before moving in with a woman or getting married, every man should sit in on family court proceedings for a week...

This probably saved me so much time, energy and money. Almost moved in with my girl. Thanks Rich you are a true older brother.

Do not buy a house together with a girlfriend! God I've been down this road! Great video!

A friend of mine landed a really nice job in Panama City a few months ago and literally a month later, he gets together with an old girlfriend who just had a kid with some other guy! A few weeks ago, he invited her to move in with him. As a friend, I expressed my concerns on multiple occasions but to no avail. It's like watching a ship sink in slow motion and I cant' do anything about it.

Learning/Understanding these concepts at 22 has been a heaven sent

I've been divorced twice and know first hand what Rich says in this video is 100% spot on. Now I'm in in a 5 year relationship where we don't live together and don't jointly own anything. We see each other once or twice a week. It has been fantastic, never gets boring and we are both free to leave whenever we want but we don't. I will never get married again or move in with someone. That is a relationship and desire killer. Women get bored in a marriage much faster than men do. Keeping your lives separate keeps things exciting. Competition anxiety is real.

very important thing in my opinion is that if you decided to live with a woman (to test her as a wife of course) is that she always understands one thing : it's not that you are living together, it's she is living in your house. In this case she understands that you are in control of a situation not her, and you will get what you want.

I’ve lived with two different girlfriends for a total of 6 years and I was the one that lost sexual interest first. You’re a risk in this too, not just her.

Hate to admit it, but ur right! Makes me work harder so he wants want ME more than anyone else.

I agree, the sex dies down bigtime after living together for 6-12 months. The “together but living apart” thing is awesome - i’m surprised i’d never thought of that before.

My recent experiences confirm competition anxiety and I love it. I was in a LTR 13 yrs. She moved out division of assets was appropriate to me and her. We kept seeing each other for about a year. I felt that I was not getting all of my needs met. Let her know I would not be sleeping with her any more and would be seeing other women. What a great move, I tried to keep the door open she said she did not want to be the consolation prize. My response Ok then we are done done. A week later she asked to re-frame that. Three days later wild ass crazy monkey sex. She knows I am seeing and sleeping with other women. She asks questions and tries to out perform them. She refers to them as my harem. She works hard to be my top girl. Things she would not do when we were living together she volunteers to do. Learn the program work the program. Life is good and I am being so completely honest I almost feel guilty.

Sex stops much sooner than marriage or moving in together if she gets the hint that you love her. If she feels she has the hook on you, than it's over because she doesn't feel the need to put in the effort anymore..

Competition anxiety is definitely a thing. If a woman feels threatened she will be so good that you won't be tempted to look elsewhere, even if she doesn't really want you, she won't want anyone else to either! Maybe not all women but most of them.

No gain, all liability....Don't do it!!

Esther Perel's discussion on desire is a great way to cover this topic to other women. Living with someone, the day to day habitual obligation nonsense, definitely kills desire. Live apart, plan the time together, anticipate it and f-ing enjoy each other

Distance creates longing. Without distance there is no actual time for her to miss you. Relationships where the man is required to spend days away from the home may actually be beneficial to the long term health of a relationship.

Law 16 - Use absent to increase respect and honor Like money, to much in circulation makes the price go down. The more she sees you, the more common you appear, thus less sex. Create your value through scarcity. Plus who wants to deal with common law marriage?

The competition anxiety idea is an interesting one, because at 37 (38 this January), after having relationships/sex since I was 17, I've experienced woman who even after long-term relationships, still wanted me, and others who didn't quite so much. I've been in a relationship where the sex was still incredible, and still almost every day after 3 years in, with her doing most of the initiating, and I've been in relationships where the sex was all but dead by that time, and in both cases I cohabited, and always gave very solid impressions that I did not cheat, and wanted to remain in the relationship. But I believe that goes to show that a lot of these lessons can change depending on the people, as well as the life circumstances.

Please listen to this man. Cohabitation creates problems. You do not want her becoming too familiar with you. I would tell ladies the same. If he is not putting a ring on thst finger then don't move in with him. A girlfriend is not a wife. Don't play house.

I have never lived with a girlfriend. My dad told me that unless your getting married dont do it. I only know one couple that live together and are not married. You see the way that they look at each other and your like ok I see it. Which is very rare these days. My grandparents looked at each other the same way even at the end. My grandparents were together for over 70 years. Great video as usual!!

Competition anxiety- It's completely true; it's not even something we are necessarily consciously aware of, but it definitely exists. I love the simple, bold talk. Thanks for another cool video!

Was dating a single mom with 3 kids for 1,5 years. She is very cute and we share a common hobby. She was a nice person and cared about me. On the negative 3 kids. Broke. No career plans or real ambition. I have a good job, am smart, quite good looking, educated and have a good character and my aim is to be the version of myself. She would have been eager to live with me but I had to decline as I cant afford to pay 500-800 euros extra/month as my goal is to get me a flat. She was not happy about it. When she decided to kick me out of the relationship I understood that I could have had lost (invested in her) something like 5000-10000 euros if I had moved in with her. All that money would have gone into waste. This just makes me even more certain to put my needs and goals first no matter what kind of woman I date. Relationships tend to end at one point or another and at that point all you have to show is what you have invested in yourself.

It's true. I used to tell women I was seein that "a girl from the gym kept flirting with me or I'll see what my friends are doing" when they tried to cancel dates or were "too tired" to do anything but sit on their lazy ass. It worked they'ed get all dressed up and get all excited to see me, but a part of me died because I realized if I didn't continually play mind games they'd stop putting in effort. These women are NOT worth the effort. Instead find a hobby or a craft and get good at it! Travel the world or purse your dream. Hell do all of it because pursuing women is nothing but an energy and time suck without any ROI Mgtow for life 💪🏻

Living alone Career Dating Holidays My happiness ☀️💜

Absolutely nailed it. I love the together but living apart relationships. I enjoy my alone time and making my own decisions. I like having the time to think about him and miss him. As in every relationship their might be living habits that your partner has that you don't agree with that would otherwise ruin your live in relationship. Living separate limits that tension. Unless​ you are a person​ who just doesn't know how be alone, living together really isn't required to have a successful long-lasting happy relationship.

I meet a girl a long time ago that I liked she would come to my place and spend the night on the weekends after spending the night on weekends only for about one year. somehow we decided to just live together the first 2 years were 95% Good then the next 3 years were just ok about 70% then 2 years after that we just got really bored of each other and annoyed with one another and everything dropped down to 40% to a point where we decided we couldn't live together anymore

Brought the book through your link. Thanks for the material you put up.

“There was No Way to Compromise, so now We’re living... ...Separate Lives.” -phil collins

I dated a a girl for 2 years then we moved to a new city and got an apartment together.....A broken lease and an eviction later. I learned my lesson.

Founding this channel truly change the way i see life now , thank you for sharing your knowledge GOD BLESS YOU

Great videos you make sir, I appreciate the knowledge you offer through them, keep up the good work.

This sums up the sexes view on marriage and living together: For women, it grants rights without responsibility. On the other hand, for men, it grants responsibilities without any rights. Can you see why women want marriage and living together so bad and why men rightfully should want to avoid marriage and living together!You have my permission to use this in a video.

I was in an awesome LAT (Living Apart Together) relationship for over a year. Then I moved in with her, and it was over in a month. A man's love is fuelled by connection. A woman's love is fuelled by protection/provision, and once she feels like she's secured that from you, her lust drops off precipitously.

I wish you would have made this video 2 years ago...I kept my house though.

Great advice! I'm going thru this right now! The timing of this video is perfect!

Richard, same age as you, divorced also with kids..I look forward to listening to your videos everyday as I recognize the value in them. Thanks brother, keep it up!

Preach brotha! Keep saving men's lives.

Thanks for some interesting and real world truth taking place. It's much deeper than you can imagine though. This stuff isn't just happening by chance, trust me. Have to realize what time we are living in to fully understand why things are the way they are.

always try to find a some gain no loss situation (AKA win-win) moving in as "taking things to the next step" is not one of those situations.

This is my new favorite channel

Thank you for your education & advice. You do save a lot of people. You shall leave a great legacy. One that will show rational persons how to navigate economically & socially in this century

Good explanation! Love your channel, man!

Thank God I found you and Rollo when I did. My ex tried to use the excuse of saving money and hint that we should co-habitat. I asked myself the question, "would I eventually marry this chick"? The answer was no and i broke it off three weeks later. My old self would have believed that saving money would have been a great idea and "testing" our relationship was worth trying. Those ideas are crap, thanks guys, you saved me a lot of misery. Next....

All true! every live in relationship ive been in turned into a weird twisted humiliating dance of obligations over time. its a cruel fate to suddenly realize your love for a person has turned into shackles that will have an insane and astronomical price for breaking free of them.

Truth! Hear me brothers, the moment your girlfriend moves in is the moment the relationship starts dying. If you aren't in it for children and family, you should just stick to casual dating. Good way of looking at competition anxiety is this: When does a relationship feel the hottest? Right at the beginning. Why? Because you both know each person can leave at any time for any reason. As soon as you start putting rules on the situation and removing the freedoms of the other party, the party is over.

A year lease is a small price to pay in the grand scheme of things I bet most men wish they could get off that light LOL

Good stuff, another video outlining my flaws from past relationships. So to say, I was young and dumb. Keep it coming, love the content.

Bought the rationale male and it's an interesting point of view and unplugging from the world. With a year before college begins for myself, gonna be interesting using this information throughout life, and glad I fought it, because even at this age, some of this information I wish I had before my relationship.

My MGTOW mentor speaking the truth!! I needed this slap in the face of reality.

The competition anxiety part is so true. I literally thought that was just my experience. My girl used to make such a fuss about me. Try and see me wherever she could. Compliment me, gift me. Tell me she'd had other offers but she wanted me. And then after a few months of her forcing her way into my house. She didn't move in with my permission. She stopped all that and started focusing on what she wanted for herself, and what she wanted from me. Regardless of if it affected what I wanted for myself.

I’m just soaking up lessons. Me being in my early 30’s these are pure gold. If you’re lonely get a dog makes pretty sense all you got do is walk them feed them and they can’t take half your shit

I changed my mind, I liked this video after all.

Richard you are the best. That's exactly what my sister always advised me against it. Cohabitation should only happen if the both of them get married. That's what I think.

I love that you quote Chris Rock one of my favorite comedians

Yo thanks again Rich for dropping truth. Doing God's work out there

I love your videos on these topics

This is absolute facts!

Sup? Smash that like button, and leave a comment below and share your experience with the community on competition anxiety and living with a partner. Stuck on something and need coaching? Support the channel, and book my time here: clarity.fm/richardcooper

I wish I started watching you 3 years ago this would have saved me some heartaches

Great wisdom here man thanks!

A lot of truth to this one. The minute a female thinks she has you to herself and that you are not going anywhere The hamster in between her ears takes a nap/crap. And all the indoor Olympics slowly come to a halt. Suddenly, it's not realistic to have pornstar style sex on a daily basis when it was very realistic just a few weeks prior. This vid extremely true and spot on. If you want somebody in your life who's just a companion and you can pass newspaper back and forth in the morning with then go ahead and move in with her. If you want pornstar sex keep a separate residence and keep her wondering

Dude!!!!!! Life makes sence now... thank u

I'm confused....do we keep dating for the rest of our lives until we're old and no woman would want us? Marriage seems like everyone bashes it, and people praise being single, but at the same time they want a relationship. This shit is so confusing.

Another great video bro! Your thoughts on Alain de Botton and his philosophy on relationships? Thanks and God bless!

Finally, been waiting for this for a while(even though I'm single) just wanted to see your input on this.

Great vid thanks for the advice !

This is probably the best advice anyone could give young guys who are blinded by all the action they are getting from a new girlfriend.. once he moves the girl in, he cock-blocks himself and doesn't even realize it. I think it is also sound advice not to get involved with a female roommate that you were previously platonic with. This falls under the "don't shit where you eat" rule... I think couples should maintain separate residences even if they are long-term/permanent. So much fewer headaches and much less liability with this arrangement.

You’re spot on Rich. Once her name is on that mailbox you cannot kick her out. Trust me it’s a nightmare

This is so hilarious, man. I am going through this exact same thing. I planned on looking thoroughly and carefully into getting a place with my 23 y o girlfriend. We had great sex, we have tons of fun in general, we enjoy a lot of the same media, we make each other laugh to the point of suffocation all the time and even to this day. She wanted me to move in with her, to help her move out of her parent's house. My plan was to maintain dominance in the relationship while we slowly integrate a language and system of communication that was conducive to resolving conflicts and securing each other's dignity and power in the relationship while we looked -carefully- for a good living situation. Another way to look at it was that we weren't ready, and she would have to grow up a little and quickly if she wanted me to do that. My position was a little closer to "why not, because I have set precedent that our relationship must make complete sense from a commitment standpoint, and I won't waiver from that position. I just want to be the authority in the situation". Well, as with many other things that involve "adulting" (I freaking hate that word but it's apt here), she used her desperation for something she wanted to manipulate me. She used her desperation for moving out of her parent's place to manipulate me into moving into an overpriced apartment right in her high-property-value town(the density and size of cities and towns are high here being near a major metropolitan area, and we couldve moved anywhere and still be close to everything). But I wouldn't even know it until after she had already gotten the apartment and lived there for a month. I didn't know anything about the details of the lease, the price, or the fact that she couldn't afford it, until halfway into month two of HER lease in HER apartment that she got for "herself". That week, she argued with me intensely and threatened to break up with me, but then apologized and asked me to move in with her because she couldn't afford the apartment. I just couldn't imagine that she would actually be intellectually capable of hatching a plan where she intentionally would manipulate me like that, but I'll never know at this point. The more I moved my shit into her apartment from my very bachelor bunking situation with one other buddy, the less sex we had. I even recall the words on her calendar saying "Move (yours truly) in more!!!", I find that disturbing in retrospect. Subsequently, I lost respect and power in the relationship, I have been more subject to her moronic genderbender feminazi girlfriends opinions, she has abandoned my demands for higher fitness and dress standards, and we have absolutely no sex whatsoever. What's crazy is just like Cooper mentions here, the limited stinkbug-tactic sex that we did have before we completely stopped has even resulted in crying and equivocations of behaviors that reminded her loosely of the behaviors of an abusive ex (never actually abusive or offensive, just reminiscent of another person she dated like "he drank water like that too" kind of situation. The lack of sex doesn't seem to be intentional or malicious. Originally it was due to a self-proclaimed depression, but now the depression is one of her own making, as the antagonists are now clearly identified out loud and she is unwilling to fix them (especially her job... she's an allstar employee who could work anywhere, but I'm pretty sure she's waiting until she ragequits her job on her worst day to even start looking for another position). I was able to predict all this ahead of time, but I was unwilling to act on those predictions due to inexperience. While I have been able to break through to her on many of her irrational, inequitable and INDEED FORETOLD behaviors and contradictions post hoc in a flavor that she would agree to be morally unacceptable, not to mention I think she knows the jig is up, I am not sure I will be able to outpace her self-unaware instinctual behavior by appealing to her redeeming qualities in order to save our relationship. It just goes to show that, when you can tell that a person has not integrated their jungian shadow and become more self-aware regarding their sexuality, and perhaps even if they HAVE, it will always play out for the better to err on the side of insulting and displeasing your partner and staying out of this situation. If it was going to be a good relationship, it would have stayed together because of respect and high standards, or it would have fallen apart because it was unworthy. I'm not as secure and as badass as the bandits on this channel, and my sexual experience is limited and scars are piled up, so I'm going to try and YOLO a power grab in the relationship. I'm 33 years old and just got into the best shape of my life, I'm just around the corner from doing very well for myself, and I've been told by pretty much everyone that has been close to me that I'm great looking. I hope that this gives me 1. some new equity in the relationship or 2. an out for a better situation. Now, after listening to this video and typing this story out, I'm not so sure that actually holding onto this relationship is a good thing.

You're absolutely correct and I'm sick of the dynamic between women and men just tired of it.

Wish I would’ve watched this earlier. Started dating a younger girl (who I care about very much) and after 6 months she slowly started to move her things in. Now a year later she’s living with me and can’t get time away from her ever.

Great advice!!!

You really hit the nail on the head.

Good video. Maybe you could distinguish between different situations to clarify on the dangers. The biggest problem is that thru cohabitation alone, you could become legally married by common law. That won't come into play for 3-5 years, but it's just like real marriage and you will lose half. You can live with someone without major financial reprocutions by living together, but only if you don't sign the lease together, allowing you to either leave or kick the girl out. That however will not save you from the relationship dynamic changes and the "micro divorce" of losing your comunal stuff when you go... usually furniture like the beds and tvs which you bought together, assuming she lets you take anything besides your suitcase when you walk out.

I'd never heard of competition anxiety but it makes a lot of sense. One of the most confusing things to me was why almost every girl that's ever dumped me ends up trying to bang me within a few weeks. They find out that I'm dead serious about not being friends afterwards, that they will cease to exist to me. I don't make a very secure secondary safety net to fall back on if I erase them from my life and that must kick competition​ anxiety into overdrive. Because without fail they find some reason to get in touch and whatever the subject is ends up segueing into coming to my place. Before I understood what was really going on I absolutely took what they offered. I didn't give a crap about the guy they were with as they usually had been screwing them before things ended, and as petty as it might be I took the opportunity to get back at both parties by sleeping with my ex and then never acknowledging her presence ever again. Pretty much every girl wants to stay friends, and yet almost every one of them wouldn't allow a friendship between their boyfriend and an ex, saying that it isn't that they don't trust you, it's that they know better than to trust other women. And they absolutely know that most women will not allow this and have the gall to ask for it anyway. Just walk away and don't look back. Ever. There are other women out there and I can guarantee that the boost you'll get from dropping your ex cold will get someone's attention so why waste a second of your time on an ex?

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Its not only the woman who loses sexual desire. Living together has a calming effect on the man as well... He may go from a lone wolf living alone with no close contact with people, to a calming intimacy on a daily basis, intercourse or not. The confidence may even make other women seem more attractive.

Awesome advice! Could you adress a video regarding to virginity, tips, or common mistakes young guys tend to do that totally will set you to failure?.

Yo, I think it's time you did a video on the positive aspects of pursuing women and being in a relationship besides the obvious sex. Far too many videos on why women are shitty. Although we are "red pilled" we still like us a good quality broad. Share some experiences you've had with a good woman, and how/if that's helped you in anyway. Thanks brother and as usual hats off. Looking forward to an R8 video.

How do you create competition anxiety without just looking like a cheater though? I've tried to create competition anxiety but in my experience women just get pissed off at me and withhold intimacy because they're suspicious of me. So how do you do it delicately?

totally agree with this video due to recent separation after years of living together

Creating competition anxiety is a great opportunity for a vetting test. If she's cool and just tries harder to make herself more attractive to you, fantastic. If she goes off the deep end and goes all psycho on you, this is a great time to find this out and cut ties.

Great video, thanks for sharing your advice. just wanted to share a positive news about divorce: I grew up in Italy and as I read the local news frequently I found out that surprisingly the courts started not to consider anymore appropriate to maintain the standard of living as a divorce means the very end of a relationship. even a famous former prime minister is going to appeal in order to get the payouts to his ex wife reduced. of course the law still protect kids but it will be more equal.

Enjoyed the video.

Couple disclaimers, I am a woman and I have experienced decreased sex-drive once moving in with a boyfriend. I see the same behavior in many other women, and ofc I can't speak for all women or all situations. First off, there's this odd sort of 'backwards' situation going on for women. The closer a man gets into her life, the more dependent she becomes on him. This dependency is viewed very harshly by society, and women feel a lot of shame for 'needing' a man. However, many women would LOVE the 'traditional' family, where marriage means till death do us part, BUT a lot of fear was pushed into the culture. Fear of an abusive man, fear of a man who mistreats them, and on top of that, fear of being completely fucked if she choses to value her own safety over her marriage. This is how feminism became so dominant, women terrified of being abandoned when they are at their most vulnerable. Men have this too, don't get me wrong, but women's power DECREASES over-time, while men have the capacity to INCREASE their power without reducing their 'sexual success'. Women have to 'give up' a LOT of power to pass on their genes, while men just need a willing pussy, and society does the rest for him. Obvs, boys with good fathers are more likely to be successful in their life, but men physically do not have to think about those kinds of ramifications. Women, by the nature of their biology, MUST consider the long-term ramifications of their choices, due to the nature of human sexuality/etc. Because of this, the modern western woman has increasing anxiety when intimacy increases. Sure, men can lose everything, but there's not nearly so much negative shame attached to getting married. There's the usual jokes, but when 'we' think of a successful man, being married with kids is usually one of the main characteristics that come to mind. Women are taught very confusing lessons that contradict themselves. It's incredibly rare for there to be a woman who can "have it all", or at least, to be happy with it. But if they aren't happy, they are going to cause problems in the relationship which makes everything worse. And they feel like they SHOULD be happy with having "it all", but they just can't, and things turn to shit. I've mentioned it before, but female happiness is deeply dependent on their comfort. Sex is fine when there is a 'comfy' emotional barrier. If you aren't living together, there's less commitment, so it's fun, and they are able to relax more. But once you move in, suddenly they have to face their desire for more intimacy, and their fears regarding what we've been taught about what it means to be a "good woman". So the defenses go up, female comfort decreases, and she's less open to sex. it's not that there's a problem with moving in together that causes this. It's the conditioning of society. And it's intentional. They WANT the traditional family to crumble, so they're going to target women and make them fear intimacy, and make them fear their inner desires. Women WANT to open themselves and devote themselves fully to a man. The problem is that it's a HUGE commitment of our entire LIFE. Men don't understand how massive of a choice it is, and how much the burden of that choice weighs on women (especially throughout history). The more a man can help a woman relax, the more successful the relationship will be. No matter what stage in intimacy, closeness, or commitment. The hard part for men is helping a woman relax while still being true to himself. The hard part for women is learning to trust, not just the man but also her own judgement, and to be honest. Society does everything it can to confuse people because confused women leads to shitty relationships, which leads to men who feel frustrated and aimless. I don't think we necessarily need a partner in our lives to make us happy. But on a society level, happy couples are key to stability. Whatever helps the individual, imo, will be good for society. So even though I don't quite agree with your perspective, I do appreciate your efforts to help people understand the madness of relationships! And I think you do a good job teaching people how to focus more inwardly, which is great! Thanks for sharing your perspective!

Thank you for this video. I have been with my gf for 4 years im 27 and she is 22 and she has been pushing me to move in a lot lately. Not happening ...

There's usually a huge economic element in regards to living with people

I'll totally agree with the competition anxiety concept, the one that sparks passion. I'll add that there's also a lockdown mentality concept, one that kills the passion. you'll say yeah, that's what happens when you live together. this is not exactly like a lack of competition anxiety though. when a gf of many years and I broke up, after the tears dried up, and we committed to the LTR being over, the fucking came back great :D ..for a little while, before we really parted ways and as friends. since it was over there was really no competition, but the return to freedom made it really spicy :P

Does competition anxiety exist? YES!

Excellent advice. Absolutely on Par brother. Keep up the great work..!

he is 10,000% spot on about this subject. ... geez i dont have enough time or space in this thread to go through the details i personally went through....recently divorced also....i can't see any reason from here on out to move in or live with another woman....sorry gals...truth hurts

It is hard for me to understand how women can basically view sex as a commodity that can be used to manipulate men or to capture their undivided attention. My first impression is that a lot of these men are simply not very good in bed, that they are unresponsive to what a woman is wanting sexually, or that they are just selfish (e.g., they skip foreplay, finish quickly, or are unwilling to do what she asks for). Also, coming from another perspective, is sex supposed to be the end-all be-all of a relationship? I thought the idea was to meet someone and settle down. That is, to get fat and old and find comfort in one another as human beings rather than solely as a means of sexual gratification. I suppose feminism and no-fault divorce law basically ruined that paradigm, though. Now people need to be on alert at all times, because the fact is that they simply do not need one another in the way couples of old needed to coexist to succeed.* Food for thought. *leaving debate on healthy homes, the failure of single motherhood, the epidemic of the welfare state, and the dissolution of the fabric of western civilization for another time.

Agreed, in my 20s it was standard to shack up and live together, as the bs continued over the years I got more and more gun shy if you still now in my later 40s you couldn't pay me to live with a girl. Unless it was going big with marriage of course, even marriage is out the window if a guy is smart... in reality if you love each other is no issue, avoid the legal ties

Hi EIC, would you argue against that competition breeds productivity? i'm interested as this pertains to your view on this subject - perhaps a good video topic, but I believe the competition anxiety that you speak of is something to be embraced and tackled for fruitful benefits in the end. I have the utmost belief that without your own experiences, that you never would have come to the person, the teacher you are today that I have followed. Would love to hear your response or touching more on competitiveness/manhood with entrepreneurship and attitudes envolved. thanks, Aaron.

So glad I’ve had this confirmed.... I know I will left with the bill if I moved in with my girl and it didn’t work out...

I am a woman and I agree. Women have become stupidly competitive. I must honestly say how appalled I am at a lot of women's lack of sexual integrity. I had a husband that did this to me. The number of dudes looking for a sugar momma is crazy! I heard a couple guys while in the grocery store bragging on his girlfriend working (also on food stamps) and how he got to smoke weed and lay video games all day. There are loads of those as well. Thanks for the tips.

so true. I am the married men who remembers the good times of the past.

Man, I think I'm living this situation right now.

Great chat/info. Problem with any type of advice like this looking at women and their behavior never gives/bring ups a solution. If most women are like this, should a guy just be single? Should he never date, should he never get married? Seems like this behavior is inevitable. So should one just suck it up in order to have children and a family?