The three reasons are nonsense sometimes people get back after a year or more the fact that is been six months or 3 months doesn’t matter what matters is what you believe if you believe in your gut that you can get her back then is almost never to late to get her back only exception is if she’s married with kids other than that she’s your woman

There isn’t a time, you’ll know it in yourself when you’re done.. it’s been 1 month for me which is really nothing but and I’m so tired mentally, my personal growth is for me now.

I give up on my ex the minute she gets a new bf. I have way too much self respect to be somebody’s backup plan. Choose me or don’t but there are a million fish in the sea with scales just as nice as hers.

I needed that. Its been 2 months since we broke up and all this time i was triing to get her back.shifting from phase 1-2 all the time. I feel tired, even sometimes hurt...it wasnt even a bad breakup. Im on the fence about moving on or triing a while longer.But thanks for telling me i dont have to always go through this.i kind of idiolize you and all in all Clay...you really helped me become a better more mature person so thanks for that:) Take care!

How do you move on if you want to move on but your heart won’t let you?

Tbh I'm experiencing break up too but ever since the break up you should move on from that point instead of waiting. Most of the coaches or other people would say focus on yourself when you are single again. And if the love is so real she/he wouldn't give up on you in the first place and work with you together. In the end it's always you, not them.

I told my ex if it ain’t about working on a relationship don’t add me. She added me and deleted me couple times, just recently added me was saying she misses me this and that she left me so I was hurt. I still haven’t gotten over her but we had broken up and basically in a relationship but not in one and she was just draining me whole time. She didint like something I did and she left at the end. I’ll tell you I was hurting bad. She just started talking to me on Monday snap chatting each other. I can’t take 4-5 snap messages a day from her fuck that. I told her I feel like she’s playing me.. says she misses me doesn’t wanna see me like wtf. All them old feelings I used to have came back and I started feeling sad and depressed because she was acting hot then cold. So I just told her I feel like your playing me and I blocked her. I’m tired of that I’ll rather get over her then deal with that one sided shit again.

Wow I just lost all hope. I watched a video of yours a year ago and you said it took you two years to get your now wife back. However your words are true 😢

Thanks really helpful

hey everybody, i really need some advice. so im 18 and the past year, ive had a lot of family issues that really affected my academics as well as the other aspects in my life. it stressed me out so much and so it made me loose motivation in school and sports and everything else that used to give me self value. I had this wonderful boyfriend that would support me but because i was so stressed out, I stressed him out. I would take things out on him and i started depending on him as my main source of happiness. i was so clinfy and needy and always tried to blame him for stuff just because i was insecure. he broke up with me because he said whenever he saw my name pop up on his phone, he would feel anxious. 2 days later, he reached out saying he couldnt do this anymore and he missed me too much to let his pride stop him from getting back together with me. Now, its the same issue and he broke up with me 2-3 weeks ago saying the same thing. on top of that, hes stressed out because of college applications, working to pay for his car insurance and phone bill, and starting training for competitive boxing. He told me he feels too overwhelmed and doesnt think he is ready for a relationship. I admit, I was very toxic and clingy because of my circumstance at home but I want to change because not only do I care about him a lot but i had put so much more stress on myself. I think this period apart is good because last time, it wasnt enough to really motivate me to change but i feel like im changing alot. I started a new job, started to share my care to other people instead of focusing on just for him, and am changing my thinking and taking a second to breathe before I say something out of emotion which i will definietly regret later on, and hanging out with other people, and forcing down my pride so I can try new things and meet new people (at first I thought i just wasnt a people's person but now i really enjoy it). These are all things that made me toxic. Do you think he will come back or have I already wasted my 2nd chance already?

Yep I gave up !

Thank you!!

I'm in such a desperate place. My wife (soon to be ex wife) I love her so much and should have tried harder before it got this far. HELP!! And I don't want to move on she is my for 18 yrs and the mother of my children.

I specifically explained to my ex gf that I needed space to better myself as a person for her.....but she didn't respect how I felt and wanted me to come back immediately......specially when she cheated on me and I broke away from her. She reached out to me not once but twice.....but @ that time I was blinded by raw emotions. A year later.....I started to think about her and was ready to talk it out with her and I see her with someone else....a rebound relationship. 😔💔

OK...HERE is "advice" that you can (and SHOULD) learn from...and I am NOT "parroting" the bla blabla !!!! HAPPINESS in A-N-Y marriage is LEARNING it LOVE the one that YOU HAVE FOUND !! It takes some a lot of time to do this and the lo life courts and divorce attorneys that make a living on misery will NEVER agree. It is FAR too easy and "convenient" to dump one for the other and yet 80 plus % of SECOND marriages FAIL and 90 % of third marriages FAIL...NO PAIN...N-O GAIN...stink it out or NEVER get married !!OVER and OUT !!

Hey it been 6 months now . I got him out of the anger stage . We where married for 26 years . If i call him he will talk . He told me he is having fun , taking time for him now . He said he has moved on but hugs me when he see me now and reached over and kissed me on the cheek . Talks about building a house but its not with me . Should i give him more time ????? my friend said he is coming back ???? should i not call him any more and let him miss me ????? He tells people it over and that i am a good person and he cant say any thing bad about me and will protect me and will power wash my new house . He was hurt cause i moved out and bought a house our house just got sold . Do you think its over?????

My exes first love kept popping up in her life with a text or call since she was 15 (he was 20 at that time) and he would give her false hope and dissapear so she never got closure. When he would pop up during our relationship he was in jail for a bit and had like just got out maybe last year or so and I told her both times to leave me and go be with him if she wanted him and both times she said she chose me and wanted to be with me. Well she broke up with me because she told me she was checked out of our relationship and that she lost herself outside the relationship and that she needs to learn what it's like to be independent outside a relationship BUT the obvious biggest truthful reason is she broke up with me because of the what if feelings for him and is pursuing him literally right after our break up so she reconnected with her first love from when she was 15 and they are already meeting each others family and trying to move in together and are talking about marriage after 3 weeks of us being broken up and after 3 weeks of them being reconnected they are 2 hours away from each other right now might I add, so they've mostly been reconnected through phone calls and text messages with a few hang outs/visits. And like I said they are applying for apartments as we speak, for him to come move in with her out here and he's going to be leaving his family and his mom doesn't want him to leave, so he tells her to get a place out here, but his mom says no and my ex tells me she doesn't want his mom out here cause she's a bad influence and she doesn't really know how to say it without being mean cause that's his mom. They are also discussing marriage and future stuff also. But she called me yesterday asking me if I could be there for her and listen as a friend and she was bawling her eyes out telling me she is mourning me/us and that she didn't think it would be this hard to get over me and that it would be so much easier if I had did stuff to make her hate me and she won't delete our pictures all at once she keeps telling me she is doing it little by little. And she kept telling me sorry for everything. And she told me that she doesn't know if she will ever come back to me. But she doesn't want me to hate her and she wants to stay friends(why though?) And she says that she KNOWS he is the one and she KNOWS that it is going to work she didn't give me an answer when I asked how she knows all she said was why else would the universe keep bringing us back together and she also says in the time span of being reconnected with him she says she has seen he changed and matured and she said she thinks he as good intentions for her from what he says and the way he says it and she said that she knows he is the one cause why would the universe keep bringing us back together and that now they are adults and not kids cause she is 21 and he is 26 now so it just feels right cause they've grown(but she has a lot of growing to do cause this is her first time getting her own place and paying actual Bill's like that) but she also told me that there really is no one like me and that what she is doing for him she should've done that for me. And she even told me she wishes I was her first love. She says it hasn't hit her that she lost me cause she knows I'm still there to like listen like last night. And I'm just honestly so confused cause she says he's the one and she knows it cause why would the universe keep bringing them back together but why would she be calling me crying and telling me all this stuff. And I'm pretty sure she isn't going to tell him about it either. Any tips or advice? Do I like cut her off to make her realize that she really is using me or do I like still be there for her even though she really isn't learning what it's like without me?

Man this shit is hard I’m in a very weird situation where we are technically broken up she still lives with me and my 5 year old son lives with me too. We were together for 4 years and for the most part always lives with eachother we have dogs together debt together and I think that held us together for a long time as of this year she said it was over she didn’t see a future with me probably because my lack of motivation and just sitting around all day we would fight like most couples but nothing ever to big but it was becoming more and more often as well as me not wanting to ever leave the house. I started trying to follow some of these things the past couple months but i find myself lost when it comes to how I should be around her while we live together she already has a down deposit and is definitely moving out next month. We had a talk recently about maybe trying to see if we could grow apart from eachother and try to take off again fresh in the near future... she said no that she feels like she wasted the last 4 years of her life being with me not that being with me was so bad she loves me and knows I’m a good person she just doesn’t see her self moving forward with me. I was like “no matter what?!” I couldn’t believe how serious she was about all this I still don’t know what I should be doing this woman is the best thing that’s ever happened to me and I took her for granted so bad is there seriously no way we can move past the last 4 years has it really taken a tole on her that much?

Me 15 years Your right enough is enough I'm trying but he always seem to need me and mind you he abandoned me he decided for the both of us I'm still waiting to meet him but he keeps stalling but text me tell about his issues then ask am I okay

I like Clay.

What can I do if I have made progress? Ive self reflected over the 3 months and made major movements on my end. The ex had me blocked but unblocked on valentines day (I knew this because I felt all soppy and realised I was blocked early in the day and later that day I was browsing my fb timeline and her names was tagged on a post I had previously tagged her in; I was no longer blocked) I waited 10 days and sent her a short and sweet message - she read and didnt reply; its been 4 days. Surely unblocking is progress?

Hey Clay, your videos are awesome! thanks a lot... My ex told me she does not feel anything anymore, but she's always telling the same thing every time we're in some sort of challenges like break up etc...and she was always coming back to me and fixing things. The difference this time is we are in a long distance... Is it hard to reignite the connection if i don't go meet her up? .. I think i should see her or at least show up.. I think she needs to see me personally so that she'll feel the love again.... We were in a long distance relationship for 10 months... Please give me an advice coach... it would be so much appreciated... Thank you so much... PS. she's replying to me on my messages, and sometimes we are talking on the phone, and yesterday she told me, "i am talking to you because you are my friend nothng more nothing less, i dont love you anymore" etc.I messed up thats why she said something like that, i showed her that i still love her etc... . but she's been curious with what happening in my life, asking about me etc, and she even unblocked me on social media etc..

Hi Clay, thank you for another video! It’s been 3 mos no contact & he hasn’t reached out at all & I think he’s dating, or messing around with the woman that had a crush on him the whole time we were together & he lied to me about. His self-esteem is very low & he has great difficulty going into a deeper love to beyond the honeymoon phase. We were together a year & a half. I wonder if he was in lust with me or love with me. He says he loved me & we were crazy about each other but I wonder if it was just surface deep the whole time & I was fooled. I still believe in our potential and love him wholeheartedly. What do you suggest that I do at this point?

We broke up last month ( long distance) no contact . I greeted him on Christmas holiday and new year he responds. Then no contact again. Yesterday I message him . That stay and safe then respond as well .what does it mean?i

Hi Clay, I really need your help. It has been 6 months since we're seperated. And I was going better, untill he made some contact. Saying I was his first love and that I still mean a lot to him, to end up with 'but our relationship was over'. I found it difficult that, since our breakup, we had contact after a month, than a month nothing, and then a month ago he's still asking how I'm doing. That he misses my mom and wants to speak to her. But after the sweet things he's still convinced it was the best decision. We had a relationship for 8 years, from our 16 until 24. And still I'm not the same person. I still miss him sooo much! As I said: it went better. And I know hearing of him is a bad thing, but when I hear of him or see his name pupping on my phone, my heart skips a beat. He still wants to be able to talk to me, because he found this normal after 8 years. And he hopes some day I will be able to. Saying he still cares for me, wants to see and talk to me. I just don't know what it is. It's driving me crazy because what should I do?? I'm still holding on because of that.. After 6 months now I deciced to block him. On Facebook, on Instagram. And he 'understood' it. He found it a shame, but he understood the reason why. I'm just so confussed. I wasn't reaching out for about 2 months, and then, al of a sudden, he contacted me trough Instagram asking about a furniture. I was short and distant, and after a short sentence, he went straight back at: "how are you doing?" "Are you seeing someone else?" 'I hope your next boyfriend will give you everything you want and need, because you deserve it". etc etc. What should I do? And why does he wants to stay in touch? Well, that's not possible anymore tough, now I've blocked him. Thanks in advance! And sorry for the long story :-) Greetings from Belgium!

All of my exes are a bunch of stubborn rebellious narcissistic damn fools married to the wrong man for all the wrong reasons they don't give a damn about me and they never did

What if it has gone back and forth over the last 3 months?

5 x 5 is a another way of saying “I made up a new scare tactic to rip off the poor person suffering from such a loss and break up” what a sc$m bag you are . You are not helping people. You just want to Rip off the poor desperate suffering dumped on person. Get a real job you thief.