When Your Best Friend Dies - Grief Validation

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Dear Jess

Dear Jess

Күн бұрын

My best friend since childhood died in 2017. After her death I struggled with finding any grief support for close friends. The grief experienced by close friends after someone dies is frequently overlooked and under-validated by others. This video shares how I came to realize how grief validation is the first step toward healing.
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@theresaferry9907
@theresaferry9907 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you love your best friends more than your family
@melissagstm
@melissagstm 2 жыл бұрын
Yes :(
@HistoricWrath
@HistoricWrath 2 жыл бұрын
My childhood best friend was killed last week by a drunk driver. My friend had just graduated law school and was coming home from getting coffee and food after a night of studying for the bar exam. The drunk driver ran a red light and my friend was killed instantly. We were inseparable growing up, but hadn’t stayed as close in college and after. It’s been so comforting to see how many other people got to know and love him, but it feels very lonely being a “friend from the past.” I had been telling myself he was just so busy with school and life and that we would reconnect at some point. To have that opportunity taken away has been horrendous.
@kaitlyngerard7403
@kaitlyngerard7403 Жыл бұрын
Mine was killed by a drunk driver in August. I’m sorry. It’s so hard.
@iamFracture
@iamFracture 9 ай бұрын
My best friend passed away the year this video was aired. I have never recovered since then. Not sure if I may ever, but to know others have experienced despair as such as I, to this degree of everlasting internal and external sadness; reensuees me that our Heavenly reunion will be worth it when that day comes. The journey now is to not shorten my time I have left and instead, continue to live out her legacy as my soul friend would wish for me to do. Lovely video, I commend you for your strength.
@tylerp3327
@tylerp3327 2 жыл бұрын
I feel for every single person in this comment section. Upon hearing the news that my best friend died, I didn’t cry. I puked my guts out. I felt absolutely sick. It wasn’t till months later I cried my eyes out. Knowing that there’s other people out there who went through the same horrible thing… it’s not cool… but, at least I’m not the only one in this boat. I dearly feel for anyone that lost a loved one/close friend.
@cedreug
@cedreug Жыл бұрын
I lost my best friend almost two years ago. I’m still grieving and I can’t seem to heal. It hurts so bad everyday. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone that has endured this type of loss. Keep your head up and don’t let the dead bury the living ✌🏾🕊️
@tracybrown4941
@tracybrown4941 2 жыл бұрын
Also, when you have been friends with someone from the time you are kids up through adulthood and well beyond, you are more like siblings. It is truly a special close bond that is deeper than the standard friendship.
@BrianYator
@BrianYator 3 жыл бұрын
My best friend of 14 years just died two days ago and I totally relate to all this. I've eaten today in the morning for the first time since I heard the news and even though some other mutual friends came to hang out with me, it still feels invalidating cause they don't know him the way I knew him. They didn't get to experience his energy the way I did and I don't know how or if I'll recover from this. My mental health is in the pits right now.
@s.g.2353
@s.g.2353 2 жыл бұрын
Hugs to you. I find that my grief is eased by telling people about my close friend's wonderful traits. This may help even if others weren't as close. Also I focus on her bright delightful energy that she had in life and it raises my spirits.
@KINGDOMKONCEPT
@KINGDOMKONCEPT 2 жыл бұрын
Mine of 17 years died 3 days ago 9/21/21 it turned my world upside down.
@savannahdick3823
@savannahdick3823 2 жыл бұрын
I hope you made it through alright. I am in the exact same boat right now, my best friend of 15 years passed away a few days ago and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I completely understand what you’re saying. I hope you’re okay
@simonsays5552
@simonsays5552 2 жыл бұрын
It says completely how I feel. I don't know if I'll ever get over this. I don't know if I'll ever recover for this. Honestly, I don't know if I want to. I do but at the same time she's not here to watch me do it. So what's the point? She wants me do so much. How do you go on without your soulmate?
@BroSweets730
@BroSweets730 2 жыл бұрын
Mine too God bless you all find strength please and live for them
@jessicapatin7778
@jessicapatin7778 Жыл бұрын
I came to KZfaq trying to find some solace for the grief that I'm feeling that nobody seems to understand. My name is Jess, so finding this video felt like my best friend Kristin reaching out to me. She died almost three months ago. We lived together and most of her stuff is still at my house so I can't escape the memories and the emotions that all of her things bring up for me. I often feel like her death was my fault because of a complicated series of events that ended with me calling 911 later than I should have and for a different reason than what was actually needed. I miss her so much every day and it feels like even my boyfriend doesn't really want me to talk about it anymore. I often resent her boyfriend because he received an incredible outpouring of support when she died and it felt like I just had to tamp down what I was feeling and move on. Thank you for making this channel and these videos, I hope it brings you and the people watching some relief.
@felicaphillip1224
@felicaphillip1224 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. I lost my best friend of 22 years yesterday and I feel lost. Completely lost. His name was Johnnie and there is no one I can share my grief with. As you said friends have no real validation because you’re not the spouse, kids, etc. As I sit here and cry I really really thank you and pray for you as well. I’m just starting this journey and this is the saddest I’ve ever been in my life 🙏🏾😢
@RMeeks
@RMeeks 2 жыл бұрын
Let yourself feel and cry and remember. Whether anyone ever cares to ask or listen, settle it in (your)heart, it matters. Be transparent as much as you can and do not run from the intensity of the moment. It comes in waves. Everytime I watch a food or travel show, so many memories start rolling. Cry the bucket of worthy tears because we will get a new batch. We all are passing thru, I get to see my Gwerl again. Never to say goodbye anymore, GOD says so.
@AmyHoganRRT
@AmyHoganRRT Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I just suddenly lost my best friend of 25 years. I am struggling and needed this validation so badly.
@themereffects6183
@themereffects6183 2 жыл бұрын
My best friend died Christmas day with his wife calling me that evening to tell me. I was left in shock for days wondering how, what, where. I'm mad that I didn't get to say good by one last time due to Covid restrictions for non-family members. I walk the house in quiet now thinking of him in grief for our times together.
@sarahorton4382
@sarahorton4382 3 жыл бұрын
I lost my best friend that I've had since high school because she lost her battle with severe depression. I got the news, and my heart sank so deeply. My partner got into a fight with me and I couldn't bring myself to say she's dead. Because I feel like if I say it out loud to him, it'll validate that she's dead. I didn't want to do that without someone there for me, but everyone around me would just be like 'so? You weren't siblings' That hurt even more...she was like the sister I always wanted. She was there with me since before my mom and dad divorced. I haven't found anything or any one to vent to, my partner would just called me a defeatist for even attempting to fully explain myself. This video is what I needed, and I'm sorry that my comment is so late.
@leenaparsons9876
@leenaparsons9876 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry. I believe my best friend's depression also contributed significantly his death. It leaves me wondering if I could have done more even though I couldn't have cured his depression... he was my mirror, my soul mate. I'll never be understood the way he understood me. Never.
@kathrinekathrine
@kathrinekathrine Жыл бұрын
Oh, I truly feel your pain. when I was 9 my dad had to tell me my best friend passed away and it hurt back in May of this year I got told my soulmate my best friend of 18 years passed away and it felt like a thousand knives stabbing you all at once.
@kathrinekathrine
@kathrinekathrine Жыл бұрын
As I sit here with tears filling my eyes. Kevin was my best friend in the entire world and brother by heart. Kevin was my soulmate. Kevin was the best friend anyone could ever have in their lives. he was my defender, my blocker and had always defended me. he was there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on and always cheered me up. I have always enjoyed going out for breakfast and dinners with him. we always enjoyed going to the movies, swimming, and walking around the park. always gave the best hugs. Kevin was indeed my soulmate. I am so happy he safely made it up to heaven, and I know he will always look down on me. I love you Kevin and I Miss you. Love Kathrine your soulmate and sister by heart.
@natasjapaulson180
@natasjapaulson180 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! My best friend passed away during the first COVID lockdown. We were friends since we were 11, I’ve just turned 50. No one gets it, you do, the empty is so real and so hard. Yes please a Facebook group 💚
@stephaniemartin-boyce5493
@stephaniemartin-boyce5493 6 ай бұрын
My best friend Joey just passed away. He is my kindred spirit. I am so connected to him in so many levels and he's stronger than blood family. I just wanted to share that and thank you for this podcast. It really means a lot to me that you have this available for those who are grieving for their best friend.
@RMeeks
@RMeeks 3 жыл бұрын
This kind of Friend is a Shade Tree, a gift from GOD.
@trinityjean5300
@trinityjean5300 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, I lost my best friend of 40 years and I’m devastated. She was more than my friend, she was my cohort, my solace, my childhood, the keeper of my secrets etc. it’s just awful losing that person in your life. I loved her and understand how you feel 💯. Thanks for this video, I bawled most of the way through lol but it helped I think.
@missiegold76
@missiegold76 2 жыл бұрын
One of my best friends died unexpectedly 4 days ago. I'm heartbroken 💔 RIP Joyce.
@karencarney7595
@karencarney7595 Жыл бұрын
Rest in peace Rachel DeLorenzo August 2, 2022 My only and best friend. We both believe believe spirituality and the afterlife , snd nothing has happened. No candle flicker, nothing. I am beyond devastated. I am waking up w another grief dream. This is so hard.
@HeidiAmericanPatriot
@HeidiAmericanPatriot Жыл бұрын
I lost my best friend Feb 21st of this year. He was the sweetest, most gentle soul I will ever know. I am completely lost without him. I love you Kevin.
@simplyme8463
@simplyme8463 2 жыл бұрын
My friend died and I didn’t learn about it until 5 days after he passed. I feel guilty for not reaching out earlier, my heart is crushed. I feel like a terrible friend, I was there too late. I know he’s in a better place and where he wants to be, and I can’t begin to fathom what his kids and grandkids are going through - I don’t know how to be there for them, I am in shock, hurt and full of regrets. These past 3 years were distant, I’ve been going through something and I tend to deal with issues on my own. I don’t like to get others involved and then Covid but and then world changed. Isolation led to further isolation and we just reconnected again and made a pact - lunch every other week and we missed last week because I was sick and now he’s gone, I got so consumed with my caring for my home that I failed to check in on time Hold your loved ones tight. Check in, honor them in life
@simonsays5552
@simonsays5552 2 жыл бұрын
I miss her every single day. The only person that ever really truly understood me accepted me and loved me in spite of me. It's gone now. How do you deal with that? I'm not sure. I'm not sure how to get over it. This video was helpful somewhat but it's more than any of this to get over and I know that. Thanks for trying, I will also keep trying
@rikkiriley341
@rikkiriley341 3 жыл бұрын
My best friend since childhood that I was incredibly close to just passed on Friday and you really hit the nail on the head.
@kathrinekathrine
@kathrinekathrine Жыл бұрын
Oh I totally understand how you feel. my best friend passed away when we were 9 years. 29 years ago and I still miss her
@tonygatos1
@tonygatos1 2 жыл бұрын
I lost my lifelong close friend recently and have been focusing on finding time to grieve, I can’t even function without my best buddie . Joe when my former reliable partner in crime for about 55years.
@AutoSanchezMusic
@AutoSanchezMusic Жыл бұрын
My best friend of about the last 12 to 13 years just died last week. It was his last day in the military. While he was riding his motorcycle home, a bus cut him off and it killed him instantly. He was the best person I knew and everyone who met loved him. I was the one of the weird kids at school and he wanted to hang out with me rather than everyone else. No one else has shown me the platonic love that he shared with me.
@cocojones1842
@cocojones1842 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for putting this out there. I have just lost my best friend of 10 years and I'm feeling so lost without her 💔
@tracybrown4941
@tracybrown4941 2 жыл бұрын
I feel your pain. I just lost mine as well on June 9th. It was very sudden and unexpected. I feel like I have lost the other half of my soul. Very few people seem to understand the loss of a best friend and what that means. Hugs to you. 💖
@LandyCorner
@LandyCorner 2 жыл бұрын
Hugs to you I feel y’all pain… it’s just very difficult when it’s your friend no one gets it like you and your friends
@cocojones1842
@cocojones1842 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you guys it's really hard I've just celebrated my first birthday without her and my heart is in bits I miss her so much and now with Christmas round the corner it doesn't feel like Christmas without her. I'm so sorry about your best friend too I'm sending you both hugs
@garritts
@garritts Жыл бұрын
It’s been 23 years. Validation of the pain is something I knew 23 years ago. Miss you Kris.
@Violet-fj8yd
@Violet-fj8yd 5 ай бұрын
I'm here because I recently had a dream about my best friend who I knew for almost 30 yrs. He died almost 14 yrs ago and I believe I accepted it. But in this dream I was looking for him to show him the restaurant I found he would like. I woke up feeling so sad and my thoughts were no one else could appreciate it but him. When you grow together with someone you have your shared private jokes, almost your own language. Its lost when they leave.
@GrannyMcDonald
@GrannyMcDonald 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about this subject. Very important and rarely discussed.
@dearjess4197
@dearjess4197 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@macandrose9910
@macandrose9910 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I’m so grateful for this, I am so sad, my friend was murdered 2 months ago, she had two boys, I feel like I don’t know how to process it, she was such a wonderful human being, her ex partner murdered her in her home, I can’t tell my son yet, he is 8, & grew up with her children, the pain feels so great when it comes over me, but as you said, it is hard because I do not want to make a fuss, or offend her family, even though I know I won’t… it’s such a horrendous thing, she was truly such a gentle, kind, courageous soul, just the best, I will always miss her & I wish I could find some peace around it, but thank you xxxxx
@azure-sparrow
@azure-sparrow 2 жыл бұрын
I just lost my dear friend a month ago, and you said it all. Every single thing you said was like a page out of the grief journey I've been on. Thank you for sharing this story and your grief of your dear Jess-it made me feel understood.
@dearjess4197
@dearjess4197 2 жыл бұрын
You welcome Azure. I am grateful to have helped in some way. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
@colinpostell4790
@colinpostell4790 14 күн бұрын
​@@dearjess4197was it a girl that passed away at your house 🏠
@tracybrown4941
@tracybrown4941 2 жыл бұрын
I am so very sorry for your profound loss. I truly know what type of loss you have experienced, it has happened to me twice now. You are correct. The surviving friend's loss and bereavement are overlooked and, for the most part, not even acknowledged. This needs to change. When we as a society now acknowledge the loss of a person's beloved pet, surely, the loss of a dear friend should be acknowledged. Hugs. 💖
@gronk2102
@gronk2102 2 жыл бұрын
I cant thank you enough for posting this. i have felt so alone, but this whole video was like you read all my thoughts over the past 3 years again thank you
@Caseycali
@Caseycali 10 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my friend a month ago and he was the support, light, and joy in my life. I really loved him, and feel this hopelessness and lack of passion for everything without him. I’m trying to share how he made me feel with the rest of the world and get back on track with my life again. I needed this validation. Thank you so much.
@sweetheartsakura3817
@sweetheartsakura3817 Жыл бұрын
I lost a japanese best frnd ysterday wout knowing it. the last time I txt her she said that she'd be glad to see us together again someday if she'll be totally healed"..so I answer back I'm looking forward to that day! get well soon"! I didn't call her often or txt her after that bec It would disturb" her resting" toheal! My tears can't break her back but I wish Mrs. M. IWAMA's soul to RIP! I'll be missing you Dear Friend! I lost a good japanese friend in you! you're part of those good memories I'll always remember! Thank you for those wonderful times we spent together! thankyou! RIP!😢😞😭
@puppy1584
@puppy1584 3 күн бұрын
I so agree with what you are saying…after my darling friend died (just over a year ago) and I was out walking - if I struck up a conversation with a stranger I’d bring her into it - every single time. I needed to hear myself talking about her, she was still with me. We only met each other back in 2006, we were both grandmothers. Our chats covered every subject - no holds barred. Never thought she would go just yet. I miss her candour, love, laughter. My friend.
@LandyCorner
@LandyCorner 2 жыл бұрын
I felt this to my core
@kareno3838
@kareno3838 2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way about my best friend Ann who died 2 months ago. There’s really no one to share with. So many memories that only she and I had. Where to go with this. I don’t know. I want her to be remembered.
@LunaticTheCat
@LunaticTheCat Жыл бұрын
Around a year and a half ago, my best friend, who was more like a brother to me, passed away. He truly more than a friend, he was my brother and when he died, a piece of me died. To put into perspective how close we were, during our senior year of high school (around a decade ago), he had actually lived me and my family to escape an abusive household, where we shared my small bedroom together, and while I helped him in this way, he helped me in just as many ways in ways I can't even begin describe. It's been over a year and a half since his passing now, and I have continued on with my life as one should and must, but every now and then, out of nowhere, something makes me think of him and I just start crying or at least feel like crying (if I am not somewhere appropriate). They say time heals all wounds, but I'm sure this is one that is not possible to heal, and as long as I'm still around, the hole in my heart, mind and soul will be there.
@carriecollins4542
@carriecollins4542 Ай бұрын
My best friend died 15 years ago.. i still cry and miss him so much. When we met in college he went home and told his mom he finally had a sister and he called me Sissy.. he was the big brother i never had. Nobody understands the gaping hole in my soul, how i long to hear his laugh or say "it'll be alright" about whatever i was bothered with in the moment. I miss you David, my brother forever💜time changes nothing, my grief is never over. It just softened a bit. Hugs and love to all walking this awful lonely path.
@kellywilliamson7162
@kellywilliamson7162 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It really goes far for people who are looking for resources which validate their own experiences, just like the video title says. I know for me it is similar, I had to put my grief on hold while I helped my Best friends widow deal with her own day to day activities, funeral arrangements, support. Even to this day I don't feel like my grief was validated, even though I had known my best friend for over 20 years. Him and his family (they are all gone now), played an integral part in my life but I felt as though I had the smallest claim for grief out of everyone (though internally it was the greatest claim). Thank you again for making this video. I hope people who need it can find it when they need to.
@Steffetjes
@Steffetjes 2 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this today. Years later. Everything you shared is true. Thank you 😭 it felt like lights out and a part of me disappeared with her passing. The fear of forgetting has been a big part. People trying to put a time stamp on heartbreak. You are not crazy and true friendships are very rare. I went through something very similar to you. I thought surely more people would understand but I had a rude awakening. Thank you again
@stephenmarch3816
@stephenmarch3816 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you.. I lost my best friend in November at the age of 22. Completely unexpected, I've been struggling since... this helped me more than you know
@Retsy257
@Retsy257 2 ай бұрын
I lost my best friend when we were 24. I mourned him for 10 years and felt crazy for that. No one understood our relationship and my loss. I’m 68 now and still miss him and think about him.
@HoloLightBright89
@HoloLightBright89 Жыл бұрын
My best friend of 20 years died seven months ago and I haven't been doing with it well at all. I couldn't make it to her funeral due to my job not allowing me to go. "It's not family" 🥺. I felt and still feel like the worst best friend on the planet. I literally couldn't make it to her funeral. When I start to have a good day I start I start feel guilty because She's not here to experience a good day. Everything you're saying is one billion percent how I feel. People keep telling me to not let this "consume me" or someone said to me "it's not like it was your sister. You have to get back on that horse". She was my sister. She is my sister. She is my family and I've felt so alone in this I this. Ive been trying to talk to her mother everyday,but it's truly hard to. Her kotjer also thew away a lot of my best friends things and when I asked for some of it I got a lot of no's. I even asked if I could have some of her ashes so I could turn her into a ring and I got a no. I have nothing of her's and it's slowly killing me. Like you said, she was my person. She was my light and without her life feels colorless. Thank you for making this video and I'm so sorry for your pain🥺
@sauce3140
@sauce3140 2 жыл бұрын
God I needed this. My best friend since I was a freshman in high school just died on Saturday. He was 28. He was in a car accident. It was so sudden and awful. I'm still in the throes of this extremely fresh, brutal pain. Luckily I have a group of friends that all played video games with him to mourn with, and my girlfriend knew him for longer than I did and was great friends with him as well. I can't imagine going through this alone, and thank you so much for sharing. Right now I don't really see the light, but I cried again at the end of your video when you said "you can live again". Right now I feel like I just experienced a breaking point in my life. It will now always be "before" and "after".
@dearjess4197
@dearjess4197 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this comment. Thinking of you and your friend and grateful you have others to mourn with. You are right. There will always be a “before” and an “after” and it will always hurt and sometimes still make you so angry. 4 years since my friend’s death and I am glad My pain and anger is still strong at times because I know I have not stopped loving her or forgotten her. I promise though if u just keep getting up every day and putting one foot in front of the other, you will learn to take him with you in a sense. His life and memory will effect how you live and in this way because you loved him he will always stay with you. I’m sorry for your pain.
@sharicebryant8149
@sharicebryant8149 3 ай бұрын
My best friend of 18 years passed away from an aortic dissection last Thursday, and I don’t know how I am going to live life without him. I’ve lost my father in my adolescent years, my grandma in the pandemic and now my best friend. This grief doesn’t feel like the others though. It hurts in a place of my heart that I never knew even existed. Thank you for this video. It hasn’t even been a week and I’m already seeing who really cares. If my bff was my romantic partner or a family member, I feel like I would receive a little more sympathy than I am now. My heart is with all that are or have gone through the same.
@adriedrake8605
@adriedrake8605 8 ай бұрын
I lost my dad when i was 14, my daughter when I was 22, my brother when i was 36 and now my guy bestfriend just 9 days ago. Grief seems to bring up so many emotions. ✝️ My condolences to All here
@sunking2001
@sunking2001 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate your heart-felt video. I lost my one and only best friend. She was my former girlfriend. We remained phone friends for years until a few days ago. Now, I have nobody to talk with. I'm 69 YO...isolated, lonely, and even more depressed. We had conversations almost daily...sometimes late at night as we were both "night owls." I hope God helps me through this. Life can be so cruel!
@arit10
@arit10 10 ай бұрын
My best friend of 14 years died May 9th. Every single day I cry and miss her so much. It's torture and feels like this ache will never stop.
@mintycoolnessisrelevance
@mintycoolnessisrelevance 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video. I lost my best friend of 2 years, our relationship was really complicated and it’s hard to feel like im valid in my grief but this pain feels like its killing me and it’s so real and so thank you for sharing your experience, It validated so much of what ive been feeling.
@micahbishop5701
@micahbishop5701 7 ай бұрын
my best friend Sean’s funeral is tomorrow. The last 4 years of knowing him have changed me immeasurably. He died one month ago, and its hard to accept that we won’t make new memories together. But I know that he needed peace and I pray he has it now.
@MONBACK1988
@MONBACK1988 3 жыл бұрын
I'd like to thank you for making this video, having a place on the internet to hear the pain is real. I've spent many nights searching Google for things that make it okay to still hurt years later. I was having a real hard day and your story, your found knowledge, really pushed me to a new way of thinking, thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you.
@181Bleeker
@181Bleeker Ай бұрын
Thank you, I found this video very helpful. I lost my best friend two weeks ago and i miss her terribly. I loved her so much. I wish I could have helped her. She died suddenly.
@raedkhoury1008
@raedkhoury1008 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. My experience of losing a close friend who affectionately considered me his "little brother" closely resembles yours. I was the only one taking care of him because his two half-sisters didn't want anything to do with him. The doctor who was taking care of him in the hospital he was transported to told me that I was "just a friend" and that his estranged sisters who don't care about him take precedence over someone who was literally a care taker, i.e. me. He died because he was refused a liver transplant and because his sisters refused to offer to take care of him should he receive a transplant.
@dearjess4197
@dearjess4197 2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry this happened to you. Feeling dismissed because you are “just a friend” is just an ignorant thing said by people who don’t understand. I imagine your friend was so thankful for your love and care.
@Violet-fj8yd
@Violet-fj8yd 5 ай бұрын
Some do not understand the impact of the death of a close friend. We get more sympathy for family members and sometimes we are closer to a friend.
@ry2950
@ry2950 Жыл бұрын
I don't know if you are still reading comments, but this video has been something I really needed to watch. My best friend just passed unexpectedly last week at the age of 26. He was on the way home from vacation then passed from heart complications on the plane. Many people offer kind words, and support - but the reality is that the man was practically my brother and as I even write this comment we are still struggling to get his body returned to the states for a proper burial. We would hang constantly after work since graduation: playing video games, watching movies, bike rides, hanging out, getting food etc. We shared a lot of hilarious, and heavy moments throughout high school as well. He was the first person I picked as a groomsman when I got married last year. There are so many memories I had with this man then just one day without warning I am called to learn that he is gone, and I will never see him again. I still have to push through work, but every moving second my friend is on my mind so I'm unable to perform my responsibilities adequately. I'm still expected to take care of things, but in reality I'm just falling apart. Even though many are mourning for him I feel isolated in my grief for the exact reasons you mentioned. I don't know how to move forward from here.
@melissagannon5711
@melissagannon5711 2 жыл бұрын
My best friend died last year. I miss her so much. She had no family but mine. She was my family. My kids auntie. I don't want to move on. I'll never have another friend like her.
@BizzaroBrainBoi
@BizzaroBrainBoi Жыл бұрын
I discovered one of my best friends had passed away yesterday. I didn't know where they had been. Found their obituary online. It feels just as bad as a breakup. It's a very distraught feeling. I will miss my friend so much. She was beyond awesome...
@josephwalden7544
@josephwalden7544 Жыл бұрын
My best friend just died in January; I wanted so much to keep in contact with her family because that was a solid connection to her, but it just didn't happen. Fortunately I had and have some mutual friends and acquaintances that let me talk. I still deal with some guilt over her death. Love you, Melony.
@amy8159
@amy8159 Жыл бұрын
in a little over a month it will be five years since I lost my best friend. She was high and I sent her home in a cab. She later died that night. I still hold myself responsible for her dying, and everyone says the same thing, it's not your fault. You didn't make her do that, you could have been with her when it happened blah blah blah. I don't care. I still think it could have been different. I just feel so alone, guilty, sad and lonely constantly. She was only 27
@Violet-fj8yd
@Violet-fj8yd 5 ай бұрын
I hope you are having some acceptance and peace now.
@rozsheehy6146
@rozsheehy6146 Жыл бұрын
My best friend of 57 years recently passed. She lived a few states away but we texted every single morning because we both woke up around 4 am. We were just like you and your best friend! We helped each other through life and could always make each other laugh, no matter what was going on. Now I have no one to talk to about our loving relationship. My husband is tired of hearing about it. And since I'm agoraphobic, I really don't have anyone to talk to and I feel so alone just like you said! I'm hurting deeply and all I can do is cry.
@theresaferry9907
@theresaferry9907 2 жыл бұрын
It’s very hard to lose your best friend I’m 51 right now and we always talked about when we grow older now she’s not here neither one of them are here it’s so sad
@uwuket
@uwuket Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video. I relate deeply to this after losing my best friend of 15 years so suddenly in 2019. The pain is still fresh and real. I feel like I should have come a long way already in my healing journey, but there are still incredibly difficult days where I feel so incredibly lonely and completely empty. I wear her loss like a missing ribcage. She was my safe place second to none, and we had our own unique universe where we held each other in utmost love, respect, and craziness. I miss that and want it back - in the same dimension it had been. I would love to be part of any support group that would validate this lifelong pain.
@deborahbrownlie1125
@deborahbrownlie1125 3 жыл бұрын
I just lost one of my closest and dearest friends. She was like a big sister to me, this is tough, a terrible loss.
@tracybrown4941
@tracybrown4941 2 жыл бұрын
So sorry for your loss. I understand - totally.
@casandradawn7439
@casandradawn7439 6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. Just lost my best friend since the first grade. She would be celebrating her 40th this Sat 😢 She died tragically this last October. I've never experienced pain like this and don't feel anyone really understands. I loved her so much and have so many memories that were in our own sacred place in our hearts. Thank you for this post. It brought me so much comfort ❤
@ninacarter-brown5208
@ninacarter-brown5208 4 ай бұрын
Your comment touched me deeply and resonated so much. My best friend of 21 years died suddenly in November and he would have been 40 on 17 Feb 2024. Feb was a very hard month for me. Thinking of you in your grief.
@violetsinspring5863
@violetsinspring5863 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this heartfelt video. My best friend of over 20 years died Aug 2023 after a very brief illness (2mths). I feel Like I’m struggling more even now almost six months later. I sympathize with everything you said💕 Especially when she was the one I always turned to and now that she’s gone, I try to think of how she would handle it if the roles were reversed. I just miss and love her so much! Thank you and I’m so very sorry for your loss. I totally get it. Much love to you❤
@nyncn
@nyncn 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video. I lost my best friend a few days ago and I'm in the huge pain. By listening to your story, I feel validated a lot.
@lidiareyes7048
@lidiareyes7048 6 ай бұрын
This is just how I feel, I lost my best friend last year and the worst thing is that her family didn't even invite me to her funeral, they just went with it and excluded me, I realized over a post that Luisiana died, and now whenever I'm having a bad day people expect me to feel better by telling me she was not my sister or my mother. But she was like a sister to me, she was always there and was the only person I really trusted. I spent beautiful and wonderful five days by her side. I can't talk about her to anyone because they think I'm exaggerating and that I should just move on, but it's hard, and I can't help but feel like I'm betraying her when I feel happy or go through something which would have made us both happy. I guess I've not been able to fully mourn her.
@roberth7054
@roberth7054 2 жыл бұрын
Someone I dated in high school who I became an adult friend with passed away April 25th. I also live 6+ hours from where she lives and her core friends and loved ones. I agree, my experience with her is different from most of them, my most sweetest memories that were our most private moments together are difficult to share. I visited for her wake and had to return home and now my pain surely feels amplified. I want to reach out to everyone and validate their grief while being given an ear or heart who may understand where I'm at. I just shared with a friend that I mourn my friend as an adult and grieve her as the girl I knew and that is so true. Sadly, I am grieving more as that time was so formative for both of us, how do I share that feeling with others who didn't know her then? I'm really scared that this will be harder than I think it is right now.
@rayredwine4808
@rayredwine4808 Жыл бұрын
My best friend died dec 26 we were best friends over 40 years thank you I relate with all of you
@madisontucker649
@madisontucker649 Жыл бұрын
I lost my best friend whenever we were going to start sophomore year of highschool. Thank you. I wasn’t really sure what was worse, the pain of losing her or the pain I would feel not seeing her at prom or graduation. I haven’t spoken to her family since the funeral even though I went to stay at her house often. I feel guilty but it still just hurts.
@briauna2003
@briauna2003 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my best friend a week ago. And I’m really going through it. I feel so alone, but watching this video helped calm me for a few moments.
@potat7309
@potat7309 Жыл бұрын
thank you so much for this video One of my friends online friends we never got to meet in person because our own lives kept getting in the way every time we tried we always talked about meeting at Cheesecake Factory He was an amazing soul and it hurts me that i never got to meet him in person his sister called me at work to tell me about his passing... the fact that his family knew about me hurts the most because it means he cared enough to let his family know who i was and what i meant to him.. i was invited to the funeral but i dont think i will go..... this isnt how i wanted to meet him... may he rest in peace..
@willvice3998
@willvice3998 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video. I lost my best friend the 26th of December and this is helping me figure out how to deal with all the emotions I'm feeling. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you have found inner peace
@Kandinicolespeaks
@Kandinicolespeaks 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video as I have been feeling alone! It's been 3m. I wish I could pick up the phone! I talk to an empty chair at times pretending it's him! Today i'm like how can I move on? Like is it even possible? I feel like I will never be the same. Life will never be the same! Who can I go to now! He was my closest friend! The person I was my true self with.💔
@chadnikim
@chadnikim Жыл бұрын
my bestfriend died today.. And I don't know how to cope or how to grief.. which led me to this video.. Thank you.
@FuhqEwe
@FuhqEwe 2 жыл бұрын
He was all I had, after over 20 years. I have no one left.
@FuhqEwe
@FuhqEwe Жыл бұрын
You're alone. You knew this already.
@Ms.Carter.
@Ms.Carter. 7 ай бұрын
Your channel is beautiful. My best friend unalived herself Sunday evening. We've been best friends since we were kids. I keep picking up my phone wanting to text her, or waiting to see if she's messaged me back. I can't believe she's actually gone.
@melgingeronet3648
@melgingeronet3648 2 жыл бұрын
My best friends name is Jess. I lost her in October 2021. Three other close people in my life passed away in the following 27 days. My best friend and two of the other losses were unexpected.
@Bmofattony_
@Bmofattony_ Жыл бұрын
I miss my best friend so much and you said it so perfect I feel so alone.
@gemasofia6728
@gemasofia6728 7 ай бұрын
Never thought I'd be relating to this💔
@BasicallyBrosTV
@BasicallyBrosTV 2 жыл бұрын
My best friend since choices kindergarden died from an overdose about 3 years ago That one kid that was there from elementary middle to high. And to young adults livings with girlfriends. I miss you Chris My best friend
@annabelbradshaw1628
@annabelbradshaw1628 2 жыл бұрын
I have just now discovered your video. I'm so sorry for the passing of your best friend. Mine passed away almost 2 years ago. We had been best friends since day 1 of kindergarten. I didn't have any siblings and her sisters were 10+ years older than her, so she was like my sister. We were inseparable as kids and through high-school. We did everything together. As adults we didn't get to see each other very much, but we talked on the phone at least once a month and texted each other pretty often. Her death was pretty sudden, and because of Covid I couldn't go see her in the hospital. When I had received the news from her sister that she had passed away, it felt like the air had been sucked out of my lungs. I honestly didn't know how I was going to live without her. Everyday is a struggle, and some days are worse than others. I can really relate to your video. Thank you so much for posting 💗
@fsu901
@fsu901 2 жыл бұрын
I started watching your videos while my best friend was in hospice and months after he's passed, I revisit this page. You have helped me so much. Thank you.
@tday2598
@tday2598 2 жыл бұрын
You are not alone. Thank you this is helping me so much
@jorowlands8122
@jorowlands8122 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for addressing this very important issue.
@NophiMitchell
@NophiMitchell 8 ай бұрын
I needed this so much! Thank you! So much of what you said resonates 💙
@RMeeks
@RMeeks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. . .
@ceciliamccray9410
@ceciliamccray9410 2 жыл бұрын
I lost one of my best friends a week ago and I am feeling such overwhelming sadness. This was spot on thank you.
@michaelhill5822
@michaelhill5822 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you so much.
@Spiral.Dynamics
@Spiral.Dynamics 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much.
@Blackunit99
@Blackunit99 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your courage, (first i want to apologize for my English) I'm sitting here crying recognizing everything you say, my best friend did also lose the battle against depression and we were super close, i'm really stuck in this loop of grieving and trying to move on but i just cant seem to get a grip on my life the whole thing have just left such a hudge dark hole. Thank you for sharing and doing what you do, i wish i get the strength to in the future to do just the same thing
@tyresesithole9073
@tyresesithole9073 Жыл бұрын
My best friend 😢at 7 died I am sad depressed but I know that God will keep him safe and god bless you all
@jhmstagg9104
@jhmstagg9104 Жыл бұрын
Yes thank you for this post of grief talk. Like everyone else I'm here because my best friend died yesterday morning. I am dealing with it and processing it by listening to others and remembering all the good times with a smile.
@jessicaspeas1985
@jessicaspeas1985 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this I lost my best friend year ago I been so lost without her so hard
@georgiajarvis365
@georgiajarvis365 Жыл бұрын
It’s been a month since my best friend died at 12. We were exactly one month apart and I had a really close bond with him that no one understood
@ShayNescu
@ShayNescu Жыл бұрын
My best friend lost a battle to sickness about 8 years ago. We were best friends for almost 20 years, during high school and after. Every time my grief comes back it feels like it just happened still. I haven’t been able to have another best friend since. And when I think to the future I don’t see anyone there in her place. It’s very hard because not a lot of people go through this. I haven’t found anybody to relate to or who can understand that part of me and that loss. I miss her so much. I live in our memories and I daydream of what our lives would have been had she still been here. I wonder if I’ll ever heal. Thank you for your video
@HisaLight2mypath
@HisaLight2mypath 2 жыл бұрын
I just found out a few days ago that my very good friend and neighbour passed away I have been so sad and tearful because he was so lovely to me
@ninacarter-brown5208
@ninacarter-brown5208 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video, I can relate to so much of it
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