What Will We Truly Miss? (The Fear of Missing Out)

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Desire can be a significant hindrance to living a purposeful and tranquil life. As soon as we want something, we fall into a state of lack, and we feel restless. And the obvious way out is to fulfill that desire so that we can feel content and happy again. A much-discussed phenomenon in the current age that arouses such restlessness and lack is the so-called fear of missing out, also abridged as FOMO.
The fear of missing out occurs in many different scenarios. For example, a stock market investor fears that he’ll miss out on profits when he doesn’t invest in a specific stock at a particular moment. Another example is a college student who never misses a party because she fears that she’ll miss out on the fun.
FOMO often drives people mad. Studies show that the fear of missing out can lead to extreme dissatisfaction and can be hazardous for our mental and physical health. FOMO is associated with loneliness, depression, and anxiety. Thus, behind this trendy acronym hides a dark, devastating experience amplified through social media, which presents a neverending tsunami of snapshots of our lives’ highlights.
So, where does this fear come from? What do people who suffer from FOMO actually fear? And how can we shut it down? This video essay explores the fear of missing out and presents suggestions and solutions from ancient philosophies like Stoicism and Epicureanism.
What Will We Truly Miss? | The Fear of Missing Out and Ways to Shut It Down
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00:00 - Intro
01:37 - The futility of not wanting to miss out
04:46 - Counting your blessings
06:30 - Looking at it from a different perspective
08:26 - Knowing what you’re getting yourself into
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@Easyhacks4life07 Жыл бұрын

When we look at party pictures, and so called friends enjoying and having a great time- without us, it feels like we are dispensable. That feeling of not being needed is what drives FOMO. So having a strong sense of self worth, not needing approval from outside source and understanding that actually nobody out there really cares much about each other either, can help in reducing the lonely feelings. Loneliness is all in the mind. I have realised that one can be lonely even with hundreds of ‘friends’ in the best party, and not feel alone even when sitting and having coffee in your own house, without anybody present except your self. It’s all about perspective, which unfortunately can only come with age and experiences.

@sagebay2803 Жыл бұрын

Very well said. Thank you.

@lizwenzel5025 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing!! ❤

@turtleanton6539 7 ай бұрын

Yes😊

@shortycareface9678 2 жыл бұрын

As was said in Fight Club: We buy things we don't need with money we don't have to impress people we don't like

@halolime117 2 жыл бұрын

i genuinely don't know anyone who is like that or behaves like that

@wocket42 2 жыл бұрын

It's called Instagram.

@ivyemoji2274 2 жыл бұрын

@@halolime117 you’re surrounded by very good people then

@alexanderwindh4830 2 жыл бұрын

@@halolime117 so you don't know people who buys a new iPhone each year? You Don't know people who travel to expensive places when they could have gotten similar experiences elsewhere? You don't know people who buy branded clothes? It's everywhere :)

@BigSavageG 2 жыл бұрын

@@alexanderwindh4830 he lives under rock presumably. But being serious, entire mainstream culture is about that logic that is presented in above quote.

@benjaminslife9424 2 жыл бұрын

"Comparison is the thief of joy" this why I had to stop going on social media. I know I have that tendency to focus on the things I don't have rather than what I do. I can tell that I am abundant in the things that I possess in experiences and actual possessions.

@less2worryabout 2 жыл бұрын

Still you do not realize what social media is nor it's meaning. You have not stopped yet. Embrace the vastness of your own ignorance only then will you realize you cannot possess anything.

@rrruby1377 9 ай бұрын

the point is, your path in life is different from everyone elses. Another person has not encountered the same obstacles you might have. In fact your path is most likely so unique, it makes no sense to compare yourself with anyone. Just compare yourself with your own past self. Do you see progress? cool! If not you might want to work on yourself. Not even touching on the fact that many social representations are fake af.

@Likeaworm 2 жыл бұрын

Like Seneca said "we suffer more in imagination than in reality"

@lemondropzs 2 жыл бұрын

yes

@FutureMindset 2 жыл бұрын

The fear of missing out is probably more like the fear of regret. We're always seeking to get more and more from life thinking that it can improve our current situation and regret makes us sad because we envision what could've been rather than what is.

@presmasterflash7555 2 жыл бұрын

Find content in the moment you occupy. Time is the only thing you can spend you can never get back. No matter how much time you spend You can never get time back again

@boadicea5856 2 жыл бұрын

Well Said!

@Proposal12 2 жыл бұрын

I know this to be more accurate then the clip itself , it´s the fear of regretting something , so what to do about it? I still some times wonder "what if´s" or "should I & if I don´t" did I miss something I would´ve regretted had I not...Simple but good point

@Proposal12 2 жыл бұрын

@Dirty Magic11 I see your point , however, would you have let´s say for example , (since I don´t go by what you mentioned , social "norms" is bs) you get info that someone who you were very close to wants to talk to you and you put it off because you think well next time ...then find out later that someone died...And you would have to live with that for the rest of your life ...

@less2worryabout 2 жыл бұрын

The fear of fear itself is easily overcome with realizing that you are not separate from the everything that you are.

@ralphlucassevilla3799 2 жыл бұрын

The more we desire to have everything, the more we feel that we have nothing.

@ReynaSingh 2 жыл бұрын

Eliminate desire and attachment and you will eliminate your suffering

@johnphreyjumamoy466 2 жыл бұрын

I very much agree. Sufferings are generated socially

@ravisalunke677 2 жыл бұрын

Are wah. Shabash bitiyaa 😍

@BlackJesus8463 2 жыл бұрын

Then what would you do?

@Edith.G.G. 2 жыл бұрын

That's impossible, even Buddha desire the enlightenment... But reduce them as much as possible is a good way to have a lighter and more content life.

@georgemuhoro 2 жыл бұрын

harder than it sounds unfortunately

@bitkurd 2 жыл бұрын

Nothing, you miss out on nothing, everything is in your mind. You become what you think of, I personally thought I was missing out on partying, sex, pop culture lifestyle but it turned out they were the were the ones who missed out on the beauty of the cosmos and the creation.

@True38 2 жыл бұрын

True but you have to remember that you have to work and that is no joke. You don't get the best things in life without fighting for it, thus FOMO has also its use. If you just sit on your ass, do nothing, look at the wall / sky and wonder, then guess what - nothing is going to happen! The way I see it, you have to constantly fight for a good state of mind by cherry-picking the very best opportunities that life has to over. Otherwise, you will end up with the worst opportunities that life has to offer. There's no middle ground, you are all in no matter what you do or don't do. It's as simple as that.

@phantomflames136 2 жыл бұрын

same

@glennpennington2465 2 жыл бұрын

@@True38 The best things in life may actually be after this life. Yes we all have to work towards goals, and some may not be readily visible to the casual observer. What may be a great achievement to some, may look like a total failure and a total waste of time i from another individual's perspective.

@douglasgyi 2 жыл бұрын

As we grow older, we come to realise that we really did not miss on anything.

@user-dx8zk5op2c 2 жыл бұрын

How do you know they weren’t enjoying the beauty of cosmos along with what they were doing to have fun? You seem to be rationalizing their actions to make yourself feel better..

@peternall6566 2 жыл бұрын

Glad I didn't miss this video. I truly mean that.

@jbela 2 жыл бұрын

I second that

@TheDhammaHub 2 жыл бұрын

As the Buddha might put it: FOMO is craving and suffering in itself. By not entertaining it, we get a lot more than what ever we might "miss out on"

@johnsheppard1673 2 жыл бұрын

Since when do you speak for Buddha

@TheDhammaHub 2 жыл бұрын

@@johnsheppard1673 When the Buddha talks about craving, he does not exclude FOMO^^

@StoicWei 2 жыл бұрын

I love how Buddhism, Stoicism, Taoism and Nihilism can easily deal with modern day issues. For example, FOMO fades away under the light of these isms. ☸️⏳☯️🚫

@Gamebred-Nightmare 2 жыл бұрын

With the virus, we can feel we are missing out on so much more like trips or holidays. But you can work harder, save more money, and truly learn how to appreciate time with your loved ones.

@Proposal12 2 жыл бұрын

With the lockdown it went down a lot knowing that people aren´t out but are doing the almost the same thing , being at home or going for walks , simple things ....

@andreiandrei9031 2 жыл бұрын

Jorge "Street Judas" Masvidal

@liafuentes326 2 жыл бұрын

Poor is not the one who has little, but the one who craves more. "Seneca"

@krischanlive 2 жыл бұрын

Tell the homeless, they will feel so much better!

@thrivingentrepreneur 2 жыл бұрын

@@krischanlive right

@litlifes3278 2 жыл бұрын

@@krischanlive you didn't get the comment

@BigSavageG 2 жыл бұрын

@@krischanlive Believe it or not there are homeless people that wouldn't like to live like most of us do. They simply enjoy their lifestyle even though they are broke af

@krischanlive 2 жыл бұрын

You guys are cynical af

@bageko007 2 жыл бұрын

I really dislike how everyone says, "live each day like it's you'r last, for you never know when it will end". Thats complete, utter bullshit! For me its just the opposite, that you can actually kick it, do nothing, be unproductive and still be happy! Wow, you DONT have to be this amazing do-it-all and have an extraordinary life. Not to say that those thing aren't good (I've traveled the world, done some very, very, very strange and crazy shit), but to realize that just cruising through life, being grateful for the opportunity to wake up and just go through the motions in a peaceful, curious manner. people get too worried that they're not living their lives...then go live! DO all that crazy shit, and you'll realize that you don't need that stuff. Just find a balance. Yes, you should live a lot of life like its gonna end, but live even more of it knowing that you don't have to worry about "living". Just relaaaaaaaaaaax...breathe.......and look up!

@Edith.G.G. 2 жыл бұрын

Yup. Nothing is so good or so bad at it seems. Maybe ten years ago I was really eager for travel and meet foreigners, but now that I've done it, I can say it is not big deal. People is people everywhere, we share almost the same issues in every point of the world and traveling is really nice, there are awesome things, but also the daily and ordinary life, have amazing things to experience and appreciate.

@4Mikes4Mindset4 2 жыл бұрын

Very cool insights. Thanks to both of you

@gozdeylmaz2977 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, exactly what I needed to hear at this very point of my life... I thought I was the only one with this kind of mindset and there is absolutely not a single soul around me to agree with these thoughts of mine.

@huntermetz2659 2 жыл бұрын

Love your comment man! Totally agree and totally true. Things are a miracle just as is, it’s just having inner truth to oneself that suffices.

@darkeco 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I agree with you. Having to live every day like you won't be able to experience anything the next is an impossible amount of pressure to put on a person. Also, if I was to be hit by a bus later today and killed *knock wood* then I'm not exactly going to be thinking "Oh what could have been if I'd achieved all my dreams this morning!" while they're scraping my barely recognisable corpse off the road.

@Vizorfam 2 жыл бұрын

I had a FOMO of reading books as nowadays everyone reads so much across different genre but I stayed honest to myself and accepted that this isn't my thing, so I started playing competitive video games again something which truly satisfies me

@ShivamSingh-nt8tw 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you man!

@Sebastian-rr3hf 2 жыл бұрын

Hmm, why not do both? 😁

@Vizorfam 2 жыл бұрын

@@Sebastian-rr3hf I mean I am in college and I am studying course which I like so already academic books are good enough for me and its not that I don't read anything at all, sometimes I read some books on medical sciences

@TheSteven512 2 жыл бұрын

Reading is a skill too, and needs practice. If you always need that rush of excitement to do something it can be a problem.

@user-zd3nv2bp5j 2 жыл бұрын

What game?

@darkeco 2 жыл бұрын

FOMO is something I've being working on moving past for a while now. I remember hearing a quote that went something like "If you're not happy with what you have, then you'll never be happy with what you get". That quote stuck with me and is usually at the forefront of my mind if I'm feeling anxious. However, the realisation that I'm not missing out because everything will eventually decay and not matter has formed a new problem, where I feel like everything is futile. My motivation to move forward has never been lower because I've lost all reason to aim for anything. It's making wonder if FOMO is actually necessary to make you feel alive and purposeful.

@creativelady7 2 жыл бұрын

@DarkEco Yes I have contemplated the same thoughts as you. Surely there is a satisfying middleground.

@priyv8710 Жыл бұрын

I guess the balance might lie in not comparing our lives with others as it is the main cause of FOMO and also working towards certain goals that you truly wish for yourself ... we are here to live our lives and experience different things despite knwing that one day we will go back to the stars :)

@786ajim 2 жыл бұрын

The part about 'what if there are no parties, what if there's a virus..' really resonated with how I felt through this past year and now when the world has opened up. It's like this pressure to be out and do things with random acquaintances every weekend when the weather is good. Just last night I went to 4 different bars, joining different groups, just like countless other out doing the same, drunk to the point of making any sense in their small talks. I feel much better when the weather is bad, rainy and I know everyone would be home so I don't feel any need to do anything than just be. During the Covid lockdown too, I had a peaceful good time doing the things I love inside my home but with the summer reopening and everyone out doing things, I feel this FOMO from time to time. A restlessness in many people for doing the same pointless stuff even when they'd feel better with some quality time with themselves or just a close friend or two.

@creativelady7 2 жыл бұрын

I totally think along these lines, too!

@couldntbeproved1392 2 жыл бұрын

We must think what we are afraid to miss out on. When you mentioned the fear of missing out on war I thought about the boys that went as far as to lie about their age to get to the front in WWI. They were genuinely afraid of being the only one in their group who hasn't been to war. The nightmare and absurdity that awaited them was never something worth seeing.

@ang2895 2 жыл бұрын

Honestly it's social media so people have to flaunt to make their lives seem interesting that behind the scenes they're just like everyone else

@less2worryabout 2 жыл бұрын

Is that really what YOU do?

@less2worryabout 2 жыл бұрын

Is that what YOU do?

@Ninof33 2 жыл бұрын

It’s so exhausting to live like most people. I've been there; after years of suffering, I came to an understanding, I found peace and love. Thank you❤️

@Soulfulboy1111 2 жыл бұрын

How you overcome it can you share so you can inspire us ?

@Ninof33 2 жыл бұрын

@@Soulfulboy1111 Hi. Years ago, I immigrated to the United States from an old soviet country. I was young, inexperienced, and alone. Growing up in my country as a child, I rebelled against everything - how teachers treated students, how the systems and organizations controlled everyone. Traditions didn't make sense to me. I couldn't do anything by rules, always did everything my way, and got in trouble a lot. I was, of course, forced to live by authorities, but my nature rebelled. I was lost and confused. I understood what was going on with me after living in the USA for many years, working for others, doing anything to survive, trying to be in conventional relationships, trying to be a traditional woman; I suffered; I was miserable. I kept walking away from people, couldn't work for others, I suffered until I couldn't take the pain anymore until I sat down to study and understand what was going on with me. Understanding my conditioning helped me to understand others. I realized I was sensitive to how people behaved and treated each other; I realized why. This understanding allowed me to realize what absolute freedom is and to be more compassionate towards myself and others. Understanding the human condition is essential.

@jatinveer5273 2 жыл бұрын

@@Ninof33 ❤🙏 wishing peace joy and love for you.

@jessebradford3900 2 жыл бұрын

Try eliminating what you think others want. Most times people think what they want is centered on thinking what others want and have. Don't do that! What do you want? If you do it correctly and it can be difficult due to interference from the past thinking, you'll find you don't actually want much. But the no desire crap isn't real. There's always gonna be desires. You have to own something that keeps you moving.

@ash8207 2 жыл бұрын

Another gem of wisdom from this great channel. Honestly, I have no FOMO whatsoever. I just simply enjoy the moment at hand doing whatever I'm doing, whether alone or with company. I could care less about what others are doing because I'm always enjoying my own life in the present. So it's impossible for me to "miss out" on anything when I'm focusing on my own life. Also trying to compete against or compare myself to anyone else is a ridiculous waste of time. Just being myself & enjoying the moment is all I need to be truly happy.

@KoH4711 2 жыл бұрын

Actually surreal the timing of these videos with my own life.

@StoicWei 2 жыл бұрын

How many material things did we deem necessary five years ago but have lost their significance in the present? For me, the answer is nothing has retained its significance five years later and it will have no significance ten years from now. (hello people from the future 2031👋🏽)

@presmasterflash7555 2 жыл бұрын

Hello past person, I’m from the future. All those things lost their value 9 years and 7 months ago from my time. And all things will get better if you move in those directions. This is true as I’m from the future. It is said, now go and multiply.

@serenityjewel 6 ай бұрын

Everyone has different reasons for FOMO. I could care less about what others are doing. My fear is that I'm missing out on something that could add happiness to my life. My childhood was like a war zone where there was very little happiness. Because of that, my mind believes I have to grab happiness anywhere I can because it's precious and it could be gone at any time, even though my life is great now.

@boycottchina2201 2 жыл бұрын

"My life is so boring that I can't even fake it on social media". - Unknown

@Joefrogigolo 2 жыл бұрын

Based

@muzzammilhoosain4747 2 жыл бұрын

@@Joefrogigolo what does based mean

@arshpreetkaur9 2 жыл бұрын

This is me. That is why mine are empty.

@gozdeylmaz2977 2 жыл бұрын

@@arshpreetkaur9 Same, I can't even find content to demonstrate and I don't have time and/or energy to fake stuff. This is what it is.

@YoungAsznee 2 жыл бұрын

@@muzzammilhoosain4747 Good explanation for based is "Chad energy"

@mattspeedyou 2 жыл бұрын

I think I should have said this a long time ago: your videos have helped me build more resilience to experience life more vividly. whenever I feel lost and directionless, I know that there's a safe place on youtube that can teach me invaluable lessons. I'm also diagnosed with ADHD so dealing with FOMO is extremely painful. Therapy, medication and wisdom have saved my life. I'd like to thank you for all the effort you put into this channel. You have no idea how much you've helped me over the past 2 years. Thank you.

@mickydee1289 8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for talking about this topic. I think this plays a huge part in my anxiety disorder. Feeling not connected with others or not being a part of a tribe or group makes me feel very anxious. And the more i try to find solutions in my head the more i suffer. There are moments when I am just happy with my own company, like when i read a book or eat alone in a restaurant. It feels so good without anxiety. But usually i cannot hold it for too long. Social media definitely plays a major role for me since it triggers the feeling of not belonging. It has been a painful journey with this anxiety but it becomes more and more fruitful

@mehulchoudhary5136 2 жыл бұрын

You would regret both missing out and not missing out. Key is to estimate the risks vs benefits.

@carlosm9111 2 жыл бұрын

FOMO directly feed my alcohol addiction for years. This one hit in the feels …

@belavera994 2 жыл бұрын

marcus aurelius was an absolute alpha or an "übermensch", what a man! he's my idol, I think anyone who adapts his way of looking at life can develop great inner strength and become truly self-confident, maybe even unshakeable.

@rronsherifi4210 2 жыл бұрын

@Santiago González Díaz i would not say hated, more like disagreed with them on some stuff. Actually he had tremendous respect for the stoics, and even his philosophy of embracing one's fate called "Amor Fati" is fundamentally stoic. Hope that was informing!

@stedeestelle2866 2 жыл бұрын

@Santiago González Díaz bushy moustache basically criticized all other schools of thought that he could; he did not particularly hate Stoicism

@JunguianPhantom 2 жыл бұрын

The GOAT, along Nietszche too

@cheesecake4648 2 жыл бұрын

You are saying this, regarding "you don't miss much not going to parties / drinking" Well, there are more important and transcendental things that we missed out in life, bad decisions... Like not going for that degree at a better time in life, not having children... It is not always addictions or teen silliness..

@dheerbhanushali 2 жыл бұрын

Woah, that's a very different perspective to look at FOMO, and it isn't discussed as much as it should be ;( most discussions of FOMO are based on superficial and short term desires that are triggered by social media, I guess that's because they have the largest target audience. It would take someone who's more experienced in life to talk about those deep-rooted fears.

@frog6054 2 жыл бұрын

Right now, I'm regret not making a better decisions with my education and I'm now stuck with labor jobs. Also, not going out of my comfort zone to make new friends and now I'm alone....

@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 2 жыл бұрын

@@frog6054 It's never too late especially for that last one. Since you've alive, might as well start living it to the fullest.

@frog6054 2 жыл бұрын

@@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 Well, yes, right now I'm sorting out my life, no success so far but at least I take some action.

@nishabaruah1342 2 жыл бұрын

I deleted all my social media accounts 4 months ago and I'm going through FOMO and this video just pop out of nowhere and I'm so thankful for this🙏🏼❤ your video helps me and many other people in our life thank you for this ❤

@rnlt9905 2 жыл бұрын

I left college after my first year, because of many struggles in life. I worked for 5 years and choose to isolate myself. I didn't post about my jobs and I don't accept my classmates in hs and college requests in my social media accounts. I hate and I self-pity seeing them continues their lives and studies. Also, my boyfriend left me, I think because he's doing great with his career and I am not. I'm totally missed out by them. And one day, I realized I'm still 22, I want to pursue my studies. I started watching videos on youtube to motivate me and be compassionate with my life. I reflect on myself and I realize that I have no control with anything, I should not self-pity and just enjoy the present life. No matter how slow at least I see changes in my life.

@ziwer1 2 жыл бұрын

Good on you

@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 2 жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing better now. 22 is still very young and people can go at different paces for different journeys.

@ziwer1 2 жыл бұрын

It's crazy how I used to look down on philosophers that lived a long time ago as people that don't have a clue what mordern life is like or how to deal with it. I was so wrong.

@less2worryabout 2 жыл бұрын

Diogenes rules necka!!!!!

@ihssene_ 2 жыл бұрын

"It is only when you seek it that you lose it."

@Dan-di9jd 10 ай бұрын

I sort of had a big shock as of recent. I had a really big FOMO but I realize that life brings you everything you need to succeed and that the future is better than the past. We all enter this world for a time and we have a departure date that is coming. In between, everything you need to do will be done so you don't have to worry about missing out and however insignificant you might think your life is you don't have to worry because it's going to all play out just the way it's supposed to. I realize that now later in life and I was so worried about things that when it actually happened, I realize that everything that the reason we all suffer is because we don't allow whatever supposed to happen actually happen or we try to be something that we're not.

@Kaosnashi 2 жыл бұрын

I must thank you so much for everything. You help me so much, you can't even imagine! Thank your for your words and your work 💕❤️🤗 Thank you brother ❤️💕💯 Luv from Hanover (lower Saxony)

@NandyzSoulshine 2 жыл бұрын

It's interesting how comparison works both ways for FOMO. It gives rise to the fear of missing out... comparing what we have to what's more out there, what others have. And it also can break the pattern... showing us how much value something would have in our life a few years from now versus how much we value it right now.

@shachintheartist 2 жыл бұрын

Opposite of FOMO is JOMO joy of missing out.

@Apathylex 2 жыл бұрын

Another proof that social media is such a cancer, Im glad I only have instagram left and drastically reduced screentime. It really does improve overall mood. Eventually I will completely abandon it too and appreciate what around me than anxiously compare my life with others.

@TheComedyGeek 2 жыл бұрын

This really makes it seem like the cure for FOMO is depression. "Worried about missing out on exciting things? Remember that most things actually suck and none of this will matter when we die. The only certainty is that things will just keep getting worse and even those who seem happy are secretly dying inside. Give up on everything and await the merciful touch of death. " Imagine that being said in a Ben Stein type voice.

@danam5272 2 жыл бұрын

I used to walk into the library and be discouraged by all the books I could never ever read, so would leave with no books in hand. It has taken me a long time to understand that I can't do all, or be all. It's caused me a lot of pain, it's damaged my self-esteem, and at times my ability to function properly. I know now that I'm simple and that what makes me feel satisfied changes daily. I go much more with my own flow now and am much more peaceful.

@JunguianPhantom 2 жыл бұрын

I totally feel you, in the pain and damaged self steem. But for me, I know that it will never will heal, and that I will die alone.

@froglobster 2 жыл бұрын

Past life you were a librarian and knew too much.

@danam5272 2 жыл бұрын

@@JunguianPhantom I think, for the most part, we all die alone. Living alone is more difficult, but even then for most of us (I believe) there is a deep need that we think others can fill, but they can't. I have come to believe that the ultimate challenge of life is learning to befriend, respect, and appreciate one's self (not in some narcissistic way) but in the gentle, humble, and quiet way that would have come very naturally had the feelings and motives of others, along with our pressing need to please not have interfered. None of us who have majorly struggled to achieve, fit in, be liked/loved can ever be fully healed...that would take a complete memory wipe, but I do think that we can find some peace and contentment by acknowledging that our own existence has meaning, purpose, and value in ways that may not be currently obvious. The piddling advice I would give to you, my friend, is to be patient with yourself. Provide to yourself the respect and love you deserve. Increase your interests...find stuff to do or learn about that really stimulates your thoughts and feelings about life and passing the moments beautifully. Push yourself, as you are able, to conquer your fears while remembering that it is you in control. Your perception is yours and yours alone...no one will ever see through your eyes and determine what is beautiful and right, or the opposite. Smile, let yourself smile and feel content and peaceful. Do all of this for the potentially loving friend that resides within you and has been waiting for your attention. Remember, even the most famous music and movies are about loneliness and dissatisfaction. It's the way of the material world. Sorry my message was long.

@danam5272 2 жыл бұрын

@@froglobster haha, awesome!

@JunguianPhantom 2 жыл бұрын

@@danam5272 I appreciate the long message, so dont worry about it.

@hamidkarim8911 2 жыл бұрын

Whenever you miss something or someone just go back to yourself and see what is missing within you and heal it. Peace and love from Algeria.

@jphb7730 2 жыл бұрын

That’s a great suggestion. Sometimes when you lose too many people that you loved in a short time period, it’s difficult and easier said than done

@brentchackel8649 2 жыл бұрын

Happiness does get greater by seeking it, it becomes greater by being content with less and appreciative of what you have all while still being happy. This is the way.

@paramitabose4301 2 жыл бұрын

The problem is I am feeling that I am missing out on life .. I had to leave a secure and well paying job... At the moment I‘ve no family... I’ve to put up with a constant fear of being disrespected at my new work place... along with the challenges of work life politics...I want to quit my job and take a break but I’m not confident enough if I I’ll find another job again.... Everyday I feel that I’m missing out on LIFE...

@Meumershaha 2 жыл бұрын

I counted every good thing in my life right now i just realized i never dreamed or planned about them.i dont remember predicting or dreaming about getting them

@arpitkumartomar 5 ай бұрын

i missed out on my high school farewell, trips, parties, college clubbings happily. My friends would always point out how boring and introverted i was. But that's that the truth. I never really cared about things I didn't value even before i turned a stoic. If you know what you value the friction in letting go of everything else becomes zero.

@Josh63541 2 жыл бұрын

This channel has by far improved my mental well-being, thank you;)

@official.djanthonyb 2 жыл бұрын

I love your channel, especially how you put an emphasis on the importance of just “being” rather than becoming more. Please continue this amazing work!

@Bill0102 3 ай бұрын

I can't get enough of this. I read a book with a similar topic, and I couldn't get enough of it. "Reclaiming Connection: The Journey of a Digital Detox" by Joshua Ember

@janetdehmer8286 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent explanation . I had a phase of FOMO , which is gradually easing. Always appreciate your videos.

@trusno7751 2 жыл бұрын

I definitely felt this post...Instant Gratification vs Delayed Gratification.. Social media, have many depressed and living in a false sense of reality!

@salima8407 2 жыл бұрын

Your wisdom and words are so healing to my heart ❤️ Our desire for wanting more comes at the expense of enjoying what we already have.

@bendadestroyer Жыл бұрын

That line resonated with me as well. It's a very economic way of perceiving alternative pleasure.

@jojijosette5946 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for what you do Mr Einzelganger. You help/helped me tremendously. You're an uplifter.

@Buzzoftheday 2 жыл бұрын

I have no words to praise your channel… every video I have watched is an eye opener .. thank you for creating videos.. much love ❤️

@symesalexander5294 2 жыл бұрын

Truee. "Don't have to be like everybody to be somebody Don't have to do what everyone is doing to be happy " - ME 💯

@symesalexander5294 2 жыл бұрын

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@claudiascott6654 Жыл бұрын

I really needed this today, as I've been longing for a trip that I know deep down I simply don't need to take, money-wise, time-wise and physically demanding. SIMPLIFY!

@Xanax250 2 жыл бұрын

Very well put for those who contemplate. I have experienced the negative aspect of FOMO, the inner self pushed me to the experience which ruined my mental health.

@Tarble9000 2 жыл бұрын

Reflecting back at me The kudos and the praise From friends I have never met I hope they don't forget

@virginiasmith5278 2 жыл бұрын

I just got my delivery of 4 books. So good!! Thank you 😊

@curiosityi4999 2 жыл бұрын

Stay connected with yourSELF every moment. Believe the journey (gift of universe) and keep going.

@shannond.9346 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this timely video. I needed this. Great!

@Naoko1875 2 жыл бұрын

It’s important to be aware of FOMO. If you are not you might do a lot of things just to not be the only weird one who missed out. In fact it could be fun to be the weird one, who does something else. If you do it on purpose and with a conscious mind it makes you feel so independent!

@jasonle2422 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for talking about this topic 🙏. You are like a spiritual coach to me

@thelucasveloso 2 жыл бұрын

Great video! As usual, this channel keeps enriching and strengthening us. Keep it up, my friend.

@asishbalu2415 2 жыл бұрын

This is easily my favorite channel on KZfaq. I can see it blowing up real soon

@purpledream1045 Жыл бұрын

Incredible video! The very important thing which is we should not missing out your video.

@eiseneuter2034 2 жыл бұрын

I love to be in my four walls, on my comfortable couch, in the internet watching channels like this... If I am not there, I feel like I am missing out. The outside is an illusion.

@AllIn1Studio 2 жыл бұрын

I Iove your choice of hip music! The ancient wisdom and the contemporary music tracks was a brilliant choice. Thank you !

@Buzzoit 2 жыл бұрын

I really needed this video as I feel I have a drinking problem and a big thing is social gatherings and feeling a need to drink

@jannetteberends8730 2 жыл бұрын

The fear I have of missing out are things that doesn’t cost money. But I realize it’s as irritating as things that do cost money. I fear missing an interesting author, or musician. Or a scientific article in the newspaper. That kind of things. So, now I go further listening to your remedy.

@YeahClickClack 2 жыл бұрын

This channel deserves millions of subscribers.

@nozoke 2 жыл бұрын

An amazing video that is extremely well timed. Thank you!

@MrStefanuzumaki 2 жыл бұрын

I noticed this within myself and was wondering how to tackle it. Incredibly enlightening video 👍

@shaniahmcshine3223 2 жыл бұрын

From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

@JunguianPhantom 2 жыл бұрын

My FOMO is on never getting a stable career or finantial security. I know death will take me and my loved ones, so I have no fear of it, but indeed I await it, I know it will release me from my pain. Money and stability are the things that I want, to take care of my parents in their last years, because I know I will never have children of my own, or a wife, nor true happiness in a significant way, but if at least I can provide for my parents, I can die happy the day after their passing (I know that for sure: I will take my life someday)

@albertotexinsilvamartinez3307 Жыл бұрын

Tonight i felt that it takes me more courage to stay home on a satudrday night, doing homework and drawing, than going out with friends to a club to get drunk and star awake until very late. A few years ago, when i was a teenager or in my early 20's, it was the opposite. It required a lot of effort for encourage myself going out to a party or something. I think that as i am aging, i really just want to liv a simple, boring, peaceful life, doing what i really love, which is, most of the cases, something that implies being alone or just with the few people i love. But then the FOMO attacks, and it tells me that this is not the lifestyle that the real people should be living, that i should be doing what everone is doing because that is part of the mandatory life experience, that there are thing that are mandatory, for example, that you should use your 20's living a lot of excess. I think that we should really define ourselves and what we really want, like, and love to do in order to avoid this FOMO

@nowanobady 2 жыл бұрын

Simply being satisfied and contented in the moment. Feeling and being enough. I am enough in this moment and this moment is enough as is.

@ShouryaMallick 2 жыл бұрын

Hi , mr Eienzelganger , just wanna say you are my favourite youtube channel , and I love your content . Thank you so much for sharing these informative ideas and concepts , and diffrent way of living from different communities of Rome , Greece , Nepal , China , Japan and of course India. Keep posting ;)

@johnnyofthesticks7260 Жыл бұрын

You have to belong. You have to be a part of some group, to have friends, to become a part of some determined group of people. Being singular, being you, but you have to be attached to some people just to not be a lonely freak monster.

@IsmaGF85 2 жыл бұрын

One of your best videos yet. Thanks.

@spacebrother221 10 ай бұрын

I had a full life of fun social events when I was younger, but as I've aged, I no longer participate or engage in socializing. I actually feel satisfied watching from the sidelines. Or perhaps from a detached perspective. You aren't missing out if you're comfortable being in your own corner of the universe. Life doesn't always have to be sad when we're not busy doing things with others. Don't worry about it, just make plans for yourself. If you're not there, you're probably somewhere else, so why not just stay where you are?

@martynfosterqwan 2 жыл бұрын

I think a lot of people's so-called "FOMO" would disappear or cease to be problematic if they could learn to understand and accept their decisions fully as well as schedule their lives better/more effectively. This way, people wouldn't feel they were "missing out" so much nor feel sorry/regret what they were currently doing.

@rmn8818 Жыл бұрын

Thank you I needed to hear this.

@lorenamelan2516 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much! I really needed this ❤️

@gwizzen 2 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful video. Excellent content as always. This has definitely helped my perspective.

@heygoober1653 2 жыл бұрын

How fortuitous that I should run into this video this week. Thank you :)

@hv2623 2 жыл бұрын

When I experience fomo it's more under the guise of "this will make my life perfect", not really to impress people.

@AdrianaWar 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this. I truly enjoy the video and I agree with your words 🤍

@ottobindelssaco9625 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent guidance ! Great video. Many thanks Wolf !

@tagthx3412 2 жыл бұрын

Another amazing video i love listening to these just before bed and contemplating and comprehending the lesson and meaning of the video it always puts me into a nice deep sleep

@davidkrzentowski2803 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for that video ☺️. You are helping me a lot. You are posting great content. Keep up the good work 😸

@mariareginedeza4310 2 жыл бұрын

very timely for me thank you einzelganger

@xiaomaozen 2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant video, my friend, simply brilliant! 😊🙏🏻

@judithwallace2091 2 жыл бұрын

This is outstanding. What a great perspective.

@Aivottaja 2 жыл бұрын

This is also the reason why it seems people whose children died during disasters or wars took it "better" than, say, people who lose their child to cancer or car accident nowadays. It doesn't make the loss any less. But at least they know they are far from alone in their loss - an experience that is probably the worst anyone could endure.

@nanabinaruto71546 2 жыл бұрын

I've got to say I had this a couple of times, often generated by stories i watched on instagram, people having fun, being on vacations etc.. strikes even harder during summer break, but oh well i try my best not to feel too bad about it, i might need to cut SM for a while

@stedeestelle2866 2 жыл бұрын

Currently on the path of sagehood; it's hard and I still have a lot to work on despite these past years of learning by intuituon. I know I may never be a fulfilled sage, but regardless I know the path is worth taking.