What "Leaders Eat Last" means

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Leaders eat last.
This one choice, whether a leader puts themselves or their people first, determines if they are worthy of our love and loyalty.
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@Daverobbs 10 жыл бұрын

For a leader to be a true leader, they must be a servant to those that they lead. As a leader if you are not willing to serve, then you are not fit to lead. Great title and a great representation of true leadership.

@eide99 6 жыл бұрын

One of the many things that we learned in military leadership training is that you must be the first to volunteer for what is difficult or unpleasant and last to accept what is good or comfortable. Hence, a good squad leader is the first to volunteer to clean the latrines and last to sit down to eat.

@MrZener11 3 жыл бұрын

True leadership is humility, putting one's wants behind for the team's, sacrificing for a greater and long term cause. Being a leader is not a privilege, its a responsibility whose accountability lies with God.

@Wanted797 7 жыл бұрын

I still remember working in my busy retail store, I had been helping a customer. Desperate to take my break, I asked to person running the floor and discovered no one had gone on their break. I took over running the floor and sent all other staff on their breaks first. Leaving myself last. A staff member told the manager and she pulled me aside and said thank you and that it was very nice and showing leadership. I didn't understand at the time because to me it was a natural reaction my team came first. Now doing leadership I put my team first every single day.

@edwardferron 9 жыл бұрын

"You either are a leader or you're not" One of my favorite quotes and something I have always believed.

@donrien 6 жыл бұрын

MikeKay1978 Yes. Those are the managers who get promoted because they know how to play the game, how to please their own bosses. But those are not the real leaders Simon is talking about.

@gregorydlemon4667 3 жыл бұрын

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@thatguysemperfi171 2 жыл бұрын

I disagree. I think everyone can be taught anything

@nightprancer1282 2 жыл бұрын

True

@edwardferron 2 жыл бұрын

@@thatguysemperfi171 you can be taught on how to be a cow, doesn’t make you a cow. You are just acting on what you have been taught. There are a lot of good actors out there.

@joannesenn7419 7 жыл бұрын

Nice discussion. I can relate to this as my husband will NEVER take food before me. What this says to me is, "I love and care about you and I want you to eat before me." It relays that he will also care for me, if I need him to do so.

@ladybookworms 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I think this inspires and cements a lifelong loyalty to the person/spouse more than anything else ever can.

@FrancesBoreland 10 жыл бұрын

Absolutely agree with this. My father taught me you always feed your animals before yourself.

@vandeljasonstrypper6734 5 жыл бұрын

What a great father you have

@sarahbowen7721 2 жыл бұрын

I was taught to look after my horse; first, then come inside to get warm and dry myself

@j.chetwood9268 5 жыл бұрын

Your book has literally changed my life. I'm 43, have been in a employment funk for several years. Your book reminded me of the lessons I learned in USMC bootcamp. The, take care of your troops and they will take care of the rest, mentality. I am now signing up to get my BS in business management to be the leader your book has inspired me, reminded me I can be. Thank you, sir.

@inazuma234 4 жыл бұрын

Nice story sir

@charincesong 4 жыл бұрын

Who asked

@MrGrenade121 3 жыл бұрын

Charince Song Can you elaborate on your statement

@fakechannel8213 2 жыл бұрын

@@charincesong It's me, I'm the guy who asked.

@charincesong 2 жыл бұрын

@@fakechannel8213 LMFAO why did i say this

@r.t.dominguez1717 4 жыл бұрын

My students love me because of you sir. They said they can see the difference between me and their other professors! They understand empathy and sincerely believe selflessness build strong leadership! They are 15 years ahead of their schoolmates because of what I learn from you! By the way, I am an international architect... and I mentor selected architectural students!❤️ Thank you Simon!

@77webstudio 8 жыл бұрын

Powerful message. Unforgettable visual. Thank you, Simon.

@karenwall4301 7 жыл бұрын

My whole life has been about this. I have been in the military since the moment I was born, and my father before me, and his father before him....... This was taught to me early and to this day, after 23 years in uniform and being retired for 11 years, it still rings true for me. I"m looking forward to reading and watching more of your videos on this!

@jomk5731 4 жыл бұрын

What I also love about the idea of leaders eating last is that its also an abundant mindset, the 'I can afford to have others have their fill first, coz I know that I will get my fair share and I don't need to worry about it, I'll be fine.' Its something I've been practicing in my own little leadership role, and I've built a strong bond with the team.

@northbrooklynmechanical8001 3 жыл бұрын

this content should not be forgotten people need to see this

@NewProProducts 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you Simon for clarity of definition of leadership.

@demarcusfaulkner7411 5 жыл бұрын

This is a powerful message. Leadership is about taking care of your people. Something I can relate to.

@rhondayoung9334 7 жыл бұрын

I grew up in a poor, close-knit, rural family...and I've seen neighbor families where the parents ate before their children...just because they were "the parents...the bosses." The children came second because the parents had to be strong enough to work. In my family, my parents ate last. Even though they, too, needed to be strong enough to do a hard day's work, they believed that, as adults, they could wait and make do with less. Children, when they're hungry, might not understand having to wait...but my parents loved us enough to see to our needs first and felt good about providing for us above themselves. That, in turn, taught *us* to repeat the pattern with our own children.

@jpchavezvega 7 жыл бұрын

Simon.. you are so spiritual thank you.

@parule 7 жыл бұрын

This went far more under my skin than I've expected. Thank you.

@whitcurrie 7 жыл бұрын

As a former US Army soldier, it is our custom to make sure our soldiers eat before any leader does. This helps to foster team building, spirit de corp, and a warrior ethos. We are a family in the military and as such leaders are to teach their "children" how to be better than themselves.

@kirkdarling4120 7 жыл бұрын

Yep, that's what my mentors taught me as I moved up the ranks: Make sure you've gotten your troops their bunks and mess before you deal with your own. I am Air Force. I remember when I first worked with Marines in a joint organization, I was in the morning staff meeting on a Friday before a holiday, and my Marine colonel said to me, "Top, I have a 1300 tee time." I said, "Yes, sir." Okay, the boss was taking the afternoon off. He said, "I can't leave until everyone else is gone first." I said, "Yes, sir." He said, "Top...don't make me miss my tee time." Okay, it took me a moment.

@Pokethuder 9 жыл бұрын

Well said Simon........Leaders = Mother !!

@ShayneCuffy 10 жыл бұрын

Would be amazing to live & work in a world where leaders would think & act this way. When it comes to real life, we can't wait & hope for our leaders to change, will never happen, we must start to think & act this way then others will follow our lead and do the same. Powerful, thank you

@r.harlansmith2442 10 жыл бұрын

No American leaders would do this.

@danielmitev933 8 жыл бұрын

+R. Harlan Smith Simple. They are not leaders. That is why they wont do so.

@KimTollefsen 10 жыл бұрын

I love this idea of being a "Servant Leader"...a leader who leads by supporting, protecting, caring for those who work with/for him/her. What a beautifully symbiotic relationship this could be, between leaders and those whom they lead. And what wonderful, inspired outcomes would unfold should we all take up this practice?

@BrandonBachik 10 жыл бұрын

As an entrepreneur, business owner and boss there is a balance that is needed and Thank u Simon for reminding us to Do unto others as we would want for ourselves.

@arjunchawla3393 6 жыл бұрын

I'm searching all over KZfaq to watch all your videos. You're a big inspiration, keep spreading your vision!

@mbatley 10 жыл бұрын

Why does this resonate with Simon and with us? It is ancient wisdom, tested by time... it is part of the "meta-story" told in the Bible... John 15:13 "There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends." Matthew 20:28 "For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many." It resonates because its the Gospel and we are hard-wired for it to connect to something deep in us.

@ratumelimatanatoto2488 6 жыл бұрын

Yes that is what Jesus said in the gospels.

@gqueiros7097 6 жыл бұрын

True

@kooljde 5 жыл бұрын

M Batley thank you for this

@josuetorresmtz 5 жыл бұрын

Because neither John nor Matthew are here today to remember it to us...

@dreamers_8 5 жыл бұрын

Spiritual connection

@billmiller8695 5 жыл бұрын

Your the best speaker I've come across that enlightens me and helps me reflect upon myself to take corrective actions towards becoming a better leader, a better person. Thank you

@tompaultompaul 10 жыл бұрын

Wouldn't it be wonderful If we can teach this awareness early on in schools. Love your talks. Cheers, tpj

@gloryb-tv 7 жыл бұрын

Good stuff! I just wrote an article today about favoritism in the workplace - what it is, how it harms, and how essentially it is a problem with leadership. I'm going to have to graze my mind around the idea of "you're a leader" or "you're not a leader" instead of "good leader" or "great leader". Just because a person has the title doesn't mean they're doing it. ~Glory B.

@bowtechlover1 6 жыл бұрын

Hi Glory B, I have to say I'm a fan of Simon Sinek. He's one of my favorite leaders in the speaker industry. The reason I say this is because he speaks of the empathetic manager vs. your more traditional manager that doesn't care about their employees. This leads me to your comment here about favoritism in the workplace. I see it quite often in the work I'm in daily. And I I have to truly say, it brings morale way down. I work in a highly team-oriented workplace and when you witness the lack of management and repercussions for unfavorable behavior, you cannot help but to be jaded and feel slighted. I can go on and on, but what do you do when the practice manager is literally best friends with your bully of the practice and building??? You see the inequalities in plain sight, yet nothing was done or can be done. I'd really like to read your article. Trust me, I'm a leader and good one. I'm not a definite alpha personality. I can follow orders as well as give them and people are willing to work very hard for me because they know I will always "Eat Last"!!! Thank you in advance for your comment and article.- Raymon

@HowardKline 10 жыл бұрын

OMG. There is so much that I want to say about this clip that I am about to burst. Started watching it and didn't realize it was Simon Sinek speaking. His book, Start with the Why started my most recent inspirational journey about 4 months ago. The poetry of "Leaders Eat Last" in relationship to his "Start with Why" has not escaped me. He helps me define and better understand the path that I was already on. My radio show and soon to be streaming TV show delivers the conversation in that interruptable, conversational style that he describes in the naming of his new book. He describes the process much better than I have and explains my drive to incorporate what we are doing in the visual live streaming process. Simon is pure genius.

@soukainaammari834 10 жыл бұрын

Forget about those telling you that leadership is being first, the point is not even to be good or bad leaders, leadership is caring for others first and there is no best example than the story of a mother caring for her child.... Wonderful ! :)

@avcotter 9 жыл бұрын

This is such an impactful story and observation. The visual of the mother and child will stay in my mind as I think about "Leaders Eat Last".

@avcotter 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you Roy Lee

@avcotter 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you Joselito Pascual!

@joharifrontline2680 7 жыл бұрын

"It's my turn to eat." is the prevailing mindset among our leaders here, unfortunately. And the people continue to suffer when there's more than enough for everyone. I look forward to the day you'll hold a talk here Simon. We need to hear more of this ...wisdom. - With love from Kenya.

@JackSchoenberger 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you Simon. This was ingrained in me during my military career and I think you will find it innate in any military veteran you run into. Another reason veterans make great employees. Make your next hire a veteran. You will thank yourself.

@sugahplum3010 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you so so so much for sharing your profound knowledge Simon! I have learned so much from you over the last year and we are now using your presentation in our church leadership group.

@chadschiel211 10 жыл бұрын

I was in the Marines and served in Iraq. What Simon is talking about is true, but its even deeper than what he describes. The first to eat is the youngest and most junior Marines, Privates, then the PFC's (Private First Class) and Lance Corporals. After Junior Marines have eaten, the Non-Commissioned Officers eat, Corporals, Sergeants, then the Staff NCO's. Then the Officers starting with the most junior and working up to the most senior. In other words, all leaders eat last, not just the final leader.

@reabetswetlhokoe6895 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this book Simon. It really inspired me

@casimirodasilvasantoshe-hi5797 4 жыл бұрын

Everybody said everything, I just say Thank you!

@abelectronics9031 7 жыл бұрын

I like your talks, they always make me inspired and welling to inspire others, just continue

@dreamers_8 5 жыл бұрын

One of my favorite books.

@kris_keishaboyd7163 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Simon, this was excellent. I'm forwarding this on so others may benefit.

@SimonSinek 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing to inspire others!

@BartSpence 10 жыл бұрын

I have lead many leadership workshops and have included Simon's Start With Why concept in many of them. I recently read Leaders Eat Last and am anxious to include several of Simon's amazing perspectives in my workshops scheduled for this year. Circle of Safety...so simple and yet such genius! Well done my friend.

@zofiakopestynska144 5 жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more with you, Mr Sinek.

@victorkiman4151 6 жыл бұрын

You are a leader or you are not. Great message.

@DiliaMarques 2 жыл бұрын

Everyone should listen to this and understand the difference between a leader and a manager. Sometimes I meet some administrators in many different "suits", not so many leaders... most of them eat first and most of them almost everything. The leaders protect their teams, the company, give the exemple with their own behaviour, leading the way to the future. They should eat last just like a captain does when he's the last to leave the ship. Idealiter every day and not just in extreme situations, of course.

@JennyAtPiratforlaget 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!

@joanbrigid6987 3 жыл бұрын

82 people who disliked this video are leaders who like to eat first! Thank you for this excellent video, this will stick with me

@astersenbeta5893 7 жыл бұрын

“When there is danger, it is not protecting myself but rather willing to put myself in a harm’s way to protect another. That is what eating last means.” Wow!

@Grond605 3 жыл бұрын

True point about leaders today, I work in retail and we all know how that is!! Unfortunately the Leaders in retail most of them today are focused On bonuses and Christmas vacations And summer holiday. If something like you said were to happen they would only say, hey could you jump in front of that guy before he gets shot, I’m really busy making schedules!!!!

@danielfoong6554 5 жыл бұрын

Very inspiring. Though this kind of leader is hard to come by in corporate. In reality, some " leader" follows mantra " I eat first, I die last". Self survival comes first...

@mohamedmusamohamed642 8 жыл бұрын

Great and truly inspirational !

@msanningen9888 8 жыл бұрын

I love Simon Sinek.. he is amazing!!!

@GT95_302 2 жыл бұрын

Don’t know if it’s true of all military officers, but my 2nd Lieutenant in Iraq mentioned that he spent his first 2 years as an Officer on something called General Duty. Basically he was that General’s “go-get-this”. So, he absolutely understood what it meant to follow and lead.

@saivadhan3063 8 жыл бұрын

now am going to buy the book

@mainagakere7305 Жыл бұрын

I got chills when he mentioned the terror attack at Westgate Mall at our country Kenya

@BlitzTCG Жыл бұрын

Still great advice in 2022 for any aspiring entrepreneur.

@sarabailey-la2022 Ай бұрын

Worked many jobs and never had a leader had my back !! That’s why I have my own business !! God is good 👍

@MrSainteman 10 жыл бұрын

great book!

@deadpoolamerica1791 7 жыл бұрын

It has been a few months since i have seen this clip ..... this makes me really sad ( though the clip is fabulous, inspiring and spot on ...luv it ) .... Instinctively ...throw themselves and not eat for their friend... didn't know the Y then... Makes me want to fall into {5 sec of summer - amnesia song... } Keep Inspiring On Simon- You are touching all corners of the world :) Wonderful

@rifkisaputra4111 Жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing sir

@lovedesarmes936 5 жыл бұрын

Simon Sinek for President!

@BENDERKB 3 жыл бұрын

Lets do this!

@zakariabikfiss4571 6 жыл бұрын

OMG... That's amazing

@garaughty 5 жыл бұрын

Absofreekinlutely ! Love your insights...

@nilloc93 6 жыл бұрын

Canadian army does the same thing, It's always a bit inspiring when your commander makes sure everyone else is fed before he eats.

@bestprimal9790 3 жыл бұрын

To sum this up: SACRIFICE is REAL LEADERSHIP.

@katetreais65 3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant

@ruthiebrewer131 2 жыл бұрын

I really like listening to you give good advice I'm struggling with the job I have a part of me wants to stay and then a part of me wants to go it's just not enough money to stay times are hard our Director won't let us get overtime and I'm willing to take a job that I'm not really happy about taking but it's more money and I get all the overtime I need

@johndemello8802 10 жыл бұрын

You Damm right!!!!!

@davemeansbusiness 10 жыл бұрын

as a former Marine, now in business, I want to thank you for all that you have done and all that you continue to do. I believe the same as you, and I will continue to help business find their why!@daveburlin

@hrmentoring8516 6 жыл бұрын

good visuals.

@zacstrampolineflips842 3 жыл бұрын

I am going for house captain and this inspires me. I now know what to right in my note to my principal

@marleendekock7581 8 жыл бұрын

So true

@ruthsalta9897 6 жыл бұрын

True...

@MartinHatchuel 10 жыл бұрын

This explains why South Africa's Zuma is so reviled, and why Mandela so loved.

@TheBabyfacekiller23 7 жыл бұрын

When you mentioned that it feels much better to hear a compliment/feedback than receiving it in an email. My boss complimented my work by sharing it via group email with my colleague, her colleague and her boss, and the feeling is stronger. but when I was recognized by her in front of all the same people who were in the group email, the feeling was even bigger and stronger. Do you think the size of the audience increases the feeling?

@mamaluvsherbabes 6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, Simon! And sadly, I think more mothers take on the leadership role than men. I don't think men behave like men these days. Regrettably, due to my husband's lackadaisical attitude toward the real things that matter in this life, I am more of a "man" in my home than my husband is. I've learned that, regardless of the necessity, we cannot motivate someone who does not desire to motivate him/herself.

@janapalcek9191 5 жыл бұрын

If there was a visual definition of vulnerability one could use your expression as a demonstration. In a sense that true purpose simply makes you bulletproof..

@newday8052 2 жыл бұрын

My English is so bad, but I understand your idea through the attached photo

@stclark98 7 жыл бұрын

What I recall as a child was "dig in or your not going to get anything" and your portion size was inversely proportional to your distance from the "dinner bell". :)

@silverfox2358 7 жыл бұрын

So how do we fix the UK and USA simon what do we do make the CEO's stand in the back of the diner que?

@lauraguerrero6760 4 жыл бұрын

Me encantaría que estubiera subtitulado

@dingerbell100 3 ай бұрын

😂 it means exactly what it fucken means. LEAD…by example…my horses, my people…my weapons…myself. Tart it up into modern doublespeak as much as you wish. It’s as old as time. The picture from Nairobi you should have mentioned was that of the “Blade” geared up moving in to confront whatever was infront of him. No immediate thought of harm or danger to himself…or thoughts about the consequences to his family or loved ones at home. THAT IS LEADERSHIP & courage.

@wclark3196 2 жыл бұрын

I wonder what Sinek's take is on that idea of face-to-face now. I agree that you need back-and-forth interaction to hash things out, but with various instant messaging tools, conference calls, video calls, and goodwill, we get a lot done in our team.

@Sippin777 4 жыл бұрын

I wish he would of named it “Leaders make sure others are taken care of first”. I know people who do that literally and are the most self prioritizing jerks on earth. I always make sure there is more than enough for everyone but don’t wait for those how don’t appreciate a hot meal that someone worked hard on. There is nothing honorable about someone running their gums until hot food is cold. If you want to make sure everyone is taken care of literally...buy and make all the food and accoutrements necessary! Kids✅,people that need assistance getting and feeding themselves✅, adults with out manners... No✅ Literally

@sabinefafa3260 5 жыл бұрын

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@kennethworde862 6 жыл бұрын

You have missed part of the point? Leaders also serve the food to the troops! Many times troops don't see thier higher leadership, also if it's bad chow or not enough leaders will now see condition of troops, the chow, and if there isn't enough they also go hungry. One of easiest ways to know if your soldiers care about you is if you miss chow? Did they save you something? I offer you this to expand you understand understanding, it happens mainly with ground combat troops, but the concept applies to all, however the tradition in the Navy is officers have a separate mess! They conduct business there, just different! Eye opening the first time Army Combat Arms/Command/Operation officers encounters!

@dr.ebubekirorsun9288 4 жыл бұрын

Someone (pbuh) once said “the real leader of a community is the servant of the community.”

@KingJames-nj4pe 6 жыл бұрын

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@victorlarie8359 6 жыл бұрын

Why it happens that the team you are protecting doesn't follow you in action, doesn't perform? This should go both ways...

@johndemello8802 10 жыл бұрын

The US army is doing this since 14 June 1775. Amazing !!!!

@ZEDKhalid 5 жыл бұрын

30-40 minutes for title? Thank God someone admits you brainstorm these things. Titles and slogans can sometimes pop up in your mind but you cant rely on it.

@warhorse65 6 жыл бұрын

I recently listened to "First Ask Why," and am now listening to "Sapiens," by Yuval Noah Harari. Are you two acquainted? If not, you need to be. Mounds and mounds of objective critical thinking.

@justsrikar 6 жыл бұрын

To Extend recently I heard that - this is the same reason for our obesity. Watching TV and eating is producing different chemical what you watch - instead of chemical for what you eat. Ex: Eating sweet watching Horror Movie will give you Cortisol instead of Insulin. leaves more glucose to body...

@kkfong8767 6 жыл бұрын

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@mariefitzpatrick4508 8 жыл бұрын

That's a camp rule as well. Counsellors at a non profit camp....counsellors aways eat last..... the camp kids get the very best first.... in every way. If it's raining, the counsellors take the leaky tent. If it's muddy, the counsellor sleep on the worst ground. It's pretty simple...

@suicidemayhem 8 жыл бұрын

+Marie Fitzpatrick reminds me of louis ck when he told his daughter to only look into your neighbors bowl to see if they have enough.

@hasanbasha7681 3 жыл бұрын

Such a big lecturer for simple tittle.

@monidipamukherjee4649 6 жыл бұрын

When you are going to come to India? Let us know!

@donaldmccombs5566 6 жыл бұрын

The Army is the same way, leaders always eat last. You must take care of your men Officer or NCO. They must trust that you will lay down your life for them, and you have to be willing to die for them.

@georgebisharam9158 10 жыл бұрын

Totally agree. I think it is Christian concept.

@catiatavares7757 3 жыл бұрын

Well you can say Jesus was a leader in His own way. But i think this is biologically imprinted in us from the early ages ;)

@JanB1605 5 жыл бұрын

BUT as a leader you can't throw yourself in front of your subordinates every time. And you also shouldn't. Sometimes you can't safe someone and it's more important for the greater good, that the leader lives on. Even if that means that you can't safe your subordinates. Because you are the one who leads, and who will lead you men when you're not there anymore? A Hero-Complex cam be dangerous. A Firefighter can sometimes not safe his subordinates, because it would be too dangerous and he could die. And sometimes you can't safe everyone as a firefighter. I hope you got my point there.

@wclark3196 2 жыл бұрын

I get the point. If you're looking for loopholes, you're not a leader.