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I wish more people understood that it is far worse to be a bad parent than a non-parent.

I find the "Don't be so selfish." to be the strangest thing to say to people who don't want to have children. Like, how am I being selfish when no one is being affected by my descion except for me. The children in question don't exist and never will.

"What are you going to do when you're old?" Wheelchair race with you, Gladys, at the nursing home your children dumped you in because they were too busy with their own lives and own children to take care of you 🤷‍♀️

"Are you just afraid you'll mess up your body?" This sounds so vain but its such a real concern. Your body becomes permanently changed by pregnancy and its okay to not be okay with that.

As the mother of 2 childless adult daughters, I get hit with the questions too. People literally ask me when I'm going to be a grandmother, as if I have any control over it, or that I even care if it happens. People need to mind their own business.

I always knew that I didn’t want bio kids. I got judged. We decided to adopt just one when we were 34, and got judged. Then we ended up liking parenthood more than we thought, and have since adopted four...and have been judged, judged, judged. There is just no winning as a woman. I’ve had to learn the hard way to tune people out.

I personally am tired of hearing that the reason women aren’t having kids is because they’re pursuing career goals. I’m 31, single, don’t have any kids... and I don’t have any aspiration to go further in my career than where I’m at now. Hearing people say “I’m not having kids because I’m accomplishing all these things” just makes me feel worse for not having kids AND not being ambitious. I’m not having kids because I know how much work they are, how expensive they are, and how important having a healthy support system is in order to give the child the environment they need to grow into a happy and healthy adult. I have too much debt, haven’t been able to find a stable partner to pursue having children with, and am estranged from my family. There are more reasons for being childless than just “being too ambitious” and I honestly don’t think I’m the only person in this boat.

"Are you afraid of messing up your body?" Um....yes? Like, not wanting to go through a deeply traumatic and physically debilitative experience is...sensible?

My childless plan for old age is to be the rich aunt that all my nieces and nephews are nice to so I'll leave them my fortune. And that's how I'll make sure I'm taken care of! Lol

I have three babies: my resume, my bank account, and my travel experiences. They are healthy and growing, so blessed!

"You don't know what you're missing" is such a dumb argument for anything, not just kids. You're right Karen, I have absolutely no idea of what it's like to be a mother, which is exactly why I don't feel like I'm missing something. And having a kid just to know what I'm missing is a bit extreme.

I'm 51, don't have kids, and I absolutely cherish my freedom. I also have a very high degree of self-actualization. Ladies, there's absolutely nothing wrong with not having children.

I'm 54. No kids by choice. I can attest that there has not been one day in my life that I'd regretted it. No emptiness, no sense of loss or having missed anything. My reply to "missing something special" is - having the change to become the best you and closest to yourself because you have more time, energy and many times more alone-ness, it's priceless to me. Call me selfish, but at least I don't inflict that on kids... :)

As a person who grew up in a household with parent who had me for the wrong reasons, it sucked being treated as a burden and resented. I’d rather regret not having children than to regret having one.

When people ask me about my life choices, I always respond “if you’re minding my business, who is minding yours?”

My dad called me "a dead branch on a family tree" Thanks, love you too

I'm always baffled by the "Don't be so egotistical" argument. What on earth could be more egotistical than thinking to yourself, "You know what this world needs? Another, smaller version of me!"

My 1 and only daughter has decided to not have children. Raising her as a single mom I truly understand the cost of raising a child and the cost for college. I will not be a grandmother. She puts a lot into her friends and her family I feel I am blessed with my daughter and wish her nothing but happiness.

I had an ex co-worker completely befuddled when I told her I didn't want to get married or have children. She then proceeded to tell me children are the greatest blessing from God and if God really loves me, he will bless me with a husband and children. She's lucky I didn't report her to HR.

I never wanted kids, but seeing how it's always the mother who ends up sacrificing her career and freedom for the child had me firm in my belief. My sister in law had two kids, and my brother just expected her to quit her job as a district manager and stay home with them. He didn't even have a job then, so there was no telling if they'd have enough money. It just wasn't even a question he's like "when are you gonna quit your job?" I don't want that to happen to me. It's not fair. Even when mother's work, their pay goes down while father's go up. I can't be okay with being the only one to sacrifice. Especially when men seem to not even appreciate it, or anything you do at home. And seeing as how big of a risk it is, leaving yourself financially vulnerable like that, it's just not worth it. Society expects the world of us and gives us little in return.

Years ago at a cafe, I saw an older lady sitting with her church group complaining that she wanted grandkids but her son and daughter-in-law said they weren't ready. She and her friends then proceeded to pray that the daughter-in-law's birth control would fail. I think about that moment a lot. What must that poor young woman's life have been with a mother-in-law like that?

I am 45 and child-free, not by choice. And not because of fertility issues but because I've never had a long-lasting relationship (not for lack of trying), and I didn't want to have children alone. Not to mention that when doing things like freezing my eggs would have been optimal (around my mid-20's), I could not have afforded to. And now that I can, it's biologically a little too late. For me, when people press me about why I didn't have kids, it's hurtful because I DID want them. It just didn't happen for me. Neither did finding love. When I was in my 20s I didn't much mind these questions because I figured I had time to find a guy, get married, have kids. But now? When people ask me about kids, it just pours salt into the wound. And having friends with kids say things like, "I had no idea what love was until I had children," basically implying that I'll always be some kind of half person is insulting, even though they don't realize that's what they're doing. In most other ways, I'm very happy. I have a great career, wonderful friends, a close-knit family. I travel, I volunteer, I enjoy life. But this is one scab I wish the world would stop picking at.

I've worked in financial institutions, and the counter-argument for "what will you happen when you're old" basically boils down to, "keep the money I saved by not having children, and avoid being defrauded, abused, and stolen from by my adult children." It is so common it shows up in the yearly training most financial advisors are required to take once a year to spot when a client is being financially abused. 75% of financial elder abuse is perpetuated by their children. Even if you're not being financially abused by your children, often the best you can hope for is that they'll leave you alone. Most working adults neither have the time nor money to care for aging elders.

My aunt once asked my sister when she will start giving grandkids. She just finished college that month. I remember my sister telling her that she didn't study hard for a career just to give birth right off the bat.

I am almost 30 and have NEVER had baby fever. I’ve never felt the need or desire to have a child of my own, and my immediate family has never pressured me for it luckily. My main issues stem from my professional environment. I hate it when mothers tell me that my exhaustion or my lack of energy isn’t comparable or valid because I don’t have a child waiting at home, or that I’m not entitled to a family friendly working schedule because I don’t have kids. It’s almost as if I’m less of a woman because I don’t have a kid. I’m not allowed to complain because I don’t have a kid. It’s very frustrating, my lifestyle choice is my decision, I don’t go around telling working mothers “well you chose to have a kid so deal with it”. I try my best to be understanding of working mothers but I feel like it’s not reciprocated, it’s resented.

I don't think having kids is anyone's business besides the people rasing the kids. I don't understand why it's such a big deal. There's already plenty of kids in need of a home, why bring more into the world if you don't even want to? It just sounds irresponsible.

Someone said to me this week "ugh, you're just lucky you don't have kids yet." One, the implication of 'yet' is a wild and incorrect assumption. Secondly, I am a woman who did have a child and he passed away when he was an infant with a terminal illness. My choice not to have children is complex in that, I truly don't want any more because I love my career, the life with my soon to be husband, and I am incredibly fulfilled without children. But, it's fair that a great portion of that comes from my son's passing. It is just maddening the way women speak to other women when it comes to choices around having children.

As a child free couple in our late 50's, my husband and I heard a lot of this over the years. We're happy and satisfied in our life. Please, make decisions that work for you!

Married and 26 but from a cultural background where girls have kids in their teens or early 20s... the nastiest comment I ever got was "your husband is gonna find a girl who actually gives him children". People have to mind their own business.

instead of asking people "WHEN are having children?" people need to start asking "WHY do you WANT children?" in my opinion having children should not be the base standard

I'm turning 40 in a few months. I have been with my husband for 15 years. We are CHILDFREE and living our best life that suits us. My husband is never asked, harassed, critisized or attempted to be recruited to have a baby like I have in these last 15 years. I love the disappointment in people when I state this fact...as I plan our next vacation and celebrate our uninterrupted 7 hours of sleep every night. I don’t care nor judge those that want to have 10 kids so don't come at me. 🙌🥳

As a mom of 1 by choice...I have been accused of depriving him of a sibling. People are going to put their beliefs/opinions on you no matter what! Good for you for putting this plainly and concisely

As a 41 year-old, single and child-free (both by choice), woman, I’ve often been questioned about my life choices, even condescended to with ‘but you deserve to be happy’ as if the only way a woman can be happy is by having a romantic relationship with a man and being a mother. It’s so refreshing to hear the viewpoints and experiences of other child free (by choice) women; thanks TFD for making me feel not quite so alone today.

As someone who has never wanted children, I've never really had an exact reason as to why. I did some hard thinking a few years ago when my friends started having babies. The reason I came up with was...I just don't. And that should be enough.

In my childfree journey, what I found the most surprising was from a long term partner. Before we got together, I told him explicotly I did not want to bear my own children. Much later, he admitted to me he didn't think I was serious, or would change my mind. He got upset when I assured him I knew what I wanted. We broke up soon after. Good riddance.

Can we also talk about how people who are good with kids shouldn’t necessarily be parents? I’ve had multiple comments about what a good mom I’d be, but there are so many more factors. I can be great with my nieces and give them back, which is a beautiful thing.

The "you're selfish" comments confuse me because then the same person will go on to say that they want kids so that someone will take care of them when they're old. *That* seems far more selfish to me, to raise kids mentally seeing them as future caretakers.

Yes, I'm afraid I'll mess up my body. And my mental health. And no, I won't be shamed for looking out for myself!

Just this weekend I got the "Who's going to take care of you when you're old" line. I'm 38 with known medical issues, but somehow a pregnancy will make my life better? No thanks. Meanwhile both my brothers are also child-free and they get zero harassment because "They'll settle down eventually". There's no winning when you live your life for other people. Team create the life YOU want to live at every stage.

I often get “who will take care of you when you get old?” I always answer “how do you know your kids will outlive you?”

I'm 21 and when I respond motherhood is not my path, I'm told I'm too young to possibly know this. But with that logic, aren't I also too young to know motherhood IS what I want? I guess I'm too immature to not want children, but mature enough to decide to make them...

I'll never understand why not having a child makes you selfish. What makes someone selfish is making them have a child they don't want resulting in neglect and resentment, thus leading into emotional distress for the child as they get older. To people who say I'll change my mind when I'm older, then thrust their babies into my arms, then get discouraged when I flinch makes them realize their baby isn't the cutest thing in the world. That realization is hard for some. Lastly those who hit you over the head with, 'you need to be a mom' will like you said make child free people push away on that friendship. Then mom's wonder why don't I have any friends.

All my life I “knew” I wanted kids. I have two now, and I have a word for people who choose not to have kids: genius. I’m now convinced that people with kids who try to tell you you’re making a mistake just want someone to share their misery with. (My kids are two and four and there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but whew! Has it been a rough four years!)

All the time mothers tell me: “you will never experience the unconditional love without it.” Sorry but in the whole giving birth process, there are looots of hormones involved. My opinion is, that unconditional means: you choose someone else freely. No one depends on you...like, no strings are attached. And I just don’t see that and therefore me in this kind of relationship.

I told my parents that I'm not "having" children because I plan on fostering and adopting (I'm gay so obviously that's the main option), and they told me that it's not the same and you can never truly "love" a child who isn't biologically yours. If they were willing to say that to me then God forbid I was a woman who told them I was fostering or adopting or going childfree. I can't even begin to imagine how awful my family would treat me.

I’m 22. I’ve known since middle school that I didn’t want to be a mother. Still have people telling me “you’ll change your mind!” and in a more hurtful way: “you’ll never be fulfilled” and “your life will be empty.”

Both of my kids are childless and I also get asked about becoming a grandmother. My responses vary (depending on the person) but I often tell them I think it’s one of the most responsible decisions they’ve made as young adults by not falling into the pressure from pushy people. Our world could be so much better if people would mind their own effin business where it doesn’t concern them directly especially where reproduction is concerned.

I'm 43 and decided to be child free when I was 38. People said that I was gonna change my mind. On the contrary, I've been happier than when I was worrying by something others expected but I didn't want at all. I haven't regret it not for one second and I really don't care of what people say or think.

I am child free by choice. Last year I had a hysterectomy for medical reasons. Even though the problems with my womb were significantly harming my standard of living it was something I had to fight long and hard for because ‘but you might want kids’. But that has taken some of the pressure of because I cannot have them now. I just get so tired of being told ‘you don’t get it because you don’t have kids’. I think, often, people are actually a little envious. But also I find that lots of women especially seem to think that bearing a child gives them special rights and that anyone who chooses not to is less than.

I tell people that I’ll have kids in my next lifetime, and turn the conversation into a philosophical debate instead. 🙃

Also no one likes to talk about the risk that comes with pregnancy/birth. My sister in law nearly died bringing their first and now only child into this world. She started hemorrhaging blood and nearly lost her life if not for the skill of her doctors.

The strangest argument I ever encountered in my childfree life is, “you don’t want kids? But you use to be a kid.” The first time this was said to me, I started calling for an ambulance because I thought the woman I was talking to was stroking out since she was just stringing together random words that ultimately made no sense. Like how do you even respond to that?

Selfish are the people who have kids so that there's someone to look after them when they are old or expecting kids to bring them happiness in various ways. To raise decent human being is a huge responsibility. But sadly people don't look at it from this perspective. The world would have been a better place if lots of people without the ability to use their brain didn't have kids!

By my experience people that push me in to having children or get angry and passive aggressive, are often people that don't care for their own and keep complaining about how much work they are and how they impact in their lives, for me it looks like they had them because they felt they had to and now are angry that people present a new possibility that is too late for them to take, so they push it as not being an option.

I have two biological children and I promise I love them more than anyone on the earth. However. I feel like most moms don’t tell the truth about how hard it is, how stressful raising healthy kids is - much less a child with special needs (like one of mine). I don’t blame people who choose not to have them and don’t think they’re missing out on any happiness or love that can’t be acquired through other types of relationships.

Child free 41 year old here! Yep, grew up with the societal expectations of marrying, kids etc but.....life got in the way! I myself moved overseas for 10 years, travelled and had fun. Then came home & got a mortgage within a couple of years. Never met anyone to marry or wanted to be with. Very happy here- but yes, family has gone from "so when are you meeting someone?" to "is he the one?" (20s) to " perhaps she's gay" (30's) and "what will you do in old age". Sigh.....

As a 36 year old child-free woman, who wrestles with this almost on a daily basis because of the pressure I feel to have children when I’m extremely unsure-this gave me a sigh of relief. Thank you. Thank you a thousand times for making me feel that there are others like me.

I’m a mother of 3 and I completely understand why people choose not to have kids. I don’t regret my decision and love my children, but a lot has to be put on hold when you have children, and I think even the most loving parents drift into wondering what it would’ve been like on the other side. And yeah, people need to mind their business!

Love love love this video. I "came out" as childfree on TikTok a few weeks ago, and while I got a good amount of support, I got an equal amount of people telling me I'm heartless, I'll never know real love, even that I don't deserve to live. People get SO upset, even when your choice doesn't affect them

I had a baby once, and he had the sweetest "meow" in the whole world! 😁🐱

I am very grateful that the childfree choice is being more accepted now compared to even 5 years ago.

I've never understood why people (including perfect strangers) feel the need to open their mouths and judge someone for making a different life choice than their own, *especially* women. Mind your own business!!

Hello from Italy where the society is also very attached to the idea of the traditional family :D And here I am, at 35 years, childfree and living with my boyfriend without being married, and for these choices I get criticised a lot, especially from my mother: - "I want to be a grandmother and have a baby close to me" (even though she's already a grandmother of three because my brother has 3 kids); - "You're missing a lot" (actually I don't feel like it) - "Without children you are not really a family" (honestly this is the most hurtful one and also unconsidered: I often ask her to think about those couples who cannot have kids because of infertility problems) - "What are you going to do when you are old?" (like if the only point of having a kid is to have someone by your side when you cannot take care of yourself anymore) I'm so tired of this pressure! I've never dreamed of being a mother even when I was a kid and I don't really feel an instinct for it. I hate the idea that you're considered as a selfish person and a disappointment by the society.

I am childfree by choice and even tho I am only 33 years old, I had to battle others since I first said that I will never have children when I was 15. I didn't even know that other women were making that choice as well around the world (I am from a very small community), the internet was not big at that time. My friends couldn't wait to become mothers and as much as I could see that they wanted this life so badly, I knew very clearly that this wasn't for me. I have been told 1000 times that I will change my mind of course. I even got called "selfish", because I guess having children when you don't want any is the right thing to do? The only person who has always been supportive of me is my very sweet grandma. She is now 83 years old. She never said it but I think that if she had the chance to do it all over again, she wouldn't have children either.

I wonder if Chelsea's husband ever gets the same questions. Probably not, given how society places the focus of children on women (to everyone's detriment).

54, child (and partner free, also ostracized for) free by choice 🙋🏻‍♀️ Absolutely happy & fulfilled 🥳🎉🎉🎉

You will be hard pressed to find anyone who loves being a parent more than I. I believe children deserve and should expect all of their parents time, love, energy, resources and attention. I am way too vain to do that more than once and LOVE having only one child. No one should feel pressured to have children. It's not like owning an SUV or designer handbag to show you "belong." Being responsible for another life in the world is entirely too important to feel obligatory. I wish more people would choose to be childless. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent. And that's okay

I was on a dating app and when I put that I didn't want children, a man messaged me saying that I seemed like a kind, warm, good person, so why on earth don't I want children? It was like he was personally affronted by my decision, despite being a complete stranger, and was such a gross message for him to send. When I see men on dating apps who state they want children, the cynic in me thinks 'you mean you want a woman to carry, give birth to a raise your children.' Obviously some men do make great fathers but a lot of them think it's the woman's job to raise children and now they often expect us to hold down a full time job at the same time.

As soon as I hit thirty my entire family started berating me about having children. Here’s the kicker though, I actually think I would make an excellent mother but I just haven’t quite felt the pangs of motherhood yet and I’m not sure I ever will. All I know is that this is not the kind of job I should go into half-heartedly.

"Breaking down in tears" over you not wanting kids? WOW. That's serious enmeshment and overstepping on their part. It never would cross my mind to be sad about someone else not wanting kids just because I had them?

Apart from the absolutely TERRIFYING and traumatic nature of giving birth (and the non-zero chance of literally dying in the process), I really could not in good conscience add to the already far, far too numerous human population of this planet. Choosing not to produce children is an inherently pro-environment choice. It's not selfish at all.

i never had children and i never regretted the decision im 60 now and still no regrets, yes im married. no one has ever questioned my decision

THANK YOU!!! My least favorite response when I tell people I don’t know if I want children is “Oh, you’ll change your mind! You’re young, but you’re going to want children, definitely.” It’s so psychologically fucked up for people to accuse non-parents that they’re unaware or not conscious of what they really want.

“Why DO you have children?- that might shut them up. Isn’t that as rude as: “Why don’t you have them?” Why do people keep asking us childfree people this question- why we don’t have them/want them? EVERY new job I start, I get the questions, and every time (after I’ve said I’m not maternal/have never considered it/have no interest in becoming a parent etc etc), I get the, “but WHY don’t you want a kid?”... I’ve never wanted a baby, never will do. And I can’t think of any reasons why I would!

When someone asks me why didn't you have children, I just ask back Why did you have them? 😅 In an innocent voice and a half dirty look with a note of subtle disgust 🤣 They get so confused lool

Thanks for this, Chelsea. I'm in my fifties and childless. I made the decision not to have children when I was 16 years old, and have never wavered. A number of my female friends (around my age) are also childless, which is so surprising to me; I thought I would be the odd woman out by the time I reached my 30s. It’s sad that there is still so much derision around the concept. It felt somewhat brave to make this decision in 1980s, but it’s crazy that, 40 years later, it is still controversial to so many.

I have never wanted children and have always made my views clear when asked. The most annoying comment is "you will never understand love until you have a baby". It is condescending and is often said by women with overindulged children. My response is to tell them they need therapy if they feel so empty in themselves. I am very happy in my life and feel fulfilled.

Only now, as I'm about to turn 40, is everyone finally starting to get off my case about not having kids. 😂

I would also add to this excellent video that young women seeking tubal ligations are often questioned and challenged more than young men who are seeking vasectomies. That’s really messed up. :(

I am SO happy about you making this and about all the wonderful people commenting below! I’ve been married for 14 years and my husband and I had decided earlier on to never have kids. We’ve heard everything under the sun, you name it, it’s been said. I honestly used to think it has to do with the toxicity of the culture we belong to but reading others comments has been eye opening. Nothing against children, in fact we’re the favorite aunt and uncle to all our nieces and nephews - but we both just knew it’s not the right path for us, especially in this day and age. People who have an issue have been shown the door and honestly our lives have been so much better (: It’s almost like they can’t stand the fact that we have more freedom to do what we choose and go out of their way to say, “you just wait and see, once you have kids you won’t be so smug about your life”. Quite entertaining...☺️

being raise almost all my childhood in a very poor household always stressing about money and food, i am terrified to have a kid and end up in the same situation. i rather be childfree than risk to make a kid live the same childhood i had

I've had a baby recently and all the older ladies in my family keep asking me about my older sister, speculating about her plans for children. It's so rude to hear what they say. Thanks for this video - it gives me some ideas on what to say back to them.

I had no idea this was a thing! Thank you for bringing this awareness. I am an adoptee and have wished I was never born. I strongly support women who might not want to bring a person into a world of suffering and poverty.

I'm 24 and never seen myself in the future having children. Everyone in my family knows that, and still they always make comments about how i will surely change my mind, and if I dont then I'm gonna regret it when I'm older. My dad tells me I will just be an old woman surrounded by cats, and I tell him That's fine by me, I love cats anyway. I hate that my choices are question that way, and sometimes even make me doubt my own judgement, "but what if everyone is right and i will regret it?" even though i surely know i wont regret it because motherhood is not within me. Hate how everyone think is entitled to an opinion when is not even asked!

She left out, “you’ll change your mind” “we’ll see if you feel that way when you’re a little older”. As if to say that you can be old enough to have kids in their eyes, but still not know your own mind!

It really is fascinating, and shows a lot of cultural misogyny, because myself nor any of my male friends have ever felt pressured to become fathers, meanwhile almost all of my female friends have received some form of social pressure about becoming mothers now that we’re moving into our mid-20s.

I’m so glad I had a vasectomy. The conversation ends when I tell people that.

How about us ladies that are dealing with infertility. Its difficult to deal with how people make assumptions..its just hurtful.

Yes! I’m childfree and I hate it when people comment on these things. I’m from a conservative country and I am seen as a walking womb by some

My personal reason for not having children is I don’t want to go through all the physical torment that being pregnant puts you in I don’t want to go through all the physical and mental torment once the child is out of me it’s forever and I don’t wanna deal with it too much stress life is hard as it is no kids for me thanks

Excellent points. I would also like to add that, as I have some people in my social circles who have fertility problems, can you imagine being asked about children when you want them, can't have them and don't feel like sharing very private health-related info with every nosy person in your life? It is really infuriating that people ask these questions at all.

I am 21 and whenever I say I am not for marriage, relationships or kids, I am often told that I am a kid who would change by the time I would see my friends having kids and getting married. What they don't understand is that I have never followed what my friends are up to. I may be 21 but I am pretty sure I am going to stay the same way even when I am 40. I am all for my career.

I used to be one of those women who stigmatized other women for choosing not to have kids. Part of it was my own hurt. I was having a hard time getting pregnant, so I was afraid of being childfree, but not by choice. I now have a two year old, have never regretted becoming a mother and I love it, but I realized recently this would be hell if I did not want this 100%. This was the choice I made for myself and I should not have stigmatized those who made the best choice for them.

This is low key a FU to the people in her life that are making her feel small for not desiring kids and im ALL FOR IT.

This is a very necessary conversation. Many women like myself feel like we need to explain or justify such a personal choice.

I was almost aborted but my parents decided to keep me, which I actually wish wasn’t the case. I would never want to create a human being and have them feel the same as I do and there are so many other reasons why I don’t want children. Physical and mental illnesses that are genetic, financial, fear of what happens to the body during and after pregnancy, possible death and knowing that I’ve got my own life goals keeps me from ever wanting them. This video felt like a welcome surprise and it’s nice to know we aren’t so alone out there.

It's also pretty ironic that the "side" that wants to prevent choice is also the same "side" that totally prevents support. They were the ones who have cut taxes that made college WAY more expensive than it was for me, or even my parents. They are the ones who also force people to work when they should not, prevent healthcare for all, etc etc etc. Maybe some policies that make it easier to be a parent, as suggested.....

My mom's friends kept on telling me that having a child as a woman is the right way to go. You are never truly a woman if you have never experienced the pain of child birth. I am like EXCUSE ME? Having a child is an option, not an obligation. Maybe you should mind your own business since mine has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Love my child free life, and it’s gonna stay that way. No ones business why no ones son has cream pied me One this I always say is “the Duggar’s had enough kids on my behalf”