My husband has applied for the divorce. I got the papers this week so you can image how I am feeling right now . We have been separated for two years but I had hope. I still hope. I don’t know where I am going but I know that God didn’t take me here to leave I am still praying and standing for my marriage and i know that god is still in control.

Fear that I'll never get my wife back, that I'll never live in my 🏠 again. Fear that the truth will never come out. I've been vilified to so many people. Fear you that my wife will move on with someone else. Fear that I'll die alone. Fear of being hurt, rejected again

This is for John.. You are not alone and will not die alone. God is with you John.. He is with you always.. I am praying for you.

Oh, I felt hopeless to levels I've never experienced. Heartbreak beyond anything I've ever felt. Honestly, this feels worse than my father dying. I feel lost, confused, betrayed, sad, depressed, sprinkled off with a little anxiety. I'm sure I'm forgetting a few other emotions there too. I got served today at work. Financially, I'm done for. I'm about to lose everything I've ever worked for. Going to have to sell this house, which I'm going to take a loss on.

After my spouse filed for a divorce I acted like it was final and then was advised to buy her flowers and tell her I was sorry. She asked me to work on myself, which I did, but the more time passed, the worse things got. It was disheartening because I had changed for the better, but she changed for the worse. It is super painful and it feels like she’s choosing the worse path. It doesn’t make sense and I don’t know what to do. I keep praying and I am believing in a good outcome. I hate the feeling of loss and I’m grieving the death of our marriage.

My wife filed for divorce. She doesn’t want to hear from me anymore. She told me she doesn’t want a relationship with me or any man. She wants to be alone. She taking out on me for what happened to her when she was younger. She thought I was heading there and I was not! So, I am out. Tried to talk rationally about it to her which did not work, tried to even show her, but she didn’t believe me. So I can’t win at this point. So I going to work again on myself until she changes

Angry, hurt, disbelief and sick. So many emotions I cant even think of right now. It went from a separation to divorce within weeks. He refuses to talk over the phone. I feel so alone.

I’m feeling upset. We always told each other we would never do this. We have something huge in common. We would both do anything for our children! Why not fight for our marriage for them to start? Our faith does not align with divorce and I can’t understand why he’s allowing this and making this choice. It’s filed. I spoke to my attorney today. I’m sad.

What should we do than?

If someone walks out on you, let them go!!! More often than not they've plotted and schemed the exit. Do not beg them to come back. If they left in a disrespectful and disgusting way, karma will find them eventually!!!

My spouse said he spoke with an attorney because this isn’t going to work. He filed last year but we reconciled. I’m without income now and I’m afraid of the financial problems

Can you do a video on the fear of being alone?

Fear of loneliness. Saddness. Financial implications

Fear of his behavior. He’s so calm, he says he will always be there for me. How? Fear that he seems to be so distant that he will come to me with the divorce documents at any time. Fear that the people he’s hanging with have so much influence on him. Divorced/separated men’s who have said they separated for their own health. Word he repeated to me

You are a sweetheart, thank you so much. As I’ve been listening to y’all since my separation April 3 2020, y’all been a big encouragement to me. And I’m still hoping and praying for my wife to give me another chance.

My fears are that he will never come back to me, our family will remain broken and separated, our kids will grow up with divorced parents, I won’t grow old with the love of my life....

What happens after SMART contact? On which point does it transition to getting back together? Do you wait for your spouse to take the first move?

my only good friend on this journey is this channel

We're only 2 months into separation but I know its coming at the 1 year. Fear i'll never get the answers I wanted.

Fear. Shocked. Was supposed to be a legal separation. Completely side swiped. Calm now. Super emotional after the paperwork. Called her to talk. And explain why us.

Thank you so much for sharing this video. I loved your advices 👍👍❤🤗you make me strong .

My wife, once divorced, takes great pride that she never took her last husband back. I am scared that there is no chance for us if she files against me.

The movie Groundhog Day reflects how we should work on the PIEs.

My wife just said she wants a divorce because I wanted her to give me a chance and have done everything to push her away. It is so hard because I just look at my family and want to keep that together. I have been working on me through counseling & hypnosis. I have the PIES workbook & trying Smart contact. You are correct be positive.

In my situation my wife asked for a divorce. She refused to file so I did instead. Because I couldn’t allow the delay of the process. At this junction I’ve told her that if we get divorced today and married tomorrow I’m fine but we cannot drag it out. I did this after a month of waiting to be served. As far as emotion I’ve been/going through them all. She seems to not care but what can we do.

My wife is filing for divorce because she is convinced it will give her closure from my past infidelities. I’ve come clean entirely but I still understand and respect her will to divorce but I strongly feel she is making life changing decisions in a very dangerous state. She refuses therapy or couples mediation. I’m concerned not that she is divorcing me (I don’t want it but I can’t convince her) I’m concerned she will be destroyer by the reality once it hits. Please any advice?

My wife filed for divorce about 2 months ago . There is a no contact order. She has a lawyer I do not. All communication goes threw her lawyer. I asked to speak with her face to face. She won't do it because she is trying to run from our marriage and when she told me at first she had tears in her eyes. She is just trying to stay away long enough to were she can just forget about me. She said are marriage is toxic and all we do is argue. Since then I've gotten closer to God found some mentores and lost weight . If I can't talk with her how can we ever talk about our differences. I wanted to go to joint counseling. She didn't want to because she said it would just be tit for tat. She said we need to work on ourselves.

So much to discuss here ... my husband is taking a break and needs space for the week because he needs time to think if this marriage is worth continuing....he has mentioned filing for divorce. I am in such a depression and I’m so scared to lose him. My anxiety is out the roof when I think he will make his ultimate decision to let us go. It already feels like I have lost him.

My husband applied for divorce we are still living together we did activities as a family, now he says we are separated since July last year, we slept separate rooms but other things we did as a family.

My wife hasn't filed yet. She has told me she is moving out as soon as possible. Doesn't want to talk about "us" as a married couple or being in a relationship. I feel completely lost, hopeless and have a strong feeling of resentment from her. I feel like she completely hates me

My husband not just filed the divorce but we had signed the paper 10 days a ago. I fought against but at end I was obligated to sign it.Unfornately...

Kim thank you so much now my spouse already filed , and i can not cry even tho i want after watch this im crying a lot about my griev, i want to talk to someone but i really feel lonely and mental really break

I am so worried that my wife’s first request to meet me in the seven months since she ordered me out of our home after 32 years of marriage is to tell me that she has asked her attorney to go ahead with filing for divorce. I am so worried about the effect this choice is going to have on our three adult daughters and our children’s children. I have a vision of what God could do in our “second” marriage and how it could be a blessing to our children’s children and not the curse that could result from our permanent failure to uphold our sacred marriage covenant. Any outcome other than the restoration of our relationship would be such a devastating disappointment to me. Please please God, help us. Make me an instrument of your love.

Man, "focus on the positive", good advice. Why is there a👎 ? This is encouraging.

My husband attempted tinserve me yesterday. We've been separated since November. He left me for someone else.

If they file for divorce. Let them go. Move on with your life and trust the process. The divine closes doors for a reason. Be grateful for the life experiences and soul lessons.

I know I’ll NEVER trust enough again to wanna ever marry again. I was more the reason why we’re separated, but recently I worked hella hard on myself to be a better me. I strongly feel she doesn’t see the same for herself, which is why I doubt this separation will end without divorce.

Overwhelmed and betrayed

My husband has been having an affair with his high school sweetheart for three years now and said when he can afford it he wants a divorce but I know that I don't. I know he's not happy but he's so stubborn he will say he is. What should I do.

Such a helpful video - thank you so much

I was completely drained that my husband field for divorce. I was worried about my son future. I felt that ,I am not good enough for my husband , I felt very low from my side , i lost my confidence.

Great advice, Kimberly! I wish I would’ve had this info when my wife had me served. It’s been about 10 months now and I’m standing strong from a marriage. I’ve learned to incorporate many of the things that you’re talking about now, which really helps. I’m not gonna say that the pain in the fear Doesn’t creep in, but I know what I’m doing is right and God will restore my marriage!

God bless this channel y'all are amazing

What if its me who decided to leave?? Is it normal to miss my spouse?? I am very confused about my own thoughts

Fear that I will miss out on things with her and my kids, fear of after 18 years see her with someone else, fear of not being able to hug her and have her on my bed, afraid of everything that could happen if we do get divorced.

My husband filed for divorce we were together 33 years now he said he is in love with a high school sweetheart he moved out 4 months ago to live with her l fear that he is moving on he shows no love for our daughters he acts like a different man . I pray for restoration of my marriage but to be honest I am loosing hope he treats me like if I am his enemy because He is mad at me for asking for half of his retirement pension I don’t want to divorce him but at the same time I have to protect my self and my daughters financially I am hurt , confused, I need help

Feeling angry. Frustrated. Sad. Hopeless. Fearful of how it will impact my kids (8,6,2)

Hi there ex left in April now wants a divorce I'm so confused the pain of him leaving was bad enough now divorce

I messed up my marriage. I am filled with regret with what I wish I changed. My wife and I are Christians and I didn’t walk the walk. I failed her and my family and myself most of all. I did everything wrong. I begged, was spiteful. I dated someone during the separation. I’ve changed but it may be too late. I miss my Kids more than I can believe. Please pray for Me. I need the prayers so bad.

I would want it more then any lottery 😐

Thank you

My husband filed and I was served January 2020 I'm heart broken hurt angry there is a younger female involved he is 49 and she is 37 she cheated on her husband 2 times with a minor and is a sex offender and divorced I love my husband and fear that we will not be able to save our marriage he won't even have communicate with me

Every emotion that you just described, thats it.

Mine has filed. Had a lawyer. I seen it comming. For about 4 or 5 months I was in fear of comming home to the papers.

My husband said he met with an attorney to file for divorce, I am heartbroken and Hurt. However, he told me he would maybe reconsider after space. I’m giving him his space as hard as it is. He told his family and friends and his family has alienated me. It’s so hurtful… I’m hoping after space he will reconsider. I’ve lost so much weight and can’t focus but I’m trying to take care of myself

After I found out he filed, I felt defeated, sad, numb and hurt

I stay in India and I'm not sure how I can get in contact with you guys. I am in a critical situation, need help!

My wife filed for divorce, and 2 months later after our separation, she already started seeing someone... 10 months after our separation she tells me that she is happily dating her new boyfriend. It still hurts really bad even after 10 months. I gave her back all the letters she ever wrote me...

Everyone tells me to start dating as well since my ex-husband already has a gf. I'm trying but it's hard to fully commit since I get extremely emotional. I get more depressed than if I were alone. I've been pushing myself but maybe I need to give myself time to grief instead.

My situation sucks because spouse doesn’t want to play nice with marital debt so I have to protect myself but my state doesn’t do legal separation and you can only go the divorce route. I don’t want a divorce and it’s a really bad situation too but I believe in us.

......feeling sorry for a spouse and thinking you can help them be a better person ....is why most people need a divorce ... I'm not xonvinced

Celebrate yourself. Wonderful.

Very very emotional,and scared

My husband served me.after difference be cause he cohabitated with another woman I feel we nevet gave our marriage the best my spouse never wanted us to talk and reconcile but rushed for divorce pettition. I feel bad for my children and my dream for my marriage

My husband went to a lawyer to ask to have the paper work to file for divorce completed. I do not want the divorce because I see what skills we Both can do. I am willing and husband is not open or will he talk about anything. He is putting all blame on me. 25 years, our house is all paid for and it could just be he and I loving life. Husband does not feel I trust him and he want to limit me with my work and my finances. I’ll take your courses yet being in limbo is so hard.

So my wife filed for divorce a year ago, but it didn't officially show as filed until January of this year. I just got served a week before my birthday which is 8 months from that date. My whole world feels like it's crumbling all around me

My wife moved back with her mom in July which is 2 States away (8 hours far), stated that we need to separate. Since we have had communication. Some conversations were good others not so good. More recently we had a stupid argument a week ago and she said she's done with the marriage. She says that she's coming home to pick up the rest of her things that she left. Because of my arrogance and impatience I pushed her away. I'm at a loss, I don't know what to do, I just want her back so we can mend our marriage 😭.

How about bringing affection and intimacy back to save your marriage? I am appreciating your videos. Thank you!

Once my wife of 20 years told me she wants a divorce, part of my just died. Part of me was killed instantly. My whole life was destroyed...

When your spouse files for divorce what is next? What steps need to be taken. I’m completely lost on what to do.

How do I find 🔎 out if he filed?

Hi... is it possible to assist persons outside of the US?

And I'm running against time..matter of days before he leaves

Ex wrote all kinds of lies in the declaration, would those lies be given any weight?

My wife wants us to sign mediation papers. I guess technically that's the beginning of the divorce process....

I was shocked and blown away that she filed. I got into bad argument with wife and I asked if she was wanting to leave me or divorce me, took a picture of ring asking if I'd be taking it off cause I screwed up so badly

Thank you ma'am.

I am completely lost and hopeless. I don't know how ow to deal wit it. I need help pls I'll pay whatever

Amazing video.

My wife of 14 yrs just got an apartment. Threatened divorce, is VERY distant. I’ve been advised to file for legal separation to protect myself & our son (who is with me) as SHE is the breadwinner. But I DO NOT want a divorce. Maybe legal separation will give her “space”, give us time to work on things, “call her bluff”?

My husband moved out my house my daughter seemed sad divorce

I have been working on my pies for more than a year now while he has moved out and in with her filed for divorce and had a child...I don’t think there is hope for us.

My divorce is one step away to be completed, what is your advice or is there’s any hope?

I need help my wife filed today for divorce

After 18 yrs of marriage and 23 yrs together... 3 months ago she sent me a message that she moved out. Said she doesn't love me anymore. Says she's hurt and angry. Said she needs space and to find herself. Three weeks ago she said again that she doesn't love me and she wants a divorce. She has contacted me twice in the last three weeks about our 19yr old and our 16yr old sons who live with me. There is no other contact. I don't know what to do. I'm not texting or calling her.

I have a question: divorce happened 2 months ago and she has moved out. She calls me and texts me half about our kids and if she’s having trouble with something. She gives me hugs that last but she is quick to tell me to move on. I won’t give up on her and us. What is she saying when she says move on.

Total rejection

Has this actually worked for anyone?

My mom cheated on her husband which was my stepfather

Fear that my wife will never love me again

Failure,beginning of the end.

I filed and I'm a mess I still want her back but I hate her and love her I'm pretty much Morgan Wallen whole album

my wife is a loner because of what happened in her life she has a hard time in loveing someone and now she is gone im trying to keep it togther but it is over after 25 years sad then is that i still love her

I have something kind of different but in away same. I want to know about couples who divorced because of the other woman. I was married for 30 yrs and for a year he was having an affair until I started finding out some strange things of course. He befriended a guy that worked with hims wife. I had told him to leave her alone if she needed some one to talk to... l will talk to her. Well after months of him helping her out she got a divorce. He was focused on her I became nothing. I tried everything! Our sons were devastated that he chose her. They were senior in high school and the other in college. He said he got his kids raised he was done. So I talked counsel ing he said no. The other woman was always saying come to me I’m worth it. How can you fight that 12 yrs younger and thought she was all that. She had kids still in grade school. Now an ex she had to deal with. I finally took a time out by myself and decided to divorce him. He couldn’t make a decision me or her so I did it for him. Been divorced for 9 years now he wants to talk and visit with me. I have always loved him. He says he feels sorry for me that’s why it took 30 yrs to leave lol. He is still with the other woman and she has tried to be friends with me but that’s not happening lol. What should I do. I have moved on to two relationships that didn’t work out. Now I am single he wants to talk a little more should I? How

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does this chick even have a doctorate in basic psychology?

I fear that my wife never loved me... I am afraid that I will never be good enough to get her back!! the fear of what i have done will do to me kids.

My husband served me.after difference be cause he cohabitated with another woman I feel we nevet gave our marriage the best my spouse never wanted us to talk and reconcile but rushed for divorce pettition. I feel bad for my children and my dream for my marriage

थैंक यू गुरु जी आप की हेल्प से मेरे और मेरे पति का तलाक होने से रुक गया है गुरु जी के नंबर है 𝟖𝟏𝟒𝟔𝟑𝟏𝟔𝟏𝟕𝟓🙏🙏🙏

My husband served me.after difference be cause he cohabitated with another woman I feel we nevet gave our marriage the best my spouse never wanted us to talk and reconcile but rushed for divorce pettition. I feel bad for my children and my dream for my marriage