The hardest thing for ppl to let go of is their pain. It is the deepest, most solid and dense sense of identity. Who would I be, what could I possibly be, without it?

I am a practising stoic and some of what Rupert Spira's says here echoes Marcus Aurelius's: “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; which you can revoke at any moment.” In my opinion, non duality is good for creating that space of awareness between hurts on your identity and your true self.

This is one of the most important and relevant videos from Rupert.

Thank you, Rupert! No self only sensation, be with the sensation and it collapses.

Awareness it can’t be hurt

There's something even beyond this, when the hurt isn't met by any understanding of it's illusory nature and dissolved. When there is no longer a need to play goal tender in ones experience. The hurt can be there unobstructed as the only one that would need to see through or could ever see the hurt as an undesirable part of the illusion, is a subtle sense of a separate self. When the existence of anything at all is revealed to be illusion, there is never again a cherry picking of desirable and undesirable parts of the illusion. Hurt is necessary as the sun and grass and potato bugs, and only and ego would trick themselves into thinking trying to see through it is the highest expression of truth. It's not even half way.

I love Ruperts teachings and resonate with them very much but I feel like it can lead people to emotional avoidance and escapism. Yes, it is correct that our true self is pure awareness. But it is also true that for the time being we are bodies with feelings and emotions and those emotions need to be felt and processed and worked through. You can’t just deny that things affect you because of your intellectual knowing that you are not your body.

Interesting 🤨 it’s a moral philosophy that’s wrapped up in a lifetime of spiritual teachings on compassion. That when going through a cancer journey we believe we deserve compassion so when I instead of that , one gets attacked , bullied , insulted and treated with judgment doesn’t make it easy to just let go .

In the midst of (especially heated) emotions, this is so initially difficult to do. But, with continued >deliberate< practice, it does become easier and easier. Hopefully, one day, it becomes second nature; practice does make perfect.

Very good talk and "right on time". Thank you!

Sometimes I am aware that its hurting and become conscious that I am exploring the hurt but it still continues to hurt. There is no other way to release the hurt but to simply acknowlede that its hurting....real bad and just stay with it. I don't find I but it feels better.

Thank you sir. Lots of unconditional love, light, respect and gratitude. Feeling Peace...Joy...Bliss... Oneness with all of life and expandedness

I found this very useful because it brings the hurt back to the seperate self...... to a self upon examination does not exist

What he is saying seems interesting but I wish he would explain it so that I could grasp the concept

Being grateful for the opportunity is a big step.

It hurts and it’s painful and I’m ok with that. Feel and process it so we don’t store in into our body.

The Presence/Self is only one so if others hurt me it means I hurt myself to remember me when some wrong belives/patterns thinking are in my mind. It is a cleaning process and a sign that our inner self wants to shine through us. Thank you.❤️🙏

Thank you, Rupert! This is so helpful! To know the one who feels the 'hurt', is Not There. Doesn't exist. This is my intellectual grasp, I know, but as the time progresses, I am more aware of this knowing. I feel the freedom from the story... stories. And the video of dissolution & death, I got the knowing of how to get to awareness... By stopping at, I AM AWARE. And not focussing on that which I was believing. So, between the, I Am Aware, & The self in which the 'hurt' arises, does not exist... And the hurt I grabbed onto, collapses... Is magical. I may not be making sense here but that's ok, cause, I feel a shift, happening for me, now. Thank you. Someday, I would like to attend a live seminar with you. Namaste, Alamar

If it was indeed that simple, no one would feel hurt. So clearly, something is missing in this method.

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Thanks Rupert I really needed this today 🙏

I saw this from the past you all are late for this.

I can't imagine how reactive I were before embarking on spiritual path, but after hundreds of meditations and teachings of numerous teachers more especially Rupert .... every time am provoked I intermittently get emotional hurt and it collapses immediately and am like what a Lier (separate self?) Was. Today my order for the happiness you are seeking.... has been placed. I cant wait to land in my LAPS. Thank you Mystic Rupert

These are great tools to remember, but also, as a creative writer, not feeling hurt is a real killjoy for creating! LOL (Imagine if Van Gogh had become aware? NO ART ;)

That's so true! And it works!

When I did this, I just felt pain and cried. And after some minutes I started to laugh and cry and laugh.

So if you can do this for the feeling of hurt, couldn’t you do the same for the feeling of love? This is where all of this messes with me. You shouldn’t be picking and choosing what you perceive as negative or positive. Why wouldn’t we all just go to Kathmandu and sit on a pillow for eternity?

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beautiful present awareness 🌟🌈 cannot be harmed in any way🌟💗

Muchas gracias!!!

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Separate self is a psychological defense mechanism. Human psyche is fragile and delicate, we don't even understand how much. Separate self is a human thing. Only humans dream of being someone, their immortality and ascention to "higher realms" as far as it possibly gets. Animals don't, even though they also have a capacity to think. I have never seen a cow meditate, contemplate and bow down to a tree or a stone in her superstitious fear of everlasting pain. One could say, hurt is there for awareness of 'what's it like to be human', doused in pain and fear of it. It is a human thing and it too shall pass

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

I m the 1st one who is seeing this video on u tube

Perfect! Thank you so much!

This title is a bit misleading. He’s talking about words, which are far easier to deal with than childhood trauma and the consequences which tend to be heavier than the actual incident(s). If I could afford 2k to go and sit on one of his luxury retreats for a week I would grill him incessantly about this. I like Rupert, he talks a lot of good stuff but one can tell he’s had a pleasant and privileged life which is far from the case for the people who need help and relief realising the Supreme Reality the most, and yes I do believe in it but it’s not that easy when you’re suffering from trauma and can’t think straight most of the time. So do us a favour Rupert, go out into the world and make your teachings free. You seem like you can afford it. Sent with respect.

No I'm the first one bc the present is all there is...lols😂

I don’t need to be 1st

What happens if you do address it on behalf of the objective truth but the other person is still seemingly doing it based on their ego or just refuses to dance? I'm not talking about hurt specifically, I'm talking about relationships like employer/employee relationships. There is no personal vested interest but yet the right thing to do is to help others and not everyone wants to help others. So even if you can transcend the ego, it doesn't mean others will. There's nothing one can do I guess, since you can't control other people but this leads to consequences for everyone.

I am also the 1st one.

"...It is not the words that are hurtful it is your response, but the words that cause the hurt.." This is clearly a contradiction. Either it is the words that have a causal role in hurting or they don't.

This is when non-duality becomes a belief system and you apply it inappropriately. What would you say to a friend or a child who is hurting? On whose behalf are you hurting? Can you find the one who is hurting? I don't think so. It's putting the cart before the horse.

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hurt is a feltsense I claim ownership of to define who I believe myself to be. I believe hurt is who I am. "I am hurt" it's mine, I don't want to give it up. but when I see this within myself the fallacy becomes obvious. even so, I persist in claiming ownership to avoid the UN known.

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But why do we need to address it or even talk about it, if the one who was hurt never actually existed?

But should we accept that somebody talk to us badly ? I am confused

It took me almost 2 hours after being offended to realise I was separated from being. After watching this video I have calm down 😅

Nice turtle neck Rupert x 🙏🏼

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Remain totally empty and see that u still exist

I am so hurt not to be first

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Can someone explain please why does the pain/hurt emerges, if the self (on whose behalf this hurt emerges) is not there? And how do we stop the hurt/suffering from arising? Thank you

Never act from a feeling 9f victimhood.

See I have done this process and it seem it leads into another kind of hurt. I'm not referring to the general issues of life. I mean the one we're we feel alone in the sense that when we realize that all of creation is self and so in the back of mind I know that all is self and so in that all that I am aware of in some form or another I control or influence which means that what the heart desires to experience it can not becouse it would not be complet free will of another. Even yes each of the selves have their experience and together create the collective we are still creating our own in which we seem to actually be the higher self because this is were we hold our awareness or at lest the only one we remember because in sleep I remember them all and it seems shorter which is a good thing most times. Yet with all the knowledge we have I have not yet found a way or have learned of anyone else a knowledging the issue of no two creations can truly communicate accurately with oneanother. Due to the receiver having to interpret the information it has received based on our experiences which are indigenous to the individual and no 2 can ever be the same hence why reality is indigenous to individual under the same process which leads me to the question are we nothing more than say BIO/AI becoming aware of it's self? If all is about receiving and sending then that would make the I nature's new babies because life (what ever that is) always finds a way. Wow wouldn't that change the entire paradigm.

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