Jane Doe Exactly what I did ! The NO CONTACT IS 100 💯 % Efficient for recovery. How to forget or ruminating from time to time will go away as we still gathering knowledge as a continual education concerning that pathology. Going through Narcissistic abusé definitely will change us in a better way as Dr Ramani stated. When my ex Narc comes to my mind .. I just ask my self “ why should I go back to a place where I got hurt 😢 ?” Voilà Huge Grand Merci 🙏 to Dr Ramani

Nice kitty 😺! Best advice ever too! What could be closer to the truth, not anything!

Me too over 2 years no contact and its great 😊

I finally did the same !!!!

Thank you for sharing this! I have wondered how I will ever get rid of the guilt and going back because of guilt so it sounds like I’m missing no contact. Just learning this stuff and your comments are so helpful to let me know life can get better. Thank you all. ❤️

Such a 'weird' sensation, if only we knew it would eventually lead to please leave me the heck alone!

Josee Noel Exactly

@@dyoung2739 Hay! Bon weekend from French Canada 🇨🇦!

Exactly I been There It’s was very difficult to out from

I’ve been addicted to opioid pain medication happened about 11 years into my marriage to a man with NPD. 6 years out of the marriage and 3 years sober. It is the same thing. Both of which are hard to change, but life gets great again!!

What helped me was understanding that it all started in my childhood with my narcissistic father. I was constantly seeking validation from him and played that push/pull. So of course as an adult, I ended up attracting those like him, always wanting validation. Once I recognized this and stopped seeking outside validation, True Self love developed. I wish you love and blessings on your journey!

Birdie Bee thank you for sharing your story with me ♥️ I want to wish you much love and blessings as well.

Wow met mine at 18 and just left at 22 as well. 4 years of absolute hell

I'm still stuck... escaped & returned due to inadequate financial planning/support. I have a special needs child &my narc working allows me to stay at home &teach our child. My child needs constant supervision &I just need financial assistance or a vehicle or phone something that isn't manipulated by him...its so very exhausting in sooo many ways. I refuse to have my child copy this toxic behavior ... I'm so happy to see the light from others who have made it out. I will be one of those light bearers soon! I will NEVER lose myself again! for the sake of my son &my sanity

@@jaxmamalovesdaddy3266 I went through 8yr of hell feeling this way. Financial abuse is a thing. In the end he left when I turned 31 for a 19yr old. I lost everything, home, pets, friends and ended up with a child in rented accommodation alone. With no help yet happier than I could ever of dreamed. Wishing you luck on your journey out of hell.

One day you'll be happy again but he won't... It will only get worse for him but better for you. Remember that!:)

It gets better! Don't break no contact, write down everything you feel and it will help you process it all. I started a special journal where I would write down what I wanted to tell the abusers, whenever stuff would come up or I'd get triggered, in order to keep myself from breaking no contact. Don't give up on yourself! The worst is over if you're out of the situationship. Keep your head up and keep healing! You will be so proud of yourself! 💜

Try not to beat yourself up. You didn't know what they were up to. Forgive yourself, and ask God for strength to press on and move forward in Jesus name.

@@Wiktionaryable mmmm that's true.

You are not alone. We can move on because we are not them that can only trap in the sad circle. Focus on yourself, might sound silly but I found it helpful to try to accomplish small achievements like *no crying for whole day *didn’t think of him for 1hr/3hr/half day/whole day *help friends on something *have meals on time Etc etc Get your life on track bit by bit We will be a even better version of ourselves, because we are stronger and know how to protect ourselves now.

So do I. Embarassed

You are lucky you were only lovebombed for 10 weeks. I was lovebombed for 1.5 years... which makes it freaking hard to leave because it is almost unbelievable that a person can be wearing a mask for that long. Even when he started changing he made me believe he was an angel and I was evil, he was so covert that even his manipulations were about him being vulnerable and a victim, lol.

@Claudia Castillo Your words reflect my feelings and experience, too. I miss the way he made me feel safe, taken care of, and sexy. It's a complicated thing. We're both artists which makes it worse, in my opinion.

Thank you for sharing. Thats how I feel now.

​@@DonnaSnyder 😊

Most people can't teach the subject matter properly if they haven't been in this type of relationship, or if they don't research the topic properly.

I’ve often said that I would allow somebody to break my arms day after day if it would give me relief from the psychological pain that I’m suffering from my ex narc. It is unmeasurable, agonizing, incalculable psychological suffering that is often unbearable. At least this is what it is for me.

💯💯💯💯😈😈😈we need to recognize the kids taught this ya can’t change em

impromptu3000. Thank you so much. Your thoughts are valuable and so helpful.

I truly love all you say. So true.

So beautifully said.

Oh boy does that ever discribe me.

Excellent!

Yes very good assessment

Very true! I agree

@@brandy5395 thank you! You too

That is the trauma bonding or 'Stockholm Syndrome'. You have to find peace within yourself and the transition can be hard. Healthy relationships may feel 'boring' so it's best to have a few years on your own, where you validate yourself and learn to be independent and balanced.

@@angelatewson8202 morning am

Ouch... That happened to me too.

I feel you on a certain level.. I guess that's kind of worse because you feel even more confused about the addiction

Same story here...

@@CSShilpaSuresh Yes

Me too. 😢 I don’t understand how these sick and twisted people get off on hurting people.

I stayed 3 years, on and off with a narcissist. Do yourself a favor please, and leave right now. Be happy, never contact them again, you'll thank yourself later in life, believe me.

Bernadette Laurie It sounds like you need some support. Is there someone you can call? When I’m feeling insecure and like I want to call my ex-boyfriend, I start watching these videos. They help me remember that my ex is not worth any amount of validation that he gave me while we were together. I hope that you’re able to find some peace in your heart.

Oh that's terrible. Look, i was there too. Not as bad as you, i have to say, but the thought of not being with him would distress me do much, i would completely lose my shit. Plus, i didn't understand what was happening to me, which would cause me even more distress. This went on for two and a half years, like a complete addiction. It was insane. Finally, i got so sick of it all, i told him to f**k off, promptly blocked him on every single social media i could think of, and cried for 5 days straight. But i persevered with no contact, and on the 6th day, i was much, much better. The world didn't end, and i feel so, so, SO much relief. They don't mean you well. If they did, they wouldn't torture you like that. So get some strength, and kick his sorry arse to the curb. It is so worth getting rid of that kind of addiction.

Girl if you keep doing this he will dump you on his own some day when he is bored or he cheats or he thinks you are not what he wants anymore. Please get out of it on your own. Telling you from my personal experience.

I am in the same boat as you. Exact same position. I reflect back to these videos and dismiss them when he's won me over with his love bombing. Then suddenly he would say and do things so hurtful which I know are not right in a real relationship based off of respect and value. I mean he has opening told me he likes playing with my emotions. He told me. He opening basically admitted he is a narc and yet I would be on the floor holding his legs begging with overflowing tears. I look back and think wow I can not believe I put myself through all that. Now I am going through withdrawals, regret, sadness and am afraid I will slip back in if he were to return. So I am listening to these videos non stop to remind myself.

All the same here. I was wondering did you fall into a no contact relapse like dr Ramani talks about in another video? I did.

Linda BEE I’m in the relapse right now. I’m going to the bar on Saturday and I’m sure she’ll be there. Our mutual friend has told me that she “can’t move on in life, because she can’t get over me” 😂🤣😂🤣. Once she can’t control and manipulate me she wants me. But when I’m sitting right in front of her telling her how much I love her....she just gets so bored of me. She’s a neglectful narcissist. Slowly starving me of her love right at the height of my addiction. She does it masterfully.

You are not alone ;-). Ive been listnening Dr. Ramani for a while and last 4 days listnening her nonstop while playing solitaire on my phone :-). I feel very empowered, because she described 100% what I have been threw, it was like she would talk just about my ex directly to me. When it is over, you will be a great help to people around you, you will literally turn theire sucky situation around in instant. I think Im completly healed. Good luck on your journey

Wow I couldn’t of said it better than that

Same! Just like you, I have decided to start showing myself the same love and kindness and forgiveness that I gave him. Putting all of that energy into myself and the healthy relationships that suffered as a result of my toxic one. Wishing you so much peace and self-love on your journey. You got this! 😁🌺

feels so embarrassing, i hate it

Same… and the things I did to get him to give me attention . Luckily nothing damaging except to my personal pride

Jackie James - I couldn’t agree more with this.

Soo right... worse than any drug

Damn. That hit me

Saaaame

I feel absolute trust is overrated in a relationship, smartness is also very important. There’s a popular saying that “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist partner shouldn’t be trusted. My greatest disappointment was discovering my wife cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned her cellphone and i was able to read all her messages and uncover my wife’s infidelity without having to touch her phone. All i did was share my wife’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to her Facebook, WhatsApp and text messages both deleted and incoming ones with a link on my phone. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. You can contact them ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text/Call them on +14242362391. Thank me later.

Good analogy, I used tools I used in 12 step to help me withdrawal from him as it felt like a withdrawal. I went to an occasional desire overtime to rare moments to eww I don’t care anymore. I am grateful and so much better off without him in my life and head.

A good compliment Heather . how are you doing today ?

@@adamscarlton6903 I am doing wonderful...and you?

@@heathercarpenter6706 doing well too beautiful. Beautiful smile you've got . would like to know you better . are you taken ?

It does feel really awful to think about all the wasted time you spent in a narcissistic relationship. But now you can move forward and hold your head high knowing you aren't going to waste any more precious time with these horrible people.

I don't think that's an exaggeration. It's very likely to kill you. And it will be a slow and painful decline.

Stress kills 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

funkyyy12345 hmmm thanx for sharing. Did u move on ? I mean did u allow a new person to enter your life?

@@nargismirza9445 Well. At first i was mad on myself. I was mad since i felt that i was not enough for him. I was trying to keep him as friend but he had other plans. As soon as i met new date he was trying to win me over again. I realized that i will never find love if he will be still in my life. I was thinking about him daily! but when i started doing stuff just for myself (lerning new skills) i didnt wanted to lose that. I blocked him on each app that i had. Delated phone number. Week ago i meet him on the sreet. He wanted to invite me on a date, but i started to think how i felt AFTER our dates. I didnt wanted to lose that stuff that i was doing just for myself. This time i said "Sorry man, im quite busy now". It was really hard but i moved on. Im still single but i dont mind that now. Sometimes i still think about it... but now i feel relief that hes no longer in my life.

funkyyy12345 Hmmm am housewife with 3 kids, finding it very difficult to cut off... Today, as per the video... I actually crave for him though we live in the same house...

Vicky Wrightson all the best! Hope u recover soon.

Wow.. 🙏🏾

well said.

Hello yes same here...same story. I feel it is childhood trauma that I am recreating. For me ACA besides alcholic recovery has given me relief 3 years later. I replaced one addiction for the other. Most ppl obsess over the N type...we don't do this with drink/drug we dig deeper to the core. Same deal. The person place + thing is not my concern but what drives that underneath is my concern.

leaving the drugs was easier!!!

Pat There u go, I was looking for someone married with kids! How was your journey! am about to take divorce,may be after 2 months...

D T how many kids you have? My husband is also very well settled financially.

Yeah

Thank you! I have to read this book!

@@birdiebee5977 I think you will enjoy it! Some pages are pretty technical but even without remembering all the little details, you really get the picture and the horrible withdrawal symptoms then totally make sense.

Rossana Motta I’ve always felt that I never had “enough” of my partner of 10 years, and this makes so much sense!!! They give you just scraps at a time. They always leave you wanting more. And you wait and wait, then eventually a crumb. After the crumb, you oddly feel worse because you know it will be a very long time before you get another

@@christinafasano1111 Ugh, 10 years!! I can barely imagine. That is a long nightmare. There are tons of studies about intermittent reinforcement in other species too and, universally, that pushes the anxiety through the roof. I think anxiety then gradually turns to depression because, just like you say, you know the pattern, and you know it will be a long lonely misery ahead. The book I mentioned above says when despair prevail, then the typical symptoms of depression set in. Apathy, life turning gray, massive decrease in self confidence, lack of sleep.... The book presented a study done by some university where prairie voles that had reached the despair stage (partner separation) would let themselves drown into water, while normally they can stay afloat easily. Also the intermittent reinforcement makes it much easier to fall into other addictions. If you cannot control the high you get from a partner, you will try to find a way that you CAN control, to feel some kind of high. Maybe food, maybe alcohol, etc etc. I feel few things in life wear you down more than a partner being inconsistent. Rather than that, much better alone, where at least you have control on your own mental balance and you can feel more hopeful for the future. Hugs to you, I hope you can find the strength to get out and find a much much better and less selfish partner.

Rossana Motta thank you for the information. I’m going to look more into this intermittent reinforcement. Thank you so much for your heart felt response.

Same thing happened to me. I told her to just go back to him. At one point I hated the guy and we were gonna fight, but after I realized who she really was, I felt sorry for him.

❤

Maja Tomic,You look gorgeous 🌷,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

Yes! My health was totally destroyed! Practically had adrenal failure. Had horrible panic attacks. Best and worst 8 years of my life. Sad, but true

💯

Gwen13061 I’d say it’s codependency

@@kayjay6908 love addiction Is part of the codepence but not all of It so It needs special treatment

I recently watched a series on Netflix called Dirty Johnny, a real eye -opener. My daughter's new boyfriend seems to have modeled his technique on this, but I know he didn't just start acting like this, it's obviously a life=long habit. And yes, danger is real with these guys, especially when large sums of money are involved.

@@quasimobius So True!!

That movie was very relatable. Thank you!!

Is he an overt narc or a covert one?

And most guys in most movies are narcs

Can you plan to leave?

❤❤❤

Can get them off Amazon.

I read somewhere that cortisol is one of the chemicals that is released from adrenal glands and it shrinks the hippocampus.

Been there 😓 & done that Psychopath / narc Intelligent 🤓/ white collard / Bernie Madolf type psychopath actually Wealthy corporation owner I was shocked how well he fooled me via the love bombing phase He tends to fool everyone ( clever ) I fig him out & went no contact Hard at times but keep reminding myself that the love bombing phase was all an act / a manipulative tactic ( not real ).

I can so absolutely relate! And I even wasnt married to a Real narcissist, just your garden variety compulsive, serial cheater, high functioning alcoholic avoidant, possibly bipolar... Now I call myself a "dry love addict", like a dry alcoholic. At least I am out of the cycle... I still ruminate tho🤷‍♀️

@@bitterapple best thing for everyone is to go no contact with these people. It's even a lesson for them because the enabling is removed. Unfortunately a lot of good people are alone now. I guess that's just the card we're dealt until we start meeting each other, and that may never happen in our lifetime. Hard truth. But we can't allow them to walk all over us anymore. Life may get lonely or boring but at least we're not suicidal and losing everything over these aholes. Online dating seems to be filled with these narc rejects.

I was with him for 1.5-2 years, I think. And 3 years after being single - I've now sought out therapy and I've been prescribed therapy for PTSD, anxiety and depression.... great. Can't imagine being in a relationship yet - if ever.

I'm feeling this right now

Absolutely...

2 months here. 6 months after the break up I still feel addicted.

SUSAN LINA I feel absolute trust is overrated in a relationship, smartness is also very important. There’s a popular saying that “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist partner shouldn’t be trusted. My greatest disappointment was discovering my wife cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned her cellphone and i was able to read all her messages and uncover my wife’s infidelity without having to touch her phone. All i did was share my wife’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to her Facebook, WhatsApp and text messages both deleted and incoming ones with a link on my phone. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. You can contact them ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text/Call them on +14242362391. Thank me later.

Protect yourself. Learning to love and care for ourselves produces self protection. Rejecting the hoover gets easier as we get healthier and stronger from within.

So sorry Richard. It is really hard. I’m in 13 years, but it is ending now. It’s time.

You need to get a middle man!! You know how your computer can get a nasty virus, so you use a firewall the protect the computer...your middleman is your firewall...all communication goes through this designated person, you never talk to the narc anymore. ...Or start your own company...hire people to be the middleman -- good luck!!

@@m.skinner6303 That's great advice!

😣😣😣

Stubsi stay as strong as possible... you are not alone

You can do it!! Focus getting to the other side ❤️

I think im getting over that addiction 😏I got cousoling and group help ..its going great ..im not as addicted anymore I still think but not as much ..you will get there ..but please get help ❤

Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work and I was able to track his location too, all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : +15303784744

My Journey Too I feel absolute trust is overrated in a relationship, smartness is also very important. There’s a popular saying that “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist partner shouldn’t be trusted. My greatest disappointment was discovering my wife cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned her cellphone and i was able to read all her messages and uncover my wife’s infidelity without having to touch her phone. All i did was share my wife’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to her Facebook, WhatsApp and text messages both deleted and incoming ones with a link on my phone. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. You can contact them ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text/Call them on +14242362391. Thank me later.

Oh them bad!

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April Arsenault,You look cute dear

Deb Wilkie,You are beautiful 🌷,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

No you’re not. A narcissist never feels guilty, they always shift the blame.

How did you destroy it?

Are you better now?

Ben Fleming I feel absolute trust is overrated in a relationship, smartness is also very important. There’s a popular saying that “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist partner shouldn’t be trusted. My greatest disappointment was discovering my wife cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned her cellphone and i was able to read all her messages and uncover my wife’s infidelity without having to touch her phone. All i did was share my wife’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to her Facebook, WhatsApp and text messages both deleted and incoming ones with a link on my phone. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. You can contact them ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text/Call them on +14242362391. Thank me later.

Britney Bowen I feel absolute trust is overrated in a relationship, smartness is also very important. There’s a popular saying that “don’t trust too much because that too much might hurt you so much”. A Narcissist partner shouldn’t be trusted. My greatest disappointment was discovering my wife cheating on me through the help of Cyberhackingsage who helped cloned her cellphone and i was able to read all her messages and uncover my wife’s infidelity without having to touch her phone. All i did was share my wife’s number with Cyberhackingsage and i got access to her Facebook, WhatsApp and text messages both deleted and incoming ones with a link on my phone. Thanks to Cyberhackingsage, now i have enough evidence for my divorce. You can contact them ( cyberhackingsage@gmail )Or Text/Call them on +14242362391. Thank me later.

Suzanne Marie,You are beautiful 🌹,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

Yes you are so right there . how are you doing today

You need Jesus and His love in your life, praying for you

Gail Harris watch yourself there it’s full off narcissists.

Maryellen Shinn,You look cute 🌷,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

@@jackpetersen7545 Thank you, No more Narcissist!

@@MaryellenS.13 You are welcome.I am Jack from USA 🇺🇸.You?

@@jackpetersen7545 same, USA ♥️🇺🇸💙

Did you get back?