It certainly does. The lack of comforting support in the past is hard to overcome, indeed.

Right on Oprah!

Beautifully said.

Facts

**hugs** 😌

80% don't care about your problems & 20% are happy you have them.

@Frizzle Chops I agree with you 1000%!

Thank you

I've never heard this quote before, thank you for sharing it.

@@Leo-mr1qz Les Brown.

That's right. No matter our enemies, no matter our fights, no matter are. The pain can't be described in destructive ways can't really. Perhaps the pain is ascribing so many ways 1000 ways. Perhaps it can't be described in a way it feels... It's like.....

This is very true, although when constant criticism is all you're hearing it's a little more difficult lol

Precisely, we have the power to control our own destinies.

Well, that works for some people in some situations, but some events are too hard for our minds to deal with them. We're not omnipotent and we may need help to be strong.

“Realize this, and you will find strength.” Not a perfect life. Not inner peace or nirvana. Strength. Because that’s all you need sometimes.

this is an economy very few are willing to engage in. hence the replies to your comment....

Good stuff, I like that thinking!

I love how this was worded! Providing perspective from inward and outward.

Should comment that on youtubers who deleted ANY negative comments whether its valid or not 🤣 They painstakingly monitored 24/7 the comment section and sometimes disable the like and dislike button just to protect their fragile ego 🤣🤣 Why people today turns to be overly sensitive

Some people criticise others for their own ego boost.

Seven months ago, yes, but, I don't think it's like that. I mean, it is, sometimes. But there are people who just feel like ruining other lives, for absolutely no reason. This world is chaos and everybody is messed up, so I assume that's why. But criticism hurts like hell, so in my case, it's pointless to try fighting it off when it'll keep coming. So I just gave up and accepted I'm a piece of shit, that is not really all that bad.

Lol he’s ur brother…

Hostility from older brothers is appointed as one factor which causes male homosexuality; besides the hostile atitude of a neglectful and emotionally unavailable father.

@@sleepylol2054 you dont own anything to anyone just because youre related. You choose youre family :)

If you had to endure shit like that from him and now you’re better off it sounds like you were being emotionally abused. And no, you shouldn’t just love and accept that “that’s just the way things are” because they’re your family. Abuse is abuse no matter who it comes from.

Congrats for that gift to yourself!💕

I’m very proud of you for surviving workplace narcissism like that

Jesus Christ. I was literally going to say that sounds like abuse before you mentioned it. So glad you got out of there.

How awful. I'm sorry that you had to go through that

Did we work at the same place ? because this is scary familiar to what happened at my first job when i was 16-17. I was hired to be a fry cook but was for whatever reason put on the register where we were expected to put on a smile and come up with clever phrases to notify guess that the food was ready. I was very nervous (this is also around the time I discovered I had mental health imbalances) id cry in the bathroom for my entire breaks and would randomly go the the restroom just to breathe deeply because the social anxiety associated with the large crowds we'd bring in. one day i just had enough. a few days prior I didn't make my HS basketball team because one of the coaches didn't like me and I didn't know why but the others loved me and my drive to get better and how id support my teammates. so I went to work, we were closing and one of my managers was a cheerleader and girlfriend of a varsity player. She mocked how i kept missing the garbage can as i was cleaning my station and throwing things away "i see why you didn't make it you cant shoot to save your life... oooops" and walked away... So i finished cleaning and went to take the garbage out (which wasn't my job I did it anyway to get a quick smoke in(Weed then a Cig)) and as i was coming back in from the freezing Chicago December outside she "jokingly" threw a empty box at my head and said "missed a spot (laughed) that's how you get on target" or some shit like that and i lost it COMPLETE APE SHIT LOST IT. i threw it back at her snatched my name tag off balled up my shirt and threw it away screaming F this F you F LIFE etc... my Supervisors were in the back counting sales and heard the commotion and rushed out to see and calm me down but there wasn't a calm thought in my spirit lol i called my ride and before i left i remember grabbing the [LINE STARTS HERE] standing sign and launching it over the counter towards her ... a friend of mine who was in the same gang as her brothers and boyfriend and also worked there and was training me advised me to just leave now and that he'd explain everything to the boss and the guys if she said anything (saved my life really) so i left and started walking to the shopping strip that surrounded the place where i realized it was 11:30p and everything was just about closed so i stood in the cold for 30 mins waiting for my ride to find me .. moral of the lecture: If its toxic just leave its not worth the problems over reacting to gaslighting can bring

You are loved. Never forget that.

Wauw! That is both amazing! I don't want to go detailed in my private life. But I got mentally really hurt multiple times, cause of little confidence and scared. I finally see now that I need to ease off on myself and to take the progress to respect myself and to have more confidence in the real world (socially and exploring), to expand my comfort zone, to have enthusiastically fun. However, saying this all I really don't know where to start with this. Which can lead to forgetting this goal and holding on to the same spot. I don't want to forget this time around. So what I'm asking is, what strategy and search words (words to use to search for the results among this subject) did you use? What made you feel more self-respected, confident and more compassionate?

Can i ask how you do that? Cause i have trouble to do that.

I have also learned to take criticism as a learning opportunity rather than a personal attack. I remind myself that no one is perfect and that it's okay to make mistakes sometimes. I try to see criticism as a way to improve and grow rather than as a reflection of my worth as a person. By addressing my own insecurities and building my self-confidence, I am better equipped to handle criticism in a more constructive way. I am able to take feedback in stride and use it to my advantage, rather than letting it bring me down. Overall, developing self-respect, self-confidence, and self-compassion has helped me to navigate through life with more ease and resilience. I am better able to handle criticism and setbacks, and I am more confident in my abilities and worth as a person.

That's a magnificent transformation and a sign of maturity

That's not even what a perfectionist is

It’s difficult to accept criticism because of the shame that comes with it. It makes you feel like you’re not good enough which is a big fear many people have

See a psychologist

do not deny what people say to you though. you have the choice _not_ to do what they say, but listen to them is a must, no matter what

Wow I love this!!

These people are secretly unhappy and depressed.

Maybe those with an inflated sense of themselves have actually a Low sense of themselves

@@jent5573This is probable. New findings suggest narcissists are driven by self-hate more than self-love; although, it is still debatable.

Inflated sense of self is often a creation to protect from the feelings of deep inadequacy and/or shame. False confidence. Often the person is so unconscious, they are completely unaware and can’t admit this. Inflated sense of self is light years from good, healthy self esteem. The other types of low sense of self usually have some awareness of it…although usually unaware of how much it affects every aspect of their lives.

@@Alphacentauri819 i was literally about to type what you just said. People who are cocky are usually not that confident. It’s just a defense mechanism.

Duh...ya think so ..

I like that.

In moments of difficulty or challenge, it is courage that allows us to embody virtues such as kindness, honesty, and compassion. Without courage, our other virtues may remain dormant and untested. It is through acts of bravery and boldness that we are able to truly demonstrate our commitment to living a virtuous life.

This quote has terrible implications.

This statement suggests that our current struggles can often be traced back to unresolved issues from childhood. It encourages us to have compassion and understanding for ourselves, recognizing that our past experiences may have played a significant role in shaping our present challenges. By acknowledging and processing these past traumas, we can work towards healing and moving forward with greater resilience and strength.

But Sometimes you may proceive reasonable criticism as unreasonable and assuming the motive behind it was malicious just because it hurts. So I can't say I agree with your statement 100%. You need to be able to pull yourself out of your feelings for just a moment to see the person's statement from what it really is and not what you think it is.

I think criticism is always bad. I think people should much more use feedback. :)

@@a.z.9957 so if someone (or me) makes a mistake because they didn't care, then they cannot be told they did wrong? Criticism is needed. Hurting other people is not. Assuming every criticism is hurting is a huge oversimplification.

it's important to be mindful of how we communicate our feedback to others

Bullies grow up in an environment where emotions and sensitivity is viewed as weakness, and they may have experienced neglect or abuse themselves. They may also have low self-esteem and use bullying as a way to feel powerful and in control. It is important to address and prevent bullying behavior early on to help support the emotional and mental well-being of individuals who may be at risk of becoming a bully. Providing support and resources for individuals who have experienced bullying, as well as promoting empathy and understanding in all individuals, can help create a more compassionate and inclusive environment for everyone.

Overall, criticism can hurt so much because it taps into our deepest fears and insecurities, triggering feelings of worthlessness, failure, and rejection. It is important to develop resilience and self-compassion to cope with criticism in a healthy way and not let it undermine our self-worth.

It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique perspectives and opinions, and it's impossible to please everyone all the time. Instead of focusing on criticism or negativity, we should strive to be kind and empathetic towards others, and remember that we are all human and make mistakes. Let's try to spread positivity and understanding, and treat others the way we would like to be treated.

This is so me!!! I hate criticism and I'm awful at taking it gracefully, every time one of my parents gets even the least bit angry or upset with me, I cry for hours on end, and end up hating myself and feeling like an awful person, yet they loved and cared for me my whole life, never insulted me or abused or manipulated me, never hit me or physically hurt me, never negelected me, were always there for me. Yet I still can't take criticism like a normal child. My parents are my best friends, which I guess is why their criticism hurts the most, I want to make them proud of me😢

@@lilysticha7564same here, thats why sometimes i think im the one who should not be exist...

You're welcome! It's important to remember that we are all a work in progress and healing from past experiences takes time and effort. Embracing your inner child and showing her love and compassion is a powerful way to nurture and heal yourself. Keep going on your journey of personal growth and know that you are not alone. You are strong and capable of overcoming any challenges that come your way. Keep shining bright!

I am so glad that the video resonated with you and helped you understand the root of your struggles. It can be incredibly healing to reflect on our past experiences and give ourselves the love and compassion that we may have been missing. Remember that it's never too late to start standing up for yourself and believing in your worth. You are valuable and deserving of love and respect. Keep pushing forward and working on building yourself up. You have the power to overcome your past and create a bright future for yourself. Thank you for sharing your story. You are not alone in your journey. Stay strong and keep believing in yourself. ❤

cringe :P but thank you anyway.

I wonder why people do this at work places, it’s so toxic and doesn’t reflect teamwork spirit everyone proves they have.

It sounds like you made a difficult but ultimately necessary decision to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being. It's important to recognize when a job is negatively impacting your mental health and to take steps to remove yourself from that situation. Remember to give yourself grace and time to heal from the experiences you had at your previous job. It may also be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor to process your feelings and develop coping strategies moving forward. You deserve to work in an environment where you feel valued and appreciated.

I'm so glad to hear that this video was able to bring you peace and comfort during a difficult time. It's important to remember that your accomplishments are worth celebrating, no matter what others may say. Keep shining bright and don't let anyone dim your light. Thank you for sharing your experience and I wish you continued strength and success on your journey.

Totally!! And when one struggles with seemingly relentless self doubt, one can't drive one's friends and loved ones crazy with the need for constant reassurance. It's a balm to be able to visit this channel and find strength and validation as a quick reminder of the mechanisms at play in one's mind.

The best way to fight bullies is to think posetive, to ignore and block them on social media, and to be brave and never stop doing what you love the most. The bullies bully others for a reason, because they are happy and strong, they want to take away others happiness and power. By not giving them the satisfaction of a reaction and continuing to focus on yourself and what makes you happy, you are taking away their power and control over you. Remember that you are strong and capable, and never let anyone else's negativity bring you down. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who lift you up, and always remember that you are enough just as you are.

It's great to hear that you are actively working on breaking the cycle of criticism in your family. It takes a lot of effort and self-awareness to make that change, so kudos to you for making that choice. Remember, it's never too late to start showing kindness and positivity to those around you. Keep practicing and keep striving to be better every day! You deserve to be surrounded by love and support.

Yeah the irony. To be fair to de Botton though, lots of professional critics get their kicks out of bringing others down (perhaps failed writers themselves) and a critique can make or break a book. John Gray's books ( author of the classic "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) are continuously slammed by the "woke" agenda, so one never knows how objective critiques are. If I am not mistaken, de Botton later apologized.

Damm!

Additionally, it is crucial for parents, teachers, and caregivers to model positive behavior and communication skills, as children often learn how to interact with others through observation and imitation. Teaching children about empathy, kindness, and conflict resolution can help prevent bullying behavior from developing in the first place. Creating a safe and supportive environment, both at home and in schools, where individuals feel valued, heard, and respected is essential in addressing and preventing bullying. It is important to address any incidents of bullying promptly and effectively, and provide appropriate resources and support for both the victim and the aggressor. By promoting positive values and behaviors, fostering empathy and understanding, and addressing the root causes of bullying behavior, we can work towards creating a society where everyone feels accepted and respected. Together, we can create a more compassionate and inclusive community for all individuals.

I have come to learn that there will always be negativity and evil in the world, but it is up to us to choose how we respond to it. We have the power to overcome the darkness by shining our own light of kindness, compassion, and love. Through my experiences, I have grown stronger and more resilient, knowing that I have the ability to rise above the negativity and embrace the goodness that still exists in the world. I have learned to appreciate the small acts of kindness, the beauty in the world, and the goodness in humanity. So, I choose to focus on the positive, to be a force for good, and to spread kindness wherever I go. I have found peace and happiness in knowing that I am making a difference and that there is still hope for a brighter future. I believe that by being the change we wish to see in the world, we can inspire others to do the same and create a ripple effect of positivity and kindness that can transform the world for the better. And in doing so, we can prove that there is still good in this world.

Sounds like your boss is unhappy.

I'm sorry to hear that you received a passive-aggressive message from your boss on your day off. It can be difficult to deal with negative communication from a superior, especially when you are not at work. Remember to take care of yourself and prioritize your own well-being. If you need to address the situation, consider having a calm and assertive conversation with your boss when you are back at work. Take care. ❤

Hateful criticism should be dismissed because it is -the toxic person’s problem?

Feedback given with love, care, and respect can help someone grow and improve, while criticism delivered with hate, anger, or a lack of empathy can be damaging and demoralizing. It's important to remember to always approach feedback with kindness and consideration for the other person's feelings.

In my whole life i meet evil and negative people who hurt me, i used to think that the world was full of darkness and that there was no good left in humanity. But as I grew older and gained more life experience, I realized that there are still good and kind-hearted people in this world. I learned to focus on the positivity around me and to distance myself from toxic individuals who only bring negativity into my life. I surrounded myself with uplifting and supportive individuals who truly cared about me and my well-being. By doing so, I was able to find inner peace and happiness despite the trials and tribulations that life threw at me. I learned to not let the darkness of others dim my own light and to always strive to be a beacon of positivity and kindness in a sometimes cruel world. I now believe that there is still good in this world and that it is up to us to cultivate and spread that goodness wherever we go. It may not always be easy, but by focusing on the positive and being a light in the darkness, we can make a difference and create a better world for ourselves and those around us.

I get alot of hate comments online by jerks and it hurts me but i learned to ignore them and focus on the positive feedback instead. It was times when i asked the bully why they said the hurtful words but they just ignored me. I realized that these people were just looking for attention and trying to bring me down to make themselves look strong. In reality they were just insecure and unhappy with themselves. Bullying is big problem in west world. Begin mean is seen as cool in media. But I refuse to let their negativity affect me. I choose to rise above it and focus on spreading positivity and kindness. It may be tough at times, but I remind myself that their words are not a reflection of who I am as a person. I am strong, confident, and worthy of love and respect. I also make sure to surround myself with supportive friends and family who lift me up and encourage me to be the best version of myself. It's important to have a strong support system to lean on during tough times. I also try to educate others on the impact of cyberbullying and the importance of spreading kindness online. It's important for all of us to be mindful of our words and actions and the impact they can have on others. In the end, I have learned to not let the haters get to me. I will continue to spread positivity and kindness in the face of negativity, and I hope that others will join me in this mission. Together, we can make the online world a better and more positive place for everyone.

I have also learned to surround myself with positive and supportive people who uplift me and make me feel good about myself. It's important to not let bullies get to you and remember that their words are a reflection of their own insecurities, not your worth as a person. Stand tall and know that you are strong and capable, and don't let anyone bring you down. Keep spreading positivity and love, and eventually the haters will fade away into the background. Stay true to yourself and keep shining bright.

I made a conscious decision to not let these negative comments affect me and my self-esteem. I surrounded myself with supportive and positive people who uplifted me and reminded me of my worth. I focused on my passions and strengths, and let my accomplishments speak for themselves. I also learned to detach myself emotionally from these bullies and not take their words personally. I reminded myself that their hateful comments said more about them than they did about me. I found solace in the fact that I was not the only one facing online hate, and that many others have also dealt with similar situations. Ultimately, I found peace and strength in rising above the negativity and choosing to spread kindness and positivity instead. I made a conscious effort to not let the bullies get to me and to focus on my own journey and growth. It was not easy, but staying true to myself and surrounding myself with love and support helped me navigate through the online hate and come out stronger on the other side.

1. Remember that criticism is not a reflection of your worth as a person. People's opinions are subjective and do not define who you are. 2. Take a step back and try to see the criticism objectively. Is there any truth to it? Can you learn from it and use it to improve yourself? 3. Focus on your strengths and the things that make you unique. Remind yourself of your value and the positive qualities you possess. 4. Surround yourself with supportive and positive people who uplift you and remind you of your worth. 5. Practice self-care and self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially during times of criticism. 6. Remember that you cannot please everyone, and it's okay to have different opinions. Focus on being true to yourself and staying authentic. 7. Take a break from social media or any other sources of negativity if you find them to be triggering. Protect your mental health and well-being. 8. Seek professional help or counseling if you are struggling to cope with criticism and negative comments. It's okay to ask for help and support.

I'm a little different. For me, it's how they criticize and how witnesses react. False criticisms are very destructive to my life whereas true criticisms only hurt if it's a strategic attack against how everyone views my character. False criticisms leave people wondering if it's true. Small minds will accept the lie against you as fact, you lost them. Average minds will take a middle ground but remain skeptical about you. If you deny "too many" False accusations, most people stop believing and trusting you. All of have a ripple affect than can destroy how almost anyone sees you. And now you go through life as the unknown hero who most people look down on and mistreat because of a few false accusations. People are really dumb and inconsiderate.

@@TiggerNyeah I feel that. I feel like it just goes to show that those people were never our people though. It hurts.

@@TiggerNyeah also if they are easily swayed (“small minds” that you referred to) from what I’ve seen usually means they are insecure themselves, and they see the world through that lens “I’m bad and you’re bad” or “I’m good and you’re bad”. Secure people may be wary and healthily skeptical for a time but won’t act out on it, and it usually doesn’t last long once they see it isn’t true. They form their own opinions and don’t take others lenses as true just because they were said, but question them if needed for a short time and then move forward. They won’t remain skeptical. I’m learning so much about security vs insecurity and how much insecurity can hurt ourselves and relationships. I still have a lot of healing to do on my own insecurity, but I’m sorry to hear how others’ has impacted you.

1. Remember that it's not about you: Understand that negative comments are often a reflection of the commenter's own insecurities, biases, or unhappiness. It says more about them than it does about you. 2. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself mentally and emotionally by engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Surround yourself with supportive and positive people who lift you up. 3. Focus on the positive: Remind yourself of all the positive feedback and compliments you've received in the past. Use these as reminders of your worth and capabilities. 4. Don't take it personally: Try to detach yourself emotionally from the negative comments. Remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it doesn't define who you are as a person. 5. Learn from it: Use criticism as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. Consider if there is any validity to the feedback and if there are aspects of yourself or your work that you can work on. 6. Practice gratitude: Cultivate a gratitude practice to shift your focus from negative comments to all the blessings and positive aspects of your life. 7. Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about how you're feeling. Sharing your thoughts and emotions can help you process and move past the hurt. 8. Remember your worth: Remind yourself of your strengths, accomplishments, and unique qualities that make you who you are. Don't let negative comments dim your light.

Additionally, implementing strong anti-bullying policies in schools and workplaces, as well as encouraging bystander intervention, can also help prevent and address bullying behavior. It is important for both individuals and institutions to take a stand against bullying and create a safe and inclusive environment for all. Overall, addressing the root causes of bullying in the western world requires a concerted effort to challenge toxic masculinity, violence, and power dynamics, and promote empathy, respect, and kindness. By working together to promote a culture of inclusivity and acceptance, we can create a world where bullying is no longer tolerated or accepted.

1. Develop thick skin: Remember that not everyone will like or agree with you, and that's okay. It's important to understand that negative comments say more about the person making them than they do about you. 2. Focus on the positive: Instead of dwelling on the negative comments, shift your focus to the positive feedback you receive. Remind yourself of your strengths and achievements to boost your self-confidence. 3. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. Surround yourself with supportive and positive people who lift you up and remind you of your worth. 4. Don't take it personally: Try to detach yourself from the negativity and recognize that everyone has their own issues and insecurities that may lead them to criticize others. 5. Respond with kindness: Instead of reacting with anger or defensiveness, respond gracefully and with kindness. This can disarm the negativity and may even lead to a more constructive conversation. 6. Learn and grow: Use negative feedback as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. Reflect on the criticism and see if there are any valid points that you can learn from and apply in the future. 7. Seek professional help: If negative comments are severely impacting your mental health and self-esteem, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate these feelings in a healthy way.

Bullying exist in west world because we have toxic masculinity and glamorize violence. The 80s yuppie culture¨ and 90s "tough guy" image promoted aggression and dominance as desirable traits, leading to a culture where bullying and harassment were often normalized. Additionally, the media often depicts bullying behavior as entertaining or justifiable, further perpetuating the problem. These attitudes can contribute to a cycle of violence and intimidation, making it difficult to address and prevent bullying in Western societies. Overall, addressing the root causes of bullying in Western societies requires a cultural shift towards valuing empathy, respect, and kindness over aggression and dominance. It also requires creating systems and policies that prioritize the safety and well-being of all individuals, regardless of their perceived status or power. By challenging toxic masculinity, dismantling hierarchies, and promoting empathy and understanding, we can work towards creating a society where bullying is not tolerated or normalized.

I know it's not a big problem but it felt like it was backed up by the hundred other times I faced similar situations and the amount of time I put into of work I truly cared about.

Instead of focusing on people's faults and criticizing them, it would be more helpful and compassionate to also acknowledge and applaud their strengths and efforts. Everyone is going through their own struggles and challenges, and using those against them only adds to their burden. It's important to remember that nobody is perfect and we all have room to grow and improve. Instead of criticizing, it would benefit everyone to offer guidance and support in a positive and constructive manner. Let's focus on lifting each other up rather than tearing each other down.

@@PoisonelleMisty4311 True…Humans need to give themselves and others grace. It’s okay and there is room for improvement as far as no one is being hurt. Because if hurting is involved then that’s a different story.

@@rosaclick1995 Absolutely, showing grace and compassion towards oneself and others is essential for personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships. Thank you so much for your kind words and support! 😊❤ I really appreciate it. Just know that I've been through my fair share of rude comments and bullying in the past, so I understand how it feels.

@@PoisonelleMisty4311 I’m so sorry you went through such hun. Always remember that those wrong things said to you are never a reflection of who you are, people who say negative things to other people are only projecting their insecurities onto others. Do not let anyone make you feel less because you are worth more than words can quantify. I am glad you overcame those bullies, and be proud of yourself always xx.

Bullying exist in west world because we have toxic masculinity and glamorize violence. Just look at the media we consume, where aggression and dominance are often portrayed as desirable traits. Additionally, our society tends to value strength and power, leading to a culture that can enable and even promote bullying behavior. Furthermore, many individuals in positions of power, such as politicians and celebrities, may also engage in or condone bullying behavior, further perpetuating the cycle. This can create a sense of impunity for those who bully others, as they may believe they will face few consequences for their actions. In order to address bullying in the western world, we must challenge and change these harmful norms and behaviors. This includes promoting healthy and respectful relationships, teaching empathy and compassion, and holding individuals accountable for their actions. By creating a culture that values kindness and understanding, we can work towards a society free of bullying and violence.

@@PoisonelleMisty4311 totally agree!

I'll be rooting for you. 🤛✨ Keep me updated 🌺

A therapist shouldn’t get mad at their client stating their needs, if they do, run! I think therapists appreciate feedback from their clients on how best to help them, and you have to be open too, they are there to help.