"As you got close to your idealised self, you got sick" . Exactly the moment when I became ill. This is so helpful. Thank you Lauren and Alex!

So relatable! My takeaway is to ask myself who I think I need to be to feel safe, and to explore from there. Thanks Lauren, Alex & team!

Goodness she was pushing life to the max, without feeling connected to enough is enough! Agree with you Alex re compromising, so true!

Alex thank you for verbalising and recognising that every thing comes with a compromise on another part of your life. I needed to hear that. I got diagnosed with ME 10 years ago. I finally had the education and career as well as the kids and partner. I was jogging daily and looked like a super woman. But i did it at the expense of my health. I still yearn for the career. But between my ME and having high needs, complex autistic children that part of my life has had to be parked. I forever have to remind myself that my priority is my family and my worth isn’t based on a career. ME made me choose what was most important in my life because i could no longer have it all

Really well done - big cheers for Alex, Oliver, and especially Lauren for being willing to share this vulnerable experience with us - so many people will be helped by her bravery and the delivery from the production! So looking forward to seeing more.

I think I never before truly realized that it was when I thought I was the happiest person in the world and had everything I could want and gave daily thanks for my life (magical thinking so it couldn't be taken away!), that then I crashed and burned. Literally overnight became bedbound, and after 17 years I am getting a little relief from brain retraining and various psychological approaches. So much to learn!

Wow this is exactly what happened to me!! I too crashed when I was reaching my idealised self! And I was completely depleted inside! And I completely recognise ‘running’ after relationships that fulfil not the expectations of myself but who counterbalance all of my issues. Who are better balanced than me. I can see how compromise and building the loving relationship with ourselves is vital to start change our approach to life and let go of running after the idealised self. This is certainly something I have begun to work on since my crash, but I have tonnes to learn! Thanks for RESET and the TC course - learning tonnes in this regard! 🙏

For years I underestimated the psychological component of the reason I got ill. Yes, there was a significant health issue that happened that I can point to and say that's when I got CFS/ME, but for years I had been doing way too much. Had I taken better care of myself I probably wouldn't have had so many years of suffering. This interview is an excellent example of how we can get so off track with life that getting CFS/ME is a way to really have to slow down & look at yourself. I know it did for me! Thanks!

Thank you Alex this episode is the very best thing I’ve ever listened to having been on the 90 day programme I’ve been looking at me the real me and what I need to do to heal. This lady is me! Was me,and it has helped me so so much in terms of being ok with the new me actually more than ok! So thanks again Alex 😎

I've always told people that therapy is life-enriching, and it is so great to be able to watch people grow through these conversations they have with you. Kudos to Lauren for being able to let her ego defenses down to share her story so other can learn and grow form her journey. I hope Lauren learns that she doesn't have to be perfect to be lovable and admired by others. I admire her ability to be vulnerable in this video!

Wow! This was so insightful and helpful. The questions asked are spot on and illicit a lot of valuable personal reflection. I find the addition of the background pictures included, illustrating Lauren's journey, really adds to the understanding of where shes been. It all adds up to a very useful offering. Really, I've not seen anything like it. This is the next best thing to being there oneself. Many Thanks!

Thank you Lauren for your honesty. You are very brave I am 65 and Ill. My story is very different but I can identify with all these issues. These videos are very helpful to watch

For me the crash began when I was starting to accept my true self, rather than the idealised self that my parents wanted me to be.

Wonderful all around. I bow to Lauren for her courage to share this with us.

Love this. Oliver and you have created something good and new here. Totally different feel to old interviews. Relatable, real and informative. Rich

Hi Alex, thanks for sharing. I can truly relate to this so much and now I am getting more insight on how I got sick. I myself very much like her I push myself very hard I love to work out and go to the gym that was my favorite thing to do. Then I became stressed very stressed and I now realize that I ignored the signs that my body was telling me to stop and take a break which ended up in me getting sick. I'm in recovery but I believe I'm stuck in stage 3 I already re integrated back into life but I can do much more than when I was at my worst but i still have the following symptoms: 1. Unrefreshing sleep 2. Very low energy (but I no longer have to pace myself.) 3. Cognitive problems 4. Muscle weakness 5. Flat emotions 6. Poor concentration I wanted to provide a list of symptoms so people understand my situation. I want to recover from the symptoms above and achieve full recovery. Alex does recovery in your eyes mean no symptoms and a pre illness level of functioning? Because that is my goal.

Great video thank you 🙏

Thank you Alex for sharing this. I believe lack of self love is what drives us into CFS .. finding the way back is a journey on its own. Do the next one with a male please 😊. Amazing episode

I am enjoying these videos, but I am quaking in fear for Laurens courage and vulnerability. I feel so emotional and protective towards her. Thankfully I know that Alex is a safe pair of hands.

Fantastic session and insights. So important to address these themes as a component/ driver of chronic, fatigue and immune related illnesses. Thank you! Much to continue to think about in my self-awareness path.

Ha, I too crashed when I was having an amazing time travelling and felt unworthy of it, thinking "something bad should/will probably happen to balance this out". And then again, when I was already dealing with the fatigue but some other great things had come about, I had my motorbike accident and in hindsight I always wondered if I´m just really unbeatable at self-sabotaging... Gay Hendricks calls it the Upper Limit, a level of happiness that we have accustomed to and if we go beyond for too long, our subconscious will make sure that we get back to where it thinks we belong. Kind of similar to the mechanism that gets us back to our baseline level of happiness after something tragic has happened, just a more sucky version of it. Anyway, great session and I´m really excited to see where this is going! Thank you so much you guys, we´re all rooting for you!

That episode is so close to home for me. Thanks, Lauren, thanks Alex. I'm 71, so because of my elderhood, the realization is setting in with a vengeance that I really, really can't have it all. (Not that I'd want a baby right now.... :) But it's a time when prioritizing the most important aspects of life becomes your life's work and it's a very satisfying exercise!!! I could never have come to that realization by myself, given where I was coming from. But I landed in a very wise and supportive community just when I needed to.

I love that you touch topics many of us can resonate with. Good work on both ends

Incredible work by both Alex and Lauren. I view this channel as a gift to the planet. I don't really have the words to express how much reverence and gratitude I feel. Thank you for doing this. You cannot fathom the amount of people you're helping.

Yes I got sick, I had an accident and have not recovered 8 years later, as I reached my ideal self. Thanks so much Lauren and Alex. I am enjoying this series !

I love these episodes! Looking forward to the next!! She is very brave for doing this, thank you💞

I SO agree about life being compromises!

Her problem is like some of us, overachiever, ambitious, got her self-worth from success, financial and relationships status for a while... and this can break at some point, like working too hard and not even resting when home ends up with physical fatigue, you do most yourself etc. so much to it. I understand her, I have similarities. And at the end, you notice no one cares enough to validate and approve your exhausted self anyway, they care superficially about your success, house ownership, partner success etc. It is your life, and its real quality behind closed doors and how it makes you feel matters. Nothing to show outside, it is all superficial interest.

Thanks for sharing Lauren, it's helping me think of where I am coming from. Thanks Alex

Thanks Alex & Lauren. I learnt a lot from your insights in this video. Incredibly helpful!

I can’t get enough! Thank you, both of you!

I liked the overview explanation given to Lauren summarizing her journey, but I wish a more tangible "how to " directive would be given as to how one develops a solid , healthy, loving relationship with oneself.

Love love love this thank you all so much!! 🙏🏻

This has really hit home to me. On my good days I try and be the best mum, plough time into my business and notch up my fitness routine and then crash again.

I just rewatched this. I’m doing the Reset program now and exploring my own idealized self and how driving myself towards this impossible ideal has been so significant in my decades of chronic illness. So great to revisit this and hear the conversation.

This resonated with me to the ‘T’!!! Thank you sooo much for sharing

This video has really impacted me! So much of Lauren's story is mine as well. I'm dealing with self loathing and lack of self love. This program has been so helpful in beginning to understand where I am now and how to get to where I need to be and to not try to be 100% in every area of my life. Thanks!!

Great channel..🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 full of authenticity. My ideal self was something that I could never achieve as much as tried , so I rejected myself .. working on my self love and self care one day at a time .

Amazing

I didn't understand what being happy ment it's like I don't want to know me I was not wañted and not loved as a child and that's how I feel now 58 years old

What is ME?

Made me so sad.

Thank you Alex. Excellent content. I am single and I keep telling people that I am looking for the male version of myself. I now realise how wrong and selfish that is. Please can you show us content on improving low self esteem ❤

Following. Great content ❤

I am very similar Lauren wrt gym.