wife: im late me: jocko says this is UNACCEPTABLE

A wizard is never late, nor is he early, he arrives precisely when he means to.

Jocko is late all the time, the clock is just too afraid to tell him.

Lol a dude called Echo being late... when he starts showing up on time he's gonna be called Sound

I was here waiting an hour before this video started

Plot twist: Echo wrote this submission himself to justify being the late guy

So why is it important to be on time: 1. Basic respect for other people's time 2. Operational readiness 3. Being prepared 4. Showing reliability and professionalism The one who is waiting on the battlefield will be victorious.

You know who hates people being late more than Jocko? Jimmy Hoffa.

I’m 16 now but my dad has drilled into my head that if I’m not at least 15 minutes early to something- I’m late.

E- "Why am I shopping?" J- "Why are you telling this story?" 😂😂

I’m chronically late to work and most things. This is something I want to work on.

My booty-call's period is late... Unacceptable

Echo: What about being late? Me: 👀 Jocko: Being late is unacceptable. Me: Fuuuuuuuck...

“Don’t be late” -Sun Tzu

I zone out for 2 seconds and all the sudden Echo is talking about canned tomatoes 😂 love that man

Jocko walking into a 9:00 AM meeting at 9:01 AM: I'm early guy at meeting: this meeting started 1 minute ago and you weren't invited Jocko: I'm 23 hours and 59 minutes early to the 9:00 AM meeting I scheduled for tomorrow in this room guy at meeting: forgive me Jocko

Jocko is like the Dad that none of us wanted to listen to ...

I had a coworker who was fired from three different jobs because he was always late. He wasn’t able to get on time due to his schizophrenia medication really slowed him down in the morning and we didn’t know this until we asked him what was going on. But we worked with him and now he arrives 5 min early to start the day. Just talking to your employees can make a big difference

*heavily motivated omw to work 10 minutes late*

When you are late you are telling others that your time is more valuable than theirs.

I once had a GREAT employee who was late alot. I solved it. Here's how. I moved him to the 12 to 8pm shift, but I added an hour to that and scheduled him from 11 to 8pm. Everyday he came in about 11:35 to 11:45am. He was always so sorry he was late. It was years later that it came up and I told him about it, and that he was actually early everyday. We laughed our ass off. Fucking hilarious! 🤣

Jocko: being late is unacceptable Echo: I couldn’t find the tomatos

Just forwarded this to my wife. Waiting for her is like being in the Russian sleep experiments.

Interviewer : "What would you say to a emploee that is being late?" Jocko: "Being late is unacceptable. *video ends*

I hate being late, was always late but learning to get better. Lifetime of abuse causes neural pathways of DISREGULATION - it's like suddenly wearing a snorkel mask, being in a bubble, with visual impairment and chaotic thoughts screaming in your head - your hands don't work properly, you can't use logic or think straight and your heart races thinking I'm going to be late BUT I've not done enough, don't look right, have forgotten something I or the children need... this from a lifetime of being treated like we are "less than a nothing" no matter how much we do or cope with its never enough. The dread of the tirade of abuse on arrival eventually infiltrates every appointment we leave for. Lambs to the slaughter is all we've known - physically shaking as I type. No contact from toxic abusers is the only way to begin healing. Nice for you that you were raised with punctuality, but lateness is a sign of abuse, compassion goes a long way🙏

*Time* It is arguably the most valuable asset that _everyone_ has. Don’t waste your time. Don’t let your time be wasted by others. Don’t waste anyone else’s time. There are few more open signs of disrespect and inconsiderateness.

I was in the Navy four years, never late & a cop for 30 years, never late. Timeliness rules: On time is late, 15 minutes early is on time and if you’re late stay home. Someone who is always late is disrespectful to other people.

Punctuality is the single most obvious way to show one’s reliability. That and when it’s mentioned that time is the most invaluable commodity in our lives. Great talk here.

My ex once taught me: if you’re early, you’re on time. If you’re on time, you’re late.

My brother in law was always late for everything. Dinners, family events, birthday parties...etc. We no longer speak to each other. I'm in my 50s now and have no time for this crap. You are absolutely correct, its a sign of disrespect and I'm done with it.

I've been out of the military for over 45 years and am still almost never late (unavoidable due to circumstance maybe once every three years or so). To me being on time is a question of integrity (doing what you say you're going to do) and also respecting of someone else's time. I've been known to waste my time, but never anyone else's. I'll get off my soapbox now - another worthwhile video. Gonna be like Jocko when I grow up!

Jocks is 100% right! Being late is disrespectful. There’s usually a deeper reason why people are late. Lack of self-belief, etc. I appreciate Echo Charles’s honesty and vulnerability in disclosing his lateness.

"Everyone likes the comethru guy"- 100% dead on. I messed this up once when I was 19, never again. Learned my lesson and being the dependable rock has done so much for me.

respect. organizational operability. preparedness. reliability and professionalism. even sun tzu writes he who is waiting on the battlefield will be victorious. excellent advice across all aspects of life.

I’ve listened to so many Jocko podcasts that he is becoming my life coach ! He has so much good stuff to share from his experiences.

Listened to this on my way to work. I really liked how jocko opened this up and said “it’s respect for other people’s time.”

Jocko didn't get it, but Echo's rambling story reveals (maybe unconsciously) the real reason why people are habitually late. Echo was resentful that he was doing something for someone else that wasn't his job and wouldn't be appreciated. So he reclaimed his independence in a passive aggressive way. Instead of confronting his wife and telling her it wasn't his job to get the tomatoes, or instead of accepting that in fact it was his job to get them, he just got resentful of his role and so he chose to not do his job. This suggested to his wife in a passive aggressive way that she shouldn't put this burden on him, and it let him reclaim his independence and autonomy without being up front about it. Being late is the same: it comes when you want to assert that your needs are important but you don't want to state it directly. So you subtly let people know that you are important and there is a limit to what they can ask of you. You assert yourself by making them wait for you, so that now you are the important one. Instead of being responsible, setting clear boundaries, embracing conflict and being a stand up guy, you instead avoid conflict and say yes to everything & everyone; then you get resentful of that burden and end up asserting yourself by being late and making them wait for you and pay attention to you & your importance. It's messed up, but that's what happens. Being late is a passive aggressive behaviour and its underlying cause is avoidance of conflict and a failure to assert yourself in a normal & healthy way. It's not enough to say that it's unacceptable and it shows a lack of respect for others' time. The question is why do you want to disrespect others' time? Because you resent them. Why? Because you believe you are giving them too much. Why? Because you are not asserting your own needs.

i used to be a chronically late person. now, i'm rarely late. i'm still late sometimes, but those situations are things like train/plane delays, or accidents, or miscommunications. even those, i don't believe are acceptable and if i'm late due to something like that, and i didn't do anything to let people know before they had to commit time to me, then i'm the asshole. so how did i change? here's what i did to fix it: - i prioritized 'not being late' over 'what else could i be doing with my time'. the biggest reason i was late is because i was caught up in something and i didn't stop that thing early enough to make sure i was on time. why? because i didn't care enough about not being late, and i subconsciously, and selfishly, believed that my time doing whatever i was doing was more valuable than the time others would waste waiting for me. - i made it a point to notice when other people were late for meetings with me, and would analyze my own feelings about it. at first i thought i didn't really care, but then i realized that i don't like people wasting my time! surely, if i feel that way, then others do too. sometimes i even count the money i could be making if that person weren't late! - i aimed for 15 minutes early in everything, if i'm going to a place that i don't know, i aim for 30. getting lost is a real possibility and i need to account for that. getting into an accident, bad traffic, train/plane delays, all these things are real considerations that we have no control over but we can account for them. - i stopped relying on my own estimates of how long it would take to arrive some place. instead i google it, using tools like waze to estimate traffic flow. - i changed my work schedule so that it would be next to impossible to be late. i was supposed to work 9 to 5, and i decided it would be prudent for me to arrive at 7:15. - i wake up earlier. when i was commuting to work i would wake up at 0400. now i'm a freelancer so i wake up late (0600). some might ask about cultural considerations. some cultures take 'fashionably late' to an extreme (and you know who you are... i'm one of them too!) as a result, i have an unspoken agreement with some of my 'culturally late' friends and family (who are never late for work, by the way) that we would arrive 30 minutes after the set meeting time, and that if we got there early, we'd be the ones to let them know what to do and where to meet.

Man. I've always been the guy running in at the last minute to my job. I needed to hear this, thank you.

Great points regarding selfishness (lack of respect for others), reliability and dependability. Half the battle in business and life is showing up... on time and prepared. Thank you, gentlemen!

Being early is on time. Being on time is late, & being late is unacceptable

I'm like Echo. Being less than 10 min late everyday, I thought I was doing alright because I worked well once I got started. Really, it was immaturity.

My dad always said - be on time (be early leave late) - things don't come to you, you have to go out and get it. - have respect for yourself and your work/job - be presentable - keep your word or stfu

Godbless these dudes forever...theyre such an inspiration

I was always early to work, but only my boss would be there and it would be awkward until everyone else showed up 5 minutes later. So, I started showing up at the same time as them until recently and now I'm actually later than they are. I decided just because they are behaving badly and not getting punished or corrected doesn't mean I should bring myself to their level or lower. Despite getting no punishment or correction either. Being early or on time is just the right thing to do

I work nights and I leave 30 mins late most mornings because of disrespectful fools that never show up on time.

Thank you guys so much. I needed to hear this. 🙏🏻

Perfect attendance for four years during an apprenticeship. I brought everyone coffee and newspapers in the morning so I had to be earliest. Always had work and money in my pocket up until I got sick probably from over working but hey when your in your twenties your unstoppable.

Unless it’s for a party. You’ll never see me early for a party.

21 years 9 months and 5 days...Never Late! It’s important to be on time!

Totally agree. I have grace for someone if there is an occasional mess up because of unforeseen circumstances, but if it is constant it gets on my nerves. I just had to deal with someone today that was close to 25 minutes late. I had some things to do so I told them just to go ahead of me. I have had this conversation with this person several times so today I had to take another step. Absolutely… When people are constant they are reliable. When they are not it is disrespectful to our time.

Thank you for this. I will never never be late for anything ever again. I have have made a lot of changes in my life to be a better person because how can I be the beast I know I am if I don't live it in every way in my life. Thank you for the inspiration Jocko

I never sweat it when my crew is late, life happens. Id rather have them late then to get a ticket, accident or divorce and we get the job done safely. Learned a lot in the last 30 years being a manager. Worked in all conditions and environments with all sorts of people. It is all made up in the aggregate. Life isn't perfect, neither are you.

What about a person who's always on time but is a lazy worker? Being late is unacceptable to some people because they only focus on that but not on more important stuff.

Very good points (I so feel this in myself when I have been late in the past). So good to hear the "explain to them" part. At the company where I work, here in Japan, it is not considered bullying or misuse of authority to verbally abuse someone who is late. I always felt this was bad leadership when I saw this happening, and spoke out without result. Not I have some more ammunition to reason if the need arises again, thank you!

This is great material thank you! I really connect with what Echo Charles said. I have a problem with showing up late, when I arrive I do deliver great results though. It’s really good to have men just explain what you fellows have explained. Thank you. I think this is good to help me change. It’s a long term pattern for me of being a late. I want to change it badly

Jocko, I love what you do and what you stand for, sir. This podcast has changed my outlook on life for the better and will continue to do so. Thank you for the inspiration. Additionally..... those SOG episodes are absolutely incredible! Listened to them all about 10 times each. And Roger Hayden is the man! Keep them coming : ) - Sam

Jocko nails it again. I would always start meetings on time, even if my boss was late. First time he apologised and said, “right, let’s get going”. I replied, “we started 15 mins ago, this is where we are up to”. If you delay a meeting for a person who is late, it teaches those that are late that they can be even later. It also teaches those that are present they can come late. No! Meetings start on time.

Even with a snowstorm, I make it to work earlier than normal. You have to plan for the unexpected so you can be respectful of other people’s time.

Thing is, when people do see you as a reliable individual, if and whenever you are late, these same people will show the type of care and appreciation of not having you around, even get worried that something happened to you. Being on time and always showing up definitely builds team trust with its leader.

Better to be an hour early, than a minute late.

If you were never late for 20 years, that deserves a medal. Like damn haha

His honesty is impeccable.

I'm glad I watched this. I've watched for a few years and when this one came up I didn't even want to watch. I was late to work today but still out performed my colleagues. I hate it in my subordinates, I need to look at myself.

I find that, be it conscious or subconscious, people who are late simply don't value other people's time as much as they do their own. And it's obvious how this is detrimental to the workplace but think about what this says about your relationships. If your partner or your friend is consistently late, consistently making you wait, what does that say about how much they value your time? What does it say about how much they value you?

I’m late to the comments section...

It was nice hearing from both types of people. And it was nice to hear how he changed his perception.

This is what I needed to see right now, you’re bad ass Jocko!!

I show up 15 minutes early. Thats as far as ill go with that on purpose.

Being early shows respect for the time of others. Disrespectful behaviour won't get you far in life.

So good. Thanks for your tangent @echocharles!

Time has so much respect for Jocko so it does not dare to be late for him.

It really depends on what you are doing. Time is an illusion, it's only important if other people also need to work with you, our you need to be there to respond to others. If your work is tasks to complete, as long as you get them done, a minute or two doesn't matter. Making it a hard rule is dumb with no reason.

New question would you rather someone get the wrong tomatos or be late getting you the right tomatos?

Just being consistent and never late will eliminate people thinking your a bad employee.

Jocko’s answers to questions are like song titles for a post-grunge 90’s metal band. Singular, stand-alone words of the most intense format and meaning possible.

When you start having good reasons for being late - you'll start having bad reasons for being late as well.

The real WWJD - What would Jocko do? Ask yourself that everyday and you will win life.

I am one of those people that are always late but a good worker. I agree 100% that it is something that nobody should do. I am working very hard to never be late to work again.

Great Convo, I am Echo. I think people who are late really don't understand why being late is such an issue. I never made the connection until hearing Jocko's point. Thanks for this insight.

Nice, i had a boss who would schedule a meeting for 30 minutes and shows op 45 minutes later. And i am the one who was disreseptfull. Thanks Jocko, sometimes you have to move on, something i should have done sooner.

The only thing better than Echo's stories are Jockos reactions to them

This is the situation with a few of my work colleagues; all reasonably good workers. One of them especially is late every day and has been doing this for several weeks. It is such an issue at the moment I have started to wonder if I'm the fool for showing up early. Hearing Jocko's explanations on the importance of punctuality is reassuring. Also, gotta love Echo's honesty and confession of how he used to be in that 'consistently late' category.

If you are a good performer who doesn't show up / is reliably late then really you still have responsibility for what happens when you aren't there. If things fall apart in your absence it might seem like that this emphasizes your unique value but in reality it shows an area where you failed to follow through and missed achieving results. Reliability is often more important than performance because people can improve performance over time - if they are showing up - but if they aren't showing up to begin with it's very likely that they aren't very aware of at least some of their own performance problems and are thinking that because they are performing well in one specific way, they can ignore a bunch of other things that matter more than they realize. Awareness, results, and performance itself all are impacted by reliability.

That's all fine and you shouldn't be late. But construction bosses want you 10 mins early and and stay 15 minutes late. Then you never see that time on your check.

God my gf needs to hear this

Punctuality is about self respect. You're never going to respect others until you can respect yourself. You make not like your life or those in it. You'll like the people you are early for. And they you. Don't let your surroundings stymie your success. Rise above to your destiny (and be early) to it.

Omg i love this. I was on my way to work a couple of weeks ago when a guy ran into me and pushed me off the road with his giant truck. I wasnt able to open my driver side door but i still showed up to work on time and worked my entire shift after.

You know how you stop someone from coming in late? You tell them to stop disrespecting everyone elses time and then give consequences for when they're late. Usually a wage deduction works nicely.

6:14 "Why are you telling this story?"

Tony Robbins needs to take this concept to heart. Tony is Always late or he just “phones in” with a video, so to speak. Impressive as usual Joko. Thank you

Get after it!

They taught us, "Early is on-time...on-time is late." Great topic, gents!

You can really notice Jocko’s (distant) Dutch roots: being late is unacceptable.

That is one thing my six years in the Air Force ingrained in me, is respecting other people's time. Being late is unacceptable. If you're on time, you're late.

I... needed this. A lot.

To be early is to be on time. To be on time is to be late. To be late is to be left behind.

Be great at the basics!

Being on time can be detrimental to being reliable. I'm a late owl and made the following adjustments. I cancel everything that doesn't fit my schedule comfortably or I tell them upfront that I'll be late. And I cancelled all jobs and opportunities that don't fit into the time of day I'm most productive. (10am - 9pm) I'd rather move closer to my job or quit than trying to be an hour early. I tried becoming an early bird and it almost cost me my job, because my performance tanked so much. I'd rather have a surgeon who's 5 minutes late but goes through the checklist once more than one who's on time but overlooks a splinter because he's on a timer.

Thank you for the validation that I could not get from company management. LPN frequently late for 12hr shift, especially after I come in 15min early so he can go to meeting then the next morning can't be at work to let me go home on time. First brought to mgmt (2 people were always late) they made excuses for them and poo,poo it away. I person left but the other still came in late and lives 5 min from work (I'm 30 min away). Finally, took matters into my own hands, told him Repeatedly that it was Just Disrespectful !! No more complaints to office, just changed my schedule to not come in early for him anymore, anytime !! I agree, that it's habitual! ! I am never late, always leave early in case any traffic issues. I know after 12hr I want to go home, and I know that my Co worker is also ready to leave. I should forward the video to mgmt after I find a new job.