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Timestamps! ✨ 2:52 ESFP and ESTP 4:25 ISTJ and ISFJ 5:25 ENTJ and ESTJ 6:57 ISTP and INTP 8:37 ENFJ and ESFJ 10:10 ISFP and INFP 11:47 ENTP and ENFP 13:31 INTJ and INFJ

INFJ’s dont “handle” stress”

The worst thing when INFPs are stressed is to postpone every problem for later and not to deal with it in real time. It creates a huge amount of problems to solve later and a big stress that the things aren't done. We love to sabotege ourselves, aren't we? 😆

When you're a stressed INTP with an assignment due in a few hours but you still feel the need for it to be grammatically correct, factually sound, well researched, and somehow 3 pages more than the page requirement.

I’m an INFJ that’s been stressed lately and I decide to spend Sunday getting my life back in order by taking care of all the tasks that piled up. I felt attacked when he mentioned we let everyday tasks pile up because I’m currently folding laundry Ive needed to do for 3 weeks 😂 and responding to all the friends I ignored. 😅

As an INFJ, I can totally agree, I was going through a lot of stress and I was just "escaping" reality and trying to get back in control. It was a cycle of planning, doing and not doing what I was supposed to do.

As an INFP this sounds very familiar. Especially the part about not being able to do anything because you feel overwhelmed. The smallest things realy become obstacles. Thanks for putting it into words so clearly

As an INTJ, you were so accurate that you made me cry. I didn't realise how much my real life has been messed up; I only spend time studying for high school. I quit my hobbies, stopped interacting with family, ignored friends; basically a mess. I will try to improve. Edit: Guys, I'm fine. It will take some time, but I'm sure I will be back on track. Thank you for your kind words 😊 Edit 2: I found some solutions, and I think they are working. I find it easier to sleep day by day.

As an INFP, this was spot on. I always isolate myself when I'm stressed, first to think and see how I feel and then (maybe) talk to others about it! hahah Thanks Frank!

As an ENTP, the 'stressful' situation is usually something I don't want to do.. It always feels like I can do anything else besides the thing I actually have to do at that given moment. I have so much motivation for working on something else, but absolutely no desire to do what I have to

Spot on for me as an INFJ... I overplan as a comfort mechanism, trying to feel comforted by knowing the future is secured for me. It's my first year of university, so I'm stressed about school and money. I plan for the future, but not for the present moment. It's a burden and a gift. Future looks promising but the present moment is a mess lmao

INFJ- stress is 3 ways for me. 1 i either use it as fuel to be motivated to get what is stressing me out done. 2 i either stop stressing because its not worth it 3 i can stop thinking about going threw scenarios on how to fix the stress 10 billion different ways and get stressed i do not control fixing it. This shuts me down and i become very very lazy / ghost

as an ENFP this is very accurate there were so many times where I failed a semester in collage because I was under stress and ended up learning about billion other topics, binging ted talks and random theories and starting creative projects, coming up with genius theories and ideas instead of doing what needs to be done, then I use " actually im an independent learner and uni is just restricting my creativity" as an excuse

As an INTJ, it’s excessively hard for us to really show that we’re stressed, and yeah we really do overthink about what’s actually stressing us.

As an ENFP who is currently on stress leave right now...this is spot on! My brain is all over the place and instead of actually doing the things I want to do (like baking), I'm looking up piping tips that I don't have and it's been 3 hours and I haven't done a thing...sigh...

INTP here. You nailed it. And of course, because we can't make perfection on a deadline we end up procrastinating and pretending the problem doesn't exist. And then we realize that it's really too late to reach perfection, but a rushed job is better than nothing. So a flurry of activity and we end up turning in something that is actually decent, somehow. Usually. Maybe? Sometimes really good. Or nothing. Because anything is too hard at this point. 44 minutes left...

Im an INFJ, and I've noticed that the Ni/Se comes into play in an interesting way when I'm stressed. I'll try to figure out ways forward constantly, and I might not be able to deal with other people as well - that's very true - but at the same time, I'll often overindulge in sensory things, maybe as a way to find some semblance control. So I'll buy a bunch of ice cream, or listen to loud music, just to sort of "drown out" the stress, because if I can't do anything about it, it's out of my control, and I want to control at least _Something_ so Junk Food it is!

Dude, as an INFJ yourself, you know how we operate, and that was truly spot on, and yes, we can forget the world even exists.

Well... Frank just explained in under 2 minutes what my therapist and I needed over a month to figure out together. 😅 (ISFP)

As an ISTP, I do not immediately realize that I am under stress. Then emotions come and I don’t understand where they come from, it kind of accumulates and explodes. Or like a delayed wave. After I found out that I was an ISTP, I understood what was going on. My advice: pay close attention to your emotional health, no need to save, no need to protect other people, basically 98% of people are complete crap who cannot be held responsible for their words and actions (sorry lol). Therefore ...... do not waste time on them, do not protect, beware of manipulators (bad infj, for example), the most productive state is relaxed concentration (in the flow).

You make some really good points about the INTJ, INFJ personalities. I've recently committed to overthinking less. Practicing stoicism has helped. Overthinking used to rule my life, it made nothing better and I did not like the person I was. So I just stopped- as much as one can. And instead I'm choosing to have faith in my talent and intuition to get me through tough situations in the moment, rather than thinking them- and myself- to death.

This is so helpful!! I'm an INTJ, and I just moved into a new state. I have no friends, no job, NO CAR. "Stressed" ain't even the word right now. But I've been saying to myself: "This problem is just like any other problem that I've solved. It's no biggie." But I totally feel unmotivated to do anything. Te is dead, and Se, she wants cake, pie, and chocolate. At least now I see why I feel/think the way I do and can take practical steps moving forward. Thx FJ.

I just realized I do this A LOT (INTJ). I tend to detach myself when under pressure, I ignore everyone and everything around me; someone could be yelling at me and I wouldn’t hear them. It’s not a nice feeling, let me tell you, it feels like I’m no longer in control of my body, like it’s moving on its own or like it’s in autopilot

As an autistic INFJ, this happens a lot. I try to solve this one small problem or do this one task but I use all my energy and time just for that and everything else that's actually important too spirals out of control because the whole focus is on one thing and nothing else. Happens to me even with eating, writing a simple note down or looking something up. I need to prepare for it, make sure I have everything ready and haven't forgotten anything, check several times just to be sure and then do the thing after going through all the possible options in my mind many many times and afterwards I need to recharge and then the next thing pops up.

For the introverted intuition types, (I’m an INTJ) our strategy, if we come up with one in a timely manner, ends up working pretty well when everyone else is freaking out. On some occasions, I have been able to literally detach from emotion and concern while I come up with a decent solution… only for all of the stress to come slamming back into me once everything is over. Can any INTJ’s or INFJ’s relate?

As an Intj I just ignore whatever is stressing me out and just start organizing my plans. Well maybe my life is crashing rn but I have a plan to follow for the next 20 years.

I’m an ENFJ and I just started laughing so hard when it got to the part where you mentioned making everyone else stressed! Even when I don’t mean to sometimes, I know I’m just projecting my feelings of stress onto others and it’s funny how you so accurately pointed that out! 😂 Great job Frank and love your vids!

INTJ here. You 💯% nailed it. I’m in my fifties and although was able to handle stressors easily when younger, with age, you end up with more obligations and more serious stress (and also single now so no partner to help out or motivate me). For the first time I’m dealing with the repercussions of this right now as I methodically work through organizing and cleaning my chaotic mess of a home that I’ve been ignoring for months. Proud to say I’ve been doing pretty good, taking baby steps every day (had to put up a calendar to mark off the days to keep me focused on it).

I'm an INFJ and I've been working in a government office for almost 3 years now. I know the work is very repetitive, I don't even like desk jobs. Pay is somewhat good but I'm not really happy just sitting there. My anxiety got worse when my girlfriend told me that I should try taking risks putting up a business rather than staying in my job lol. I get her, but it's really not that easy when you're living in a 3rd world country. When I was in college, I really wanted to take psychology or any courses in the medical field but my parents forced me to get engineering (my dad's an engineer). Just 2 years in, I shifted to another course. I told them I'm not happy and I wanted to pursue psychology. My mom told me "well that's good but you'll have a hard time looking for jobs when you graduate. Why don't you try accounting". So I did. I did it because a lot of times that I tried to give my opinion on just about anything, she would attack me personally saying stuff like "oh you think you know better if you trust your intuition more than my advice based on my experiences now, do you. Let's see if you can handle it in the real world." Sorry for the rant. It's barely a quarter of all problems that I bottled up inside but somehow it feels good letting it out. Like what Butcher says to Hughie in The Boys, my whole life is a compromise 🥲

You're absolutely right I'm an INFJ but when I'm stressed especially when approaching exam season things fall apart I don't even bother keeping my space all that neat as I usually do and heck I go offline and have to remind myself to keep contact with my family.

As an INFP when I'm stressed or anxious things that I do everyday really becomes an obligation in such a way that I just ignore and go do anything to process or minimize my strong feelings and then do my stuff... The only problem it's when my tasks accumalate and I can't put off any further XD Great video FJ, accurate as always! (If my explanation aren't clear by any mistakes, please feel free to correct me. I'm learning english and I need to improve my vocabulary. Ty

Wow, as an INTJ, this was spot on. When I am stressed, i just focus on work and everything else around me gets forgotten. Wasn't expectong that to be so accurate.

INFJ was too accurate 😅😂 love that you mentioned ''very organised but it's in this abstract realm'' lol, it feels appropriate that a video about handling stress would come out on my birthday 😂 this last week has been ridiculous in places lol ...I've been relying on my systems a lot 🙈

As an INFP growing up in a very stressful, unhealthy family, there was kind of an endless cycle of needing to escape/withdraw/tend to my feelings, neglecting Te stuff, causing problems for my family because of that, their hostility and pressures toward me increasing as a result, me getting more stressed, repeat. Having a low-stress life now, and having my major Fi stuff relatively sorted out by this point, I don't have the need to spend such a disproportionate amount of time and energy tending to Fi, so it is easier to be more balanced and productive.

Great commercial for Cloverleaf! 😂 Yeah, as an INFJ I get too mentical, and ignore the physical realm during stress. But, eventually I come back to reality. Thanks for not being too pedantic in your explanations!😸✌️

My closet is a mess, my brain knows where everything is. Once closet is organized, everything is lost.

ENTP here, Frank you were spot on with the Ne dom types. When I am under extreme stress the first things to "go" are: my daily routines like sleep and eating schedules, keeping my room clean, self care (beyond the most like bare minimum hygiene), forgetting to pay bills on time, etc. It's not so much that I'm consciously like, "f*** my credit card bills and skincare routine!" but more that those things feel SO overwhelming when I have "bigger fish to fry," ie whatever problem(s) I'm dealing with. And the thought of approaching them feels Herculean, even though logically I know they are not that difficult, so I get in this toxic cycle of avoidance. Through discipline + self-work, I've been able to incorporate healthy routine into my life, which is something I'm proud of and know is really is good for me. BUT under stress...it's like all my progress goes out the window and I'm back at square 1!

I am an INFJ and while it is true, that I tend to build a whole ideal world system around my problems, like writing to-do lists, making weekly and monthly plans, integrating productivity hacks galore and useless stuff like that instead of doing anything, I also ESTP it, and start to do the most random stuff, like laundry, sorting through my closet, selling the sorted stuff online and then cleaning my doors and windowframes... very productive, very much ignoring the real problem. What I literally never do when stressed out is let others know about it. If all I could talk about how much I hate my life right now, I don't pick up the phone.

As an ISTP, I have to admit that I’m insufferable when I’m stressed. I get overly annoyed with everything people do and I feel a physiological need to LET THEM KNOW IT. I start being a hater for literally no reason, just straight up wake up and choose violence. I create conflict compulsively and end up hurting everyone around me. I only realize how mean and unreasonable I was being after isolating myself for sometime.

As an INFJ I tuned in and out whilst you were talking about INFJ’s because I was thinking about the times the things you said had happened to me, then I was laughing, then I was thinking about your scenario and how you probably don’t know who you are because you’ve been embodying all of our personalities…and then I was thinking how you would handle that stressing situation or thought? Loool Yh i know it’s a lot! And it all happened the course of your talk about INFJ’s

I don't handle stress, I am stress 😶‍🌫

As an INFJ, my number one method for dealing with stress is to literally dive into an RPG for days, only coming out to take care of the bare basics like food, water, bathroom, and work. Whole time I'm doing it, the back of my mind is trying to process and come up with how to "make it fit." I feel called out, Frank.

I'm an INFJ and my best friend is an INTJ. We deal with problems and things almost the same. The only major difference between us I think is he is more comfortable speaking up or letting people know what's on his mind. He can also easily call out people and point out things that need to be changed or improve. When we talk, we usually agree on everything haha. The only difference is I find it hard to share it to others unless I'm sure that they also agree or that they will not be hurt in any way. When my best friend is stressed, he would usually lock himself in his room (we lived together when we were still in uni). I also do the same. We would watch series together and just talk or eat. He is now in Malta and I miss him every day. Such a rare thing to find a friend like that. Someone who understands me and I understand as well. I also noticed that I get along with INTJ and INTP. Maybe because they help me understand my thoughts better and affirm my opinions about thinhs. ☺️

AFTER TELLING ME THIS...YOU NOW ARE RESPONSIBLE TO MAKE A VIDEO TO ACTUALLY *HOW TO SOLVE IT*

As an INTP, this is so accurate it's legit terrifying.

INTP - yes, and for me it is not a bad reaction, I will try to explain, Frank! Normally I find it hard to act, I like to think and consider all options for a long time and I am eager to hear other peoples' opinions in order to have more data to process and analyze. In a stressful situation (and I don't mean a long-term situation when I am likely to be paralysed, I mean immediate danger/crisis) I act. I aways know instantly what is the best solution and I want to act accordingly at once, not to analyse more as usual. (Sometimes the solution is best just because it is there and I need to act quickly and use what I've got). So when I am with a group of people and they question my solution and they want to waste precious time on further discussion I am frustrated and yes I may say it's dumb or simply that it doesn't make sense, it's wrong. In the end if they don't agree, whenever possible I will part ways with the group and use my solution instead of trying to convince anyone. If I cannot part ways, well, I may be very confrontational, much more than usual. If it is not a group problem I would push others away as you said, bc they are wasting my time making me listen to their advise when for once I want to act not think. But in this case maybe I wouldn't say it's dumb, I would say don't talk to me right now

I'm an infp and when I'm stressed there're thousands of things flying through my mind which need to be done, like "I have to wash the floors, do groceries, make dinner" and so on, endlessly, until I feel like it's all too much and I'll never be able to do all of this bc it's so tiring and difficult and... Ordinary. Ordinary things are hard to cope with bc they're repetitive all the time and I have like a "straining" feeling in my chest when I have such thoughts. Idk how to explain it, at such times even washing the floors is a big deal, I constantly think: "I have to do it properly and NOW, how am I supposed to have my own home and family and my husband will leave me if I don't do it the right way and then my children will think less of me and my future home will be dirty and it's so hard and I'll screw my entire life" etc. And then I'd glance at my favourite fantasy book by chance and start replaying the story in my head all the while standing with a dripping brush in the middle of the room, having forgotten my previous concern because who cares about ordinary things? They're so boring anyway🤭

As an INTJ, I created an excellent list of places to do internships, wrote great application letters for all of them, and I missed the deadlines while doing all this lol

I'm such an accurate INTJ. Everything was right about how I handle such situations lol. I laughed a lot.

As an ENTJ student currently under a lot of stress, this basically described me right now.

I was like "nah the way I handle stress has changed so much, Frank won't get me this time" and then he hits me with the procrastination card and I'm like crap he got me😭

As an ENFJ, I can kind of relate..but usually I don't go around and tell them my problem right away (for the deep prob). Bcs I don't want to burden anyone but sometimes I just can't hold it and burst. My stress won't go away until I tell my friends (as u said, for them to solve it or help me out idk 😭) but sometimes it's stressing me out that I'm stressing ppl too 😭😂

As an Intp, I don't see myself at all in what he said. I'm actually doing the opposite. When I'm stressed, I doubt everything and I'm really easy to convince. I will also try to find distractions and one of them might be focusing on friends.

As an INFP I handle stress...not well

Spot on (INFP). I'm actually planning on going to therapy for stress management, it's too incapacitating.

INTJ here and you nailed that. When I’m not stressed, my physical world runs like a well-oiled machine. But when I get really stressed, it gets more and more chaotic and I’ll freeze up and retreat into planning mode. I know this about myself though so will force myself to do at least ONE thing in the physical each day, even if just a little thing like washing 2 dishes. Once I get some momentum I feel better and can begin to recover. But man it’s like dragging myself through molasses to do anything at all when things get too far out of control.

As an INFP I totally agree, I feel overwhelmed in stress situations and I cant have To do lists, because it makes me anxious all the time. Amazing video

INFJ When I'm stressed I sleep and play games or watch 2 much youtube. And ofcourse create more stress.

I tested ISFP on 16personalities but INTJ on Cloverleaf, and was confused as to why this could be. But I think Frank just nailed why I could be an INTJ at the end of the video, as well as pointing out a serious weakness I think will actually help me a lot. Amazing, thank you

As an infj, when i feel ashamed of something i did i try to think about someone who did the same shameful thing i did so i feel less lonely and ashamed

I'm an INTP and when I'm stressed I just drink water, idk it's kinda random but yes, water.👍🏻

I was dealing with a stressful friendship situation tonight, so I really needed this video. Thankyou so much Frank. ❤️

This one is among the most insightful and accurate videos you've ever made, Frank. Well done!

Accurate and eye-opening. Thanks Frank!

This is a phenomenal explanation of every type. I have observed this happen to at least one person in nearly every pair you mentioned.

Still in shock how accurate everything is. Thank you for making me understand

I love these mini lectures. Excellent content once again. Thank you, FJ!

Excellent job FJ! Very valuable insights to help navigate stress. Thanks!

YES, I’VE BEEN CURIOUS ABOUT THIS TOPIC, THANK YOUUU

As an INTJ, I’ve also noticed I’ll unhealthily indulge in my inferior function Extraverted Sensing when I’m stressed. I’ll go on food/drug/music/TV binges, using the sensory experiences to escape from reality (and live in Introverted Intuition realm) than actually looking around me and solving the problem.

Omg being an ENFJ I can totally relate. During stressful situations I do tend to make others super stressed out because I tell then about it, but then people get stressed bcs of me and then I feel guilty and get stressed even more. It’s a vicious cycle, that’s why I learn to avoid stress before this happens. :D

I just started the video again and now the audio's there✨

Frank, how do you always manage to describe me perfectly? I thought I was an INFP, and my room and closet are both a huge mess... and my bathroom 😂 As well as everything else you mentioned! I look forward to you coming out with these videos every single week, thank you! ~ INFJ

Your videos are always so accurate. As an ISTJ (that fluxes between istj & istp) I feel so seen. I always become extremely cold to people when I feel upset and tend to unintentionally hurt their feelings when I’m just being honest

AMAZING! THANK YOU❤

Thank you Frank!

INFJ here, hearing how I handle stress made me feel stressed 😂 I have so much going on that I juggle at once that 100% the smaller things like cleaning up my room gets set to the lowest priority, even hanging out with friends if I don’t feel I have the time for it, which makes me stressed cause I feel like I should have the time but then I feel too selfish if I take that time for myself and not spend time with friends, it’s a whole cycle 😢

Hi Frank Amazing video as always! Very educational and funny at the same time!😍

Loved the format. I learned so much Total INFP - very accurate

I'm an ENTJ, and I can confirm that when I get stressed about *anything* I will start snapping at *everybody* who I think ought to be doing something different than what they are doing at the moment, irregardless of whether they are connected to my stressor. This often leads to hurt feelings on their parts, not least because I have the assertiveness and verbal skills to be an unintentional bully.

As an ENFJ, I definitively agree with what he said about how ENFJs show soo much emotion and stress other people out in order to get help or advice in a stressful situation. I hate to feel like I’m on the spot, and I have to find a solution super fast. Once I get someone else’s opinion, then I can relax and deal with the situation more comfortably. -Picture the scene in Tangled when Rapunzel is freaking out about leaving the tower.🤣

INFJ here. I don't handle stress. I endure it.

Woah! This was so on point! You so called me out! (ESTJ)

you are just a very wonderful youtuber with your contributions

I can see a huge difference in two types of situations with me (INFJ): For daily stressful situations that Frank mentioned in the video, I will act exactly like that. I will show at least three notes on my computer and cellphone to organize and plan things for the next weeks, but I will delay starting things over till the last minute. But for highly stressful situations like real danger, that type of moment something inside your head presses the crisis button, red alert AAAAAAOOOOOOO siren, it feels like my Ni gives hand to Se under the order of a fakeTe. I will be cold and logical as an iceberg and will take a sequence of actions without even thinking, just by guts, and will keep in this mood until the danger passes away. I said that I'm a lot like Zenitsu when he sleeps and be really pragmatic. I will be in mood 1 complaining about how terrible it is until the stress reaches an unbearable level and I enter into this mood 2, just like him

ENFP here! I had too many situations where I refused to see the simplest solution. it always brought me to the point where I over complicated things and got stressed even more because my solution was too complex and didn’t solve anything anyway. And after my OUT of the box solution didn’t work I would choose to surrender and choose the simple one (no matter how much I didn’t want to). I failed so many times with my overcomplicated ideas, wasted so much more time and nerves with them, that it made me learn to lessen the pressure on myself and on a necessity to act out of the box. I accepted that a simple solution can be considered “creative” as well. THAT made my life so much easier ever since, I swear!

Oh my, you just explained me very well, being an Intj, I definitely am I intj, yet sometimes I think I am a intp because I am so controlled in my mental universe as well as hobbies and daily schedules with absolutely no leeway, yet when it comes to stuff like just doing the laundry, or other small tasks I don’t even bother with them when under stress.

Brillant video. -ENFP

In different situations I have handled stress differently. As a kid, the usual way was to supress it and solve it on my own without mentioning it to people around me all the meanwhile paying attention to what needs to be done in order for me to actually be helpful. Nowadays, it varies. Since my mom has been ill ever since I was 8, I have cultivated fears related to her situation that have kept my mind on a leash. Having to face the worst outcome according to my previous state of mind, I am starting to consider different elements and why we tend to circumvent difficult topics in regards to health and death. In order to handle stress, the dominant and inferior function need to start collaborating to the best of their abilities. My dad handles the situation by constantly leaving the house for a walk and thinking about things in such state. I usually need to "receive" information from different sources in regards to different topics, then go for a walk and process all that calmly on my own.

As a typically stressed out student ENFP, I turn on long playlists of music I have never listened to before to satisfy my NE while actually getting whatever it was done. It has been really helping me focus without the excuse of I'm bored so I'm going to do something else instead.

Infj-I just shut down and cry a lot. It’s something I’m working on😂.

Thanks for the vid Shaun

just as I was binge watching frank james videos,, an update comes up 🤣 one more to the watch list and ongoing!

Isfp here! And that whole bit about how we handle stress is ME literally *right now.* I am stressed out right now and I deal with anxiety and bouts of depression. Being around other people is the last thing I wanna do. I wish I could take leave from work (the major cause of my stress) to decompress and focus on my interests. I love my job, but it’s chaotic right now (I’m probably catastrophising it but it’s too much for me) I feel like I’m balancing a lot at work and not giving enough productive attention to my personal life.

This was a great video!! Thank you frank! You explained it so well

I really liked the explanations vs the usual acting out. I do love the acting out, but this felt like a nice lesson that made sense. I 100% identified with mine :)

As an ISFP I do isolate myself to think, but not only about my feelings. About what's the most logical option too. And when I'm stressed out I kinda turn off the feelings, trying to be the most objective in the situation as I can. But I hate when someone is giving me their opinions about it, suggesting solutions, when they're not me, they're not in my situation and I just HAVE TO do it my own way. So yeah, kinda accurate. Oh, and I'm telling about my problems to friends, but when it doesn't bother me so much anymore

I came here to have a good time, but honestly I'm feeling attacked right now. I was ready to comment (based on the title) we, INTP's, just don't handle stress. But you proved you know more about me than my own family.

Great video! Great information! Thank you for sharing!