forgiveness*

You’re valuable.

Aaargh! I really wish I could stop doing this...

Be grateful you don’t have the like like like disease.

@@philosophypig Random thoughts to follow: What if you're really concerned that the person is following the line of thought you're presenting? People are against CRT because they lost the C a long time ago, we do need more empirical de/reconstruction as you are doing, the C. My idea for a great podcast - You, Aydin Paladin and Jennifer Moleski. Philosophical, statistical and social dynamic viewpoints converge on the dumpster fire of modernity.

nah, she's a pleasant mid-wit, "brilliant" should be reserved for exceptional people.

naughteedesign Nah, you just aren’t familiar enough with her other stuff on Philosophy etc

@@greggharmston8992 well so far she's repeated classic lies from feminists that are easily debunked, so i trust you'll excuse me while i reserve judgement on your _brilliant_ label. cheers nd

@@greggharmston8992 btw: i will check out her work, she seems nice enough and i'm always interested in a bit of philosophy.

Gen X were a bunch of whiners...and they're the parents of the new crop of super whiners.

She's really not that posh just well spoken and British

@@georgecrompton8663 She is 42 and looks 18 despite the booze. Only the posh can pull that off.

@@thebibosez7949 I'm a British working class northerner in my forties and i know plenty of women in their forties who are very well preserved,By British standards i would say she's lower middle class.

@@georgecrompton8663 At last I have triggered a class struggle in Benjamin's comment section! Nina kept her "h"s up for more than an hour. Not even fresh Prince 'arry, who once dressed as 'itler, can do that. You might also consider that I was using "posh" ironically in annoyance at her presuming to tell us what men want.

She already told you she's Irish, surely you could tell by her lilting brogue? Very important to identify with the oppressed just in case you are mistaken for gammon.

Steel man is to use fallacies so that translates to how he's so confused that he can agree to two conflicting arguments.

@@Teddypally That’s not what steel man means. Come correct if you’re going to correct me Teddy.

@@guthrie1181 Tell me what you think it means and I'll show you how, in your own words, you're likely agreeing with me :D

@@Teddypally To steel man your opponents argument is to present their case for them as best you can, or better than they can. Jordan Peterson, and Sam Harris do this often. So does Benjamin. It’s the opposite of a straw man.

@@MentoDaSheep He is presenting his argument, and the opponents argument. That’s honorable.

He should start an asmr channel imo

It really is.

I feel like it's a case of explaining without first asking if the explanation is required. I still don't think this is a one way phenomenon though. Everyone splains to everyone else at some point.

The actual definition of the word ''mansplaining'' is: It's a word which has the purpose of stating as if it is fact, that the person being accusesd of mansplaining is beneath at a spiritual level, beneath the level of the person using the word mansplaining, beneath them intellectually, beneath them in therms of ethical development. So if you say: "You're mansplaining." -What you're saying is: ''I am spiritually, ethically and intellectually above you. I'm at a higher moral plane and you don't dare speak to me, unless I ask you, because you are a subordinate piece of human filth.''

Straight men and straight women. LGB aren’t a different category of men and women.

Thanks for that but I didn’t say that.

...up until they shouldn't

@@jackdeniston59 That is the point. Is it not? Until.... If you have a line, what is it? Are you sure "you" are correct?

@@girlonfire00net How about "until their actions harm others"?

Why ? That is not some law of nature, it is a social construct and a very recent one at that. It is part of a necessary moral narrative for large societies to function but it is not some self evident truth.

@@joshua_ch Joshua, I really dig the comments you've thrown down on this vid. But isn't that self-evident by the time a homo sapien is like, 5 or 6 years old? Regardless of upbringing? A young child quickly learns that if they hit another child, they're possibly gonna get hit back. And it hurts. And seeking comfort and avoiding pain is *very much* a law of nature for nearly all creatures. So although "respect" is not a law of nature, it's a pretty empirical human experiment a young human can vet for themselves until they have self-evidenced that something as basic as physical expression of disrespect subjects one to pain and lack-of-comfort. I'd assert that does become self-evident shortly after the time one realizes they can interact with the dimension around them, and not just exist as a passive observer of it.

That would be very cool!

They're alright I guess.

@@daveldma W0t terrence said. They're groovy. Some are soft. Some aren't. Some bake better chili-mac than I do. Most don't. Sex is cooler to have than not. Is that empirical? Not sure i helped much. %-p Cheers.

I think the answer is both depending on the person. Given the variety of driving factors and the fact that we can't read minds (People lie and also often don't understand why they truly took a certain action) means this is always going to be quite a fuzzy area.

I’m a guy, but I can’t speak for straight men, because I’m not interested in women.

I read a book written by a marriage and sex therapist once who said he basically thinks it changes, not just for men, depending on the level of, what he calls, self-differentiation. Which is basically like maturity. Anyway I think described like six different levels from like predatory to spiritual communion.

Oh yes teespring.com/shop/gender-is-fun-mug

Great minds think alike 😆

Nota Bene: You'll never hear even a main stream fem_inist point out the disparity in college enrollment favoring women byt a 3:2 ration and that needs to be adjusted for 'equality'. That is never going to happen. Inequalities that benefit women are perfectly acceptable. Inequalities that favor men, the worst thing ever and we need to smash the patriarchy. It's frankly amazing.

@@DrGingerHamster I often ask fe-minists "at what percentage does the educational disparity between men and women become a problem? 35-65%? 30-70%? 10-90%?. Tumbleweeds or the usual mudslinging and deflection.

@@fiveleavesleft6521 Well, it's never a 'problem' if it favors the wammmens. Then it's perfectly fine)

they've been brainwashed by feminists, it starts early usually by their single mother and reinforced by every teacher , advertisement and movie from there.

Women should have a healthy amount of fear of men. Especially strangers, men are physically stronger and the more aggressive of the sex’s. So it’s important to be aware of your surroundings and be somewhat cautious. Men shouldn’t take it personal. You may know that your a nice guy but there’s no way a random stranger could know. I’ve been followed while using public transit or walking to work by strange men. It’s really unsettling.

@@antonia6059 I'm certain it is, for sure. However, men are usually the victims of male violence, more so than women. I think most people have a 'rational' fear of strange men. The problem is, women today, despite all the evidence that stranger r_pe activity is single digits of the number of reported acts like this today. Been steadily declining for decades, and that's great. So, is it rational to fear all men? I don't think so.

​ @Tegwen Jaimes yes, it is the men that are part of your group that will protect you, i agree. be careful which strangers you welcome into your country/society... looks over to europe.

Women are treated badly by men in the street since a young age and they don't know if you are a nice guy or not, so in order to avoid a difficult situation they just prevent any possible interaction by crossing the road. For example, some men will start talking and then you can't get rid of them and they might attack you. I know of two women who this happened to....men who initiated a conversation in the street followed them home (actually, a third one was myself). One ended up being forced to give the man a handjob to get rid of him. You've got to realize that men are a lot stronger generally and this friend was a small woman and she was hoping to avoid a physical confrontation because she was well aware that he could seriously overpower, beat, kill, rape her. He left after the handjob. She was still violated but avoided something more serious. If simply crossing the street avoids the possibility of a situation like this then it's the easy to just cross the street. Women are well aware of the physical threat men pose to us. It is nothing personal because we can't tell who the bad guys are until the bad thing happens. It's also not a 'thinking all men are bad', it is simply a matter of safety. Resentment starts building though because living your life by kind of bending your habits around men because of a need for safety (and then hearing men not understanding why you are afraid) is extremely limiting to your movements and very frustrating.

As someone who's directly observed extremists, I concur with this 1000%.If the left doesn't get a grip, American ISIS (an amalgamation of Patriot Boys and Q followers) is going to overturn the entire table by 2024 or 2028.

ISIS were motivated by the belief that 72 virgins were waiting for them once they were martyred. Antifa in the US have a similar motivation (most sjw's being female they are just peacocking their virtue). Having been brought up in the British working class it is an unpalatable truth that the easiest way to be popular with the ladies is to be considered "hard" or a bit dangerous. How many sensitive nice guys are there in female romantic fiction/ 50 shades of grey etc? Men are still uber masculine/violent because women reward those behaviours with sex.

You're likely right that it's a cynical move by the English middle-class to claim a victimhood identity point or similar. I can understand why it riles you up, especially if you're Irish yourself? But there could be something else, more honest and less shady, behind it - such as if both her parents were Irish but she was raised in England, so maybe feels she doesn't want to reject that part of her heritage. It can be weird for people like that, e.g. on those optional demographic sections of surveys, when you're asked to choose between White British or White Irish - someone with one White British parent and one parent of another ethnicity/nationality would be expected to indicate that...so should you do it too? Pure speculation, and I'm totally biased, as someone raised in England with a Scottish mum and Irish dad. Both sides casually hate on/joke about the English, so it can feel alien for someone raised in that environment to identify as fully English themselves. Not a big deal. But I admit I sometimes play that card, and feel entitled to play that card, when accusations about my "English history of colonialism", etc., etc., are thrown at me. (But we were all skint as fuck, so I don't have the middle-class card in my deck.) :D

Now add robberies, assaults, shootings, rapes and murders

@@mishmish9103 Irelevant. The issue is interpersonal partner violence and all that entails. She was not commenting on those behaviours.

He be crushing so hard

Why stop ? She is quite cute and he had a perfect excuse as the interviewer looking at the screen.

@Bob Charles How can 'women... disagree with [my] interpretation' when they are not there to see or experience particular events? Who are these women? These wise, omniscient beings. Why are you trying to argue against something I haven't said, or do you have small repertoire of straw man arguments ready at hand? Explaining things without being asked is not mansplaining. A man talking down to a woman in a creepy and condescending manner about something she clearly already understands, is mansplaining. These men would never dare to speak to another man in such a way. It would be offensive, obnoxious behaviour. As I said, not being on the receiving end does not mean it doesn't exist.

@Cerulean Blue Having had the misfortune to do a fair bit of internet dating, two of the most common requirements demanded in women's profiles are that men be "confidant" and "assertive". Although the feminist orthodoxy we currently live under would never admit it, male behaviour is largely shaped by female sexual selection. In other words (as touched on by Nina Power above) mansplaining is just men's attempt to appear confidant, competent and knowledgeable in order to impress women. More often than not it works. Like most feminist bugbears, the quickest way for women to change "toxic" male behaviour is to flock around shy, socially awkward, self-deprecating, unconfident men. I take it you will be the first in the queue?

Yeah...go our separate way. But mgtow is that they never actually do, for some reason. They always seem to pop up with some complaint about women, instead of just letting it go and concentrating on their new, separate way of living. To me they seem to not be honest about wanting to go their own way.

So, it's "homo sapien-splaining." Because point to me the human that offers someone else an opinion, and doesn't think that their opinion being offered -- at least multiple times in one's life -- isn't "more valid" than the one they're opining to. ;) Neither XX/XY genotype has an exclusive on thinking they know best. It is hard-coded into our nature via survival mechanisms.

@@friedmandesigns IME it’s much more common from men, maybe that’s why 😀

@Arwyn Funny, that's my advice to her. :D

@@MentoDaSheep She expressed "people won't learn unless they can ask questions". That would be the expression of a hypothesis. However, she expresses no measurements for what learning is, that would be the expression of definitions.

@@MentoDaSheep Oh, and the narrative is people ask questions and learn.

I think she was perfectly respectable. I agree that he should speak to everyone you listed, not that I necessarily agree with them (Paul Elam is a little much for my liking).

@@lancewalker2595 oh no doubt, pleasant even. paul elam being "a little much" understatement of the century ! :) but speaks the truth and not ideological claptrap he learnt while being indoctrinated in "academia" cheers nd

@@naughteedesign He should definitely speak to Warren Farrel.

@@lancewalker2595 love the man but he's way too soft (when farrel and elam talk they have to do it via online if they met in person they'd collapse the universe). although thinking about it, perhaps farrel would be perfect for benjamin, he can talk about his cancelation by the feminists he supported back when cancellation wasn't even a thing. a magnificent, lovely and morally consistent man!

How many men are murdered by men in a week in the UK?

I posted a reply here, but it didn't show up, perhaps because I had a wiki link. Not sure what youtube rules are. In any case, my point is *not* that men don't hurt women, they certainly do, and at massively higher rates than women hurt men. But most intra-personal violence (including suicide) is male-on-male. I am interested in how violence can be decreased across the board, not to deny that one kind of violence is worse than another. For example, if you look at the homicide statistics according to the US Bureau of Justice Statistics: Male offender/Male victim 65.3% Male offender/Female victim 22.7% Female offender/Male victim 9.6% Female offender/Female victim 2.4%

@@daveldma From the ONS (UK) Sex As in previous years, the majority of homicide victims in the year ending March 2019 were male. Just under two-thirds were male victims (64%) and just over a third were female (36%).

Men are so violent, but why? If you are a man and you are not violent, they look at you as “not a real man” or try to put you in the “woman” category.

@@philosophypig I was looking at domestic homicide stats a few year ago (I think they were from the department of justice) and from what I remember the male on female domestic homicide was about twice as high as female on male domestic homicide. I was surprised because people don't seem to talk about female perpetrated domestic homicide much at all. I sort of had the impression it would be lower than it was in the stat.

yeah, it's not looking good! Can't say that this interview grabbed me as being particularly insightful. It could be my overtired end-of-the-working-week brain, but it just seemed like one of Benjamin long and rambling scatter pattern interviews that can happen from time to time on this channel.