"Focus on the small wins" Some of the best advice I heard

This is THE most underrated channel on KZfaq.

Not many people keep it real and dude when you get more and more popularity don't lose your authenticity, that's what makes you stand out. You give the facts as raw as they are and you tackle them realistically, respect.

For my whole life, I’ve been constantly shunned, insulted, and berated by women. Most of the time I’m not even trying to really date, I just want to make friends is all I want. When I talk to them I don’t feel nervous or anything like that, I’m just a normal guy trying to have normal conversations and form normal relationships. Every time I talk to them and think I’m having a good time talking to them and ultimately exchanging social media, they ignore me the next day and pretends as if I don’t exist. I’m tired of being bullied. I’m tired of being ignored. I’m tired of women saying “Why are you talking to me?”. I’m tired of being called a loser

I'm turning 29 in a few days and I've been doing virtually everything channels like this one say to do for over a decade and I've been shut down so hard that I can't even get eye contact let alone a conversation from women or people in general.

You’re genuine person I can feel it

I’m 29 and never been in a relationship. I’m tuned in

This dude deserve a gold medal coaching

So much empathy coming from Lloyd i could feel it by his voice vibration while describing his situation 10 years ago...You made man 💪 😎

Hearing your story hit me in the feels Respect dude respect thank you for talking to us

Thanks for watching you guys. Hope you got something out of my story. The game can get tough but if it was easy everyone would be doing it. Here is a link to the coaching application. I figured this would be easier than going back and forth on email with everyone forms.gle/EphjBy4fW8y2cCZL6

I wanted to say thank you for making this video. It echoes much of what I was..... to an extent I am still like this. I'm now subscribing to your channel.

Thanks for this video. It's crazy how love / attraction can be such a big thing in your life. I'm in the facebook group.

For me: this was one of the best, most important and most motivating videos on KZfaq.

I’ve stopped using dating apps and I feel so much better

Solid, Honest & True Advice - Probably the only honest guy left on the internet !

I've been single for a while. I don't feel like i'm necessarily unattractive to women, but I don't really know how to go forward after that. I also deal with the disappointment with past heartbreaks so I guess that's why I freeze up..Anyway, thanks for the info you provide, man. I'm hoping I can absorb as much useful info I can so that I can start becoming the man I always wanted to be.

Seek success, don’t seek women. When the finishing line arrives and she’s waiting there keep on driving!

Found this channel at random and it’s helping me a lot

This is no doubt one of the most underrated channels for men on KZfaq. Every guy should watch this.

I feel you are a quality human being. Thank you for your initiatives.

Thanks! This video make me feel better. The only real problem that I had with this is the fact that I am 51 now and because I'm getting old patience with women is harder for me to do these days

Glad to see you monetizing your videos. You always make great videos.

The 3rd one I really felt that, and hearing a lot of people go through shit and realising no one is perfect helped me realize the best I can be is me and to be the best version of me I can, still not there but the progress from 2years ago is evident

Hey Loyd been watching your videos for a while now I've quite floopet with a lot of girls many have rejected me i recently went to college am 22 year's old and well i guess i did feel like giving up and i did feel that rock bottom feeling part and thanks to you really boosted my mood to become motivated thanks to you men much appreciation 🙏

Been watching this guy for a while now but this vid earned my sub! Thanks man!

So glad I stumbled on this cuz this is LITERALLY me, same deal I just turned 34, was ready to start dating again 2 years ago until covid fucked everything up, I had to start all over and have NO idea how to even start approaching women, I have no one to even go out with to help me, I didnt even need to watch the whole thing to know I needed this advice

Lucky i found your channel, really helpful.

I really needed this video the very minute I found it.

Dude I was like that less then a month ago. I also felt that there was something wrong with me but then I watched all your vids, started going out every night and boom. last week i hooked up with this really hot girl and now all that self doubt and fear of rejection are gone. I feel happier and more motivated then ever. Tomorrow im taking her to my place and hopefully we'll boink. I'll update what happens hehe. I owe it all to this channel I could not have done it without you Loyd thank you so much. The drugs helped a bit too xd

Your the best god bless you. Your the reason why I have so much motivation right now thank you

best video I watched in a while thank you

No internet at home, no cable tv No dating apps 378 approaches, 2 dates in the last month.

Loved that vid you had a very genuine energy

Great video and tips! Appreciate it!

Im just like this guys and I get alot of complements from women I'm 29 and I've been like this all my life but I remember in high school being more normal with ppl thanks for your advice

you seem like a good person. Thank you for your advice. G-d bless.

I never would have guessed that about you. That frame of mind really fucked up a relationship that would have been good, and probably a decade before that too. Mid 20s now, ready to let go of the depressive identity I’ve had since middle school. If I don’t, i can look forward to fucking up more. Thanks for this.

That's a great way to put it focus on small wins. Im still kicking myself for not talking to my mail carrier when I looked at her and smiled. She started backing her van where is was walking. I ran like a little girl. The girl I liked was right there and I walked away. Sumbitch

Exactly what i needed to hear

Let's of great advice here. Thanks man

thanks so much for this, really needed it

Amazing insight

This guy radiates a completely different energy to the other channels talking about the same shit

Good for you for doing a video on this.

Best channel in whole internet

Love when you are doing it personal

I like to feel and it truly looks like, that guys, men, were meant to reap or just experience more side-benefits than women do as a result of improving your dating life. It takes a lot of explaining but I hope you get the point

Im 28 and i havent been in a relationship either. I had plenty of sex with women but recently, hopeless, lost and being defeated has been my mood in the last few months or so. watching this gives me some sort of light. "focus on the small wins" thats what im going do. smiling, eye contacts, and excel,

This man is God-sent

😂 😂 Your honesty is true bro and I bet I should start appreciating the fact that I'm now hitting tht gym maybe I might get better too

you are hella cool loyd thanks a million!!!!

hard too think these guy got turned down, if he'd bulk up, he'd be a be like younger version of Jason Momoa. Also good content and very relatable

Man very good video, congrats !

Just commenting for the visibility of the channel, and to the people who feel desperate atm : trust me, it'll get better

I hope you're being honest about your struggle because I begin to look up to you. I have a hard time believing what other self-development bs channel talk about. I struggle with depression since I was a kid probably since kindergarten, as I remember. The alienation, bullying, being unwanted. I bet my parents don't even know what depression. I envy people who didn't have to deal with these baggages as they grew up. I wasted decades of my life without really realizing the cause.

your channel deserves more subs and views, keep it up mate

agree with you loyd especially the first one: about looking at hot girls on social media can screw with ones selfsteem and confidence.

Thank you for this

Working on one*s career is infinitely more important. Attain financial independence; then worry about secondary stuff. The vast majority of the $$$ one spends on women is wasted.

Thanks, this helped. That identity stuff, top shit.

this guy just feeds you with motivational quotes, none of it is appliable in real life

Love your honesty Lloyd. I can see you re honest. You remind me of AquaMan :)

Thank you man !

Of course I had to click through Scott's desperate advertisement to see this

Lemme tell you something... This is one of those individual sports... No guru, no buddy, no consultant, etc. Will always be there to hold your hand. It takes oneself to encourage oneself. This shi* is inevitable that it takes a ton of time to get "good" at.

keep up the good work. more people def need to see your content

Love your help

A lot of women are bad at the game too. Many don't do a good job of giving you any meaningful indicators of interests so you can approach them or take things to the next level. It's a shame too because some of the best women are on the shy side and if they like you, they'll shut down around you, and if they don't like you, they'll also shut down around you! Tough to work with that.

Thanks man!

What are your thoughts on marriage today? Settling down and living the “white Pickett fence” life. Is that something you’re shooting for down the road? Or are you taking this journey day by day

Loved d video

People don't really have identities, everyone has multiple personalities in different situations

But what advise do you have for someone who literally doesn't try? I'm separating from my wife now, but before her I was a virgin until age 25. Didn't go to school dances, clubs, bars - basically didn't leave the house until I was 100 percent guaranteed to accomplish something. I require perfection, and won't proceed without it. Therapy hasn't really helped.

True, brother

There may be a lot of people that are better than me with women. I’ve hardly had any success. I’ve put in more work than other people. I don’t care if I’m single for the rest of my life. I’ll just keep trying.

Dude another topic, do you have any advice for gym game ?

Dude wakes up and chooses to spit facts every day.

Great content keep doing your thing brother💯

Sweet!

Once you realise you're UNdatable and nobody likes you you wake up and the weight of the world is lifted off your shoulders. I'm sick of the childish bs mind games and the ridiculous lists of demands from women. You DONT need ANYONE in your life.. The ONLY person you need and can TRULY rely on and TRUST is YOURSELF. stay single, focus on YOURSELF and STOP chasing something that was NEVER on the cards for you in the first place.

Im 16 yes maybe a little young but i realy want to change and be more confident around girls,what did you do when you were my age??

I think it’s the little details you make big and seem negative, that others barely notice.

Man I so glad I tried cold aproaching same issue no friends no social life but through cold aproach during the first week I went on 3 dates and kissed one of them from nothing. first date floped hard second and third went quite well all 3 with different women.

I'm 35 and I can't even get a number better yet a date really wondering if reincarnation is real thinking about just giving up on life completely.

I don't even need TO TRY to get a girl to smile at me. And I'm 40 and losing my hair. I don't even need to smile at them!

@thesingleguy i need some advice i was talking to this girl for a good week then yesterday got no messages from her I accepted the possibility that I was ghosted & mentally moved on just due to the fact that I had about 3 other girls that I wasn’t going to talk to until I figured out what the outcome would be for the one that ghosted me so should I text her at all or just drop it btw it was also the day we were supposed to hang out lolll

This is great advice for most guys. But it neglects a very critical and possible scenario. What do you do when you've been trying everything you can to improve yourself, you're working out, you're going out and talking with people, pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, flirting and talking with girls, getting them to smile and laugh, celebrating the small wins...but it never moves beyond that? You can approach girls and get them smiling and laughing, but when you ask for their number, they either say no or give it to you and don't reply. When you go to the bars, you can talk with girls and flirt, but they never want to leave with you. Small wins are great, but if they don't turn into more, turn into numbers that text back, dates, sex, relationships, etc., over time it actually ruins your confidence even more, rather than building it. If you can successfully achieve those things, then yes, you think "wow I CAN do it!" and your confidence skyrockets. But if you've been doing this for years, I'm talking closing in on 10 years, have done everything possible to improve every part of yourself, yet still are having to count a girl smiling at you as a win and ignore the 30 that ignored you, and still can't get dates or laid, eventually it shatters your confidence. How do you deal with that level of failure? And yes, it is failure, no matter how you frame it.

What about following influencers/pages geared towards your personal interests on social media like Instagram?

Write the book. I'd buy it.

one more other thing is to download apps to get to know people online it will help a lot with confidence and things like that

There was this woman at work, who I liked told her I like her she told me she liked me, then after a few weeks/ months asked her out she said yes, then 5 to 6 months passed asked her to be my girlfriend then she replied with she has a boyfriend needless to say painful, also was the first time i asked a woman out, at 30. Then found out from someone she had done this to a few guys and also found out her ex was on the other shift, then she left the shift i was on a went onto the other shift. Haven't seen her since which is (good).

You explained this to a tee. I am in the process of kicking that demon to the ground lol

Hey Lloyd my names is Erick iv been watching your vids for a while now because iv been getting rejected a lot by women and I’m getting really frustrated please help?

I'll tell you guys this....if you got a girl to smile at you....you've done WAY more than you think!

Do you have any advice for group approach ?

The core advice of the video 8:05

KZfaq is taking down PUA/Seduction videos lately, do you have a backups of your channel?

Thanks Lloyd

0:50-1:00 wait man, are you talking about me, gaaddamn similarities, except I didn't take psychological test.