Hey Everyone! Welcome to the pinned comment! 😃 There were 4 big points I remembered during editing that I wanted to elaborate on as I think they are important/hilarious. 1) This one is so funny and I think my combined experience of working on television and editing youtube videos couldn't let this go. In my video, at 12:53 we see Cole taking a bite out of something, By the looks of it they are having crackers, cheese and fruit. The thing he bites looks a lot like a mango, maybe a pineapple, but It makes an obnoxiously loud crunch. Later at 14:55 he is biting the exact same thing, and it is silent. They ADDED the sound of a crunch to elaborate the awkwardness of his pause/hesitation. Really pay attention to it, it sounds off, and unless that is an orange piece of concrete, that sound makes absolutely no sense. 2) This one has been bugging me alot. at 30:54 in my video, Zanab says a sentence that starts with "Cole." if you turn the subtitles on netflix (and KZfaq) on, it reads "Cole you told me THAT THE NIGHT before our wedding." IF that is, in fact what she said, there's a huge hole in her story because seconds later she says "I saw you before the wedding...you said..." (in reality there's more time between the two statements but in my edit it's seconds later) this would mean her story changed about when he would have told her this. HOWEVER! I think there's a chance Netflix got the subtitle wrong. I think it's possible that the initial statement is not "you told me THAT THE NIGHT before our wedding" but rather "you told me THAT RIGHT before our wedding." I've listened to it a dozen times, with increased volume and slowed down, it's nearly impossible to tell which of the two she's saying, it's like whichever one is in your head, that's what she is saying. In addition to this, if she did in fact mean the night before the wedding that would mean she showed up to the wedding and did her pre wedding interviews and said some nice things about him and didn’t mention this giant bomb he dropped on her the night before. She even said in post interviews that she didn’t know what she was going to say until she was at the alter, something doesn’t add up. So what do you think? did she contradict herself or did Netflix get the subtitle wrong? 3) It is important to note that at the pool party, Cole did cross the line with Colleen. He was flirting with her which i thought was highly inappropriate. I am not excusing this in any way, and when I saw it I was irritated and sad for Zanab. I think Cole has acted like an A-hole on numerous occasions and I would understand someone not liking him based on those things but acting like a jackass doesn't make someone a liar. We have to seperate the two. He never denied flirting with Colleen, he is denying flirting with this other woman at the bachelor party 4) I spent a lot of time thinking about the two guys sitting next to Cole, SK and Bartise, and their silence. First, this is not uncommon for them, there are a LOT of conversations happening where they are both sitting there very still. There's definitely a chance that one of them has some information about Cole's activities that night and that's why they aren't saying anything but because this stillness is quite normal for them, I think it's slightly more likely that they have nothing to add to this. They don't seem to be agreeing or disagreeing with what is being said. I would love to ask them a few questions just to be sure. It’s also entirely possible that they are trying to not draw any attention to themselves whatsoever because they both also messed up (in different ways at different times, it was all revealed later on) and may not want the mob to turn on them. at the end of the day I think it's possible that Zanab may have asked Cole "so what happened at the bachelor party" and in that classic jokey way, Cole said "I totally met a girl and made out with her and asked for her number" and in the exact same way that she misunderstood and misremembered the cuties incident, she did the same with this. This is the only way I can explain her conviction in that accusal, because if it isn't something like this, one of them is blatantly lying and I don't believe it's Cole. 2 additional thoughts after reading some comments: 1- some of you pointed out some deceptive behaviors in Cole (face touching, qualifiers, raised pitch) I don’t disagree. But I like to remind myself that studies show that people who fear not being believed behave the same way liars behave because they want to sell their story more, and clusters only indicate that we need to ask more questions and believe me I’dd love to ask Cole some questions too. I’m basing my conclusion here on alot of context but based on behavior, in an interview, I would want to ask him more questions here. Also keep in mind his denial looks and sounds a LOT like his denial of the clementines story and the consensus of the fans seems to be that his denial of that one was honest and he didn’t mean it the way she took it. 2- some of you pointed something brilliant out which I filmed and then for some reason didn’t include in the final edit. She seemed prepared for his denial. As soon as he denied it she didn’t need time to register or look surprised by it. She immediately jumped on it and “filled him in” on the story. This felt bizarre to me. What do you think?

When her stepmom went up to comfort Cole, to me, it felt like she was almost apologizing, as if she knows something about how Zanab can be.. As for the girl's number, apparently they went to a rodeo and Cole actually got a calf, which meant getting her number tag or something. There is a theory that Cole joked about that being getting a girl's number referring to the calf. The people that really annoy me are actually Alexa and Brennon. When Cole is talking they are often snickering, almost as if they know better. Just my 2 cents but based on my gut feel, I call BS on Brennon being so drunk that he remembers nothing. That was just him trying to stay on Alexa's side and not wanting to add anything that might help Cole's story. He comes off as someone without a moral backbone.

Zeneb is a narcissist. I was married to a vulnerable narcissist for 23 years. It's all there. The gas lighting, the lying, the mood fluctuations, the entitlement, the manipulation, the passive aggression, the grandiosity, the flying monkeys, playing the victim etc. It physically made sick watching her behavior as it just brought it all back to me. Sure, Cole is immature but he didn't deserve that. No one does. Once you know, you learn to avoid these people like the plague. Hopefully he now knows what he was in for if she decided to say 'yes.'

Cole was almost embarrassingly honest the whole show. I knew pretty immediately at the reunion that she was lying. I felt absolutely awful for him. Zanab is extremely unstable and manipulative. He dodged a bullet honestly, but its terrible that she gaslighted him like that and turned everyone against him.

As someone who shamelessly watched the entire season, I can safely say if you have your head screwed on straight, you will see how Zanab set Cole up to be the villian, when in reality Zanab was the real villian. She projected all of her insecurities onto Cole forcing him to carry and made to feel responsible for things he did not do but she felt inside--- and it worked. At the end of the seaon she given free reign at the alter to completely character assassinate him. Yes, Cole was not perfect but he never deserved the quiet manipulative torture Zanab unleashed on him, nope.

I watched the whole season when it aired. Cannot stand Zanab. I don't think Cole is without his faults but Zanab has a whole lot of issues that she needs to sort out through therapy or professional help before she can ever be in any kind of relationship. She twists anything Cole says and turns it into her own reality. The fact that her own stepmum was comforting him at the altar speaks volumes.

I'm a female, and I was absolutely appauled at how these grown arse women bullied Cole at the reunion. I watched the whole show. Cole wasn't perfect and said some shitty things which he apologised for, but zaneb a huge gaslighter!

So glad for this analysis. I watched this season of Love is Blind, it was so hard to watch those two together. Zanab was painfully insecure and Cole was painfully honest. But the most difficult part was her soul crushing attitude towards him, he was bright , happy and playful; she was insecure, manipulative, extremely needy and cruel. I’m so glad they didn’t stay together.

I gotta be honest, the main reason why I actually hated season 3 is how they all treated Cole. And it seems extreme but listen, yes everyone had messy relationships like every season of LIB really (especially SK&Raven and Nancy&Batiste) but I've never seen a cast act so viciously towards another participant without actually having any sort of evidence? On top of the guy being completely humiliated and destroyed at the altar. Like I'm sorry I'm no body language specialist but the way he was crying, the way he was with her stepmom. Everything was so unnecessarily brutal towards a guy that honestly didn't deserve this at all (SK, bartiste and even Matt and his rage attacks did worst things that Cole ever could and they didn't get this treatment). Did cole make mistakes? Of course yes but they're in no way proportional to how he was treated, it legit drives me insane. Cause you can tell Zanab (or idk who) keeps telling stories about him to the others (Raven and Nancy supporting her Bachelor Party story even tho they don't even know what the heck happened) and kind of creating this false scenario that the dude is a monster when.... He's just a regular dude that made mistakes and actually apologized for them.

I really hate how people pick on Cole for being an honest person. It's absolutely ridiculous for a woman to ask her partner to rate her and then ask him if there's anyone else he finds more attractive, and then get mad at him for being honest. That's such an incredibly toxic thing for women to do. It irritates me to no end. You're literally just training your partner to learn that you would prefer if they lied to you.

The thing I picked up on was Zanab’s reaction when Cole questioned Raven’s statement. She seemed prepared for Cole’s confusion, and waisted no time defending the story. Her response was almost spring loaded, “You told me that the night before the wedding”. It almost seemed like she was announcing it to him.

I watched the whole show.... and I think she lied. I also think the stepmother words give us insight that Zeneb has a history of stuff like this. She said " I know" and "you're ok". She said that to Cole after her daughter said that Cole single handedly destroyed her self esteem. That sounds like someone who has lived through a few similar episodes...... that's my perception. And yes, I watched the whole show, so I have many other reasons for my impressions and opinions. But I just think k this particular situation is very telling.

I recall that during the bipolar scene when she was mad, she told Cole he should go meet someone at his bachelor party that better suits him. So she probably imagined it in her head. Reminds me of a narcissist turning everyone against him.

I have absolutely no sympathy for Zanab. She's a master at manipulating and she completely destroyed Cole due to her own lack of self esteem and MASSIVE insecurities. Of course Cole isn't perfect and completely innocent in the whole thing, but he grew so much as a person because he recognized his short comings and the things he needed to change about himself to be in a healthy relationship. Zanab did nothing to take a look at herself and realize what she needed to work on. She's happy being a toxic controlling person, and when things go wrong she can blame it all on everyone else. The saddest thing is watching Cole go from a boisterous, confident, (maybe a little too) cocky guy to a shell of a man, so broken and disillusioned with love.

What kind of person asks their new boyfriend what they "rate" their physical appearance vs. others? If you ask me Cole dodged a bullet.

Two things…(1) The cutie situation sealed the deal for me that she is completely deceptive. Just wish the producers would’ve expanded on more of her shenanigans. (2) all of the ladies say “something like that”. No details and total assumptions. I feel like Zenab has tried hard to get people in her side to convince herself her actions and harsh words are justified. What a mess!

Another big thing everyone noticed at the reunion was how uncomfortable and distressed Colleen looked with Matt. Mind you, she denied anything was wrong in their relationship, but her body language was clearly saying the opposite. I'd love a video about them too.

If we believe that Cole made a drunken joke about hitting on a woman, or if we give Zanab any other benefit of the doubt, we're still left with the fact that she did not mention this at the altar, and that it clearly couldn't have bothered her too much if the only person to ever actually bring it up is Raven.

Zanab is one of the most insecure people I have ever seen. She was constantly needing validation and if Cole didn’t answer exactly how she wanted, she turned it around that he was putting her down. Zanab manipulated the rest of the cast into believing her lies about how Cole treated her and thank god for the cuties video! Cole didn’t deserve the way all the girls treated him at the reunion and after.

The way her step mom comforted cole could indicate that she knows zanab can be off her rocker sometimes

For me, the nail in the coffin that Zanab completely made up the story, is the fact that she has clearly TOLD EVERYONE ELSE there in advance "what he did" to garner their sympathy and get them on her side. They ALL blindsided him. They are nothing more than Zanab's gullible flying monkeys. She is a manipulator and a schemer. Cole, poor dear, is maybe a little stupid and needs to learn to edit himself, but he is certainly not malicious. Zanab is imo a malignant person. Brennan is another character I cannot stand. He is convinced Zanab is right (because Alexis says so) and has such a disgusting "gotcha" smile of contempt on his face when Cole first responds in shock. Then is like, "I dunno man, I was drunk out of my mind". So how tf would you know ANYTHING with confidence about what Cole did or did not do,

First impression: Cole's confusion and indignation come across as genuine to me. Zanab comes across as a little too controlled; her words communicate hurt and betrayal, but her demeanor doesn't reflect that. Behaviorally, I noticed a huge eye flutter from her as she was telling her story. Also a stop gesture, but I'm not giving that as much weight as she was trying to cut off his narrative at that moment.

I clearly remembered Zanab describing Cole as "unfiltered" and "transparent." I actually winced at how brutally honest he was at times, so the accusation of deception by him caught me off guard. Thanks to your brilliant analysis, I have a better understanding of why I found the accusation about the girl the night before the wedding confusing. Thanks again, Spidey!

Zanab has a lot of trauma and insecurities. For someone to have ruined your entire self-esteem in that short amount of time, it was already missing in the first place. I watched this entire season and I agree that Cole was inappropriate many times. However, Zanab is the one painting him as a villian because of her insecurities. The cutie scene proves it.

When you grow up with a narcissistic parent, reading manipulative and gaslighting becomes second nature to you. Zanab reminded me so much of my mom, and Cole of myself, where I didn't know how to respond in a way that didn't make me look guilty because I was so busy being flabbergasted by the gaslighting

@TheBehaviorialArts I noticed a number of problematic behaviors from Zanab that were particularly evident in the episodes leading up to the reunion. Zanab had openly admitted to being passive-aggressive, and this trait seemed to become more prevalent as time went on. After sleeping with Cole, Zanab's demeanor changed, as she seemed to believe that he was ignoring her. She became increasingly insecure, often questioning Cole about her appearance *rate my looks*, also when her makeup was off. Unfortunately, Cole's joking around only exacerbated her insecurities, and Zanab often compared herself unfavorably to the other women, seeking validation. My impression was that Zanab was self-sabotaging, had low self-esteem, shallow at times and vindictive. Cole, on the other hand, was very immature and often lacked tact when interacting with Zanab. His behavior frequently betrayed his young age, i didn't see him as cruel person who was abusive to Zanab. In my opinion, Zanab misunderstands his behavior, quirps, and banters as an attack on her, which was far from the truth. In an effort to divert attention from her own behavior, she lied to play the victim, be spiteful, and hurt him out of frustration.

Another small point to add: it's already been mentioned that Zanab seemed normal the day of the wedding, right up until the altar. She has said (not sure if it came up at the reunion, but definitely in interviews) that she didn't know what she was going to say until she got to the altar. It's hard to believe that after all the alleged abuse, and having just been told about this betrayal at the bachelor party, that she still hadn't made up her mind? And for that to apparently not be a factor in the decision since it wasn't brought up as a reason for her no.

I felt really bad for Cole when he started crying in that scene. From whatever I've seen, he's been himself all along. He's been almost innocent in a way wanting to bare himself to the world. To be rejected for being himself has to hurt a lot. I understand where Zanab comes from, she wants to be seen as perfect for Cole. But in reality, there is no such thing as perfect. I think she has a deep sense of insecurity about herself and she was not ready for Cole's honesty. And it ultimately lead her to hurting him, because she felt hurt. I feel bad for him.

I’m so glad you made this video, I watched this season and I was SO ANNOYED at how the entire cast made Cole seem like such a bad guy, that’s not at all how I saw him. I was so sad seeing him on the after show episode, (after the reunion) how broken he was from it all. His character was completely slandered and I felt like he was really mistreated. Glad you came through and laid it all out there, hopefully he sees this video and feel a sense of justice ❤

It's tragic that Cole will probably have everlasting trust and commitment issues because of what Zanab did to him. Not to mention how most of the people are on zanabs side and hate him because of it. Zanab can recover from this insecurity she has because she thinks he was the villain. But every time Cole is vulnerable, he will be right back at that altar, wondering if the other person actually despises him and he's been a villain this whole time.

I see in his face what I always felt in my 2 relationships with narcissists, the complete disbelief that someone would lie straight to my face about what I had witnessed and continue to gaslight me after I confronted them on it.

Zanab didn't want to marry Cole but instead of bowing out gracefully, she had to make Cole the bad guy.

I thought it's so strange when Zanab refer 2 cuties as a serving, and Cole has never met anyone with ED to pick up on any conversation related to food intake and portion size will trigger her insecurities and spiral into a manipulative, distorted mindset. No normal people would look at 2 cuties and go, 'yeah that's a serving!', Zanab clearly studies the nutritional labels on anything she eat and she need professional help.

I absolutely appreciate the honesty from Cole. He is someone you don’t want to ask stupid questions, that are needing fake answers that are only fishing for the purpose to boost insecurities. Having that type of honesty is much appreciated when there are real questions that are needing to be answered honestly. This girl was way too insecure for him. He is a gem of a young man. Poor guy. Hopefully he has been able to recover from her attempt at ruining him for the sake of her hiding behind her own issues. Hate that for him.

Ok- the after the alter thing. Someone mentioned that neither SK or Bartiste moved or said a word. However it came out in the after the alter part of the show that both of them were serial cheaters. I think they froze and didn’t want to bring anything up because they didn’t want the spotlight on them with that discussion happening. Just my 2 cents.

Zanab was a walking 🚩🚩🚩🚩 right out of the gate in this season. Glad you did a video about it. The only one sabotaging her self esteem and confidence is herself. Were there some things that Cole could have done differently? Yes. Would any of that changed how this played out? No, because Zanab was the one creating most of the issues here. It didn't matter what Cole did or didn't do, she would have found a way to find fault with him, and until she gets in to see a solid therapist, she will likely continue these patterns into her future romantic endeavors.

First impression, I believe the guy. He is so amazed by such a flagrant lie that he is literally in disbelief, and the fact that he says no women were present at the saloon is a huge fact to support his argument that would be easily provable by talking to any one else that was there

My only impression is that she set him up to "fail her" as SOON as she asked him to rate her. She made sure he wasn't good enough for her. Had to.. because she acknowledged that he's 1000% unfiltered. She suffers from self-sabotage and projecting and that boy dodged a bullet! As far as body language, the one thing I noted is her looking up when they were all together wasn't the same look up in your other 2 examples. The other 2 were more top right. That last one was like she was looking for words for her story.

I loved your take on this. I hope the rest of the cast, esp Brennan, watched this. I think Zenab made stories to convince her fellow girlfriends why she is not into Cole and she (the victim) was all sweet the entire time. Truly someone who has insecurities trying to be all superior and blame others. I think this character is in grained in her. No therapist can change her perception, unless she accepts herself for who she is. I wish her luck. I wish Cole luck.

As someone who's never watched the show, it was the "There weren't any girls there" part was what caught my attention. It's something soooo easily proved right or wrong, so why would you bring it up if you're lying? Also, the girls' story changed from Cole trying to kiss a girl AT the party to going somewhere else after the party, where 'he could've been doing anything'.

I have been eagerly awaiting this video since the survey! I watched the show and got the impression that Cole was a simple and straight-forward guy that said what he was thinking without thinking. It may have been part of the Cuties scene where I remember Zanab saying she never listens to [most] of what Cole says. That statement explained to me why she misinterpreted the Cuties comment in the first place and only heard "don't eat..." and then stopped listening. I also felt that the girls were blindly supporting Zanab's bachelor party accusation because she played victim to this non-event but she had true victim feelings from Cole's admission that Coleen was 10/10. Can someone pull real feelings from another event as a way to deceive? (Maybe just to deceive those without your analyzing skills?)

I noticed that crunch sound before reading Spidey’s pinned comment and also thought it’s intentional that was definitely added to highlight the awkwardness in the moment. good to know i noticed it correctly. Been learning a lot from Spidey’s amazing breakdowns and body analysis.

Eek! I'm so excited you've done this video! I just want to share my appreciation for your community posts. I love how interactive you are with your community and that you care about our opinions. It's so rare and so very appreciated. Keep on keeping on Spidey! You're fantastic! ♥️

I am not all the way through, but I will say after seeing what I have so far, I believe whole heartedly thelat he is being honest and she is using a lie (maybe one she believes) to paint him worse in her own eyes in order to justify the way she treated him. She was BITTER about that Colleen situation & couldn't let it go... neither of them could...

I think Cole dodged a covert narcisistic bullet. It was painful for him, but in the end, married life with Zanab would have been a lot worse.

Question: do you think SK and Bartise were quiet due to their own "relationship flaws"? We find out after the show that SK was cheating on Raven. And Bartise had been pretty distant from Nancy after living together supposedly because he wasn't attracted to her. So my question comes from the thought that maybe they didn't have anything to say because they have been in compromising situations as well?

Zanab LIED a lot in my opinion. I find her extremely frustrating and the way that other cast members went along with her (mainly the women) was also frustrating.

"Liars want you to like them in order to believe them." Seems so simple, but this blows my mind!! Also really good point that he had "confident denial" -- literally reaching out for anybody to confirm that he went out after the bachelor party, which would be EASY, but no one has anything. And you're absolutely correct that Zanab was seeing everything through a lens. The moment I watched that "rating" scene I knew they were never going to make it. A curvy girl can't be rated below a petite girl and not have it kill their confidence dead. That wasn't her fault -- but deceiving him at the altar, and lying about him getting a girl's number was.

This was great Spidey, thanks for another great video! I've had another great area open up where I can use things I learn in your videos, I've returned to stage performing after 22 years off in local amateur theatre and just finished the boy from Oz and auditioning for Les miserables, and body language has really enhanced my acting. I really like the very clear and well contextualised examples that you give. You also model lovely attitudes and values. Thanks for being awesome ❤

This is the best cross-over of KZfaq content ever. I'm so excited to watch this. 🤣

this is one of my FAVORITE videos you have ever done. PLEASE continue to do Love is blind Deception videos.

Thank you so much for giving into all the begging pleading, and grobbling, and finally covering LIB!! Can't wait for more! This was so spot on to my impression of what happened, at the time. Lots of fun! Cannot WAIT to go over this season next. 😂😂😭😭😭

I honestly think zanab is crazy. I know that oversimplifying things but honestly she is a lot. I’ve known women like her before which is why I’m so sure saying that. I don’t think she’s a bad person, but I think she is HELLA toxic. Her ability to cling onto insignificant details and make problems out of them and even over exaggerate them to the moon and back is quite the skill she has. She is super pretty and could get a lot of men. But she won’t be able to keep them if she talks down to them and constantly makes them feel like they’re the asshole in every situation.

YAY!! I love that you’re reviewing Love is Blind!! Please do season 4!!!

This video was a masterpiece! I’ve seen episodes of season 4 but hadn’t seen season 3 but the way you presented this felt like a mystery movie! I was on the edge of my seat. And you pointed out so many amazing things that lend so much context. I very much agree with your conclusion on this and it’s refreshing to see you actually lean to one side as you’re often so objective and in the middle. Wow 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

This was a very well edited analysis. For someone who didn’t even watch this season’s love is blind, you made it very entertaining and suspenseful to watch throughout 😊

Not so much a body language reaction as I'm really awful at that but more about the value of a lie in that moment and the ability to get away with such an enormous lie. If Cole did try to kiss a girl at the bachelor party wouldn't there have been many witnesses to this including a TV crew and he even, according to Zanab, told on himself the next day. Him lying and getting away with it at that stage seems virtually impossible and pretty pointless. Zanab is sort of in charge of the accusation. She brings it up and it looks like she has told the others about it so unless her accusation is challenged by others who were at the bachelor party or the TV show then she gets away with it. I don't think anyone else is going to challenge her directly and she could always say it happened off camera or when the other men weren't there. As weird of a lie it is I think it is Zanab that is lying because it just makes less sense for Cole to lie in the circumstances. He has already fessed up according to Zanab, it happened on a TV show when he was being filmed and he was with others or the women herself could even come forward. Finished the video now and just to add, Zanab saying that Cole isn't a bad person after him apparently trying to kiss another woman is one thing but saying this after him single handedly destroying her self confidence and basically attempting to coercively control Zanab according to her narrative is a completely other thing. I believe it is Zanab's dreadful inconsistencies that ruined her. How can you trust let alone believe a woman who claims that a man is a good and decent man that they love actually when they've simultaneously accused him of really quite dreadful abuse.

I’ve never seen this show and I loved this video! You did a great job, as always, of explaining and editing the clips. I really enjoyed this one!

This was an excellent video, as usual, Spidey! I watched the whole season and was shocked at the altar scene and the reunion. My husband is a TV cameraman and has done some reality shows- I know how heavily edited footage can be- but the vibes were off. Then when they showed the clementine replay footage, I knew my instinct was right and that Zanab was the liar.

I didn't watch that show. That's not something I'd like to spend my time with. But honestly, your body language analysis is something I can't get enough from. Love, love, love it! 🙌

I have no idea why anyone would watch this type of show but Spidey breaking down behaviours, I'm in😊

I would love for you to do more reality tv analysis! In this show, I was mostly amazed that Micah had terrible friends around her. Or did they just see something we didn't see?

Absolutely brilliant... I was really excited for this one ... Thank you so much for putting this together 😊... Please please do more of these I will absolutely binge watch them all 👌

Zanab is a snake. Careful, if you stay close to her, at some point or another, you're gonna get bit. I've met (dated) someone like her. With people like this, their venom slowly seeps into every vein of your life until it's too late. There's nothing outwardly alarming about Zanab, and she doesn't seem like a terrible person right off the bat, but trust me. One day, you'll feel the sting.

Z premeditated burning him at the stake in the most humiliating way to do it front and center while his family, loved ones, and entire wedding party watched. That is cruelty and evil to the core. Cole from jump was an extremely playful, jokester, with a positive attitude and immature. But she accepted his proposal knowing his character. Then suddenly her extreme low self esteem needed constant reassurance and her unrelenting bear trap questions were always setting him up for failure, confrontation, accusations, and battle. She destroyed a part of his innocence and rose colored glasses by betraying him in a way he will never forget and for which she has not only absolutely zero remorse but worse was delighted by doing so in a final act of revenge. His devastation that someone he loved would purposely destroy him like that left a permanent scar and I truly hope he falls in love w/a woman who will reciprocate that love. As for Z as long as she is consumed by negativity, anger, hate, and insecurity she will never find happiness. Her perpetual scowl screams unhappiness.

Cole had stated later on in the show that he and Colleen had nothing in common and he found it hard to have a conversation with her. He apologized at least 6-7 times to everyone for his comments about Colleen. Zanab also set him up at least 4 times, knowing how honest, boyish and young he is,. She knew that he wasn't going to say anything different and therefore was making her case against him. Does everyone forget that at the one group get together Zanab once again stirred the pot regarding Colleen and Cole causing Matt to want to break up with Colleeen and COLE told Matt that he had nothing to be worried about and that Colleeen was 100% dedicated to Matt and Matt had nothing to worry about. I think Zanab decided the minute he stated that Colleen was a 10 and she was a 9, that she was going to destroy him. She seemed annoyed with him 90% of the time!! As much as I think it is easy to get mad at these guys for making inappropriate comments remember Batiste also said he thought Raven and him would have made a great couple and others have said similar things. This is honestly something you should expect as they did grow connections to each other. You need to see their actions after the fact and Cole showed Zanab many times that he was dedicated to her!!

Now, after watching the whole video, I feel truly terrible for Cole. I appreciate his honesty through it all, even if it was something that might not be taken in the best light. It is so rare to find honest people who are also so truly caring and sweet. Too bad I wasn't on that show, I would have snagged him in a heartbeat!!!

I was really thinking of you watching this season and hoping you would talk about it - you really made my day! I was hoping someone would speak in favor of Cole so finally, thank you!!

I love that you analysed this and I agree 100% with your thoughts! Will you analyse the live reunion for this season maybe? I feel like people are almost embarrassed to admit they watch the show, so when I find someone that does, I can't wait to talk about it 😂 So I really appreciate this video 🥰

SOOO glad that you decided to analyze this!! It felt like a public discourse that had a lot worth breaking down and setting things straight about. I honestly found it so contradictory that the way all of their scenes together had been edited made Zanab look like the villain who was constantly twisting Cole’s words, while everyone else in the show seemed to take the opposite perspective. It just felt like the show couldn’t decide which bias to run with. Bottom line: They both did serious damage to each other and a lot of what Cole did was careless and not considerate of Zanab’s feelings at all, but she projected so much bullshit onto him that was entirely her insecurities talking. I really do feel sorry for the situation with her parents, but I completely agree with your conclusions on what potentially happened behind the scenes between them.

The gentleman next to her stepmom is trying to look away from the crowd with a thought like: "You gotta be kidding me!" or maybe "Here we go ... again." ?!? :-)

I would love to see some more Love is Blind behavioral analysis videos! But anything you make Spidey is always good so I'll be here to watch either way. Keep up the fantastic content!

Awesome analysis! I think Cole's clumsy, sometimes painful to watch, honesty made her even more insecure about herself than she already was to begin with. Once that happened she got it in her head that he's the one putting her down, which actually he never did. I always believed his version of the story. And I think she pretty much broke him with her smear campaign. Poor guy.

I have not watched the show and I am reacting from part way through this video (when Cole is talking to the bride's step mom.) From what I have seen and heard it appears to me the bride is very insecure. I noticed it from the moment they met, she was very guarded and unsure to start. It also signals insecurity to me in the fact she asked him if he found anyone there more attractive than her. She may love him but her insecurity is not a match for his blatant honesty IMO. She needs someone who will put her feelings above honesty. I have a strong feeling she is the one lying about the cheating. I imagine this scene at the wedding didn't go as she planned. She tried to paint him as a monster and herself his victim. What I see here is her family sympathizing with him. I have a feeling she got some backlash from her family and the reunion became an opportunity to try again to paint him as the problem and her as his victim.

You’re the first person I’ve seen that pointed out the stepmom. That was the one thing that stood out to me was the stepmom. She knows Zanabs crazy asf and she went straight to comfort Cole…

I love love the way this was crafted, interactive educational, and then to top it off with a bit more interaction with a hive mindset in sharing more perspectives with everyone in the post. God Bless You Spidey you're an Angel thanks for making us grow.

I'm glad I got it right before I watched the video. One thing I learned from JCS Criminal Psychology is that truthtellers are very adamant and vocal when they are confident they are telling the truth. I'm glad Cole dodged a bullet there; imagine living with someone as devious as that for the rest of your life. It'd be dreadful.

This is so interesting to me because I do watch Love is Blind and other "reality series". I wonder if you're going to do more videos like these because I'd love to hear your analysis about what went down in Season 1 with Jessica and the reunions that they had.

I so enjoy you acting out and verbalizing the internal monologue that may accompany expressions and postures. It’s always exactly what I hear and would say. Also despite being last season of LiB, you ducked me right back in to the Cole Zanab drama. I love how you cover pop culture and current events!! Not sure why your friends can’t find interesting or topical body language to analyze, but I had to unfollow them due to boredom and lack of interest.

Oh & great analysis Spidey! I love to watch your videos & get your perspective!

Great analysis as usual! I had always wondered about the 'reality' of reality tv, but you are right, it seems that there are real people and stories, which are carefully guided by the producers. There is a great podcast by two former contestants that provide some context to how the show is edited - they said there are some contestants that get 'edited' in their favour.... I hope you analyse more of these seasons!

I JUST watched this reunion last night. As we start off this video, my initial "stance" may be summed up by what I said to my son, "I hope you never end up with a girl like that." Editing: It's difficult to unsee what I've seen to get a gut feeling on the interaction at the reunion. Also editing: Although my 11 year-old son was sitting right next to me, he also was playing Chess with his headphones on and said, "What?? Mom, I'm not even listening to whatever you're talking about." 😂 Yes, I did know that. And I LOVE that about my son!! I love that he is 'a boy' who doesn't trifle with silliness and plays Chess instead. And I will say that he also enjoys and loves his time with all of his girl cousins and our girl next door neighbor. He loves playing with cool chics (said endearingly, because he also loves our girl chickens). Agh, just saying, I have an aversion to killjoy girls who hate on sweet boys. Get a therapist. I did - so that's not a flippant statement.

Another fantastic video Spidey!! I recently discovered your channel and have enjoyed every video I have viewed. They have been really interesting and really educational for me to see different behaviours amongst people. I continue to watch and support your channel as much I can. Keep it up!!!😁👊

My favorite review so far of my favorite show. Please do more of these. Thank you!!

Yet again we fall for Spidey's mentalism tricks.... he got us to be completely drawn into a show that a lot of wouldn't have even registered on our radars. Another great breakdown and analysis. Love what you are doing, the content, the guests etc. Keep doing what you are doing!

I wonder if Zanab’s accusation would have even came out if Raven didn’t mention it. 🤔

This was a very surprising video to me and I REALLY enjoyed it!!! I’ve never seen the show so when the vid first started I wasn’t sure if I’d stick around but I’m a loyal follower so I did. Lol. I have a feeling you’re going to be asked to do A LOT more vids like this 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 great job!

Loved it! Thank you for sharing. The best thing that could happen for the two of them, is that Zanab said no at the Altar. It‘s best for them to go their seperate ways ❤

Remember that love is blind is also prone to totally editing super important stuff out. The specifically showed a scene in #2 season of Danielle being upset her guy was going out to party with the others, then showed a clip of her watching him intensely from the balcony. Then ONLY showed lines of her saying how she hated that he left her there to go party. EVERYONE went on and on about how insecure she is, how she's jealous, etc. After the season aired she got so much backlash that she finally told the whole story : she had just had an extremely vulnerable moment before they were going to go out, where she sat down with him and told him about some history of (abuse, S.A ? Something serious like that) and it worked her into a huge panic attack. That's why she spent the whole time crying in the closet. She had told him to go anyway to represent them as a couple, but also was just admitting that it was upsetting and panic inducing to be left alone after that. Anyone looking at this original episode would have thought she was batshit!t crazy. They SPECIFICALLY edited it to make her look jealous. And specifically cut out any notion that there was some sort of previous reason for her feeling that way.

So happy to see your analysis on the subject! It's really interesting, especially after listening to psychologists and psychiatrists discussing the subject as well. I think the reason why people can take sides so much (one side or the other) is that deep down no one is lying! To me, Cole is just really socially awkward, but honest, even if that doesn't excuse some inappropriate actions. And Zaynab, in her lack of confidence, she clearly distorts reality and strongly believes in it. A real recipe for disaster. But I only wish them to find happiness...

I love this style of content Spidey! Your videos have helped me learn so much about people- reality TV may not be fully the same as real life, but we still get to see natural human reactions. I am on the spectrum, so paying attention to body language using your videos has been enlightening. EDIT: I guessed the liar correctly!

Thank you for this. The first time I watched the reunion, Zayneb’s calm and confident rebuttal of him, and the way he outright denied saying all those things seemed like he was gaslighting her. Yet watching this, at 28:00, the way Cole talked to Zanab’s stepmom … I cried for him. I hope Cole finds someone who deserves his sweetness and honesty, and that brings out the best in him.

I cried with Cole during the reunion. He was overpunished, especially considering that everyone excluding Brennan has done worst things than him

As a person with an eating disorder, let me explain what is happening in that cuties scene: She doesn’t feel comfortable eating in front of him or any other people that are not her close girlfriends (because, in her mind, she is a 9 because of her body, while trained ballerina Coleen is a 10). That’s why she doesn’t say yes when he offers her a poke bowl. But then, with an eating disorder, you don’t want to go to dinner with a big appetite either, because you don’t want other people to see you can actually eat a lot. So what you do? You eat some fruit before dinner, so your appetite won’t be that gig. She has the attitude every person with an eating disorder has, and when you are in that place, and the other person cannot see that, and even comment on you eating some fruit, that becomes a big trigger. It can even change your prospective on what is really happening. Now, is Cole a bad person for not knowing that? Absolutely not! Is he the wrong person to be with her? Absolutely. I have been through a similar situation. I went out with a fun, silly, bit childish guy for a year and a half… eventually, he was always saying to me “oh, right, you don’t eat”, because I would cook nice dinners and then just taste a bite and not eat the rest. He was always making fun and poking at me, but in a very innocent way. My eating disorder became much worse during that time because of those triggers. When I ended that relationship, I felt like Zanab: it was him who made my insecurities bigger, because I never noticed I had a problem. Nowadays my ex and I are kind of good friends, but his new girlfriend has an even bigger eating disorder, I just found out (he told me that “she doesn’t eat anything but chicken and salad”, and when we organised a big party and were thinking about what kinds of drinks we wanted to buy for it, he told me “Oh, my girlfriend doesn’t drink. Not because she doesn’t like it, it’s because she wants to maintain her figure”. Now, I can see a huge eating disorder there, but he’s completely unaware. He doesn’t notice it. He sees a person who “Just wants to remain fit”. Now, is he a bad guy? No. A superficial one? Totally. Is he an enabler for that kind of behaviour? Absolutely. Yet again… you can leave people like that, as I did, without throwing at them the amount of s**t Zanab threw to Cole, because that’s unfair. Leave people that are not the right fit for you and let them figure out their flaws, when and if they want to. I explained to my ex how I felt when we were together, as I thought he would learn from it. He didn’t. But it’s not his fault that he’s a bit stupid, honestly. That’s my point. I hope this helps to see why Zanab was so triggered, even though I do not agree with anything she did afterwards (altar, reunion and lately on social networks).

"Pro Tip - practice the backstroke' BEST line in the video 😅 I laughed out loud. Thanks for this, Spidey. I've never watched the show but loved your analysis. And agree 💯%

First time watcher here! I knew I saw you somewhere before and as I was watching I now remember that I'd see your magic specials at the guzzo theatre during the previews. That was a long time, several years ago! Happy to see the progression of your career. Love this!

I think Zanab is manipulative and I've never seen this show but here's my opinion. I'm not on her side about the cuties thing. I think all men and women find other's attractive and maybe more than their significant other. True love is just that, true and real. She needs to dig deeper why she's allowing herself to lose ALL her confidence over another beautiful woman. I get feeling insecure for a moment but to let it take all your confidence?? She's beautiful and has nothing to worry about. She twisted the cutie story into something it wasn't. He was not suggesting the whole calorie thing. In fact the opposite that they were going to eat this large feast later. His hands motions of this large plate they'll indulge in. That's not dieting either. As for 4. Those guys looked like they were just listening and had nothing to add. The one on the left has his chin down and leaning forward to listen and the other looks quite relaxed. I think there's nothing to that.

I watch this show & was definitely under the impression that Zanab was lying before I watched your analysis. After your analysis that is still my opinion. Zanab is a beautiful woman who is very insecure. We don’t know her whole history but her insecurity must come from trauma in her life. I hope she finds a way to heal from her trauma & she finds someone to love her unconditionally & put her insecurities to rest. I also hope Cole isn’t a bad guy. He just picked the wrong woman & I hope he finds a woman who is not insecure.

This was some of your best work. Awesome job👌🏾

First impression. In the clip we were shown I saw the mouth block and I pretty much felt like he was probably going to be the one being deceitful. I have never watched this show but I’m familiar with it. I gotta say, from the perspective of someone who doesn’t watch, you were extremely informative and I really felt like I had enough information going into your analysis. Also, while I’m not familiar with the show(in that I don’t actually watch it) I have been wanting to see you do one like this and I thoroughly enjoyed it!! I was super excited seeing you were gonna do this! The reality show analysis is fun and I definitely wouldn’t mind seeing you do more of these! This came out even better than I could have hoped for! Thank you for your amazing content! And your amazing self! ❤