Any guy who tries to create a "harem" is crazy!

Polygamy: A young man's dream and an older man's nightmare

I lived in Central Africa for about 5 years in the 1980s. I found out that if a man could afford more than one wife, he was expected to have more than one wife. This was not because the man wanted the extra wives, but because women were expected to be cared for. If a man's bother is killed, then his bother is expected to take on his brother's wife. I thought it was strange in the beginning, but now it makes sense.

I know some folks in a poly relationship. 1 man and 3 women, all have been friends for a long time and capable of their own support. It seems to work for them. The women have their days of the week with the man and the women enjoy each other's comfort as well. I don't think I could do what they do, but it works for them. Of course there isn't any marriage involved, there also doesn't seem to be any real conflict. I've seen traditional relationships with more conflict.

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One family to support is plenty enough.

I just dont get how millions of people with a long history of failed relationships always swear this type of relationship is destined to fail

While I'm not actually interested in doing anything in the Philippines, and especially not interested in polygamy starting a harem, this video series has been an interesting look into certain aspects of your culture. Keep it up!

I like the fact that you asked multiple types of people.. local & foreign

I really LOVE your "Interview" videos and this one was VERY GOOD. There were a wide variety of responses and I liked how you would "flip" the questions and even that got an even wider range of responses. I agree with the one gentleman, just having one woman at times can be more than enough for me to handle. I have always just had one partner in my relationships and always remained faithful to my partner. I would NEVER EVER cheat on my FOREVER LOVE, Cap'n Pea....!!

Happy Sunday, Houston Astros WIN The World Series! Keep putting up the high quality content that so many of us have grown to love!

I'm a poly guy from the US poly, when done right, is a beautiful thing. You have people to support you, a large family to help every one grow, less financial stress, And all the attention you could ever want

I had a Vietnamize friend who's neighbor in Viet Nam had two wives. When she asked what her neighbor thought about it, the lady said there was more shared work so it was easier

My great grandfather had 2 wives (this was over 100 yrs ago-he was the "Soysauce King" of Southern China). He sent at least 2 sons (one was my grandpa) overseas to study and to start businesses. They never divorced. In some ways, if the man is good, there's more stability than nowadays with average marriage lasting less than 7 years with a 55% divorce rate!

Very well made video on an interesting topic. Two thumbs up 👍🏾👍🏾

@Thefilipinapea Thank goodness my wife is opened to this. She is Filipina/ Japanese. Most people don't understand the benefits of this. We see generational wealth, and the "List" goes on. Most people new to the idea, they think its about "LUST". That's not the key. You have to prepare your mindset, have life-goals, and a strategy on how to manage everything. I had to recreate myself for this lifestyle. The problem is "FINDING Filipina who are interested".

I definitely have to book a flight tomorrow!!! Keep up the amazing work Pea

Not everyone realizes, more wives means more mothers-in-law! 🤣

You are amazing, so funny and creative! I love this channel. Thank You, Pea!!! 💜 OMG, I'm still smiling. 🥰

I love this channel ❣️ please continue don't change beautiful honesty is 🗝️

It's nothing wrong with having multiple wives just make sure you be able to financially and physically take care of them .

POLYGYNY IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. NEITHER IS MARRIAGE.

Thanks for making your videos highly interesting and entertaining from beginning to end, Philippino Pea !!

Really love the short videos at the end!!!!!

This just popped up in my feed. Loved the video. I had my own experience with a Filipina back around 2002 - 2003. It was intense, but she was young, silly, and unfaithful, so I had to end it. Strangely, she STILL calls me from time to time to try to get back with me. I'm not sure I understand why. Anyway, subscribed!

I can imagine that 4 wives might be fun in the beginning for some men, but I can’t imagine having 4 mother in laws or 4 families to look after😊

Amazing and thanks for this new information on the diversity of the Filipino society and its mores. I am impressed by the open-mindedness of some of these young people and in particular, by the views of the woman in the denim jacket (sharing the same bed) along with that of the last one in the video, who would wish to screen the other woman. On the other hand, it's sad if done for economic reasons only.

Great topic Pea and great ending to your episode. You are great at interviews and also are very creative. You put a lot of work into your production and it shows. The pirate skit was great! lol Congrats on growing your channel.

I found my absolute beauty, but I can’t lie, there’s always many that spin my head in every city and province. Self control is a must

In the nineties I met 2 old guys with harems in gensan, they weren't married to any of them. It was completely a financial deal for the young girls, I asked the guys about girls fighting, but they said if there was problems they put them out and got another. It seemed like the girls aged out and moved on after a few years.

I couldn't think of anything worse. Great video Pea and your channel is and has been a super professional out put of your time and research. Hope you are well and thanks for sharing!

Love your work Pea. Please don't cut off my jib, you have a great sense of humour and fun. Thanks for sharing.

I'm a practicing Muslim and I'm telling you based on personal experience that Polygamy is not for everyone, it is hard to manage and maintain, requires a very resourceful husband, a very forgiving wife and a major reason to be in such marriage ... nevertheless for our Pinay sisters I see it very difficult because of cultural stigma and uprising values ... Filipinas are very jealous in general, so it will be very emotionally challenging for Filipinas to be into a polygamous marriage with any man either foreigner or pinony ... congrats on another very successful video my dear Pea

I believe in polygamy and I want to try. Thank you for the video. I didn't know, it seems to be more common and accepted as I thought.

Outside of always great content.....you never cease to crack me up!

I AM LOVING THIS CHANNEL !!!!!

One good woman is more than enough for me. But i just want a quiet, peaceful, happy life. I don't need unnecessary drama. One woman working with me towards the same goals and dreams.

Years ago I had a friend who had six wives. They got along and were the best of friends. Each had their own space and a good deal of respect for each other. They all shared in everything and that seemed to only strengthen the bond. It worked for them. While I'm not opposed to someone having that sort of thing as it's none of my business. I don't think I would want it. I can't imagine being married to more than one Filipina. The tempo factor alone would be too much. Beside the fact that when I'm in a relationship I don't even check out another girl because for me, that would be like I was disloyal to the girl. So there's that.

One question you kept asking I feel the need to push back on. Love vs financial gain. They are not mutually exclusive. A relationship/marriage depends on many factors. A spouse can be in it for love and economic security and companionship and a family and shared values and physical attraction, companionship, and more.

Great vid as always Pea! That girl at 3:23 is way too cute too, her laugh had me chuckling!

Good evening Pea. 3rd dose of vitamin Pea this week, and it does the spirit good! Now, Let's get that algorithm going!

If you haven't already read it (and if you can find a copy there), a book by Don Milton called "Prince of Sumba: Husband to Many Wives" is about an American missionary who, even though married, enters into a polygamous relationship with seven young Filipina women. Worth a read, regardless of your feelings on the issue.

Flipina pea you never seems to amazed me with you excellent vedios your blog's are very interesting to watch if I am having a bad day I watch your blog's stay safe be blessed and god bless

Great video thank you for sharing 😊

Single motherhood and polygamy are related, and if data on this existed, you'd find that for 300 single mom filipinas there's probably a hundred fathers. Openly having several wives is just the visible tip of the iceberg, and I'm betting that it's actually more prevalent than anyone thinks.

Hello Pea , when I was a young man in the navy I was exposed to that on one of my two months stays in your country. All I can say is that every one, the three of us were well fed and happy.

Hahaha the end of video was funny, you're so creative

Excellent content once again ms pea,only need one like u

I have family members that practice polygamy with having more than 1 wife. With more than 1 wife, I think it can work only because I've seen it work. With having more than 1 husband, they would definitely have to get DNA tests to figure out who the father actually is. You're definitely correct though, jealousy is a real thing with polygamy. I've seen it with my family members that practice.

I was brought up that my heart is huge in friendship and caring, but ONLY big enough for one woman. She is the one and only woman that I will stand in front of to protect, and walk beside me through life. Many friends of mine, that were Navy, had multiple girl friends and I could never understand how they kept all of these women straight in their mind. For me - one woman is plenty and will get every bit of caring and love I have.

Pea, I stopped being surprised by your references to western pop culture. BUT you blew my mind with the Cherry 2000 reference. That is a fairly obscure movie, and one of my favorites.

Thank you for the educational video.

Something I'm experiencing and have learned, studied, and researched is that households with 1 man and multiple, 4 to 5, women are very stable and emotionally healthy households. The only time that there's ever an issue with these households is when there's selfishness, narcissism, and or jealousy. And these traits are not inherent as these traits occur when the society people are raised in creates such traits because of the folkways, taboos, and norms regarding relationships. Overwhelmingly these traits have come from religious indoctrination and delusion.

My GF keeps thinking I will take another girlfriend/wife because I'm Muslim. I tried to explain to her that every woman in a Muslim marriage must be treated equally. Each must have their own assets, not shared with the others. Plainly, I told her, she packs enough Loca loca and Tambo for one relationship. I don't need twice that.

Love your content Ms. Pea

The first time I visited the Philippines to visit my gf, I learned about the extra wifes some Filipinos have. It was my regular driver that said he had a brother with several wives. He didn't approve it. Let's face it, the Philippines has a macho culture. Having more than one wive is considered a good thing in such a culture. The Philippines is sometimes called a super catholic country but that doesn't mean Filipinos abide the rules of the church, in contrary, Filipinos tend to break all laws, both religious and secular, lol.

It seems like an odd coincidence that this came out after David Bond did his harem quest in the Philippines. Pea, you should comment on his videos. Thanks for the great content as always.

Great video and interviews

Great video !!! Very interesting answers. AND, . . . really liked your pirate's accent. Truly good.😄🥰😍😇And, THEN, your final comment, " . . . sunken chest." I howled out loud with a sudden, single burst of one huge laugh!😂😍😄😊💓👌✌🤟

I don't mind having 2 or 3 wives. I was In a relationship that I ended because she wasn't sexual enough for me. But I did love and care about her. I ended the relationship and felt like I abandoned her. Then I started a new relationship. But I can love both just the same.

I once worked with a Pinoy, who said he had 3 wives but on 3 different islands. Hahahah

Great video about Utah.

Always a fascinating subject

A surprising range of views with your interviewees! I’m sure a lot of guys fantasise about having a variety of women available to them, but the reality is a little more tricky 🤔 I’m with the older guy you interviewed who was more concerned about keeping just one woman happy! That’s a challenge with rewards I’m more than satisfied with! 😂😅

With the way the laws are, I wouldn't even want one wife lol

Great topic to discuss

I REALLY like your KZfaqs, Pea, they are interesting (not for me - but they are fascinating to learn about), You must have a very open mind to ask the questions you do, and I rather like it, I don't mean it's interesting for me actually but it's fascinating to see YOUR style of interviewing. But DOG how do you keep your own opinions out of it?

One man with multiple women is how our hunter gatherer ancestors lived. Our instincts, desires & fears are genetic memories passed down by the survivors. Men died in greater number so their were always more women to go around then men. The instinct/desire to form a harem is the result of that situation.

Hell yeah I want more hahaha! Even if it didn't work out it would be so much fun to try

Hello Pea, very funny video. For me, polygamy is the art of creating multiple copies of problems and demands. Having one and only woman, succeeding in a beautiful long-term relationship is already enough difficult. Thank you for this great video. Always a pleasure to see and learn

Very good. Very good. The ending was very witty, especially the sunken chest part. 😂💖😎

couple decades ago we had an apartment in Bonifacio where as several alternative couples/throuples (bi-girls) came and went over about a 12 year time period, and we felt it worked out fairly well for the most part - you'd occasionally have someone with a personality that became territorial to an individual but those didn't seem to last long and would move along over time - we saw it as a 'communal' of shared expenses ...'ourself' we picked up the annual cost of the apartment and electric... we were working abroad (middle-east) on 30/30's and spending our every other month off (and times between contracts) at 'The Fort' - the same two girls this started with were there in the end as well (after twelve years) although there was about a three year period where they split and we had a different house- ah, we'll call her a 'female patriarch', before their return ...at times it was sorta the afterparty safe-space for those of the same 'mindset' (bi-girls) {to be honest we don't think these relationships would work with traditional hetero concepts among the girls, sure favorites exist but everyone has to be into everyone for it to really work} - we had always let the girls create their own rules and hierarchies as long as there were no other guys in the space ('our rule', lol) ...it was our homestead of "extra rice" lol - when we returned to the States for good, we paid for one last year of rental but wasn't there. ahh, the stories we could tell, and the wisdom accumulated over time relative to what worked (and what didn't) in these environments - personally we think your situation would work well (province family with kids), if the girls got along 'and were into each other', lol - over time, they'd have special issues due to the special situation, but come on, what relationship doesn't go through its times of issues that have to be walked through and sorted out / that's life we wen't back to The Fort for three weeks a few years ago (Sept, 2019), but couldn't find anyone from the past, parties were easy to find, nothing had really changed, while 'everything' had changed, lol

Makes plenty of sense to me for the sake of wanting multiple children and wanting a larger family. Id support at minimum 2 families and when I'm gone I'd be sure to set up both for success after i pass.

The Apollo 13 skit reminded me of when fist class lounge was closed in Manila. Woman said I could file a complaint and someone would "get back to me".

You're amazing. You should have a TV show.

As long as the women aren't petty and understand it's a team effort, it can work. Have a big house for space when the mood swings happen. I had a three's company situation in the past. It worked great until one passed from cancer.

I think this is one of those things that a lot of guys fantasize about but in reality it’s not as good as the fantasy…

The blonde chick at 4.00 is super cool and has a great attitude so a big SHOUT OUT to her !! What is her name ? Great interviews Pea - well done.

The Irish accent is impressive. You would make a good actress

It really depends on the partners (more than just the traditional two). I can see where a man has feelings (emotional and sexual) for another who is not his wife, but the same is true of her. If everyone is okay with it, why not? But serious problems can still arise. Be prepared!

The girl with the white top and the short hair has one of the best smiles I've ever seen. I also love how Filipinos say the word Disaster it somehow has an extra syllable in it 🤣. Multiple girlfriends maybe multiple wives never.

Those skits are funny! The double entendre gurl!

Pea this was another beautiful video from you, your nation, and your culture, and I would like to offer the fairly new term that is often used for informal relations of this kind, are refered too as Polyamory, (Poly = Many, and Amory = Loves) and I find the concept beautiful. Often times consisting of many folks whom may derive from broken homes and lives, whom are able to find love, acceptance, solice, and security in the company of there Polyamorous family

To broaden the question , Pea, I wonder how many Filipina/ Expat relationships are based on love?

I’ve never been in a poly relationship but I believe it would solve some of the issues that I had in my 24 year marriage, I’m not naïve enough to believe that new issues would not arise but with three adults I believe it would be easier to resolve and would love to try it someday

Great vid. I'm all for polygamy, but only if they all agree and if the responsibilities are taken seriously.

Great video. I cannot say a statement that supports all sides of the participants in this scenario because in all fairness, it is the woman who is most blindsided, disregarded, and forced to witness the Betrayal. The feelings of betrayal is not good grounds for a harmonious future. Men have to tell his woman from the beginning that he's interested into supporting other women's" patreon" (lol)

I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for several years. I was also once in an open relationship for several years. I’ve know several other couples over the years who’ve had varying styles and degrees of consensually multiamorous relationships. Here’s what I’ve learned: 1. As far as relationships go, they both have advantages and disadvantages. You’re essentially trading one set of issues for another. Which style of relationship you “should” have may depend on which set of issues you’re more comfortable dealing with. 2. Poly relationships aren’t for everyone. Monogamous relationships aren’t for everyone either. (See also: the divorce rate in the US.) Some can be happy in either style. For people who can learn and be honest with themselves about this, they’ll likely be happier and more successful in relationships for it. 3. Most people have no idea the degree to which sociocultural indoctrination plays into their personal opinions about relationships styles. If they knew, they might be less judgmental (and this does go both ways). 4. Most relationships fail. We all keep trying and failing until eventually we don’t.

This is completely unrelated but I do value your input. I will travel to the Philippines around February and enjoy learning local languages. However, in the Philippines, there are many languages depending on the region. I plan on visiting multiple islands so I can't choose by region. Which language would you recommend learning?

Great video

She is doing a good job cleaning up the image of her country.

one is enough for me. trying to remember more than 1 anniversary or birthday is hard enough lol. I can give you some insight in to this topic. I have never done it myself but I did live in a lifestyle that allowed for it depending on the people involved. I can say that for most people it will end up with one or more people being very made and probably leaving the relationship. I can't speak for Muslims as I have no experience with it. It's not for me to tell someone else how to live.

I know someone in an open marriage. I told her it sounds like a disaster. Being married to two people sounds even worst. Jealousy, money, and even betrayal in favor of one wife can ruin things. Stay away as far as possible from that is my solution.

YOU ARE THE ONLY FILIPINA I NEED!!!

If you have a mistress who knows her place And the wife doesn't know I guess it could work lol. Dangerous life lol. Another great video Pea 😁

What a way to start the weekend, polygamous Pea. Fortunately in most US states this weekend we gain an hour due to Daylight Savings Time ending (an outdated idea that most people hate) so we can rest up and contemplate the weighty questions posed by the Pea. Take care.

My wife is bi, and we have lived with a third (she was also bi) before. It turned out to be really good. It was indeed more complicated, lots of communication and caring about the others feelings are needed, lots to work out. But when it works, it really is beautiful - the synergy of love, (my favorite part, although the sex was fantastic also :) ), three minds working together to solve problems, if one is away or sick, the other two have each other for support, the girls have a built -in best friend to talk girl talk, go shopping with (thank goodness, I hate going shopping with a girl :) ). Surprisingly, another facet I really loved was showing my middle finger to the "established norms" and people who think they need to tell others who to love, and how one should be in a relationship. (If you're reading this, and are one of these judgemental idiots, "I faart in your general direction!!" :) Antway, we all slept together in the same (very big :) ) bed, but each of us also had our own room for some occasional alone time too, this was important. Not to mention, three incomes instead of two makes for a more efficient, better lifestyle, and less worry about one getting laid off and resulting problems. That's really nice. I think everyone should at least try it (Polyamory) . The things you need to learn to make it work, communication, working together, being cognizant of each other's feelings, etc., are valuable lessons, and applicable to a two person relationship , too. By the wany, as terms are important- Polyamory is loving more than one person. Polygamy is marriage to more than one person. Polygyny specifically refers to a man who has multiple wives. Polyandry refers to a woman who has multiple husbands. Being "poly" simply refers to not being constricted to the typically accepted two person relationship. Thanks, Ms. Pea, for shining some light on this often hidden, but more common than you might think subject. You're wonderful , as always.

OMG Pea, from what I've learned by watching your video's, No way! That would be unmanageable!

I love your long hair , and the accent is cute. All these girls are beautiful 😍