WHAT TO DO WHEN A MAN WON’T COMMIT AND HOW A WOMAN SHOULD RESPOND- Conversation between RC and Lisa

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6 жыл бұрын

In this session on relationships RC and Lisa discuss men who won’t commit and how a woman should respond. In this candid conversation they discuss specific strategies to break free from a relationship that may be going no where fast.
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@natural3362 Жыл бұрын

When a man won't commit, a Queen must leave, sit on her throne and wait for another king to recognize and reign with her

@Zeus-dw1cx 19 күн бұрын

There are no queens

@natural3362 19 күн бұрын

@@Zeus-dw1cx there are.. Plenty of queens

@bambam6231973 4 жыл бұрын

WOW when a man wont commit he believes you wont leave!!! Soooo true...

@jackiegreenidge3741 Жыл бұрын

So true!!

@deborahadamu9087 3 жыл бұрын

It's really an embarrassment to try to hold on to something that is running away from you. You shouldn't love someone more than you love yourself.

@brinnyfelicia 10 ай бұрын

Amen

@angelagabriel744 8 ай бұрын

😢

@michelleelmergreen8511 5 ай бұрын

This has been happening to me he calls himself a Christian man we met 3 and half yrs ago and we we all in love everything seemed to be great like this was it this man was the one.. fast forward 3 and half yrs I been through so much with his guilt trips and walking out over EVERYTHING not even exaggerating....and demand me to take accountability and to take the blame.. I wanted to reconcile right away and tried so hard to stop him from leaving no matter what I did he left anyway and the rollercoaster continued. I allowed it and now I'm wondering what is going on? He has left me confused and devalued because he say wouldn't take his time out to reconcile on the spot. It just continues

@Insightinsight1 5 ай бұрын

Same thing with me. They are narcissistic. Look it up and you will see it’s the same character traits

@islip376 4 жыл бұрын

Redefine the relationship....I decided since he deceived me, he didn’t even deserve a friendship so I left!

@kirk1007 4 жыл бұрын

Amen. He doesn't

@antoniahines83 4 жыл бұрын

Love this!

@sophisticatedmm3632 4 жыл бұрын

Amen he isn't trustworthy, so he doesn't deserve to be a friend, confidant or an associate

@leyland2725 4 жыл бұрын

Honestly men don't want women as friends

@paulagratefulnoend9683 4 жыл бұрын

Yes you are so strong!!! I am making the same conclusion.

@Choclatcotton 6 жыл бұрын

“Men respond to consequences “ thank you

@WiseLady7 5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely, Choclatcotton!!!!

@ShermekaG 5 жыл бұрын

a lot of reasons why some women don't leave is because they don't think they can do better, or they don't want to start all over. It's not worth it.

@yeahthatsme921 4 жыл бұрын

They don't want to accept the fact that they were played

@casperinsight3524 3 жыл бұрын

Sooner or later they realize that they lose more by staying than leaving

@casperinsight3524 3 жыл бұрын

@@yeahthatsme921 YASSS! Radical Acceptance versus Ego

@miranda2216 3 жыл бұрын

@Casper Insight. Agreed from experience you lose more by staying!!!

@rebeccarobinson1954 2 жыл бұрын

Agreed 👍

@meekainc 3 жыл бұрын

THIS IS SO POWERFUL: " Challenge the areas of your self-esteem that keeps you WAITING for someone that isn’t showing up!" ~ RC Blakes.

@beauty4u132 2 жыл бұрын

Ooooo that’s good!

@carolebitz3207 2 жыл бұрын

What if he shows up and does stuff that you need

@carolebitz3207 2 жыл бұрын

Exclusive to friendship so good

@carolebitz3207 2 жыл бұрын

I love you both and I need your help

@carolebitz3207 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you both!

@God-Essence 4 жыл бұрын

Why couldn’t I have found these videos sooner 😂🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ thank God I’m only 20, I’m sharing this with all my friends!

@erikarmccall 4 жыл бұрын

Taye_ BeautyTV knowing this in your twenties is such a blessing🙌🏾

@BlaximilianD00d 4 жыл бұрын

Learn your purpose first before pursuing something like a relationship.

@New-mg4zp 4 жыл бұрын

I’m so happy a young woman has found rc Blake’s..I’m 30 wish I’d found them at 20!

@meyliqg1774 4 жыл бұрын

@@New-mg4zp same

@chelabuford7106 4 жыл бұрын

You're a true friend and sister - I have shared with mine also!😉😊

@sophisticatedmm3632 6 жыл бұрын

wow men respond to consequences, ladies we need to learn we are the prize & we need to put our foot down

@ButterCookie1984 6 жыл бұрын

Michelle McDonald 100 Truth

@mzkayeleigh5582 5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Michelle! I'm in a situation like this as we speak but I have to realize that I AM THE PRIZE I DESERVE BETTER! He's a great guy, divorced, has his own business, love his momma and love his community. I've told him how I feel about him and so forth. Known him since February 2016, never been on a date or nothing, he's too busy and I'm like oookayyyyy RED FLAG RED FLAGGGGG, I should have been cut this joker loose. My husband is out there waiting on me....

@sophisticatedmm3632 5 жыл бұрын

@@mzkayeleigh5582 Precisely if he can't take you out on a date or make time for you then cut your ties. Men make time for whomever they want, I had a guy that I met via the internet (about a month ago), we exchanged #'s, talked 4-5 times (2 hours +). Anyhow he stopped calling/ texting me & NEVER planned a date. Needless to say I deleted his phone number.

@27ltm 4 жыл бұрын

Michelle McDonald yes I needed to be reminded!

@crownedmelaninqueen 4 жыл бұрын

MzKaye Leigh Praying for you !

@Sandra-wj4on 6 жыл бұрын

If he's yours, he'll come back. But if he's not - be glad he kept stepping and disappeared!

@mb5857 5 жыл бұрын

Sandra Scott .... sometimes when they come back don't matter....He still may not be the one..

@faithsandstrom3883 3 жыл бұрын

Well my ex narcissist come back...hoover. So it depends if anything changes and maybe one time to come back and stay...after that unhealthy.

@illuminatedbestchoice1042 3 жыл бұрын

They definitely don't need to come back.

@irlandaise5631 3 жыл бұрын

I hope he could come back...but nothing happened..he knows I wont go out with any man unless it leads to marriage..he wasnt honest..and moved in with someone he found..but yeah that doesnt mean they get on well...I keep meeting men I have no connection or they arent interested in me..they dont want to listen..at least that man we met once and he did listen..and I have the feeling he hoovers my site for year while being /chasing after other women..I believe he needs a place to stay..too..but yeah wouldnt ask him again and wouldnt go out with him unless he is honest and want marriage.. but I know he likes my art..its tough out there..many men fake interest..whilst he was not genuine to me..I did feel he had a genuine interest in me

@irlandaise5631 3 жыл бұрын

@D Frazier I think also most people arent with the right person..and are insecure to remain alone/single for a long time..and maybe bored..I have been single almost forever and the men I meet ..I can see through any of them..I can see through the fake interest too..when they dont focus on you or dont give you attention..its a major turn off for me..

@user-iq7hv7ud8u 9 ай бұрын

This was me, I was so consumed by the benefits!!! Monthly allowance, new car, big gifts etc... But no commitment, I was blinded by the help and gifts it was so hard to walk away❤ But I did, and guess what??? God Did!!! My business started to boom and so did my self estimate and self worth❤Glory to God!

@smores8982 3 жыл бұрын

This has been the most profound, punch-in-the-gut, wake-up video I’ve seen thus far. When I found out the (short lived) relationship I was in was actually a “situationship” and was only a mere convenience for him, I immediately went into self preservation mode by pulling sex off the table. I then put boundaries and standards in place and he slowly started fading from my life cause he wasn’t willing to meet them. This painful experience was truly eye-opening for me. But I still have my dignity and self-respect and that’s all that matters to me. Good riddance.

@jacquelinemeier-boucher8192 2 жыл бұрын

Though this was painful I'm sure, you did the right thing! Now wait upon the Lord,watch and see what he is going to bring you because you trusted. Glory!!!!

@nataliebarbieri8402 Жыл бұрын

I I 😅r you are are a ar w

@michelleelmergreen8511 5 ай бұрын

I feel the same right now going through it and he calls himself a Christian man and we been together 3 1/2 yrs and it was just a rollercoaster of in and out for him at his convenience

@judyneemagichuru949 3 ай бұрын

Exactly!!

@shabchique7149 4 жыл бұрын

I can see why you marry Lisa, such a beautiful, smart, and nice lady.

@jessicaWILLBEisaiah62verse4 6 жыл бұрын

Please preach! Ain’t no 7 9 10 11 years of dating! It only takes a man about 6 months-1 year, sometimes less, for him to figure out if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you! My years are too priceless and fragile, I love myself too much to allow a relationship to drain me and not give me my ending goal which is marriage. Dating is the car that takes you to your destination which is marriage and you can’t stay in that car for too long, it’s in and out. Please allow Mrs. Blakes to come on more! She’s so cute! 😭❤️

@zenta-g6m 6 жыл бұрын

Amanda W I think you missed what she was saying.

@jessicaWILLBEisaiah62verse4 6 жыл бұрын

Amanda W good for her honestly but I’m not going to date somebody for 4+ years and yet he never speaks on marriage, never shows signs, etc. Dating is in and out, you must show you are going that way. You definitely missed what I said but it’s fine 🤷🏾‍♀️

@mindyourbizok 6 жыл бұрын

Amanda W They were in a sexual relationship for 7 yrs. Dating isgeting to know someone without intimacy. They prob dated for 2 weeks.

@tariascott8263 6 жыл бұрын

HimeJessica absolutely right....why be in a relationship for more than 2 years without being engaged....

@TB-ev2hg 6 жыл бұрын

HimeJessica my husband and I met, dated, got engaged and married in under a year. When a MAN knows, he knows!

@gabrielamelendez6867 4 жыл бұрын

No Premature privilege Consequences Parameters/time limit don’t give all your heart away. Be able to leave/ Love yourself

@judyneemagichuru949 3 ай бұрын

❤

@nejeudi6539 4 жыл бұрын

I've been in a relationship for 10 years with someone that has been making broken promises. He's done things that had me looking dumb. We haven't established anything during these 10 years. I'm at my breaking point now. As much as I love him, he doesn't matter to me now. This message is right on time. I hate that it has come to this point but it's time to let go.

@mylifeisinhishandsamen4167 4 жыл бұрын

please let go......

@BronzeBMUA 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you left that relationship

@lionessnala2000 3 жыл бұрын

✂️ it

@Dream-rl9er 3 жыл бұрын

Are you still with him?

@danilaroche1156 3 жыл бұрын

10 years? Clearly u have a soul tie. Watch RC's videos on this topic. A change is gone come sis!

@TiffaniHenson 5 жыл бұрын

It's so much easier to just leave when you do not get emotional invested in a man.

@casperinsight3524 3 жыл бұрын

Which is exactly why soooo many Players game us, to get us attached. Leading us on with false promises until we wake up. It takes more strength to walk away than to endure the nonsense

@doramawrie3741 3 жыл бұрын

@Tiffani Henson you are absolutely, I believe a woman should leave before she has become too emotionally attached with a man!

@Claribel42 2 жыл бұрын

I want to know how to not get emotionally attached to a man. Can some one tell me how to do that? I really want to learn how to not get attached

@debbieowusu5783 2 жыл бұрын

@@Claribel42 By loving yourself dear..

@Fr3sHTiNa 2 жыл бұрын

@@Claribel42 when you love yourself you may have feelings for them or love them but are not completely attached.

@asiangirlmob 6 жыл бұрын

Being engaged is not good enough either to give husband privileges

@l.patrick3155 6 жыл бұрын

Doreen Augsburger Preach, sista!

@TheLilly 5 жыл бұрын

Doreen Augsburger-Lane Big facts sis!

@KINGDOMDAUGHTER 5 жыл бұрын

Amen

@ashleybeautyofficial4304 5 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@jazzyone1986 5 жыл бұрын

Nope I made that mistake.

@bidahangkristyano4128 2 жыл бұрын

I liked that Lisa expressed that she too had the urge to blow up your phone and stalk, but did not want to embarrass herself. Also when you said that nothing can turn the boy into a man, not his mom, or me. Thank you this is very very eye opening.

@AAA-xk8fo 4 жыл бұрын

He gained another dimension of respect for her when she left. Wow. I am glad that he is admitting that. Now I know as a woman love and respect go hand in hand.

@yolandamcmickel1395 6 жыл бұрын

Lisa did a great job! I love your videos on soul ties, I've broken an almost 20 year soul tie now with my youngest child's father. He's married 2 women over me, the last he tried to hide and of course he's not with her anymore either. I had to come to terms with my life and my self worth. I'm doing great, I turned 47 yesterday, I've lost 150 lbs in the past 3 years & looking forward to what God had on store for me.

@RCBlakesJr. 6 жыл бұрын

Yolanda McMickel WOW!!! So proud of the way you’ve taken the reigns of your life.🙏🏾

@profacegod9968 6 жыл бұрын

150 pounds. I can't even lose the 20 I need to lose😞. Congrats this is inspiring!

@chevybrown3931 6 жыл бұрын

Proface God 😂

@paulajames3937 6 жыл бұрын

Yolanda McMickel That's wonderful, you're still young and have a lot to live for. God bless and keep you!🙏😊

@chaazachyasharahla7185 6 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@virtuous_committed 6 жыл бұрын

My ex thought the same thing that I would never leave him because I dealt with his infidelity so many years but that joker was surprised and he got divorce papers and I never look back because I believe we all have a Breaking Point and he broke beyond that point and I NEVER looked back

@leleflower2366 6 жыл бұрын

Jacqueline Bond 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Awesome Awesome You deserve nothing less than the best

@lisablakes8085 6 жыл бұрын

Jacqueline Bond good for you!!!!

@donnabailey2091 5 жыл бұрын

I really admire you and have now found hope and faith in myself to find the strength to do the same 💜

@LeiRoses 5 жыл бұрын

Yes! Good Move!

@asiamonna5289 4 жыл бұрын

💪🏾🙌🏾

@ramatd Жыл бұрын

Thank you both. I only give a man up to 3 to 6 months. If he isn’t ready to commit to a relationship then I walk away. I had to walk away from this last one and I had just fallen in love with him. It is hard. I miss him but I want a man who is ready for what I’m looking for. Your videos are really helping me stay strong and grow. Thank you

@tradebaby4960 Жыл бұрын

😊

@sadikirotakala6827 8 ай бұрын

I have been waiting for this comment. Thank you.

@saludosalsol 7 ай бұрын

That’s good cuz also after 3-6 months even if you’re “in love” or very infatuated with the person it’s not enough time to create soul ties and get very attached.

@theeladyj 4 ай бұрын

Same . I had to walk away because he wouldn’t commit after on and off for a year. I refused to be strung along

@Marie34694 4 жыл бұрын

“You wanna be friends? No problem, but I need a wife. Let me go find me a wife!” I love it ♥️♥️♥️

@DIAMONDGIRL57 6 жыл бұрын

No words needed! Quietly move far away; emotionally and physically! Give nothing and watch what happens! I refused to continue dating a gentleman I once dated. We dated for three years. When I told him it was over and that the relationship was going no where, he said I was giving him an ultimatum. I told him “ call it what ever you wish!” I moved on. He came back and I told him if we are not building a permanent life together, I cannot continue to allow him to take anymore of my time. We done!!

@SanctifiedSista117 4 жыл бұрын

AMEN SIS!

@lovedog49507 4 жыл бұрын

Go girl !

@maronicavolter7124 4 жыл бұрын

That's what's up you did that cause i don't know who they think they are you put your foot down baby girl 👭 👌 💪 👑 💍🙏 😇 he just played his self right out of a good # thing 🤗

@dbedazzling1 4 жыл бұрын

Perfect. Know your worth.

@ms.darris2345 4 жыл бұрын

Did he ever try and reach out to you again, after realizing he lost his good thing?

@sharonjohns1686 6 жыл бұрын

Here's the beautiful queen we've been hearing about. She's beautiful

@lisablakes8085 6 жыл бұрын

Chibueze Johns thanks so much

@linda5754 3 жыл бұрын

I’m 61, single and no dating or anything for almost 20 years, now back on the saddle again, thank god I found both of you to guide me.

@foziaafzalbhat4911 3 жыл бұрын

Love yourself... Go for a walk.. drink water. Meditate. Find a hobby. Read a book. Do something that excites you.... Grow and level up financially, emotionally, mentally, physically. Don't let your age define you. Make friends. Be around kids and people who are genuine and make you smile and happy... Get in touch with people who understand you. Travel and make small trips... Have a Instagram page.. share your life and views... Build an audience.... Be around and involve yourself in positive activities and let life surprise you with miraculous recovery and happiness ❤️❤️❤️

@SuperShandy777 2 жыл бұрын

@@foziaafzalbhat4911 Please help me. My best buddy is beautiful and asks me stacks about myself x Wev been like this for about 2 months. We r close. But he says he doesn't want a relationship atm and hasnt ruled it out a future relationship tho? Maybe he is making sure our friendship becomes strong first?

@taghazoutmoon5031 10 ай бұрын

@@foziaafzalbhat4911she's been single 20 years. She needs a man, not another walk

@CrochetExpressway 4 жыл бұрын

You and your wife just breathed so much life into my self love bank. I’m done with compromising my virtue

@Clairebonita777 2 жыл бұрын

God bless you my Sister; just hold it down. You’re on the right path and by God’s Grace you will definitely do better than some of us who wasted our time on losers

@vzearchitect 6 жыл бұрын

I am a Queen and will be treated accordingly. No excuses

@sophiasmith5949 6 жыл бұрын

Betty Fouche queen of what???

@lifeventures6651 6 жыл бұрын

She is the Queen/CEO of her own life. If women do not honor themselves like that, neither will men.

@natural3362 Жыл бұрын

I'm a Queen too and will be treated accordingly. No more shitty behaviors

@CarolynYouman59 6 жыл бұрын

Beautiful husband and wife.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.

@tarao4382 4 жыл бұрын

Wow! This was good, 19 mins. Never be available all of the time to a boyfriend. Only a husband! I got it😉

@Maria__57 4 жыл бұрын

Not even to a husband you have to be always available ...bc they will suck the LIFE out of you...especially if you have a NARC as a husband...then they will think they OWN YOU...

@teopistorsind9874 3 жыл бұрын

@CHC4669 we don't want to hear about you. Get out of here with your efiminate energy. You are all up our business like anyone cares about what crap you have to say. Get lost!

@happyhermit931 4 жыл бұрын

Being barren is massive blow for a woman to take i felt worthless..Not any more..I told him to go because i wasn't wasting no more of my time I've more to me than a womb .Ive a beautiful soul with lots of wisdom gained through pain .Amen .

@juneelle370 2 жыл бұрын

Amen, sister! 🙌💜🙌

@happyhermit931 2 жыл бұрын

@@juneelle370 😇💯🤗

@GDBONEY 5 жыл бұрын

In the early stages of a friendship/relationship there are always red flags. When a man dose not commit within the first 3 months, there is no relationsip, take a long walk before/within the first two month. Six months/year, after an establishished relationship, there is no discussion of marriage, Love yourself, let go, move on, trust/allow God to take you to another place in life!!!!!! Whom God has for you, will be exclusively yours!!!!!!!! Thanking you for sharing... My brother always taught me these life lessons about men/relationships. Please do more videos together!!!

@nichellehowell 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes there is discussion, even a proposal but the man won't fully commit. This is called future faking.

@mariewilliams3203 2 жыл бұрын

Yes

@SuperShandy777 2 жыл бұрын

Please help me. My best buddy is beautiful and asks me stacks about myself x Wev been like this for about 2 months. We r close. But he says he doesn't want a relationship atm and hasnt ruled it out a future relationship tho? Maybe he is making sure our friendship becomes strong first?

@charlenegrigsby1633 2 жыл бұрын

Good advice! So happy Ms Felicia spoke with you on this topic! Thank you both & May God continue to bless all you do!🙏🏽💕

@TheFactsofLife237 6 жыл бұрын

Aawhh! He's still chasing his wife Lisa! LOL!I'd like to hear more from Lisa Blakes! She has standards!

@edytadelfel249 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, Ladies we are the prize!!!! Period... point blank!!! Love your self, your life and work on your own abundance. If he is not stepping up then raise your standards. There’s no other way!!! Pastor, your standards raises my standards and I can never thank you enough!!!

@Christimony222 2 жыл бұрын

Your wife is gorgeous !!! I’m so happy about this marriage and the help that you are given to all of ours. May God bless you both.

@pattianndonovan8730 2 жыл бұрын

Ty both for this video

@missskinndeepunapologetically 6 жыл бұрын

Can u please do a video on the boundaries of boyfriends, engagement marriage?

@wshelby83 6 жыл бұрын

Pastor Blakes, yes please do a video on this

@graciousmachamire7453 6 жыл бұрын

Kelli Carter I agree it would be a great topic

@eveheart2876 5 жыл бұрын

Sis on point

@Luvlysis4u 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, that'll be awesome. Thanks for suggesting!

@mwajumavieira3401 5 жыл бұрын

No sex!

@ashleyjackson7212 6 жыл бұрын

I love the way you look at each other and how Pastor Blake encourages Lady Lisa. I think Lisa should make regular appearances. We need a woman's perspective. Many Blessings

@rochelledabozz2069 6 жыл бұрын

Ashley Jackson indeed I loved it

@robincrawley311 6 жыл бұрын

Isn't it Beautiful!!! You Can see the Love they have for Each other, There is almost a Blush, So Sweet They Are!!! They Are Blessed, and such an Added Blessing To Us All!!! 😇😇😇

@shoshanna8475 4 жыл бұрын

My love has value, and someone else will be tickled that he blew it ;-)

@laurynorder3965 3 жыл бұрын

✨💆🏾‍♀️✨

@robindavidson2700 3 жыл бұрын

Omggggg this is confirmation that I’ve moved in the right direction Lord take the wheel 🙌🏽🙌🏽

@user-iq7hv7ud8u 9 ай бұрын

Facts, me too!! Glory to God ❤❤❤

@brittanychapman5438 5 жыл бұрын

I have listened to this at least 4 times and I keep hearing it differently each time I hear it. I REALLY needed this video in my life.

@nailslovr9378 4 жыл бұрын

Yes. Yes. Yes. And Mrs. Blakes adds invaluable perspective. I’ve already re-watched this several times too! This is powerful.

@musicmaker1311 3 жыл бұрын

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😩

@eleseclarke6038 3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@almarodriguez2085 3 жыл бұрын

They are both awesome !!! love her point of view and his as well. Very straight forward, bold and no sugar coating

@beauty4u132 2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking that I need to continue to listen as well. This might be my # 3 .

@4loveOnlyLOVE 6 жыл бұрын

Your wife is beautiful. This was very encouraging. I am a single mother of FOUR boys, all different fathers. I wear my heart on my sleeve and have given and given until I can't give anymore. I am not ashamed of my boys or their fathers... I have just been so quick to love and give my all. Thank you for the encouragement... I'm excited to see what God has for me.

@adoseofinfinity 5 жыл бұрын

4loveOnlyLOVE I’m glad to see that I’m not the same. Exact same situation! Continue to be encouraged ❤️

@elizabethmonica2307 5 жыл бұрын

4loveOnlyLOVE I am sending you love ... light and prayers

@mayhorse66 5 жыл бұрын

you are not alone! i didn't have a attentive Father to show me what to look for in a men. With low self esteem i chose the wrong men. At 40 my life changed - i said NO MORE. I've spent 12 years working on my self worth and i'm so grateful to God and videos like these. I am now happy to be single than with the wrong man. Now i only date good men. If they can't commit i walk away with my head held high.

@Elizanaa 4 жыл бұрын

Wow! 👏 you are a super hero. God will definitely use this for His glory! 🎉💙🧡

@lindsayowens4962 Жыл бұрын

Not saying marriage isn't for you, but speaking from a woman I feel is very similar to what you decribe in some ways (me),. Some of God's closest servants are women like us, with good hearts and checkered pasts, who God keeps single at least for a season. Have you ever considered going back to school, maybe to channel some of that passion.

@angelsattachedtoangst7576 4 жыл бұрын

I think this goes with the saying “Sometimes you have to let go to hang on.”

@SuperShandy777 2 жыл бұрын

@godpropertybarry335 4 жыл бұрын

Yes! I have never let a man waste my time. Bye bye period. Because of that I met the husband that God sent to me.

@yvettekammie8869 5 жыл бұрын

I was in a 6 year relationship and there were other issues and I walked away because he didn't want to commit. I refuse to waste any more of my life.

@dbedazzling1 4 жыл бұрын

Good for you. Some ppl engage a girl in 2 months.

@Prettyinpink0714 4 жыл бұрын

The people that really need to hear this is at the club

@klickingkayasmr7585 3 жыл бұрын

Yup.

@laurynorder3965 3 жыл бұрын

I felt that objectively ✨💆🏾‍♀️✨

@Ana-rb7ws 3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@teaonasmalls9379 3 жыл бұрын

😂

@pimpindymepiece 3 жыл бұрын

LOL this is a read!

@Clairebonita777 2 жыл бұрын

I can very well relate to this. Men do not buy what they can borrow We have to love with our brain intact; you won’t die if he leaves, in fact someone bettter will come along

@marthalopez6662 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Pastor RC Blakes JR for all you do and having Lisa join you. Many blessings 🙏🏼

@ellefont3813 6 жыл бұрын

I enjoyed Lisa and her transparency. It was an added bonus from a female prospective. Lisa please come again.

@Meeeksss 6 жыл бұрын

Mrs. Blakes, I love your honesty. I'm going to stop acting crazy. Lol... I've done the drive by.. search the computer.. u name it.. it's very unattractive. I needed to be rebuked. Thank u. It stops today!

@lisablakes8085 6 жыл бұрын

Meeeksss good for you Queen, praying your strength ❤️

@firesign4297 6 жыл бұрын

Meeeksss 🙇‍♀️🙆‍♂️🙇‍♀️..... AND also check out DERRICK JAXN...on you tube for ADDED POSITIVE STRENGTH🙇‍♀️🙏🙇‍♀️

@Mrs.T305 5 жыл бұрын

You can search the computer. Many men are secretive so you have to do the background checks to protect yoursleves. I've found many marriages and divorces by searching public records.

@October3074 4 жыл бұрын

Computer searches r good 2 find out if they're registered sex offenders.

@TheEmpowermentQueen 4 жыл бұрын

This has been such a blessing for me right now. Thank you both!

@tonterenata7149 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so very much for sharing these thoughts, and especially for bringing your wife along for this session. I have watched many of your videos, but seeing how peaceful, calm, smart, clean -and I could just list a bunch of more qualities like this- your wife is, gave real credit to all that you have said. She is the perfect representation to all your teaching about a real woman. I needed to see this, because now I have a real sense through her real example what I ought to become so I can set a great example to my daughter!!! Thank you!!!!!!

@ledaham2321 4 жыл бұрын

I bet you , he was driving pass your house to see if you was still there.

@Blkbeautee 6 жыл бұрын

I love it. She called your bluff and you woke up.

@lamiraclegasaway1832 5 жыл бұрын

I take a stand today Im a classy lady Wasted 18years with one man 2 years with another nomore

@ninalovelady3842 4 жыл бұрын

I really liked hearing Lisa's comments and seeing your mutual love and respect.

@jackiebell4288 2 жыл бұрын

A lot of women wasn’t taught how to date and how not to have premature benefits. I wish I was taught but glad I learned

@thejazzi1780 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your testimonys. I been. There.for a guy. We been friends for 3 yrs. Finally recently when he said I never said we were gonna be together. It cut me like a knife. But I wasn't crushed. Im becoming an Entrepreneur and doing me. Now hes chasing me. I gave it to God!

@SunShyne-of3xj 6 жыл бұрын

Yesss!!! To all of this!! I had to do exactly this!! Walked away and I'm not sure I'll even entertain him again. Prior to me dated someone for 6 years!!! NO ENGAGEMENT and then he walks away!! There is something else deeper going on with him. I gave him enough time (6months) to determine whether I'm who he wanted....His actions said otherwise so I was out!!

@jerriwilson4875 6 жыл бұрын

Enjoyed your perspective Lisa. Hope to see you and Pastor Blakes together again soon. God Bless

@munchkineatsalotvent9899 6 жыл бұрын

no there isn't LOL he doesn't have to want you because he's Fucking you get a clue lol also take that Stupid ass Weave out your hair

@MJ-vt4nb 6 жыл бұрын

Same, except he was with the previous woman for 14 years! I don't have 14 years to play around!

@Grillaland 6 жыл бұрын

how ignorant!

@missygreene75 5 жыл бұрын

Omg; I'm going thru the same thing after 7 yrs u should kw and stop making excuses!

@sealieal4s 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly the confirmation i needed to hear ❤️ Thanks Pastor and First Lady

@lainedowell9430 4 жыл бұрын

Mrs Lisa, your final thought has me tears eyed, thanks for encouraging me . Thanks.

@ece421 6 жыл бұрын

“Challenge the areas of your self-esteem that keep you waiting for someone who never shows up”. I really like this thank you! 🙏 Lisa thank you for being on, sometimes the advice that is given on this show comes across in a more real way when it’s coming from a woman’s voice. I think you also have great camera presence so I encourage you to post more video discussions. Thank you!

@CS-pl1re 5 жыл бұрын

She's so sweet

@blaknbeauty1 6 жыл бұрын

She is prrrrrretty! Nice looking couple!

@tomazavalkova4032 4 жыл бұрын

Your presence, Lisa, is hard to overestimate! You both are such a blessing! Thank you!

@beccareynolds4625 3 жыл бұрын

My internet mum and dad 🙏🏻 Thank you thank you thank you. Loving my self and letting go of toxic relationships. At 38 years old I’ve taken a battering emotionally and spiritually because I haven’t set healthy boundaries and because of low self esteem. Better late than never. Thank you so much for your wisdom. Much love 💕

@Natural1yDope 5 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this, After 4 1/2 yrs of dating and no commitment.. THANK YOU

@WoolyTresses 2 жыл бұрын

He'll get the cookies and couldn't care if they crumble. He'll sit and watch you waste away then go get another one.

@MimiCoco-gt7zo 3 ай бұрын

Whew that's deep

@keshiacowan5070 6 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this, After 2 yrs of dating and no commitment...yes it's time for me to let go!

@BraidedNikki 4 жыл бұрын

Whoa , I thought 2 months was too long. 2 years is forever girl .

@brujalinda 4 жыл бұрын

Keshia Cowan how did it go?

@kirk1007 4 жыл бұрын

YES

@MimiCoco-gt7zo 3 ай бұрын

@BraidedNikki Say it I've been interacting with a guy 4 months & he doesn't want to define the relationship. It's really starting to bother me.

@MsEma0810 3 жыл бұрын

I needed this. I added it to my favorites and I'll be watching again! I thank God for you two. Be blessed.

@tjelks 4 жыл бұрын

Ms Lisa, thank you SO much for your perspective! You know exactly how deep our love can go and how hard it is to let go when you feel you've given your all!! I thank you both for being the parents many of us never had and sharing wisdom that is so desperately needed today!! I pray we hear more from you both!!

@jessicajohnson2559 6 жыл бұрын

First Lady please come back, I really enjoyed your presence you both were amazing!

@daniellem578 6 жыл бұрын

This was nice pastor. Your wife is so sweet!

@kishagarrard9174 3 жыл бұрын

2021 ... your words are as power as the day you recorded this message. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Pastor.

@Tweety09042 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome message as always Pastor Blakes and I’ve been blessed to finally hear from your amazing queen👸🏽 Thanks and God bless you two❤️🙏🏽

@youme6206 6 жыл бұрын

Lisa, the nation of ladies would love to have you return. The balance I witness tonight was/is everlasting to my soul. Everyday is a special day. As women in there own time and healing will know that. They will reflect back to a true King and Queen with many thank yous and Praise. It's not a time to stay where you are. To the ladies of Virtue"Seek deep and pull her pretty self out and love her. Live for her. She's the other part of you that's been there through it all. Pull her back before she walk away too." Thank you Pastor and Mrs. Blake, extended family for this gracious time spent with each and every one of us. Truly grateful.

@missvictory1530 6 жыл бұрын

This came at the best time. It especially is hard when a man is telling you your going to be married soon but isn't acting out on it...we have to look at actions

@debperry1657 4 жыл бұрын

2 years later- led to this- what a blessing.. on point, pastor and first lady

@rominburstein7422 2 жыл бұрын

Loved having both a male and female perspective. I sent the cliffs notes of this video, with the link, to my best friend who’s struggling with this. We love Lisa!!!!

@78vette11 6 жыл бұрын

Good advice. A woman definitely sets the tone for a relationship

@BlackGirlwithPcos 6 жыл бұрын

She has a beautiful Spirit, loved this!!!

@islandbeauty1290 5 жыл бұрын

PCOS MAKEUP +1 she gives me Lisa Raye vibes

@WLynah 3 жыл бұрын

Lisa it's a pleasure to have you and your energy as a part of the discussion. You did a great job!!!!!!!!!!!

@saraifascinetto5437 Жыл бұрын

I continue seeing this once and again to strengthen my own commitments to myself. Good bless you both, King and Queen.

@ThrivewithJesus 6 жыл бұрын

Lisa, You did a great job!! Need to see you more

@firesign4297 6 жыл бұрын

Marcelline Zacca 👏👏👏

@dunteniafitts5959 6 жыл бұрын

Amen!!!

@CreoleLadyBug 5 жыл бұрын

Leave him alone. It’s useless to be with anyone who doesn’t want to live under God’s covenants. That includes women too.

@lesleyrosalia2305 3 жыл бұрын

Very too .

@laurynorder3965 3 жыл бұрын

Indeed

@princessdoll9964 3 жыл бұрын

Right on🙏🏿

@paulagratefulnoend9683 4 жыл бұрын

Best parenting ever!!!! I love the two of you together! Thank you for humbling yourselves and sharing to those of us in real need! I see things clearly now💥

@angelaborsella4453 4 жыл бұрын

I love the 2 of you so much. I cannot thank you enough for your genuine words of wisdom which come from a place of love. Thank you beyond words.

@queencanislupusofthewolfpa2247 5 жыл бұрын

If a man won't commit to you then he is not the man for you. I don't have to hear this one to know that he isn't the kind of man you need if there's no commitment!! And a woman shouldn't look down on herself if this is the case! There are too many potential suitors out there for a person to be focused on 1 individual! But staying focused on who she is as a positive force what it is she can do for herself is the key. Then she can link herself to the man that is really needed in her life!

@crystalcormier9376 4 жыл бұрын

You right Sis!!! But you know that ole sayin Man's rejection gods protection. I feel like this when man rejects me god is protecting me from this man. Much love Sis.❤❤❤❤

@mehonesty 6 жыл бұрын

Please come again Ms. Lisa...PLEASE!!! You did a WONDERFUL job!!! The camera LOVES you!!!

@lovetomarket 2 жыл бұрын

Lisa! What a treat and insightful perspective. And what a wrap on the topic in the end. WOW. What a great compliment to the discussion.

@nanabell402000 4 жыл бұрын

This was so very valuable. Loved hearing from both of you at the same time describing different perspectives. Thank you so much!!!!

@vzearchitect 6 жыл бұрын

I think your wife is VALUABLE. Thank you !!!

@sondramyles1120 6 жыл бұрын

I like a woman's view. This was a great discussions. More! More!

@againstallodds404 3 жыл бұрын

So glad you made these things transparent. This is really helping me. I was listening and taking notes until your wife spoke up and became really transparent about her feelings. At that point, is when I was able to not only take notes but to identify that what I felt was real. Thank you so much for sharing.

@jenniferskains2500 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Lisa for speaking directly to my heart! I am so grateful you joined RC. I needed to hear this and especially from your heart Lisa.....about to go have a very hard conversation with a 10 year relationship....cutting it. Blessings returned.

@drea2663 6 жыл бұрын

Lisa!!!! Please come back, this was so good. We need to hear from you! This was such a blessing

@reddqueen9722 6 жыл бұрын

Lol!!! Im cracking up at pastor and Mrs Lisa when she said i wanted to do all that the look on his face!!!!😂😂😂😂

@rochelledabozz2069 6 жыл бұрын

Redd Queen 😂😂😂😅

@lisablakes8085 6 жыл бұрын

Redd Queen lol, he was probably thinking about how busted he would have been. Lol

@elizabethmonica2307 5 жыл бұрын

I know !! 😂🤣

@ruthspillman546 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Lisa, for being a part of this teaching. I really needed a woman's perceptive on where I am and what I need to do. God Bless You Both!!!

@gigioso241 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve watched this twice and I love watching you two post videos together. You are both incredibly wise and we appreciate you for sharing the wisdom. ❤️ thank you 🙏🏽

@teresadavis8338 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks, Lisa, you are awesome. We do need more of you...the bible says the older women are to teach the younger women, you did a great job ....so this is biblical you will be bless!

@danilaroche3832 6 жыл бұрын

This is the most encouraging video. Wow. I used to be that woman.. loving the man and completely losing myself. I just didn't "get it". Now I do. Praise the Lord. Lisa, you are fantastic. You two should have your own show.

@deborahwhiteside4738 2 жыл бұрын

I thank God for your candor Lady Lisa. It was truly a blessing to see this video for the first time. A year later & it’s still relevant today. This was indeed uplifting & encouraging. Hope to see you again. God bless your marriage as you continue to teach others. Peace & blessings.👏🏾