Hi, everyone! If you're reading this, I hope your day is going well. 😊 Just wanted to take a moment to let everyone know that I do try to respond to every single comment (that isn't clearly negative) as quickly as possible! If, for some reason, you've commented on this video (or any other video) and I don't reply to you, it's just because I missed your comment somehow. Sometimes the KZfaq Studio doesn't show me all of the comments I receive, for some reason? But if I happen to miss your comment, please know that I'm still incredibly grateful for the fact that you took the time to contribute to the conversations happening down here in the comment section! On the other hand, I do try to delete all negative, hateful comments. Please note that I'm not talking about constructive criticism or genuine confusion/questions from people who may perhaps be uninformed; I welcome such comments! But if the comment is insulting or demeaning or belittling or antagonistic, I'm gonna delete it. It's really important to me that trans/nonbinary/questioning people have a place to engage in dialogue and ask questions without being attacked or having their very identity called into question, so I try my best to remove such comments as quickly as possible. However, just like I miss positive comments sometimes and I fail to respond to them, I miss negative comments sometimes and I fail to remove them. I do sincerely apologize if anyone is hurt by any negative comments that happen to slip through, but I also hope that you'll be encouraged, reassured, and validated by all of the positive comments!! 💚💚💚

I'm not having a crisis, I'm just *curious* Edit: after 1 year I am now having an identity crisis 🙃

Me: being confused about my gender Her: Go shoe shopping Me: Realizing that I always lean towards men's shoes and that I've always wanted to be male when I was younger *I think I'm on to something*

"Try out names" me casually thinking about changing my name to noodles. I- dont think im cis😂

bless my mom's soul for giving me a gender neutral name she did this with my sibling too when i told her i was non binary and wanted to go by they/them she was all "i knew this would happen, i support you no matter what" but i still might need to refresh her on the uptake cause i kept my hair long after that and she went back to using she/her, but bless her heart she is trying her best!

I'm really confused because I'm afab and I know I'm not a guy but I'm unsure if I'm just a cis girl who's uncomfortable with who they are or if I may be non binary I've only been questioning for about two months now so I know I have plenty of time to figure but I still just wish I could understand my head and gender

I'm closeted because the one time i tried to come out to my trans friends they got mad at me :( However to make myself feel better I put green hearts in my bio 💚💚💚!!

Is non-binary but watches this video 😂

When I was born I was female and my name was Juliet. My parents always supported LGBTQ, and even though they were very religious if I came out like something from the LGBTQ category than they would support me. When I was eleven I pretended to be a guy on Omegle. It was really fun and it was nice to have some girls talk to me and stupid guys skip me. I started dressing differently and used this video. I came out and I'm grateful I have an accepting family! I'm glad to say I am Robin! -A non-binary demigirl

Thanks so much for this! It's especially awesome to see Black trans non binary youtubers on the subject, it makes me feel seen xx

So.... I came out to my friends yesterday and I’m Sam now and I’m just so happy, and my friend is going to try to get me a binder and my heart is fluttering

This is MY identity crisis and I get to pick the music

For a long time now, I’ve been struggling to find labels that fit me. Seeing as how I am still young and going through changes, it’s hard to keep up with what I want to label myself as (this goes for gender identity, sexual attraction, and romantic attraction). I watched this video after thinking through the labels I currently have. Thanks to you, I am more confident than ever that I am Nonbinary! I have always felt excluded from gender groups/roles. Even as a small child I would dress in princess outfits, but love to play with toy cars and horse play with the boys. It wasn’t until I got a little older that I was being forced into a gendered box of femininity that made me hate anything feminine. I hated skirts, makeup, dresses, pink, and anything that was typically assigned towards females. I hit a bump where I thought I was Agender, then I thought I was a Trans male. After a while, neither of those titles fit me and I was lost. I was confused because I wanted to dye my hair, wear nail polish, wear crop tops, and other typically feminine things. But I also wanted to get tattoos, piercings, wear traditionally masculine things. I wanted to be seen as masculine, but not male. I decided to go with the term Nonbinary, but after a while of people saying that I present too masculine to be Nonbinary or that it wasn’t a real thing, that I was “confused,” I started to seriously doubt myself. After searching for a long time, watching many videos (such as this one), reading articles, and just asking friends in the LGBT community, I’ve come to the conclusion that I identify as Nonbinary. I am not male or female. I am my own person and no one can tell me I’m not. I know in my heart that what I am feeling is true. Even if my label changes over time, I will still have this part of myself to look back at. I am me and that’s all I need. Thank you for this video!💚 (Sorry for any typos or grammar mistakes!)

I love when trans people uplift other awesome creators. Thanks for the list of YTers.

I’ve been having a weird time figuring out my gender identity, but this video felt like a reassuring hand on my back telling me that it’s going to be ok

I've been questioning for 7 years.. back and forth between butch lesbian and trans man and just recently, probably around the time this video came out I accepted that it's ok to be in between. Up until then I had thought it was fake because "everyone feels like that, that's normal" but no, my experiences are not universal lol. Thank you for making this video though. We receive a lot of shit and we need positive voices like yours in our community.

this video was so helpful. i feel so much more relaxed about my gender identity now because you make it seem so chill and comfortable. i was born a girl, and i never really quite felt like i was a girl. i haven’t ever been really distressed about it, but it’s just something that has always lingered throughout my childhood til now (i’m 17). sometimes in my head i’ll think about myself using the pronoun ‘he’ and it felt cool but still not quite right, much like how i feel about the pronoun ‘she’. then when i think about myself as ‘they’ it just feels a lot warmer and safer, like i feel less constricted for whatever reason. from now on i think i’m going to try to go by they/them pronouns, just to see how it feels. i don’t imagine myself getting too distraught over people using she/her pronouns when they refer to me, but i dunno. i think as long as i settle with myself that i’m free to wiggle around throughout the gender spectrum then i don’t think it really matters. forgot to add a few of these bad boys also -> 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

"If you're feeling more inclined to more gender neutral pronouns like Alex..." My name: Boo

I'm very confused. I thought I might be genderfluid, but whenever I feel more like a 'girl' I feel the exact same dysphoria as when I feel like a boy or something else. I think I might be nonbinary, but I'm still doubting myself a lot. And it's also not helpful that where I live we have no genderneutral pronouns and everything is pretty gendered. (I'm dutch) You either have a 'vriend' (which means a friend who is a boy) or a 'vriendin' (which is a girl) but no genderneutral term. So I can't experiment with words. I hope I'll figure it out one day, thank you for the tips 💚💚💚

You say you... Non-binnery? What nonbiney?? Nonby not real. You make nonby up. Only 2 gender: -cool ranch -nacho Can't _identify_ as Norbert. That don't make sense. No one's just born nanabanana!!! You're not Nickelback...

I clicked and I am obsessed with your hair, I'd never be able to braid it so well, thank you for the tips as well

Your lisp is so adorable 😍 great video

My friend just came out as non binary and I'm just here to learn about being non binary so I can be as respectful an helpful to them as much as possible

"Try out different names" My name: _is gender neutral_ Me: **sweats**

I just came out as non binary on New Year's Eve. I'm now Keir and use they/them/their. I am so happy and confident with myself now. Just within the span of 2 days, it's affected me so much in a positive way. Much love from me

I cried when I talked to myself in my head and used they them pronouns. It felt so amazing! 💛⚪️💜🖤 Edit: Also does anyone have some good gender neutral names? If I decide I 100% no doubt in my mind at non-binary I won’t want to go by my name. (It’s pretty feminine) I like Emerson because it seems pretty close to my name now and won’t be to drastic of a change, but I wanted to see if anyone had some good options. 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

This really helped me! Sometimes it makes it harder when people say we’re not real, or you’re one or the other just accept it. It forms doubts about my authenticity, but when someone labels me non-binary, it feels really good. Also when you mentioned you’re spirituality, I was like same! Before and after these feelings about my identity, I noticed more butterflies passing by me which I’ve read about symbolizing change. Thank you!

For about 4 years i was always drawn to the name Skylar. I now know that I'm 95%certain I'm non binary and Skylar is the name ment for me

I loved the one about the scenarios in which there was a non binary option. Oh my, I would so choose that! Plus, when my family played men vs women, i was ALWAYS the mediator. Oh my, i'm so non binary

Maaan, when I was younger and I thought I was aromantic, I found myself just constantly going "can i be genderless 😐" Then I turn out to be an asexual lesbian (and my sapphic love is the one thing that led me to embrace my femininity), but I ended up having a best friend for YEARS who was not supportive at ALL of nb peeps, so yeehaw I got forced into denial... when I cut her out of my life during quarantine, seemingly out of nowhere the gender questioning hit like a truck... but after talking it out with supportive trans and nonbinary friends, I felt so liberated when I realized, and am now freely, more comfortably than ever living my truth! Hi!! My name is Sammie-Chris, she/they, and I'm a nonbinary ace lesbian!! Thank you so much for your kind and helpful video, as I see all the comments of all the people it's guided! Let's all be true to ourselves and help each other live our happiest, freest lives And yes, I, too, am a firm believer in The Universe :) 💚

Not me over here watching this video trying least things and sobbing because it feels, well it just feels right. I've been questioning my general identity for so long and its really frustrating but this, I don't know it just made me really happy because it feels like me. Thank you

i’m honestly so confused about my identity, i know i like she/her, so i thought that i was cis, but now i’m thinking i might like they/them too

Thank you so much for the subtitles dude, I’m both hearing deficit and terrified someone will hear me listening to this xD

I don't mind being called a girl but some days I kinda feel more masculine if that makes sense. I also go by seb with close friends instead of my real name just because it feels ..Right. I don't mind my name but Seb feels like ...Right, its hard to explain. I don't persay gravit to wanting to be male but some days I kinda wanna just be and feel more like a guy and some days I feel like being a girl. Kinda switching. Idk what this means though. Edit: spelling

Im so happy to hear your story, and I think it's awesome that you're trying to help others find who they are! :D

5:39 i rly rly believe that too bc i've been questioning my gender recently and im like 90% sure i'm nonbinary but it's rly hard and just a few days ago when i was doubting myself and was thinking about how im mostly uncomfy with being a girl i was scrolling on tiktok and the very first video that popped up on my fyp was of a woman saying how "if it doesn't feel right, then it isn't" and i started crying bc everything in the video everything she was saying comforted and reassured me so much it was exactly what i needed in that moment

The fact that KZfaq recommended me this tells everything

Your Christmas tree is a mess and I love it❤️ it’s just like my life

You just made me feel so much inner peace, love and security that anxiety simply faded away and tears of relief wanted to come out. Thank you so much

To be honest right now I have really big problems with my sexuality and gender, because I just feel bad that I am doing something wrong, because I still can end up being heterosexual female and It is scary. It is scary that I am closeted but take myself as pansexual and genderfluid. But if it will change I feel that everybody who is telling me that lgbtq+ is a phase were right, like im giving them the green to believe they are right in everybody. Even though that every person is unique. I just dont know how to feel about this mess and about the future with my gender and sexuality. It feels good to say it "out loud" finally

You seem like such a genuine and sweet person. Thank you for making this video. I'm quite sure I'm slightly on the transfeminine side of non-binary, but I'm definitely going to try the exercise you suggested of drawing my ideal version of myself. 😊

Thank you so much for making this video. For most of my life, I believed that I was a cisgender male and nothing else, however I recently started questioning my gender due to the fact that I love to crossdress and really like the idea of being a girl. While I'm not quite sure what my gender identity is as of yet, I have feeling that I'm either a transgender girl or have a non-binary identity. I'm really hoping that the amazing tips that you provided in this video for finding one's true gender identity will ultimately help me and everyone else out there who is questioning their gender find out what their true gender identity is.

I really appreciate you including those hypothetical scenarios-- I've never put myself mentally into situations like those, and I found that they've helped a lot!

Wow the way you used the shoe and restroom examples really helped I understand myself a bit better, thank you.

This video is extremely helpful, ty! The signs of the universe thing is not my thing though, as I’m an atheist. I think it’s more like you are interpreting random things to fit what you feel like, so it might not be completely useless, just know that there’s nothing magical about it, it’s just your mind interpreting stuff into things that aren’t there, like a message from your subconscious

Hi, recently I've found out that I'm Pan, that's for sure. But lately I've been feeling like I'm non-binary, instead of a girl, but now I'm really confused on whether non-binary people can be more masculine or feminine, and I do have a nonbinary friend, but I'm too afraid to ask them about this and....i just need some help figuring out my gender identity I guess. {Edit} I think I might be a nonbinary demi girl, because I am very feminine, but do feel a little gender dysphoria.

I really like the shoe fitting analogy and the trivia night and bathroom scenarios. Thank you for these helpful ideas.

This was such a helpful video 😭 I never started questioning until I became an adult, even though the binary made me uncomfortable. And you're so loving and caring even through a camera lens! I hope everything always goes amazing for you, thanks for the tips ❤❤

In my language you can't dodge someone's pronouns while talking. So I simply don't care if they address me as a girl or a boy, or if I talk about myself as a dude or girl.

This video came at the right time, the hypothetical questions just reassured me that I'm a non-binary individual.

thanks so much for this video- it really helped me. hearing others talking about their experience and what has helped them has helped me too. appreciate u!

I've been spending some time trying to figure out my gender identity. Watching your video was part of my research and I just want to say it helped. I haven't finished searching for what feels right for me, but it was comforting to hear that encouragement. Thanks for cheering on people like me who are still discovering ourselves.

I had tears In my eyes near the end, I've been questioning myself for a while now and this really helped. I'll probably continue to question myself, just to figure out where I am on the spectrum, but yeah thank you so much for this video 💚

You really helped me and I'll never forget your words that only I can tell who am I going to be not some random stranger on the internet which was really funny 🤣💚 Also I LOVVEE the tip of creating my ideal self with drawing/sims! That is an amazing idea to express how I'm feeling in a creative way. 🤗🤩

the shoe analogy was really helpful thank you :)

This got me all teary. Thank you for taking the time

This resonated pretty hard with me... also, I almost exclusively use the green heart emoji 💚

That actually helped me so much 💚 thank you

the sims tip was really great, thanks for the advice 💚

thank you so much for this video! i've recently started to question my gender at 22 years old, and even though this self-discovery journey has just begun, your tips were very helpful. most of the videos i've watched so far talk about dysphoria and i am pretty sure that that is not my experience, so i'll keep looking to see what really resonates with me, but your words made me feel validated. thank you.

This is such a good and positive video!!! 💜 I don't see many which feel so inclusive, a lot seem to narrow it down to wanting androgyny in some way, or never identifying with a binary gender. But I'm strongly in both the genderfluid and non binary camps. Love your style and your channel 💖

Thank you, this helped me alot. I've got three names I'm still "choosing between - my original name, Riley (hence why the user name) and Pheonix

These where all very helpful. You saved me from a crisis just now. Thank you so much!

Truly this was so helpful. I've been going through it when it comes to thinking about my gender and its been so stressful and your calm presence put me more at ease, especially to remembr that I don't need to have it all figured out. I've been going back and forth about whether im a trans guy or a transmasc nb person, and its been more complicated by the fact that all the nb people i know and see are white. Being able to see you as a calm and beautiful and black non binary person makes me feel like its gonna be okay. I feel like I feel at peace being not cis but start to freak out when I think of coming out to my family and coming out professionally.

I’ve been talking to my family about me becoming nonbinary and they’ve been asking me “hey, why do you want to be this?” And I’ve been kinda eh because I don’t have a reason , I just don’t feel comfortable in any gender.

Hi this comment section seems kind so i need some peoples help if you dont mind. I am 13 years old and have been questioning my gender for a quite a bit now but idk exactly where I lay on the spectrum. I think I may be gender fluid but I'm not sure. I mean sometimes I feel like I'm completely a boy and other times completely a girl and sometimes completely non-binary. But then sometimes I feel kind of a girl but not rlly and vise versa. Its just kinda messing with my head and I could really use some advice. Anyway Love ya'll

i just wanted to drop a thanks here. i'm here bc for the past year i've been struggling to figure out whether i'm my agab or nonbinary/genderfluid. long story short, when you talked about changing names, i was hit by the feeling of how much i hated my name when i was a kid/teenager, and it made me cry, because i just felt so sad for my child self. i hadn't tied my issues with my name to my issues with gender until now. and then i cried again when you said everything in sign ten. there were other things in this list that resonated with me but i think i needed to hear a nonbinary person validate however i'm feeling, so thank you.

Thank you so much for this amazing video! I'd been having a lot of struggles regarding this recently and I stumbled upon this. It really helped me and I just want to say I hope you're having a wonderful day/night 💛💛

I came out as agender to a few of my friends a week ago and it was such a relief to do so 💚💚💚💚💚

Me after this vid: I am non-binary and my name shall be Robin 🤧😤

i've always thought i was a cis girl but started questioning in the last month and it's really frustrating me. i cried while watching this and really can't tell how i feel about these things- if i like identifying that way or don't. i had a friend try out they/them pronouns on me and i still couldn't tell if it felt right or not. i think figuring this out is gonna take a long time for me... thank you for this though.

thanks for the video, this helped a lot! a few months ago i figured i was ftm, and started going by he/him and a different name. recently something hasn't felt entirely right, and i've been experimenting more with different ideas. this brought a lot more into perspective!

I think I’m nonbinary...

I'm just wanna ask real quick, does any body use a different name, and what do you use? Tell me, your birth name and name you use, and any suggestions for me, my birth names Bailey, I was born a girl. Yes, I am Non-binary. Edit: I settled on the name Skylar. I really liked it, and the nickname Si fits me so well.

thank you so much for this video. im still in the early stages of figuring out and dealing with a lot of doubt but this made me feel calm and validated

I know that this was posted a long time ago but I need to tell thank you so much because this is what I have needed to hear!

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out of all the videos i’ve watched so far i’ve found yours the most helpful! i’ve been questioning my gender since the beginning of quarantine and i want to be sure that i’m finding an indentity that fits and for the right reasons. “wanting to be non-binary might be a sign that you are” was really affirming bc i just feel like being nb would be more freeing to me. also your presence is really comforting and made me subscribe hehe :)

you have such a soothing presence and this was just really nice to watch and super helpful I hope ur doing ok!!!

Really appreciated your wisdom and realness and heart/spirituality in this! I felt welcomed and also not rushed. 💜🌳💜

You have such a calming voice ♥️ I really appreciated this video

This helped so much thank you! 🥺❤️

This is a really great resource! Thank you for making it!

your voice is so calming and unique and overall just very nice

Thank you so much!! This was super helpful I will definitely be re-watching this over and over again

I usually never comment on KZfaq videos, but this time I felt I had to. I was going back and forth in my mind about my gender identity and doubting myself, but I think the Universe gave me a good sign by seeing this video recommended to me on KZfaq. Thanks for helping me figure out what I am! :D

This was super helpful! Thank you!

thank you so much for posting this and helping me find who i am. please keep making vids like this they really help.

"Be the person you know you are" is so comforting?? Thank you?? :')

I think always playing a guy on Roblox and Minecraft, plus refusing to answer to any other name than Lightning (from the movie Cars) for three years might have been an eeeennncccy tiny little sign :D Awesome video. Thank you for helping out other non binary and questioning people! The internet is a better place for you being on it.

this made me cry! beautiful video!

This really helped. Love your hair!

i go by Venus, and it’s really helped me personally to find nicknames i really like and have people call me by those too, it gives you more lead way to finding what name you want, or choosing to keep the one you have

I'm glad I found this. I just recently, at the help of a therapist, came to terms of being non-binary and SUPER NEW to all of this. Your tips really put everything in perspective. Thank you.

this is the most helpful video i've seen while I've been researching while questioning

wow this video was really reassuring for me, i teared up a little bit at the last tip, thanks

Oh my goodness, thank you so much! I needed this video today so much... I needed to hear that I am valid and that it's not just something I've made up 😭🖤🖤

This was so helpful!! Thankyousomuch!!!💚💚💚

Thank you so much for this video! I've been questioning for awhile and I'm so thankful for all the validation this video gave me!!!

thank you so much for making this video! :)