Fantastic 😆

I will use it!

How about, “I am going to pray that you have a better day!”?

Thats actually a cool response. Takes the wind out of their sails and shows you're a caring compassionate person at the same time.

That is my absolute favorite. People’s jaws drop. They’re expecting a fight. They are speechless.

Paula Estcourt, he will go far in the world.

Epic response! Kudos to your grandson -- and the people who raised him.

hee, good for him! A mentor of mine has a saying, "What other people think of me is none of my business."

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Forgot to mention it in the video. I've gotten further with "I don't care" than I have with saying nothing, especially with people who aren't necessarily able to infer what "okay" or "thank you" would actually mean in this context and only know it as an acknowledgement that whatever he/she said is true, and who also know that silence definitely means admitting defeat.

Yeah, he is!

BR, great quote.

That would be an awesome tattoo !!!

Top quote 👍

I love that🙌😁

Thanks for watching.

Hey I love this one! As someone who has always been told my men that I'm "not good enough" as a friend/girlfriend/wife, I'll try that next time!

*Cackles* good one!

I LOVE THIS! Your son sounds very kind and compassionate.

That is perfect! Your son is awesome.

😂😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣 Brilliant response 🤣😂🤣😂👍🏻

Brilliant.

Cindy D, so do I.

My therapist always tells me this one!! Love it!

@@kimmyball4961 that’s exactly where I heard it too. Lol I think they are onto something 🙏🏼

🤣🤣😭😭😭😭

I didn’t hear him mention that one but I still fancy it nonetheless. Cheers 😊

Christine, sounds like it may be working well for you.

True. I’ve had people say to me “oh so now you’re gonna ignore me? that’s so immature.”

I was bullied at school and followed my parents advice to try and ignore the bully - as if I was paying them any attention in the first place. My school life was miserable. All the bullying stopped in a flash when I lost it and punched a boy in the throat. Never happened again.

Know your culture and your audience.

Embrace the culture and think outside the box

You mean the culture of the last 4 years? That is not our culture. Jesus said turn the other cheek when you're attacked, same as strategic non response. THAT was our culture for the last 2000 years. Those who still follow JESUS....still have that culture.

That is a good point! 👍🏼

Beautiful said. Thank u John Granato

Brilliant!

Perfect!

A loose take from a quote of Buddha... My quote is as likely as inaccurate, as well, lol: If a man refuses to accept a gift (of an insult, etc.), whose gift is it? It remains/belongs to the giver. Roll it off like water on a duck's back...? If one person says "___" about/to you? What EVER, as the kids say. If 2-3 say the same thing? Hmmm. Might give it some thought in your prayer closet. If several peeps say the same thing? I/we/you are the common denominator. HATE IT WHEN THAT HAPPENS! Last time I walked on water was in the shower this morning, and bc the drain was half plugged. OUCH!, LOL! 🤣✔🤣 I am not a Buddhist, but a follower of the teachings of Jesus Christ, a Christian. However, that being said, there were and are many wise men and women around the World... those that teach us to be better, wiser people... Hopefully... ⚘🙏❤🙏⚘

Love this response! It puts them a little off-center… points out there’s something wrong with THEM and their words/behavior has revealed that.

… I like that … ! … very effective …

Swiss American, confusion can work!

I like that reply.

Love this one

Love it!

tmUSA, thank you for sharing.

Paul Burkholder I think that is the best one for a school bully or any bully.

I really like that one.

Try that against Arselmo or Long Island Audit or Amagansettpress or Silence Boy or American Amy or News Now Houston or SVG and see how far you get.

@@slapdashdumper I think you missed the point.

@@paulburkholder9690 No Paul , if one was dealing with decent people then these situations wouldn't arise in the first place.......you have to realise that "When you are dead, you do not know you are dead, it's only painful for others - the same applies when you are stupid.”

Nunya Bidness, I like your screen name.

That's brilliant!!

Omg... Hi, cuz!

And, my laundry, maybe.

@baronflemp Huh? Oh. Nevermind.

I like him.

That's a good one lol

That’s fantastic!! It’s now in my arsenal of responses. Thank you.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV what if someone labelled me? How to respond carefully

A Av, you are the parent your children need. Thank you.

I don't even see anything wrong in being ugly.

@@PersonOfBook exactly, as long as you look the way you were ment too be!

It's being ugly on the inside that's the problem. Looks are just a wrapper.

@@pjgarret7653I really like this input, huge thanks and big hugs 🤗

NIce one

wow

Thank you. I didn't know that I was gay , until last night, when you started to make out with me. I feel so much better being out in the open, like you are. Thanks for outing us.

Wow. You're doing a great job with that kid. Good job!! I love seeing comments like this.

Look Harvey, look everyone,look at what I found!

Bertaboop1955, that stings.

ooohhh nice i felt the sting! I like that response. I am going to use that!

👏💥👏

Fantastic 👏👏👏👏👏

@Bertahoop1955...Whilst that may sound clever it will produce a counter response and before you can blink you will be in a slanging match with this POS. Thus, as the guy in the video said, you will be giving tacit legitimacy to the original comment/insult. A simple "Thank You" may not sound as 'clever' but it is more disarming.

Renee, agreed.

Except that sometimes when they detail their point they insult you further.

motodfens, use it to serve you.

Love them thats what the Bible say

Z Song EXCELLENT!

Golden 👌🏾

"Uve mistaken me for someone who gives a sh*t"

I saw a young lad at work taking it for 20 minutes straight from the resident bully. He got on with his work, said nothing, and when she had finished he calmly turned around and said; "I think you are confusing me for someone who cares what you think. However, thank you for sharing, I will be sure to forget it all instantly!" Not even 18 years old, bloody brilliant!

Z Song, that says a lot.

😂😂😂👏👏👏

Brilliant. Well done.

Fat girls rock

🤣🤣

Nice!

Perfect.

That works.

M K, that is too funny.

Awesome!!

I will sometimes say, "You're an amateur next to my mom".

@@annawimpey5307 just one word. Just one: "mom?" The reactions are so all over the place. lol

Lmaooooo ima try that

Maria Barker, that's good.

That works!

Regina Gray, you are a natural.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thanks!

Like looking at a shark in an aquarium.

How to not absorb?

@@billihawk368 Who knows, what could work for you. I'd suggest fx "I'm an author, and I'm here to study this subject, without him/her ever noticing that-mode", or "watching a movie".?

Love this.

@@billihawk368 do not accept their negative opinion to be truthful.

S Navillus, I didn't remember that one, maybe I never saw it. It is gold.

LOL….I gotta try that one! 😂😂😂

Actually in the movie they all thought he was an idiot and didn't laugh but I get just you're saying

I love that!

😳😂😂😂👌🏽

Carleen Turner, good for you!

So Done, awesome!

myhrr3, so do I. I love this stuff.

Chris Graham, thank you. We don't know the background of everyone.

On point! Just do not engage, Waay Too much mental illness out there, scary times!

That is excellent insight, about people who potentially have mental illness. We never know how someone will react....or over-react....or have a gun ....

in our culture in Algeria, the automatique response to a curse is a big punch with a fist on the face, there is no other responses. but here in U.S with too much laws police etc, it makes itcomplicated and poeple need to make this kinda videos...again, if the culture alaws a physical response or violense to someobe who curses you, poeple will think twise or more before they curse anyone for minimum reason.

I tell them, " I love you as well" along with a big smile 😁

Mel-Ka Om, Thank you.

Tanya Lee, you made my day. You are the reason we started the channel. Glad we can meet.

beeorganic, can get you in other kinds of trouble, be careful.

Lol

Very funny. I like the idea of giving a person a good ass whoopin!! Back in the day used to work really well.

Yup, a good old fashioned knuckle sandwich !!

While I don't suggest violence is the answer, I have seen this work on a number of occasions, very effectively I might add.

T.T. Love, yes, life is too short. Use it where it will have more impact.

Saying nothings the best and then walking off. Why give time to someone who doesn't deserve it. You're way better than them.

Thank you so much for the wonderful advice!

Absolutely 💯%

I'm a pretty reserved person. I try to just not make eye contact if possible. I think alot of people assume what kind of person i am based on my looks. I know i tend to look unhappy. But I am a very creative person and alot of artistic talent and not at all what others think.

Tiggy Winkle, same principle, different ways to implement.

Hahaha

Mick Man Do, I understand that, give the offence time and then send it away. Mentally burn it or trash it.

Sylver Rain, I hadn't thought of it that way.

Don't forget "please"! Take a look at "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten" by Robert Fulghum, it's a beautiful summary of basic respect for others and learning to get along; I think you'll really like it.

@@goesfarfliesnear1447 There are a lot of US born native adults who could stand to read that book again too. Good call mentioning it here. :)

I've had that said to me as well. There's a difference in dismissive and choosing not to engage.

I simply say this,coz i think its more appropriate when someone ir someone we love insults us. " IT TAKES ONE TO KNOW ONE" This how is responded nowadays. Because i used to be a "NO RESPONSE AND OKAY AND THANK YOU to these insults but there are times i feel to feel them how i felt so thats me right now.People day i've changed- NO IM NOT, i changed or switch my attitude towards people who is not knowing to behave themselves. I like your main topic,its on point sir! Good day to you

Just be like the dude on SNL Chad. His non chalant response is all one needs. uh OKAY

Yesss! Haha they get so angry!

John Aldred, it works!

Honored to be on your team.

How kind! We are honored to be on your team.

You're very welcome! I like that also.

Except that you have to be careful with that one - lots of people will take that as you admitting that they're right and will use it as fuel.

Haha! Love it!

We use that at my office in emails to insulting or aggressive clients where we don't want to engage- "Thank you for your email, the contents of which are noted".

Duly noted.

Smita, just out of curiosity, try asking them if they're making as many millions as he is making online. "Ha! You're just jealous of the millions he is making on Amazon!" It might floor them and give them a different perspective on "special needs" because a lot of special needs also come with immense special talents, after all. (Does not matter whether the money-making part applies to your son or not.)

Nice!

@@angelinasouren yes! Honestly my son is the sweetest. Outside of his autism flair ups he is very calm. I’ll sometimes say “wow, my kid has way more kindness in his pinky than you have in you’re whole body!” He’s only 4 but I’m sure we’ll find his strengths soon!

Smita Nelson, speak the truth.

How can people be so cruel? That breaks my heart. I can't stand bullies and I hope karma bites them you know where.

You got this!

Thank you so much!

And you gain control of the conversation, Ruth Jones. Brilliant.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Except some people take that to mean that they're right and that you're admitting that they're right.

@@SnowySpiritRuby which does not matter anyway.

@@costascostas1760 Except when it prompts them to keep hurling insults.

@@SnowySpiritRuby yes, don't you love it when they are wasting their time?

Linn S., that is gold.

That’s a fun gambit! On the odd chance they CAN repeat it, you, too, should repeat saying what you just said: the method to the madness is being a parrot of something so simple and bland takes almost no energy from you, but each time they repeat it, it eats up their energy attempting to repeat it, and you can likely outlast someone full of bluster while your utterances use almost no mental, physical or emotional energy. The real gold comes if they can’t keep it together and they explode in a random rage of utterances that can’t be translated into words. Sort of like the human version of a hurricane coming out of the ocean at F5 strength, and each time you ask them to repeat it, when they repeat it, it splits off into little tornadoes with heavy rain and eventually fizzles out into a good soaker.

Except some can, and will, even with witnesses, so careful.

@@SnowySpiritRuby let them repeat it.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV The if they do, I say “What?” again like I’m hard of hearing and on from there until I do appear completely deaf.

Daniella Rabah, no plans to stop, thank you for watching, please share.

My pleasure.

Right. Ignoring insults over time only teaches people how to treat you. Saying nothing probably works for a certain person in a specific position... I can't tolerate disrespect. They need to know a boundary was crossed so they have an opportunity to improve. If the disrespect continues I now know to disappear from their life as much as possible.

@@lookitstrent I agree, my husband is very negative and I always kept quiet not to start an argument but now its worse than ever . I can't take it anymore so I react by buying something. Its the only way he will stop. but part of the blame is on me too because i never reacted to it and it was now a habit of his.

@@lookitstrent Ignoring it teachers others how to treat you. Wise words. Ignoring could work fine on someone you met only once and won’t see again. This is toxic advice to use on repeat offenders like family, friends and colleagues.

@@denysephenix2349 doesnt Sound like a healthy relationship at all...why are you keeping it up?

Yeah. It can be really tricky. I suspect that the difference is whether there is a pattern of insults etc or whether it is merely incidental. (When I became bullied as an adult migrant, here where I live, someone told me to just laugh along with it all, because that is what she did when she was bullied as a kid. I realised too late that that signals permission to continue.)

Maybe just "Nice".

Glad you found something that works.

Glad you are still with us, Ty. Thanks for commenting.

Celti, honored.

lol! I've been in a similar situation, I would purposefully wait several seconds and ask "which part were you afraid i missed?" it always sends them into a tailspin, lol

Thanks.

Jenna, yes, they are!

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Someone totally ripped apart every characteristic about me and how i needed to change and each point I just said "Yes" even when the points were becoming ridiculous. That really took the wind out of the person's rant after 5 points.

Jenna, you could be right :)

I used to work with this guy who could calm down any angry customer by saying three words: You're not wrong. Meanwhile, he would be so empathetic, nodding in agreement, and repeating those words if they kept ranting. They would eventually see that he wasn't yelling back and give up. Once they quieted down, he would then have the opportunity to offer something to make it right and they'd leave smiling.

That’s a very disarming response, I like it and will use it in the future.

Shannon Smith, glad you enjoyed the video and it is helpful.

Honored to be on your team, Sandra.

VegasGuy1975, I can imagine it with the right facial expression.

Volunteryist, they probably are.

Thts good!!🤣😂😄

Not rly but u seem to be triggered, sorry i didnt mean to im just saying the truth ;)

Perfect, thanks.

That is remarkable. I am sure it has served her well.

That's incredible...from a little girl! Thanks for sharing 🙋💞

What a wise little girl ☺️!!!

That’s actually a really mature response! Well played

WAW! What a smart little girl! I wish I were that clever when I was her age and got bullied in the school playground!

You have a booger on your lip 🤣🤣🤣

@@natwest1971 I'll try that one too when the masks come off. Hahaha

I don't know you but think we'd be besties! You can also try "Barn door's open" and glancing toward their fly which is what I said to my boss when he was yelling at me one day. Kinda stopped the rant in its tracks. I still laugh when I think of it.

@@olivia0920 You have a booger on your mask!

“You have a booger on your lip” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I literally laughed at this for a straight 4 minutes 😂 genius response 👏

No need to cry, you haven't don't anything wrong. Don't let them bring you down.

Thank you.

Tina Mexico, I love it.

As my mother taught us growing up, she always said, "why do you ask?" There have been times when the person has responded. The answers were quite entitled and completely obliterated normal social boundaries of course. So then we discussed what that answer seemed to say and why it was inappropriate. 😄

That was one of my grandmother’s famous lines as well. Politely shut down busybodies. 😉

That or "why do you ask?" are good. I'll write that down.

The response I’d hear from expert busy bodies was “Why, are you so evasive it was just a friendly question to continue our conversation ?” Usually followed up by that person then telling others later how anti social and shifty said person was.

So true!

That’s usually my natural response as well!

I usually say “okay”, shake head and roll my eyes, then just walk away.

I say that and a little chuckle with it to let them know that what they think and say is irrelevant to me.

Welcome aboard!

You are so welcome!

And if it's from your boss?

Clever if it’s for someone I don’t know.

😂😂 so smooth

@@sarahmiller4084 Well I have had great bosses. I will cross that bridge when the time comes. If it ever does. Thanks for the thought.

I like that one but I think it's still gracing the hater with too many words.

It was actually “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent “ - a subtle difference, but I find this even more powerful!

Oh I usually just tell them to "GET BENT!"....but with Stronger language!!!🤣😎

This video is so insightful and immediately helpful! I wish I had read it two months ago. Maybe your last suggestion will retrieve me somewhat. Thank you.

I LOVE this idea to laugh. I just imagined that happening and I laughed so hard it surprised me. It was GREAT! Thank you for that suggestion to just laugh. How totally unexpected that would be by the insulter and would catch them completely off guard! Praying that I remember this.

I do too. Laughing only TICKS them off more. I enjoy that part.

jennifer good, it shows that I love my job.

Honored to be on your team, thanks for taking the time to watch and comment. Hope you enjoy some of the other videos on the platform.

Wild Olive. Gulp. That could bring someone up short.

What would you say to somebody who gives you the silent treatment to feel better about herself. She sort of weirdly love bombs everybody else and im like a ghost to her. Because she's the more dominant person i feel marginalised and very peripheral to the group now. Any advice? Something short.

@@SusanaXpeace2u It's a form of gaslighting you. It's a difficult situation because to the other people who aren't aware of the dynamic she's just being nice, that's how she'll remain in their mind unless she runs the same game on them, which is unlikely because they aren't the desired target, you are. Be careful not to attempt to defend yourself to them by trying to raise awareness and letting them know about the dynamic "She's only being nice to you to hurt me" That sounds pretty crazy right? That's exactly how you're going to sound and this will enforce the notion that it's you that has the problem. This is a difficult situation brewing and my advice is to distance yourself politely from the group. If it's a working environment, you're not required to be everyone's best friend, you're required to be polite and productive. It may hurt watching this dynamic grow, knowing what she's doing, why she's doing it, but that's a win for her too, because she's in your head rent free. If this is a social dynamic and "she" is a potential partner, the flag is already up. Walk away.

@@SusanaXpeace2u Yes I'd like to know that too :)

A good one during a huge verbal confrontation, especially someone being verbally aggressive, is to say the following, "Don't talk to me the way you talk to your wife/husband at home." Watch the look on their face. LMFAO You'd be surprised how fast that defuses the confrontation. In some cases they begin to act more civil.

So true!

Act a fool? Details

Evan Baker, do what works for you.

My pleasure. I love that feeling also.

Yep, that works.

that might work if you were also 23 stone, had PMT and a sawn-off shotgun

"Are you trying to be insulting ", I've moved on from that, including me, maybe you can also "

Doesn't work with a narcessist or sociopath. They're happy to go into minute detail of exactly what they mean. Never ask a toxic person to expound upon it when they're tearing you down.

​@@themaggattack yea im with you on that 1. some people are very sharp and witty. im slow ( not stupid but slow to respond) so i dont win encounters with sharp quick thinkers. i think shutting it down is best

Bryan Hann, that is funny.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Hehe! My weak paraphrase does not do the original justice! You might like my OP on handling insults to intelligence that I am about to write.

@Bryan Hann....I like 👍that answer. I'm going to use it 😊

🤣🤣🤣

Not s good one in my book

Glad it was helpful! And glad you are here at the channel.

Nikki Salazar, hopefully we learn as we go.

@Will Abbott If you watch any videos that are too fast for you can slow down the speed with top 3 dots at top right hand corner of screen. Hopes this helps you with the enjoyment of more videos!😊

Fast talkers do my head in....mute them.

I know a couple who talk so fast. It's dizzying watching them go back and forth. Lol

@@phoenixkali Thank you , I'll try that next time 👍

Thank God people love slow speakers. I've often been told to speed up, lol.

Florida man, get them thinking, love it.

Honored to be on your team.

Honored to be on your team, Paula.

you could also shake your head and look as if you’re sorry for them.

I agree...as this has always been the case with me mainly stay quiet cos I'm so hurt and it's made me feel terrible and they see that and still happend ..in work. Out of work..so for some no matter what there is no getting away from it .

Try this: Silently look them up and down first. Then turn away and ignore. It let's them know that you heard them and you've assessed them, but they weren't worthy of a response.

@@kurarisusa also stare at the middle of the forehead not the eyes, they get paranoid you have seen something they can't see.

@@kurarisusa -- Thank you for this. It's an _'upgrade'_ from the standard silent response which nonetheless shows them what you think (or not) but makes clear your feelings. An advantage of any *silent response* (depending on the person and circumstances) is that you never get yourself in trouble for having said "...the wrong thing..." which may come back to haunt you later.

Bless your heart cracks me up. I use it too. Yep my roots are showing. Lol

Love that expression. Learned it when I moved South!

Personal favorite

Love it.

Bless your poor, pathetic,black heart... There I fixed it.

Perfect, glad it arrived on time.

Have fun!

yes, I do that, and they think about it

That is a judgmental response and you are addressing that person as a child, not an adult. The person saying that is simply playing the same game as the person insulting you. Many who are actually in the wrong use this response to deflect from their own wrong and responsibility to assume their error. A response like that is intended to invoke a defensive or angry response...unless you're reprimanding a child! So, watch out for that one...you may just start a big, big fight!

@@sleepinglioness5754 interesting point

Silence is way more effective. Insults are to get a hurt reaction. Not getting one changes the power balance. Watching someone utterly embarrassed as you silently make eye contact is liberating.

@@sarahholland2600 I think so too.

I hear you... You saw a lot, much more than we were ever meant to see... You heard a lot....much more than you were ever meant to hear....Im so sorry .... I hate war .....Sisterly hugs

Gerald O'Hare, I thank you for your service.

Thank you for your service sir. I’m a 60 year old woman with a temper, most likely from a terrible chaotic childhood. Family and friends are “afraid” of me because of my verbal jabs. But, I don’t like it in myself because while they usually deserve the reaction they get from me, it also raises my blood pressure. I want to feel more in control of my temper. Working on it.

@@Mexicobeanpole , Try not to respond. Think about the situation overnight. It will help. They don’t deserve your time or attention. It’s a trap you know so distance yourself from them. They want to upset you so do the opposite.

Lucy Erda, I love the platform for that reason. Come back anytime.

Glad it was helpful!

musicgirlsuz, Thank you!

Love that. Best of the lot.

I use that or “AND” sometimes follow it with “your point?” Because when you really don’t care it doesn’t matter

That's a good one, so.

Good response!

Love your positivity.

Welcome aboard!