When Men Say NO to Sex

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We often frame consent in the context of a man asking a woman, and them saying yes or no, but how often do we tell men they also have the right to say no to sex and that doesn't make them any less of a man!
This week is Sexual Health Week (#SHW21) which is run by the sexual health charity Brook, and the theme is Consent!
Erections Don't Give Consent - Ungirl / ctpszmxszu6
Brook - Sexual Health Week www.brook.org.uk/shw/
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0:00 Intro
1:19 Sometimes you're not into it
2:03 Erections are not consent
3:18 Power and coercion
3:55 Avoiding pregnancy
5:12 Lack of confidence
5:50 Saying no doesn't make you less of a man
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@andyhartley 2 жыл бұрын

If you're a man, have you ever felt it was difficult to say no? If you're someone who has sex with men, do you ask for consent? Let me know in the comments.

@robertmenzies6939 2 жыл бұрын

What a breath of fresh air. I have noticed that the discussion over consent seems to be very one directional, so great that your discussing the other side of the storey as society seems to think we are always up for it at every opportunity and to say No would suggest you don’t love / want or care for your partner. Which of course is total rubbish.

@ameliel8792 2 жыл бұрын

Totally. The patriarchy dictates that men should be willing and ready for sex at all times. This is how no one wins under patriarchy. I've even seen men who were coerced into underage sex be mocked by other male friends because these attitudes are so normalised. Change needed.

@habzbrah1238 2 жыл бұрын

When surveyed, HALF of women wouldn't date a guy of average height (5 ft8- 5ft9) yet they LOVE talking/making podcasts about sex and sex positivity

@andyhartley 2 жыл бұрын

So half of them would? Sex positivity doesn't mean you don't have preferences over your sexual partner, it means you don't judge other people for what they like when it comes to sex.

@habzbrah1238 2 жыл бұрын

@@andyhartley You misread. Half of women would not even CONSIDER a man of average height, let alone the other physical characteristics they are after. Amongst the remaining average height men, 80% of this subset of women would go for the top 20% in this subset of men. Also, this is called a requirement, not a preference. Tell me one feature that such a large subset of men would rule out such a large subset of women for, like women do with height.

@michaelammons2350 2 жыл бұрын

@@andyhartley the problem with any type of preference like height that statistically only a small number meet that preference is that the person with that preference increases their chance to be alone perpetually though Im not sure they are aware of that extreme limitation. Roughly only 15% of men are 6 ft and above so that would likely leave a majority of women who prefer a man 6 ft and above without a mate unless they make allowances for it or share partners with other women.

@TerrelleCheers1 Ай бұрын

NO SEX NO POWER • Sex is choice exclusively between two biological parties. Completely, indiscriminate of its intersectionality. As women have the empirical human right to govern their own body, men also have the empirical right to exercise their reproductive freedom via Anti-pro-choice. Learn more?