It's the mind set of most non-white parents. I got beat minimum 3 times per day. Once before my mother goes to work and for some other reason after school and I was the top student so it wasn't the grades

I can confirm to

yes they think beating you is helping to shape you into a better person but its not really

agred confirmation id backed by me :>

I am a Brazilian and it is true here too

Then they'd do it anyways because you sniffled

At this point whites are going to be like “BUT IM NOT WHITE IM FRENCH” 🤦🏻‍♀️

Yup, always meant as a warning.

... thats why they haven't seen me cry for years eheh

They said this to us in South Africa too.

Oh it really HITS at home i'll show my self out

Arabs do that too

Same but I’m African American.

Fr

There's a difference between abuelita's bedroom slipper across the fanny versus getting beaten black n blue with a wooden cane

Omg that is so true

Yes

When I heard about that crap in high school, I just thought, "Well someone's going to grow up as a brat depending on mommy and daddy's money."

I kinda did the same thing since I was raised in a low-income home. I would just watch and silently scream inside my head as they bought clothes during recess online and talked about their allowance from doing nothing. They didn´t even learn to use the money well.

@@elisakrivas Nah, not always. It’s good for them to have money 🤷‍♀️ but it’s insensitive to flaunt it around kids who don’t get that sort of thing

@@kiera6326 you don't just give people money for free, that's not how the world works. Gifts are fine, but allowance? No. It's not good for kids to have money without either earning it or having it as a gift for a special occasion.

@@elisakrivas I disagree. Childhood is the only time in your life that you don’t have to earn money. I understand preparation, but it’s important that they’re allowed to grow and have certain experiences. I think as long as they behave and try their best, they should be rewarded, and I think money is the best kind as they can use it however they like, and get to experience what it is they’ll later earn money for. Some kids don’t care about it, because they’ve never known what they’re missing. But that’s just my opinion.

U and me both

Me too

I'd reply with "getting a 78 in physics!!😭😭😫" or whatever caused the problem and they'd yell at me more, but at least I could keep crying

*takes a moment to have a brief flashback* yeeeep

sounds like: "Men can't cry, if they do they would be girls" 💀 - said by random female influencer

For me they say be quiet before I give you a reason to cry

same

My parents yell at me to stop crying so the neighbors don't hear it. I cry when I'm alone at home.

My mom did "balance thing" with my sister, and she is still spoiled and achieved less in life. She also assumes that her life must be life Hollywood movie where she has everything she wants. So its not always helps

Damn, u telling on ur sister ​@@tatjana7008

You love that so… you beat that?.-. Wthh

It's true they beat me and the love me, Trini parents are strick as asian parents

Tbh, if that is love. I’d rather not to be loved in my life. That is just an excuse to justify their violence and nonsense.

@@crabbypocket6458 nah, it’s discipline

@Sco-Cen OB2 i know it is! And I love my mother for it, but its funny to me :)

@Yassified ye it's a bot it's been spamming this in replies

@Yassified aw i love ur pfp 🥰

I swear they thought asian parents have these and i never thought they have any multiplayer games on their phones before💀

@beyond your imagination dayum i got potatorolled

Smash bros*

My parents had me working at the catholic school after school ended during 7th grade and 8th grade.... all the money went to reducing the cost of tuition. I never saw a dime.

No need to brag

@@elvenleaf5589 I think they can if they want to

Are Asians don't get love it's like child is their investment lol 😅

Nope. There's no next life. All we are live once.

relate

Same as an african

Same as a Hispanic

Jamaican, same

Oh geez my parents said the exact same thing, WHILE HITTING ME XD

I don't get an allowance per say but I do get a lot like I have a whole music studio sooooo

@@TheSpacePlaceYT Good for you👍.

Waaaa I was paid when I did chores

Same🤣🤣🤣 Especially in school they would talk about it on the bus and I was confused

I never got allowance either.. I told my parents all my friends had allowance, and they said I wasn't old enough to have money AND they had no reason to give me money anyway 😂 I had good grades and everything but "that was my duty" therefore... No money for me until I started working lol

Because sometimes your parents can be WRONG, theyre not some god or something like that

I'm the only one in my family who doesn't talk back to their parents.

@@xx-hw2hr even if they're wrong, you can't possibly talk back or even talk shit , deep down you know they are in the wrong , they'll eventually know what they did wrong and talk it out with you. ( i get hurt a lot so when they talk it out I still feel down but what can I do they are my parents lol )

@@-skzlunqtoc-2087 How is "they are my parents" a reason for anything?

@@kseniachevenard839 idk if it's different for you but I was taught to never do anything that will make my parents unsatisfied. if it's different for you then that's a different story. but as for me I never talk back since that is considered rude or something.

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Well, lemme check: 1. Beatings: check 2. Not speaking back or not allowed to stay silent when questioned: check 3. Chores: plenty and unskippable, check 4. Emotional damage: check

That one time my father beat me with a cane for staying at a friend's house a little bit too late after sunset.💀💀💀

@@nishikun867 ugh that sounds abusive

ok not true dude im chinese and 1st i dont have chores to do, 2nd i never got beaten, if my mom gets mad she just shouts and just use her flip floppers 🤣to hit me like if i threw something because i was angry she would get mad and wack that hand meh- doesnt even hurt that much😂flp floppers, i also have only 2 dollars in my allowance guess i have to do chores with out telling my momia, free money :) or maybe not- so not every asian person has been beaten i have only been hit on da hand. but probably not alllllllllllllll asians

Same though! A while ago, I came to the realization how those words impact me today. I don't like to cry in front of anyone else so I hide to then cry while forcing myself to be quiet while doing so. It's u h.. a pretty fucked up thing to say to a kid 😭

@@kyliesmith9199 true dat. it affects me the swme way...im never gonna do or say that if i have a kid

@@umayanganee4645 Me neither. Whenever I tell my mom I won't do what she did to me (she would slap me and then turn around to threaten to do it again) to my kids, she tells me that they won't be raised well or something along the lines of "well what are you gonna do when they're being little shits?' and tries to tell me that I will and should resort to hitting them. In conclusion, my mother is sick in the head.

@@kyliesmith9199 oh god thats terrible...i mean i love my mother but if she hit me for saying i wouldnt hit my children i would have serious resentment towards her...i would actually feel like SHE herself would hit my kids if she said that.. i really hope my mom doeent do that. im glad youd never do it either

@@umayanganee4645 Yeah. I also feel like my mom would probably hit my future kids hence why I might just cut her off.

im surprised i turned out alright. I have Asian parents that would hit me when i do wrong.

Parents that NEVER hit their NAUGHTY kids don't deserve to have kids.

@@garylangford6755You should have to talk, never to hit.. Or you don’t be smart enough to talk

⁠​⁠@@garylangford6755no parents that never hit their kids are actual good parents and actually want their kids to understand why what they did is wrong. If they do that same bad thing then it’s most likely they didn’t understand.

​@@TessOpheij Some parents hit you (like mine) because they LOVE YOU, and they are just very very very VERY VERY strict. Parents hitting kids can also vary by cultures, so yeah

Same. Ngl tho my european dad is more asian than my Asian mum not kidding

Eyyyyy same!

yooooooooooooooooo you get a shampoo bottle thrown at you for not getting 100/100 *AND* you get a bmw for chrismas

Guess Russian

Im Filipino and Mexican and I know for sure that a Mexican and an asian home can relate to all this

omg or if they threaten to beat u more if u cry

@@liasubs11Yh, it gives me flashbacks

@@sermajore1187 yeah exactly ufff glad im past that age but i still get yelled at..

Do many Asian parents get disowned?

Im allowed to cry which I do sometimes. Then I realized that if I cry they win

As a latina i can confirm too

@@asleepgirl9300 😂i think all of us gets beat except for the white kids

As a human in general, I can also confirm that pain is love regardless of the pain.

Stop using that joke. It's overused and not funny anymore

That means that love is bad

He is raisen good that he understands it.

That's just bad parenting from both sides, my parents never hit me but I had good grades, never commit a crime and never did something too stupid, the worse thing I did in my entire teenage is to talk back a few times. Actually, I was way more well-behaved than my former classmates that got beaten by their parents. You can be a strict parent without being violent, in most cases the parents that beat their children are ignorant or just lazy.

@@artemisa1523 If my parents didn't beat the good into me, I'd probably be in jail right now. My grades still sucked all the way until I found a career I actually liked.

@@artemisa1523 Exactly. As an adult, I actually suffered and got set back from the abuse I went through as a kid. I can never condone that behavior. However, I also understand, by raising my little sister as my daughter, that parenting requires guidance for your child and you can't just let your kids do whatever they want all the time. We can be strict without being abusive. The physiological effects of abuse last for life. It's not helpful at all. I was also a strait A student and graduated at the top 1% of my class. I took IB classes, above AP level and in the end it still wasn't good enough for my mom. All I wanted was love and acceptance. As an adult, I realized I never should've had to work to be loved. We work to progress ourselves to be the best we can be and we should learn self-motivation, not fear-motivation. Fear-motivation doesn't last. Love isn't earned, it's given.

@@artemisa1523 exactly, my mom never hit me too and I always tried to be respectful to her and not to disappoint. But I did misbehave, especially in puberty I talked back quite a lot, but shouting was enough for me to shut up and even start crying because you failed her. And then I saw kids who got beaten up but didn't really correct their behaviour 🗿

I feel the same. I'm white but it wasn't until I was a teenager that I found out that it's not normal to have your father throw your mom across the room like a rag doll

Ofc middle class people,Asians,Black people are the ones who have experienced this lol

@@rikhmjustsomeguywithmousta4971 so the people with much money dont get beat?

5th grade I learned that not all dads beat up their kids. Eye opener.

@@Kaliel213 they are talking about allowance

India

Don' t pay back every cent they spent, that's just another part of abuse. they spent every cent on you because of their choice, you didn't choose to be born. Just leave.

I’m happy you realized what you want and what would make your mental health better while pushing through that abuse,Congratulations to you!

I was 49 years old when I finally got therapy. Please do it sooner. Hopefully there is a nonprofit that will cover the costs. You can maybe get help now.

As a black women, I believed in discipline without it children turn wild, beating not so much. But paying back your parents!!! that's insane, they make a choice by having you, and they should cherish their child not every one can have children. I hope you feel better when you leave, good luck.

You don't need to give anything back, it was their desition ando responsability to have and raise a kid. Children do not owe nothing to their parents.

Every latinoamericans

And African

Every African

as an asian, I can't relate. they yell at me instead

@@Nerdymua me too but I never got hit or anything except for my cousin's mother and my Aunt who hit me in the head with papers lol

frr

Finally! I totally agree with you. Reading the comments it seems that everyone think that the only way to discipline is corporal punishment 🙄 I mean, i am asian (born and raised in europe thou) but my parents almost never raised hand against me. I have a great relationship with my parents, too.

Yeah, same here. My mom never even raised her hand. Communication is key. She made it clear where she had her expectations, and if I failed to reach that I communicated that I literally had reached my peak in for example math. Then we would work things out. She wasn´t too slack nor did she choke me with expectations. And If she has hurt my feelings, I let her know. If I hurt hers, she lets me know. If I needed to improve, she would let me know and somehow direct me to get better. I still don´t know how she did it. I have gotten shouted at for a shitty grade before though, and those few times really made me make sure I at least would try my best. If we can´t be civil in our home, how can we expect anything to be better later in life? Sure, for some it works out to hit the child that is reliant on them, but its a gamble to teach someone vournable that hitting is fine inside the home.

​@@jossanmolla5264 Not True! If you don't punish the kid, the kid will never learn and if you just "talk" about it the kid will take it lightly and forgets about it.

you guys must have the most luckiest and lovable parents, having to live in fear if you did something wrong EVEN the slightest bit will result to your hands getting beat, belt to your butt, getting slapped, and getting beat to death by a pan while you have no free will to do anything cuz if you even talk to them the slightest, you become orphan.

@@metal9076 Nahh bro I refuse to think that its that cruel like the way u described it

This is accurate. 😆

I'm Asian. But thank you so much for writing this. I hate how people in Asia normalize that. That said, I still enjoyed the video though.

@@dishamahesh1112 I wish as time passes they won't normalize it anymore...

Obviously there's a balance somewhere in the middle, and this is just showing the two bad extremes for comedic effect.

There is always a balance.... a few people had similar comments about the beating and I respect that but no one has yet to shame the gross entitlement some children are raised in. That is not a good character builder either and that behavior has its own damaging effects.

@@CoCoFantastique I agree. Spoiling children is just as bad as hitting them. I just think no one mentioned that in the comments because spoiling your children is already seen as a bad thing in Asian countries (rightfully so) but child abuse in normalized.

Getting screamed at by someone you care about and rely on can feel so horrible. Okay in moderation, but... yeah too much can lead to PTSD. Hope you get better.

I went through that as well and honestly I would have rather been hit.

Physical damage can heal over time, but emotional damage sticks with you.

@@All-star_Giga_Gargantuar Physical damage and emotional damage can go hand in hand especially from someone you love

oh nao estava esperando por isso, mas ao mesmo tempo nao me surpreendo e_e

The violence does not help the kids-it’s internalized racism-and they’ll grow up to beat their spouse instead of helping them.

You Don't have to be physically and mentally abused just to be a decent person. I wasn't and I have a 96 in maths an 88 in science and nothing below 80s besides English. Furthermore, it is messed up and child abuse to hit a poor innocent youth because your too damn lazy to clean your own dishes, despite being an adult. Lastly, not everyone who isn't abused is spoilt, its called not complete cruelty.

@@harryshorrock2118 Thank you!!! WTF is wrong with explaining to your kids why something is wrong and teaching them better? Hitters act like the kids already know things as if the kids are grown up.

It’s the same for me

Dont worry Many Indians don't get beaten up either

My parents beat me when I was a kid, now they dont beat me because they say I'm too old for it.

@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 indians are Asians. So

Actually asian parents are changing ❤

Actually, it is slightly more than 2600 dollars ...

Are you okay? Do you wanna talk?

@@whitelotus02107 I'm kinda fine but I'm flabistered that in other cultures parents don't woop there ass

Yeah my parents would never agree to a sleepover. (Both Chinese)

@@lamorthonyfairyfriend4082 exactly.

Omg.. you are genius and brave enough to ask that question..

​@@emerald5735 *Still it took 10 year's of suffering for me to even gather the courage to say such daring words. XD*

@@Heart1nParadise yeah I can understand that.. have a good day /night whatever country you are from . I am from India btw bye .🙂

@@emerald5735 *My nationality is American and my origin is India :D*

@@Heart1nParadise it's nice to know that ..🙂

So sorry for the verbal abuse. Being hit is a physical moment; the words linger. Be kind to yourself and know that people all over the world know what you got through and support your better health.

Wow this reminds me of the time my mother bit me when I couldn’t solve this Math problem. At least I just get the emotional damage without the physical damage now :)

Wew reminds me of the time my mom hung me from the fence thingy of our roof.. 4 floors high- because of a math PROBLEM- WHAT IS IT W ASIAN PARENTS AND MATH

I can relate. This remind me of that time when my dad hit me with a coat hanger cause I refused to take the medicine for the fever. I was like about 4 or 5 years old.

Wow idk what to say....but I empathise they probably went thru the same stuff and thought it was normal.

@@user-fi1ze8nn1c I can relate I was sick my mom tried giving me medicine and so I ran around the couch so she couldn't catch me and I got beat with the belt that was prob the worst beatings I got

Sorry, Are u ok now ❤

Haitian parents do that too. When I first moved to US, it was quite the shock to see how kids talk to their parents.Growing up in Haiti, we couldn't even look our elders in the eye as it was considered rude. I struggled with that as eye contact is huge in the US.

Yes!👆🏽

@@sunnylaurie91 Yes, and at job interviews, too. "They didn't make a lot of eye contact." Well, after 400 years slavery, looking directly at your captives could and did get many killed. This is global. River Song. Ah, I miss you.

Salame! But being called weak and dumb for cry my emotions out is way more painful than an actual beating

I feel this except my mom would hit me and then would tell me that if I didn't stop, she'd give me something more to cry about which meant she was just threatening to hit me again. Nowadays, I have this suspicion that she likes it when she causes me pain in any way.. which is fueled by my belief that she is a narc since she never owns up to anything..

"We can't make a good child if we don't beat them" "Why don't you actually learn parenting then?" If that does not help actually give them a book about good parenting with the helpful bits underlined.