What (not) to write in a sympathy card: 14 short & meaningful ideas

Рет қаралды 21,046

4 жыл бұрын

Featured griever approved sympathy cards are available here: www.etsy.com/shop/DanicaTheArtist
So a co-worker, friend, or far away family member just experienced a loss. You know you want to send a card, but what do you say? Avoid these mistakes and get to know some actually helpful things you can write. Words have power to wound, cover up, or actually help them heal. Don't skip this video - their heart is at stake. (Oh yeah.. prepare for some laughs, too!)
*** Sympathy cards featured in this video are available at my Etsy shop here: www.etsy.com/shop/DanicaTheArtist
Join my newsletter to learn about other grief resources and products, and get updates on new releases. sendfox.com/danicathurber ***
_______________________________________________________________
I work with women who've experienced all different types of losses. Regardless of their previous art experience, I teach art as a tool for grief recovery.
I offer Creative Life Coaching sessions for individuals & groups wanting to find healing from issues like grief/loss, anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. And we do it all through art!
Would your griever benefit from working with me?
Send them this link to schedule a FREE consultation call or visit www.danicatheartist.com/coaching to learn more about Creative Life Coaching.
Follow me on IG: @projectgriefart
_______________________________________________________________
Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or medical doctor and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. Creative Life Coaching is in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, psychotherapy, mental health counseling, or any other type of psychotherapy or medical advice.

Пікірлер: 53

@angelahannant3867 2 жыл бұрын

Your comments are subjective. Each of us will find comfort from different words. The most important thing is that someone has taken the time to reach out to someone who is grieving.

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Absolutely right! Every person and loss is different, as well as your relationship with them. Simple thoughtfulness means the word to a griever.

@ladyradiana 2 жыл бұрын

I have received many sympathy cards in my lifetime and never have I ever thought that any of them were inappropriate, the fact that someone took the time to choose a card and send it was very comforting. Your idea of a card for someone who has had a stillborn baby was very unfeeling.

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

I agree! I've been working on that one. That's a loss I haven't personally been through so I'm still trying to find the words. Any suggestions?

@leslieinadress 2 жыл бұрын

I think this video could have been made in a less condescending way. Some of the sentiments are really great but others seem cold. Also. Especially your opening portion about what not to say. Just because something is “generic” doesn’t make it meaningless.

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Fair enough! Every loss and every person is different, so it only makes sense that every card needs to be tailored to THEM, as well as the relationship you have with that person.

@12lesflo 3 жыл бұрын

Loved the two condolence sentiments and also one of the ideas : grieving with You. Wish there was an Easy button. Showing the memories you had of their loved ones.

@SuperManning11 9 ай бұрын

This was so helpful, and really important for people to see the kinds of options you’ve given for things to say. I always try to be specific when offering help, but you never really know what exactly the grieving person might need. Giving a list of options is a wonderful idea, for both sender and receiver-this would be great for when someone is very sick as well. Thank you for this very, very useful bit of info for something we all need on occasion. Liked and subscribed!

@danicatheartist 9 ай бұрын

I'm so glad it was helpful!! Yes the list of options is so great for anyone low on bandwidth. I've used this with my new mom friends who are so exhausted that they don't even know what they need. You're totally right to apply it to someone who's sick too. Thanks for the encouragement!

@paulaparkison9667 4 жыл бұрын

Found this on a day I needed it most! Thanks!

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

Im so very glad!!

@LoriMorrisPaintings 3 жыл бұрын

Very helpful thoughts, you’ve put into words a lot of what I believe to be true about letting people grieve. (And even giving them permission to.)It feels right to be person that won’t shut down their grief.

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

That’s right! And I’m glad it was helpful!

@moirahansen1955 4 жыл бұрын

Just discovered this. So helpful. Thank you.

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

Wonderful I’m so glad it helped!

@julieveitia2979 Жыл бұрын

Deep! Thank you for sharing.

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening. Glad you enjoyed it!

@got2muchstuff 4 жыл бұрын

So good! You are so on track!

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate that! 😅

@corinnelane8597 4 жыл бұрын

Perfect. Thank you. ❤

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

So glad!

@mariachristakos Жыл бұрын

This was beautiful ❤ thank you

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

You're welcome 😊

@marydonald3453 Жыл бұрын

Very helpful and sensitive.

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@jacquelinesown6675 2 жыл бұрын

You are so right

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much!

@cosminaanca3916 Жыл бұрын

So true!!

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Right?! Thanks for watching!

@janeyprescott8418 2 жыл бұрын

I think you are amazing!

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Aw thanks!

@debrabartz3188 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

You bet! Thanks for watching!

@joycemcleod8249 2 жыл бұрын

Very help,ful

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

Glad it helped!

@jenpalubicki3179 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome 💜💜💜💜💜

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

Thanks I hope it was helpful!

@jolewis8105 8 ай бұрын

I think that even if someone says something that isn’t really helpful, ‘band aids’ as you call them…it’s still kind that they actually said something as opposed to ignoring the loss. ‘Band Aids’ are better than not acknowledging someone’s loss. Anyway, very thoughtful and sensitive ideas, thanks.

@danicatheartist 8 ай бұрын

Im so glad it was thought provoking for you! Yes, good intentions mean a lot even if they’re blundering through it. I think bandaids are often said in a dismissive or quick fix way, versus actually taking the time to acknowledge the loss. The same words can be said in different ways.

@auntiez7042 3 жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right about all these! Thank you and I definitely think all your cards have the best words for someone like me who can't think clearly since losing a parent.

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

Thanks so much! I’ve thought a lot about this topic :)

@elizabethwagner2190 3 жыл бұрын

My best friend since my late 20's just died. I've been trying for 6 days to figure out what to put inside the card to her husband(I've known them both since I was a teen). They moved away for her to deal with her cancer a couple years ago. What do I say in the card to him? I am frozen. I am 60 now she was 75.

@danicatheartist 4 ай бұрын

Even a few years later it means so much when you remember a death anniversary. I’d suggest reaching out to to him on that day and checking in how he’s feeling, as well as sharing some happy memories of her with him 💕. Hope that helps!

@theire483 2 жыл бұрын

I don't like buying cards for any occasion, I prefer to just make my own. I can never find the card I want. Having said that, sometimes when I make my own, words are at timrs hard to come by.

@danicatheartist Жыл бұрын

You're not alone! There are no words that can "fix" and I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to "get it right."