Freezing and Fawning is what my nervous system chooses.

Can soooo relate to these examples especially losing the fight response in favor of the others when punished for fighting the abuse.

I'm a high school student and I hope so hard that one day I’ll be just like you💜💜

I tend to cycle through these. I especially know I tend to go into "Fight Mode". Total defence, bring up facts, I'm loud, I journal, I feel I can't let myself down and stand up and advocate for myself. I also have a degree in Speech Communications Degree, and excelled in debate, and argumentation. 😅 But I do tend to cycle through the different trauma responses, depending on the type of abuse, and how long I have been in the abuse. I also tend to lash out, like a cornered cat with nowhere to go. I know it is a residual from past abuse when I was a child. I would get upset, angry and say or do stuff to get into trouble, because I was craving attention. Even negative attention is attention (as a kid)..... Learning, Healing, Growing, and Moving Forward.

I fled and also fawning. Both are bad😢

10:55 SO THIS is what is happening now! I'm finally noticing my fawning. Slowing that down but barreling right into the FIGHT mode, attempting to find my voice but somehow expecting it to be "respected" or appreciated. Of course it won't (it hasn't before) so I panic when I see the push back and disapproval, and I slide back into ppl pleasing to at least get the approval response I am still seeking. Oh boy.

Thank you

very helpful, thank you☺💜

What you said in the first minute is so great for trauma survivors to hear - that a trauma response is natural and there for a reason (to save our lives). This is such a great first step to understanding how to respond and heal - great content!

I think about the past, but not as much. Certain memories come back and hit me real hard. I do feel I don't remember some things. But there's a lot of my younger years that I don't look back at fondly. Maybe I didn't want to say trauma because that sounded dramatic. But I think it fits, I was going through trauma.

Best explanation of those four responses to trauma. Thank you. I am relived to learned I settled to play Fawn, because previous Fs did not work. Mystery solved. There was a predator in the house where I grew up.

❤Ingrid! Thank you. I read Pete after you suggested. In fact reread him 2x more. I must be in freeze b/c I’m obsessed in a sense about I mastering this to do differently (and better).

Thank you! I'm finally learning so much about myself. It's nice to have this insight, but I'm not sure how to move forward. It's a bit overwhelming. I'm grateful to have found your channel. Happy Thanksgiving! 🧡

The freeze got really maladaptive. It's so damn hard internalized that when someone called out on me I literally freeze, especially if it's unfair criticism. I can't respond, I stand there, gulping, can't breath, like being in shock. When basically the next moment there comes the raging, but it's stucked inside, like my emotions are bottled up. And this happens every damn time. It's especially hard at work and even happened to me during therapy one on one sessions. It feels like a curse. Fight isn't for me, so I always try flight and fawn. If those aren't working it's ultimatly freezing. In my worst times it was like I couldn't feel my body anymore, though I saw myself touching my own fingertips. It was so disturbing and I still feel so much angst and dread just thinking about it. The flight and fawn mode made me feel like I'm living in an internal war zone. There's a scene in my most favorite TV show, The Rookie, where Sgt Bradford tells his new Rookie Officer Katey Barnes, a former Marine, about it. About seeing other people as threads. Categorizing them into friend and enemy. And that using "Officer safety" isn't the key, it is to live in the moment (and that that's hard enough). She responded: "I don't know how to live like that anymore." And that's exactly the way I feel. When I'm around other people. Always on edge. Always this tense that the muscles protest. Always aware and on high alert. It's so stressful. Especially at a work place. And it's SO exhausting! I'm always so exhausted and tired, just from things others would call "living". Thank you for explaining the trauma related things. It's so helpful to understand myself better with this knowledge. Isn't there a say that understanding is the first step of getting there?! Thank you.

I am combo uhhhhhh

Great video!!! I think I started off with a flight response then flight and then am now stuck in Freeze and don't know how to get out of it anymore

Thank you 🙏 I’m really struggling with the slowing down

Thanx 🙏

Do you Vagus Nerve?

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Could paranoid delusions be involved with these trauma responses?