"Love has always been a thing I've been auditioning for...it didn't even occur to me that I can love myself." Mm, I felt that.
@tracya.59086 ай бұрын
I love this quote also from bell hooks. It's a nice, concrete definition of what love is. I'm going to use this as a guideline to know whether I'm loving myself. “Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust.”
@CarlenHines6 ай бұрын
Currently rereading this book and I’m still in awe.
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Yeeeeees! Thank you so much for sharing this! We're gonna dive into this definition next. It's so thoughtful and beautiful!!! I'm so excited! 🥰🫂💛🌺
@afrobutterfly6 ай бұрын
30s are freeing
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
The really are! I feel way more like myself than I ever have felt before. It's a blessing 🙌🏾🫶🏾🥰💛
@Mara.Isabelle6 ай бұрын
I haven’t watched this yet but Alecia you’re honestly amazing. I have been on my healing journey for a few years & this the last half of last year I decided I needed to rest, be gentle & give up the struggle life because it was getting me nowhere. since september I have grown so much. I came across your videos & they have helped me A LOT!! you are so gentle, loving & caring & I aspire to have your calm nature. you have helped me & inspired me as someone who was born & raised in to trauma & deciding that it stops with me. I turn 30 this year & I told the universe that if my life is the same then I’m going to end it. life being life of course has been throwing traumatic events at me since the year started but I no longer have the energy to stress about what I can’t control. anyways thank you for your life.
@UniquelyHerz6 ай бұрын
Self love is the best love, no one can love you better than you can love yourself!
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. 🥰💛🌻 I really hope to heal and experience this love with myself. Much love and joy to you!
@UniquelyHerz6 ай бұрын
@@AleciaRenece me too 🫶🏽
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
@@UniquelyHerz 🫂🌻💛🥹
@BastettheGh0st6 ай бұрын
Yessss! I'm so ready for THAT conversation! MANY people have loved me before I loved myself, even when I was looking for love in all the wrong places. A separate conversation for another day 😊
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Yeeeeeeeeeees! We must discuss this. I'm literally still here because of the love of other people. I needed love from others. Self love is important, but we often throw out the community piece. Much love and joy to you! 🫂🌺🌻💛
@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara6 ай бұрын
I’m so happy you mentioned the scripture, because you have a lot of people who operated out of ego and not love
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Yeeees! It's really heartbreaking when people say it's love when it's really pride and ego. It really warps our views and perspectives 🫂💛🌺🌻
@d.elainemiller13754 күн бұрын
I truly enjoy watching your channel, you are an inspiration. I would like to apologize to you for all those people who made you think God's love is based on a conditional love. His love e is unconditional, no matter what. He sees our short comings and loves and shows us grace and mercy. He will never remove His love from us.❤ God's love is full of grace and allows us to grow and become into what He's truly made us/our spirit to be, the true essence of what he created us to be. You are so very worthy of love. D.Elaine ❤🩶🧡🩷❤️🤎💜🩵💙💛💞💕
@shanisays96216 ай бұрын
I’m on this same journey at 34. I learned recently that I talk about self-love but I’m still on the old operating system, that did not love myself. I’m going to talk about that today on my podcast. Thank you for the guidance as I go on this journey to true self-love. It’s long overdue.
@Aladyy6 ай бұрын
This is on time. Im currently grieving from deciding to cut my "family" off. They bread crumb me and talk about me in my face. Only God knows the extent of whats said in my absence 😢 but when I return the energy guess who's the victim? It hurt so much and it's scary in the world we live in to not even be able to count on those we're related to. But they got me so fkked up forreal. Great video
@tgsg8584 ай бұрын
This is so relatable. I think this is the story of many black women.
@jaycarp886 ай бұрын
Thank you, Alecia, for sharing. As a male, I’m learning that I am part logical, practical, and emotional. For me, all three are required for me to be authentically me…always focusing my attention outwardly to others but never focusing inwardly to tend to my emotional needs…lack of self love. Keep inspiring! Godspeed.
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Thank you for offering this and sharing your experience. We appreciate you. This is big to admit and freeing. Much love and joy to you!
@malaikalovee6 ай бұрын
I’m 24 & I swear you gotta be my soul sister. I’ve never heard anyone outside of myself think & feel the way I do ! Not only is this reassuring but it’s affirming of my soul.
@malaikalovee6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this channel
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
@malaikalovee Thank you so much for being here!!! 🥹🫂🥰🌺 I am SO glad that these videos have been helpful! My heart is happy! Much love and joy to you!
@DiannaT6 ай бұрын
Alecia, I really resonate with this message of love from you. I truly didn't see myself as attractive or special or loveable until my 30's and since then, I've learned so much about why I felt and thought about myself the way I did. Keep bringing out the things we need to talk about
@ambry18646 ай бұрын
You touched on so many things, that wow.. def need a moment and hug 🫂 💔 love to me is about consideration, celebration, gentleness, protection, nourishment and reliability/consistency.. i wonder how you all perceive love from god/source/universe if bad things happened to you/the world…it Immediately takes away the protective aspect of love, and a concept i struggle with understanding…esp from a being/thing that is all knowing… it makes me lean more into the ideology of we are all the universe experiencing itself, rather than a being overseeing Anyway though, slient watcher, love your content and you sharing this journey☀️☀️☀️❤️❤️❤️❤️☀️☀️so much love💕
@handdeeabroad6 ай бұрын
Thank you for helping me question my assumptions. My definition of love is evolving over time, I'm 50...
@Thentherewasbim5 ай бұрын
I have also understood my desire to be married was my quest to be worthy, loved and validated. In my thirties, as I prioritised loving the whole of me, my desire to marry dissipated.
@MarilynB-MariLuv6 ай бұрын
Hey hey Love ❤
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Hiiiiiiiii!👋🏾🥰🌺🌻💛
@FullyLovingYourself6 ай бұрын
I’m listening to this video and had to come look at the phone and see if it was ME on the screen 😩🤣 cause the way all of this HIT!!!
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
😂🫂🌻💛🌺 I'm SO glad we're aligned. That brings me joy! Much love to you!!!
@daedae1816 ай бұрын
I'm there with you all. You've given me a new viewpoint on how have I experienced love. It showed me this is why I don't treat myself or love myself.
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
🫂💛
@abimbolaiyun85754 ай бұрын
Thank you A. I resonate with the part around God and love.
@rosina21315 ай бұрын
Your skin is amazing, glowing hunty ❤
@lishas.6909Ай бұрын
Going through this journey as of right now at 37 thank you for this video
@praylovesmoke6 ай бұрын
I haven’t finished watching and I haven’t been watching lately but I have a question. How you do manage your healing journey while in a relationship with someone?
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Oooooooh! This is a good question. 💛💛💛 To be quite honest, I told him that I don't have the capacity to be a good wife right now (whatever that means). i need to focus on myself and mainly myself. I've never had the time and energy to focus only on myself. Thank you so much for asking. 🥰💛🌻
@LiftingUrVeil-LUV3 ай бұрын
Im a 42 year old bkack man thst recently walked away from narcissistic mother and entire family. I had to face ny reality no matter how brutal it was thst my parents did not love me. You dont sbuse someone for their entire life snd and still claim to love them. You can say you love me all day but the question is,do i feel loved
@FullyLovingYourself6 ай бұрын
Grateful to see other women on this journey and being honest and transparent about it. I love this thank you for sharing ❤
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing space! I'm grateful for all the women who encourage and inspire me to continue. Thank you for being kind. Much love and joy to you!
@smiley19586 ай бұрын
Love how you keeping it real...this is a process for me too...blessings
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for hearing my heart. I REALLY appreciate you. And yes! We're in this together 🥰💛🌻
@dynamicdivinereadings65206 ай бұрын
Beautiful. I'm working on loving myself more with action. Going to go take a walk rn 😊
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! I love it!
@iismyalias6 ай бұрын
Enjoy the journey madam. You got this!
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
*BIG HUGS* Thank you so much 🥹🫂💛🌻
@TheGrowthFairy5 ай бұрын
Your transparency is inspiring ✨
@MarilynB-MariLuv6 ай бұрын
Hey hey love ❤❤
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
YAAAAAAAAY! *BIG HUGS*
@ntaolenglebitsa58296 ай бұрын
You’re like the big sister I wish I had
@VoyageHER6 ай бұрын
💙💙💙
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
💛🌻🫂🥰
@whitshenanigans5 ай бұрын
you’re such a beautiful person.
@yourstruly19846 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
💛🌺🌻🥰
@praylovesmoke6 ай бұрын
Oh and I’m about to watch! Lol. I just know from a previous video that you’re in a relationship and I’m just wondering how do you balance a relationship while healing?
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! And no worries! Right now, I'm only focusing on myself right now. 🥰
@nicolecato6346 ай бұрын
My Narcisisstic Mother/NM is an example of the clanging gong. Much of her just truth was only her negative perception. She claimed to love but is the most abusive person I know.
@noble6046 ай бұрын
We will learn to love - to love GOD, love ourselves and others - by The GOD of LOVE and The Word of GOD. To believe bell hooks or M. Scott Peck has the true answer about love while putting down The Word of GOD because of human interpretation is not the way. Yes, Christians (as flawed, sinful human creation) have gotten The Word of GOD VERYwrong throughout the ages. That has nothing to do with The truth of who GOD is. Seek GOD for yourself to know love. Seek GOD in the WORD and in communion with GOD. Don’t minimize Its truth or power or anything found in it “because of people.” The Word of GOD is living and It is THE truth. It is there that you (and I) will find all we need to know about love. There is the answer. Peace and blessings. Love.
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
...I don't understand. I never put down the word of God. I actually used scripture to help define love.... I also believe that God is big enough to handle my questions and confusion. God is not intimidated by my questions. God also gave us people to help put language to love, to care for one another, to teach us. We have God, but we also have teachers, doctors, lawyers... peoplewho God works through. Why couldGodnot work through them...? Does God not work through people? I can love God and criticize God's people. Even if the criticism is about love. I can honestly say that some stories in the Bible do not sound very loving to me. That's just my humble and honest opinion. I'm not going to lie to keep up false appearances... I have a LOT of questions. We often say "that's people, not God", but God works through people. If the people who claim God are generally selfish and harmful, what do you think people will think about God? It seems we're more concerned with the perception of others than that love we have for them. As a Believer, we have FAILED in the love department. Even I can admit that. God's a big God and can handle it. I'm secure in my faith. I also think we become more secure when we ask the questions, when we're honest about where we are. I'm not going to pretend that I agree with something when I don't. I'm not going to pretend that I understand something when I'm confused. 💛 don't you think God wants us to ask these questions so we can get understanding? At some level, it can feel like we're more concerned with protecting our images as Believers that we are with the soul and well being of others...of those we're supposed to serve and love.
@noble6046 ай бұрын
thank you for responding and I appreciate the conversation and your channel. Yes, by all means. Talk to GOD about everything that is on your heart and ask GOD any questions you have about this life. GOF welcomes that. Everyone notable in The Word was unsure of things. There was never a time that people asked and GOD’s reply was “shut up.” GOD’s way was come to Me. I am right here with you ... “come let us reason together.” And yes, people are a surely resource for those who follow Jesus, ..,, if they lead us to Him and not away. HE is Truth and others’ contradictory viewpoints are not. Some things about love and kindness are universal. However, some things about love are very specific to Christ’s teachings. They were not of this world. I would just encourage us (me, I’m speaking to myself first) to have a discerning spirit regarding who we choose to be taught by. If it doesn’t line up with The Word of GOD, it is not truth. Thanks for the converstion and feel free to go on and dissgree if you want to. It’s your channel. You’re the boss here. I am a guest. I carry on at your pace, as far as you like.. peace
@mpricemsw6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video!! 🤎🤎🤎 I'm also revisiting how I have defined love in the past now in my 30s and it can absolutely bring up painful realizations. I really appreciate how you explained why 'brutal' honesty is not loving. I've been told that I'm too sensitive to handle the truth, but this makes PERFECT sense why it never lands - it's honesty minus the care that should be required when you're in relationship with someone. Thank you 🙏🏽🫂✨
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Marissaaaaa! Thank you so very much!!! That's really generous of you. And yeeeeees! I am so glad that we're going back and interrogating and redefining such important things such as love. This is beautiful! And I completely understand the pain of it. 🫂🫂🫂💛💛💛 I am celebrating and am proud of you. And yes!!! It's honesty with the desire to make others small or belittle someone. That's not love at all. If we are in relationship with others, we should care about how THEM as much as the truth.🌺🌺🌺 Thank YOU. 🥰
@teatime.beauty6 ай бұрын
Yaaay ❤❤❤❤ I am loving this video so far 🎉
@AleciaRenece6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for even watching it! 🥰🥹💛 I hope it was helpful.