I was always the quiet kid and most of my teachers didn't like it. Once a teacher told me to speak and I did but no one heard me so she told me to repeat it louder. I did and she yelled: "She can talk!!" and made the whole class clap for me. I felt so bad that I wanted to cry..

Ohh she speaks!! Me: yeah just not to you.

The worst thing is when they constantly try to change u to an extrovert.. Like please stop please your gonna kill me

Oh my god. I totally get you. I wish more people would understand that being an introvert is normal.. and be respectful

Being an introvert is like being judged for sitting there and minding your own business.

When someone ask me “why are you so quiet” then I’m done lol

Growing up as introvert in extrovert society is really really tough.

“oh, you’re so quiet” “why are you so quiet?” are the phrases that i’ve heard the most in my life i think. i still remember how in one class the teacher made a question and nobody could answer right, i knew the answer and i wanted to raise my hand but i just couldn’t. what i had in mind was indeed the right answer. and is dumb that i still remember this because it happened years ago. i still am very quiet, but i (wanna) try to be more confident (?) also, i always find myself rehearsing what i want to say, whether it be for something simple like a phone call or something more serious like a presentation

I love to be an introvert, but I used to dislike it when I was a teenager. People made fun of me because I was quiet and not talking a lot. Now I don't care anymore, if I don't want to interact I just don't do it. As you I overcame most of my shyness but I'm still shy and that's part of me :) Thanks for the video✨

Gosh life is so hard when youre an introvert. My teacher asked me for the answer in class and its been a day but i still haven’t stopped thinking about how stupid i sounded. In my head I understand but when I speak my words are all over the place. Its makes me blush, hot and my heartbeat gets louder and louder. I hate myself! I hate how the easiest tasks are hard for me.

I relate to this so much! Especially the part about rehearsing exactly what you're going to say and being a good listener/analytical. I was extremely shy and quiet growing up and everyone said I would grow out of it, but I haven't! I'm turning 25 in a few weeks and I'm more socially anxious than ever. I try to explain to people that even though actions like introducing yourself, making a phone call, or talking to a waitress seem easy or second-nature to them, they are incredibly difficult tasks for me. I think this is why I am so drawn to art (writing, illustration, filmmaking)-it's because I can use these mediums to communicate my ideas and feelings much more effectively than I am ever able to verbally.

People make me feel so uncomfortable for being an introvert, but once you find people who accept you and how you are, you realize it's normal and okay. You dont have to answer to anyone.

i always search for these kind of videos every time someone tells me “why are you so quiet” or pointing out that im quiet. i need to remind myself that there is nothing wrong with that and i am not alone 💛

I dont like how people keeps saying "why are u shy?" Like, its just my personality

I am a 6'6 Black Male, and I have been like this since elementary School. I don't know why I am quiet I watch alot, I can scan a room and find weakness and strength within that group. I don't even talk loud or seek confrontation unless I have to be aggressive. I tend to be alone alot but not in my mind it's a party. I Love me.

You’re the only person I know who truly understands what it means to be quiet/introverted. I used to be much more shy in high school/ middle school, and beat myself up about it as well. However, as I got into college I realized that people didn’t care what I did anymore (because I know go to a much bigger school), so I had much more space to be who I am. I am still introverted/ quiet, but I’ve stopped beating myself so much about it. I still sometimes try to avoid small talk though like taking the stairs to avoid talking to anyone. Anyway thank you for this video!! 💜

I felt every single thing that you said and totally get you. I hate myself for being a very shy introvert. People are always asking me " why are you shy?" "why can't you talk?" "Why can't you engage in this or that".... Words like that hurts me a lot. They wouldn't understand :(((( Stay strong girl. You're not alone

Pure Resonance. Sadly quiet people get bullied quite often. Trying to be normal to fit in to not be judged negatively is overwhelming

Ever since I was a teenager i used to be so introverted and i noticed this in highschool people would come to me and ask me why I'm so quite. The question hurt me like a thorn i started blaming myself for being an introvert. But by time you grow used to it . I love being me.

the worst part of being the quiet kid in the classroom is whenever we had visitors and for some stupid reason these person start asking open questions to the whole class, such as "who is the most this or that?" an when the question "who is the most outspoken?" comes up the asshole bully answers with the name of the quiet kid and all classroom laugh reinforcing insecurities on the quiet kid about being quiet.

Are we the same person??? Omg I feel so seen!!! It's nice to see someone with a large audience talking about this!!!

I STILL get criticised for being too quiet. In my job I'm supposed to be *assertive* and *strong*. But it's such a misconception that being quiet, reserved or reticent means you're not those things. We're all different. So many of us are socially anxious. You're doing great and I'm glad you feel more brave and feel like you know yourself more. i'm getting there too 💛

oh wow. related to everything you said. I'm 23 now but as a teenager I was horribly shy and I hated it, I hated myself. I've noticed that in the past two years i've grown a lot. I'm still introverted and I just don't have a lot to say. But i'm growing towards self-acceptance... I'm just really happy to hear you tell your story. You seem like the best type of person and I'm happy to be in the introverted club with you and so many others :)

In my senior year of high school, I was in a creative writing class. At the end of the semester the teacher wrote a poem for the class and every student got a line written about them. Mine was “Jason sat in silence, he had no words to waste.” He knew I had words; I completed every writing assignment. I still think about that 33 years later.

i feel a lump in my throat watching this 😭❤️

"I like people, I don't like to talk" That described me perfectly, I rather listen to someone speak than have to do small talk

The fact that you're an introvert girl making a video for KZfaq makes me believe more in myself❤

I have been quiet my entire life, and I am 61 years old now. I would not change the way I am for anything. I am not insecure or shy. I just observe a lot and do not say anything. I also have a very rich inner life, read a lot, and prefer to keep my thoughts to myself. There is nothing wrong with that.

I'm teary cuz I get this whole video 😢

I love quiet people :) They communicate in other ways :)

This video really resonated with me. When I started college this year, I told myself that I would speak more and socialize more with people. I still find it a struggle to articulate my thoughts when in class, even though I daydream about being able to just raise my hand and speak what's on my mind. I go to a school with lots of confident people who aren't afraid to speak up, and while that may be a positive thing, it still leaves me feeling lonely because it feels like no one really understands what it's like to be this way. Funnily enough, I'm a communication arts major. Not only am I one of the quiet students in my interpersonal communication class, but I am also the person who takes the stairs to avoid having to be the silent one in an elevator full of my outgoing classmates. I want to be the person who can give a stranger a compliment, the student who can give her two cents to a class discussion, and the person who people won't be afraid to talk to. But thank goodness for the arts; painting, drawing, sculpting, and filmmaking really communicates my thoughts better than words can.

I live this out. I am a teenager and very shy/introvert. Not that I'm afraid to speak nessisary I just don't have anything to say. I'd rather lock myself in a closet then have small talk. Thank you so much for making this video. It's good to know I'm not the only one out there who struggles with this.

I’ve never heard anyone else talk about this so thank you. I’ve gotten these same questions all my life - still do and I’m 22. I never understood why it is acceptable to ask someone why they’re so quiet and yet not acceptable to ask someone why they’re so loud. I think the culture you live in has a lot to do with this topic.

I 'm also a shy introvert and I was really suffering from my shyness before 17. I always feel like a outsider in the class and people are always judging me by my personality. Now as I grow I feel like I'm more okay with it because this is who I am. I finally stopped hating myself for being shy and introvert 😊

Thank you for normalizing being a shy person. Especially as an adult. People either treat you as a child or try to change you.

Honestly I don't know what I'm shy, introvert or anxious person. I'm feeling so down now a days when I was in school I thought I'll be more confident in college but it didn't happen now I'm going to graduate from university in few months and started my first job but I'm still the same person. I hate when ppl ask me, "why you are so quiet?" I'm really bad in communication. Honestly it's my job probation period and they want a more out spoken, confident person. Sometimes I just think the world is not for me I want to run so far away from everyone.

I never came across my life to search for being quiet and shy and I found this video and I thought I was the only one. I can relate Sooooo much😭😭

this is true. that question is very stressful. why dont they leave us alone

Same lol just yesterday I got picked to read something off the board and everyone jumped in their seats because I read it flawlessly since I'm the "quiet one" I find it draining to talk constantly in front of people I don't know every well. With my friends, I don't shut up lol. But growing up, people have always made me feel really bad for not being super talkative (teachers, family, etc.) People ask if I'm mad or shy and that's unbelievably rude and it makes you not want to talk to them since they're so misinformed and disrespectful. Like that's the first thing that they'll say to me, and I try to tell them how it's wrong to ask that. Then they look at me as if I am the mean one 🤣 It's really a never-ending process You should never feel bad or let anyone else make you feel bad about being an introvert, quiet or shy :) There's nothing wrong with being that way xx

At times when I'm alone, I think to myself "yeah I'm beautiful, I'm perfect, don't let other people get in the way, don't think about other people's judgement!" And then there are times when I feel like the most awkward and unwanted person on the earth...it's like my zodiac(leo) personality and MBTI(INFP) personality contradict each other. It feels like I'm both and none at the same time. And then whenever I try to speak with not so familiar people, I can feel myself quiver and hear my voice like somebody put a vibrato filter on it. It's just that face to face talk is so hard for me but I can talk perfectly well and even better while I'm texting with BASICALLY ANYONE. And we'll that was me ranting about things cause I just had a meeting with 80 members who I hadn't talked to even once but I had to say something cause they called my name but the response was so meager to what I said that I started overthinking whether they like me or not🥺

I'm actually pretty talkative with certain people. But with others, I'm quiet. And I'm okay with it. I just hate others pointing it out all the time and seeing it as a flaw. Just the other day I got told by my boss "you're a good girl, but you're way too shy." I'm not shy, I'm just quiet with some people. Sometimes I just wanna be in my own thoughts and not talk to others. It doesn't make it a flaw smh

Growing up as a self-reserved/social person, has people assumed your personality because your quiet? (I had this happen to me, people would think i'm a goody-two shoes, not being aware of inapproriate things, watching certain shows/movies, etc.) Another question: Are you extroverted at times and at times introverted?

I can totally relate. I’m can be socially awkward at times and by the end of the day I would be awake in the middle of the night thinking about all of the socially awkward moments in my life hahaha. I’m usually reserved and keep to myself so much that I often eat lunch at a later time just to avoid those awkward small talks in the pantry. Not to say that I hate the people I work with, they’re great people but I sometimes don’t want to have the anxiety of thinking about talking points during lunch. On the other hand, if I find myself in a conversation about something that I’m interested or passionate about, the awkwardness goes away.

I am a quiet person, not because I'm shy but because I want to be more conscious about the words that I am uttering. I've learned from experience that not saying much still has more benefits than saying too much.

The few friends I make online or irl all are extroverts and that really adds on to feeling insecure about being shy and quiet. I just wonder why I just can't be like them. But I can relate to this on so many levels, thanks so much for this video 💜

thanks society for making introverts' lives hard. but as long as we say "we're introverts" instead of "I'm an introvert", I know that it's going to be fine.

I am still quiet, shy and introverted but I think i became less shy and quiet when I was given a student leader in primary school. I was confused as to why I got a student leader but I feel like the teachers wanted me to express myself more. Going into high school, I was still quiet and shy but I realised that I found friends easily and it wasn't that bad for me. But even this day, I just cannot do casual conversation but just makes me awkward and sometimes I just feel like embarrassed after the interaction. Yeah a lot of people still ask me why am I so quiet but it really depemds on who i am around. My close friends don't think i am quiet AT ALL. A teacher was once telling them how quiet I was and they were No! She is not quiet! 😂 so yeah it depends on who i am around

I'd consider myself an introvert, because I become really quite when I'm with people that I'm not very close to. But I can also be an extrovert whenever I'm with my close friends and I even say jokes or is always in the spotlight when I'm with them. I guess it just depends on who I am with. I can also be extremely shy, although I will always say what I want to say especially in class or if I want to say something to someone. Whenever I'm so confident about being outspoken or showing myself in front of a crowd, I'd really get embarrassed and regretful right after. Confused- that's how I feel about my whole personality. Maybe I'm not the only one or am I?

I entirely know how you feel. I’m incredibly introverted. So much so that I prefer to keep to myself at almost all times. I failed most of my way through school mainly due to being unable to raise a hand and ask for help as I didn’t understand anything and felt I’d just be a bother to the class and slow everyone down because of it. It can honestly become a shackle to living life and depression went hand in hand with it for me. I lost many friendships and even went through a phase of not speaking a single word to my father for 2 years out of nowhere. I had no control over it and didn’t even know why I couldn’t speak. I saw how much it hurt him but he loved me anyway. We have since repaired that instance in my life but to this day I still have no clue over what happened or why I acted that way. Long story short: Thanks for sharing your story. Always enjoy watching your vids Monika. With a smile like yours, nobody would ever think you had any struggles but everyone does and I thank you for speaking out. You are an incredible light, plus you love anime ;) keep being a star ⭐️

same with me, i'm 21 and still always feeling nervous when speaking in front of public, i'm bodies getting shaking and just wanna run away quickly LOL so uncomfortable. thank you for making this video, you remind me that i'm not alone, and you're not the only one who feel that to, we are not weird :)

I like talking to people, but my shyness is that even though I Wana say something I fear people is looking at me and even though I talk people wouldn't hear me, because I wasn't speaking loud enough. That video is really helpful. I thought I was only one like that

hi everyone 💜 thank you so much for sharing all of your experiences! i'm currently trying to answer and reply back to everyone. I do want to recommend a movie if you guys haven't watched it, it's Eighth Grade by Bo Burnham. I identified with the main character SO MUCH. It's about a girl who is in middle school and she is known for being the quiet one. She is trying to find her own voice and even makes little youtube videos. If you haven't watched it I really recommend it!

This is the most relatable video I’ve ever seen I never thought someone could understand me so much

I'm a extrovert with social anxiety so I understand a lot of the things that you said I really like talking to people, but I get so nervous, is really frustanting in 2 days is my graduation, and I have to give a speech I've been practicing for a week now and I still don't feel ready last time I spoke in front of people I cried so much I was shaking a lot and I almost fainted I don't know how to just talk I think so much about it

Sometimes I put effort to talk in groups and end up saying someone awkward and stupid. I prefer to be quite most the time, hard to be. A good talker.

You are a very articulate, intelligent young lady and explained yourself very well. Being an introvert is something to be proud of. There are too many people in the world who are bragging, and talking out loud about garbage and not really saying anything of value.

Being a shy and introverted teenager literally sucks. As I have gotten older and gotten out of high school it is not a problem for me that much anymore. The question "why are you so quiet" just makes me so angry because people genuinely can not understand what it's like to just not know what to say when you first meet someone.

Thank you for taking the time to make this video.

I had a lot of people be brutal towards me growing up just because I was quiet, people said they didn't like me because of it, even adults told me that. I was already insecure but it made me 10 times more insecure then I would have been. I realized a lot of those people just don't understand and im growing to like the fact that im quiet even though I've always been envious of loud, extroverted people. I appreciate the mix, not everyone can be loud and extroverted, the world would be chaos. As long as you're comfortable and secure with yourself, be whoever you want, if someone doesn't like it, that's okay, they don't have to. :)

Being quiets nothing to be ashamed of. I'm shy but talkative in front of my friends and family

Every time I come out (alive) of a short small talk session I just feel drained and wonder what the heck that useless conversation meant. I didn't feel any connection with that other person

I'm a quiet person. (Except to those i'm close to) What pisses me off is that the *same* people who ask "why are you so quiet" "You used to be energetic" are the same people who say "shut up" "you talk too much". Which is it, what do they want? God it annoys me. If you're that said person, please stop, seriously. When I talk, I feel like I say some stupid things.

I relate. When I was in Elementary school, a long time ago, I remember there was a teacher, that taught us about values, morality, etc, everybody loved her, and indeed, she was very sweet and kind, I liked her too. But this teacher one day at the morning, when we all had a reunion for daily announcements and other things, she passed at the escenario and started to speak, saying that she’s seen a lot of students eating alone, and that she wanted everyone to cooperate and “Help” this shy people and since she was very loved, everyone started acting right away. At the time I was at 3rd grade, I was so shy, it was my second year at that school, and I’ve managed to get one friend, but she was very extroverted, and I generally just walked away for her to be with her other 9 or more friends (not a lie, I’m serious, she had that much) so I ate alone as well, and it was soooo awkward for everyone to ask you 3 times per week if you wanted to eat with them. One day, this teacher was saying this dialogue as usual, but what changed was that she added: “if they don’t want to, you don’t have to force them” and I was like: Oh thank god. The amount of people asking decreased. Something I didn’t like about it was the fact that they only started doing it when the teacher asked them to, so probably more than the 70% weren’t doing it totally genuinely, and that she didn’t make herself clear since the start, they never forced me to eat with them, but maybe some did. She should’ve said that since the start

I can relate to every word you said. I hate being quiet it makes me feel so weird about myself. Once i remember my teacher saying to me "you are so quiet that your very presence cannot be felt in the class", still i didn't say anything.

I can relate to you so much. I'm still a teen, and yesterday my teacher switched my seats to the back row because she thought I was too quiet so I should just sit in the back since i dont talk a lot. That felt like a slap on my face. Especially because my deskmate, said the same thing to me, "you're too quiet, you never talk to me or anyone else, if u would have talked more u could have still stayed where you can see what the teacher is writing". Then, I felt empty. I just wanted to cry. I couldn't say anything. I asked the teacher if I can still stay in the front, but she refused. Next day, which is today, my "friend" i recently made straightforwardly said that im boring. I was going to her class during my break time to talk to her and she was like "please stop coming to my class, you are rlly quiet, you dont even talk that much to me, stop hanging out with me." she said straight-up without trying to cover the fact that she was being really immature and rude and she could see the expression on my face that I was taken aback. This was just the first time, it happened many times. One time these group of girls were talking suddenly asked me "why r u so quiet?" and all i could do was smile, inside i was dieing. Another time, before my exam started all these students were talking and enjoying while i was studying and i wanted to talk to but i was too nervous and continued to read my material and one student comes up and says "why dont u talk? u should talk!", in result I got lesser marks in my exams cuz i couldnt stop thinking of that statement. I remember all the days I used to go home and cry, cover up my sadness at sschool and not tell anybody about how i feel, not even to my parents. Although I don't cry as much now like i did in my previous year, (i still do feel sad but quickly recover after i understand the situation and get support from my online friends) it still hurts like hell, but i realized thankful to all the experiences i had, I become more stronger and just didn't care about other's opinions. Even the part where my friend leaves me, it devastated me, but after re-thinking I realized i shouldn't beat myself up for it. I stopped talking to her, and during lunch break she was the one who came to me and said "hey lets hang out" and I had the courage to say "no sorry, im too quiet right?" and then she just stood there for a few secs and left. Lol, i wrote a whole paragraph on how i feel, but i've just learned to accept who I am as a person.

I also used to think about everything I said obsessively before speaking. That's your brain being overly logical and making a natural process more difficult than it shpuld be. Its called scripting. Its very common with people with social anxiety. Its best to practice mindfulness and being in the moment and stop scripting. CBT for social anxiety teaches that.

Ghosh it feels like you are explaining all i feel everyday....i hate that one question'why are you quiet' I am so glad I am not alone. Its not cool to hear that everyday

I hate how most videos on KZfaq about introverts tell you how to STOP BEING ONE, as if it was a problem. I wanted to change this about me for the longest time and just lately realized i love this about my self and want to embrace it in all its beauty, even though it's very difficult to be understood or meet friends with similar behavior. Anyway stay strong introvert community 💪

I grew up with this! Everyone would ask me why you are so quiet - even when I tried to talk lol. From what I have learned - its caused by inhibition spirits. Monika is beautiful!

i am so fucking sensitive i started crying while watching this lol

I’m a very quiet person. I’ve always been around people who are quiet around me or social yet I still hear silence around the social group so when I do speak up well I end up talking about myself in front of people which is awkward and people will either nod ignore you or feel sorry about you. I for one have very poor communicational skills, sometimes I go to social media write my thoughts down in any video and people who like to say intelligently mean insulting things to me I regret it or feel angry about it. I do complain about my feelings way too much so people will leave and then I come across as a sensitive type. So when I observe others I pick up on the consequences of the person’s actions from the other person giving it which makes me afraid to ask a question about a topic of interest.

I am literally the quietest nursing student. It’s not like I don’t like talking I do! I’m just reserved and I overthink every little thing🙃

Love this video! I’m the same. I’m little less now that I’m older, but in school people thought I couldn’t talk.

I never related to any video, anyone, anything that MUCH. oh my god. loved that Video and feeling more understood now!

I understand your pain💕 it's ok I'm also shy and introverted💛

It is best to be noticed as little as possible, so being quiet seems the natural way to go. So when someone asks us to speak more it makes our fears real, besides if I knew why I was so quiet I would have fixed myself by now wouldn't I?

At my last job we used to have staff meetings where we all bought our own lunch along to eat during the meeting I was a part-time receptionist and my responsibilities were to help customers with very straightforward, mundane issues. I knew nothing about finances, administration or the future plans for the organisation. So I had very little to say at the staff meetings and this was fair enough. However, I was criticised for not saying anything. On the rare occasions when I did have something to say, my comments were dismissed or ridiculed But, if, the very next week, someone else made the exact same comment, they were treated as if it was their own wonderful idea One day I had a really good idea about something but I knew that if I put forward that idea myself it would not be heard So I asked one of the other head people to put forward that suggestions as if it were her own idea Once the idea was accepted as something wonderful she told them that it was actually my idea They didn't know what to say! Also, it didn't matter what I took for lunch, it was either too healthy or not healthy enough or they had to make some smart comment about it

If I had a nickel every time I heard that, I'd be ric- well, well off with inflation. It's a slow progression for me, I feel like I get better as time goes on, better may not be the best word, I have accepted my quietness, yet I want to get better at speaking when I do want/need to speak.

i hate that i always cry whenever people points out that i am so quiet. i want to love myself but those people tho. i know that im doing progress since i was in elementary school and now im in college, i kinda know how to make some conversations to people but sometimes my head is like empty and i dont have anything to say. and people who still points that out to me until TODAY, they hinders me from improving myself. they are making it like a bad thing. i badly want to change myself because of this. tbh im so quiet only in my family

I have never related to something as much as this. Thanks a lot for making me believe that I'm not alone in this

I tend to be shy and fear giving wrong answer or not being listened by our professor in class. I also would be so shy and fear being the centre of attention when I was a kid and would be sitting among our relatives together with my family. I feared them saying oh this girl is so cute, or y don't u eat something, and little staff like that.. and now I believe that not talking alot is a blessing because i regret many many things I said in the past to anyone, but, when u r at university it is really important to talk so as u can improve ur confidence and self esteem and that u may not sound dumb.

After watching this video, I feel that I'm not alone anymore cuz I actually thought that I was the only person in the world who is super super shy and introverted. And I also like art!!!

yeah, I totally get you. For a long time I've been kind of stuck because I thought being quiet limited me but as the years pass I managed to understand myself more and be ok with possible changes. As you said I don't think that you are faded to be the same forever and I'm just grateful for the changes but I also respect (and appreciate) my quiet traits a lot more now. It was a really nice video!

As someone with generalized anxiety and selective mutism who’s extremely self conscious of their voice, I relate 🥲

I feel her :( This happened to me during pre school :( I

I can relate to that a lot ...when I am with a lot people I don't know, I don't talk to them bc I think that I annoy them and that they don't like me.. I raise my hand in class, but often have C/B grades instead of As even if I say good things bc I present myself very insecure..there is a class I don't speak at all bc I feel like they are always laughing and when the teacher just pics me to answer a question I start panicing. I even can't talk to the waiter if I need sth. one time my friends forced me to ask him for the check (to become less shy) and it took more than 1 hour.. ~quiet people have the loudest minds~Stephen Hawking

My whole teenage years in 12 minutes!

You need to accept it ,ones you accept and understand your quietness life will be beautiful, it takes time. The problem occurs when u judge yourself that’s what make u anxious. Quietness is beauty , the fool has to say all the time something which is not attractive. Secondly you can’t be yourself every where , we have to use our intellect when to be our self. Ones you accept it and become aware of quietness is not a bad thing you can work on your confidence. Be unique ! People that are talking too much are insecure don’t forget that, just test someone that is a exstravert or whatever they call it, don’t talk with that person and see how they freak out and become anxious 😄😄😄 I have done it so many times just for fun! Real confidence relies on someone that can cope with the silences inside himself and doesn’t feel anxious , that’s confidence! Just change your mindset , society tells you to become an exstrovert and programmed us that way which is opposite and false. Change your belief system and magic will happen! Love you my dear ,you are beautiful from inside and outside 🙂 .

I can relate to beating myself for being introverted. I sometimes am so quiet that I think I'm just boring. And, when people say it, even if it's a joke, it hurts so bad. I spend the rest of the day thinking about it and it really sucks.

I feel like I went through exactly the same thing growing up. I hated when people would ask me “why are you so quiet?” because I never knew how to respond and I would just get all red and it made me feel like i was stuck in a box, like if that’s who I was supposed to be and was going to be all my life. I hated it when ppl pointed it out, but there was one time in 4th grade when it really got to me. I had this teacher that would point it out all the time to make the class laugh and one day she was making seating charts for a field trip we were going on. Then she said “It doesn’t matter where Carolina sits because it’ll be like she’s not even there.” I felt everyone staring at me but it looked like even my classmates understood she had crossed the line. It felt so horrible. There was a teacher there that didn’t even know me and defended me a little. I had to fight so hard to hold back tears. And that was the day my self hatred began, at just 10 years old🙃 I still struggle with being shy but I’ve grown since then. I think it’s important for other people to know that shy people are people too and asking or saying things like that might affect them more than you think.

im the kind of quiet person that if I'm with the right people (which almost never happens) I can be loud, but otherwise I probably wont talk unless spoken too

Thanks for sharing your story. I am 21, and I still wonder if i am an introvert, or I am just too shy. I prefer been alone, and very quiet to the point where whenever I open my mouth, words hardly come out. But when I text, it flows. This has been the reason why I started learning graphics designing, and coding. Though I am glad I finally mastered those skills because of my nature, but I still would love to be able to speak up with people, and tell them about the business I am building, and my skills. I hope one day, I mature to the point where I will be able to talk in front of a crowd fearlessly, and boldly.

I’m both! I dislike when people try to push me out of my shell. Everything you said I can relate to. It makes me feel uncomfortable.

Hello. I’m a teenager and I do feel many emotions. I struggle in overthinking in simple situations. I’m quiet and I do care what other people think of me sometimes but I don’t like that. Although I am brave whenever I build up my courage when I need to. I might think of myself as shy but I do believe I’m brave too. For example, I’m brave enough to comment in the comment section. Watching your video made me realize that I can be hopeful in always being myself and feeling motivated in being who I am. Just want to say thank you for making this video. Btw I love your taste in films!

I totally agree with you! I was always more quiet, shy and introverted ... in my adolescence it was worse too, when we heard a lot of "don't you talk?" "go, say something!" "Wow, she has a voice"... growing up listening to this makes us feel inadequate, wrong... and so our self-esteem will not be the best, and we will think that there will always be something wrong with us ourselves... what we need to improve is really accepting our nature, valuing our uniqueness... because it is very difficult in our society for people to accept who is different and that is sad

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I'm really late for this video, but I get everything you say. 😅 I always hated myself for being shy, I wanted to change because I thought I was weird. My teacher would ask me "Why are you so quiet?" and my classmates would ask the same and I never had an answer. I thought I was different from everyone and would wonder why I wasn't like everyone else. The rehearsing part is so relatable, I would think about what I said 30 times until I finally said it, but I would always stutter when I say it and I never said it like it was in my head. I'm still trying to accept the fact that I'm quiet, but thank you for this video!

girl i can relate with you. so much. i'm an introvert, and i've always been a timid girl since i was young. i'm really quiet and i think most people are intimidated by that. many people are passive and awkward towards me whenever they are with me, and that's what really makes me conscious, and i'm someone who cares a lot about what other people would think about me. but when i do talk or say what's on my mind, people ignore me. like-- i knew it, it's better if i keep quiet, no one listens anyway. i also hate small talks, it's making things more awkward. and it's really hard for me to socialize, especially in an extroverted society. ugh i just, i wish someone would understand me personally as much as how i understood you, haha

I am going through this right now! And I'm so glad I found this video. Lots of the louder people I know will always say "Just have confidence" or "What's so hard about talking", and I would hate myself for being quiet, when it is actually okay to be quiet. I once cried for a few hours because I hated myself for being so quiet. I thought that I am just not social enough, but that's not the case. I am just drained if energy if I try to talk like a loud person, so if you make me talk for a while, my voice will become kinda weird.

I feel so similar to how you did when you were a teen, I am very quiet and reserved. I avoid speaking in fear of what people will think about me, and I know people say ‘ don’t worry about what other’s think’, but it is not that easy. My brain is constantly thinking of different things that could happen if I was more outspoken. I also have a youtube channel, not many subscribers but I have made a great little community and some great friends! Being online is like an escape for me, since it is the only place I feel like I can be myself. Around people online I feel much more confident and I can say things and make videos without the same fear I get in real life. I also used to love performing and singing in front of all my friends and family when I was younger, but now I just cannot because I am so worried about what they will think of me, even though they are family! It seems horrible to be so shy and quiet now, but I will take my time to build confidence and I still love who I am, because I’m kind, a good listener and empathetic. I know people judge me because I don’t talk much, but as long as I continue to love who I am it’s all that matters, and I’m taking my time figuring out who I am and what I want to do with my life :)