What To Do When Your Husband Cheats On You Over And Over Again

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What To Do When Your Husband Cheats On You Over And Over Again | Paul Friedman

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When you are suffering the humiliation and frustration of a marriage that is not producing as it should it is important to step back to evaluate your thinking, not just his and your behaviors. Paul Friedman, founder of The Marriage Foundation themarriagefou... explains that when your husband cheats on you over and over again it is clear that the marriage is not producing ever-expanding love and happiness which are the key indicators of a well-run marriage. Let us show you the way! I think you will like knowing it is not over.
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@TheMarriageFoundation 3 жыл бұрын

Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by: 1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing. 2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways 3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant mission. Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.

@pinkysaka1512 6 ай бұрын

When the man keeps on cheating again and again it makes you feel less as a wife

@TheMarriageFoundation 6 ай бұрын

That is one of the effects but its also a signal to you that yyou caan and need to make changes that will recreate your marriage.

@Riyaaaa__621 Жыл бұрын

I'm just so devastated. 10 years and still suffering idk what to do anymore 😢

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

This will help you themarriagefoundation.org/system/

@sakurasakura2892 2 жыл бұрын

My husband keeps on cheating on me and everytime I forgive him and I take him back so easily. This time I wonder that maybe I should just leave because it felt like he just do what he wants because he can. He never felt the consequence of his actions. Im really confused. He knows I love him a lot but when do you set boundaries? How will he understand that what he was doing isnt ok and is deeply hurtful?

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

Setting boundaries on unconditional love is not what we teach. Nor do we teach expectations of others. Learn to love, unconditionally.

@sakurasakura2892 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheMarriageFoundation I've been reflecting on what you said for many months and it is only now that I am understanding the wisdom behind it. When you trust in God, in His timing and justice, there is no fear.

@MariaMaria-sr8zg Жыл бұрын

@@j4blaser Everyone has free will. Of course anyone is free to leave anything and anyone but she seemed like she was seeking help to stay . If she wanted to leave she wouldn't be seeking videos and asking questions. Most people and media would tell her to leave. She can find that advice anywhere. She seemed like she was seeking advice to attempt to make her marriage work. Not all marriages can be saved but doesn't mean she should give up if she wants it to work without trying to make it work. I don't know if her marriage worked but she seems to have found some peace within herself ,which is never a bad thing.

@Mscoffiedash Жыл бұрын

Sorry

@sakurasakura2892 9 ай бұрын

@@sweetpea7362 So sorry I just saw your comment. Yes he did stopped. I have prayed for him incessantly. He doesnt pray before but now he even initiates praying with me.

@rissarich88 3 ай бұрын

Do they love unconditionally in return? There are people that no matter what you do they will always be who they are. It is so hard to be in a relationship where you no longer who you are.

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

The whole purpose of learning to love unconditionally is "selfish" because it brings tremendous rewards, but not from others. It is the true self-fulfilment we all seek.

@sugarcane1able 3 ай бұрын

Yes men suck

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

I would suggest you work on being an amazing woman, filled with understanding an compassion rather than slip into negative spaces.

@sugarcane1able 3 ай бұрын

They still suck

@Ketaki2024 2 ай бұрын

Deliberate n guiltless in cheating. Integrity is sold. How to forgive such a man who doesnt acknowledge that cheating is wrong. Are you Rationalising cheating?

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 ай бұрын

As difficult as it might be to step out emotional outrage and humiliation it is what one must do to progress. I don't condone cheating on any level but we want a great marriage not a condemnation and you cannot have both

@72missyme Жыл бұрын

If you loving him unconditionally and he is cheating what else is next?

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

I am glad you asked because the concept of unconditional love is so misunderstood and most people think they do indeed love their partner unconditionally,, and are trying to demonstarte their love, but are not. The easiest "tests" are 1. You never feel resentment or disappointment because of his errors... because your love for him is greater than those. 2. You are swimming in joy regardless of anything in your outer world. Learning to love unconditionally is a path, a process, and heals your connection.

@grayce6509 Жыл бұрын

I hear what your saying and understand just found out my husband of 26 years has been cheating for 23 of those years. What happens next that's the 6 milion dollar question.. STAY STRONG

@hollikrebs 4 ай бұрын

@@TheMarriageFoundationif only he would love me that way

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

You can love him that way but it is not reflected in your words. Its not your fault! We must learn to cultivate the flowers of the soul.

@omawattieram5805 4 ай бұрын

Very good advice i am going to try it god bless you

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

Thank you and God bless you, too 🙏

@zainabkhan8846 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for the topic you have sharing us.very interesting.

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

and thank you, too. The world improves when ouur marriage improves.🙏

@reshmaliani2032 Жыл бұрын

What a fantastic video…I mean the content. It is soul stirring and touching. I am working on your advice and things are surely falling in place. Your words are spiritual and you have given marriage this beautiful spiritual dimension which has gone missing in our mundane world.

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

I don't know why this has been "hidden" but I was also blown away by what I discovered. It changed my life!

@tinaberry6466 3 ай бұрын

Mine has cheated for the past 7 years

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

It is not something to just live with but it is up to you to briing more love into your marriage. themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/

@pinkysaka1512 6 ай бұрын

Thank you I'm doing my best to store my marriage

@TheMarriageFoundation 6 ай бұрын

Perhaps we can help yyou with our marriage help course. Come, visit our website themarriagefoundation.org/ 🙏

@dylome13 Жыл бұрын

You made me follow you after you said that why would you have a burger in the street if you have a Buffet at home I love that

@johanahmicahmaslar2160 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I am thankful for your advice and will do it 🙂

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

What we offer works so if you also need the marriage course for women don't hold back.

@carolynshaw8206 Жыл бұрын

I found this just in time.

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

I love how often we hear those words! In God's time...🙏

@lheamacalib-og7390 11 ай бұрын

I’m single but got curious.. for future reference! Thank you so much! 😇💪😍

@thefoodtubeprincess Жыл бұрын

Stop and think (change your mindset) Which opens your heart!

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

Opening your heart is not automatic. We need to cultivate our love

@erikaalmazan2850 5 ай бұрын

I have been married for 18 years found out my husbad had an affair for almost 2 years he says he want to stay in the marriage but keeps telling me that i control him and am checking up on him. I gave him his space back i mean i have no social media with him no password or anything that has to do with him. Is this another red flag thay i should not keep trying to make my marriage work?

@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын

The truth, and our experience, is that when you change yourself you change the dynamic of your marriage and start fresh. Giving up is a bad idea. Use the course for women.

@JennieMelville 5 ай бұрын

This was beautiful

@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын

Thank you, that which is love-based in your marriage is that whiich will help both of you. 🙏

@hollymaxwellboydell 3 жыл бұрын

Does this apply to where a man focuses on his work / career or anything else over and above his marriage / spouse / family?

@hollymaxwellboydell 3 жыл бұрын

PS. Wonderful insight in this message, thank you, Paul Friedman. It is so empowering to be shown how to manage ourselves better before we shift the focus to others. 💎

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 жыл бұрын

Perhaps, but I like to answer in different ways in different videos especially for those who won't read one of my books or take a course so they start to get a feel for how to live in a happier marriage through self-work.

@Brookelynn384 Жыл бұрын

I'm in the same boat!!

@Emmanuel-cn4qe 10 ай бұрын

I am in the same boat

@Pix8814 Ай бұрын

I will definitely try this thank u so much.❤

@TheMarriageFoundation Ай бұрын

Most welcome 😊

@riyana3034 5 ай бұрын

Well done

@TheMarriageFoundation 5 ай бұрын

Now, you have a real way to turn things around...use the course!!!!

@sbmyra5696 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much

@Naan795 2 жыл бұрын

Can you create testimonials? Would be great to have that extra gas from others.

@TheMarriageFoundation 2 жыл бұрын

They are on our website

@angieraposonamaro7728 Жыл бұрын

@SphindilezikodeeZikodee 4 ай бұрын

What if his gay ?

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

Whether one is gay or streight loyalty is the highest law and the response to cheating should first be an acknowledgement that the marriage is not functioning. Learn how to be married. 🙏

@MariaMaria-sr8zg Жыл бұрын

I may be wrong but seems like what some commenters are overlooking is this is for people who want their marriage to work. Not ones who have given up. If both have given up then it probably can't be helped at least not by one video. If only one has given up the other can still do the work to fix it. Not all marriages can be fixed. I've never seen the claim by anyone but many can and don't need to end in divorce. If you're watching a video to find out how to Make your marriage work then you haven't given up. If you're watching a video to find ammo against your spouse and proof you're right and he is wrong then it probably isn't going to help. Again, I may be off base on all or some of my statements. I'm certainly not a counselor nor an expert in anything.

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

*Wisdom*

@standground7956 9 ай бұрын

Please correct me if I’m wrong. When someone cheats, aren’t they demanding the end to the relationship? If someone is aware that infidelity will ruin their relationship, then cheating is someone making a series of conscious decisions to betray their spouse. At that point they have decided that after careful consideration that cheating is definitely worth risking the relationship. That said, should everyone involved seek to terminate the relationship?

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

People are not so strategic. We all act mostly out of habit and "go with the flow". What they are 'saying' is "I'm not getting my needs met" and so I am desperately seeking elsewhere. Learn to love, unconditionally! Get the marriage help course so your efforts are effective.

@lilliantaka753 Жыл бұрын

Thanks 🎉it’s a unique advise

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

It is usable and practical but bear in mind that hearing about the path to take isn't enough, You need the course for women to truly benefit from this perspective because there is a lot you must now do if you want your husband back themarriagefoundation.org/

@tomlehr861 Жыл бұрын

Ive been married 40 years. And have cheated,this is so true what he says. I have gone years then slipped. I feel very bad, and dont want to slip again.

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

I suggest that you need the course for men...themarriagefoundation.org/system/ it will give you the tools so you CAN achieve more than just the selfcontrol (SEW technique) but have a marriage that is wonderful.

@JJ-gh5vz Жыл бұрын

Loving unconditional is godly and if your husband admits he might wanted to have sex with his whatever you might call that it hurts.. married for 20yrs

@ravenr876 10 ай бұрын

@@standground7956; She’s been with him for years. She’s riding it out for her own reasons. Some women get to the point they don’t care . My spouse works out of town. I love being by myself. The money helps..oh yea, he cheated..No more tears here

@janvan4424 17 күн бұрын

Isn't anyone concerned about all the sexually transmitted diseases from their cheating husbands?

@joanoconnor6693 3 ай бұрын

When you do all of that and they still cheat. Consider a pastor cheating. You were not expecting it.

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

Pastor or bricklayer, it doesn't matter what role we play in life. Unless we know how to create a deep union every day everyone is susceptable to temptation

@reshmaliani2032 Жыл бұрын

Very beautifully said indeed

@JohnBale-il6er Жыл бұрын

God bless you too..

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

3 жыл бұрын

I want to be a buffet, lol. I guess it takes time, effort, and the course for me. lol 🙏🏽

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 жыл бұрын

Become the greatest dish he has ever had, and yes, it takes intention, a system (ours works, I'm glad you found it), and definite action. It sounds like you are moving in the right direction and I am happy for you both.

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheMarriageFoundation 🙏🏽Thanks! You are SO POSITIVE✨✨✨🤣😂! I am getting there, it's gonna take patience, love, and work👍🏽❤😘

@jennieg821 4 ай бұрын

Sometimes they just cheat.

@TheMarriageFoundation 4 ай бұрын

Sorry, but NO! Cheating is an act they do so they don't just cheat. The question is whether you will say "what can I do?" or "oh, well" Make your marriage amazing, even after that.

@GivenKamunenge 3 ай бұрын

Am heart broken

@TheMarriageFoundation 3 ай бұрын

Now that you have gone through this the options exist for you to uplift yourself and move positively into love and learn how to be married so you can restart your marriage.

@yashupavvi9270 Жыл бұрын

Hii ... My husband cheating on me since from past 2 years... I come to know that and i was questioned him so he left me once ... After 8 months he came back and he convinced for me to live together... And we have been together from past 3 months but again i have noticed that he is cheating on me with other girl .... When I am asking to him he is trying to hide and telling some stories which i can't trust him again... What to do in this situation i am totally confused and i love him alot... But i couldn't able to accept him ... Can you please help over this ...

@TheMarriageFoundation Жыл бұрын

Only healing the marriage as a whole will change the dynamics, so I would recommend the course for women, and if wishes, but don't push him, he can always choose to take the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/