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@mothratemporalradio5172 жыл бұрын
TED person, hi there! i had several of my comments go missing which i think began in one of these threads. i have subsequently been repeatedly unable to respond to a gent who replied to me. The nature of my comment was in no way offensive. i have never tried this with a channel before, especially a great big one, but could i please alert you to the issue and ask whether you might try checking your spam folder for this video for comments of mine? i accept the exchange in that thread os paralysed, but it's disturbing to have this happen when doing nothing wrong, and I'm sure it's not you. After my comments disappeared here, they went on to vanish elsewhere for a spell. i can't tell if it's over yet or what caused it, but if you have any opportunity to have a look-see, I'd be very grateful. Especially given the substance of the topic.
@user-ij7tj8jc8r2 жыл бұрын
I've noticed that my goal is make something out of friendship, learn something new and grow up. So when friendship ends I never feel myself dissapointment or sad because I know that I got new good memories and lessons, I'll keep them through my life to the end. I just want to say thanks to every friend I ever had, I'll never forget you, no matter how we ended up
@cassidymudd13942 жыл бұрын
I really enjoy this TedTalk format. Short, but stuffed full of content.
@TED2 жыл бұрын
Glad you like it! Have you watched any other TED original series like The Way We Work, Body Stuff with Dr. Jen Gunther or Sleeping With Science?
@h.l.malazan57822 жыл бұрын
Yeah, take it in, woman. Build that social network. The world is burning down, but let's find you that person to talk about it. SMH.
@asar22522 жыл бұрын
Making friends after you grow up is as hard as it gets. 🙂 It's just never the same.
@nosebleedpuddle2 жыл бұрын
The trick is never to grow up.
@agolooritte30572 жыл бұрын
@@nosebleedpuddle accurate accurate
@asar22522 жыл бұрын
@@nosebleedpuddle Stay kid at heart.
@sandyly26872 жыл бұрын
Agree! 😶
@DemetriPanici2 жыл бұрын
I personally think it's a mixture of proximity and how much you have in common with the person. Those two things eventually lead to true love and care for another person.
@billymitchell1582 жыл бұрын
30 good friends? am i crazy like that's a lot.
@Ilovebaboon20012 жыл бұрын
Nah you not! I got 2 💀
@DemetriPanici2 жыл бұрын
*“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius*
@tetrar17902 жыл бұрын
Here
@mothratemporalradio5172 жыл бұрын
Another thought is that as explained, these practicalities of responsibility limiting time, privacy and energy as one increases in age don't only affect women, but i would actually be interested to consider whether men's connections might remain somewhat more sustainable over time for the following reason. Women are conditioned to bond over long conversations revolving around personal relationships; but men are conditioned to bond with each other over action, engaging in activity first, with talk together coming on the heels of the action as a secondary action. i think that these personal exchanges about relationships and feelings are much harder to sustain when periods of long absence intervene. By comparison, if you're doing an action packed activity together, the onus is removed from focussing on shared expression of experience, instead you're creating a new experience. Increasingly i wonder if that's a very pragmatic approach when there's disruptions to the maintenance of a bond. On the other hand, the rates of men's suicides are always much higher, and i likewise often wonder whether that too relates to the tendency to not really talk about feelings in terms of masculine conditioning. i know men and women can be friends too, it's just interesting to consider the role gender or gender conditioning might play, for better or worse, in maintaining connections.
@louisyoung19162 жыл бұрын
@@mothratemporalradio517 A thoughtful comment on the Internet? That can't be. Where am I? 🙂 You make a good point about gender-related contrasts in this area. I wouldn't be surprised if somebody actually does a study on the differences between how male and female friendships weathered the pandemic. 🙂
@louisyoung19162 жыл бұрын
@@mothratemporalradio517 Aren't computers wonderful? 🙄 I only see one comment from you about this; in fact, I only know you replied to mine because my g-mail notified me. I can see the reply in my mailbox, but I can't actually see it here (under the video). Regardless, what I *can* see of your posts matches with other things I've read, and I agree it's an interesting question. Specifically I wonder if men's connections might take place more in work settings and so might have continued with less interruption from the pandemic, since at least some workplaces were unable to shut down completely. Whereas women's connections might be more dependent on social settings, and simply "meeting at the coffee house" was just about impossible for a long time. 🤔 Disclaimer: Just a theory, and there are exceptions to every rule, of course. 🙂 Thanks for the (invisible) reply. Have a great day! 🙂
@KWifler2 жыл бұрын
If only the belief that you are a good person were enough to make it so. Sadly, such a belief often goes contrary to the truth of oneself. And the desire to think such is a sign of one's inability to measure up to one's own expectations.
@samikirk052 жыл бұрын
I have 3 very good friends. I have known 2 of them for over 50 years, one for 45 years. Quality over quantity seems to be my motto. *Friends* are people who build a space in your heart and stay there, regardless of where life takes us. Then there are friendly *aquaintances* ... the "social" friends you have a coffee with, "solve world problems" with, have a laugh, exchange small favours, etc. The long term friends are treasures who seem to appear out of nowhere. The others come & go. If they or I move away, they vow to stay in touch, and most do. For a while. Don't get me wrong. ... I like people. I enjoy their company. But if asked to choose, it would be a no brainer.
@Frozan2 жыл бұрын
Her mom is so smart, should have been invited Friendships🍀
@trangle15062 жыл бұрын
there are some friends that we don't text or meet frequently, or even once a year but when we meet, we still feel full of friendship.
@user-no5us3ni6g Жыл бұрын
2:15 2:39 2:56
@Haji842 жыл бұрын
I don't have friends to lose anyways
@agolooritte30572 жыл бұрын
And then the narrator's obnoxiously sparkling sharps will break into draining blood cuts, the flower red, the one beaten up in the cold wind, which s actually stunning your statue. Don t break your statue, someone is gonna visit it. And yet the shot capture will course your eye ill, like the cam's breaking legs, on the computer's narrator, the statue. But in fact it s Narrator's computer. So, charge your RAM (Roger Ain't Make) and GPU (Gorgeous provides utility)
@Laylayrose12 жыл бұрын
@@agolooritte3057 wtf does this have to do with anything
@agolooritte30572 жыл бұрын
@@Laylayrose1 what's the common sense of wood and stone? That s aye, axe. Eventho they can t stick just like that. But even if you try to stick the stone and then try to create other axes, there's still one stone or wood who ll crack, or a lumberjack killed by a falling tree
@jckkkkkk47312 жыл бұрын
I'm extremely happy with my three pals because even when we meet at least once every three months, our friendship remains as strong as ever T____T
@lanfour44442 жыл бұрын
Who else has friends but no close friends? 🙋♂️
@freedom92402 жыл бұрын
There’s no way you can have 20+ friends, acquaintances? Yes
@anjanaa89sa2 жыл бұрын
It is easily possible if you grew up in an over populous nation ;)
@prasundas65582 жыл бұрын
@@anjanaa89sa still not real friends just casual friend u can have that number
@toni47292 жыл бұрын
Memory helps keep freinds. If your memory is genuinely bad you will lose them.
@mothratemporalradio5172 жыл бұрын
interesting comment. That said, i will say my mum has a shocking memory and recently lost a lifelong friend she always kept up with even tho she lived in a different country for ages. But, i still think i can understand where you are coming from in terms of personal connection.
@toni47292 жыл бұрын
@@mothratemporalradio517 Yes, I live in Australia and moved from one State to another. Now I don't even know my brother's or my daughter's addresses. I recently rang my daughter and asked her if she knew where my brother lives. She didn't. I don't even know if he's still alive. I haven't seen him for years. It's not as if we fell out, we just lost touch.
@mothratemporalradio5172 жыл бұрын
@@toni4729 greetz fellow Aussie. Our great Southern land has its pros and cons concerning massive distances. How many whole European countries would fit inside of NSW? There may be some ways to try and track down your brother and get in touch again which I'd definitely encourage you to do! I'd be more than happy to try and help and maybe some other people will have some good ideas too. At least you will know his full name unless he changed it. That's a start! I'm guessing your parents are no longer alive, would that be right?
@KWifler2 жыл бұрын
Also, depression can cause memory problems. Also I saw some studies that showed that socializing a lot can improve memory and cognitive function, so it may go both ways. I'm not even social. To me, friends are people I'm not afraid of. I'm always on guard that someone will mess with me. People can be such pesky monkeys.
@dorkwell2 жыл бұрын
Great little video, but 20-30 good friends? I feel like if you put trust in that many people you are delusional.
@bellyyi24652 жыл бұрын
When it comes to friends, it's quality over quantity.
@mothratemporalradio5172 жыл бұрын
Great and timely subject.
@ronalddancaliva8832 жыл бұрын
You don't need to have lots of friends sometimes friendship vary when it gets to the point that you don't get to hang out as often as you used to.. Sometimes when it comes to your gestures, beliefs, friendship gets ruined all you have to do is to filter the good ones from the synthetics
@nuchar2 жыл бұрын
Your mum is a genius
@lilactreehouse2 жыл бұрын
Love that puppet!
@kforest274510 ай бұрын
Some people have what it takes to be trustworthy, that’s actual worth
@despairia2 жыл бұрын
Ahahaha... *stares at the empty void*
@motivationbaychannel68912 жыл бұрын
It's absurd how most people wake up in the morning just wondering without a specific goal or purpose to go for. We all came from somewhere and we're all going somewhere. The architect of the universe didn't build a staircase leading nowhere.
@zozanaktimur60922 жыл бұрын
yes yes yes.
@IAmTurbogfx2 жыл бұрын
No. The universe does not care about your goals, where you came from, or where you are going. Also: it's just as absurd to have a purpose or goal as it is to have none. Why would it be a shame to just live for the sake of it. In the end, what else is there really, that you're certain about? Your creator (whomever it may be), put you here, just because they could.
@elmawatson1913 Жыл бұрын
I am one of those people who give space to my friends if they want to make friendships with other people. and I lost connection with my friend. but I think, by doing that other people will have the opportunity to make friends, because I'm one of those people who easily make friends with anyone. This video made me realize how important it is to keep the connection unbroken.
@duarteassuncao2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for that explanation!! It opened my eyes and changed my way of thinking about friends!!
@alyahhodijah9250 Жыл бұрын
Great! Very fun explanation! I also think that friendship is something important, because it must be really nice for someone to support and share stories with each other. I also have close friends who haven't seen each other for a long time, fortunately we still like to communicate online because we are now far away, wanting to play together is also difficult because we are both busy with each other's business! For all of you who can still enjoy time with friends, have a good time!
@Ilovebaboon20012 жыл бұрын
“20-30 friends” me with 2 friends 💀💀💀
@KWifler2 жыл бұрын
The only way I could ever get anyone to like me was if we were all forced to be in the same room together for some amount of time. I always had a fear of strangers, anxiety disorder, bad immune system, no energy, no social interests, weird humor... and now I am not forced to be around people anymore. I'm even considering getting my meals shipped to my home. I'd like to have a partner, but unless someone barges into my home and squats there, I really doubt I'm ever going to make another friend for the rest of my life.
@philipdamask22792 жыл бұрын
Multiple moving is a major problem for sustaining friendships. Friendships rewuire helping each other out.
@no_rj18912 жыл бұрын
I am in friendship wiyh my 9 yers elder villager who guided me in choosing career.
@sakshi83022 жыл бұрын
Will ted like my comment? Btw i have had a friend for 36 years.she and i love to hang out together,we literally always helped each other from high school break up recoveries to the financial helps.
@silvermica2 жыл бұрын
I’m an engineer who lives in Silicon Valley and desperately seeks companionship - but, I have no family, no friends & no love. If I were to disappear tomorrow - no one but the bill collectors and my employer would notice. I will die alone. No one will miss me. It’s a sad fact. :(
@FedJimSmith2 жыл бұрын
you buy companionship there with your salary, go to a bar or somewhere similar
@arantxaurrutia02 жыл бұрын
I love Mona, since I was born in Bassano del Grappa.
@GordonPavilion2 жыл бұрын
I maintain that quantity time is essential for (meaningful) quality time to occur
@InvestigationTV0092 жыл бұрын
All dreamers out there keep going this is temporary situation it will pass your success will come be patient never give up just keep moving forward no matter what ✊ ✊ 💪 let's motivate me😒
@KWifler2 жыл бұрын
Except, the opportunity for outbreaks is partly dependent on the pool of interacting hosts. Since the host pool is global and growing, that means that outbreaks should theoretically occur more frequently forever until they become constant as the size of the host pool increases.
@tabularasa2 жыл бұрын
Who has "20 or 30 good friends" at *any* time? That's not even realistic for a popular schoolchild! This script is dishonest.
@aleesp82822 жыл бұрын
I only have about 5 friends and we don’t talk all the time because everyone has their own life. I probably talk to them once a month and see them maybe once every 3 months to once a year 😂
@IELTSExpert12 жыл бұрын
this is a great channel to broaden my ielts knowedge , I hope that you all will get BAND 9 IN IELTS SPEAKING TEST
@farangizaktamxonova36448 ай бұрын
Moving several times Lack of opp. to hang on_dissolving of friendship Half of friends over 7years Go out_knoking doors Difficult times_demonstrate who is caring
@nafeesmuktadir31992 жыл бұрын
So what about when we meet a person we sometimes immidietly know he/she will be my friend
@_klee7469 Жыл бұрын
I'm at 0 friend right now, since graduating college 13 years ago then at work with constant change of personnel then being on a nightshift couple of years ago
@jeraldbaxter3532 Жыл бұрын
Twenty or thirty GOOD friends?! Perhaps my idea of what makes a good friend is why I have very few friends.
@TrueCrimeQueen2 жыл бұрын
Amazing 💖💖💖
@superstar0821002 жыл бұрын
great video that came to me at a perfect time!
@user-lv4dh1pt6m2 жыл бұрын
Nice topic!
@yume6932 жыл бұрын
I guess when you make tedtalks from home you can be as creative as you want
@Abell_lledA2 жыл бұрын
One is caught up playing the impassioned protagonist in one’s Subjective Narrative of Self🎈
@beverleyhirst93802 жыл бұрын
I’ve been listening to your Ted talk on Spotify and I’m far from average. At my first school I had 1 friend, she had a friend, so I shall count her as a half friend. When I went high school my friend became a half friend and I gained a new friend, that’s it. When we were 21 my first friend died in an accident and I didn’t make another friend, except my ex-husband, until I was 30, but that friend now lives in Luxembourg and I do not. These days I don’t have a true go to for anything friend but I know people but I’m not sure they would turn up at 3am if I needed them - except for one of my sisters but we now live a 100 miles a part. I’ve never had loads of friends I’m happy with 1 but not having 1 means life is lonely. I’m 58, does it change with age?
@IKEMENOsakaman2 жыл бұрын
Hmm I make friends quite easily. I don't know why.
@Simonsays72582 жыл бұрын
Mom is right.
@coldmir12582 жыл бұрын
20 or 30?? i barely have one...
@PlaylistLovingLover2 жыл бұрын
i made my now best friend in 5 minutes-
@jacktaipen20772 жыл бұрын
20 or 30 friends, spending minimum 60 hrs with each, damn , must be nice
@Mibs-Mibby2 жыл бұрын
That sounds exhausting lol
@jl-dq5ch8 ай бұрын
20 to 30 friends!? No wonder you're having trouble keeping up ...meanwhile I'm over here struggling to find a second friend
@acasualdatascientist542 жыл бұрын
@senuauwu2 жыл бұрын
WELL 1 year and a half and all my friendships have disappered I dont have friends. Thanks covid
@sarma31052 жыл бұрын
make more videos whit her please💓
@yume6932 жыл бұрын
Well I hardly make 2 friends every two years and loose 10 friends that I don't even have
@fynii24602 жыл бұрын
Talk and Ideas are Cheap. Execution and Implementation are Expensive.
@thefoodtubeprincess7 ай бұрын
I DISAGREE WITH BECOMING FRIENDS ONLY WITH THOSE WHO HAVE THINGS IN COMMON WITH U?? WHY NOT LOVE 💕 PPL FOR WHO THEY ARE IF THEY ARE NOT ABUSING YOU? Weird and all! WE NEED ONE ANOTHER ❤❤❤❤❤❤I WANT FRIENDS!!!!
@mrnarason2 жыл бұрын
No friends
@bornwithoutconsentobviously2 жыл бұрын
I have like two or three friends. Sort of. Damn.
@trevorjennings7212 жыл бұрын
Hello 👋
@bornwithoutconsentobviously2 жыл бұрын
@@trevorjennings721 Hi.
@trevorjennings7212 жыл бұрын
@@bornwithoutconsentobviously how are you doing today,hope you’re fine and safe from the COVID19 virus??
@bornwithoutconsentobviously2 жыл бұрын
@@trevorjennings721 I'm not doing too well but thanks for asking. Hope you're doing okay.
@trevorjennings7212 жыл бұрын
@@bornwithoutconsentobviously well dear I’m fine😊.hope your taking medication??
@user-wc4mx1in7k8 ай бұрын
How Can WE make happuless
@tarekz99922 жыл бұрын
I literally have no friends. I have lots of family but no one gets together anymore. I try to get us together but it never happens. Sad really and not sure how to change that
@iaprawitasari3028 Жыл бұрын
Hope you Will find your bestfriend
@thefoodtubeprincess7 ай бұрын
Same!!!!!!😢
@sielthesnail56282 жыл бұрын
Who has 20 or 30 friends?
@shitmusic81172 жыл бұрын
20 to 30 friends... impossible
@kirillline47582 жыл бұрын
Rose Kaplan forever !!!!
@FaiGal2 жыл бұрын
I lost all of my friends in less than 7 years…
@thesudaneseprince96752 жыл бұрын
@@Dimitris_Half I think it's a better idea to ask why they lost their friends rather than to judge without further information. There are reasons a person might lose their friends due to no fault of their own. Do you agree?
@kellycumpson74652 жыл бұрын
Dont listen to that other person, i had to reatart a few years ago too and its hard. Keep your heart open and join some clubs with things you like. Its easy to find your people if you have a passion to share.
@asar22522 жыл бұрын
Or you could try Sheldon Cooper's method.
@lilactreehouse2 жыл бұрын
What is his method?
@asar22522 жыл бұрын
@@lilactreehouse search it on KZfaq.
@lmperfection2 жыл бұрын
20 to 30 good friends?! HAHAHAHAHA is that NORMAL? I have no good friends, and 5 coworker friends.
@ChildofGod987652 жыл бұрын
I was fired from my job for not getting the vaccine. I’m a single mother with two boys. I’m struggling desperately to provide for them. I’ve been out of work for over a month. I’m so ashamed of my situation. I have no family nor friends to help me. But I KNOW GOD WILL PROVIDE! Thank you Jesus!
@_Everyone__2 жыл бұрын
Wake up! There is no God or Jesus, get the damn Vaccine you fool!! Religion were invented to control the masses, long before people knew anything real about the world, you are all sheep's being manipulated, read a book!
@pamelah12202 жыл бұрын
You let yourself get fired when you've got mouths to feed?
@avigailrose14732 жыл бұрын
I see that you have a lot of multi cultural faces on the Guess Who board... You forgot to add someone wearing a kippah.
@timoonn2 жыл бұрын
respect french chips ok
@gabyr.15612 жыл бұрын
Aaand when you got too many guy friends who are just looking for "with benefits" and could turn into romance...
@AmyFerguson Жыл бұрын
Make puppet stand ins normal!
@meganhoward88202 жыл бұрын
Sims social math IRL
@trevorjennings7212 жыл бұрын
Hi 👋
@Enkeria2 жыл бұрын
Try not to move so much..?
@areluna83922 жыл бұрын
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@TravisL.Desmadreson2 жыл бұрын
A whole lot of nothing! TED, do better.
@_Everyone__2 жыл бұрын
Lol 20 or 30 good friends? yep just go on and fool yourself believing that. Clearly shouldn't be speaking of the subject at all. Do they pick random people from the street making these videos?
@CourtneyCoulson2 жыл бұрын
Geez, TED has really gone downhill.
@vectoragaming17452 жыл бұрын
No.9 comment
@vectoragaming17452 жыл бұрын
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@olgaShmolga2 жыл бұрын
Meh, funny video, but very little "brain" value. Just some common knowledge.
@kilo59272 жыл бұрын
These Ted talks are always so pretentious
@jackvoss1752 жыл бұрын
Umm, if they disappoint you, maybe you should watch something else? I don’t watch them if the subject or delivery doesn’t interest me. From the For What It’s Worth Department
@kilo59272 жыл бұрын
@@jackvoss175 good thing I don’t then.
@jackvoss1752 жыл бұрын
@@kilo5927 G’day, Kilo. I agree. I hadn’t thought of the descriptor “pretentious” for the TED talks. But, I did think of the words “eroding”, “weakening”, “running down” (as in a clock that’s slowing down because it needs to be rewound). Previously, I could count an listening to someone who was well versed in the subject. Lately, it’s getting to be, “Here’s my opinion about …”. I can get opinions at the coffee shop, barbershop, etc. Cheers, and my best to you. Courtesy of Half Vast Flying
@Nihilist_Porcupine2 жыл бұрын
@@kilo5927 Lol so you go around commenting on videos you don't watch? Also, there's literally a hand-puppet in this one; if you think that's pretentious then I don't even know what to say... Don't watch Sesame Street! It'll fill you with proletariat rage against the bourgeoise.