They also say a woman's value goes down if she has kids. 😒 They are INSUFFERABLE!!!

Then you have kids, they walk away, and then they talk down on you for being a single mother. GTFO we are so over it atp.

You have to be willing to compromise? There is NO compromise with children.

When women open their mouths, men close their ears.

Men: I don't want kids Society: You do you bro Women: I don't want kids Society: this this and the third Did she ask for your opinion?

Why is such a problem when a woman don’t want kids I’m 42 and don’t have kids and people ask me why I don’t want kids daily like mind ur damn business

When a woman says I don’t want kids all a man hears is you can’t control me and you never will.

COMPROMISE FOR WHAT?!! in my eartha kitt voice

I knew at 5 years old I NEVER wanted kids. *society*: "You'll change your mind. At 20 years: " She'll change her mind" At 30: "She's getting up there. She'll change her mind" At 40:"...it's not too late. You can still change your mind." At 50: "Oh. She was serious?"🙄

There are adult kids who drop their parents off at the nursing home and NEVER look back.

Shannon himself said he wasn't a good father and he is NOT married, but he siting here talking about you gotta compromise. Men just want women to be available to other men and MI TIYAD!!!!!!

If he wants kids, he's not the one for me 😂

He hears her, but he is projecting his fears and revealing the reason that MEN want children, and by proxy, a wife. 'Someone to take care of THEM when they get old.' #hospicewife #hospice child. Scared of being old and alone. Helps me to understand why they have so many baby mamas.

If she doesn’t want kids then the “right” guy won’t be someone who’ll force her to have kids. What’s so hard to understand about that?

As a single woman, she doesn't have to compromise on a damn thing! She doesn't owe anyone anything, not even an explanation! Dude, get over it!

I’m 43 and going through a divorce because my soon to be ex husband wanted kids. He just had his first baby with his current girlfriend/fiancee. Oh well. My uterus wasn’t compromised and I still sleep fine at nighttime. Sanity and financial freedom still intact. Congratulations on the new baby. 😂 Good luck on raising a dependent because being a mom wasn’t for me.

Amanda Seales is 42. I think at that age she has solidified what she wants and doesn't want a long time ago and that needs to be respected. I can't stand when men try to convince women to do something they already said they don't wanna do. It's very predatory and dictatorial. The god complex is strong in these males.

I find it a sign of disrespect and a massive red flag when a man argues with a woman when she says she does not want children. I understand asking questions to help understand, but he did more than ask questions. He spoke over her. He interrupted her. He rose his voice. He came up with all sort of excuses. I find this is a disturbing pattern in men when speaking to women who don’t want kids. There’s even testimonials of men LYING to women! Childfree Women who have been dumped because their male partner actually DOES want kids, and was hoping the woman would “grow out of the phase” and change her mind!! Men. Please. You need to take women seriously when we set our boundaries and state our lifestyle.

Maybe he does this all the time but I really don't like how men start yelling and not taking no for an answer even when it doesn't affect them at all... I'm just so beyond tired.

How about HE compromises and goes w/o kids???

"You got to be willing to compromise!" No, I don't.

I love how she was so cool and calm and never got flustered. He was about to blow a gasket. Men aggressively raising their voices and verbally "coming at you" is their primary coercion tactic. So many RP idiots pull that trick. He thought she was going to be intimidated, start having doubts and move her goalpost. When you stand on your square they can't handle it.

Compromise to me is agreeing on something like how often you and your partner text/call eachother. Not a whole ass human! 😂 Thats wild.

Men love single moms

I'm a qualified carer. The worst people to look after you are your children. It's too much. It's exhausting work that you can't walk away from. i'm in the sandwich generation - my mum is now in a wheelchair. I will organise and over see what she needs, step in here and there, my son as well, but no way am i doing her full time care. For a while she was hinting, until i told her exactly what it would cost. I earn 30K in my job. It has a pension, NI contributions to my state pension, six months full pay sick leave. I have a car, which needs to be maintained. I have a dog. i have a house. So to replace that - I want a written, notaried agreement that I will be left 3/4 of the estate. No, she says, we're splitting it between you and your brother. Fine, I reply, he can do half the month and I can do the other half. But he works and he's married! I work, and I have commitments. But you won't have to pay any bills! So will you pay for my car? My NI? My pension? What spending money will i have? £70 a week carer'a allowance? It's not because I don't love my mum, I gave up the chance to work abroad, as did my bro because we want to see out our parents' last years, but to ask kids to sacrifice their futures, the ones parents often fought for it's too much emotionally, and it's too much financially.

I didnt want to ever be pregnant ( because, for my body, the thought has always grossed me out). I never wanted to birth a child. I only wanted to adopt, but never felt ready to do it as a single parent, so I didn't. I'm now 45, past prime child rearing age, and have not changed my mind since age 16. Now, I'm lowkey excitedly waiting for menopause to get started and be done.

Considering the amount of men who have children, have nothing to do with them and refuse to pay child support, a lot of men don’t want children either. Men need to be encouraged to have a vasectomy young, like age 18, and have it reversed if they change their mind. I’m so over hearing men whine about paying child support.

They always trying to preach and demand us to do some shit

I knew I didn’t want kids when I was 4 years old and I never changed my mind. I’m post-menopausal now so I’m happy no one bothers me about my choices any more. 😁🙌🙌

Shannon’s voice is very annoying… yap yap yap…

Y’all health is wealth. My friends grandma lived alone until she passed at the age of 92. He said she lived alone and did everything by herself unless it required very heavy lifting. She went on walks, did light exercises as tended to her garden until her passing. Obviously things can happen along the way but PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELFS!

0:05 only 5 seconds and I'm already enraged holy sh. M*n are INSUFFERABLE

Just had my tubes removed on Friday. Never had kids, never want to. So if people think ill change my mind someday.. well that's not actually medically possible anymore. Soooo there's that 😂. Im 33 and my boyfriend also never wants kids. My parents and siblings are cool with me never having kids, so everyone around me supports my decision. I tried getting them tied and 23 and was told no. However at 33, I got zero pushback or arguments and just had them fully removed. I now will never have kids, and my risk of ovarian cancer is down by 50%.

I used to ask my dad why I have to do everything around the house except his room. He would say because that's what kids are for. He literally groomed me into being a housewife. Which is crazy because I grew up looking for that lifestyle. I did it off and on for 11+ years. I am now a widow, mom of 3 and killing my financial game!!! And no my kids are not my slaves, but they do have chores that they get allowance for. 💅🙌🏽 grizzle 🐻grizzle🐻‍❄🧸 yall

THEY are the ones who want someone to take care of them. so they can't fathom the idea that some women don't want to burden somebody else with that responsibility. men don't give af if they're a burden. they feel entitled to someone else's labor simply because they exist.

I met the right person and he doesnt want kids... Perfect for me😏

I’ve compromised my mental health thinking that a man could love….

Where is the compromise when having a child? You either have one or you don't have one. Compromise is about reaching a middle ground when coming from two opposing sides. Where's the middle ground? Someone has to give in, or the relationship must be let go if two people have a differing position on this. Either way, that's not compromise. Now I will say that Shannon is not wholly wrong because there are some people who say they do not want kids because they worry about who they would have the child with. In that case, meeting the right person will change someone's mind. Having an insecurity or worry about the choice in partner is a lot of people's concerns with having children. No one wants to be forced to parent with a terrible person. However, some people do not want to parent at all. And that is what makes childfree by choice people different from people who say they don't want kids because they have no good prospects for a partner. If someone is truly childfree by choice and not just saying it, they are not interested in parenting. It's not about WHO they will parent with. They simply do not want to do it. That means they do not want to do it alone, in a terrible relationship, in a great relationship, in the morning, in the night, on the weekdays or on the weeknights. They just don't want the kid. I believe every parent should want their child. This is just my personal opinion based off of what I've seen of households where the child is not wanted. If you are childfree by choice, don't do it just because someone tells you to do it. That child may be brought up healthy but not loved. Don't expect love to just come. It does not work like that. Love is a feeling and an action. You can be kind and caring toward someone all day, but a child will know if he/she is loved or not.

Compromise or *become compromised* ? I’m thinking the latter when it comes to intrusive comments like this

I absolutely LOVE what the woman 8:00 said. She was right in every way. The divorce rate is high because people are trying to pick people to check off these abstract lists. They do not love the person they are with and often do not feel as if they can be themselves, but they will choose the partner who checks the boxes. Years later, they find the love and support they were looking for when they were a teen or young adult never came. So then, divorce and/or cheating comes about. No one can fix what is not acknowledged. There are so many people walking around with wounds and thinking, "I know! This relationship will make everything perfect!!!" Romanticizing marriage and kids. Marriages can be romantic, having a child can be such a loving and soulful experience. However, marriage is a commitment and requires daily dedication. You can not say, "I was married yesterday, but today, I am single. Tomorrow, I will be married again." No! That's not how it works. It actually requires effort and care. Much more than love. Kids require sacrifice, love, care, and extreme attention. When I say extreme, I mean extreme. For some people who know how to parent, their children is their first thought in the morning and their last worry of the day. Why? Because their development is precarious. In life, you can make one mistake, and your life will fall into despair. A lot of people hate to acknowledge this and will say there is nothing you can not come back from, but sometimes there is. If you are an alcoholic and drink and drive, especially with your kids in the car, you are taking their life and throwing it in the air. Where they will land? You do not have the faintest certainty. People who forget to buckle their children in their car seat properly or lock their kids in hot cars? It's a mistake that may cost you your child. People who spend their children's whole lives ignoring their existence and neglecting them? The relationship you will have with your kid is up in the air. People who abuse their kids, pass their kids over for men/women, pass on their kids care to nannies, etc.? YOUR FUTURE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD IS UP IN THE AIR!!!! How they treat you, whether they respect you? It's up in the air. A kid is not a toy or to be used as a life accessory or a box to check off on a list. They deserve more consideration than that.

9:18 Completely agree and that's a major reason why I'm single because when I was coming up , it was EXTREMELY hard to find a man that did not want kids and was okay with me being an atheist. E g. I'm still single and been absolutely cool with that for the last 13 years. I'm not compromising on my life principles.

You don't compromise on children TF...

Women are blamed for 4b but they are also blamed for being left behind

Females who don't want to have any children that's your choice that's your own life rightful decision for yourself don't let anyone try to persuade you from living your own life the way that you want to live it .

I get all the women’s points. I myself am a woman, but honestly I can see how men and women can think this way about having kids; having kids so they can take care of us. Because growing up, that is what a lot of us were told to do and what would happen: have kids so they can take care of you when you’re old. But now that we have social media, more technology, people are living longer, and so much more has changed from the times our parents and grandparents had kids, it’s going to take a lot of communication to help people understand why having children to take care of you isn’t right. Honestly when I was in my 20s, I had a boyfriend and I told him I wanted children and he told me he did not want kids. He asked why I wanted to have them, and among my many reasons, that was one of them, so that they can care for us when we get old, then he asked, how are we to guarantee they’d even care for us? What if don’t want to care for us, what if they get married, move away, their partner doesn’t want us to live with them, etc. this all made me think about children in ways I had never thought of. I respected his honesty

Serious life-altering decisions are NOT the things you should compromise on! Especially when it comes to having kids, because THEY will be hugely affected by this decision too. It's also a binary decision- You have kids or you don't...Not really much room for compromise. Compromising is for smaller stuff-what show you're gonna watch, where you go for date night, which holidays you'll spend with each of your families.

I dont know why it's normal for people to not plan for humans but completely bonkers to plan or want to be "ready" financially, emotionally and even partnered with the right donor

No means NO MEANS NO MEANS F”ing NO‼️ Geesh‼️🙄 There is No right one….. now what!? Geesh‼️ Leave women alone ‼️

Listen, if my dad brings this up again, I'm going to snap

Here’s the compromise😃YOU have kids and I continue living my life as I have been… _without_ you and your kids. ☺️ yeah, that’s perfect. We both get what we want and I don’t lose my peace or autonomy.

Why to this man, is compromise....u giving in and doing what he wants? Its one thing if u want 3 kids and he only wants 1, maybe u compromise with a limit of 2 kids....u cant compromise on a half of a kid like what. Compromise is when u both reach an agreement where neither of u get everything u want.

I believe a mirror needs to be placed in front of the *men* asking these questions. When men are arguing, childfree women need to stop arguing and just say, "I'm confused. Can you explain to me why you believe I should have kids or that you don't believe I don't want kids?" Just keep asking questions. It is called root cause analysis because the confusion is their problem. The conflict with the childfree idea is in their mind. The question is for *the people who believe all women should have children* . "Why do you believe all women should have children? Why should women compromise? Why do you believe you will need children to take care of you when you get old? What are the requirements of parenthood? What are the skills that are required? Just exhaust them with questions and then say, "I don't have any intention of doing all of the things required to successfully have and raise children."

Not wanting kids is like not wanting to eat at Ruby Tuesday’s. I will never find the “right” Ruby Tuesday!

Aww I didn’t know you had a kid ❤

Says the baby daddy

How difficult can it be..

There are women out there that want to have kids and start a big family. These men should go and meet those kind of women period! instead they're coming on podcast to argue with other women to want kids by force.

4B

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Thanks 😊

OH, I have another annoying one from the same vein. I had a very complicated pregnancy (placenta with vasa previas) that resulted in a c-section at 34 weeks. My daughter's NICU doctor, an indian man of course 🙄, asked me if I was going to have another. I was _barely_ 6 hours post op so my morphine spinal tap was starting to wear off, and I looked at him like _Really? you're asking me this now?_ And all I said was, "No, I'm one and done." He was surprised and replied with, "Well don't you want to give her siblings to play with?" SIR, that is an awful reason to have kids, just so they keep each other busy.. What the fuck.

I think the final nail was realizing that you can be a single mother either way. The man you may be dealing with can change like the wind and there’s nothing you can do about it. I know I’m super introverted and I have noise sensitivity so…..no ty you

Y'all post about the SAME thing over a d over again!!🙄 Do you know what insanity is!!🤡🤣🤣🤣

i know nigeria celebrate’s uk’s mother’s day but happy us mother’s day to you maria 🥳🤍 thank you for these videos that give us something to talk about to move forward