"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Robin Williams

“you are never alone unless you abandon yourself” - Ralph Smart

"Ten years ago I met a man in his 70s on a train in Kerala. When I asked if he minded travelling alone he replied: "I'm not alone, I'm by myself." I always remember this when I'm eating out by myself or do anything without companions. It changes everything" I read this somewhere and I love it

I had this phase as a 20-22 yr old where I felt NO connection to anyone. I was so lonely. I had been depressed and anxious to the point of madness almost, for years. The turning point was when I got this realization, and it became my motto: "If you can't be alone in the middle of a desert, hundreds of miles away from the closest human being and still be content - you will never find true meaning in social interactions". My point was that the motivation for befriending people and finding things in common with others can never come from a place of need, but must come from want. When you are FINE with being alone and you CHOOSE to be with other people, those interations will be meaningful. So it's OKAY to choose to sit by yourself for months or even a year - like I did, just to think, reflect, find the YOURSELF. When you start doing that your mental problems will diminish and your desire for interactions with others will come naturally and at YOUR terms. You can select which ones are worth spending time with, and if there's no good choices out there in the given moment, then solitude beats hanging with and trying to win the respect of a**holes every time! And as time goes by you will find maye a couple of people that actually care about you and that are a net positive to your life. Focus on them, and continue to be open for more relations of that type. As the years go by you will have a small but quality click of people around you that are always there, that understand and know the real you. It's worth a lot. Now I'm 36 and I don't have a hard time finding out anymore which ones are the good people when I'm in a new situation. I find friends anywhere and I keep the rotten ones out of my life. I spend a lot of time alone still and I enjoy it. I can not be coerced into anything. I have developed my own principles and standards. And I've never been more happy. The journey still continues though - there is no such thing as "done" with mental growth.

Dr. K once again coming in clutch with content that addresses the "loneliness epidemic", all without the toxicity, shaming or vitriolic groupthink which blames entire groups of people for these issues.

I was just thinking about how lonely I was inside, although on the outside I'm surrounded by "friends" who aren't really friends. Thanks man

I used to be sad about being lonely until I realized I don't actually enjoy being around other people that much. I prefer the company of my computer and fish

I've never been lonely, I have had a couple of friends but my main killer of loneliness has been having a dog they don't lie and love me unconditionally.

People need human connection and are creating increasing amounts of challenges for themselves in cultivating it. Not about how many people you are surrounded by, it’s about how connected you feel to those people.

Its always sooo much better to be alone than in a BAD relationship ❤

I live alone, work fully remote, and am in a new city. I fancied an adventure, and it's hard! I thought I made one new friend, but then we fell out pretty badly, and I blocked her. I went on a few dates, and had similarly bad luck. Strangely, as much as this period of my life is presenting me with very real emotional challenges, this video says things that I feel like I instinctively understand. It's essentially the age-old observation that a lot of life satisfaction comes down to the harmony you create within yourself.

Im actually worried im getting too comfortable with loneliness

The only advantage to being lonely is it either teaches you to appreciate human companionship and therefore instills compassion and empathy for others and/or it teaches you that most people are shallow and dumb and therefore are not worth so much as one millisecond of one’s time! Either way it teaches you a lot about one’s fellow species!

I've recently broke with my girlfriend. We planned our marriage for the next year. However she was incompatible with me. It hurts, but I started to appreciate again my loneliness. Edit: thank you all. I see that I'm not the only one in this situation. I wish you the best too

Finally someone says some truth! I don't hate being alone, but it does get annoying that I'm looked down upon for being alone too much. 99% of my discomfort comes from the cognitive dissonance of thinking I should be "connecting" with people when we don't have common interests.

Finally, someone says what I experience and think. People constantly urge me to socialize more even though I explain it is something I find highly discomforting and when I need it I'll go out to the grocery store and I'm fine. Even mental health professionals have insisted that I have to be more social and don't understand how much enjoyment I experience in solitude.

I like Dr K teaching us this kind of thinking where emotions aren’t just a binary good or bad thing, but that they all have their proper situations and function. This kind of nuance is much needed in our culture, thank you

Thanks for this, timing is perfect, I'm 45 and this hits me; I message people and they don't respond, live alone but relax with my dogs, feel alone then go out to bar, then feel more alone 😂, then go home and don't go out for ages, due to anxiety about it. However recently I've been enjoying my alone time, walking the dogs, enjoying gaming with random people not my original group that dont seem to contact anymore, enjoying reading, films, and being outdoors.i feel it's a more peaceful path and feel more content.

As a 16 yr old who has literally been lonely my entire life, having 0 friends and having only my parents and advertisements on my contacts list. I see this as an absolute win.

What I like about that video is when Dr. K is talking about things that I'm already doing. It confirms that I'm on the right path and also help me go further on the path to happiness and well-being. I've learned to be by myself and enjoy my time alone. I do also feel that it's easier to connect with other people when you are connected with yourself. I used to attract toxic people in my life but now I can see a shift toward healthier relationships. It's a journey. It's difficult at the beginning but it's well worth the effort. Keep the good work Dr. K and HG Team.

Next time my mom tells me I need to "go out into the world", I'm going to send her this. (For reference, I'm a 28 years old autistic female, and after years of having been "out in the world" and suffering severe burnout as a consequence, I'm now quite content on my own, thankyou.)

Next Healthy GG video title: "Why being dead is an advantage"

Truly amazing piece of content. I go through this cycle all the time and have eventually learned to enjoy my solitude. Having it defined and explained in this format really helps organize my thoughts to try to be a a more rational, stable person. Mental illness is a pandemic and not a lot of people have a means to receive support for it. Your work is truly amazing Dr. K.

I absolutely loved this distinction between Loneliness and Solitude. I also noticed this within myself - I’ve been integrating a daily walk in my routine - so basically, Solitude. My mood is now better than before, and I struggle with depression. Thank you!

THANK YOU for validating that people suck more these days. I was last single/fell in love in 2015 (before Trump was even taken seriously, before the heat waves and wildfire smoke every summer, etc). And I’ve realized dating now, it’s not just that I’m 8 years older, but the general vibe of people is that we are all more burnt out and inconsiderate… it’s been hard to find someone as emotionally available and positive as the person I was with. And to be fair I’m way more jaded too and exhausted than I was back then. :(

This is the video that I needed Dr. K. One of my problems is that even surrounded by people I have felt lonely and I asked myself why that happened. Now I understand, choosing and forced to do something makes a huge difference

Being lonely and incredibly depressed has its perks 🔥🔥🔥

that was brilliant! makes me remember and value the joy of solitude. also explains why dating apps made me feel lonely - constantly trying to connect but feeling alone - ugh! so glad to be done with them.

Thank you for what you do man we really appreciate it.

this video came up to me in a perfect timing. i have a lot of solitude (when i used to be so lonely) and when i try to socialize i get frustrated because people are weird and they do suck more then they used to, exactly as you said. most of people 19-20s are so distant and addicted to a virtual device, more selfish and careless, apathetic. so i get frustrated and go back to my own world, which is peaceful and filled with things i enjoy doing once i’m focusing in myself and my future. to me, that was the key. thank you for this video! your content really helpful and valuable.

Love this! I just graduated college which means I went from having people around me constantly with things to do and absolutely no time to myself to unemployed, alone, and under stimulated in a way. It took me a while to appreciate that I finally achieved the alone time I craved in college and started making my alone time intentional.

Thanks, Gamer, for explaining how I feel! I really needed to hear it, because somehow I feel good sitting at home by myself in my last few years (yes it was hard at first), but now it is mostly my choice to avoid interactions after work. But also what I have observed, that talking to people & expressing myself is way easier & I rarely feel uncomfortable or anxious. Thanks again! 💚

Admittedly I haven't talked to many therapists, but I think very few have your level of cultural connection to my, let's say, generation. It is fascinating how you casually brought up AITA type subreddits, social media activity around the israel-palestine situation and the comic with the pink blob that so many of us know. Because from that I can tell that you experienced those in the same situations we have and really understand and explain the psychology around it accurately. There's older people with great wisdom and great understanding of human psychology, but if they've never scrolled on facebook for more than an hour, don't have an instagram account and haven't even heard of reddit, they won't really get that side of you. It's like they're standing ten meters away trying to explain to you how to build a table, while you're right next to me and I can just tell what you're pointing at and why.

A couple months back I had my house to myself for about a week and during that time I just played games and watched videos with little to no interaction with anyone and had a great time. A couple months after this I started college, not knowing anyone and having some brief interaction with others and I felt awful and lonely. This video has put these two events that seemed so contradictory in my head into context.

Thanks! This video has really helped me tremendously and was a breath of fresh air 😊. Thank you so much for making this video and I see you are almost at 2.00 million subscribers!!

This video is such a reassurring video for me. I’ve just moved to another country and I was feeling lonely and was just in my room when I wasn’t at work, and suddenly all my insecurities and fears came out and I didn’t know how to deal with them. I didn’t know the word solitude and I couldn’t say it with words as well, but I felt it and did start to make some solitude activities during my day. I started working out, started to make a sleep schedule, a morning and night routine, reading books etc. and now that I’m doing all of these things I feel really good about myself and started to connect with other people a lot more and it feels easier. I’m thankful for Dr.K making these videos because I allways learn something new from them or/and about myself.

It’s very reaffirming and interesting how you put into words the realization I’ve come too recently. Prioritizing my own solitude has done nothing but improve my overall happiness and self esteem.

This has been extremely helpful for my current situation. Thanks for this one, Dr K.

I absolutely agree with that. To be honest, I was always raised being extroverted and socializing. My family literally was sitting with me at the dinner table telling me that being alone is the worst which could ever happen to me and that I need to be like others want me to be to have a place in life with many friends and contacts. I needed a place in my very own flat first to recognize that something like solitude does even excist. And it changed so much for me. Before, I was under intense pressure and always on the run pleasing others. Now I have some real, deep contacts with a few friends and here and there someone deep minded joins my solitude life while sitting in a park or at a café and it just feels right and I have more energy and more skills in socializing than I had before. The weird thing is, people still ask me in a worried manner if I would be okay and if I even have friends.... That's so strange 😳

The more of these videos I watch, the more I think this is one of the most important channels I've had recommended to me (by the algorithm). Side note: I've recently given up caffeine, which has had a subtle but profound effect. I'm much less in high emotional states and finding it so much easier to spend time alone and with friends. It's early days, but I'm starting to think it's had a more profound effect than quitting alcohol, although I'd recommend that too. Thanks for your work, Dr. K.

I think a lot of people are afraid to be alone, but at the same time afraid open up to others and show their true selves. And I have the feeling that because of that, they're stuck in shallow "friendships" with a lot of smalltalk and they can't talk about how they feel with these people. And then they have to pretend to be happy in public, so that's harder than being alone, I think so anyway. When I feel bad by myself, I can try to find an activity to cheer myself up, find inspiration from a youtube video, laugh at a funny meme I can relate to. If you feel bad in a group that doesn't understand why you feel bad, the group may very well make you think your feelings and thoughts aren't valid and add insult to injury. So it's good to live in solitude for at least a while, I think, to be the captain of your own life.

Okay, I’ll give this a shot too. I corrected my sleep schedule 3 days ago by following that lecture, and now I’m consistently rising by 6am. It’s great! I always want to be surrounded by people, but when I get the chance, I lie and front around them, and it truly sucks. I don’t tell massive lies to them, but I embellish certain things about myself so that they’ll like me☹️, or I’ll focus on one aspect of myself for too long. So I will try solitude. Engage in more time spent just being with myself without distraction. Going on walks not solely for exercise, but for enjoyment and pleasure.

It is weird how well you describe me in some of these videos! I fell like this one explains what I went through during the pandemic. I truly learned how to be alone with myself even though I have lived alone 90% of my adult life. I actually remember telling myself several times “I could go out today, but I’m going to chose to stay home.” - just so I could make it my choice. Becoming comfortable with solitude and myself has changed my attitude to work, family, dating and just about everything. I keep saying I just don’t internalize some of these dramas anymore, but I couldn’t tell you exactly why until I watched this video.

Honestly: you are one of my most favorite channels - you can explain the things so damn well. I've had to many times, where it made "click" in my brain right after your explanations and also, I can take much information, to make my life better and more enjoyable. And also, I'm learning much about my psychis works, which has a tremendous influence on how I behave in certain situations. All in all: really good channel, intetesting topics and well explained. Chapeau!

“Need everyone else to conform to whatever I want.” What a satisfying way of putting what’s become stress inducing about the world around us lately

You just explained so much going on in my life. I'm not gonna post the novel I originally wrote here, but just know that this has me really working through some stuff. Thanks.

going through a break-up of a long standing relationship right now and the concepts in this video have been incredibly helpful. Thank you for posting it.

I did not think about it before. Thanks for the video!

One good thing about not having anyone around you is you can work on yourself in silence as well

Great analysis. I never fully realized how happy I have always been whilst engaged in low arousal (positive) activities. I was never a sports fan or outdoorsy kind of guy, so I got my pleasure from music, books, movies, etc. Still do. Conversely, I was at a friend's wedding a few months ago and I felt miserably alone even though I was surrounded by people. I was the only single person at a table of couples who all knew each other. They weren't bad people, but they had their own thing going, so why bring in an outsider they'd most likely never see again. I couldn't wait to get out of there so I could go home and put on a movie or something. This was eye opening.

Dr. K Thank youuuuuu for being you & sharing all this wisdom!!! I believe it has & will help many people learn to love themselves more & not to look externally for all their needs. Couldn’t agree w you more that people are changing for the worst & social media has destroyed a part of our souls. You are a light in this world!!! Thank you for what you do!!! 🎉❤

The timing of these videos are just perfect. Exactly when i need them. Thank you cosmos :)

Dr K how is your timing so good. I was literally thinking about this stuff 10 minutes ago.

Being alone is the only thing keeping me sane rn

Such a great video. Subscribed. This is exactly why I leave social media and don't attend any holiday parties in December (the most difficult time of year for me as I am totally without family and that is the time everything is based around family it seems) - being surrounded by people who are in a completely different place/circumstances talking about things I can't relate to at all makes me feel totally alone and alien. Time at home alone doing yoga, reading, painting etc brings me peace and contentment :)

I cannot thank you enough hhGG, you've helped me (and many others) more than anybody else has EVER, please never stop making helpful content, you're amazing

You say more helpful insights in 5min than any of my few past psychologists in 5 hours, thank you!

Such a great video on an important topic. Thank you, Dr. K!

Soo blessed to have you on you tube! 😊

I like how well-timed this video is. It's incredibly difficult for me to desire social interactions given my past experiences and the stress of my daily life. In the end, it just isn't worth the effort, but I've also spent a large portion of my life feeling lonely. So, when I withdrew from social interactions, I ended up surprised when I was more happy and content with my life compared to being around other people. I've limited my social interactions over the past couple of years and I honestly like the amount of personal growth I've experienced because of my solitude. When I'm ready for a social life again, I'm sure I'll be in a far more healthy state of mind.

This whole video is ecstacy for me because everything that DR. K said here has always been my tought proccess on the current state of the world. It makes me feel validated.

I completely understand everything your saying and I feel like I can be a monk for real if I wanted to pursue it. I’ve been choosing solitude for years now and it worked wonders for me. Being a homebody changed my anger and sadness and I feel more content with life and I’m just at peace. The conversations I have with people are more meaningful and less like an unspoken script. “How are you? Good how about you? Good”

Thank you so much for this video. Keep up the good work.

Dr. K, you always break my brain in the best ways possible. Thanks for this one.

In middle school, my parents started homeschooling me. I lived in a rural area so there weren't any social spaces within walking distance. At first it was extremely lonely, so lonely that I became severely depressed for most of my middle school years. These feelings came from my toxic family situation, my preoccupied friends, and my inability to go anywhere myself. Believe me, I tried to reach out, but I had an average of maybe 3-4 sleepovers each year... eventually I stopped trying. But.... I also eventually tried to get help from within myself, instead of others (which had failed so many times before). I finally found my solitude, and it was nice. I stopped trying to appease others. I actively avoided family interactions. I just vibed with myself and genuinely enjoyed my own company. My depression went from crushing, to just an afterthought. It's been taken away from me now, the solitude, as I'm in a much smaller house now. Interactions are inevitable and my family doesn't understand privacy or time alone.... I would give anything to get my solitude back. Cherish yours. You don't know if it will get taken from you.

It’s so helpful to finally have the language to articulate why I don’t mind spending time by myself and not feeling lonely to my family and not being looked like like a weirdo

FANTASTIC VIDEO. ABSOLUTELY BOMB DROPPING MASTERPIECE THANK YOU DR K.

You always have the right message at the right I appreciate everything you do and I hope you continue to do it

I'm glad to understand more about my loneliness with these videos, tysm! Also, do you have a more in-depth guide of turning isolation to solitude? I feel like I could learn way more from this ♥

I am 24 and have never had a girlfriend. I don't feel sex deprived and I feel like I am doing okayish emotionally wise but sometimes I feel like it would be nice to have a romantic partner. Thing is, I am so used to doing everything on my own that I legit cannot see reality when a huge part of my life revolves around somebody. I understand that you should still have a life of your own while being in a relationship but if you don't share a significant part of your life, is there even a point in being in the relationship? I need to make a space in my every day life for that other person but at the same time until I actually meet that other person the space I made will just make my life more empty and you have no gurantee that you will actually meet that person. It feels like taking a huge gamble. Idk maybe it's just because of my lack of dating experience but I feel like I am stuck in a catch 22 kind of situation. I feel like a lot of the content aimed at single people tries to almost say "being single is objectively better than being in a relationship". While for me it's more of a "Sometimes it sucks but it is what it is"

This was so good to watch. I just came back from a trip around half the world that i went by myself, and I mostly didn't feel much alone, cause I always just felt in the great company of myself. It's exactly the same thing dr K talked about here, just enjoying your own company deeply, and build that relationship with yourself, know yourself and love yourself. But now that I came back to my home, I've felt very weird and alone and unproductive, and I think it's because being back I went back to feeling like I'm not choosing to be with myself, it's just what it is, so this video helps me see it much more clearly!

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.

The thing is that you can't rely on people. They are unreliable. They are always making big plan, like a get together, and when the times come, they bail. Their words mean nothing anymore. I am the kind of person that is more "my words are my bond", if I say that I will be there, then I will, however don't expect that from 95% of the people out there.

I love your perspective about loneliness. Just because people suck, you shouldn’t have to feel terrible about not keeping on terrible friends in the lieu of finding good people around you. It’s important to have fun no matter if people are around or not. People suck, in general.

Absssssolutely love your channel!!!❤ thanks for your fantastic input and tips!!! ❤

You are a genius! This video is so well-organized and easy to follow through,Thank you for contents like this rather than all the crap out here, much love

In the wise words of Relient k, “loneliness and solitude are two things not to get confused, because I spent my solitude with you.” As a kid, I was devastatingly lonely; as a burned out full-time student, single parent, etc., I guard my precious solitude fiercely or dearly pay the price of overextending myself or taking what little time I have to be home with my kid, at peace and something resembling rest.

I got my current job shortly before that corona bs happened. Full remote, I've never been to an office or met a colleague in person yet. The ability to simply close the zoom session, turn up the music and just don't care is amazing. I felt lonely for a while but it changed when I cared less about what society dictates. And I'm learning that the anxiety I feel when I have to leave the house could as well be excitement.

Dr K I just wanna say you're so amazing bro. you have helped me a lot in self assessing my issues and honestly your overall vibe is very intellectual. you've helped me think about mental health and many other social issues from various perspectives. Truly a gem of a man ❤❤

Such a well made video. Took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you Dr. K, this was so helpful and I really needed it.

Something for those who live by themselves. There is one thing I like to do by myself that often helps me: Tidying up and cleaning my living space. Often when I feel unwell or depressed for a longer period of time, my living space suffers. It doesn't matter how others would perceive it, but when it's too much of a mess in my eyes and I wouldn't want anyone to enter it, then this usually makes me feel even worse about myself even when I'm not at home. But once I start to clean everything up I feel so much calmer. Maybe that's because I feel less like I have to hide some part of myself and I know that I could invite other people to my home at any time, if I wanted to? Not completely sure, but I know that it makes a difference in how I feel about myself and my impression is that this is something people notice. Also it's incredible how often people talk about doing chores. So, one more topic I could add to the smalltalk and "can relate" list. Which makes me feel a bit less lonely. :) Since I noticed this about myself I sometimes do look forward to being by myself after work, because then I have time to take care of my place. And that's so awesome, cause this way being alone can actually lead to something that makes me feel better about myself.

That quadrant of low/high arousal positive/negative emotions is brilliant. It explains why in the past where I carefully curated my alone time reading books or playing selected videogames/watching selected movies or sports games and avoided most social media and empty browsing it was much easier to socialise and it was me who calmed down all the stressed people around...

I was just overloading myself with highly arousing KZfaq content when I decided to listen to your talk. Thanks for your wise words. I often think that I’m lonely and forget that it’s by choice. Thanks for reminding me how much I enjoy my simple daily routine. Preparing my tasty breakfast, straightening out the house, etc., all the simple solitary things I do for myself. Chasing after social interaction can be quite counterproductive.

Thank you 🙏 this really helps ❤

This honestly came at a really good time for me. I had a LDR partner who broke up with me two months ago when I returned to college to continue my undergrad in Electrical Engineering while working a full-time job atm 60-80 hrs/week. I had a lot of ppl I cut out of my life this year because they were toxic, but my partner that I loved breaking up with me and getting with a guy IRL broke my soul. I was feeling emotionally crushed by my workload and emotional baggage yesterday while studying for my final exam in electromagnetics while also recalling lonely thoughts abt my ex. I've pretty much have been forced into being in solitude by my workload, living by myself, and being single, but after finishing my final exam and doing well I felt a huge heavy load off my chest today and some semblance of peace. This video came out at the right time.

Every time I watch a Dr. K video I’m reminded of 1) How brilliantly amazing he is. And 2) How I’m not alone and can improve! Big up Dr.K :D

thank you for kinda open this up for us. that's the way i started to fight my loneliness recently but i was afraid that i would end up even more isolated but after your video im less concerned about that

That advice is priceless. I found it out by myself but didn't put the words and reasoning behind it. The analogy with the diet or breaking up is on point ! I'm going to think about it every day, and do more things by myself : Making music, reading, playing sports, fixing my freaking bike that's been in agony for a whole year

I find it amazing how much of human nature is completely counter-intuitive yet very, very simple, and it always seems to come back to choosing your perspective on things. Ya can't always change your life, but you can always change the lens of how you perceive it.

I just wanna say how much this is true. (PS ly english isn't that great forgive me for the little spelling mistakes) This year I have been feeling extremely lonely. It led me to a pretty bad depression that I was trying to hide. Everytime I saw my friends I would talk to them because you know, I had to maintain my social statu. One thing that you said and that is true is that I was feeling especialy lonely when I was with those friends, even more than when I was alone. One thing that I also noticed is that I have a good friend of mine who realy likes to get all the attention for himself when he is with a group of people. He is extremly charismatic and I was fool enough to try to compete with him when I was in a group of people. It wasn't working realy well and it just deteriorated my self esteem. One day it pissed me off and I came to an agreement with myself. I basicaly kinda meditated and I thought about how the future me would like me to act. I cam to the conclusion that I didn't have to force myself to be with other people, and if I was feeling it as a burden then it was better for me to stop. It immediatly changed my interactions with everyone because I didn't have to care weither or not I would be liked for what I did. I just felt so free. One thing I noticed is that if you are craving for recognition you will get less results than if you don't care that much about other people. Be careful, it's not about being an ashole, it's just about considering yourself and your own feelings as the most important ones for yourself. It is about listening to your own emotions instead of trying to shape your emotions arround what other people expect of yourself. Now I am the charismatic guy in most of my interactions with other people without even trying. I basicaly turned a game that I can't win to a game that I can't loose. If I feel like people arround me don't care about me I just leave them and that's it. So I just end up with people that matter for me because I matter for them.

I’ve spent a lot of time in solitude over the past couple months, and I can confirm that it makes you feel more at peace with yourself and others. I even realized for the first time what I want to do with my life and what I think my purpose is. God bless you Doctor K and anyone watching this.

I don't know... Solitude brakes me even more. Half a year ago I went on a trip to another city. I went there alone. I have no friends, family members or at least someone I just know it that city. I was walking around, taking pictures, visited the most intresting places there and every god damn minute I felt more and more lonley because there was noone with whom I can share all the positive emotions I had. I really wanted to grab someone's hand and be like: "Oh my god look at this bear! It's huge!" when I was at a zoo, but there was noone with me. Every next day I spent there the pressure was groing more and more and I couldn't wait the day when I was coming back home. I feel lonely a lot, but in solitude this feeling becomes even biger and it's even more painfull.

This guy, man. This guy is just marvelous. I just love every single video in this channel because he always explains his point in such an elegant and easy way to understand. This channel is a gem!

This explains so much about why I feel like an outcast in mainstream society, yet at the same time, feel either sad or happy to be on my own. Really appreciate this video Dr. K!

Your videos truly are very helpful. I felt bad for being out of touch of people but you made me realise that I am the one who makes me happy . I found myself again. Thanks

I'm not sure. I kinda feel like loneliness is something that should bother me more but it doesn't. I'm actually really comfortable with my own company. I value my alone time because people, even people I care about, can be a worse drag than an irritating stranger. I don't have to send an irritating stranger a birthday card and they wouldn't give me s!!! for not doing so. Me having ADHD **might** have something to do with this. “My solitude doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche.

This has been 110% my experience. I was lonely at school back then, and it actually felt better to be alone instead of trying to appeal to them. Yes I still felt lonely of course. There was also a lot of high arousal negative emotions during the time that I couldn't avoid.

Thank you for this information. I’ve been by myself for around 5 years now and also struggle with depression and anxiety. It’s heart renching being this alone but all of my social interactions are horrible.

That's very insightful. Thank you.

I totally get this. Earlier this year i realized the value of peaceful solitude. Seems every1 i know is defined by their issues. Cant hold a conversation without ppl getting really upset about their jobs, family, personal stuff etc. So i decided to with draw. I go to parks and even the movies alone. It used to bother me but now i can just chill. I plan to get a dog or 2 just so i can take them to the beach. Plenty of ppl like to talk to dog owners. I find nature to be an amazing companion too ❤