I enjoy saying, "I'm no unicorn". ❤

The problem with all these videos is they lack objectivity and place personal choice in a strange capacity. Nothing can BE AN ABSOLUTE TO AN INFJ until they choose it then test the hell out of it. These videos lack humility. Awfully preachy to the one type that will never listen to you or anyone else. I dislike my tone here but age and wisdom are kicking. I worry that many will not have the emotional and or mental capacity to distinguish peer connectivity from a basic must do or else overtone. I'm sure on a whole the mutual connectivity from channel representative to the subscriber is overwhelming enough for the initial contact. After that, the depth of provided information was surface and honestly I can't imagine not feeling some inner voice concerned the most sensitive vulnerable and intentioned archetype was left umph.

ENFJ here. My depression tells me that no one understands me, then tells me I'm unoriginal and a waste of space. I make no sense. Wish I could do that. I'm happy you're happy and hope you find someone who gets you so you don't have to comfort yourself one day

@@y0ur-l1fe_1s-a-l1e I totally relate to that inner conflict, though I don’t struggle with depression personally. Sending love to you ❤️

​​@@lauriescott9775you said a whole bunch of nothing. Yes most of what he does is surface level content. I'm pretty sure most people realize this. Who cares? If you don't like it don't watch. It's mainly for comedy and definitely oversimplified. If you can't realize that. That's your problem.

“She’s too quiet”. Wow , that doesnt make someone a bad leader , big mouth

lol i relate too much 🤣

I had the same experience :(

If I’m a leader, you better be prepared to deal with the outcomes of my baggage in my personality -INFP

The best leaders in the world do not want to be leaders.

As an INFP I recoil but at the same time crave power. If I was a global dictator things would be awesomesauce. But I won't cut corners to get there.

Same for me, it took a long time for me to believe I could be a good leader, in my work we have a term called “servant leadership” and it basically means lead by example, there no task that is below you, if it needs to be done whether you’re a manager or not you do it, help your team and they’ll help you, our passions can make us really good at that

I’ve never understood so clearly before why I always try to do everything All By Myself. So how to change that??

As entp who has infp friend, whatever I see topic that relates to their interest,I would let them take over even they don't want since i want to see how far the potential they got and I would support them for the speech session whatever they need.Kinda fun

Fellow intj. Thanks for the info

As an INTJ, I am also regretting the fact that I spent my lockdown by doing nothing cause I was just happy about being alone in the house. I just realised it now like how much time I have wasted and could've learnt some new things. One thing that lockdown helped in doing is I could spent some time with my parents and kind of engaging in hobbies but I didn't do any outside stuffs which kind of created a great impact on me after lockdown. I hated the fact to go out anywhere and meet people and just wanted to stay in house. I guess you may call it as a social anxiety at first but after sometimes I was able to overcome that. So now I am hanging out with my friend even though that's only once or twice in 2 months but giving yourself some free time is really important.

That's totally the same for me. I thought having fun was pointless even before I took the test. But now I'm forced to have fun. Otherwise, I won't be able to finish this school year or at least keep myself in the right mind.

my bros an intj and I think he mastered FJ's advice. hes kidna sick of doing the same thing over and over and loves to be outside, working out more than once a day

I don't really think fun is pointless because from what I've observed, I am better functioning when I've stepped out of my house. I always have the urge of sticking to my comfort zone but when I'm not within the narrow confines of my wall is when I'm truly learning new things. Also, my idea of fun is not partying or clubbing. It's rather exploring new places, being close to nature, visiting museums and art galleries. Also, theme parks. And all of these, as much as I hate to admit, I prefer doing it with someone. Not alone. It's nice to have someone to share my experiences with. To share the moment with. What I really find pointless is future planning. Like, I know what I want to do 5 years from now but I'm not so rigid about it because you never know if you'll see tomorrow. So having a little fun from time to time and creating moments is what makes life worth living for me. Otherwise, what's the point of chasing jobs/money/anything materialistic when at the end, It's all fleeting. You can't hold onto these forever. And even now when I look back, I don't cherish the time I topped in class or that I avoided any activity to focus on academics. What I really cherish is when I was forced to skip classes and had a thralling, memorable experience because of it. So yeah, I don't try to be spontaneous because I'm still afraid of it. But when spontaneity come my way, I welcome it with open arms. I dont succumb to anything.

It's all about passion. 🙂 Also, Te is there, even if we hate it.

INFPs can do anything. There’s a reason the other types seek us out for wisdom and love. And it’s our natures.

​@@adaminflux i notice that.. sometimes I'm surprised when some people come to me to ask my opinion on certain things that is not related to my profession as a nurse. Too many to mention. But I can't even fix my own situations, ie. solve my own problems, give myself good advice, get over my crush. 😂

@@adaminflux I am an INTJ with an INFP best friend. Of course, not everyone under this type is the exact same, but I can tell you that she has changed my life. She has gotten me to open up emotionally and trust her in a way that I could never trust anyone else. She is immensely respectful, empathetic, understanding, admirable, smart, clever, and has an excellent sense of humor. She is often misunderstood. There is no one like her--and I mean that as a compliment. She is her own person while also tending to relate to others. I am proud of my personality type, but INFP is by far my favorite one.

Same! I always feel a little unsettled though, by the fact I know others don't really understand how my brain works, especially if I'm in an 'on it' mood with a task and others get upset by the directness I give off. After years of editing my words sometimes I just can't be bothered, feel like I'm having to make more of an effort than the other person. But millions of INTP's out there the same and we die anyway so... who cares :D

I’m the opposite, I just can’t be bothered to care what others opinions are of me. It puts me in situations where I’ve unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings just by existing and doing things my own way. It’s hard for me to make up with people when that happens because I feel like I’ve done nothing wrong and I struggle to understand why they are getting so upset by me just doing my own thing. I’m trying to be more emotionally aware though…

This is why i'm glad i met my lifelong friends (group of 9, 20+ years and counting) when we were little and we're all different mbti types. I still have the emotional capacity of a doorknob, but i learned to communicate from them all. Our quirks not even warranted a blink but we'll call each other out when we crossed a line, e.g. if i say something too bluntly they'll tell me that they understood what i want to say but will give an example on how to say it more effectively (and not accidentally hurt other's feeling)

I actually realized I can get along with anyone if I just put in the effort, but it takes waaaaayyyy too much energy. That's the problem. So it's a conundrum because obviously experience is the greatest teacher, and practice to stay sharp on my "game", but at the same time, too many social experiences each week can really be just too exhausting. I think it's OK to just not be perfectly fitting in with everyone and and choose a few people you really like to try to relate with regularly.

Yes, confidence is key. I have zero care about what people think of me anymore 😂

It was funny, especially the song!

LOVED the song! Reminded me of the Pet Shop Boys 😂

I would recommend reading the other INFP comments. When we're passionate about what we're doing, we become natural leaders. The leap to do so is scary, but is so satisfying. You have the ability to succeed with your experience, so trust yourself. 🙂

@@Xandycane I am an INTJ. I would just like to say, I love the way you put that.

Basically, the tale Hans Christan Andersen tells in "The ugly ducking" and in "Thumbelina", find your inner swan and your field of flower elves (;

Yes!! Just be your weird self and everything will be so much better! xD I've started to more fully be myself in social contexts and claiming more space (even if it is with silence). I tell myself: "Since I've always adapted so much to others my entire life (and taken it for granted like isn't this what everybody does??), isn't it only fair that others get to adapt to me as well? For once??"😅 Now I don't feel as "responsible" for others' feelings/experiences as I did before. And life feels so much ligther! My god! It's also good to remember that sometimes people need to experience their own lessons in order to grow and develop as persons. Keeping others from conflict or discomfort isn't gonna help them in the long run, and it's also not our responsibility to do so! Our only responsibility is ourselves. I haven't met another INFJ in my life yet, but imagine how cool it would be to meet one at some point, one who's truly themself and shining brightly with their adorable weirdness. How amazing wouldn't that be!! Maybe one day...😁✨

​@@FridoGrahnify Absolutely, being more quiet is something I've started to do more recently as well. It's also important to take care of yourself; "treat yourself like someone you're responsible for caring about". And finally, yeah, people don't learn if they don't catch the consequences of their actions. I don't actively Start conflicts (often), but I've started to hang back more now if someone is being an ass. I'm not going to try to smooth things out, they have to learn themselves. Also going by your name I'm gonna assume you're Swedish? Hoppas du hittar någon INFJ att prata med i verkligheten, det kan verkligen hjälpa. 😁

@@JokerCrowe Yeees exactly! It's so important to put focus on things like these, especially in crazy times like now...😨🤯 A lot of people are gonna have to change a lot (as everything everywhere also keeps changing😅), and the best for everyone is if that change can happen as quickly and smoothly as possible. I have just recently, like the last year or so, become so much more passionate about things like history, politics, and justice, and about speaking up about things rather than keeping quiet out of fear of conflict. It's a powerful change! And yes, you assume correctly! Haha! Så du kan svenska, du? Det var inte illa😁

@@FridoGrahnify That's great! Being passionate about things is something that can be really helpful for us to find "our thing/place". Och ja, det underlättar att jag också är svensk 😅 Valde ett engelskt användarnamn för typ 15 år sedan, så nu är jag "fast" med det. 🤣

I feel like I can be the same in leadership positions (fellow INFP), but it isn't that strange given the cognitive functions are the same. ESTJs can be really effective leaders though so if we can tap into their efficiency and the way the healthy ESTJ supports others' strengths, while maintaining a creative vision we could probably do something special...maybe 😅

Same. I scare myself by turning into a pseudo ESTJ. At the same time I kinda like it and feel powerful for once. I just don’t know how long I can keep up that unnatural state.

I think another way to phrase it would be "INFPs think they can't trust others to help them carry out their goals". But when we do, even if only out of necessity, great things can happen as you mentioned. I've been struggling with thoughts like this in more than one setting recently, so I hope that I can take advantage of this wisdom somehow.

Spot on about turning into ESTJ...

Sorta true. I used to be called tyranny by my teacher because of this pseudo ESTJ leading a group project lol Welp the problem is the classmates are procrastinate harder than myself. If I didn't do something, my own grade will be flunked lower than them since I can't lead those procrastinators to work hard, so... yeah had to be strict

well thanks!

Same

same

I am an INTJ. I often feel as if people do the same to me, although I am the polar opposite of silent every time. I respect the way that you can just stay silent. I tend to make the mess even messier, haha.

As another INFP (specifically 4w3) though I am pretty good at the social thing & am pretty charismatic. I also feel like deep down no one cares what I have to say, so what's the point. Also feel like I am irritating everyone, & that I might be annoying. It comes from overthinking but after being told I was annoying & being shamed for having an opinion growing up. That led to it being rational for me to believe in a way Luckily the people around me now remind me that I am irritating no one & even if I was being annoying it really doesn't matter cause life is annoying sometimes.

I don't skip his ad's but I really like also Neytirix's but its when Skillshare shows up because she has like pufferfish which apears out of nowhere and at the end of Sponsor advertisment he like blows up.

Haha thanks

The right environment is very important for us ... i think you did your best to do that in her childhood

Blood type is also count. What is her blood type? B?

Omg! An INTJ with an ESFP partner! How do you maintain your sanity in this relationship?! Haha

@@nikivesta As I said, I'm not sure she's an ESFP ✌

My jaw dropped as well. For a long time I wasn't sure what my type was bc there's a lot of things I can relate to in types other than INTJ, but FJ's videos have made me realize that yes. I am indeed an INTJ.😂

One of my best friends is an ESTJ. When I point out she's wrong, I word it in a question. I know that sounds frustrating but it works. Instead of arguing against her need to control, I'll just say, "what about" or maybe". I'm INFP so I'm more relaxed and don't argue if I don't care, but if it's something important I do. One exception, I will get in her face if she goes against my values. Because... INFP. lol Is it manipulative? Not really. I just want her to stop and hear what my argument is, and go from there, maybe debate over it. I rarely get debates but she does listen. Hope that helps and good luck.

you watch hunterxhunter , respect

I LOVE HXH !!!!! 🥺💖

@@renosenpai me too

We ENTP's are the best.

@@dificulttocure I would like to think so ♥

entp problem we know how to be so called perfectionist by knowing how to make people calling us perfectionist but deep inside our thinking telling us you should be telling the truth! what is truth....rumble running... cause beside entp we can be a fake humble isfj+ esfp + charismatic intj+ fearful when needed😂 untill finally our entp calling us i know who i am, i am a dude playing a dude, disguised another dude

Really don’t feel very well represented here as an ENTP, ngl. I’ve never found myself not caring about people, I hate the world and would like to see it burn, ofcourse! But individuals aren’t so bad depending on who it is. Although none of them understand us, yet still.

Really don’t feel very well represented here as an ENTP, ngl. I’ve never found myself not caring about people, I hate the world and would like to see it burn, ofcourse! But individuals aren’t so bad depending on who it is. Although none of them understand us, yet still.

Same

Agreed

You can do a test online to find out your type.

@@kimmypossible6717 I've tried this technique, with multiple tests. All it taught me is tests are unreliable.

@@cantin8697 oh ok… well, we did a quite comprehensive one at work, so I guess it was the paid version. And whenever I am doing the free ones online, I tend to end up with similar results. The only ambiguity for me is the last letter which sometimes is P (I think?). But when doing the test at work the last letter was sort of 50:50, like a soft J. Guess I am quite balanced there. That being said, maybe you are a type who’s prone to uncertainty and ambiguity? 🤷‍♀️😏

@@kimmypossible6717 I have considered that I'm just some sort of type that struggles with putting themselves in personality type boxes. Might also be uncertain on how I naturally think and act, too. That explains why I can get such different results from even the same test despite not being aware of any bias. 🤔

Learn cognitive function and do tests as well so you can compare the results with the cognitive functions. I recommend Michael Caloz for beginners

ISTP too. When I was young I did a lot of drawing, and I was pretty good at it. I'm also a decent writer. But I'm not "creative" like creative people. I like to draw things that look realistic. I decided I was more of an illustrater. I write for practical purposes, not because I want to make masterpieces or be an author. When I was young I was inclined to be more philosophical and delve into various ideas that were popular at the time, like existentialism, or if trees had crashed if nobody heard them. I would write some horrible teenage type angsty poetry. I finally lost interest, because I saw no practical purpose to going on about those things. It just didn't matter and served no practical or useful purpose,. It also made you kind of weird. I went into drafting and then into civil engineering design and mapping. And I could draft or design up a storm. Later I went into computers, web development and network administration. And now I'm retired and just build stuff, a jack of all trades and master of none. I can improvise and solve problems, and really enjoy that. That's creative enough for me. However I do like to tell stories (about things that actually happened), and enjoy if my audience laughs or likes the story. That's probably about as close as I get to what the more creative types enjoy.

Fellow INFJ here- I totally feel the same way! Thank you for sharing your experience and best of luck as we both try to become more social and step out of our social comfort zones (important though: never change how you act in order to find more social circles or believe that you are ‘too quiet’ or ‘too different.’ I know this is a cliché but always try to be yourself and that way you can surround yourself with people who connect with the real you!) 😊

haha thanks

thanks!

As an Infj watching this video I can relate to you 100%

… I retook the test and got INFP just sayin’

OK, that is a good idea

finally, someone said this! 😂