaattendancer478 8 ай бұрын

That's women in general

@ahmorgan 8 ай бұрын

@@thebighousencaaattendancer478true lol

@winterbelle708 8 ай бұрын

@@thebighousencaaattendancer478 no 💕

@andreasolisu 8 ай бұрын

I honestly feel bad for Milton, I hope he finds a way to figure it out. She’s too full of herself 😬

@44nk96 8 ай бұрын

Yep! She's repeatedly asking why she can't find love but refuses to listen to criticisms about her.

@44nk96 8 ай бұрын

THANK YOU!! I like Lydia at times, but she can be sooooo overbearing and thinks everyone has to accept her for all her faults, without her doing any work to improve on herself.

@turnitupwithnelly-2337 8 ай бұрын

I like her too! I didnt know there were people who like her. She defs has problems but i do like her

@Peanut_taco_muffin 8 ай бұрын

Why do you like her?? She manipulated both Uche and Aaliyah because she wanted Uche to end up alone so he’d consider dating her- even though he dumped her and then JUST rejected her. She’s creepy and unstable, tbh. Not to mention the fact that she’s dragging this poor man (Milton) down the aisle SOLELY to make Uche jealous, and Milton is a wonderful person, and deserving of SO much better. The fact that she asked IMMEDIATELY after sitting down in the pods with Uche, “oh my god if get engaged to someone else, what will you do?? How would you feel??”. You could tell that she had that question ready to fire asap. He would feel nothing except bad for the dude you’re using, lady.

@Sibby496 8 ай бұрын

I absolutely love her too. She needs to work on her stubbornness 😅

@Analaya749 8 ай бұрын

@@Peanut_taco_muffin the fact the first words of her vows were “I love you because you chose me” says A LOT about her. Especially when she cried to both Izzy and Milton about wanting to “be loved so so so badly” she simply wants anyone that bites. Nothing about her is admirable to me. Bad friend, bad partner, bad personality, bad intentions. Just no.

@GopherCakeStuff 8 ай бұрын

@@Peanut_taco_muffinUche would end up alone with or without Lydia's help unless he finds another emotional doormat like Aliyah was. I'm glad Lydia pushed past Aliyahs request not to over share because it made her question Uche more than she normally would. Aliyah was just as bad as Lydia with over sharing her emotions and clinging. It's bad she got hurt in the process but hopefully it didn't lead to her landing with someone controlling like Uche. Now maybe she'll steer towards people more prone to being in a balanced relationship with her, not pushy people she gravitated towards like both Lydia and Uche.

@deeniesmothers9310 8 ай бұрын

Interesting. At the 5:26 mark when Milton is expressing how he feels, Lydia butts in and says "Do you think about how it makes me feel?" That was the same way Uche answered when Aaliyah was trying to express HER feelings. Milton can't even process his own feelings before he has to take care of hers.

@swagsatan6292 8 ай бұрын

damn i didn't even think of that. Makes it even more interesting to know that they used to be together. how did they even function together???

@lelele3 8 ай бұрын

You are right, so similar

@AMarsh-jc6iz 8 ай бұрын

My personal take on Milton is that his rush to get married is to prove himself mature to his family. From personal experience (as the youngest of my family) the way his sister looked at him at the dinner, with the condescending, stoic smirk, was exactly how my older sister (10 years older than me) used to look at me when I tried to express myself. My explanations were always put down or questioned and that really has lasting effects on a person. I had my first child at 22 and now at 27 have I now realised that (although I enjoy being a mother very much) I had my son for selfish reasons. It really was to prove myself as someone to be taken seriously. I feel Milton is doing this with getting married. He wants to prove to his family that he is mature and therefore worthy. edit: spelling

@terriw919fyi 8 ай бұрын

Good points. I thought his family was dismissive, condescending, and very stiff. I can't imagine what it was like growing up in a family that is so unemotional.

@AMarsh-jc6iz 8 ай бұрын

@@terriw919fyi From my experience, the one word I would describe it as is invalidating. I struggled to trust myself, my instinct and inner gut because they (my older siblings) would invalidate my emotions constantly. You grow up respecting their opinion over your own and then subconsciously rebel. This is what Milton is doing for sure.

@stephanieslawek 8 ай бұрын

I found it ironic that Lydia was crying about no one wanting her when Milton had clearly expressed his interest. It was like she was too caught up in the drama of the story to notice that it wasn't true.

@pearlosibu 8 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂. This is soooo true

@samariacaesar492 8 ай бұрын

You are so right lmao

@Aisha_babii 8 ай бұрын

Playing victim is so easy to do

@xa5150 8 ай бұрын

@free_beee It’s the easiest way to gain power and force your will upon others. Just look at society today. Plenty of examples.

@44nk96 8 ай бұрын

Facts

@LeandroVelez7 8 ай бұрын

I completely agree that he’s just recreating the relationship he had with his parents. It was apparent at Lydia’s meeting them that they treat him like a child and are constantly bulldozing him. Forcing the poor guy to sit there mutely.

@PrissyLadyVenom 8 ай бұрын

“The poor guy” is a self admitted troll, remember? Didn’t he mention being kicked out of several Pokémon chat rooms? Milton also goes toe to toe with Lydia. IJS. Lol

@LeandroVelez7 8 ай бұрын

@@PrissyLadyVenom ha I forgot about that.

@jubiterr 8 ай бұрын

For real. I keep reading comments on how Milton is the most mature this season and for 1, the rest of the cast is unhinged so not fair reference here and 2, Milton never expressed WHY he wanted to get married. To me he looks like he want to defy his parents’ authority and emancipate himself in the most chaotic way possible.

@LeandroVelez7 8 ай бұрын

@@jubiterr I got that too. It was like doing something outside of the norm, like going on the show, was an act of rebellion against his bulldozer of a mother. It was very apparent to me he had a childish side when he was having lunch with his sister.

@jubiterr 8 ай бұрын

@@LeandroVelez7 yes ! he's the "or what?" kinda of person, like a contrarian teenager. i guess we'll see.

@MomandBuggs 8 ай бұрын

Milton is the youngest yet most mature person on this show. I think Milton should live more though before he gets married.

@ShakiraJonay 8 ай бұрын

It seems like he may be trying to move fast. I remember he mentioned something like people with his height and spine condition don’t live long so maybe that has something to do with it

@h.sowandegray2913 8 ай бұрын

Million is my favorite. But he definitely has his own problems. He is confusing his "love" for Lydia with a need to prove his maturity. Her outburst and behavior just validates his own perceived level of maturity.

@ArethaRenee 8 ай бұрын

@@h.sowandegray2913I don’t think he’s actually in love with her. I thinks it’s more infatuation and sex.

@PrissyLadyVenom 8 ай бұрын

Being able to hide his emotions doesn’t mean he is more mature. He has just mastered the art (lime mastering anything else, that’s all) Dude plays Pokémon and got banned from the chat for shit talking. Doesn’t sound so mature to me. That being said, , he’s still my favourite 😊

@h.sowandegray2913 8 ай бұрын

@@PrissyLadyVenom I forgot about the chat ban 😂😱😂

@gojirastan64 8 ай бұрын

I honestly found Lydia to be so insufferable fairly early on, drama aside. She tries to use the “right” talking points about openness, selflessness, being a caring partner, etc., but it comes from a place of insecurity and selfishness. She comes across as caring far more about being in a relationship rather than who she’s in a relationship with because despite how confident she tries to come across, she places SO much importance and self worth on literally just being in a relationship with someone. And ofc being authentic and being yourself is a wonderful thing, but when you receive negative feedback about certain traits you have from many people and they affect your relationships very regularly, the notion of self acceptance is really just toxic because the problem is YOU. Lydia will never be happy and experience a healthy relationship unless she decides to put the work in to heal her very clear insecure attachment issues and focuses on some self growth instead of just finding someone to love her. When you do those things, love will find you at the right time.

@loyaltyb71052 8 ай бұрын

Very good an honest view of everyone you've spoken on. Lydia is a real manipulator and she thinks she's something that she is not= not as attractive as she thinks!

@misse8031 8 ай бұрын

Totally agree ❤

@user-ip2bw8hf2q 8 ай бұрын

“I crave so hard to be loved for who I am” means “I want somebody to love me no matter how crazy or ridiculous I behave”

@lolaispure4296 3 ай бұрын

Wow very true

@Sunfl0w33r 8 ай бұрын

Ughhh this feels like VINDICATION 🙌🏽😩😭 I’ve seen so many people go to bat for her and you’re the only person I’ve seen so far who’s had a thorough breakdown down of the behavior she’s shown that is very deleterious to her building meaningful relationships

@susangivenrod656 8 ай бұрын

Yes! She’s so messed up, really a bully. Your comment that “ she’s a black hole that no one can fill” is so on point. When Milton’s family sees the show and all of the manipulation of Lydia, they are going to be HORRIFIED!

@superlunary2015 8 ай бұрын

You articulated perfectly why I can’t root for her.

@ArethaRenee 8 ай бұрын

This was so on point. I’ve seen people saying people are judging Lydia based on what Uche said. I disagreed, and this video was a great breakdown of Lydia’s manipulative ways.

@suras8984 8 ай бұрын

People were seeing Lydia for who she was way before Uche said anything negative about her. There is just amnesia since Uche became the most hated guy on the show.

@spillledmilllk 8 ай бұрын

Lydia is very manipulative, so glad to finally see someone calling her out. Lydia makes everything about her and feels she can do no wrong. It was messed up for her to knowingly befriend Aaliyah & she doesn't actually like Milton, she just wanted her 15 minutes of fame.

@jessariianelson9521 8 ай бұрын

Manipúlative is strong word which I don’t think fits

@adrianwillis66 8 ай бұрын

She is a bit manipulative I am glad I am not the only one to see it. Hopefully she treats Milton right.

@swagsatan6292 8 ай бұрын

It was so weird when she says to Milton, "I'm reassuring you that i know you have my back". Wouldn't normal people say "I'm reassuring you that I have your back"/ Just shows that everything revolves around her and her only.

@e11esounds 8 ай бұрын

I clocked this also!

@victoriaogunsanya9074 8 ай бұрын

She’s a narc. That is classic narc. They don’t love you, they love that you love them

@e11esounds 8 ай бұрын

@@victoriaogunsanya9074 she’s definitely got traits! Think she’s a bit bpd and Uche is very arrogant, also narcissistic. Bad combo. Hope she gets therapy!

@kimberlysalamutmohmmed1265 8 ай бұрын

she said this in their vows, nothing about him yuh know, just wow .@@victoriaogunsanya9074

@stephanieslawek 8 ай бұрын

Yes, even in her wedding vows, she didn't say what she loved and admired about him, she said how she loved how he chose HER and accepted HER for who she was. Nothing about her love for him.

@kalindazimba1854 8 ай бұрын

I hope Lydia sees this video, it will help her a lot as a person. None of us are perfect but we work towards being better, she doesn’t. Even though she claims she does. Milton, I hope he didn’t say yes.

@jenpw1525 8 ай бұрын

I started to wonder if Lydia is a narcissist. The lengths she went to to get revenge on Uche and how she only talks about herself. She latched on to Milton as soon as he paid attention to her but didn’t truly get to know him. It was only about her. She just wants any dude to want her so she can make a big deal about herself.

@StephinTech 8 ай бұрын

I’m glad you made this video! I’ve had my opinions on Uche but Lydia has a big boundary issue and her bulldozer nature really bothered me. They are similar in that respect. She doesn’t reflect. I hope there is growth for her. Her need to be loved makes her come off as desperate, and dominant. Therapy is definitely needed!!!

@s.elizabeth1753 8 ай бұрын

I wish Lydia would see this. If she was just made aware maybe she can work on herself. I've known so many women like her and I stay away from them because no matter what they will make you out to be the bad guy

@herbal-tea 8 ай бұрын

Those who dont want to change their negative behaviors & want their negative behaviors to be accepted almost always ask “Why cant people just accept me for who I am”? They want people to openly accept their negative behavior which is a sign of severe mental illness with no help, healing, or accountability.

@Eman__7 8 ай бұрын

I am always amazed by your analysis. This is by far the most accurate and mind opening analysis of Lydia and Milton as individuals and as a couple.

@NatTeeVee 8 ай бұрын

Agree with your points. It seems Lydia wants to win the race to the alter after being rejected. Her interest in Milton is based on that and her wanting to control him. In the beginning she spoke to his age and that changed when she was left with no option. Her perception is skewed overall. She is very manipulative and immature based on what's aired thus far. Milton shouldn't marry her.

@marieuwimana655 8 ай бұрын

Agreed

@nadia199313 8 ай бұрын

I didn’t even remember what she had said about his age but you’re right, when she had no options she went running to him, I feel she just wants to be married to someone, doesn’t matter who

@terriw919fyi 8 ай бұрын

I agree. At the very least, Milton shouldn't rush to the alter and get to know her better when the honeymoon phase wears off.

@queenjahneen100 8 ай бұрын

Yes. He was her last choice.

@GopherCakeStuff 8 ай бұрын

Lydia actually seems like the type to change for someone faster than they'd change for her even if she pushes back a bit. You can see her cave in a bit each time Milton doesn't do as she asks about something like if she makes herself more likeable to them they'll more easily do as she asks. Milton is actually quite stubborn so I'm not sure why people think she can manipulate him so easily. She can barely get him to pick up his towels or wear a matching outfit...

@25dreamer10 8 ай бұрын

I fully feel like Milton was a choice so that she can have the family and kids that she’s been wanting.

@4u2cre8 8 ай бұрын

I don't think Lydia even likes Milton. She only latched onto him because he was the only one who showed an interest in her. That's really all she wants is the attention. She doesn't care who it comes from. Izzy, Uche, Milton...

@selenaseabrooks4096 8 ай бұрын

Lydia has some deep rooted concerns. It may help if she speaks to a therapist who can help her sort this stuff out.

@GopherCakeStuff 8 ай бұрын

Uche said she went to a therapist. Not sure if she's still going or if it was just for the grief. He listed it as one of the reasons they broke up cause he only wanted to be with her while she was vulnerable 🤢

@m.aliciavela4058 8 ай бұрын

I am not trying to make excuses for us, latinos but that is how most are raised. Thank to this videos I am learning that love and relationships are not supposed to hurt so much and also about our narcissistics traits ... it is amazing how it is part of our culture. Thank you so much for this video Dr. Cherie.

@sincerethunderstorm9317 8 ай бұрын

Ironically, I had the same thought. I even had to do some internal reflection...like I hope I'm not like this. 😅 because wow she is in my opinion chaotic.

@lilyqu6341 8 ай бұрын

thank you DR for calling her out. we need more

@bajanzel9222 8 ай бұрын

Lydia needs to watch this especially so that she can understand what Milton was saying at that last dinner. I loved how Milton handled that situation though. He held his stance and did not run to her. He waited for her to return to the table to continue the conversation.

@jesssc402 8 ай бұрын

I feel like people who say they are “givers” actually aren’t genuine givers. Like they “give” so that the other person will like them or will think highly of them… Genuine givers (those who give and actually think more of the other person’s sake over themselves) are described as such by those who are around them, not by themselves…

@lilyxo6914 8 ай бұрын

The Milton breakdown was very eye opening. I’ve had friends who’ve grown up around that family dynamic, I’ve seen how much it affected them. I also suspect that the person I am seeing also grew up like that. It’ll be a little easier to navigate our relationship now that I’ve seen this

@1998emmal 8 ай бұрын

Gosh you are incredible! I knew I didn’t like Lydia for all of the reasons you described, but I could never articulate it in the same eloquent way. Thank you!

@Peanut_taco_muffin 8 ай бұрын

This channel is so great. You’re so concise, so knowledgeable and you are teaching us so much in terms of psychological functioning, personalities, etc. Lydia desperately tried to get Uche back by following him in this show, which is very disturbing. She’s constantly trying to force herself into to being seen as Aaliyah’s clone, because if that’s true, that means Uche misses her and is dating someone as close as possible to herself, when in reality Aaliyah is NOTHING like Lydia. Lydia is manipulative as all hell and I wouldn’t trust her worth a crap.

@MariaESmith 7 ай бұрын

At the last dinner Lydia and Milton had, Lydia spoke about her concerns regarding his messiness that truly bothered her which was fine so he at first said that he was doing his best but when she said "if that's your best..wow." He then responded with "I can try harder" but it's like she didn't even catch what he said though. He then expressed how they're BOTH imperfect by bringing up how she handled a specific situation that wasn't pleasing to him either but instead of hearing him on how it made him feel or acknowledging it,(like he did when she spoke on his lack of cleanliness)she proceeded to give a justification on why hearing how she should control her emotions more always bothered her. He at least said I can try harder but she couldn't even say that herself. No type of acknowledgement. It's kind of like she speaks not to have a resolution through understanding for both sides but to solely bend to her demands. He's 24 and she knew that going in. It's going to take patience and communication in gentleness/love. She has her issues to work on too so it seems like his age might just be the perfect fit for her. Listening to each other's critiques and compromising afterwards seems to be what's needed to be worked on between them.

@bachopinbee5991 6 ай бұрын

Accurate description of Lydia. Learnig a lot about my tendency to bulldoze my feelings onto people.

@trishaphillpotts47 8 ай бұрын

Milton is super emotionally intelligent 👌 great analysis

@Zoeybamboey 8 ай бұрын

You are phenomenal at these analyses. It makes so much sense when you break it down and I’m able to identify a little piece of myself in almost every person.

@pourpeopledrinks 8 ай бұрын

wow seeing all the back to back instances of milton trying to even just get a sentence out and she immediately goes DO YOU THINK -I- ______???? and its like no one cares lydia its not your turn anymore lmao

@poojahakke5462 8 ай бұрын

Beautiful! I always felt like she was ‘playing’ a victim + not holding a comfortable space for people to express their thoughts and feelings + almost manhandling Milton out of the party. However… her saying the right words ‘sometimes’ got me confused just as we experience with people who have antagonistic personalities in real life. Thankyou so much for the video, helps clear the doubts ♥️✨

@Gan2ya 8 ай бұрын

Finally an interpretation i can understand and agree with

@talitam.8414 8 ай бұрын

Mind you Izzy rejected her only two or three days after they 1st met in the pods, like…!? Her reaction was so over the top!

@louisea4920 8 ай бұрын

This analysis is crazy good. It’s like you’re watching a totally different show. Damn, love it!

@rcplease 8 ай бұрын

dr. cherie FTW-- as usual! i appreciate your highlighting Lydia's weaponization of vulnerability and insatiable need for love from others. i didn't make those connections about Milton. in general, i am bothered by him and his family's insistence that they are not emotional, when being flat and/or blunted is a deeply emotional stance. i wish this false dichotomy between logic/reason and emotions would end.

@Kakarott2023 8 ай бұрын

I have to admit that I am alot like Lydia in many ways but I want to change that.

@Lovelee43 8 ай бұрын

You nailed it again! This was so insightful! ❤

@tashenkas 8 ай бұрын

Another great analysis Dr Cherie. It's so helpful to be able to understand this type of a person. With my Fe, in the past I would have just been overrun by ppl like Lydia, not knowing why it's overwhelming and why I feel bad. Now I can sense it in my gut and would stay away, but I still need help to understand what they're doing, since it's harder for me to recognize. My only 'complaint' is that you don't make more videos :)

@jinx724 8 ай бұрын

I wish more ppl would call out how emotionally intelligent Milton is, I was very impressed by him being the most mature out of everyone there despite being the youngest. But, that isn't uncommon Gen Z is becoming known for being like this. And it ticks me off that ppl are saying that people in their early 20s shouldn't even be in the show and Milton is a prime example if 20 year Olds who know what they want, who WANT to be married

@queenjahneen100 8 ай бұрын

Is it Gan Z or is it just Milton as an individual? Many think Gen z is a hot mess depending on who is in front of them. I’m unclear how one person defines a whole generation good or bad.

@suras8984 8 ай бұрын

Milton was not sure if he wanted to get married and expressed that. He is still young. But he is very good at conflict resolution and communication when it comes to conflict especially for someone who has a hard time expressing himself. You can see he gets this side from his family who appear to be very logically minded, goal oriented and driven.

@evadburns 8 ай бұрын

@@queenjahneen100 Thank you. Gen Z is the reason why people do not know what a woman is anymore. So I will not use Milton to think all Gen Zs operate in the same fashion. Milton's household/upbringing has a lot to do with the way he is. Have you observed his parents' dynamic? The way his sister could read Lydia? The way his mother highlighted that Lydia's responses were more scripted than emotional? It is not Gen Z dear, it is upbringing. Unfortunately, not many households have strong familial foundations and this is why this show demonstrated the brokenness in the people.

@hmmm2564 3 ай бұрын

He is not

@herrgrunaan 8 ай бұрын

I watch other therapists breakdown of this show and by far you have been the most insightful while pointing to examples of your hypothesis! Thank you! Just subscribed to your channel!!?

@DrCherieTypes 8 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@Iris_Transforms_Healing 8 ай бұрын

Let me just say that you’ve provided an incredibly accurate assessment of Lydia, Milton, and Uche! Well done!😊 Thank you.❤

@BreenyLee 8 ай бұрын

Super on point! 🎯❤

@krazieecko 8 ай бұрын

Lydia needs to wonder why no one loves her for the real her because deep down she's a very flawed person that oozed toxicity

@tom97009 8 ай бұрын

Yes Lydia and Uche relationship was different. However the things that uche warned him about, her being controling, not listening, having her own way...shes doing thise exact thing to Milton. So basically its the same dynamic. And his Family ia right. Lead by logic. Not emotions because that leads to madness

@gretaumunozakayigema9764 8 ай бұрын

I have the same personality trait as Lydia exactly in the same range, I immediately liked her the first time I saw her on the first episode. Countrary to her, I am able to manage my emotions and be a good friend, I was raised by parents that were crazy about me, my dad was my best friend, I think with Lydia, she prolly had a difficult childhood where she starved being loved and had to fight for it. As we can see she was prolly raised by a single mother, and was never corrected whenever she would be domineering therefore she doesn't notice that it's wrong. I hope she does some self work, I know she did but it's not enough, she needs more healing and more self work, I think with time she can actually be a great match for Milton, but right now, I don't think so!

@berlintechno7907 8 ай бұрын

gosh I really really respect milton for how unbelievably calm he stays all the time and how he handled uche bc girl, unfortunately I‘m a lydia in situations like that. especially with people like uche I get so incredibly triggered that it‘s so fucking hard not to react, lol. I wish I could be more like Milton in that regard!!

@dejab.5454 8 ай бұрын

You've been spot on with your analysis. I felt the same way bout this woman and her motives. I know this may come off as a bit extreme... but from day one, I got witch vibes from Lydia

@regularity2556 8 ай бұрын

Wow, you have made me see Lydia in a different light. I was rooting for her and Milton to get married but now I see that wouldn't be the best.

@fashattude 8 ай бұрын

I really like that you highlight the cognitive functions now, but I really miss you naming what the specific personality type is. It's really confusing for someone like me who's not an expert.

@BeautifulGirl735 8 ай бұрын

I think Lydia only sees people in relation to herself, and not for their own inherent traits… Which you just mentioned!

@KL-nw9mi 8 ай бұрын

Thank you! I’m tired of everyone only making only uche the villain

@_heyimbritt 8 ай бұрын

Such a great breakdown ❤

@theverticalgiraffe2102 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I've also been watching Dr. Kirk Honda's reactions but I can tell he's a bit more reserved with his comments; therefore, I really appreciate your bluntness about what's actually going on!

@DrCherieTypes 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying this 🙏 I do get nervous about being so assertive, but I also feel certain things need to be said here. The audience can choose whether they agree or disagree

@writeousrhema 8 ай бұрын

Good points I had not considered. My dad also dominates convos. He pretends to ask you a question just to talk about himself.

@MomandBuggs 8 ай бұрын

Can you do a video on JP and Taylor? They immediately latched on to each other in the pods but fell apart outside the pods

@Gan2ya 8 ай бұрын

Ya this couple was super confusing to me. I thought Taylor wasnt attracted to him so she was making up an issue out of all this making it awkward but then it backfired by JP stating what she couldnt say… im not attracted to u

@michellegrantvaughn1561 8 ай бұрын

Wow this is excellent. I think this is your best video yet Dr Cherie. You are so perceptive!!!!!!!!

@DrCherieTypes 8 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤️

@micahlove2578 8 ай бұрын

I don’t want to be that person that diagnoses without proven facts but since I see myself in Lydia I think that she may struggle with borderline personality disorder. She shows all the signs and goes from one extreme to the other while desperately asking for love. And then basically sees the person as scum if they don’t feel the same way she feels and feels a deep DEEP sense of rejection even when being let down softly. I feel for her because she’s probably just doesn’t understand why she feels the feelings she feels and acts the way she acts. I genuinely think she should seek help to finally find love for herself instead of begging others to prove she’s worthy.

@lolaispure4296 3 ай бұрын

Yes

@DrewRicketts 8 ай бұрын

What a discovery. I love this channel already and I came in as a crazed LIB fan.

@exquisite_f1213 8 ай бұрын

Same :) I appreciate that I’m learning about myself too through these analyses

@freedomm 8 ай бұрын

This is exactly why I believe Uche's version of events over Lydia's concerning their relationship. She obviously has trouble letting go. Lydia set out to sabotage Aaliyah's relationship with Uche from the go.

@connie27100 8 ай бұрын

Good video. I think she absolutely needs to work on her listening skills. I think her being dumped by Izzy was devastating to her because she felt all the times shes ever been dumped. It wasn't necessarily about him. I also think the way Milton told her she needs to be more like him rubbed me up the wrong way. It was condensing. He could have said it in a better way eg. Maybe you could look at self regulation. She did take a moment when she was activated to leave and i thought that was healthy!! Lydia needs to be able to listen to him for sure.

@ArtByHazel 8 ай бұрын

You’re absolutely right about Lydia. She needs to learn about healthy boundaries and be emotionally mature too. Milton is by far the most emotionally intelligent in this group.

@nickb329 8 ай бұрын

Your content is phenomenal, love this style!

@joanetteaird927 8 ай бұрын

I ALWAYS learn something new from your videos! Such incredible insight 👏🏾 I look forward to everytime you post.

@miaduana 8 ай бұрын

This analysis called me out a thousand different ways 😅

@LucyDisco 8 ай бұрын

Lydia is so cringe. Using “Latina” as an excuse for poor behaviour. I have a lot of Latina friends and they do not act like that. She wasn’t over uche, pushed for uche, ruined Aaliyah’s relationship with him, trying to control Milton, not letting Milton express his own feelings.

@natsdaley9615 8 ай бұрын

Me Me Me Me Me all eyes on Me Me Me Lydia a whole counselling session fr

@missincognito2666 8 ай бұрын

Watching the show I thought to myself that Milton and Aaliyah were a better fit they compliment each other so well

@DrCherieTypes 8 ай бұрын

Perhaps Milton valued someone into rocks more

@kimmyw010 8 ай бұрын

Agreed he needs emotional balance and emotional intelligence

@rileyspiller 8 ай бұрын

This was super insightful. I didn't catch all these little details until you pointed them out.

@sinovuyobudaza7167 8 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Cherie for this video. It definitely made me rethink a lot of things. I'm probably going watch this a few more times.

@jeremysmith9694 8 ай бұрын

You definitely get my subscription. Very well done. Good luck with your channels success.

@thetechconsultant 8 ай бұрын

Wow. This review is perfect and different. I’ve had many of these thoughts but could’ve have never explained it in such a detailed and careful way.

@rafaelasantana7695 8 ай бұрын

When I wachted Lydia in this show, I immediatly disliked her. I'm also a latina and she kind of likes to perform the extreme esteriotype of a Latina. On top of it, she claims that she's 30 but all I see, and she's acting as a teenager. That bothers so much, whereas Milton, which is way too young, but his behaviour is so much more mature as expected.

@l-pv5793 8 ай бұрын

Someone said it finally! She literally uses her “openness” just to manipulate

@rainthomps694 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for this!!

@rebeccahardman7159 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for covering this topic. Amazing analysis!

@ningyding 8 ай бұрын

What an incredible analysis

@neuman_adventures 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for your unique analysis!

@louisea4920 8 ай бұрын

I hope Lydia watches this and can reflect on some of her behaviour

@javanjunkindahouse6625 8 ай бұрын

Hey I was the 500th like 😊 Love your analysis, it really adds the words that are behind my emotions watching and feeling for the people on the show. Thank you so much!!

@astridkastenberg8086 8 ай бұрын

Dr. Claire, bravo!!! This was the best analyzation and understanding of Natalie their dynamic the people/relationships in general. You gave a clinic on behaviors that we should all be on the lookout for. Thank you.!

@jeremysmith9694 8 ай бұрын

Not gonna lie. I dated a Hispanic girl and Lydia reminds me so much of her. It was pretty hard to deal with in a lot of ways. I felt bad because she was so loving but it became a little overbearing and difficult for me. She was a lot.

@jeeither 8 ай бұрын

Lydia and that girl you dated have unresolved issues. The Hispanic thing is a coincidence.

@hellaSwankkyToo 8 ай бұрын

what does her being hispanic have to do w| it? (i might be missing it.)

@regularity2556 8 ай бұрын

@@jeeither No its a cultural thing, I've seen so many of them, just non-stop loudness and overbearing behaviour that they love to describe as feisty Latina-ness

@jeeither 8 ай бұрын

@regularity2556 that's quite a generalization considering Latin America is huge. There is no one type of Hispanic woman. What you're describing is a stereotype that does not apply to all Hispanic women. Some Hispanic women feed into the stereotype because it's been beneficial for them in some way or because it's what's expected of them, but that does not mean it's cultural.

@jeremysmith9694 8 ай бұрын

@@hellaSwankkyToo Because no one else I've ever dated acted like that. And it seemed unique to her culture and upbringing. It almost felt like a badge of honor for her and her right to act like that. It seemed uniquely Hispanic.

@iammeallday 8 ай бұрын

This was soooo on point!

@Nomad332 8 ай бұрын

Thanks you for this great video! I found it very insightful. It makes me see myself in Milton

@25dreamer10 8 ай бұрын

This is the video that full expresses why I wasn’t feeling good about her. I wasn’t able to elaborate on why I feel like she’s manipulative aside from the Aaliyah/ Uche stuff.