How much thought have you given into whether or not you're judgemental, and have you ever thought about how changing that might change your life for the better?
@slappy89415 жыл бұрын
Yeah let's just abandon all standards and people indulge whatever degeneracy they like.
@Zayindjejfj5 жыл бұрын
I think everyone is judgmental to a degree. It also seems to be very involuntary, since you have to really choose not to be judgmental. Or at least put it aside and act accordingly. And I do believe judgement is good to have when using it to determine certain things. Obviously you don't want to be with people that are destructive and terrible to be around. You'd have to be judgmental to acknowledge something like that and take precautions when needed.
@kibbykibby5 жыл бұрын
Interesting video. When you are being unjugdemental, are you not expressing your opinions out loud to anyone, not even to yourself? Or are you suppressing your brain from forming those opinions in the first place?
@nickcarter55695 жыл бұрын
Haha. Dude you kick ass. This is such great content! 😁
@arande35 жыл бұрын
Mhm yeah I'm pretty judgmental. It's a skill I've had to develop to be more judgmental on purpose. I'm naturally the ultimate Devil's Advocate so I have to kind of force myself to make decisions and act on them.
@Lightbulb9095 жыл бұрын
After much introspection, I’ve concluded that whisper in the back of my mind that people around me are judging me is actually just me judging myself and no more.
@aliazaluor26204 жыл бұрын
Well put 👏
@thesocialintrovertchronicles4 жыл бұрын
What a great way to look at it 😍
@lunalovebook97014 жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤
@ashusuri64724 жыл бұрын
Very true ...🤔
@KennoCaptures3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@mariellacusano4 жыл бұрын
I used to be so judgmental, when I realized how horrible of a person I was and changed, I gained so much confidence and felt so good.
@Elyhhk4 жыл бұрын
Tell me more!
@sunyalam45384 жыл бұрын
how??
@mariellacusano4 жыл бұрын
To the people asking about it: Honestly, I judged people for a long time and I don’t know why. I used to be super depressed and insecure with social anxiety, so you can understand how I felt. I decided something needed to change, starting with me judgement. Every time I had one negative thought about someone else, I quickly thought of something I liked about them. That’s what worked me. I realized the reason I was so insecure is because I was judgmental, not just for others, but towards myself, as well. I learned to love myself and appreciate the people around me.
@KristinaLovesJustin4 жыл бұрын
Mariella Cusano yes!! Amazing! Dealing with other people’s life takes all energy!
@themango96444 жыл бұрын
Yea that's sad
@kailey33964 жыл бұрын
Here’s a tip on how to be less judgemental: if the first thought that comes to your mind is judgy reinforce it with a second thought that is nicer and compliments that person. For example the first thought could be “wow they look trashy” the second thought afterwards could compliment what you just judged like “they’re eyes are pretty” or “they look like a nice person.” The first thought is what you’ve been trained to think but the second thought always shows your true character.
@abigaillprado4 жыл бұрын
what do i do if I tend to judge because I say without thinking :/
@kailey33964 жыл бұрын
Abigail Prado just to clarify you say things without thinking. And what comes out is judge mental?
@marissandigan8384 жыл бұрын
@@abigaillprado Hmm.. I think if that person takes it personally, it depends on a person if he/she allow to compromise what you want to say instead. But if that person doesn't, an apologize is enough and just move on. Because what's important is you learn and be a better version of yourself. I don't know if it make sense.. 😓
@primdefying51224 жыл бұрын
@@marissandigan838 I partly agree but you can't decide for someone if that person takes things personally or not. You can't controle someone elses feelings. What you can controle is your own reaction and the words you use (:
@marissandigan8384 жыл бұрын
@@primdefying5122 yes, I strongly agree on you.. What I really mean to this is that there is a different reaction of people depending on how the judgement impacts them.. Thank you for correcting the right phrase.. I am really lack of vocabulary 'cause I'm not fluent to speak english..
@lucy-ql8xr4 жыл бұрын
benefits: 1. more compassionate 2. good tempered 3. don't take it personally 4. healthier relationships 5. more open minded 6. more appreciative how? 1. see things through a natural lens 2. change of phrasing 3. pause start by seeing things through a natural lens, then pause to think, pick your words wisely
@ughhhmcrbinch55834 жыл бұрын
Natural lens?
@hanaenishizawa10754 жыл бұрын
@ughhh mcrbinch I think she’s taking about having a neutral point of view
@lerrynjlivinglife50633 жыл бұрын
Love this! This motivates me
@Omar_P.S9inchhs4 жыл бұрын
Emotions are contagious, if you radiate hate it's reflected back at you, judgement is a form of hate.
@onezerotwofour1844 жыл бұрын
Complete nonsense. Take what ever it is that you define as the opposite of hate (perhaps some people call that love) and even then for all practical purposes it's a conditional occurrence and therefore it fundamentally depends on judgement and being judgemental.
@insomniaaaaa48134 жыл бұрын
@@onezerotwofour184 they're talking about making negative judgement on people.
@onezerotwofour1844 жыл бұрын
have a good day That doesn't refute what I wrote.
@insomniaaaaa48134 жыл бұрын
@@onezerotwofour184 no but what I'm saying is that the point is not that you shouldn't judge things, but that you shouldn't be overly harsh without justifiable cause, ie. Judging a movie by being really mean about it wont accomplish anything but make people dislike you. If you just state your opinion neutrally it's much more kind and makes you more fun to be with. I think also in general you will be more likeable if you're less negatively judgemental. It's just that judgement is now associated with negativity.
@onezerotwofour1844 жыл бұрын
elenainsomnia I don't disagree with any of that. The essence of my point is nothing more than it's impossible to not be judgemental if you have any preferences (that isn't bad). Suggesting it's the judgement which is bad ("judgement is a form of hate") is simply incorrect, which is evident by my example that even something which defined as the complete opposite as hate, still requires judgement. Being a negative or hateful person is a different topic altogether but again I see your point✌️✌
@eat_ze_bugs5 жыл бұрын
Be humble. That's the key.
@ItSAaliya_onSCREEN4 жыл бұрын
BE HUMBLE, SIT DOWN 🎵🎶
@Kaybye5554 жыл бұрын
@@RyzeVirtualNatureNHiking I think it has more to with tolerance than being humble. You might need to slowly let go of control. Breath. It is normal to have a firat thought when something uosets you but think in that instant about how that might possibly not affect you in the future. So it is not worth it to fight or be angry
@starshiningstar36394 жыл бұрын
Agreed 👍 👍
@Elyhhk4 жыл бұрын
@Tacøs ツツ 💓
@Victory7354 жыл бұрын
Has anyone ever praised others ,like saying they are beautiful?And does that influence your confidence about your own look? I just wonder how you guys feel when you praise someone who's good looking.
@brandonboss68683 жыл бұрын
The fact we're all hear listening to her advice is a great step in the right direction. Good job everyone watching!
@paulliboiron83505 жыл бұрын
You face doesn't hide the awkwardness you feel. Thanks for sharing your awkwardness so we could have a real conversation.
@betteroneself17954 жыл бұрын
I decided not to be a judgemental from today onwards and i don't feel comfortable writing something in English and posting online because i don't have good English and i am doing it . I want to come out of my comfort zone. Thank u for your video and it inspired me ❤️
@maddsn4 жыл бұрын
Your English is fantastic! Seriously, keep it up, you deserve to be confident in your ability and I'm super proud! Much love
@betteroneself17954 жыл бұрын
@@maddsn thank u so much
@celestelemonnier62474 жыл бұрын
Your english is perfect 👌❤️
@soniathomass4 жыл бұрын
Your English is really amazing girl.. Seriously...I'm proud of you💜💜
@waiwaimein4 жыл бұрын
Are you Nepali, perhaps?
@softerhaze4 жыл бұрын
The sound of water in the background is really relaxing
@jaclynd73424 жыл бұрын
When I notice that I'm feeling judgmental towards someone, it usually reflects on some repressed insecurity of my own. V helpful when I feel judgmental towards someone, because then I can be like "aha!" and actually realize something about myself that I may not have otherwise noticed.
@mysecretsketchbook8654 жыл бұрын
Thankyou very much for being honest. Peace from England UK
@victoria95353 жыл бұрын
Yes. It's TRUE. It's also form of jealously too.
@janabeeaddams3 жыл бұрын
„Everytime we judge someone, we reveal a part of ourselves that needs healing”
@nelia58735 жыл бұрын
did anyone else notice she got just a bit more comfortable throughout the video... thats amazing!!
@AcidicDelusion4 жыл бұрын
Always happens the first time
@natemarx49995 жыл бұрын
1). You did great, you can easily do more of these. What a beautiful background. Hearing the sound of water is never annoying. 2). Great talk as always! We have to self reflect every single day in our lives regardless of age.
@LanaBlakely5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Nate! The sound of water truly is lovely.
@carolynso81344 жыл бұрын
Your presence is so calming. I used to find that when I talk to people I tend to bring up something negative to talk about (i.e. complain about traffic, weather, etc). when I realized that, I didn't want to do that anymore. Now I try to do more active listening or talk about smth positive in my life.
@danielanunez67334 жыл бұрын
I love how she goes straight to the point and stays on topic I seriously can’t watch KZfaqrs who just keep making faces and talking about their camera
@abandonaccount74124 жыл бұрын
Daniela Nunez or sponsoring
@solodolo.4 жыл бұрын
OMG YES
@Alundrahs Жыл бұрын
Do you? Do you really “love it”?? Wow so interesting to know 🙄
@TheDipankarrai4 жыл бұрын
I like how sunlight has changed the colour of your ears.
@madihahshazadi64104 жыл бұрын
Lol
@elmakaesa4 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@ame_vagabonde4 жыл бұрын
Yes!! I was watching her ears the whole time!
@rebirthed12744 жыл бұрын
😂😂I just saw that.wow
@safala4 жыл бұрын
Lil Sarmal Same
@luna_intheclouds4 жыл бұрын
This is so weird. I just had this talk with my boyfriend before watching this video, bit different but with the same result. I started analyzing why I was always so irritated at everything lately. Like, literally EVERYTHING. Obviously before jumping into the conclusion that I had anger issues I decided to self analyze myself and I started to notice that every negative thought I had about anybody and including my persona is what was affecting me so much. It’s been a bit over a week that I decided to stop being so judge mental and I can’t say with certainty that it will 100 % work but given the circumstances right now of not being able to go out I will continue this journey and I’m positive this will work out for me in the long run because I’m feeling much better mentally. And as I came across this old video of yours it has reinforced the idea to continue this method. So in a way, thank you!
@dianadias34 жыл бұрын
This is amazing.. It really shows that a judgemental mindset really has an effect on your quality of life and humour.. For me I`ve noticed that when I am very judgemental, I stop socializing, I am very angry, I have a lot of arguments.. This is something that we usually dont speak about but it is something crucial that is affecting our lives..
@luna_intheclouds4 жыл бұрын
Diana Days it truly is amazing isn’t it?! These topics could potentially be what we need to hear to live a much better life. At least I think so.
@dianadias34 жыл бұрын
@@luna_intheclouds yes, at least I would be more sociable for sure, and I would love people more..
@luna_intheclouds4 жыл бұрын
Diana Days it’s a challenge but I’m sure we can achieve this! 💛
@therighteousmind67083 жыл бұрын
Lunytoons more like Lunatoons
@Lightbulb9095 жыл бұрын
I love how she observing her surrounding. Her eyes are darting around, looking to see if people are looking and silently judging. But also to see who’s around her. I would do the exact same thing.
@Lightbulb9094 жыл бұрын
doug robertson She said she’s been?
@Lightbulb9094 жыл бұрын
doug robertson I am not of the we, then.
@ughhhmcrbinch55834 жыл бұрын
doug robertson wow that is a crazy assertion
@randomaccessfemale4 жыл бұрын
@doug robertson I doubt it. That is what introverts do. They observe people and their surroundings in order to not be surprised and be prepared for whatever.
@pupinia69364 жыл бұрын
@@randomaccessfemale Or just observant people in general?
@Callisto1714 жыл бұрын
Everything is a mirror so I realised that whenever I judged someone/something,it shows who I am as a person not them. Plus I am the type of person who don't want to be judged so why should I judge others? Also you attract a lot of good friends because they subconsciously feel comfortable with you,they know you always try to understand first and not judge. And thank you for spreading the word ♡ this video was also super calming
@danielc57834 жыл бұрын
My psychologist told me something similar to this, you're very very right!!
@safala4 жыл бұрын
My mother always told me this since I was quite little. That has shaped me a lot.
@mysecretsketchbook8654 жыл бұрын
Thankyou Luna Dear. Peace from England UK
@sol_di_144 жыл бұрын
I just realized how immature I am lol But I wanna change, so that people enjoy my company and I can have good relationships😊
@Sattuuuu7624 жыл бұрын
Yeah me too! We will change 🤎
@mysecretsketchbook8654 жыл бұрын
You have the Power to do it so do it NOW. Peace from England UK
@abrahampalmer87613 жыл бұрын
Same is toxic for myself and others to
@SamsonOng4 ай бұрын
Hope you're proud of how far you've come over these 3 years!
@Malinhagen4 жыл бұрын
I really loved how this video was filmed out in public. With all the distractions and people yelling in the background it felt so raw and real, and I felt it just made your video even more honest and beautiful. I truly love the message in this video.
@dani-xw3lc4 жыл бұрын
my mom is very judgmental of everyone so I'm going to send this to her
@mysecretsketchbook8654 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for not giving up on your mother. Sending Love Peace Prayers to you. Peace from England UK
@johndutchman5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for displaying your courage .. I'm also quite introverted .. and I think you did it wonderfully.
@samm53274 жыл бұрын
I think that when you truly learn to let go of negative judgement, you’ll stop worrying about the judgement of others. And even if they are judging you, you’ll be able to understand that they’re still on their own journey to letting go of that judgement. Thank you for this enlightening video! :)
@ukhtiiiojo91863 жыл бұрын
PERIODT!
@fzprof17562 жыл бұрын
Interesting. Yeah maybe if u judge less that can make u care less about what others think of u
@AmaryllisTV5 жыл бұрын
Facing things that make you uncomfortable means growth! This is an awesome way to face your fears.
@MrFairoz15 жыл бұрын
1-See things through natural lens 2-Pause to think. 3-Pick your words. Love that Lana >> You did great job in this video. I enjoyed it. answering your question: I think being judgmental or not is not always a choice you make. I think our previous experiences impact on how we think or act. However, I do believe that the more we become conscious about it the better we get in controlling our thoughts.
@LanaBlakely5 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much Abdullah! And thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@InshasChoice4 жыл бұрын
🤘🏼 we only judge others because we ourselves are insecure, closed and unfulfilled. You have a wonderful way with words, you speak with grace and politeness. So sweet and attractive.
@jwc64444 жыл бұрын
It's cool that you recognized this at a young age. I know people over 40 who still are judgemental and not open minded. These individuals wonder why no one wants to open up and express their feelings .enjoying your videos.Thank you
@bharati40764 жыл бұрын
We all save a lot of energy by just remembering that everyone’s wired differently, morality is not objective, everyone has their own baggage. Emotional maturity is when you know when to pull out of a discussion/argument/quarrel when you know nothing is going to come out if it (which is most times). Say less, think more., I guess
@DorianoPaisanoCarta5 жыл бұрын
So wise beyond your years. Took me much longer to come to these revelations. Wish I was younger when I discovered this important truth for finding happiness. Learning how little we know and how much more we can learn is the greatest knowledge. Learning what comes around goes around is so key. We need to treat others as we want to be treated which is like one of the golden rules we all ignore in youth. You're so ahead of the game Lana.
@TheAnadromist5 жыл бұрын
Courage isn't doing what is easy and having no fears about it. Courage is attempting what fills you with fear and walking through it. Thanks for doing this Lana.
@basedtom15 жыл бұрын
I've found that I'm the biggest judge of myself. I would be dying if I had to film myself in public, but you did it so courageously and it just heightens the message of the video. You're the most insightful person I've watched on KZfaq and I'm grateful for your content. Also, I am judgmental as hell! I say I hate certain films, video games, music, art, literature. I guess there's a difference between having certain tastes and being judgmental, and I've been the latter. It happens all the time with music, that I'll hate a certain artist's album, then a month later I'm listening to it all the time and looking back on how naive I was. Thank you for this.
@LanaBlakely5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for those kind words, Tom, and for sharing your story!
@basedtom15 жыл бұрын
@@LanaBlakely All thanks are owed to you! Thank you for being a light in the world
@onlythenamehavebeenchanged82414 жыл бұрын
It’s really cool that the temp of her speech is slow, it gives a better chance to dive in that location with all the sounds around you and Lana sitting in front of you and explaining you how to stop being judgmental
@jamie_rants42184 жыл бұрын
It’s a personal pet peeve of mine when people speak slow but it’s just a matter of personal preference. I barely ever finish a yt vid without skipping it or speeding it up
@shshnk113 жыл бұрын
Getting out of your comfort zone & doing this kind of thing(filming in public) really inspired me. Inspired me to always keep pushing, inspired me to conquer my social "little" anxiety. Such a strong character. Thank you. 😊
@oldchanneltryagain2 жыл бұрын
I loved how you looked so much more comfortable when talking to your audience, thanking them and all, like you were really talking to them directly so it wasn't as awkward as talking to your camera :)
@chamallow9894 жыл бұрын
Lately, I realized I though people were judgmental but I was just thinking that because I kept judging others. I ended up thinking that everybody was like that but really, most people just don’t care about others ( in a good way ).
@abrahampalmer87613 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@icacacacacai3 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@Tim_G_Bennett5 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on pushing your comfit zone. I find I'm less judgemental when I'm doing okay and more judgemental when I going through a rough patch. This video has been a good reminder because I have been going through a rough patch lately.
@CareBlair2225 жыл бұрын
I often find myself envious more so than judgmental. I have this paranoid thought that other people are so much better off than me lol......its wierd.
@sezzyahmed73734 жыл бұрын
@@CareBlair222 Same here! My judging does come from insecurity but unfortunately from jealousy too as ı've seen a lot for my age and missed out on life due to my illnesses and mental health so it makes me compare my self to others and judge them
@thewonderlandfox15754 жыл бұрын
Because when you stop judging other people.. you will automatically stop judging yourself. And that’s the key to happiness. ❤️
@katlegomanale31245 жыл бұрын
My anxiety would be on a 💯
@chrisp64585 жыл бұрын
I love what you said about what you know. It is very similar to what Socrates said about wisdom... "A wise person knows only that they know nothing." All greatness begins with humility. You are beautiful inside and out.
@LanaBlakely5 жыл бұрын
You are very kind Chris. Thank you.
@chrisp64585 жыл бұрын
@@LanaBlakely No need to thank me ma'am. I was just making an observation. The grass is green. The sky is blue. You are beautiful.
@mysecretsketchbook8654 жыл бұрын
When you stop being judgemental have empathy and mercy for other people and spread Love then you reach the next level of consciousness. Peace from England UK
@klaudiaw30383 жыл бұрын
My reflection after I've watch the whole episode. I've been judgemental about this video at first. I've watched first couple minutes then I thought I know everything what you're gonna say and wanted to stop there. Glad I didn't. There is always something we can add on while discussing or rethinking the same topic we went through. No matter how many times we did. I really enjoy your calm attitude and that you think before you talk. Thanks for this video. Take care
@artinsarchives3993 жыл бұрын
Growing up, I am surrounded by judgemental relatives that makes me so insecure now. Sometimes, I know, I am also being judgmental to others too, but I get so guilty easily. I am not comfortable talking about other person's business or issues, especially if the person being talked about is not with us, it makes me feel like these people around me also does the same thing to me when I am not around them. I'm trying to build my confidence but being surrounded by judgmental people makes it so hard.
@-CintiaVanessaMilala3 жыл бұрын
Imagine how beautiful world would be if everyone watch this videos and learn to be less judgemental.
@SteAndRach3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely - You can see how she's seeking to the discomfort and trying to be more open and honest saying, "I had judge people" She's an inspiration for us; we did a similar video sharing tips on how can you be less judgemental and seek happiness, you should check it out if you are interested in that topic!
@JASmian._.4 жыл бұрын
The only person I really judge is myself, and what I’ve been trying to help myself understand is that the majority of everyone has a very similar mindset. I am the type of person to read over my texts four or five times before sending it to try to make sure it sounds chill, but not too rude or casual at the same time. It sounds psychotic, but really I just have extremely terrible social anxiety even though I love my friends and hanging out. I will literally come back home from a nice lunch with friends or a party and cry til I have a migraine and have to force myself to sleep just thinking about how much I hate myself. I’ve been pushing myself lately to go out of my comfort zone and coaching myself to fight against my social anxiety by joining my university’s committees and volunteering in orgs because it gets in the way of so many opportunities.
@kathrynsutter67534 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you are doing great!! Well done! :)
@raeasheton33323 жыл бұрын
I grew up in an extremely over judgmental home. I’ve heard my mom do it my whole life she heard her mother do it. My mother would always judge people’s appearances job status cleanliness of their home and made instant opinions of them. That same standard was put on me growing up I had to look a certain way perform to be approved of. Conform to what she thought was perfect. The whole time as a child losing my identity. I lost my wonder to play and get dirty I had to be perfect in every way. I confused what love really was. As I became a Christian these negative ways of life really came to light and I started wanting better. I began changing myself. But my mom and my sister still struggle terribly with this, it really breaks my heart and frustrates me to be honest. It’s also affected my marriage as I’ve been overly critical with my husband. It doesn’t leave room for mistakes it’s not graceful or forgiving at all there’s no love in it. I don’t want to be that way I want to break free and see the world through free eyes not only for myself but for others as well; to show the love of Christ.💛
@karina-ye7kz3 жыл бұрын
I know i’m late to this video. But I just want to say, i’ve never felt so inspired by a video more than this one, in regards to being confident enough to challenge yourself. I mean, you really sat there and pushed through that wall of discomfort that is so evident throughout the video. Amazing! I love this and I love you keep doing what you’re doing.
@SteAndRach3 жыл бұрын
You are not late, We're glad we found your comment, and we found this video; it Is remarkable how cool she seek discomfort, and yes, you are right is so evident. We have been doing quite the same, pushing ourselves to the pain and trying to be less judgemental; that's why we wanted to create our last video sharing our tips on how you can be less judgemental and seek happiness instead.
@victoriahilke69414 жыл бұрын
You speak so clearly to what I want to pursue with myself and my habits in life. I'm so grateful to have found your channel. Thankyou for putting yourself out there and going public with your words like this. I could only imagine how much of a challenge it is and APPLAUD you for that! You're on my same wavelength and I just love what you have to say!
@lenap68154 жыл бұрын
I think this is the most humble, grown-up way of being which most adults will never achieve.
@BronwynAlexandriaa4 жыл бұрын
Needed to hear this! I need to be more compassionate and soft-hearted. I am actively working on loving people more and being more friendly, kind, and helpful. rather than closed off, Judgmental, and cynical! It’s helping a lot. I had a really bad day yesterday - with people being very mean to me, and this video was nice to watch!
@TheLineCutter5 жыл бұрын
Good for you. You'll only get better. I turned my back on judgementalism(another ism) when I heared Craig Ferguson at Larry Kings show say it's the type of person he hates most. Thing is. I was very judgemental in my early life, and when my own life got tough and I wasn't able to handle it properly I met the other side of that coin. And now I regret having ever been so arrogant.
@TheLineCutter5 жыл бұрын
@Lana Blakely thanks for the heart lovely. I went and looked up the bit for you cus I think you'll like the vitriol with which he speaks it. This statement was so loaded with personal grief that it hit me deeper than it would've otherwise. at 24:40 kzfaq.info/get/bejne/p6pmlMdpp8vOloU.html
@CB-dl1vg5 жыл бұрын
Being less judgemental essentially opens you up to an entire world you couldn't access before. I feel like it also has a noticeable physiological effect, you feel like you have more room to breath. You're not in a constant state of both defence and attack but rather embody a measured openness to life and therefore are able to accept more of its "gifts". As you stated, these come in the form of stronger, more genuine relationships, engagement in deeper more balanced conversation about film, music and so on. Funnily enough it also gives a greater sense of responsibility to other people as you pointed out when you mentioned you could give better advice. Shed judgement and its effects are profound. Nice video!
@CareBlair2225 жыл бұрын
Having a conversation with a judgmental person is like stepping on glass. Horrid experience. Boring and dense with a touch of annoying insecure negativity. I refuse to talk on the phone with my mother cause she is way too judgmental lol
@wanjirumwoka61874 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this and being brave to film in public 🙌🏿 I also realized that I can be pretty judgemental. Learning to take time to pause before coming to a final conclusion.
@LasseAke-tv5yb5 жыл бұрын
You opened up a new perspective for me. I'm surprised by how something I've never paid much attention to has impacted you so much. Thank you for sharing your journey. Keep up the amazing work!
@LanaBlakely5 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to hear that, Lasse. Thank you for the encouragement!
@louise15954 жыл бұрын
the rawness of this video made it feel like a conversation i really needed to have, all your points were really helpful.
@AriLove2254 жыл бұрын
I just realised that, Ive been doing this for years. Without even having to think about MAKING a change in my life. It just came naturally to me.
@blyn5842 жыл бұрын
Being too conscious on yourself even in a very little way possible is linked with how you view or judge others by your lenses. You think too much of how they might view you, because it's an impact of how you view them. Thus, I've realized that getting rid of a toxic judgmental traits can empower myself either. It can foster my sense of self: my self confidence, self trust, and as what you've said, understanding. Hence, being less judgemental can make our lives be lived more beautifully. Thank you for this video Ms. Lana, I genuinely learned a lot! xoxo. ❤️
@littlenorway31354 жыл бұрын
When you don't really know you're THAT judgmental, and Lana just pokes every one of those nerves and calling it out
@drcaffeine19745 жыл бұрын
I recognise so much of myself in you from when I was your age, except for those exceptionally good looks of yours, dear Lana. You’re going about overcoming your anxieties in just the right way. In my own case, I overcame my fear of being among people in crowded public spaces by purchasing a lovely, ancient yet very trusty Leica M6J, complete with 35mm Summicron lens and lots of roles of Kodak’s excellent Tri-X 400 film with which I, by sheer accident, began my career in forensic war- and reportage-photography. More or less shoving my camera and lens in people’s faces and risking them not especially liking it helped me overcome several other anxieties as well. Keep up your good videos and in a few years from now, with any luck, Sweden and the world might think of you in equal terms as Sissela Bok.
@averykira79684 жыл бұрын
This showed up in my recommended and I’m so glad I did. I’m definitely taking a lot from this, thank you 💛
@MissyLeaBeauty5 жыл бұрын
I am working on being less judgmental since a bit and I am already seeing changes but there is still some effort to do. This is an amazing video! Keep up the good work!
@desmona82254 жыл бұрын
What i’ve learned is that being honest with others and careful with your words makes what could be awkward situations a comfortable normal conversation
@mattanjabac36924 жыл бұрын
I love how this is 1 take, its really natural
@ohood48635 жыл бұрын
You are a beautiful soul, my dear. I have just found your channel and I am very grateful. I have a strong feeling you will be a wonderful addition to my life.
@LanaBlakely5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this lovely comment. I'm glad you are here.
@anneliesjoss4 жыл бұрын
This makes so much sense to me. It’s so nice to see a young person like you come to this realization. It’s taken me a lot longer to get there, possibly because of my upbringing.
@rylee11004 жыл бұрын
Something I’ve come to realize is the huge barrier judging people puts between possible relationships with them
4 жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful that I find you,you are such a wonderful,beautiful,smart and inspiring woman. I appreciate everything you say.You are like a healer and a teacher to my mind.Thank you ♥
@kimleawel8503 жыл бұрын
Dear Lana, it's so crazy but within a few days, you became a role model to me. I recently just found your channel and already absorbed most of your videos. Thank's Lana for sharing you on such a deep level. You really embody what became most important to me in the last few months: "If you want a good life, work on yourself until you love yourself."
@elizabethd75514 жыл бұрын
I am happy I finally found someone with the same opinions as me (considering this and other your videos). I stopped being judgemental a couple of years ago and I came to it myself. However, there are a couple things I noticed and would like to share. Firstly, you can’t stop being judgemental at one moment because you will keep judging people in your mind. You will look at this person and think, ‘gosh, how can someone wear this?’. The thing is, if after this you think of ‘stop, what am I doing? I should not judge this person’, then you’re on a right path. Secondly, a lot of people around us are judgemental and some don’t want to stop being that way. For instance, you can walk with friend(s) and they will start judging people they know and/or people that just pass by. To that I always ask ‘why do you judge them?’ But I only get a ‘because I hate them’ in reply. It’s hard not to be influenced by people around us and I really try to, but sometimes I am and after that I feel shame. I think those of you who try being not judgemental noticed these things, too. I wish I had a friend like Lana.
@davidhill1294 жыл бұрын
You brought a very big smile to my face. You stepped out of your comfort zone. Well done girl.
@harleylopez95974 жыл бұрын
It has truly changed my relationship with others and the way I feel about myself. It's not an easy thing to do and I mess up sometimes but humility is key in those moments as it helps me put myself back in my own place + allows me to see that what I'm doing is wrong so I can wholeheartedly apologize and learn from it.
@ghulehanon27304 жыл бұрын
This is the first video of yours that I’m watching and I’ve got to say, you have this certain clarity to you that I’m striving to achieve within myself. I currently feel very lost in almost every regard and am beginning my journey to self-discovery and improvement. This video helped a lot, and gave me so much foresight into changing myself in a way I didn’t know I could.
@laetitiaandre60824 жыл бұрын
Everytime I don't like a movie, I find someone who liked it and so I always rewatch the movies and end up liking them everytime xd I don't know why that happens but it does
@jule59884 жыл бұрын
maybe because they tell you what they liked about it and when you watch it again you‘re gonna draw more attention to that and boom! you like it
@zelixleo55 жыл бұрын
You are dropping some real jewels here. thank you for reminding me to consider my thoughts and express them as such. often times we try to command the thoughts of others to match ours and will not accept anything else
@matthewhirst76405 жыл бұрын
Very brave of you for confronting the uncomfortable 👏👍
@lynellesuan74183 жыл бұрын
I think being nonjudgmental helps us become more unbiased, which invites us to dive deeper into curiosity, which could then open up whole new perspectives for us - causing us to grow as a person.
@igorpissarenko49494 жыл бұрын
Being open minded is also what definitely had helped me in being less judgmental. A lot of times we think of someone who's doing something odd to us and immediately starting to think what is wrong with them and why there's pursuing a certain thing, but in reality we don't know the story behind it. This is actually inspirational to see you overcoming your fears and getting out of the comfort zone!
@izzyamalia13714 жыл бұрын
I always wonder whether or not I am a judgemental person and wasn't sure how I could improve myself. thank u for this :)
@Hallowpoet5 жыл бұрын
Amazing!! I barely ever spend actual 17 minutes watching someone talk it almost feels like having a conversation and not saying anything back i love u for making these videos
@TheRealMrRobles4 жыл бұрын
When people show you who they are, believe them. There is no need for judgement.
@kylielesmeister62774 жыл бұрын
This is something i am working on myself because i have seen myself be judgemental of myself which would also affect the way I look at others. We live in a very vain world where we subconsciously think that worth comes from physical appearance. Pride is subconsciously condoned. Its a habit and sin that I’ve adapted and it has caused major and unrealistic self-image and confidence issues. I realized that its not a mind problem, its a heart problem. Thank God for jesus and that he forgives and wants to change that. I love videos like this!
@eliasgonzalez50734 жыл бұрын
I actually found out myself that when I judge others it puts me in a bad mood for no reason and once you stop kicking you can start thinking more positively
@aliaalh85224 жыл бұрын
i absolutely love this video, its so real and inspiring,I also enjoyed the sound of the water running in the background
@mikahran78805 жыл бұрын
you trying to coming out of your shell and not caring about others really inspired me thank you
@HannahEdiaA4 жыл бұрын
I like how you present this so calmly. Thank you. Though I do my best not to judge, this is definitely, something I need to consciously think about.
@lauragatinha72705 жыл бұрын
I just discovered your channel yesterday and I am very impressed with the content you upload. It’s so deep, meaningful and impactful, I really needed something like this in my life. Thank you, Lana for taking the time to share your reflections with us. I share a considerable part of your mindset.
@kayb9334 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad I found this video. Lately, whenever I catch myself being judgmental of someone, I counteract it with telling myself good things about the person (their style, personality, etc.). I no longer allow myself to think/say "Oh, that person is ugly/slutty/stupid", especially when that person is a stranger. If someone I know says something negative about some random stranger, I try to ease them into thinking positive instead. I've been so much happier lately. The world is so much better when you first think of positives, not negatives.
@carolinemoeller56632 жыл бұрын
I love how raw this video is, this makes me so happy!
@phantomshere4 жыл бұрын
It's so relaxing to see you talking, thanks for all your videos, they're helping me to change my lifestyle and the way I see things
@Msheavenlyconnection5 жыл бұрын
The introvert part of you is in this video is stepping aside, your growing Dear👌❣️
@LanaBlakely5 жыл бұрын
Gotta challenge myself! :)
@t53965 жыл бұрын
@@LanaBlakely what is your ethnicity?
@Msheavenlyconnection5 жыл бұрын
@@LanaBlakely thanks for sharing the moment with us, I'm sure you've helped others that have tuned in keep on keeping on!
@giulianabacoccini89194 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU - for this video. Authentic Raw Sincere Down to earth. LOVE IT! Can’t wait to watch more of your content.
@Mariam_Bi20 күн бұрын
You’re super brave!🙌🏼 The video was helpful but the most inspirational part was you filming it raw, Mashallah♥️
@cacoooo Жыл бұрын
what you said about refraining from using big words such as “awfull” really hit me because in my circle people know me as the dramatic one (because i usally use powerfull words) and yes after you mentioned how big words do not allow for a congversation to grow you were so right. people would just nod at what id say and move on, this has always made me feel weird about my place in a social circle, thoughts such as “do these people still like me or not?” would always come to my mind (still does) but i really wanted to thank you for putting this into words and helping me in my first step to improving myself :)
@leonaandreea93354 жыл бұрын
nothing more attractive than someone who wants to overcome its state - like you
@jvdhtm5 жыл бұрын
That was art.
@GringoOkocha103 жыл бұрын
I've been watching your videos for a while, and this is one of the best, seeing you natural, without much editing and a great subject to talk about. ;)
@DiscipleSteven4 жыл бұрын
This is a great discussion. I know that I myself have judged others based on only what I have seen or heard. Sometimes, it is more just analyzing how someone might think about a certain topic based on what they said but in the end, it is still judgmental if I don't talk to them directly about it. If we all were a little less judgmental , the world would be a better place for sure.
@ItsAriaFord4 жыл бұрын
This personally has really helped me. Thank you for helping me see from another viewpoint. I have noticed that I tend to be quick to assume. And, pausing to think and be open to others opinions as well is something I believe can really help me. Without your video I don't know if I would have begun practicing this new way of thinking. This has been one of, if not the youtube video recommendation that has the potential to really help me in life. Thank you again and stay wonderful