grieving my mother who passed this year and the relationship with my brother who is still alive. the sadness and heartbreak I've felt is like no other. I've now seen after all of these years it's conditional love with him and how I've been disrespected and not valued. He was my ride or die- we share the same Dad- who is a narcissist. All we had to do was have an uncomfortable conversation to move past a mistake- which should've been a safe and easy thing to do. I've also come to the conclusion that some adults are just not very evolved people.The need to twist the knife in my heart, hold grudges, leave me out, play the victim and blame game has finally gotten old. I would've never done anything like this, especially to my brother who was my best friend, so I thought. Time doesn't heal wounds but it makes is easier to have a clearer mind so I can be on the healing path. Feeling stronger! I'm so thankful for my spirituality. Namaste, Andrew.

Right now I'm going to hold on to enough money to pay the attorneys so I can get the hell out

To who owns this channel, you have no idea how much you have helped me move on to a path of healing. To all the posters, I’m sorry for what happened to you and reading your posts makes me realize it wasn’t just me. I wish none of us ever had to be exposed to such shitty people ✌️

Your videos, I will say again, are a TEXTBOOK for what I have gone through. Word for word. I was busting my ass working... breaking my back, working like a dog to cover both our expenses. Sacrificed my own quality of life so that they could be happy, and to see them happy, I didn't mind. Only to find out when I passed out sleep from exhaustion, even too tired to eat dinner most days; they had been cheating on me the whole time, told me they were in bed because they had a terrible headache... and had other supplies in their phone at the ready. These people are pure evil.

My narc was very generous, but it was part of his manipulation. I went through and donated every little thing he ever bought me in Feb 2023. It felt good getting that stuff out of my house

Holding on to individuals with masks of humility posing as heroes when in reality... they were manipulating self serving narcs! Be careful in CHURCH. Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘

Narc father ruined my credit and stole my inheritance. He is now surrounded by strangers who hate him.

Well i was holding on to the dream of having a real partner who would have chosen to walk in the same direction with me. To make our marriage work in a loving and spiritual way. It never did. It couldn't because narcs fly solo. Always. Have a great evening Andrew big virtual hug 🫂 😊🙌💜🙏

Out of all the narcissist videos and presenters out here in KZfaq, I like you the best!

I wish you could tell me Andrew... what was I holding onto??!! I have no idea as I look back...a relationship that meant nothing, that was nothing....empty and meaningless. Sometimes he would just stare at me...give me that look...I think he thought iv captured this one nurturing and caring she'll do for a while. When I started to question....bang...mask off....groom and prepare the replacement. I truly do not care about him at all. He means nothing to me....what an awesome feeling that is 💜😊

"Take baby steps." I love that advice. 'What About Bob' is one my my favourite movies too. 🤭Baby steppin' right into a healthier future. 🎯

I'm very thankful for you, brother. It's sick, but we hold onto them because the pain they cause us is familiar. Being alone with yourself and enjoying it is a sign that you're healing. #LetGo #LiveAndLetLove

I worked, while she attended college classes. Instant roommates! The eve of her graduation, there never was one "Thank you" for having patience and taking care of the kids ...and making the proverbial "peanut butter runs ( among many other things )." It was like my dedication was transformed into "It's what is expected of you." By then, it was too late. The "toxic soup within" was mixed with 3 cups of Fog, 1 cup of disappointment, marianated artichoke hearts ( pre-choke-ed), 1/2 cup of anger and frustration and ground up "Former Me." My wonderful surprise- It was announced we were to relocate and off for another degree for her. After the discard, It took a long time to recover without realizing, I moved into the next phase of my life ( without her ) , while "unhealed and vulnerable as heck." Even half way up to the "pinnacle of indifference," it can be an exhilarating view and fresh air like you've never experienced. I wish the best for every contributing commenter! Thank You, Andrew! Namaste. 🙏

I held on because of the bullshit of “ honor thy father and mother”…. You have helped me so very much…thank you…. I’m done being abused and exploited.

Aw Andrew I held on to the hope he'd love me 😢😢😢❤❤❤

…you helped me a lot to get over my relationship with one of those “humans”….i could not understand…couldn’t believe….now I know !!!!! *thank you*

This really hit home for me! I tried to hang on to my narc friend! I didn’t want to believe that she could be this way. There were red flags but I ignored them. I am also a recent widow. She also took advantage of that financially.😢 It took a long time to come to terms to this, thank you for sharing your insight! I am glad to know I am not alone.🙂

By the way I have NOTHING that reminds me of the monster.... EVERYTHING has been deleted 💪☺️

hard to believe the person i met june 1st 2018 would be a narciscist she was so caring generous loving said how wonderful i was and thats how they snare you even back then i thought this was to good to be true thats becauce it was slowly but surely the abuse started also was stalked on social media she went through every post i had on facebook since i opened acount in 2009 wanted to know every female friend i had on it tried stopping me from seeing friends it went on and on till it stopped i refused to put up with her abuse i just used to walk away from her and go back to my apartment she hated that and used to ring me around 200 times afterwards gas lighting me every time we had a high a low lurked round every corner stay away from these toxic people there evil thank you andrew for giving me the wisdom when i started watching your videos around a month after the split i was a lost soul till i got the wisdom you provided

i was holding on to a friendship that i thought would last a lifetime boy was i wrong good evening my friend 😊😉😂

Thank you so much. Getting easier. Making a narcissist understand is like telling a lion not to go for its prey. They have no ability to view from any other view than supply.

So very true Andrew. Removing narcissistic people from our lives step by step is a process but it’s clearing the air we breathe and everything good, beautiful and abundant is returning. Thank you 🙏 God bless you ❤

Narcissist abusive older sibling decided to verbally attack me in a restaurant three years ago. Up to that point, I stayed in the role of family scapegoat because I didn’t know better and felt stuck. Was a very traumatized kid to the point I barely spoke and hid in closets. Here we are decades later, and he does what he usually does, except now there is a restaurant full of witnesses, and the server came over to tell him to stop yelling…I got up and left, that was the last time I saw him. I tried so hard to hold on to the extended family, but he began the smear campaign to everyone and continues to this day. Family for me is over now that I’m aware, many are narcissists. In that transition phase of healing and figuring things out to keep moving on.

I was holding onto hope that as time went on we'd learn to love each other and grow together. What I learned was - It takes two to tango but it only takes one not willing to tango to mess up a good dance. - Oh well.🌹

I was holding on to my learned , passed down values & ignorant council from leadership at my church. I realized this was a BiG mistake when in relationship with ANY narcissist! Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘

I was holding on to the idea of living out the rest of my life with my dream man, my soulmate, the love of my life. As soon as we got married, my husband began to change (the mask fell off). I was so confused. He was like two different people. Sometimes, he would come home from work with a weird look on his face. Was he looking for a new supply? I have no idea. Our marriage became more and more toxic and i felt more like an enemy than a loving spouse. Finally, I had to save myself and go no contact. My heart is so broken. Every time i feel like im heeling, i relive our good times and try to make sense of what happened. It's devastating to think he probably never loved me at all and his goal was to just use me and drain my savings. It was all just a rouse and he is a narcisistic predator/conman. Thank you Andrew for giving me hope and encouragement. You are such a blessing for sharing your knowledge and past hurts from your life with a narcissist. 😢

Thank you Andrew for giving me the information you have experienced..it helped me learn I’m not crazy .. this is a personality disorder that escalated with his age.. after 42 years of marriage giving my all for a happy marriage it would never change, I tried best.. you give all the symptoms.. it’s heartbreaking to hear I was used and abused.. with Gods strength & courage.. it’s been a year now ❤🙏 thank you. God Bless you.

Everything you are saying is so so so very accurate!!!! I like it when you say regarding the narc” just stay away from me”!!! Great saying!!!! You are helping me so much! Keep them coming;I need your encouragement every day! Time to move forward! Great video; THANKYOU Andrew!!!!

You talked about getting rid of things that remind you of the narcissist. My hoarding mother used me for secondary storage. My house is full of stuff. And like a narcissist, she would tell me they were "gifts," but if I didn't need it and wanted to give it away or sell it to someone who needed or wanted it, she would get mad. Because narcs never really "give" you anything. It's still theirs. Example: My mother put some money in a mutual fund presumably for me. Over time it earned $180,000 and I paid taxes on all the dividends and capital gains. Then, when the stock market crashed in 2004, she withdrew all the money (she had me make her joint owner), and stuck me with the capital gains tax. I never saw a dime of it, even though I was paying taxes on it for nine years. It was never mine. Anyway, my house is full of stuff she couldn't keep in her hoarded house. I'm gradually getting rid of all of it. :( I'm no contact, so I don't have to put up with her yelling at me for refusing to be her free storage facility anymore. No contact is survival, people. When my father died, he only had two drawers to keep his clothes in, in a four-bedroom 3-car garage house. Because my mother had hoarded the ENTIRE house with her clothes -- all four bedrooms, spilling out of closets onto the spare beds, in the dining room, even hanging on hangers in the hallways, and in boxes in the garage, and on the back porch, piled so high you couldn't see out the kitchen window. She also alienated all my dad's relatives, so that he was alone with her and her greedy relatives. :( It's so sad. If you're married and you have realized you have married a narcissist..... get out while you can. My dad was married 52 years to that woman. When he died, she had triangulated him against me, saying I was trying to control her, when SHE was the one controlling me all my life. Now I have kids of my own, and I realize, I could NEVER do the things she did to me when I was small........ nor when I became an adult. She never called my husband to tell me my dad died. She never called on my kids' birthdays. But two days ago, after 6 months of no-contact, she calls my husband up (for the first time in over a year) to tell him to ask me to sign paperwork so that she can withdraw money out of a bank account in Philippines. And I could even hear my uncle in the background telling her to tell me to send a copy of my passport too. That whole side of the family is Froot Loops. Go no contact. Trust me. Life gets better (at least when they aren't hoovering). Andrew is totally right. Never accept a hoover. And block all flying monkeys and people associated with the narcissist. She uses them to hurt me. SO I had to block EVERYONE on that side. It's amazing what a narcissist will do for money. A-mazing. Bless you, Andrew, and all these KZfaqrs who are educating people about the destructive behaviors of these evil people. Matthew 19:29-30

air because there was nothing more to hold and my breath every time he walked through the door

Holding on too an empty dream 😢

I held on because I had a beautiful son and daughter! My rose colored glasses showed me it would get better! Hindsight tells me differently! Lessons learned are like whip marks! I’m thankful for the lessons learned! 5 years no contact!

Amazing message..you always speak the truth 💯. Realizing the dream was actually a nightmare was painful. I’m starting to see some doors of abundance opening, but now it’s getting over the thought of, “When is the other shoe going to drop?” Thanks again and have a great evening!

This information is GOOD

I’be been searching all my live. Two sides of my parents are narsissists, each with their own rol in narsissm and family members. By wanting to live with new narsist : I now know what narsissm does/can do. Narsism brings out the worst in people. 😔 Andrew;thanks for being there for me 😅

Holy cow you nailed it. I was working until I got hurt and had to apply for disability. I also found out she was cheating while I was at work. You are so accurate. I am no contact and struggling with the deleting thing. This was round 4 I can do it. Thank you

Thank you.

Thank you, Andrew. Iam resonating with your words as I do feel like I am healing.You are right about how the void is beginning to fill again.Starting to feel like my head is above water where I can get my fair share of air.your channel and the community here are a tremendous education and I appreciate your time and energy.

I was once holding on to a person who I thought had my best interest at heart but now nothing, the narc can get lost. They didnt deserve me. They can go far far away where the sun does NOT shine!

My narc soon to be ex is so delusional. Other than a good job, he is no catch. 😂 Bless his heart.

Andrew's videos are the story of my life...mother, husband, business associate. Mother and husband have passed. I thought I could go minimal contact with my former business associate. Not possible. NO CONTACT is the only path forward. Andrew knows what he is teaching. Pay attention and go NO CONTACT. Namaste.

I see amazing spirits all around you Andrew and I can see better,without him sometimes you gotta be your own friend😎

Ended my relationship of 3 months with a Narcaasistic Gemini ♊ Boy was that relationship absolute Hell I blocked her and removed my debit card from everything it was on I might even cancel my account.

I was holding onto the tought that the narc was genuine, loyal and a family man. I would have defended those things with my life, until last year when his behavior made a 360. Turns out that he was grooming a new/old female that he, as I found out, lived with her and her family while he was still in high school. Holding onto hope that if WE change, as we were told, it will make things better. Then I was told that just made it livable. Loser, disgusting people who have to scrape the bottom of the barrel to find supply.💩

THAT WAS SO GOOd 😊!!! I WANNA CRY !!!!

I held onto the idea of a reciprocity I thought we had,it was love bombs that kept me coming back,then demeaning then physical abuse then fog then love v bomb .now it's over I see so clearly no contact .I hold on to God now as I get wisdom to find me and carry on..thank you

Andrew, This video is on loop tonight. I am grateful for how thorough and detailed it is. I wanted to also thank you for extending the length of your videos from 15 ish minutes, to 20 ish. That extra five minutes of time is so important for me personally. Some of us veterans will never ever take for granted the raw vulnerability and sheer courage you exude as you give your all in every video, every day. Because you are zealous about saving lives. And more and more lives are being saved every day, with your tireless efforts. I am one of those lives. And I wanted to share that if you knew that one life could be saved, LITERALLY...I am alive today because of you, Andrew...❤...please take that to heart. You would melt into a puddle, to find out what you saved me from...surviving through a day, surviving through an hour. And then surviving one minute at a time. As you know, some of us experience survival one second at a time. Days, weeks, months, and years.... Surviving one second at a time. In the face of a narcissistic rage that is so explosive. Yes yes yes yes and can I say yes yes yes three more times, the narcissist knows exactly what they are doing. To be alive, breathing the fresh air, of sweet sweet sweet freedom. Three months ago, I was so thin that you could see the outline of my ribcage, you could see my spinal bones in my back, protruding. 95 pounds and size Zero in clothing. When the narcissist withdraws food...as one of the punishments... If a person is subjected to 3 days, or 4 days, and on up into 7 days, and 10 days. When food withdrawal is a control and punishment tool used by the narcissist... Thank you Andrew.

After been here learning how it all works, I have understood what happened as far back as thirty years. Studyed for some time and then I wanted to build a good life with the man I loved. But all went to pieces. He left me and so did all my so called friends. I had no family, only enemies. Today I know they have been smuthering me with their lies about me. They took my loved one from me and turned him against me. Making him believe their lies. They destroyed everything. We did speak later and he told me he believed me. I always knew he would if I got a chance to talk to him. He got ill and died some yrs ago. My only comfort is that him and me cleared it up between us. I've been so gaslighted and extremely bad treated. It's horryfying how these people destroy other peoples life. Why? Envy and pure evil.

Another great video describing my Eax narc to a T

Exactly, 100-percent correct.

Thank you for the light and wisdom you provide to the world Andrew. You help so many hurt and healing souls with your videos. I always have such a full heart after I watch your videos🤍

I got rid of that energy too. One of my first experience in my healing. It's an energetic relationship. Keep their energy away from you. ❤ Thanks Andrew!

I was holding on to nothing ,buy I'm free now ,thank you Andrew for vivideos

God Bless you Andrew, Thank you SOO MUCH. ✨🌸

Sime people (senior citizens)😢 get bombarded with "2 narcissists" at the SAME TIME! I adult child & 1 narc husband....even though you have no money & resources at all! They will max out every credit card you own...with or without your knowledge.

You know I just thought about something. He rarely ever called me by my name. He didn’t want to mess up 💡

Andrew I love that you always make me laugh 😂 .. "downstairs in a spaghetti stained t shirt .. !" I mean you're definitely correct!! .. I hope you never stop making your point with humor! Excellent video Andrew .. thank you Sir!! God bless you .. seriously you repeat A LOT of your same sentences, however we NEED that!! I want to truly validate and remind you that we definitely NEED that, so that certain nugget (s) of TRUTH is going in!! And going down deep to our "knower" ... from head knowledge TO heart revelation!! So thank you again Andrew!! You are simply awesome 😎🙌😁😁

Thank you Andrew ❤

Thank you, Andrew, on the 2 years and 2 days. You hit the nail with everything in the post relationship. I'm currently in my 1 year of healing and see people for who they really are. The healing journey is a challenging process. Btw... I'm working on deleting the pictures by upgrading to a new phone! 😆 Thank you for the reminder....its not my fault. The ex narc was a manipulative asshole who lost and will never find a beautiful shining light like me!

This was beautiful, as always! Thank you for sharing. Namaste🙏🏻🕉️🪷

Great video Andrew!! When i let go of what i was holding on to, I felt a tremendous sense of loss. Along the healing path i learned why i had to let go. When the doors started opening again, i was ready to walk through them with the right mindset this time. Narcissists take away your ability to forsee a positive outcome. Before starting something new we have to begin by seeing the positive results we are looking for. You can't do that with a narcissist because they keep you in survival mode, and fear of what will happen next. When you let go of them , you let go of the fear they forced on you. Being in the present moment removes you from survival mode. You can get back to your flow state and doing things the positive way.... like you always did. Wishing everyone clarity and peace... ✌❤

Yes. I held on to the hope, the dreams and the person I thought were nice. It all crumbled of course. Thanks to Andrew and the community I've managed to move forward and become more wholesome. I'm better off mentally, physically and financially. I have relative peace. Unfortunately I can't go absolutely no contact since we have a son together but I've cut it down to a minimum. Five years spent with her and two years spent coming back to my old self. In exchange I got a lovely little son who made it all worth it. That's the win.

Spot on points🎉

I recently kicked my hopium habit. Only took me 68 years to really understand *what you see is what you get.*

Thank you for sharing, Andrew!

was holding on years because Narc Husband had me so believed “it was me”. But inside I knew it wasn’t me. Was holding on not thinking anyone (never knew of Narcs) even him could ever treat me (and lack of care, love…) like he did. When he found his next sources I got treated worse. Listen to Andrew he knows exactly what we’ve been thru because he has been thru it too. Stay strong and safe.

I agree Andrew...I don't care anymore.

Thanks Andrew... now they Become the piece of Paper.. thrown, in the Rubish. 🧐🤠

My ex narc actually resents thay i still have my job and has tried to jeopardize it. Didn't work so cries in his legal letters that I have a job and thats he's disabled, two fingers cut and self diagnosed. Doesnt want me to have anything in the divorce and dragging out the process. I have learned patience. 🤔

Andrew, my own experiences seem to have followed yours wrt phased removal of items (GoodWill'ing it STILL, 1yr in). There are some ppl i ❤ who i never would have met save for Narcspouse's Wild Ride ... But i absolutely Refuse to surrender them and now just quietly work to re-make those relationships, re-experience places narcFREE... God Bless You, dear Reader!! 🙏💙❣️🦀 a Cancerian

It’s sad really but I’m so glad I let go. Had no idea it was a narcissistic relationship, just felt something was off with the strong “ I love you’s” and “ I’ve never loved anyone the way I love you “ from him - yet everywhere we went he was checking out other women and trying to have conversations with them, servers or hotel receptionist- totally blowing up romantic trips & dates. And yes they absolutely want a free ride then never really appreciated the kindness or love. The smear campaign is also very real, think ‘sleeping with the enemy’

Thank you so Much for this Healing message and Every single video You post. It is So Helpful. Total Blessing. Thank you so Much.

You smiled at the close of today’s teaching, and that is what my message to you was to be! I think you know me and my life better than anyone has known. Psychiatrists, therapists (for years) especially. I truly appreciate all your help,so I cautionately ask if going back through all of the hurt of the past is good for me because I am trying very hard to live in the present. God bless you with His best, beginning with what you need most! Thank you!

When your sacred home and space gets damaged just know that no matter what kind of work is ahead of you that you will get it it done. Never give up, be kind, help others, do your best and have impeccable intention.🎉

#boundaries 💪😇🙏

Thank you so much sire you have completely Wright. Have a nice day 🙏🙏🙏

Will expect you to be there for them anytime in or out of the relationship yet you won’t see them for dust when you need support. What a joke! Get out and give nothing to them to save your sanity 🌷

It was always waiting and having false hope, my famely would change when there was lovebomming. They became worst and more worst. Because i got education about narcessism i fineley found out wat was going on in my famely . I feel realey betrayled, they hurt and bullied grandmother .i know this people can not love other people, but onley their sick games and their selves .Thank you Andrew for let me understand. Love from Holland. ❤😊

Andrew, I relate to a lot of what you say. Unfortunately, a lot of the things you talk about, happened to me. I cant blv I thought that man was my prince. To say I was shellshocked when he started ignoring me soon after I moved into his home is an understatement. The very same day I moved in there is the day we took our newborn baby home from hospital. It never made sense to me why he would be so keen for me to live with him, then ignore me, treat me with total contempt, throw the occasional crumb, and then be beyond furious when I finally decided I couldnt live there anymore, just over 2 yrs down the line. He was galavanting with all sorts behind my back and I since found out directly from his admission, that he has lived that lifestyle his whole life. That accounts for the '000's of $$ missing money. He has a secret identity and the outrageous things I have found out about since, I am not sure you would blv it Andrew.

When Andrew speaks of the abundance that comes, and the energy that comes is 💯 true. I believe it is the Law of Attraction in the universe. My life in 7 months has become something I never ever imagined!! I'm reading a book "Don't Give the Enemy a Seat at Your Table". I highly recommend!!! Love you Andrew and All here. Peace and Grace🙏💜

❤Thank you Andrew ❤

This video describes my ex husband to a T. There's nothing like having a high stress professional job working long hours and supporting a man who hasn't had a bath in three days, playing video games and telling you "F you" because you got too much half and half in their coffee. A freaking nightmare. Now he lives in the ghetto where he belongs instead of in our gorgeous home in the historic district. Crying and telling a pack of idiots that he was treated so cruel 😢😢😢. Bless his heart. See ya, wouldn't want to be ya

You were holding on to an illusion. Nothing more

I put up boundaries by telling him jokingly that I was not going to yell fest this year and that he could go on his own. I learned to walk away and say things like, “Talk to the hand.” I would tell him I would speak to him when he acted right. He never lifted a finger to help me. One time I planted some grass from weeding my garden and picking the grass from one area to an area that was barren. He actually got so upset that he ripped it up. I was happy that I saved us money by replanting grass. I have photos just to remind me what a mean person he was. CRAZY! Wow! I haven’t gone out for at least a year and a half because I’m still healing and can’t trust

Thank you for the lovely message 🙏🏻❤️🌈🌺

It's so strange for me to hear about get rid of the things of the narcissist. I must have had all the cheapest and least generous ones I could find! I say that with a bit of humor and earnestness. I gave just about all the material things in the romantic relationships for sure. The friendships were a bit different. The family members it was really one way most of the time. I don't have anything they gave me around for many years. When my ex-narc moved out, I gave him just about everything materially around the house. My family heirlooms even. Nothing was left much for me. I think also for me there was an illusion I hung onto that I helped to create that was based on the way they were when we first met. I thought for so long that had to be real and try to get back to that. I believed them until the evidence was too great. It's a process into these relationships and a process out. It takes time to heal, like you say all the time. Thanks, Andrew.

Andy ..how come youre not doing that signature move where you turn your head to one side and bug your eyes out? It makes you look charming and creepy at the same time. Also please advise me...what do you if the old supply returns unintended? Shall i entertain? Or look elsewhere?

That is exactly what I was doing - holding on and believing. then he disappeared for 10 years and I could not divorce him.

Good morning brother, I am so much better now that I realised what a narcissist is and an actual naccist person who I was in a relationship with at the time mentioned out of the blue " I think I'm a narcissist" I did some research and realised what I was dealing with and after much pain and confusion, destruction of my life I just got back my life with one quick movement. I have come across more narcs and I don't give them a chance,I just walk on by. ❤❤😂😂😂

So true.

What about when the nar is your grown child. And you live with them and haven't been able to afford your own place

There horrible, and hallarious.

You describe ir perfectly.

Great insight! It would be great if you could elaborate on narc returning to mama after depleting your universe...

I was holding onto the person I thought he portrayed himself ro be as well as the person ..nice guy..my 2 cousins thought he was. I told them "all that glitters is not gold". They knew I wouldn't give up on him unless he truly hurt me (which they told him he had better not). Apparently I was holding onto slime...we know slime slips through the fingers a d is messy.

Andrew thanks for the support ❤️ it would be cool if you made shirts with the signature face you make at the beginning of the videos

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I realised after the discard.. my narc ex bf took advantage of me.. making excuses they forgot their wallet.. Everytime I want to eat at this resto or cafe he wouldn’t spend a dime for me , so I ended up paying it .. he only treats me cheap food from the grocery shop. 🙂‍↕️

I told my ex-fiancée, The next man you meet to fall in love with, invite him to dinner and pay the dinner bill. She didn't respond. She has a great job, goes on really nice vacations twice a year (without me) and I have to pay for every freaking dinner and groceries and everything when we were together. I was so stupid. Not anymore.

5:02 the narcissist said the same exact thing