What I wish I learned in my 20's - Privacy Over Secrecy

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Ай бұрын

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@AJ-jw6yp Ай бұрын

I couldn't agree more. Limit what you share of your private life. Not everyone wishes you well, and the more people know about you, the more entitled the feel to opinions about your life.

@beatricedevarenne2621 Ай бұрын

Even in our own family

@marilynfarley9213 Ай бұрын

Exactly.

@RocknRollDina Ай бұрын

sharing was how influencers were making their money back then. Now they can just do ad and pnly make videos with paid sponsorship. but 10 yrs ago if you werent sharing real life, no one was watching. Even today, a lot of people are trying to come up on social media by oversharing. It's jsut the game. You play it for a few yrs then shut it down and only post when paid to. The TY ad revenue isnt enough anyhow, sponsored content is what really pays

@leilariley936 28 күн бұрын

It's the price you pay for fame...don't put your business out there,where nobody ask/push you;then when something happens...you suddenly start to 'drop words at the people who've stood by you,all these years,most of the vlogs currently are ads...and people are still committed .Attack the people coming directly for YOU!!

@CinnamonSanctuary 23 күн бұрын

Good on you for wanting to keep things private. But I feel like influencers decide to stop sharing things right after a breakup. The pattern goes: oversharing then breakup then intense bouts of self-love, cue lots of posts about how we need to take care of number one then a YT post announcing that people are nosy, never sharing anything again etc. It’s a formula at this point, I’m seeing this everywhere for some reason!

@Rebel_Leader7 16 күн бұрын

Spot on! Clearly, the lifestyle influencers private life is their CAREER/BUSINESS - nine and a half times out of ten. They put it all out there, milk it for every penny they can get then jump on the privacy bandwagon when they divorce or break up because the wonderful life and illusion of authenticity they were selling and making bank from is all collapsed.

@CinnamonSanctuary 16 күн бұрын

@@Rebel_Leader7 You put it much more eloquently than me, absolutely agree!

@cillae8119 10 күн бұрын

Has she said she broke up?

@NeneBlessing 3 күн бұрын

Beautiful makeup looks 😍

@tendaihatoongo4433 Ай бұрын

The Chicnatural is one influencer who strikes the perfect balance between sharing her life and privacy.

@Banzai026 Ай бұрын

I agree!! I love her content!!

@leocadiabaptista9516 23 күн бұрын

Couldn’t agree more, love her as well

@providenceluyiga4488 21 күн бұрын

Yessss

@Flourish_today 13 күн бұрын

I think Jenny Jenkins is also a private one. She has been private from the get go.

@suziesmith9076 12 күн бұрын

@@Flourish_todayshe also lost her following. You can’t start sharing all your business then suddenly stop, your audience was built on knowing what goes on with you.

@marthal8862 Ай бұрын

Money Mel really has learned from the mistakes of the OGs and it’s lovely. You guys were trailblazers and you didn’t have instructions! You wrote the rule book and have now made this industry easier to navigate for the girls that came behind you and are still to come ❤

@crestarose Ай бұрын

This!!

@cillae8119 10 күн бұрын

Facts

@moniqueclarke-w2747 Ай бұрын

I always knew when my time came to be a mother, I didn’t ever want to share the most precious, transformative journey of my life so far online.

@therealmykag Ай бұрын

I know people are really excited to share their kids, but please don’t post their full government name and DOB online. Identity theft can ruin their whole life. Even private accounts, never forget that 90% of victims know the perpetrator.

@kemiesther2971 Ай бұрын

This definitely applies to life outside of socials, especially because I've been getting questions from family members recently about when am I going to get married and I'm just thinking I don't talk to you like that so its none of your business smh

@RavenRaeRaeAlexis Ай бұрын

Girl I’ve missed you! Haven’t seen a video in years, You were my favorite back like 5-6yrs ago. I’d watch your hauls everyday

@peachypie3442 Ай бұрын

Patricia, Patricia, Patricia! This was right on time and a true confirmation. Girl you’re successful. I’ve been with you since Day One( under another channel). Not everybody wishes you well and I have been a victim of situations like this. Now I move in silence. To hell with how people feel about it and what they have to say. I’m proud of you sis. Proud of all the Patty fam👏❤️‍🩹🙏💪

@LoreBrown Ай бұрын

the skin match is rude! LOL! loved that!

@Ayaayaayag Ай бұрын

Girl what happened to Mike ??

@veesvoyages Ай бұрын

Really great topic! It's so true nowadays we need to get the balance right of what is shared online. Love this video format and concept!

@jacquelineruple8339 Ай бұрын

Yes, keep your family protected with privacy. Enjoy your PEACE. You are the influencer . You are doing wonderful enjoy Yes the chicnatural has never shown her husband etc Just be happy

@stylebykatb.5661 Ай бұрын

Although I have watched KZfaq for years and have consumed a lot of videos regarding folks private lives I did kinda cringe at times when I would see folks exposing very intimate details of their lives on the internet to thousands of people. It’s just not wise to expose your life to strangers in such detail - something has to be sacred, especially folks kids. I would never expose my children on the internet too many creeps out there - this video is giving some good advice more video content creators should take heed

@muk9463 Ай бұрын

I love this Patricia, way to go.

@candisweets8627 Ай бұрын

That skin match is insane ❤

@crestarose Ай бұрын

Totally agree with this and love how private I’ve always been … it’s hard to grow a creative career though! Everyone wants to feel like they know you before they invest in you!

@brendatajik6150 11 күн бұрын

Excellent points, Patricia. I've been watching you for over 8 years, and you've made quite a life for you and your family. Well done!😊

@ChavonJWright Ай бұрын

Me, DEEP in these thirties, smashing the download button: Omg I need to hear this!!! 😅

@zona_davani Ай бұрын

I’m so proud to see you in this place in your life. You started on this so young and social media influencing was untapped ground. You are one of the pioneer of this space so surely you will have gotten burnt for the ones after you to learn and for you to learn. You’re amazing Patricia. In my head you’re my bestie 😅❤

@tailsoftoulouse9458 Ай бұрын

I love your videos and makeup!!

@FopsyTheGreat 5 күн бұрын

Needed this! Thank you 🎉

@Bells2141 Ай бұрын

Never been those early!! Love this ❤

@cynthiaetty3549 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much,was singing Tyla Jump the other day.🥰🥰😁😁😘😘

@adoremilliana Ай бұрын

I know am going to love this 🥰

@homodeus8713 Ай бұрын

So good to see you again. Algorithms are full of mischief!

@reginadmahabirfmworldperfu211 Ай бұрын

Hi Patricia how can one purchase the eyebrows pencil that you used?

@CocoFrankie Ай бұрын

Perfect timing ❤

@Jazeerakiko Ай бұрын

So lovely And loved the makeup ❤❤❤❤❤

@Mayan144 Ай бұрын

Hi Patricia!!!!!

@naomeshylineTv Ай бұрын

Hey Lady Patricia, may I have the name/link of your Rode microphone that you are using? Thank you

@QueenOyinkan 10 күн бұрын

Peakmill is also great at keeping her personal life private

@annalisemodeste9390 Ай бұрын

This is for me🙌🏾 lords know I talk to much😅

@leiajack638 10 күн бұрын

I feel like it works for Mel as her brand was never about her personal life, her hubby or kids. It’s about HER style! And she has never shared anything so people don’t expect that of her. She got her following without it.

@RocknRollDina Ай бұрын

But all that being said, the question is: Are you and Mike still married??...is that secret or private?

@Nourishwithdevin Ай бұрын

I so appreciate this perspective ❤️TY

@Ruby-kr6fh Ай бұрын

In case you don't know, all of your social media links in the bio are dead, they don't go to your profiles. I tried visiting them and thought you wiped yourself off the face of the earth lol but when I googled your correct accounts came up

@cloudhi 27 күн бұрын

Can you please elaborate on the differences of secrecy vs privacy?

@marissathomas9327 Ай бұрын

Here super early ! Where tf you been lol 😂 waitttt KZfaq has not been notifying me 😭 I got a lot of catching up to do

@theetravelhippie Ай бұрын

spot on

@RocknRollDina Ай бұрын

Patti was definitely an over-sharer. That delivery vlog of Nova was wild. But we love the openness. I think the nosiness comes from people not seeing Mike and wondering if you're together. Can't be surprised when you share your hubby then dont and people wonder where has he been. part of being an influencer is being personable (to a certain degree). But I get where you're coming from. I dont even share my kids on social media thats only my friends...nope. privacy always..but im also not an influencer. But lets be real, you only make sponsored content and all your instagram content is you flexing or promoting a product. I get it, its your job, no critique..just saying

@rsmith1820 18 күн бұрын

And that's why I only look for Patricia every now & then. She's like a friend who you've drifted apart from but you still care. Like she said, she went from sharing EVERY aspect of her life to trying to guide us to the path of investment & wealth to material things that some of us simply can't (or don't want to) afford As a viewer from WAY back, I am happy for her growth & hope she's happy But she just told us all - as tactfully as she could... TO MIND OUR BUSINESS ABOUT HER LIFE OUTSIDE OF WHAT SHE POSTS as long as the sponsors continue to roll in funding trips & gifting items, gotta respect her gangsta.

@coffeewednesday553 Ай бұрын

Mel was going through a very difficult time and she needed privacy, until the birth of the baby

@mrsroseyp109 Ай бұрын

Look what y’all done did…I’ve realized that creators that I grew with have all rebranded to being more private about their lives…I understand but I’m not sure how I personally feel about it…I’m personally super private…which is why while I thought being a creator was awesome, and I wanted to do it…I also don’t think I could…but that’s why I admired your bravery which is also why you’re also more successful

@Mabonga8 28 күн бұрын

She is talking about the KZfaq GOAT Peakmill 🙌🏾🙌🏾

@micalexandria Ай бұрын

I think they do it for views, and to become in the circle of being an influencer. It's really sad! Do it for fun, to educate.

@leylac3856 28 күн бұрын

Shes not with her husband anymore?

@awhi3765 Ай бұрын

I’m a nobody and when I was pregnant I didn’t tell a soul but family and close friends. If someone asked on social media because they heard from someone else, I would tell them. I was in my final few weeks before I ever made any comments relating to pregnancy and when I gave birth I shared a picture when my baby was christened. I’m just saying if me a nobody can value my privacy I don’t understand how public figures don’t. Fans don’t need to know your whole life. When you let them in too far it’s hard to keep them out later. Nothing wrong with holding the precious and emotional close to home.

@Flourish_today 13 күн бұрын

Peakmill is one private woman on this youtube. No one even knew she was expecting. We saw her baby when she was about 2 years old. Even her marriage was private. In fact, she made a video saying, "i got married and had a baby"😂😂😂. People were shocked because they expected to see a 2 day old baby. The baby was 2 years old.

@Taylor14Tnava Ай бұрын

You do your makeup so fast 😭

@balance0212 Ай бұрын

Hi Sister's ❤ what is the name of the serum please? I have replayed the video multiple times and still cannot catch the name 😂😂

@anitadhm_ Ай бұрын

eclair parfumeries

@theohsospontaneous Ай бұрын

The brand is called cle de peau, if you screenshot the image you should be able to find it on the website :)

@bonsaikitchen 17 күн бұрын

Big love from Bonsai Kitchen team. 🍴🔥🧑‍🍳

@ndoe1200 11 күн бұрын

I havent watched her vlogs since pre covid. At the start of video she mentioned breakup. Did she split up with her husband ?

@cillae8119 10 күн бұрын

The influencer your referring to isn’t the same kind of creator are you tho Pb. She also didn’t share her wedding or her show her home…

@chelsaamie4664 Ай бұрын

Referring to Melissa

@suziesmith9076 12 күн бұрын

Which Melissa?

@JulianAlbino 10 күн бұрын

gorge!

@coreysbaby3691 Ай бұрын

❤❤❤😊😊 it's been a while

@lucindawise5090 Ай бұрын

💯❤️❤️

@JANIQUEism Ай бұрын

cool video

@maxinemuhammad5979 Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿😍😍😍💯💯💯💯👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿well said

@beverlynadom1109 Ай бұрын

She’s from Nigeria😂

@nickojunior2 Ай бұрын

We back after a month 😂

@Jointhebluezonefam 3 күн бұрын

It's obvious that her and her husband are not together because, as a wife myself, i would have hushed the rumor that my husband and i are no longer married. It's a quick come one guy me and Mike are locked in, and we have just decided to no longer document or post marriage on social media.

@cooky75015 5 сағат бұрын

You may actually need some time off social media. It is ok to do it. We tend to forget it as we got acustomed to share everything online. It is indeed important to live in the moment off camera

@katerinapavlou1586 26 күн бұрын

Cute video

@memeeemm Ай бұрын

every time you upload now it’s an ad :(

@adams8830 Ай бұрын

So?

@user-rl8qn1nx5s 24 күн бұрын

She's not her authentic self any more 😊😄

@Natasha_StyleZ 29 күн бұрын

Better Help is so good if you are looking for a therapist, really love using them. Balance is key and sharing things that you are comfortable with 🌸

@egems6088 Ай бұрын

But you made money from the over sharing??? No

@theromadziba Ай бұрын

She said privacy over secrecy.she didn't overshare. She showed parts of her life now and then but she made money from being a youtube sensation and investing in property.

@Nixed_66 Ай бұрын

Live and learn! Yeah she made money back then, but she was younger, the Internet has changed & she has adjusted her boundaries to what keeps her real life healthy & thriving. Oversharing comes at a cost & this info is out there forever. It's kinda like sharing a nude, in the moment it was good, you liked and trusted that person, but when the relationship ends, you might have some regrets, you might not want that person having that personal photo & you can't always control what they do with it.

@oni2278 Ай бұрын

@theromadziba and the "sensation" was due to her "oversharing"

@theromadziba Ай бұрын

@oni2278 you mean shopping has and GRWM and product reviews

@tb22k Ай бұрын

Cover ur self up 😂❤😅

@NennaLena Ай бұрын

Who didn’t we know was pregnant?👀

@juliajulia1835 Ай бұрын

I'm curious to know..

@Penguinpenguin23480 Ай бұрын

Melissa’s wardrobe

@derrickomo8507 Ай бұрын

You talk too much

@ChavonJWright Ай бұрын

It's giving stalker 😮😅

@aaaangeee Ай бұрын

What did you think she was gonna do instead?

@adams8830 Ай бұрын

You complain too much.

@theromadziba Ай бұрын

You commented with this same comment some time ago.chill

@jackiedelvalle Ай бұрын

What else was she gonna do on a vlog? Dance?

@dominique2o06 Ай бұрын

Good to see you even us who watched for years don't feel like we need to know all your business you've given us enough just good to see you focusing on mental and physical at the same time 🤎

@rawkid2345 Ай бұрын

As an old time subbie I can’t lie I miss seeing you and model Mike lol but I definitely understand that the internet is just not the same as before 🩵🩵🩵

@princesstc987 28 күн бұрын

After watching a few episodes about people being stalked...the internet is definitely not the same anymore. There's people out there who get unhealthily obsessed with people they see online and they don't fear the police