EXACTLY! All of my friends keep asking me how it feels to not be a man or a woman and just feels like nothing. It feels normal to me. Exactly how Ashley described it.

I'm not sure if I'm nonbinary, but I think I might be...

I hate comment sections on things like these videos. They make me feel worthless.

"Shoes I can afford" haha yes I feel ya!

The love for Pokemon is one thing every letter in LGBTQ can agree on.

I had been non-binary since August. I figured out that I wanted to wear more likely boyish clothes than girl. I’m not much a girly girl, but I am interested into cosplaying, having a life as a female, but as male it doesn’t feel right. I am a female, but not male. My 3 best friends (who are girls) are non-binary and I accept that. I’m non-binary and bisexual and I feel great about that.

Hi, I found this video because I'm trying to understand the mindset of trans/non-binary people, because I'm neither of these and therefore don't have a direct understanding of it. As a biological male, I don't really feel like I identify as any particular gender, whether that's male or female, neither, or some combination in between. I don't feel the need to identify as anything, so when people say they identify as non-binary (as in this case), I'm looking to find what they feel when they KNOW in their own identity that they are non-binary. Myself, I feel like I have a fair few feminine traits, but I can also see the masculine traits I have. I'm not very masculine for a biological male, but I wouldn't say that I'm non-binary or trans-female, I'm just a male who has some feminine traits... In short, I would say my sex is "Male", and my gender is "I don't really care?" Do non-binary people also "not really care" about their gender? And if so, why do they identify as such? Is not caring about your gender identity where the difference lies? I really want to understand this so if anyone here is non-binary or understands it better I'd love to hear what you have to say.

To the horrible people in the comments: please stop being so mean! If you're just here to spread hate, it's not okay! Just leave us alone to do our thing.

really sorry about all the hateful ignorance youve gotten on this video, but i just wanted to say i really liked it and really liked how you described that being nonbinary doesnt necessarily feel like anything, it just feels like being a person. so thank you : )

my mom just told me I am female and I can't change that and thinks ​I just want attention I am non binary and my mom won't except it I thought she did but apparently she doesn't and that is the hardest part cause she is the most important person to me

I think people were wondering more like.... what's the difference between being nonbinary and being a dude or a chick? There must be a difference or else you wouldn't feel the need to choose nonbinary over either chick or dude. What I'm curious about is, what's the difference between a gender nonconforming dude or chick and a nonbinary/agender person? Could these separate terms actually describe roughly the same phenomenon?

the hate on this is shit. power to you fellow nb human bean

I have just recently come to accept the fact that I'm non binary. I'm AFAB and thought I was a binary trans man and started to medically transition until that began to feel just as bad as when I was trying to be a binary woman. Allowing myself to just be me and not try to force myself into a binary box has been an absolute relief. You put it perfectly, I just feel normal now. I used to wake up every day dreading another day of being uncomfortable in the binary boxes I forced on myself. Now it's not even a thought, it's no longer a "chore" to be who I am because it comes naturally. Thanks for making this video. I know it's almost 3 years old but I appreciate coming across it exactly when I needed it most.

I first saw myself as genderfluid, because I really didn't wholly connect myself with my sex. Sure, people say tomboyish, and though I rather not choose to use that word I stuck with it. I still hold on to my sex identity (female) but in a way, I didn't feel a fluidity for my gender. And I know it has nothing to do with how I present myself as a person, but I sometimes felt like i didn't belong when I was with other girls. I started hanging out with more kids in high school who were LGBT+ and discovered that by the influence of my family, I became anxious around them? I wasn't comfortable telling anyone of the same sex compliments, I didn't let any girl touch me (hug, hold hands) and I always thought of myself as coming off as gay. I'm no longer like this, as I underatand now that it's okay to compliment girls and hold hands with them and such. I didn't have feelings for any of my friends, so I passed that point. I already discovered my sexual identity. Then I started rethinking what I identified as, because after coming out to my brother as genderfluid, my mind made me second guess. I had little to no understanding of genderfluidity, but I thought it matched how I felt, when in reality it didn't. So I thought Demi-Girl matched me more. I think it does in a sense, but then I started to think about if I was on the gender spectrum at all. Sure I had my feminine features and biological parts, but in my mind and heart, i knew I wasn't "all woman". i know it hasn't anything to do with shaving or the clothes I wear, but I also didn't feel the need to be as feminine as my mind told me to be. And seeing and knowing so many enby people already, I kind of felt like I was comfortable with them more? I mean I do feel comfortable with anybody, but just being around someone enby made me feel glee. A year or so ago I would sometimes accidentally misgender someone who would say otherwise, but I always tried my best to correct myself. Now I understand a lot better even though my family are "supporters of LGBT" Now i think demi/enby fits me best because even though I "act masculine" and "look feminine" I don't feel comfortable saying I have this male presence about my self. I would rather go by she/they because even though I don't feel 100 percent like a woman, I don't think I fit with being labeled with masculine pronouns. So I don't know what I am but hopefully I can find a name for it. Or heck maybe my mind is just telling me these things to make me question myself. Hopefully I'll figure it out.

Saaaaaaaame. Like.. what kind of question is that, even :P I tend to just shrug and reflect the question back at them, "I don't know, how does it feel to be cis?". Not in a rude way, obviously, but it does get the message across that being non-binary isn't something you "become", it's something you've always been and perhaps only recently discovered about yourself. For people wondering, to me it was kind of like having someone dye your hair all your life without you knowing it, and without you necessarily feeling bad about the colour of your hair. Until at some point you realise that you have a different hair colour, which is also a really nice one. You're self-conscious about it for a while, and people will ask you if you've dyed your hair, but after a while it'll just become normal and people will have adjusted.

thank u for that. I struggle with the answer of this question anytime 😂 it feels like idk, I'm a human..nothing special 😂

Feeling non-binary to me: It's like I am not really a person. I'm doing person things but I don't really feel like i am. Like saying 'I am washing the dishes' its like I am but i don't feel like its me doing it. I feel like a ghost sort of in my own life. And sometimes when I wake up and I drink coffee and I get dressed and put on a dress and makeup I feel a little more real. Then about halfway through the day I go back to that ghostly existence. Then ill look at myself in the mirror and feel disgusted by being in a dress like its a costume im wearing so ill bind my chest and wear baggy clothes and ill be like okay I feel a bit more real now I feel more authentic to myself. but after a while it's back to that ghostly feeling. im living but I don't feel like a person. People know who they are, they feel comfortable being who they are. A cis person says "I am Amber, I am a cis female, I am a person" a trans person says "I am Kyle, I am a transgender ftm, I am a person" and they know that's what they are but for me it's like. "I'm Amy, no wait I'm Lyar no wait Im both no wait am I neither, I am a male and a female but im also neither but I also don't feel like I have a gender but I also feel like im completely one gender but I also feel completely the other gender but" you know? It's like how can you be a person when you feel like you are one soul trapped in one body but your one soul was made of seven other souls being forced to combine into one. And sometimes I will be talking and suddenly my voice is deeper and I cant change it back. It's almost like when a person with DID switches personalities. But I am every personality. It's very overwhelming and confusing. One minute I look down at my body and go yeah this feels right I can do this I can be normal and then a minute goes by and I look down and im like wait no this isn't right. I shouldn't have boobs, I shouldn't have long hair (which I don't anymore) this isn't how my body should be this isn't right i am trapped in a body that isn't right. (body dysmorphia) and sometimes I do think about it and I wish I was either trans or Cis because it would be easier to understand who I am. Itd be easier to explain. Itd be easier to feel like a person. But that's not how my brain is. I'm not trans. I'm not Cis. I don't even know if I am gender binary. But I am 20 years old and the first time I remember looking down at my body and thinking this isn't right. I am a boy why do people keep calling me a girl, was when I was 6 years old. I've felt this way for over 14 years of my life. But because people are just figuring out what other options there are than cis or trans, I will always be labeled as a trender because I didn't know the word for what I am until it became "popular" to be this way. It is not fun to live your life not feeling like a person. I don't know why anyone would want to be a gender that is constantly told that they aren't valid, they don't exist, they are just doing it for attention. And the only people that others focus on in the non-binary group are the crazy ones who actually are trenders. Because it isn't fun to ask somebody what being non feels like and for them to say "It feels like Im living normal life" its more ENTERTAINING to them to have the answer be "it feels like i am a cat"

“Probably lretty much the same as it feels to be you” Excellent answer. Thank you for this video

I figured out that I'm non-binary after I spent a year living as a transgender woman. It felt rather freeing at first, but as time went on, I began to realise that there were things about being a man that I liked and being the complete opposite felt just as wrong as being a man. Then my doctor suggested that I might be bigender. I think my doctor was right. Quite simply, I don't feel like I'm completely man or completely woman. And I think it's great now that I know about non-binary genders, because I can just be however I want. I don't have to fit into a stereotype. Nobody can pressure me into changing by telling me that girls do that. I just don't care. Yes girls do that. So do I. The most difficult thing for me as a non-binary person is deciding what to wear, because I could wear literally anything. Now that the weather is warming up here in Australia, I'm thinking about wearing skirts again like I did when I tried going as a woman. They are really comfortable. Honestly, I don't know why men stopped wearing them. But I want to try wearing skirts in a slightly more masculine way since I've decided against medically transitioning. I still feel mostly like I'm a woman, but a woman with a male body who has the ability to do anything a man can. I often think of it like what would a woman do if she woke up in a male body. I imagine she would still like the same things, but she might also enjoy the abilities to pee standing up and to lift heavy things and of course all the fun things that men can do. I can actually do more things that I like by not changing my body. So I guess I'm a transwoman who is happy with my male body. I'm not sure. But I know I enjoy mixing gendered things together to make my own way of life. So I'm definitely on the non-binary spectrum somewhere. I'm kinda gender fluid. sometimes I think of myself as a nonconforming man. Other times I think of myself as a woman with a male body. Nothing really changes besides my attitude. Apparently being autistic can cause people to not associate strongly with gender, which probably has a lot to do with it in my case. I was diagnosed quite late when I was 36, so I struggled my entire life. A big issue for me was when I started school and suddenly had the gender binary forced on me. I couldn't understand it and I didn't like it, but I learnt how to do it right. Literally everybody would tell me if I made a mistake with that. But now apparently society has finally caught up and figured out that not everyone wants to live like that and the world is better when everyone is happy. Well it's not quite there yet, but I'm glad it's heading that direction and I'm glad to be part of making the change.

Thank you for this video and thank you for simply being you. I've struggled with answering this question whenever people asked it of me and this answer really resonated with me. Thank you, Ashley!

Me, who is pretty sure they never felt gender in their entire life at this point:

Currently accepting this about myself and learning how to understand it. ❤️

I just came across your channel, and I want to thank you so much for making the videos you make. I have been going through what I thought was an identity crises for a few months now, it is getting so bad Im going back to thinking suicidal thoughts again. I wake up everyday, and I just hate myself. I hate that I have to wear a bra and put on panties, when I just want to wear boxers like my boyfriend. I hate being addressed as a girl, it makes me feel bad about myself, but it upsets me when strangers mistake me for a boy. Its all a big confusing mess, but your videos gave me something to relate to, and now I dont feel like something is wrong with me. I can understand who I am a bit more. Thank you so so so much!! Keep being you and keep being awesome!

I've been through the LGBTQ rollercoaster of questioning my gender and I know now I feel most comfortable with nonbinary.

idk about all these terms but honestly i think non-binary is not a physical thing , its more like a psychological thing.It's about our freedom to have our own preferences, whether if it's in clothes , the way we look , the type of aesthetic things we like or what type of coffee we prefer. Because honestly if you think about , the way people dress is just a thing.There's no correct way to how a person should dress for a certain event or occasion.So it's okay for someone to dress like the opposite gender because they just like it. I'm not sure if you guys get it but I'm just explaining how i really feel.

2 months ago I realized that I am non-binary, well actually I already knew for a long time but I didn’t have it that clear as I do now I always felt like there was something different about me because I never felt identified as a woman, I believed that I could be everything I wanted and get dress with anything kind of clothes that make me happy no matter if it was boy or girl

Hey, @A. Wylde thank you for the smile, the support and kindness Hope your week goes well and stay safe amd healthy!

Thank you so much for this! It's like "How does it feel to be human?" I mean it's such a strange question to have asked! I was just thinking about that this morning.

Nailed it on the head.. at the end of the day, its still me.. I just turned 50 this year.. took me many years to figure out I was 'nonbinary'.. when I first started this journey of identity, these terms weren't even coined yet..

Its crazy how similar we look. With brown hair, grey eyes.

This was amazing. I love how you came across in such a matter-of-fact way to simplify it for us - those of us who are expecting something big and significant - just to tell us that it feels like being who we already are, day to day. As someone who recently hatched, and exploring everything I can about being an enby, I really appreciate this video, and your content. Thank you for making me smile

We are individuals. We don't fit into stereotypes. Creating more labels is not the solution. Insisting that people know you as an individual is the key.

I'm sorry if you've already answered this in a past video but how do you personally define your sexual orientation as a non-binary person? (I realise bi/pan could still apply so this question may not be relevant but I don't know what your orientation is so don't want to assume) or do you prefer not to use labels? How do you navigate this?

This was a great video tbh, made me feel happy for some reason :D So thanks!

I'm bi/pan and I think that i'm non binary

I always wondered about this. You have explained it very well, thank you!

I'm trying to figure out if I'm not binary. All I know is that I was born a female, identify as a female, and I am lesbian. I am *not* feminine. And if I am transgender (non binary) maybe I can understand myself a little better. I am not feminine and I don't think him\he pronouns fit. Your videos help me understand myself a little more, and help me know the signs you and other people had, to knowing you are non binary

Thank you so much for this video! IT helped me to realize that I am gender nonbinary. But, I noticed I have more going on than just that. I recently realized I am species non-binary. Sometimes I feel like a human, while other days I feel like one of a variety of different animals. Sometimes my species changes several times a day. For instance, this morning I woke up at and used the toilet, took a shower, brushed my teeth, and got dressed, which are all human things, so I was a human. But, then I brushed my hair while I whistled along to a song I heard on the radio, so I realized I was basically pruning myself and chirping like a bird, so I became a bird trapped in a human body. Then I ate a banana and I became an ape trapped in a human body. Then I ate some peanuts and felt bloated, and blew my nose, so I became an elephant trapped in a human body. Then I started whistling to the song from the radio that was stuck in my head again. So, once again I became a bird trapped in a human body! Once I started to think about how I was a bird I got the urge to fly, opened a window to my apartment (I live on the third floor), and I jumped out and attempted to fly. But unfortunately, I became a dense concrete block trapped in a human body and I crashed to the ground and crushed practically every bone in my body! So, currently, I'm an idiot trapped in the body of a hospitalized invalid.

How do I know the difference between severe body hatred/self loathing vs gender dysphoria?

seeing people say "I just get to be me" confuses me

Yessssss! Thank you! I always have to explain this to people and I have to use the eye color example, or height, or fingernail type . Lol

Beautiful video! Loved every bit. 😁

This was strangely reassuring. Thank you

I know I am non binary I am so sur about this but I don't know how to explain that feeling to my cis friends. When I ask them how do u know your gender they have no clear answer but still they want a clear answer or they start invalidating my identity . Can anyone here give me some better words to explain non binary / agender identity

Feels like im both a boy and girl at the same time and it's very conflicting. 🙄

Argh! I'm trying to figure out if I'm non-binary or not! Can anyone just give me anecdotes about what they experienced that made them go "wait a second"? Cuz like, I liked girly things and swishy dresses when I was under 7 years old, and then from about 7-11 I kept saying that I wanted to be a boy, and then when I was 11 my mom wanted me to be more fem, so she complimented me, and told me I looked nicer and thinner when I dressed more fem (I never got compliments from my mom about anything, so in order to please my mom I wore fem clothes). Now I keep feeling like I'm in drag every time I get gussied up in high-fem outfits. I mean, I sometimes like putting on dresses, but it feels like a character. But I don't know if I feel like a full-on guy. What does feeling like a guy even feel like? I mean, I like some things about being a girl, but I also don't want to pretend that I care about things or am good at things that I'm simply not. Example: I like having the freedom to wear skirts or not. I don't like that I have to pretend to understand emotions, and am expected to know how to cope with other people's emotions. I like being able to compliment people of my same gender without having to say 'no homo but-' first. I would like to not be socially expected to care about my appearance. So what am I? How do I figure it out? I've already figured out I'm pansexual, but this is something that affects how I present myself, and how I understand myself. I can like guys, girls, or both and be the same person, but if I am a guy, girl, both, or neither, that changes who I am. Since gender is such a huge part of how we present ourselves to the world, this could change how I present to the outside world. Plus, people are weirdly less understanding of genderqueer folks than sexually queer folks... yikes!

I don’t understand how it my feel like to be non binary or understand it; however I respect your position and feelings. You should be treated with respect and dignity just like everyone else. Remember God loves you as well. John 3:16.

It’s weird to me, its more like either being in drive or reverse, yet i’m in neutral. I feel as if I’m in a void with no path while everyone else does, that i’m the only one on my path.

PREACH! this is so great!!

I hear you. But I reckon people want to know, how's it like to be questioned about something that is generally taken for granted? It's easier to roll with the punches than confront them. What if bringing up kids meant teaching them to question traditions and values? Wouldn't that prove wheather we're going the right way, or if we're right to question them?

Can someone please help? I don’t know if I’m non-binary or not. I don’t feel comfortable being considered a girl or a boy I’m fine with she/her pronouns but I think I like they them a bit better..? I don’t know I’m just so confused

Im a trans woman and I feel like I need a whole lecture to break down the gender construct to understand non binary. I dont think i can truly appreciate the spectrum with my binary idea of gender constructs. This is extremely difficult for me to grasp.

I was born and raised in Australia, I live here but I don't identify as Australian. My passport says "Australian" but I can't tell you what it feels like to be 'Australian'

I look like a typical ciswoman but still feel non-binary emotionally.

Gonna' have to subscribe!

You are such a great public speaker omg

That explained nothing tbh.

I am an intersex woman and this still did not answer the question I was born female and male at the same time I was assigned female at Birth and I still live as a woman but also as a man so please ask the question to an intersex person to truly understand what it feels like to be both genders at once and not a person who can only speak from one side of the gender story or the other because it degrades the experiences of inter people who have to live in this world as both genders at the same time Now to truly answer the question it feels different unique and makes it hard to speak to your parents about puberty and makes you sometimes uncomfortable peeing in a lady's room

it feels like not understanding how X and Y chromosomes fucking work

#nonbinarypower

Is expecting a wildly longer video. Wow

Whoops, I just accidentally came out as a lesbian to some people in my class who will probably bully me for the rest of my life

I think they mean how can you tell, not how does it feel.

I have a question that I cannot find ANYWHERE on the web. I am a biological male but I identify more as non-binary. I dont wanna transition to female, even tho im more femm leaning, but having testosterone just makes me so upset and I dont even think it should but it does. I dont want estrogen either bc I dont want boobs and I'm fine with my male parts, but would i be able to get hormone blockers? or would I not be allowed since I don't plan on transitioning to female?

So I searched on Google what it means when you're a girl and boy both but I got no results. :(

I am Paramasculine, so I feel mostly Male and partially nonbinary. Specifically 80% M and 20% NB. Not genderfluid

What are your preferred pronouns?

It doesn't feel like anything to be blond or have brown eyes because these are physical characteristics a difference in pigmentation, such differences can not be felt. Gender identity is not a physical difference. If it can not be felt in an individual does it exist in that individual? if so in what form?

*why do you look like danTDM lmao*

Thank you I really need that as a nonbinary person thank you an amazing person please keep making videos I greatly appreciate it and I greatly appreciate you have an amazing day 💛🤍💜🖤

Which Spanish translation of nonbinary would you like to go by? No binaria or no binario? Masculine or feminine? I'll wait...

How do i come out as a nonbinary to my parents? Most of Russian people are homophobic and it's disappointing..I'm Muslim and there are no people in our nation who knows about LGBTQ+..Please help me 😔😔

How being non-binary feels to me? Wear a straitjacket for 20 years and then take it off. Nonbinary for me feels like life without that jacket

If it doesn't "feel like anything" then how do you KNOW?

so if you look like a guy, and i say 'hey man', what would ur reaction be? if you don't think you're a man? if your gender isn't defined by the way you look/your physiology, and is in your head, is it someone else's fault if they get this wrong? after all, they can't see your thoughts. also, does sexual preference play a part in gender? some people say bisexual is a 'gender', when it's not.

dude, if you have gender dysphoria, it doesn't actually matter how you identify, it's logic, gender dysphoria is what impulses you to transition to any gender

ugh I'm crying

I like you 100x better than Milo Stewart, thanks for sharing your perspective.

I tried to explain non-binary to my classmate and she's just like so you're a boy. So you're a girl. So you're a boy, etc. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I used to have that shirt.

i was wondering what your girlfriend/boyfriend would refer to you as?

snapbacks suit you, Ash 😍❤️

I still don’t understand 😞

thank you

No genders have a feeling how can you say I don’t feel like a boy or a girl when you never where one

How does it feel to be blonde? Funny u said that, Psychologist say the brain is wired for revelation… st least part of the feeling Of being blonde (as a woman) is the sensation of getting more attention.

Here's the thing, 2 nites ago my child came out to me as nonbinary. Bravo!!! 👏🏿 But now I want to understand them for who they are and to me that means putting myself in their shoes. Do they have romantic feelings I think is the question. At least it's mine, because for me being a female is sooooo closely linked to my breasts and vagina as I've given birth and have sustained life with them and the joy they've given me!! How then does a nonbinary person feel about themselves when it come to sexual awareness, may be the better question. Do they love their parts, hate their parts or sometimes both. I mean we all pee for example, so does that feel uncomfortable for the person when they're using the bathroom or get their period or wake up with an erection? And of course you feel normal because you are. But this will be a journey for us both and I promised them I'd do my research so it's not ALL on them. Helpful constructive responses only pls.

Well im a transguy.......But I dont feel quite right getting called he probaly because ive been called she my whole life :(

(NO HOMOPHOBIA IN MY REPLYYYYSS) I hate being a woman I hate it I hate it I hate it, but sometimes I feel more feminine. Is there a term for non binary and woman gender fluid if not I just call it “Non binfemal”

I'm fan of your saying b-by. 😂

this does not answer it ...sorry to be a negative but as someone who truly trying to understand it ...."it feel normal"dont help?

I think I might be nonbinary idk tho

I just want to say you make really awesome videos. I'm a straight male, but I've been looking at different videos about gender topics for awhile now trying to understand my sibling's situation a bit more. Your videos are literally the only ones I have found that are easy to watch and informative. Most videos I've seen have the subject complaining about society not accepting them or they have nothing but hate for the entire straight community. Your videos are a breath of fresh air. You have a positive attitude and seem to only be concerned with being a good person, which is all that matters to 99% of people. Thank you. Subscribed.

what does nonbinary mean?

I’m just here because Demi Lovato came out and I’m trying to understand better!!

Same ☺️☺️☺️

I have that shirt

Ashley you're such an inspiration!

I am no. Gender i like all genders im a lot of genders so im not a gender IM A PERSON WHO HAS FEELINGS AND CHOOSES WHAT THEY WANN BE I LIKE TO BE A PERSON FREE I DONT LIKE PEOPLE TELLING ME WHAT TO DO OR WEAR IM A NO GENDER AND IM HAPPY!!

I know binary