Why do toxic men "bread crumb"?

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Ace Metaphor

7 ай бұрын

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@khrisi9410 7 ай бұрын

Think about it ladies. If he's getting the BEST of you without treating you right, he's getting the best of you whilst breadcrumbing you and you're treating him as a very important person whilst he's giving you the bare minimum...Why would he change? You'll say to him he needs to treat you better but if he can treat you poorly and still get the best of what you have to offer then what incentive inspires him to do better. He's already getting your best. He can treat you like dirt, breadcrumb, ghost, manipulate, use you and give you his a$$ to kiss and still receive VIP treatment from you. As a former pickme, if I can change anyone can change. Choosing you first inspires change. Loss inspires change.

@nb2105 7 ай бұрын

Now thisssss…. Well said… drop the mic!

@user-iq7hv7ud8u 7 ай бұрын

Thisssss!!!!

@blessedchildofgod9112 7 ай бұрын

I'm not having no.baby by no ugly dude just because he can treat me better I want someone I'm attractive to and will treat me well

@Bri-nc8yp 7 ай бұрын

@@blessedchildofgod9112you sound just as toxic & self-centered.

@rickblackgirlmindset 7 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯 Let's leave these type of boys behind!

@antoinettecollins8079 6 ай бұрын

Having very high standards protects you from falling for narcs.

@LogicallySpeaking_ 5 ай бұрын

Ohhh not necessarily

@kevinlee1240 5 ай бұрын

Sorry Ms. but no it don’t.

@beautifulone4904 5 ай бұрын

Yes......

@rosequartz7939 5 ай бұрын

@@LogicallySpeaking_Real high standards not fake ones I’ll lower my boundaries because I like you!

@marlawarnsley5639 4 ай бұрын

Actually, narc's look for people with high standards so they can break them

@taghazoutmoon5031 7 ай бұрын

Breadcrumbing works...temporarily. then the anxiety outweighs your dignity and you lose so much energy, you simply give up.

@dreamASHxo 7 ай бұрын

No seriously. U may not be aware at first but you are doing yourself a disservice every time u accept that. And your gut is speaking to you, listen to it & take your power back. It is only a matter of time if you know this just haven’t grasped it. Speaking from experience. My ex did this to me, but at first the love bombing was too REAL. Be strong ladies, there’s so much more for you, start with YOU. Tap back into reality!

@CEOSHANNYVEVO 6 ай бұрын

So true

@DiamondsRexpensive 5 ай бұрын

You described what I have been struggling to put into words, thank you ❤

@healwithcle9574 5 ай бұрын

😳

@lashaundamoya2673 5 ай бұрын

Simply put-THANK YOU MESSAGE HEARD and UNDERSTOOD!

@anneliesewright662 7 ай бұрын

High value women do not like it when men are mysterious & don't text back for days. We value men who are polite, caring and authentic. Mystery and being nonchalant attracts men because men like to chase. They like to hunt. It's their nature. That, however, is not a woman's nature. We cannot stand to chase or hunt. How many women do you know want to go hunting? Almost none. We put our heart into relationships, so it's difficult for us to believe we've been lied to and manipulated. We want to think the best of a man. Thank you for revealing the truth about how a lot of men really are. I'll be much more aware now.

@cdotnicole 7 ай бұрын

thank you , it sounds toxic af

@JustMalcolm914 6 ай бұрын

Lmaoo bullshit. Some of your fellow women still rather toxic men then decent ones

@JustMalcolm914 6 ай бұрын

If that was the case then why are toxic men still attracting women If apparently all of you are so high value

@twinflamecakeco444 6 ай бұрын

Well stated

@tybenz2533 6 ай бұрын

I sympathize with you, but a lot of women do the same thing, so it goes both ways. It’s bad enough we are already in a pandemic of weak men that are not guided at a young age how to treat a woman or even given the slightest truth on what attracts them. I agree with the message of stop trying to fix other people or mold them into being who you want them to be. Women also say they want one thing then Chase the other and this video is a great example of that. Realistically women enjoy the chase and if a man is too easy or desperate and don’t fit a certain prerequisite, he’s automatically ruled out.

@sonyasspot355 7 ай бұрын

No contact works ever time, don’t let that man treat you like that, just block-delete goodbye 👋 move on. Peace of mind ✌🏾

@basicinfo2022 5 ай бұрын

No contact is so important to do and understand. 28 days of no contact!

@sharitawilliams-burrus116 7 ай бұрын

They are going to give you exactly what you accept. You teach people how to treat you!

@specialk8927 7 ай бұрын

Right

@saltycat662 7 ай бұрын

💯 Facts! Toxic people know who to target. They can almost smell it on people.

@sophiaf. 7 ай бұрын

Amen 🙏🏾

@Virgolove 7 ай бұрын

And they teach us how to love ourselves

@LayersOfLex 7 ай бұрын

Just left a relationship 2 weeks ago after being bread crumbed for 5 years… that boy been showed me who he was! Good shit Ace 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@TheNicqit 6 ай бұрын

Felt this one.

@7msredd 5 ай бұрын

Girl me too well I’m three months in after two years 🤦🏾‍♀️. He showed me everyday, how did I ignore it? I’m not that dumb 😢

@Chayla417 5 ай бұрын

How do you even… get back to you, after such a long pattern and time with someone else. Asking for myself sis.

@DrikaLuv 5 ай бұрын

@Chayla417 I got the t-shirt for that one, so I'll tell you. Every time that you think about calling him to see how he's doing because he's on your mind, remember how you felt when you left. Remember how many conversations you had telling him how you felt, and he didn't care enough to stop hurting you. Remember how lonely you felt in a relationship with him. Remember that every time you are thinking about the wonderful times, you are thinking about the delusion you created. He was never that dude. Come back to reality and think, I spent years like this. Do I really want to spend another year feeling like this.

@hiefia8568 5 ай бұрын

Well done girl. I'm proud of you.

@phillyflytee9849 7 ай бұрын

Ace I went on a date and the man ignored me by using his phone and watching videos . So I mentioned hello I’m sitting next to you remember. He said yes I see you. Ace I grabbed my handbag and clicked my heels and sachet my sexy self away . He hollering where you going I said I talk to u later I kept going.🤣😂🤣

@Bri-nc8yp 7 ай бұрын

I hope you didn’t actually talk to him later and that was the end of that for life. Hope you blocked him and deleted his number once you got in the car. That man I bet 💯% watches manophere/red pill content and he wanted you to chase him because he sees women as less than. He knew exactly what he was doing. He sees himself as the prize and wanted to see if you were desperate enough to tolerate it by being the “nice girl” you went on one date with him and he was already acting like that can you imagine how he would treat you down the line if you got with hum. We need to teach men that when they act like children for whatever reason that we won’t tolerate it. We wont yell …scream cry … we won’t write then send out long text messages with a thesis intro body and conclusion telling the man how he’s hurting us (he knows already he just don’t care) we won’t do none of those things. We just walk away for good. We are not afraid to be single and wait until and IF we find someone who is consistent and values us like we deserve.

@thagoldengoddesss5454 6 ай бұрын

👏👏👏👏💪🏽

@veriabrantley5511 6 ай бұрын

Equally Yoked , not Bob the Builder..❤

@phillyflytee9849 5 ай бұрын

@@Bri-nc8yp I only said I’ll talk to you later to keep him hoping. lol . Yes I did block him and didn’t talk to him again.

@rabbitheart24 5 ай бұрын

I went bowling with my boyfriend and the woman next to us had been flirting with my bf and had too much to drink. Her husband just ignored her. I finally bowled the last 3 frames that were all strikes. I am a lousy bowler and turned around and yelled “yay”. They were leaning into each other in deep convo. He never looked up. I kick myself for not packing my back and getting and Uber. I really do.

@FudiiahookeHair 6 ай бұрын

These toxic men are fully aware of their behaviour towards you, I’ve heard them brag about it. I wish every woman would understand that he is not doing you a favour by dating you, make him work for you, you are worth it. Don’t chase, it’s disgusting!

@erikaserrano476 5 ай бұрын

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@MBAS-dh1vb 7 ай бұрын

Many women just care waaaayyyy too much for men. The women don’t care/love themselves but hope a man’s love will fill up what is missing in their lives. It’s a vicious cycle going from one man to another searching for love. The love is already inside them they have to dig deep to find it.

@tiamaria3123 5 ай бұрын

This is exactly me you spoke about

@namdeedesta6711 6 ай бұрын

“You been in a down season ever since you met him”. Damn I felt that.

@Nakira92 6 ай бұрын

When did he say that?

@aselyne5631 5 ай бұрын

And you can't even ask him for help since you want to prove that you not there for the money

@beautifulone4904 5 ай бұрын

Yes....me too

@lala5061 27 күн бұрын

@@aselyne5631what !?! Wait a minute do u have sexual relations with this man cuz if so then don't!

@eac-guy7272 7 ай бұрын

Ladies you deserve 5 course meals. Why are you settling for breadcrumbs? Go buy your 5 course meals for yourself. You're full,whole , blessed and complete all by yourself

@sonjadf47 7 ай бұрын

It’s sad, really. I know 65 year old men that have done this all of their miserable lives.

@yellowfeline6491 7 ай бұрын

Yep they do it because it works like a charm.

@ajr7940 7 ай бұрын

Pathetic

@sheliasmith2884 7 ай бұрын

Yep I'm 59 and so was he Bread crumbs no more like birdseed I walked away 5 months ago gave that nut 2 years they will waste your time.

@msrenee23 6 ай бұрын

Tuh!!! Just got done with one 🥴

@user-lq9lh8my9p 5 ай бұрын

65😢

@jessicafulton610 7 ай бұрын

Sometimes a woman needs to know when to let go

@ebonydivineguthrie4925 7 ай бұрын

... and pay attention to red flags When we recognize red flags, we need to stop rationalizing them

@jasminep6195 5 ай бұрын

He’s giving the big brother we all need 🫶🏽

@bh2480 7 ай бұрын

Listening to this makes me want to stay single for the rest of my life, just easier that way.

@stephaniecurrie2286 7 ай бұрын

It really is easier and more peaceful.

@Outof_thebleu 6 ай бұрын

We have too. All of these “gurus” are teaching us that men are not worth our time and body. It’s too many games to play and maneuver.

@JustMalcolm914 6 ай бұрын

@Outof_thebleu so how you think we feel

@bh2480 6 ай бұрын

@@JustMalcolm914 I am learning that men have hard times also. Men you are all females in your age range in your area are made for you. Parents raise children to be independent, so you get boss ladies, butch women. Men need to take more time getting to know if a female is a mental match before he invests time in a female. Men have to give females time to adjust to the gender roles they are supposed to want. The bedroom is about two people not one person. If you are not in love with her after at least 3 months in, men, move on.

@JustMalcolm914 6 ай бұрын

@@bh2480 Basically nail on the head

@kreestyle8986 7 ай бұрын

Almost 6 mins in and I feel embarrassed for myself! Truth hurts but I needed to hear this and thank you for the tough love!!! Needed it badly. ☀️ Thank you for your content 🙏

@yolomamimayaalwaysmakesit3470 7 ай бұрын

Factz

@ShayMichelle34 7 ай бұрын

@kreestyle8986 right! literally 6 minutes in 🥴🤦🏽‍♀️

@itzkaydayz5408 6 ай бұрын

Truth hurts but we standing on business in our black airforces all 2024!

@Themagicalgoddesses 6 ай бұрын

Yes that’s tough love! I stayed 20 years believing it would get better. I walk out being grateful for the lessons because the most important lesson I got from my husband is to love myself.

@seawinsjemz7183 6 ай бұрын

Same here...

@nuckingfuts3017 7 ай бұрын

The part of my spirit that allowed me to do it WAS having an absintee father and a mother who put her man b4 her children. I watched her love him, looking for him at bars late at night. Never gave us hugs, kisses, or even said I love you. Not ONCE. It stems from mental, emotional, and psychological abuse that has to be overcome. I thought back to my younger self and asked, "Why did you accept that??" Now I understand why and KNOW MY WORTH!! Ladies don't be hard on yourself. This happens to men too. It has to be undone and it takes time. You'll get there 🥰

@PrettyandBlessed888 7 ай бұрын

Totally can relate to the feeling of abandonment. Mine wasn’t that she put men before us, we never even saw her with one. It was that the men in our family come before us women. My brother can do no wrong and I’m the worst person when I don’t do what she wants. It’s a healing process for sure but we got this!

@nuckingfuts3017 7 ай бұрын

@@PrettyandBlessed888 Yes brothers! You just triggered that for me. My brother was definitely treated better. He had No chores and more treats. Also had to witness his father, my stepfather, tell him I love you. Never said it to the other children and moms said it to none of the children.

@user-hp5lr1nj4o 6 ай бұрын

😢😢😢😢 we love u 💖💖💜💜

@nuckingfuts3017 6 ай бұрын

@@user-hp5lr1nj4o 🥰🥰

@PrettyandBlessed888 6 ай бұрын

@@nuckingfuts3017 I’m sorry I’m just now seeing this. Yep. I know this all too well. It’s a healing process for sure but we got this. Cut off the family, friends and spouses if you see this same behavior and put yourself first.

@redpillqueen8888 7 ай бұрын

If you’re accepting breadcrumbs and trying to change him, you’re codependent. Learn it.

@kourtneyyounger7515 7 ай бұрын

All of this is the truth!! I’m done dating men that mysterious. I will take the man that responds and wants me around all the time!!

@Seek_Truth 7 ай бұрын

The men he describes are predators.🤯

@sonjadf47 7 ай бұрын

Unavailable men get left…QUICKLY!

@brujatSA 5 ай бұрын

Amen!

@akuasalaam490 5 ай бұрын

A word.

@deninadee89 7 ай бұрын

Damn, this message felt like an ass whooping 😂😭 I needed to hear this today. Thank you 🙏🏼

@beautifulone4904 5 ай бұрын

Yes....Ace did that.😊..

@aaliyahj925 5 ай бұрын

❤

@kimberly0717 7 ай бұрын

The worse are the ones who call and text EVERYDAY. It boils down to how they treat you, because it’ll come out in some way. Men have to be careful too because karma will come! Also, it’s dangerous! Some of these women will hurt your azz. I speak to my 12 yo son now about treating young ladies with respect, teach these boys to STOP playing these games! Start there…

@Bandit_King 6 ай бұрын

It's comical that a woman has the nerve to tell a man to stop playing games.

@nunnallyai 5 ай бұрын

Yes the ones who call and text you all day, everyday and ask to see you and then disappear

@kimberly0717 5 ай бұрын

@@nunnallyai exactly! Like what was the point? If there’s no action, end the contact.

@domt4588 7 ай бұрын

Yes! 🎉 Love yourself and walk away. “Queen the f… up and walk the f…out!”

@rp3741 7 ай бұрын

Nobody wants somebody overly available. And a woman who is naive maybe will fall for the waiting around for him to text back thing, but trust me..she will come to resent you eventually and finally start looking for a more decent man who is more consistent. So that is just temporary.

@Moonstonee212 7 ай бұрын

You mean overly unavailable

@DiamondsRexpensive 5 ай бұрын

@@Moonstonee212Both. Both are bad.

@nicoleroman4468 5 ай бұрын

Interesting.. about both can be bad. No matter how you slice it we all got to be careful dating.. there's a lot of fakeness out there.

@sheliasmith2884 7 ай бұрын

Thank you little brother I just walked away from a toxic man like that he was a Dismissive avodent and they are known for that.I wish you would do a talk on attachment styles. But thanks to you I took my power back it was more like bird seeds that I was getting.

@nattymawnstah 6 ай бұрын

I literally went thru the same with an avoidant. he feed me bread crumbs and did the no contact thing for a month. Truly the most confusing and stressful relationship I've ever been on

@nicolem889 5 ай бұрын

Dismissive and avoidant is accurate. Attachment style is key.

@kerriburpo3203 7 ай бұрын

Definitely a problem when they're overly available at thr beginning and then switch gears a month afterwards

@PlusSizePreggo12 7 ай бұрын

What a slap in the face 😢😅 I definitely believed his sob story and tears. Worlds best actor. True colors showed at 4 months by month 6 I was DONE!!!

@iyamom4 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Ace. Your realness is needed in these savage times. I listen just so I remember what not to do!

@cassleahg487 7 ай бұрын

Even the overly available ones who put the work in for months will f you over once they have your heart. I don’t pay attention to mysterious men, I switch off. The good, consistent, not in your league looks wise, stable and appears to have his ish together can still ghost you due to his own ego and insecurities.

@divatam5 7 ай бұрын

Real talk, u got to keep your head on a swivel

@kellithomas9080 7 ай бұрын

My sons father is just like this!!! The average Woman wouldn’t know because he puts on a good front. It’s not until you’re invested in him, is when he will switch like a light switch! Soul crushing! Kept me stuck for YEARS!!! Then would appear to change over and over, but nothing ever really changed or was consistent. Did good for 3 months MAX and back to the same old patterns. Only learned how to lie, cheat and manipulate better. No real change though. It’s sickening because I know a couple Women who think he’s this prize and I’m the crazy baby mama who doesn’t appreciate a good man. If they only knew the real him. 🤦‍♀️

@cassleahg487 7 ай бұрын

@@kellithomas9080 sorry you went through all that. They tell us to choose better, if only it were that simple. It’s so hard to know who to trust and invest your heart and time into. The others will learn for themselves don’t worry about them. Take care of you and your child…his loss. Wishing you all the best.

@Love2Love927 7 ай бұрын

@@kellithomas9080Been there & done that. We must take care of ourselves at all costs. Stay strong Sis! ❤ bc we’ve got this! 💯💯💯

@fortheladies771 5 ай бұрын

Especially them ugly ones fr 😂

@ebonibethea8037 7 ай бұрын

Not 'Taking off your CROWN, to put on your KNEE-PADS'... 😂😂😂

@brownskyndiva 7 ай бұрын

A guy tried to “breadcrumb” me. Long story short I played the game accordingly

@XtinaDaGr8 7 ай бұрын

Same. Now he begging for forgiveness #Bye #MyWorth🏆

@CEOSHANNYVEVO 6 ай бұрын

Me to!! 🎉🎉🎉 shoutout to us

@carnishacampbell1352 5 ай бұрын

FACTS! Now he mad cause he saw me with another dude. Naw baby Im a 5 star restaurant type of chick 😂😂😂 BYE BOY

@latannyarosette8950 7 ай бұрын

Didn’t want to cry during this message but I did!!! ❤ Tough Love

@natashathomas8354 6 ай бұрын

Aweweeeee I hope you are well and better.

@shahneezyswayyy8689 5 ай бұрын

I did as well. 💪🏿⚘️❤️

@jacquedavis3779 7 ай бұрын

Ace you’re right. I too was guilty of some of the things you spoke about…but not anymore. There comes a time in your life when you take a step back and see the relationship for what it really is… All I have to say is ladies , if the tables were turned would he tolerate breadcrumbs from you????? Food for thought, think about it.

@Princess-zd4cm 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Ace 😊 sometimes my loneliness leads me to toxic men and im a single mom .

@privatename40 6 ай бұрын

Loneliness? More like lack of self love, self control and self worth. Self esteem and self care are so much more than affirmations, spas and spiritual mantras. Been where you are at….

@noreason8818 6 ай бұрын

@@privatename40both

@victorybonds1 28 күн бұрын

great point. going long periods without dating can attract the wrong men sometimes, but keep being a great mom and build your life by working on your GOd given purpose

@Rocanala 7 ай бұрын

Ladies-learn the game, let the dustballs bread crumb, fry fish, and whatever else….just do it far from me 💅🏾

@aliatianna888 5 ай бұрын

That is so damn sad that people have to be this guarded these days

@katrinawhitaker7442 7 ай бұрын

Harsh truth for me. I was so damn naive and unhealed. Thank you.

@QueenDiamond216 6 ай бұрын

We were together in our younger years. I was his 1st love . End up getting back together, man ol man. I don't know wtf he is, and we were together 6 months. I lost shit messing with him, we were into it, so freaking much, I finally said f that and broke up with him on Christmas day.... he doesn't have any friends, he is disrespectful to his mom and children. When the 5 to 6 months came in, his true colors showed, and he ended up putting him hands on me. I'm like, yeah, game over.... he started thinking he could control me, and because I did not play by his rules, he hit me, and I walked. I learned so much from this video that this ish will never happen again moving on ..... thanks, Ace, for the great understanding of all red flags to look for in a so called man.

@lala5061 27 күн бұрын

Im sorry that a$$hole put his hands on u...I loathe woman beaters!

@teet4966 7 ай бұрын

Wow… he’s so on point with everything he’s saying. Men will manipulate you until the well runs dry, smh. Matching Energy is so easy and intentional. Ppl put effort and prioritize whatever it is they want to.

@Giasemi55 5 ай бұрын

You are speaking the words that a lot of us should have been told from our fathers and brothers.

@venuspsychicmasseuse 7 ай бұрын

We were taught to protect and care for bullshit men. Taught to see the best in them, to nurture them, raise them up, give them our all. And these men know how good we are to them and they might breadcrumb us acknowledgement but then treat us like we are no good for them, that we drive them to be stressed and abusive to whatever extent. We are the reason they are so wrong but... they were wrong to begin with and we kept offering redemption at our own expense. It has GOT to stop. Man babies gotta decide what they want and we gotta know where we can be safe and not victimized by our kindness

@tybenz2533 6 ай бұрын

Be a better selector it’s clear you are attracted to men with these traits, perhaps that’s all you ever knew, but anyone who’s watched this content today can’t make any excuses after, women do the same thing so people just need to be better in general. We need to take accountability and show the younger generations an example of what healthy love looks like.

@venuspsychicmasseuse 6 ай бұрын

@@tybenz2533 you know what Ty get in your own lane. It's therapy for me to tell my insight outloud and I will not stop sharing.

@tybenz2533 6 ай бұрын

@@venuspsychicmasseuse never asked to stop sharing your “insight” we all have the right to offer our perspective whether you like it or not.

@erikaserrano476 5 ай бұрын

This was the comment for me.. it’s crazy!!!!

@mirnadorantes9876 7 ай бұрын

i love how angry you get to make a point. I'm a new subscriber. thank you for your realness.

@Becca-qr9ly 7 ай бұрын

You seriously know these men to a t every word is these narcissistic sociopath men who will always only give the bare minimum and expect the world in return . This hit my soul thank you

@deejai1173 5 ай бұрын

I’ll be the first to say, this happened to me! I finally said this is it, detached and kept it that way! Not proud of it, simply acknowledging it. Thanks for this message, there are a lot of naive ladies that need to hear this. I wish I heard it beforehand. On to other news, I’m not into the lack of availability, it used to work when I was much younger. Grow up, if you’re interested, show it or move on for me.

@PrettyandBlessed888 7 ай бұрын

Whew. This is my first time seeing your podcast and you didn’t have to smack me around like this Sir 😭🤧 You literally described this man to a T and I’m sitting here like wtf?!! Lol

@greeneyez3236 7 ай бұрын

I really can appreciate the honesty of this content. I feel as a woman it allows me to take a good look at myself to recognize what areas in my life require self accountability and self improvement. However, what concerns me is the constant self reflection that we as women are told we must implement to become better and whole. But there is rarely any conversations for the men who treat us bad. Do they not have any accountability for mistreating women or is it, oh well that's just who they are? It seems a little one sided.

@MsLOBunnie 6 ай бұрын

This!!! There are very few and between. Places for men to unlearn this behavior. And majority of them are based in religion that only teaches them they are “the head” and they have never been a leader. And then when women do stand up, hold her own, date and move on we are labeled too masculine.

@Pureabundance8 7 ай бұрын

Booooooyyyyy!!!! You betta talk about it!!!! I’m here for it. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I told that clown 🤡 exactly what you are saying. The boy couldn’t match my energy dismissed. I love every word that you’re saying any woman who click off this video gotta be delusional. These men are on it playing games. I give you the same energy you giving me.

@giselearcand3401 6 ай бұрын

It’s True. Some women (including me) like the drama and the toxic passion. Up and down feelings, chasing, love bombing crap. Sick and I want it gone.

@keisashasharpe 7 ай бұрын

Look Ace.... we need your honesty. Thank you!

@ginaburnett3404 7 ай бұрын

Thanks, Ace...You are so on point. Serial 3 months dater..😅 I'm so glad, I can walk away. I'm waiting on my King. Love you Ace.

@sonjadf47 7 ай бұрын

Mystery? Try that at a job! They will mysteriously be unemployed.

@chantelles5841 7 ай бұрын

This is a truth everyone needs to hear!

@angelamack5679 7 ай бұрын

Ace!! I listen to you all the time but today! Man, it totally hit different today. Feel like all the mess I’ve dealt with over the years was explained through root cause in this one video.

@Nanananaheyheyhey 5 ай бұрын

Both of my exes did this months into the relationship. I fell for the "I'm busy excuse." Turns out they were both talking to another woman. My love life is a wreck and nonexistent and I'm so close to giving up. I'm crushing on a guy who was actually taken and I'm doing anything I can to distract myself. I'm praying so desperately that God would take him out of my mind but it's not happening. Instead, I'm just getting even more angry at myself for being the way I am. I feel so left out as I see everyone around me getting married and starting a family. Even they can't understand why I'm still single.

@divinee.155 Ай бұрын

I know how u feel. Church is the only place u find a quality black man

@giavannamom87 19 күн бұрын

Girl you describe my situation to a T

@user-vd6sx1lv4j 7 ай бұрын

If you ain't consistent with what you say you want why should I give my energy and time to fill you in my life , it's full enough trying to keep my peace together thank you ACE

@aneikameyler1860 7 ай бұрын

Ace, I like the way you deliver this message, you speak passionately, keep it real and humorous. Thank you for using your platform to empower individuals 🙏

@yellowfeline6491 7 ай бұрын

My question is why are so many men damaged, emotionally unavailable, opportunist, users, abusers, deceitful, emotionally manipulative? Videos focus on fixing women (which is great) however we need more men to focus on men learning the art of self discipline and self reflection.

@KaimaVixen 7 ай бұрын

This! Like it’s great men are giving us the “game”, but they really need to start focusing on teaching their own (men) to be better people and deal with their emotional shit. It’s literally affecting everyone.

@rayy4pres194 5 ай бұрын

@@KaimaVixen LITERALLY!!

@NatalijiaMusic 7 ай бұрын

I totally was yelling and shouting laughing while watching this LOL. Thanks I needed that laughhhhhh

@user-bj8zo6en5b 7 ай бұрын

You got me so strong out in these streets these men hate me 😂😂 when they see me with my next man they will know he is everything they aren’t. I am gentle and sweet with the cut off. I silence out the matrix of bs. Thank you God bless you I started with self love, added my empress confidence, and end with Ace law. Out her in peace❣️❣️❣️

@nicolekeys1212 7 ай бұрын

I'm omw

@natashathomas8354 6 ай бұрын

Loveeeeee this

@rocio292 7 ай бұрын

29:00 It's either he's doing that or worse, villifying you by asking you if "all you want to do is hurt him/take advantage of him?" Or the "be honest with me, have you cheated while we were together at any point?" Now you're placed in a position to always have to prove yourself and work to earn his trust on things you've never done but indirectly being accused of. He's just 'asking' you if that's what you did for reassurance x1000 times over. Repetition is part of the manipulation because it's purpose is to wear you down emotionally and psychologically, it's sickening

@yellowfeline6491 7 ай бұрын

If a man keeps asking a woman if she is cheating, I guarantee that he is the one cheating.

@ajr7940 7 ай бұрын

😊

@jamahra412 7 ай бұрын

Thank you SO much!!! I needed to hear this! I already started setting boundaries but this is confirmation I’m doing the right thing. Doing the right thing isn’t always comfortable but it’s so important

@IfeanyiCOshun 6 ай бұрын

Yep yep yep! A true Queen doesn’t negotiate or settle EVER. Don’t deal with court jesters, ladies. 👸🏿👑💋

@SuzieQ419 7 ай бұрын

I wanna say thank u .....I know it's hard to hear the truth and I needed to hear this message...THANK U SIR

@caranasser3710 6 ай бұрын

After suffering from this twice I will only entertain an available, consistent man. Because I don’t hate myself.

@Lourdes3216 5 ай бұрын

Ace, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I needed to hear this tonight. I was sitting here for 2 days feeling like a damn fool for being with a man for years who just clowned me. I needed to wake the fuck up because he's the damn clown!

@lala5061 27 күн бұрын

🤗 it's gonna be ok, take yo life back...u hear me 👏🏽

@MS-wl3ix 7 ай бұрын

An overly available man because the only women that like that is women who like playing games. I’ve been played enough in my lifetime and my philosophy has always been: There are a lot of women out there they wanna play games but don’t play games with women who tell you up front that they don’t wanna play games, so the first sign of game playing I’m out.

@Moonlvr555 7 ай бұрын

Amén…🙏🏼💗 This is the sermon I needed to hear. You are a the big brother I never had. Thank you.

@jurider1 7 ай бұрын

He is 55 and has done all those breadcrumbing ghosting etc they never had words for it when I was in my younger years s I’m learning so much so thank you 🙏. I will no what not to put up with the next one ! Yes I’m done with him now ! He’s done it to many times We were teenage sweetheart hearts and got back together after 37 years some men never grow up 😮 he will get a shock when he reaches out again 😊onwards and upwards ❤️✌️

@wordgoddess111 6 ай бұрын

STOP 😭 I cried laughing when you starting picking up bread crumbs and smackin’ on em. Your personality is infectious, natural storyteller. P.S. It’s at 6:46 🍞

@dawnfinley1166 7 ай бұрын

God I needed this..at this very moment in my life ❤ Thank you!!!

@RugratsNickAtNite 6 ай бұрын

Don't use the Lord name in vain

@bonbon969 7 ай бұрын

Ace! I am laughing so hard at you right now! You ain’t nothing but the truth. I so needed to hear this today. Thank you!!!!

@adriennelarkin8188 7 ай бұрын

Ace You Is Telling The Truth Lol You Got Me Cracking Up Laugh Cause the Truth Shall Set Free!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@aliciaaustin4030 7 ай бұрын

You gotta step the game up! I don't do crumbs baby! I'm high maintenance! 🗣️💯

@tristaleila2633 7 ай бұрын

🤯 🤯🤯🤯 cereal dater, I never knew… thank you so much, you are helping me get through this horrible bread crumby situationship 🤦🏽‍♀️

@dantoinettetaylor1663 7 ай бұрын

Serial ,, like a serial killer or serial rapist

@CevelJones-yb5yt 7 ай бұрын

@@dantoinettetaylor1663😂😂😂

@k.jskaleidoscope1229 7 ай бұрын

Ace I personally believe how better to learn about a man's behavior than from a man . The thing I can say about me is that although some have tried the breadcrumb thing with me I HAVE NOT STUCK AROUND for a long time for them to keep doing it . If you are dating for purpose (leading to marriage breadcrumbs will not lead you there ) .

@divinitygems9413 7 ай бұрын

I have to admit usually when men come on to speak to us women about these issues I find it hard to receive the message because it seem like it’s a lot of anger behind it but with your message it’s totally different because I can feel the love coming behind it. You seem to genuinely care for us. This is why I can listen to your message and actually receive what you’re putting down.❤

@kitamariemartin2069 5 ай бұрын

This summer is going to be REAL different. ❤

@apureenergyme8573 7 ай бұрын

Too many broken men men and broken woman in this world. People taking those bread crumbs as “ love” because they lost love in themselves.

@tiawordlaw4025 7 ай бұрын

Ooooohhhhh how I needed this pep talk! Thank you 💕💪🏾💕

@rashaerichey9344 7 ай бұрын

He ain't lying

@everythingyouwantsol7436 7 ай бұрын

Damn, this hits home. Going through the pain now and trying to heal. It's better to stay single forever Edit: you are funny. You had me laughing and crying all at once.

@sheliasmith2884 7 ай бұрын

Right sis I want to believe their are some good men out there I haven't met any and from what I'm seeing the rest of our sisters are having a hard time Makes you scared to date.

@xochitlgarcia9784 5 ай бұрын

You're exactly right! Thanks for the reminder! I needed this! Much love! And love your dog!! 🐾❤

@ShaMarie1629 7 ай бұрын

Toby was just cheering you on back there cause you were speaking 💯 facts!!🤣🤣🤣💙💙 Thank you for this message! 🙏🏽

@latoyadykes5010 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Ace, this message was for me!!! I receive it!!!!! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

@pradeepdheer6225 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Ace!! Thank you for this honest content. I literally needed to hear this Ace. 🙌 😊

@vanessabling916 6 ай бұрын

Real Talk!! Ty! This topic so relevant for real 💯 I’ve dealt with a Narc biggest lesson of my life 👏👏

@dawnwest2971 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for poppin up on my KZfaq. You really put this in prospective for me. Thank you thank you thank you

@tamikabelton3598 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Ace for doing what you do. This one is definitely in my top 3 of all of the ones that I've listened to! I think I might just watch it again...Like right now😁👏👏👏👏

@aileenwilson1195 7 ай бұрын

Oh my God, I am so thankful, appreciative and grateful that I cross your path and discover you thank you for your messages and I am going to subscribe

@misstoya1561 7 ай бұрын

Thank you so very much, I truly needed to hear this. Because honestly this was my situation. I appreciate you and your videos

@missyfoo6568 7 ай бұрын

I’m cracking up! You are so on point!!!!!

@Latomdra 7 ай бұрын

I love this man 😂😂 he so funny and keeps it real

@element6174 6 ай бұрын

Not anymore. I let them have it once. See if it change. Then go ghost! Actually I don’t even wait til he change anymore. If he does it once he don’t want you. If he wants you he will act like you act towards him. No matter how busy he is. I’ve seen high value men make the time that they really didn’t have for me.

@teewalker5163 4 ай бұрын

This is so true! I needed to hear this because I was second guessing breaking things off but now I’m very sure it’s what I need to do.

@penelopeburnam6851 7 ай бұрын

Thank You Ace!!! You have always been 💯 I am proud of You and your content!

@karenlankford2472 7 ай бұрын

What about five years! I have walked away finally!!! Absolutely I seen the signs

@kellithomas9080 7 ай бұрын

What about 13 and a 7 year old! 😥 the signs were there. Now he’s on a quest to find his wife. He switches every few months, but no real change. God told him I was his wife in August 🤣 now he’s searching for “The one” but still doing porn, still having sex with his flings, still not being real 🤦‍♀️ going to church and in ministry classes, but still doing the same thing. What Wife?? 🤭🤣 please

@nmcclarence 7 ай бұрын

I had to learn this I always knew it but wasn’t applying it.Married thinking things would change, he would mature, all he needed was time. Well 18 years in, married 9 years later it’s the same dam thing and we not even married no more. Your definitely dropping same truth/ factzzzzzz. And now my mind frame is different. But I had to do the work within myself first because it was never him it was me. We like to place blame on the person who is hurting us or won’t grow for us, or change for us but you’re absolutely right it’s us/ Women.

@sheliasmith2884 7 ай бұрын

Sis they never change I can write a book 📖

@nmcclarence 7 ай бұрын

@@sheliasmith2884 I’m learning that. Took me some time and I have to remind myself at times. These men are a trip, I’m not saying some women aren’t but the good women still get the hitty side of the stick.