When Should You Cut Off Adult Children Financially?

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Ай бұрын

We’ve talked about the cost of college, and how it can hamper parents saving for their own retirement. But what about supporting adult children post-college age? Clark shares some concerning stats. What’s your take? We have a popular thread on our free Clark.com Community on this topic linked here, and we invite you to share thoughts on financially supporting adult children.
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@markmurrell1894 Ай бұрын

Parents should be a safety net for their children, not a hammock!

@rdottwordottwo2286 Ай бұрын

AMAN!😊

@resterAnonyme Ай бұрын

A parent’s job is to make sure your kids, who have the capability to be self-sufficient, become self-sufficient. Dependency on a parent’s income will never make them independent.

@user-os6qx8io2d Ай бұрын

I have paid for school and college for our children and helped them till 21 and the bank of mom and dad is cut off live within your means I don’t pay their bills after 21

@OurRetireEarlyJourney Ай бұрын

Educate them on financial health as they are starting to make money in the teen years…. You won’t ever need to cut them off. They will actually be responsible when it’s time to take on bills.😊

@Curlyblonde Ай бұрын

Financial abuse of elderly parents is the most common form of elder abuse. Unfortunately it is the least prosecuted.

@alicequammen1949 Ай бұрын

I'm retired and in my mid 60s and have enough for my lifetime. After reading Die With Zero I changed from leaving my money to my 30, 30, 32 yr old kids when I die to helping fund their Roth accounts now when they can't afford that expense. None of my kids work for corporations so they have no match or 401K plans. They know if they touch the money early I will stop funding it. I feel good knowing that I am providing a chance of them being able to retire because I funded their retirement snowball early when it makes the biggest difference. They will still get my money when I'm gone, but this way much of it will be in their Roth, not mine. Does this make sense to others?

@g.t.richardson6311 Ай бұрын

That’s a good idea and I am going to consider doing something like that

@thresapalmer8728 Ай бұрын

I just did the same for my son - funded his Roth.

@ronibluerey7654 29 күн бұрын

I think it’s wonderful and teaches them to be responsible for their futures instead of enabling their poor financial decisions.

@g.t.richardson6311 Ай бұрын

Mine basically were cut off when they got a ft job after graduation. But “cutting off” doesn’t mean you can’t help a little IF you can afford it. Example … helped move daughter to NC for new job this weekend, I paid for the gas for rental truck, and meals while we there unpacking and putting furniture together. Bought her some tools. She offered to pay for the gas FOR OUR CAR! It was only 250/300 bucks but helps her out. My 3 adult children all still on my cell phone plan. But they pay, they get $25 discount if pay 3 months at a time in advance, which they have never missed ! It’s little I know , but they appreciate it, saves them a little, I can afford it

@tonylevine2716 Ай бұрын

How old are your adult children?

@g.t.richardson6311 Ай бұрын

@@tonylevine2716 23, 25, 27 All ft real jobs Only the youngest, who just graduated in December lives at home, I don’t expect him to be here a year from now. Student loans paid off in full within 2.5 years of graduation all of them (youngest, had a full scholarship and had a very small amount which he paid off in three months)

@codgerjim Ай бұрын

Teach responsability 💵 from an early age. Teach children the world doesn’t owe them anything. The sooner they learn this the better. You won’t be around forever.

@Patticlancy22 Ай бұрын

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@virginiamoss7045 Ай бұрын

Many full time jobs don't pay a living wage; those workers are short exactly $1,300 for rent. Jobs don't pay enough for shelter, so until a young person can work their way up to jobs that do pay enough to afford rent, they will have to have additional support. Yes, they can work two jobs and/or share with a roommate or two or three. Or live in a run-down, dangerous apartment that is too risky for any female. I hear young people complain that the boomers have hogged all the wealth and nobody helps them; then older people complain that the parents help them too much. Full time jobs need to pay a living wage!

@KevinInPhoenix Ай бұрын

Full time unskilled jobs do not pay a living wage. People need to acquire skills that employers are willing to pay a decent wage for and not complain that they don't make enough when they have little to offer.

@virginiamoss7045 Ай бұрын

@@KevinInPhoenix I would normally agree with you very much, but I'm thinking of those who simply are born without much to work with intellectually or maybe suffering from depression/lack of motivation or other mental health issues. Maybe they are just not quite right but they can do menial jobs reliably; they should be paid a living wage so they can just live or we taxpayers should support them. Which would you prefer? Or should they just disappear?

@jaywatson9476 Ай бұрын

My parents stop giving me money at the age of eleven years old. I enlisted in the Army a week after high school graduation and started sending money to my parents immediately 😉. My children worked and studied hard throughout their K-12 years of education and both received full academic scholarships to a major university. They too went on to serve in the military after graduating from college. Neither one of them requested that I support them financially after graduating from high school 😉. It's not the parents responsibility to take care of their able bodied adult children 😉.

@tonylevine2716 Ай бұрын

I agree but this new generation of kids and parents are different.

@jaywatson9476 Ай бұрын

@@tonylevine2716 I think it's more like, children are a reflection of their parents 😉...

@jimf710 Ай бұрын

Happy Father's Day to Clark and followers.

@cooloutboards1012 Ай бұрын

Happy father's day Clark

@diner51214.. Ай бұрын

i think its ridiculous to take $ from a parent, when you"re an adult get an extra job, and be a grownup! stop being a leech

@tonylevine2716 Ай бұрын

I agree and Gen Z and Millennials have no qualms asking for and taking the $$ either. 🤦🏾‍♂️

@rh-bd6wv Ай бұрын

True. But guess what, the elderly don't mind expecting financial, physical, and social support from their children. Age does not matter; humans are weak, needy, selfish creatures.@tonylevine2716

@Tammym44 Ай бұрын

My sister takes advantage of my parents and they pay all her bills. She does have a learning disability, which makes life a bit more difficult for her and holding a job, but she is completely irresponsible and I feel she is manipulating them to a point of bleeding them dry. She has tried to get on disability but keeps getting denied. My dad now has cancer and this has created an even greater strain. I don't know what to do. I help pay some of her bills, just to help take the pressure of them, but i don't really have the means to continue. What do i do? I don't know if this is due to her mental/learning disabilty or if she is fully just taking advantage. Please advise!!!

@mintee8638 Ай бұрын

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@mintee8638 Ай бұрын

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@mintee8638 Ай бұрын

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@mintee8638 Ай бұрын

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@mintee8638 Ай бұрын

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@jemilsense3972 Ай бұрын

Love it

@paulpeters1739 Ай бұрын

Once the child is an adult, hopefully being trained as they grow up by two parents it is no longer the parents issue ..

@anniealexander9616 Ай бұрын

I gave my 2 oldest children free homes. They are mad at me because I told them if they can't afford life, move back home so i can get rental income to help them. I told them I've given up early retirement to help them and now I'm going to focus on saving for retirement.

@facelessshadow92 Ай бұрын

I say, once they get a job, they will be given some responsibility. Once they’re done with High school, the responsibility will increase, but won’t be overbearing. It’s only to give them a taste of the real world. Once they start working full time, they’re gonna help with rent and the light bill.

@patriciapiper6294 Ай бұрын

As soon as you get that great idea of making a person to walk the earth, you are responsible for what happens for ever. You can talk and talk but the responsibility for this decision is yours. Don't make that thoughtless mistake and you dont have to make up ideas for how to get rid of them.

@MsGenXodus Ай бұрын

Every adult child i know who is living with their parent is doing so because the parent can't take care of themselves, either financially or physically or both. Trust fund kids living with their middle class parents aren't the problem, it's elderly people who didn't save properly for retirement leaning on their kids as a retirement plan.

@raymond3855 Ай бұрын

When do you cut off adult children financially...when they choose protesting at colleges and universities instead of attending classes.

@oops44 Ай бұрын

My 46-yr-old son hasn't had a job for years. My elderly husband used to pay him for working around the house. That enabled our son to get by, instead of getting a job. My husband died 3 years ago. My son still lives in the RV in the driveway, and he's never paid anything. My son got a large inheritance. I shouldn't have to pay all of the huge monthly utility bills, etc. I feel used. Recently, I finally got him to pay me $300 a month, which helps me some.

@jpHarkins-kb2vv Ай бұрын

STOP whining old lady.

@tonylevine2716 Ай бұрын

Key word: enabled!! Need to kick him out the RV and make him leave or he will be there forever!!

@TiffaniHenson Ай бұрын

It does not happen because of their age. They become resilient and can take care of themselves in learning to do this. No kids should have a job to buy whatever they want with no consequences.

@servant2478 Ай бұрын

Opposite for me, Mom can not manage money

@kenarthur6253 Ай бұрын

18 months???? Does the electric company, phone company, or mortgage company give you 18 months?'Get real. Give them 2 months, tops. The term Adult Child is like the term Honest Politician: complete BS.