its already done

music and talking to new people,a quote from film/book that perfectly describes my situation

Knowing that every experience is an opportunity for growth, and there is nowhere else that I can be. Mindfulness. Knowing I'm not alone/sharing a sense of kinship with my fellow humans. Curiosity. Art. Poetry. Philosophy. Beauty, in a sense. What is beauty? It seems less of an essential thing and more of a product of some deeper resonance..

not everyone has it bad like you claim some of them have a pretty good life while the rest of us suffer

@@whimsycole246 Well said. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. It gives you an opportunity to grow. That to me is reassuring. To me quite strangely science often helps. Maybe because to know there are truths out there that dont care about us believing in them reminds me of our relatively little importance in this world and as DeBotton often states: it doesnt really matter as much after all

Powerful words Bek! Very true, from my experience. I like it.

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We are too busy in this busy world and in our own minds. Well many are

Aren't most of those things illegal now?

some cultures never give hugs... so its always nice to meet beautiful Brit, a Kind and Beautiful French, and a lot of pretty Scandinavians.

I really enjoy it! Thanks for sharing

OOOOOOO...sniffed his hair

@@vinnartaigh2076 haha 😂 nice

One of my favorite lines from literature!

thanks for sharing! 🥺

We all saw the video :)

@Christian you are doing amazing

@@ayoubzahiri1918 statistically speaking, no not everyone who clicks on this video watches it all the way through, some watch halfway through, only for a few seconds, etc.

Spot on! 👍🏻

Why is assurance even needed? you should be confident with your individuality so much that people's reassurance/validation isn't something you're seeking

💯 true

@@ADUAquascaping and all of us want sympathy and flattery sometimes, that’s completely normal and part of being human. Emotional validation is neither sympathy nor flattery, nor is it fixated on honesty. It is caring, respectful and doesn’t try to change someone’s feelings. It also is not about (necessarily) agreeing with or condoning someone’s behaviour.

@S K I know right, that comment has way better insight than the video, which I don't usually say about school of life...

@@P-therapy What’s emotional validation?

You are!

You're loved and you're enough =)

You are enough and you are so so loved!! Please listen to "Light" by sleeping at last : )

Sure you are

Have someone who makes u feel that

These are the kind of quotes we need!

i am gonna learn by hard your quote

Amen

No

Nah sorry

@@pharaohh5560 😐

@@JayMoney-hd1jl why

To do so is very simple but hard, you must accept that pain and judgement is a normal humain behavior, and that not anything in life is built to please or to be whatever suits you better, by knowing it you become stronger and grow less false hopes and fear of being over judged, and thus becoming courageous for life only smiles to the brave. Hope it helped you, man... It's hard, but once you're into it, life gets lighter.

So do I. Especially since I'm a writer, but I am working on it.

you got this. people's judgements aren't personal! when people are judgmental of others, it's because they're extremely judgmental of themselves... it's a reflection of their own past & pain. just do you and whatever feels good to you. slowly over time, it'll be real easy to not give a f*ck.

It can be useful to remember that other people may have useful insights or they may just be in a cranky or overly critical mood. You don't have to confront them about this. You could just say, "I will think over what you've said". Later you may think, "Well, I agree with this idea from my friend but I think he exaggerated about that." Or "Interesting idea but not useful to me at the moment"

I believe letting go of our own inner critical voice when it pops up is also a key to letting go of whatever unpleasant stuff other people say. The energy we allow for that inner voice is also the energy that makes it feel so dramatic when the critical voice is raised towards us from someone else. So finding that part of us that says 'it's okay, I know I'm not perfect, but I am whatever I am and will be whatever I'll be .. So, what's up for me now. Laundry?' Hehe .. Goodnight greetings

You can write the essence of the video briefly and clearly so that I can understand it later through the translator

Hey ... it’s gonna be okay 😊

@@Deva_Fit With everything going on, both in America and globally, I'm oscillating between "Yeah, right" and "Maybe you're right".

For other people's information, my personality type never needs this. And, usually, it makes us think that you don't care about us, or are at least a little rude, as it dismisses reality, and fails to value our actual (physical) needs.

@@thewiseturtle I'm genuinely curious, which personality type are you?

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And that means more to their growth, health, wellness and vitality than any thing you can buy for them. They will have the self-confidence to make their own way in this crazy world with the gift of reassurance you’ve given them.

I've been reading 12 rules for life. That's been getting me through my days. It's a very inspiring book, and every time I open it I always find something I can relate to or even ponder upon.

You can write the essence of the video briefly and clearly so that I can understand it later through the translator

Thank you

May God bless all of you.

What I’ve needed to hear everyday, thank you so much.

Food

We probably didn't need to want.

@@cpengwin you're right

Well, there you have it...you want reassurance. You are great and it is ok if you aren't always sure what it is that you want. You will figure it out in time.

YOU WANT REASSURANCE, NOTHING ELSE. BE REASSURED!

Why is that? 🤔

@@honingbijtje83 constant self-doubt? Lack of reassurance?

What do you want to reach..?

@@thehuman2861 death

@@zavedahmad2869 why?

@HIXHAM Perhaps you didn't mean it literally but I am curious how potential energy is released from dopamine/adrenaline and other chemicals within us and how our interactions with other people can increase our energy level

What if you don't know what you want or what it takes to reach it?

Very much practical

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The law of attraction

That's awful that your heart is broken. I wish I could send you healing. You're welcome to write back about what the problem is, if you want to.

Mari you sound like an INFJ. We INFJs are like this all too often. Do for yourself more, and learn how to say no. If you never say no you are doomed to repeat this cycle. I have had to tell alot of people no since my parents passed in 2019 (which was hard enough), being INFJ and doing this is contradictive to how you feel but you need to push through it to get better. Allfather be with you, SKÅL!

@@tracesprite6078 my grandma passed away recently, I got left in my past relationships twice, divorced parents who despise each other, no siblings... my friends are nice from time to time, but they are not empathic at all, they live different situations and I try not to burden them to... I'm 22 and feel very lost.

@@LannyX2 I'm sorry for your loss. Yes, I'm an INFJ too. Skål to you as well.

Mari Honey, it might help to look at "Reconnected" by Andrew Leigh. It's both Australian but also online and maybe you'll get some ideas for connecting with others from that.

That sounds really tough for you to bear. wIll sorry you're going through that.

I see you

You’re loved my friend. I feel the same, so I’m going to tell you you are not alone.

@Louqman Badr: You're not alone... That happens more often and to more people than what you think. I've been (still am) in that same situation for most of my life. Since they didn't and don't care for me, after reading lots about this problem from different points of view and thinking really hard for three-four years, I had to resign myself to let those people (my mother, brother, other family members, and very close friends) to carry on with their patterns of ignoring me, and I started ignoring them. It works for a lot of people, like you've gotten rid of heavy and useless baggage. I do feel like a miserable shit, I ain't nothing happy about it (I still care). But by cutting all communication with them and trying to forget them, I have reduced part of the pain. I'm not saying you should do this (the price you pay is really very high). I'm saying you need to think very carefully, taking all the time you need, about the situation and what could you do to make some of them change a little bit in your favor... and to have in writing, in full detail, an alternative plan if they don't react as you wish. I strongly encourage writing to those people you love & care for who never pay you back. Don't put everything in your first letter, which should be just about this one problem ("I give you a lot of my time, energy, love, care, and support; and I never get anything back. I would want you to do XYZ for me. Could you please do that?"). Some times some of the people who wouldn't listen to you will end up "listening" to you when they actually read the same thing in black & white, it makes them think again and reconsider (it didn't work in my case, but hopefully your case will turn out much better than mine). If nothing seems to work no matter how hard you try, then read again your alternative plan, make the last minutes corrections/adaptations as necessary and execute your plan. I did inform my people several times of what would happen if they carried on ignoring me. Now my mother is probably dying of Covid-19 in her country if she hasn't died before. Of course I'm not happy, but I think I'm respecting myself much better by not going to her deathbed, as I told her in person and in writing several times that I would do if she didn't show a little bit of affection & support for me. Since she was so fucking cold & hard with me all my life, she fully desserves to have her own treatment applied to her in her final years. Of course I don't feel proud nor happy, this is so fucking embarrasing to say and cruel to do. But apparently is the only way to start getting a little respect from the closest people to you, who should have respected you all along (and thus given you their love and support, as you did with them). Think very carefully, choose very wisely, and stick by your decision. Best of lucks!

Thank you 😅

So that's what it feels like :) ahhh refreshing.

Lmfao

I want to be a god

Fantastic application of today's lesson! Oh, haha, I just realized my reply is giving you reassurance. Ha, funny how it can snowball :)

One option is to take a holiday where you visit rural places and work as a volunteer. You will get to know the reality of rural life and find out in what way you'd like to be part of it. If you have the money, you can pay to work in a place in Thailand that rehabilitates injured elephants. That is wonderful work. Or you could assist the work done by Jane Goodall with chimpanzees. One option is to work in a city, save money and then use it to go to a rainforest or some place where you can volunteer.

@@tracesprite6078 that's what I'm planning to do mate, I've been to auroville in southern India, i literally love that place, though it's gonna be tough there compared to here in Florida but I'll embrace it.

@@anuragcvsr7169 I hope it all goes really well for you.

Me tooo Im 18 but i've always known my peace is in an ashram, forest, riverside or just simple living. But I don't know how to get there :/

I want to follow all of you, I wanted to live far away from this modern world. I wanted to be one with nature and a peaceful environment. I'm too overwhelmed with this world. I've been trying to live my everyday life just for the sake of surviving, not living the best of it.

Friend, you absolutely made sense. I am going through the exact inner states. Things will change, because that's how life evolves. 😊

@@hrishapaul7582 yeah I hope it does and I hope you get what you're looking for:)

What you said made a lot of sense. It sounds like you need time to recover from the stress of your degree and to find your direction in life. With Covid, this rest time may be necessary anyway. One factor is that if you leave it too long to get a job, your degree may become a bit out of date. However a bit of a rest may be what you need. Can you talk to a counselor at your university? She may know of some ideas to help.

Thank you for your kindness. I hope you feel calm, too.

I think this truth isn't sad. Because we're all struggling with those same things, it's possible to deeply connect with people, and that's the most beautiful thing :)

True

@@midnightmoon9511 🌹

It’s Alain de Botton. I love his voice to

Ikr...I love his voice ❤️

As a former teacher, I would say to go ahead and write that letter. What you have to say is sincere so go ahead and say it but didn't overdo it.

@@tracesprite6078 thank you for your advice, i'll make it short and kind of neutral - i'll manage. have a good day 🌻

@@janedoedodo I think your last sentence is very beautiful. "I would like to let you see the reflection of, at least, one ray of the sunshine that you have always been to us students since we started college."

@@tracesprite6078 i already wrote the letter, oopsie! however, the message remains the same... thank you though, i really appreciate your help, it just makes me happy, i don't really know why 🌻 have a wonderful day! 🌕

@@janedoedodo It's lovely to think of you feeling happy and also of how your college professor will probably feel very encouraged.

How to know brother ..??

That falls apart quickly when you know what you want has nothing to do with reality or the attainable.

Haha

True

Disagreed, or are you suggesting The cancer patient six chemotherapy to make them happy?

@@brokeneyes6615 Why do you think people do chemo? Isn't it obviously to avoid further suffering?

@@TheDhammaHub you ever talk to anyone going through chemotherapy, especially when the nausea kicks in? They’re doing it to literally save their life, they’re not enjoying it one bit.

@@brokeneyes6615 I know that chemo is not fun - yet you don't do chemo to attain suffering, you do it to avoid it in the future. I said _in the end_ not every step on the way

@@TheDhammaHub uh, no you didn’t, you specifically said “in the end everything we do is to obtain happiness/avoid suffering”, The chemo patient has to suffer through the therapy otherwise they will die, what’s more the patient is encouraged to keep their own spirits up as much as possible during the course of treatment, meaning that they have to obtain happiness elsewhere. There are plenty of things in life where happiness can not be had but it still needs to be done in order to continue and those very often involve suffering to some degree Ask a parent how much suffering their willing to go through for their child, plenty would say they’d die if it meant saving their child, plenty of suffering in that they could’ve avoided but choose not to.

sounds codependent