"Women won't sleep with a man because he lives with his mother, but will sleep with a man that lives at home with his wife.” smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

Taken men really are quicker to shoot their shot than single men these days. It’s unbelievable.

It seem like the single men are no better. It seems the single men don’t want to commit or act right. The taken men want to cheat. It’s honestly a mess either way.

When a man tells you he is taken, he is also telling you he will cheat on you too.

One of the finest men I have ever seen asked me out on a date where I learned he had an ex-girlfriend situationship at home. I ended the date immediately while he tried to convince me that we should still keep in touch to get to know each other. I told him don't text or call until his situationship was over. That was almost a year ago. I haven't heard from him since. Thank you, LORD, for helping me see him with my biblical eyes.

Women ALWAYS think they’re an exception to the rule. And I’ve watched friends be strung along for YEARS because they chose to cling to this idea. It’s really sad.

I don't care how he got to the point he is willing to date you outside of his marriage or relationship realize one thing, they started off in a good place too. He is showing you what he does when problems arise or he becomes unhappy.

This applies to freshly divorced men, or men who are in the middle of a divorce! That man is TAKEN! Physically they may be freshly divorced or separated but mentally we all know he's still unavailable

My personal opinion: Women who "purposely and knowingly" get involved with a man who is already taken or married, karma will catch you honey. I have no respect for these women. No sympathy for them either. Pure trash.

If he's willing to be dealt with while being taken, he's NO GOOD....

Ladies , it’s a sad journey to take. Trust me , I learned from personal years of experience dealing with taken men, because I was insecure, didn’t love myself, and felt like being in non committed relationships would guard my heart. Ladies you deserve the best. And being with a man that has another woman on deck or many other women. Do yourself a favor.

“When you have the dumb & the desperate coming together, we can’t get anywhere in our society.” No…truer…words!

Thank you for this! My husband had numerous affairs. One of them was married, was mad I was pregnant, and tried to get pregnant by my husband! The second one tried to push him to leave me and he told her that was never the plan and she knew that. She thought telling me would break us up and she could have him. He told her even if I left, he still wouldn't be with her in a real relationship. Women need to understand it is disrespectful to mess with a married man. You are disrespecting his family. If you don't respect his marriage, you don't respect the institution! He will never truly respect you!

Why would you even take a married man seriously and think he wouldn’t cheat on you too 🥴😵‍💫

Sidebar: Can we appreciate Tony for always keeping it too real?????

Now, this right here is it! I remember having a conversation with a guy friend that I am single as a $1 bill and free as a bird flying back South. I was told it was by choice and then I had to express myself. The only ones that have come forward are men in a whole relationship and staying because of "THE KID(S)" and all the other lame excuses you can get. This man said to me. Well boo, a piece is better than nothing. Before I knew it. I said to him you are a part of the Genesis cycle that seems to not break❗I have been mentally and physically single going on 2 years and for the 1st time in a long time. I am with myself and not trying to build a build bear to fit what I grew up with. I honor marriage and from what I was shown my father and mother truly loved each other and raised their family with substance! TG keeps speaking about this uncomfortable conversation because they are needed. I have operated from a low-vibration place but I am wiser to my soul through KZfaqrs like you and Bishop RC Blakes.

Was married 7-months pregnant with a son that was 3-yrs old. Yes, my husband cheated on me while working out of town. He did divorce me and both my son's once my second son was born! My ex-chose this other woman and never looked back never kept in contact with his 2-first born son's, this shows how much a man can turn his back on his family and live happily after, with no guilt!

I agree Tony never talk to him again if you know he taken.

I had to turn down a business opportunity because this married man and his mistress wanted me to write a book about what they had going on. Morally I just couldn’t do it. Great video Tony!

This is sooo true! I got involved with a taken man in the past unbeknownst in the beginning because he didn’t tell me right away that he was separated and planning to get a divorce. And like Tony said I thought everything was okay and that their relationship was really over since he was pursuing me... I wish I could say that I should have known better, but at the time I really didn’t know. I was young, ignorant, and I had no guidance when it came to relationships growing up. Thank God I know better now, and I don’t see the situation as a pain or a mistake because I got the lesson.

It’s true when a man has a replacement he will leave the one he’s with and go with the new chick & when that doesn’t work he’ll go back to the first girl and now it’s just a cycle of back and forth between the 2…

The side woman didn't get a whole man and didn't win a prize!🔥

When he asking you to be the side piece, he has no respect for you. And too many women think they better than the main woman. And the man is not even worth it. “Don’t be a trash can.” That’s a good one Tony! When you are, you accept anything into it. When it comes to men, don’t let him place all his trash into you. You actually have to selective in what you take in. Junk in, Junk out! Wolves prey on the stray sheep. Quit being the stray sheep in his flock. Good video.

If a man is trash Don't be a trashcan for him! Wow that's the truth. Just never heard it like that. Thank you Tony for explaining like this. So sad what some woman go through.

Honey I’m starting to thinking being in a relationship isn’t even worth the trouble lol

This is so true. I get so tired of taken men approaching me. They have more confidence than single men. Also, I know exactly what you mean when you say it’s platonic but it counts as his woman too. My ex has these female friends that defend him and cling to him. They are jealous of whatever woman he brings around. He likes dangling his friendship over their heads. This video really helped me understand what position they play in hislife. I could not figure it out. One is attractive and the other is not but they are both loose booty women. Thank you for this!! It’s like his own personal fan club. Smh

Got involved with a man I truly believed was separated . Questioned him many times and he seemed so genuine , kind and gentle . Made it SO clear to him I would NOT be involved in an affair .Couldn’t get peace over him and broke things off after 2 months as I didn’t trust the situation , 2 days later found out not only was he still married and living with his wife and kids but had another Women for 3 years who became pregnant 😟 he also had 3 other affairs before. On top of that was a covert Narcissist! He is totally toxic . His wife has forgiven him for everything. So glad to be out of the situation as horrible as it was. Don’t even entertain ANY man that is ‘separated’ or not fully divorced ❤

I don’t have the answers to most of this stuff but I got this one! He’s taken: married, in a relationship, engaged, etc…

Mines was seeing a girl at his job, made a bunch of excuses on why he wanted a divorce, swore up and down he wasn't seeing someone. He was still trying to sleep with me. Made him admit to it and divorced and left his cheating behind....

Women now a days say blame the man he’s the one stepping out, he’s the one that took the vows , the other woman doesn’t owe her anything be mad at the man not the other woman. Smh when I read stuff like that it literally blows my mind how these women try to excuse their part in it. Of course we know men lie but when they find out they than want to compete & act crazy to the main like it’s her fault she got cheated on. Just like the side doesn’t want to let go what makes you think his main wants to even though she’s hurt. If the man wants to leave by all means he can I would never want someone who doesn’t want me.

I remember on Facebook this man sent me a long message talking about how he would a good husband to me. I didn’t respond. Then I scrolled down my timeline to see that he had a whole family. Smh 3 beautiful little girls and a beautiful wife. How stupid and inconsiderate of him!

This one should be a no brainer for some...but you'll never know where a person is at their point in life.......blessings to all.

Don’t be a trash 🗑️ ladies! ❤

🤣🤣🤣 I left my husband. I made a donation to the less fortunate ( the desparate).

This Tony Gaskin's advice is GOLD!!! Also, from many friends' painful expcs: Never help a man cheat. Knowingly or unknowingly. If he says he is "poly" do ur research and check to make sure he really poly. U should be able to meet his GF/partner/wife. He should not be sneaking around with you if he poly. He should be able to answer ur calls in front of her or spend the night sometimes. But that lifestyle is reckless and destructive anyway. And if u don't care he taken even if ya'll aint poly, that's sad. U need to work on ur low self esteem. Ur gonna be in a lot of pain either way. He is using you. Many say they're poly nowadays but they are lying. And some just wanna blow off steam. They will use you to decompress. Then go home and be happy with his main woman. Repent and leave him alone. U will be the Only one hurting in the end. She won't leave him and he won't leave her. Even if ur really poly and u don't want him to leave her. If he lying about being poly, u will get hurt too. Best to leave taken dudes alone. They are playing you both!! And if he dealing w you behind her back, he dealing w others too. Ur not the only one, sis. U never will be. Even if he leaves and marries you. Coming from real stories from real friends. He cheated on my friend. Married the mistress. And cheats on her consistently. My friend finds out thru his friends who gossip on him and he called my friend and tried to use her to cheat on the one he cheated with. It gets even worse but point proven. He still a cheater. The mistress won a cheater and possibly a few STIs..

Tony be making me wanna stay single for the rest of my life lmao y’all gotta fight the urge to cheat that hard? 😭

I don’t even date men who are dating other women. I don’t have time to fight for nobody’s heart or attention. My ex used to see other women and it made me extremely insecure. All of our fights began because his extracurricular activity. I refuse to do that again and put a woman what I went through. Guys at work tell me well I won’t find anyone. Welp I guess I’m fine then!

Tony Tony Tony‼️‼️‼️ 🔥🔥🔥🔥(paraphrased) lWhen a man tells you he is taken, he is basically telling you he is not leaving his woman” ~Tony Gaskins~ My God!! Tony, this is why i have been following you for so long now because you are the REAL, RAW & RELATABLE! This video was great & one that must be on repeat. If they can tell you they are taken but still trying to get with you, of course they will cheat. This was good💯🎯

I knew all of this but I needed to hear it again cause these married men be applying pressure, they know how to get you

This 👉🏾: “Why are men trash? Well, the real question is, why are women trash cans?” TG

I’ve tried to keep my marriage together but he wouldn’t stay faithful. Had to roll out. I couldn’t stay.

I had a married man to constantly stalk me at my job and Instagram and Facebook, I politely told him No.....I know my worth and I'm to good of a woman to deal with him, but he finally got the picture and he doesn't bother me anymore.

‘The Dumb and the Desperate.’ That sounds like the name of a great book! Tony, send me a check *in my Tony voice*. Don’t block me, Tony, please. 😂🤣😁📖✍🏾

Hello! No woman or no man should go after anybody who is taken! To me once you finance the person is taken or they strictly tell you they have some money, that's a done deal and should move forward and go about your business. To me if someone goes after somebody who is taken or the taken person is pursuing someone outside of their relationship, is very disrespectful to the person they're approaching knowing that they have someone, disrespectful to their partner and is lack of self-respect. It's disgusting how people still tend to do that those things. That is one of my deal breakers. I don't play that kind of nonsense! But that's a good topic too Tony! Love your videos! God bless you and your family!

If God is not in it there no truth no trust no love just plain emptiness in these relationship is not base on a real foundation basically it’s building on sand you can’t build on that

Exactly 💯. We, as women, love to point out how men are trash 🗑️ without accepting accountability for our own actions or holding other women accountable for their actions. No, women always get a pass and it's wrong. Trashy men can't cheat without trashy women. Why are women trash 🗑️ cans? That's the real question that needs delving into because we have too many self righteous women who are the very equivalent of the males they tear down every chance they get. Yet, they seem to think they are better than what they really are and unfortunately that mindset will ensure many will be, alone, as they age. We take ourselves everywhere we go and our results are reflective of who we truly are, inside.

The Dumb and the Desperate!!!! 🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That's a soap opera I want to see.

@Tony Gaskin, I tell any woman, if he is involved married or dating. Leave that alone. You will reap what you sow and it is not worth sowing these issues.

men focus on your wife and leave the other trashy women alone. they are trouble don't ruin a good marriage over trash. sometimes a woman just want to see if she can take that man away from his wife and then after that the thrill is gone. men grow up and act like a really man and you won't have these problems

Thank you so much for this!!!!!!!!! I wish this could have been broadcasted YEARS ago!! Make another video on this please!! It’s tooooo common out here! Taken men are WAY toooooo comfortable approaching single women and single women get emotional over these men who are FULL OF SH*#!!

The main reason is he belong to someone else & second is Karma .

I agree wholeheartedly with everything you've stated in this video!

Just cut loose one man that I worked with for a short time and was being very attentive with me. We were texting back and forth, he even bought me a souvenir from his weekend getaway, he asked me out, he was giving me long looks, paying Uber for me back and forth from work, picking me up. He even invited me for a weekend getaway which I didn’t go because I couldn’t that week. But at one point he didn’t text me or called for a week and kindly addressed the problem. He got defensive saying I’m confusing him, because we only had a friendship and work collab and that he didn’t treat me like he intended to date me. That’s when he told me he is in a relationship. Lol So I that showed me hos character and I said I can’t communicate/ collaborate with someone who isn’t available. He asked me out again to talk things out. I refused and went No Contact forever on him. What a mess these men are. It hurt to let go, because I liked him, but it hurt because the version of him I thought he is, wasn’t real.

Man it doesn’t get any realer than TG. He keeps it 💯. I definitely appreciate it @23:21

The streets been missing you Tony

Talk the truth Tony. I'm learning so much about men every day. You're always on point with your advice.

Thank you Bro Tony for this message tonight because this is so on time because am dealing with a man that told me he's living with his baby mother but not sexual active with her he's just there for room and board because he would of been living with his brother before he passed but he claim he didn't have any other options.🤔 Am like yeah right. But, wants me to know he's interested in me. Nah, ain't nothing happening with him as far as am concerned. It's already red flags from the beginning. your teaching is helping me to learn the game.

I always appreciate how Mr. Gaskins drop the best gems at the end of a video! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

This was a serious conviction for me. I was about to be a situation for real.

I deal with so many classes of people as a driver 🚗 - people going to & from AA/NA/SA, Nurses/Nurse Practitioners/Physician Assistants, Realtors, Bartenders/Servers, etc. - many people have the play of having someone while looking for their next. Trust TG on this.

Hello there 😄 & I don't even look at married man.

“Dumb and the desperate coming together to make a soap opera“ Preach Tony!!

Not only did I like 👍 but I shared 💫

Tony you're always on point. Once again us woman need to hear this. 👍🏽

I love the “trash can” analogy! 🥰 🙏🏽 so good!

Most males off or on line will not tell you hes taken or married. My ex husband cheated on me and when I confronted him after one of the females called my house , he still lied to my face, i began the divorce process after he told me he couldn’t avoid it again. I never remarried as of today. He has remarried 4-5 times.

Currently have a friend who is dealing with a married man. She swears their relationship is over because thats what he told her. Meanwhile, she meets him parking lots often times at night. Shes really impressed with him Because he gives her money. I told he to stop calling me and giving me updates about her corny desperate fat married man. 😒😒

"inspect what you expect" yaaaaaaasssssss! ❤️

This is all so true. I was definitely the one that got left because I caught him cheating…the next fight led to him leaving 🤦🏽‍♀️ is there a course that helps build an audience?

Men have done me so wrong in the past , I don't get excited anymore about seeing someone or trying to date ☹️☹️, Some men in this day and age are different than the generation before me for some reason. I shouldn't have to figure someone out like I am fixing a puzzle. I would rather comfortable find out through their actions or words.

Tony, missed your videos!!!! Great to have you back!!! 👋🏻🙏🏻

I think it’s been 5 days since you released a video. Got a little bit worried. Glad you’re back!

Thank you Uncle Tony for this wisdom on this here episode. Amen♥️🙏🏾

Mostly of time you don’t know man is take because he act like he single person or he doesn’t tell you he is married or dating someone… now days they start on line dating you don’t anything whole lies find he has wife and them some smh 🤦‍♀️

some women believe everything a man tell them because of low esteem and insecurities bring these messing relationships some men and women like being a side chick 🐥 and too some people don’t wanna be lone they settle low life even abuse relationship they will stay in just say they have someone PS love haven’t nothing to with these types of relationships these are broken people trying find love in wrong person who are taken… this house of lies and secret of lies there no truth in none of these relationships

Also, it’s not like single women are shooting down “good” single men. Some men are leading with their sex drive. These men are more sexually forward online but in person, sexual energy is felt and it can be repulsive and uncomfortable. These are another subgroup of men who get turned down by women.

When dumb and desperate come together 😅

When I was 14/15, a part of me thought attracting taken guys made someone the "it girl" while simultaneously thinking homewreckers were trash. I know, makes no type of sense. Now at 19, I will never respect or show sympathy to a woman that deals with taken men. It says a lot about your morals and values.

We as women are guilty for giving permanent positions to temporary men. Some men have married women they were only suppose to with for a season, then wonder why he is unhappy.

👍🏾 A much needed conversation Tony esp with how people are dating nowadays or seeking a man or a woman. I love how comfortable you are with sharing your day with your beautiful wife and we get a sneak peek into what she gets up to lol. Just a great example of how you can make your busy family dynamic work if you want it to.❤

Break it down Tony! So nice to hear the actual factual. Thank you

All I'm going to say THANK YOU!

God bless you Mrs.Gaskins

TG, The trash/ trash can scenario has floored me brother. "The One is the only "One" who can fix this. I'm holding my 🙏 pose as I watch.

This was a great video. I fell off due to work hours. But I’m glad I watched this one!!

Great message by TG. Real life quality time described.

Mr Tony G. I missed the videos!!!!! Welcome back!!!! ❤️

Always hitting the nail Tony. Thank you once again. Love from South Africa ❤️

I'm so happy I'm not desperate for a man.

So thankful for Tony and his knowledge on relationships and men! Everything he is describing, I literally experienced last year. I’m out of it and forever grateful for Tony’s videos. It has really taught me a lot, and how to set boundaries for future relationships.

"....u got 'the dumb and the desperate' coming together to make a soap opera...." 😂😂😂

What woman in her right mind would engage in a foolish endeavor of being involved with some other woman's man, or left overs? Furthermore, these so called single men aren't single, usually they have multiple women in various venues. In sum, women need to have self worth towards themselves and cease settling for used men.

I really needed this. Thanks Tony.

Blessings thanks for this topic

Thx for working through your fatigue

Just wanted to thank God for using you to change lives. 🎉 I’m learning so much 🙏🏾

Preach Tony 🙏 please can we have this on Facebook to share alot off husband hunters on there and all your cheating video's.Yes I stopped putting out,I caught him out entertaining some single mother Jezebel and I was not having it,in the process off making my exit he cheated.

At this point I’m glad that I’m single and not dating I will not settle for nothing

You saving so many woman

Yes, my now ex husband left me and his family for his married co worker and I'm telling you he is going through pure hell because he thought the grass was greener...