Whitney Cummings, is Trauma a Privilege in Disguise? | Ep 13

Whitney Cummings, is Trauma a Privilege in Disguise? | Ep 13 | Soul Boom

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Whitney Cummings (2 Broke Girls, The Female Brain) joins Rainn Wilson on Soul Boom for an insightful and raw conversation about self-respect, vulnerability, and the role of trauma in personal growth. Whitney shares her journey of learning to like herself, the power of naming fears, and the surprising ways animals have contributed to her healing process. They delve into the complexities of people-pleasing, the impact of childhood experiences, and how embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections. Join us for an inspiring discussion that challenges conventional wisdom and offers a fresh perspective on mental health and self-worth.
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In this episode, we discuss:
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01:13 The Journey of Self-Respect
05:01 Vulnerability & Nervousness
07:07 The Power of Naming Fears
10:01 Impact of Whitney's Childhood Experiences
17:11 Trauma as a Privilege
24:56 The Role of Animals in Healing
33:24 Breaking Free from People-Pleasing
43:01 Embracing Rejection and Resilience
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@daniellemnop 2 күн бұрын

I know that Whitney isn’t a therapist, but I’ve experienced more self awareness and healing just listening to her than in any therapy environment. I’m so excited for this episode!

@travisk4215 2 күн бұрын

That’s endearing.

@dribrom Күн бұрын

You most have gone to some real quacks then. Did you check their credentials first?

@LuckyLapin777 Күн бұрын

I think we find this in kindred spirits, & I’m grateful we have such a saturated access to the stream of consciousness of brilliant minds that speak to us =))

@travisk4215 Күн бұрын

@LuckyLapin777 - cool photo, Zoe. Good hair ;)

@LuckyLapin777 Күн бұрын

@@travisk4215 thanks for the little-bang love trav

@thebirthofvenustarot 2 күн бұрын

Whitney embodies RADICAL acceptance so beautifully. I’m so glad you got her on the pod! It felt like a balm to my soul today, thank you for that ❤

@alanmintz1514 2 күн бұрын

What great chemistry between Rainn and Whitney, theyre so in sync together

@opposite_melodies1711 2 күн бұрын

As someone who doesn’t know what to believe religiously, but has a want to be better, this podcast is changing my views spiritually and given me whole new outlooks on life with each episode watched. Just had to mention this before viewing this legendary duo!

@SoulBoom 2 күн бұрын

Thank you so much, so glad you’re getting something out of this content on your spiritual path 🙏

@Duffyartwork 2 күн бұрын

You don’t even HAVE to think about religion to reach god. Just wanted to say that. This podcast is great!

@LadyVonCracker 2 күн бұрын

For me… once I realized that just because I reject all religion (and embrace logic and science) doesn’t mean there can’t be a “something” and I’m okay with not knowing.. it’s like a fish trying to explain water.. I highly recommend The Power of Now.. audio book is on KZfaq. It helped me learn how to be present without the inner chatter that has to define everything. ❤

@BalberithRosier 2 күн бұрын

I wasn't going to comment at first. But I NEEDED this podcast today. She validated not only my own personal issues about myself, but she addressed literally the entire saga of the drama with my family atm. Thank you for sharing your story, and opening up so much for all of us to learn from. ❤

@SoulBoom 2 күн бұрын

love that this found you right when you needed it! 🙏 🩵

@elektrablacksky 2 күн бұрын

Whitney’s ability to be vulnerable and articulate her evolution is so impressive ❤love her 🎉

@ashleyspeagle5771 2 күн бұрын

Now we need Rainn on Whitney’s podcast!

@visualthinking 2 күн бұрын

Yes, please!

@Notes-by-Jasmin 2 күн бұрын

Part 2 please!

@andream138 2 күн бұрын

Whitney comedy fan for decades but BUT when she started her podcast especially the last few years of it it has changed my life and made me love myself, heal and become a better friend and hopefully future partner. She is the absolute perfect person for this podcast and I cannot wait to watch it!

@Laanshor 2 күн бұрын

Rainn, Soul Boom refined or reframed so many persistent questions & thoughts for me. Can't thank you enough. Please don't scold Whitney. She's a delightful druid.

@SoulBoom 2 күн бұрын

🙏 No promises!!

@OneDayVision Күн бұрын

Omg got so excited when i saw Whitney. Shes so beautifully honest and a masterful balance of smart and funny.

@user-dp6dz7ip5n Күн бұрын

Wow she is so wise, I gained so much insight from this podcast

@lauvra 19 сағат бұрын

A part two for Whitney would be so good, I actually can't believe how quick this interview felt which is a good signifier. I do watch her podcast and even still I'm coming away from this ep with SO many gold nuggets of wisdom. Growing up with alcy parents creates a very specific set of coping strategies (see: maladapted) and I'm honestly still struggling where that's concerned and I think she's actually helped me with those mantras to let go of a lot of things that really are the first thing on my mind when I wake up. I'm gonna have to spray paint them on my walls to remember (loud brain things) but crisis averted for yet another day!

@rhettdiessner 2 күн бұрын

Beautiful, very meaningful interview. "It is thru our tests that we grow"

@changeusername0123 2 күн бұрын

Rainn, you are authentic and an individual thinker, and in this world you won’t fit in with the majority. But that is your gift and superpower. Thank you for sharing your gift with others through this podcast. Fantastic episode. Whitney has a beautiful soul, and loved hearing her speak on these topics.

@UnderArmour002 18 сағат бұрын

Love Whitney's logic.

@peachnecctar1658 4 сағат бұрын

i love seeing this deeper side of her!

@rose_quartz_loveandlight Күн бұрын

this was such a treat to see Whitney speak so frankly, thank you ❤

@HTRAENOECAEP 2 күн бұрын

Could Whitney be the co-host on a permanent basis?

@SoulBoom 2 күн бұрын

Right!? She needs to come back ASAP, we barely got started! 🙌

@Kali_thebeautybud Күн бұрын

I love you two chatting together. Great match up! 🎉🎉🎉

@SwordofZen Күн бұрын

Listening to podcasts like this guys makes me incredible grateful that I stopped going to therapy. Talk about your problems long enough and it strips you of your balls

@helloduffman 21 сағат бұрын

Yikes

@adrens02 Күн бұрын

This was such a great episode! I like seeing and hearing Whitney being genuine. She's awesome!

@FreeTheRevenantTree 2 күн бұрын

Thank you!

@SoulBoom 2 күн бұрын

thank YOU!! 😃

@Em91s 2 күн бұрын

whitney

@tjal-shami6149 Күн бұрын

Great ep, super interesting and helps me understand myself better gj Whitney and rain

@Pedro-px1yi 2 күн бұрын

What a great conversation. Many times during the episode I instantly saw myself and another friend of mine. So much to think about, so much to talk about. So much to resolve. Thanks Rainn, thanks Whitney.

@PianoForte705 2 күн бұрын

This was absolutely fascinating. Always great listening to people dig into real conversation. It's always inspiring to hear people openly and shamelessly put their flaws on the table. When i came to faith in Christ a few years back, that's one of the first things that helped me to heal, was to talk about difficulties, admit short comings and flaws and repent them. If you can't live in you reality, you can't evolve. Don't ever stay silent! Thanks again for starting this channel!

@carmajean 2 күн бұрын

Loved loved loved this episode. So many deep takeaways... Looking forward to part 2!!!

@LloydTunstilll 2 сағат бұрын

Thank you for this episode. It was very helpful.

@frazerburns91 Күн бұрын

Whitney's great, hope she's happy

@ericdeicaza 2 күн бұрын

Love you guys! Such a good convo!

@ProfessorMoriarty_done_kilt_Q Күн бұрын

This is already a good morning ❤

@jamesdelcol3701 2 күн бұрын

I evolved out of some of this psychological trouble to become very strong, but it took a lot of work on my own self. I had to do a lot of reading first. Volumes and learned about the world. That set me off in the right direction. It worked after a while and some trial and error. I finally have arrived in a place where I'm really good at what I do and I am nobody's doormat. Not a people pleaser, but I do like to save my clients money if I can on my construction jobs and do nice things for people. I do these things out of the goodness of my heart not expecting anything in return. When I was growing up there was a lot of action. I grew up people pleasing. It led me down the direction Whitney was talking about right in the beginning. I had to conquer that fear. It is a panicky feeling. I'm not good enough in academics or I'm socially weak or whatever the criticism you have of yourself. I had all kinds, but I have two major league geniuses in my family. I knew I was not going to do what they did academically early on. Other people can sense it on you, but not unless you announce it. That hard work we do to dig out of a depressive thinking process, is a gift. I have knowledge about myself and I have exploited my skills having tested myself so much from this process. I am good with writing safety management plans and performing technical construction. I know what freaks me out too and I quietly protect myself from a reckless personality on a job. All I need is a heavy equipment operator not following the safety rules and my antennae goes up. I know when you have a bad attitude from surviving your trauma. I can sense your trauma on you too now. I could not do that when I was young and insecure. You get to know humans intimately when you examine yourself intimately. A life not examined is not a meaningful life. "The unexamined life is not worth living" Socrates. I am so blessed for having had to work so hard on myself.

@saruku. Күн бұрын

WOW. 10/10 episode. I needed to hear this. I needed to relate to this. Thank you thank you thank you ♡

@betamasego Күн бұрын

It's nice to know that Whitney also struggles with the dynamics of being a strict while loving dog mom. It's a real psychological battle I'm currently facing and part of the reason I don't feel fit to raise and lead dogs anymore.

@kitten-face 2 күн бұрын

YES!!!! It's about time! 😁

@rockssp5388 2 күн бұрын

Awesome talk!

@lacylashay83 5 сағат бұрын

Happy 4th 🎉💥 I love this podcast and this episode with Whitney is amazing I learned so much that helps me to deal with things that have happened to me I don't have any insurance so I have to find alternative ways to deal and listening to podcast like this or episodes like this helps me learn why things could have happened and how to deal with stuff so I'm just really grateful and excited for the next episode

@R.J.MacReady1982 2 күн бұрын

I do love this podcast. ❤

@visualthinking 2 күн бұрын

SO appreciated Whitney's comment about gift-giving. I disagree that giving to get approval is the ONLY underlying motive, but fair point.

@mabbescobar2726 2 күн бұрын

already so insightful 8 minutes in!

@hdog4474 2 күн бұрын

Second time watching. Gonna be going back to this one 🫶✨

@travisk4215 2 күн бұрын

I had a dream once where a humongous grizzly bear was hunched over me lying on the forest floor and I had to close my eyes, turn my head, let him sniff my face, drop all fear and tell my mind he just a big goofy dog friend. Then he slowly walked away. I was proud of myself when I woke up.

@missa1019 Күн бұрын

What you are saying when you bring someone a gift, is I am not enough.........whoa. I had to pause and reflect with that statement. 🤯

@afshinrohani 2 күн бұрын

47:24 Awesome point when we do drugs or when we indulge the self in selfish acts - we are trying to be present but using a crutch to fake real presence. Which is finding your true self. Which is the real real hard work to do in life.

@httr94 2 күн бұрын

Shout out Roanoke, VA

@Matt-wt4sv Күн бұрын

Unexpected combo ❤

@joakimskurk Күн бұрын

I love this podcast. My dream is that one day Keanu Reeves will be on it.

@matteyas 14 сағат бұрын

the only way to teach your kids something is by doing it, or being that. so if you want them to not be anxious then fix your anxiety. doesn't matter if you're a helpful parent in all the right ways-they'll appreciate you for that, so it's not nothing-but they'll still inherit your mental stuff as well.

@nishant2744 2 күн бұрын

I was watching it on TV while cutting veggies and my mother was impressed by you because of the Ganesh ji on the wall btw those chairs look so comfortable

@dribrom Күн бұрын

Emotional baggage is something everyone has. It's something you get more of the older you get. The privilege is to deal with your trauma and solve it.

@chemtrail2269 5 сағат бұрын

Addiction is lack of connection whether that be with others oneself or source.

@CarolinePax Күн бұрын

Bobby Lee really delivers

@dmt6602 Күн бұрын

Wow, this podcast was brought to you by adderal, Prozac and the word “Like”. A wild recipe but so much goodness in here ☝️ ☝️

@CrawfordAlexander 9 сағат бұрын

The comedians that would be great on this podcast - Bert Kreischer (he is never serious about his problems and I think it could actually do good for him) - Duncan Trussell (this would be a great and deep episode) - Brendan Schaub (if he is actually a comedian is up to interpretation - I think if he let his ego fall for an hour it could actually help is career)

@cliveowen334 2 күн бұрын

I've had greyhounds my entire life, and I know dogs with impulse problems and high prey drives. Whitney is talking nonsense, you should never use pain to teach a dog. If the dog is running into traffic, you keep it on a lead. She's so close - you need to protect them yes, but that is not the way. I've also worked with farm animals for decades now, so I'd like to think I have some knowledge about this issue. Dogs were never our slaves, they were bred to work alongside us. Don't shock your dog, just learn the right way to manage and train them folks.

@MrECatalan Күн бұрын

God she's gorgeous 😍

@deadscenedotcom 8 сағат бұрын

Whitney, you're a superb comic. I appreciate your candor here.

@MysticalInfiniteBlessings 2 күн бұрын

Hey I love you I’m from Shelton Wa

@GR_BackingTracks Күн бұрын

33:13 may have just saved my life...

@Ai-teach1 2 күн бұрын

The energy of the dragon is an amazing tool that all have hidden inside us, it´s waiting to be awakened, and it can be used both physical and emotional . 🧑‍🔬 🐉🐲🔥Dragon Reiki focuses on healing and caring for the spirit, because of the belief is that if the spirit is in harmony and at peace, only then we can begin to heal ourselves on the outside. It teaches us that our bodies are naturally destined to heal themselves if our spirits are balanced and nourished.

@sanar_desde_adentro_58 Күн бұрын

❤❤❤

@jklol1680 2 күн бұрын

❤

@miramirez3574 2 күн бұрын

❤️‍🔥

@Rafal_1221 21 сағат бұрын

I believe we need a conversation with John Krasinski :)

@Londonroadsocialclub Күн бұрын

Watch at 0.75x, way less annoying 😂

@BR-sc4hf Күн бұрын

Glad I’m not the only one who thought so. 🤣

@Londonroadsocialclub Күн бұрын

@@BR-sc4hf 🤣

@saurelius5217 2 күн бұрын

I remember she did that dating app commercial that was completely one sided and turned me off of dating apps even more as a man. Whitney Cummings strikes me as a woman whom would have empathy for the struggles of a woman, but not a man and certainly not a man with autism of any kind.

@visualthinking 2 күн бұрын

I suspect if you listened to her podcast, you would change your mind. She has tons of male guests working in a male field. And always talking about mental health. Havent seen the commercial, I can't speak to it.

@saurelius5217 2 күн бұрын

@@visualthinking I believe it was for Bumble but they removed the video after backlash.

@sydneyrebello3949 Күн бұрын

Wow she likes the sound of her own voice a little too much

@BloodyBobJr 2 күн бұрын

All these things about pecking order, animal instincts, feeling fear makes the animal have anxiety. We still have all these animalistic tendencies and we think were Super evolved, but at subconscious level we constantly still do them. Don't do pecking order anymore? Go into a prison as a new inmate and you'll find your place or a new member in a military squad. Evolved humans have only been around for a few million years, sounds like a lot, but earth is 100s millions old with life on it. It's a very short time we were just upright monkies living mostly likely in trees and caves. We try and avoid the fact were still animals/primates but those ancient Gene's and proto brains are apart of us. Until we evolve into cyborgs living in the internet..give us a few hundred years

@user-bm5gr8sl3m 2 күн бұрын

God it's so funny that the soft parent generation is now having to re-learn how to be hard, just try to remember that a healthy balance is key and that extreme freedom OR extreme discipline is what screws kids up

@bfunderb5899 2 күн бұрын

“Someone only respects you as much as you respect yourself”

@TimCornett 2 күн бұрын

Absolutely cannot stand the message you’re promoting about shock collars. positive reinforcement works. It works using largely the principles discussed in this and previous episodes of the podcast. The use of pain and punishment in dog training is as useful as the use of pain and punishment in child rearing.

@whitneycummings 2 күн бұрын

im saying this just for pitbulls with trauma in their background - usually only is need about twice so they dont run into the road which puts them in way more danger - trust me I was against it at first too

@TimCornett 2 күн бұрын

@@whitneycummings I'm a dog trainer. I work with pitbulls all the time. I promise the consensus building among scientists, vets and behavior experts is that non aversive training is what works.