Why Does a Narcissist Like Being With Multiple People at the Same Time?

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@caur739 Жыл бұрын

When the narcissist gets caught cheating .....They will never be able to trust you again

@s0me0ne1se Жыл бұрын

Hahaha exactly!! They did exactly that!! They project their insecurities so hard onto you

@mesha0932 Жыл бұрын

Yep so funny

@mesha0932 Жыл бұрын

Your post should go viral.

@iramsavir5631 Жыл бұрын

This is no joke! Seriously! They know that you now will never see them in the same light and probably think that to you, they are now lowlife, worthless scum, hence they won't be able to trust that you will ever see them in a good light no matter what they do, so they will actively search for a replacement that will view them as decent, honest people although they're not.

@allakossareva8135 Жыл бұрын

Absolutly... They will modify the systhem of hiding it and keep on cheating

@anettewaits3677 11 ай бұрын

…after our dog died he replaced him immediately…they like dogs as supply too because of there admiration, loyalty and attention they get from a dog and from having a dog …💔💚

@TheTRADMOM 10 ай бұрын

As soon as my narc starts being nice and paying attention to me I literally say one of his tramps must’ve pissed him off or she couldn’t get the money she wanted so she’s giving him hell. It’s absolutely a terrible place to be in a so called relationship.

@christinemunoz962 Жыл бұрын

My ex said he hates drama. He says hes a drama free person. But being a narcissist and having multiple supplies. And trying to keep those story straight. Isn't that the biggest form of drama anybody can have?

@annettedevries7559 Жыл бұрын

Exacly

@rockybalboa4593 Жыл бұрын

The translation of “I hate drama” is simply “I want to do whatever I want whenever I want without being called out.”

@allakossareva8135 10 ай бұрын

My man thinks that I create a problem by disclosing his hidden affaires. Hij ideal situation just: "..be stupid, don't see things for what they are, and there will be no problem.."

@cheeseburgeler8 2 ай бұрын

Hating drama but has the most drama

@effortlesssuccess2585 9 ай бұрын

Narcissists want quantity, not quality. Their relationships are shallow, there is no depth. They have no depth, so it’s easier to have multiple people, rather than one person and actually have to be vulnerable and expose their feelings. Relationships with narcs get boring real fast because they don’t have anything to offer other than toxic sex.

@cyndigooch1162 Жыл бұрын

They're greedy as! 🤦‍♀️

@caroleminke6116 Жыл бұрын

Social media is certainly enabling this con game 🤦‍♀️ if all the targets could see it for the shell game it is 👩 nothing there period.

@csibiedit8046 Жыл бұрын

Not only social media. My ex collected people from the place where he was teaching even underage people, he liked help women with children with consultations and advices so he obtained many -many supply. When I left the relationship we were three person probably on constant rotation. This rotation can happened even in the same day. I was invited to celebrate his birthday and before me already was invited another woman. The social media was only for distraction , first time heard about pansexuality...I forgot to mention he also constantly contacted my bestfriend...

@markfuller5726 Жыл бұрын

My Narc makes up code names for all his different supplies. The funny part is he couldn't remember who was who after a while. I went through his phone while he was asleep and copied all his supply contacts. I've had a couple of them reach out to me because he has trouble keeping his stories straight with each one, he's slipped up and called them by my name. I'm the only one that doesn't have a code name. He still can't get me out of his system after 2 months of no contact. None of the others can make him feel like I did. He swore that he hated social media, but, he actually has several different accounts on different platforms under false names with different backgrounds to keep a constant stream of people stroking his ego. These things make it so much easier to stay away from him.

@AremAsha Жыл бұрын

How exhausting. Mine needed so much attention and validation and an audience for his monologues. Probably he was aware on some level he would wear people out.

@triciadreas9835 Жыл бұрын

Narcissists look at you as an inadmitment object, a means to an end.

@janicemurphy4373 Жыл бұрын

DANGEROUSLY SELFISH 😢😢😢😮😮😮😮!!!!!!!!!!!!

@virginial7533 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for another insightful video. I experienced all this with my narc. The constant incoming calls and texts, always checking his phone, keeping his phone face down or locked, the lack of real connection or intimacy, the controlling of my perception of him, the multiple other side chicks when he couldn’t get the level of attention he wanted from me, and the constant lying about everything to try and manipulate me and control my perception of him. And when he saw I’d get jealous he’d use that against me and constantly talk about other women he’d dated (but kept quiet about the current supply of other women he was hiding.) Like you said, my reaction was also supply for him. He’d purposely bait me into getting jealous by saying how hot my sister was or my best friend. He was so twisted. The level of deception he operated on is something I’m still realizing and surprised by, and your videos are helping to expose and explain the motivations. Your videos are helping me realize it was never about me, I was the normal one, it was all him and his issues as a narcissist. He wanted to bring me down to make himself feel better and more powerful and in control. I’m so glad to be away from him.

@morganadavies8319 Жыл бұрын

You summed it all up perfectly. We deserve so much better. ❤

@deekromie396 Жыл бұрын

I used to think that, what did I do wrong, I did nothing wrong he chose from the beginning that he and his sisters chose to betray me, manipulate me, and financially abuse me, and they all hang out together, iv never fit in cuz I don't betray ppl therfore they had to at first isolate me so they can scheme behind my back, I'm now thankful to b away from them all

@allakossareva8135 Жыл бұрын

Were you with him from different countries by the way?

@shirleymurphy7394 Жыл бұрын

This is by far the best explanation on the how's and why's of narcistic behavior. Sadly, I eventually figured this out after a 5 year episode (won't say relationship because it was one-sided) with a narcissist. Figuring it out doesn't make it easier, but at least you understand where this sad individual is coming from. Thank you for the honesty. Blessings going your way. 😊

@PhantasmicEther Жыл бұрын

This is one of the worst aspects of my marriage… my husband is convinced it should be “okay” to build a harem on social media of “hot” women, DM them “harmlessly”, go onto dating sites as “harmless entertainment” to chat and flirt… that because it’s not physical (as far as I know) it wasn’t cheating. From the beginning, we agreed on that base ideal that we were committed and monogamous, covering all the bases… suddenly, after years of this being a repeating issue, every time he acts like he’s never known it bothers me. It always of course is turned on me that I haven’t done this that and the other things, despite my constant efforts to validate and be openly loving, affectionate, supportive, etc… trying to lose weight, become a blonde (his most favored type), etc. It is so incredibly defeating and depressing, and more so everytime I find out he’s at it again after saying he won’t/isn’t anymore. Coupled up with lots of lies and financial abuse, a brief physical incident, among many other issues, I go back and forth all the time second guessing myself constantly. All of these things but in particular the stepping outside of the marriage just guts me to the core. He doesn’t understand why I don’t trust him, and upset when I say I just can’t anymore. I’ve hit a point I just feel like even if he “has” stopped, I just can’t. it’s like the bridge is burned and I cannot get past it. Then at the same time, I’ve got that guilt lingering, and the self gaslighting completely twisting my brain I’m every possible direction. 😫 😑

@Ciera_Banks Жыл бұрын

You stayed. If you confide to stay it enables him. Leave him ASAP.

@bonnielee316 Жыл бұрын

This guy is, “ having his cake and eating it too “. Don’t become a statistic of a spouse in a 15 or 25 year marriage and then one day he says, I’m in love with somebody else, I’m leaving you. Then you will feel like you wasted your time while he lived high on the hog. All along, you were just duped. That’s going to make you mad.

@allakossareva8135 Жыл бұрын

Very frustrating for you... Just like my husband says "there is nothing... don't think about it... i know what I am doing..."... , all the same he is not capable to feel what you are feeling. I have distanced myself from my man emotionaly to not be hurt over and over. He is neither hearing not understanding how hurtfull is his life style.

@PhantasmicEther Жыл бұрын

@@allakossareva8135 EXACTLY the same here. I just can’t deal anymore, hurts too much. I’m biding my time and trying to just keep peace & dissonance until I can possibly afford to leave, totally totally stuck at the moment and it’s so frustrating! Stay strong! I’m right there with ya!

@MariaStromfors Жыл бұрын

My heart goes out to you❤️ I want you to think about someting,ok. If you truly love him in your heart and he treats you in this bad way, it is more loving of you to leave him. Because in reality everytime he hurts you, he hurts himself to even if he doesnt realize it at this moment.❤️

@Crissynxander Жыл бұрын

WOOOOWWW. THIS was the perfect video for me to watch right now. I really did wonder why I "wasn't enough" as silly as that sounds. Now, I get it- IT IS NEVER ENOUGH. Never. And the punch in the face and run away thing... That is EXACTLY what is happening to me right now... I recognize that I have a little bit of vulnerable narcissism going on myself. As I have gotteb older, I have gotten that in check. My biggest issue when I was younger is that I wasn't able to say no AND I craved everyone and anyone's attention. So, a very toxic mix. Now... I only seem to crave the attention of one narcissist at a time, lol. And I have gotten good at saying no. And I really do not need as much attention as I used to. But, my partner, now ex... Craved it from everyone AND lied about it. Even when I was younger, I never ever ever lied. If I cheated on someone, I told them RIGHT AWAY. Not him... And it really hurt and eroded my trust. At the end, I told him I am no longer his girlfriend but I still love him and will talk to him everyday. And a few days later he said he was getting with his ex that he cheated on me with and stopped talking to me completely. It hurts, badly. I know I still have a lot to work on, but I would never treat someone like how he is doing me right now. Ever.

@bonnielee316 Жыл бұрын

I’m at time stamp 1:42 and a thought just popped in my head. The point that it doesn’t have anything to do with you. Also you can think of it this way, the narcissist/psychopath never intended on following societal rules or norms on dating and relationships. They had always wanted to do what they wanted to do. They’re users. They would have used you too except that you said, I’m looking for a boyfriend or I’m looking to get married and they thought, fine, if I have to lie and pretend that that’s what I want too in order to land you, then I will. So those lies that he, for reals, chose you, makes you think that it’s your fault, that your not pretty enough, fun enough etc... because you were under the false belief that he chose you when he didn’t. Something to think about.

@RawMotivations 11 ай бұрын

100%

@karlippo 11 ай бұрын

@@RawMotivationsoh wow fck…. So, they will get into a “serious relationship “ if thats your “demand”, but not because of their feelings for you?! Maybe if they feel youre big enough of a catch or something? Then theyll play the boyfriend part? 😮

@amandajohnson-williams7718 11 ай бұрын

Great content Ben, really well explained. I've experienced exactly this with my ex-narc, and came up with the same conclusions as you've confirmed for the behaviour. It's about insecurity on their part, and fear of intimacy. You're right ✅

@cheeseburgeler8 2 ай бұрын

This def connects. Eerily

@raydurka 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for such an honest, and direct summation; that imparted a great understanding to the question of the betrayed:"why?" (Why did you do it, Why did you hurt Me? Why didn't you just tell me what you wanted?) To which the answer is always the same: "IT WASN'T ABOUT YOU!"... well, yeah, duh... thats the whole problem. How do they not see that? How can they not know that Truth IS Love? Nothing short of absolute Truth will suffice. That is how you show Love. Hence: True Love. 🌟 & ❤ to all! 🙏🙏🙏

@kittyblue8310 Жыл бұрын

So powerful ! Wow !

@hashley-d4w 5 күн бұрын

I'm doing so much better than this time last year. The other supplies? Let him move to Utah. Unaffected. Yep. 7th time's a charm. I'm sure I will never forget him, but the grief is gone and we've moved to regular levels of "he's gone" sadness. The grip he had is gone. You treat someone badly so many times and eventually I just snapped out if it. I mean, WHEW.

@mesha0932 Жыл бұрын

Your videos are amazing and go into depth so well. Thanks for your help navigating narcissism.

@Emily_Marilyn Жыл бұрын

This describes an ex of mine perfectly. Wow. Especially point 3 & at 11:15

@magdalenafijalkowska9251 Жыл бұрын

You're nailing it again. Thank you! I needed so much to hear this.

@RawMotivations 11 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

@terezelek277 Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@monalisam1 4 ай бұрын

Wouldn't the narcissist get tired of all of this at some point trying to find healing for him /herself?

@kathymunoz3915 11 ай бұрын

Yes I understanding that’s the truth Thank you narcissist big liars don’t care about nobody selfish people

@madann85 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for the clarity and validation!

@RawMotivations 11 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

@lenawall363 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so mutch 💜

@WaterBug46 11 ай бұрын

Yup. Cheating on wife with another woman but then asked someone else out. Cheating times three. And proud of it.

@latonyajackson3810 Жыл бұрын

My husband is a classic narcissist along with his family

@Lisa-he5cd Жыл бұрын

Have you thought of doing a video where you say this same overall message, but speak into the camera as if you were talking to the narcissist? I don’t think my husband (I’m leaving him, 23 years…) will choose healing. But about 5% of the time he has a clear moment where he wishes he could understand why he does what he does. He has verbalized, ”I don’t know why I can’t turn someone away that wants my attention.” We went to an intervention and three therapists we met with that week felt he was likely a narcissist. He beat the lie detector test. I’m puzzled. How did you accept this idea of being a narcissist? How did you go on that journey where you put rocks in your bag and identified honest things about yourself? I believe you, I just mean to say how did you, a narcissist, get real with yourself when so many others cannot? I think a trigger for my husband was his business became successful. That, too, is beginning to fracture. Just lots of questions.

@TheTRADMOM 10 ай бұрын

I need a one on one with Raw Motivations but I’m so scared for the pain from truths being exposed. I signed up, I log in daily but still won’t click on the resources. 😢

@RawMotivations 10 ай бұрын

You can do this! YOu are stronger than you think!

@peggywereta3074 Жыл бұрын

Is is good thank you .

@avyagarg3980 4 ай бұрын

This is well explained. However what’s the case when the narcissist tells you that you trying to get back doesn’t do anything to them ? You had mentioned that they want you to come back and try but what if they’re telling you that the trying isn’t doing anything to them and they instead go sleep with other people?

@annettedevries7559 Жыл бұрын

My ex.n had multiple woman when whe where together...🤮

@tinababy86 11 ай бұрын

Is it mean if I say I hope my ex goes to hell? Because I do.

@feliciasanners5526 11 ай бұрын

Wow!!!!

@allakossareva8135 Жыл бұрын

Am i right to think that my man is not actually interested if I love him, I sometes think he is terribly waiting for me to get fed up and break up (so that would not be him who break up). But I am playing cool and on purpose "not getting fed up"...just to see how far is he ready to play this game.

@anatriellociucci1224 22 күн бұрын

Next time, hope not, i meet a Narc, i will ask the lab to make 12 clones of me. That should do. 12 units of max validation supply.repeating "you are a stunner" every 5 seconds

@rachael_grey 11 ай бұрын

My ex and I were consensual polyamorists our entire 23 year relationship (21 year marriage) and he still cheated at the end. A covert who turned openly malicious and arrogant, and refused to admit fault nor to his any of his hundreds of lies. He ended everything on a sudden whim that his ego won't allow him to pull back from. He never thought about our kids, our finances, the education I was working hard on...just his "want" of the moment. He weaponized therapy and deepened his emotional abuse of me. His GF dumped him over his steady stream of lies, while still being his flying monkey. He has played every trick in the book, and has become a complete stranger to all of us. I feel like I should be looking for empty human-sized pods in our back forty. My husband is gone.

@karlippo 11 ай бұрын

Is this also true when he suddenly decides to get into 1 real serious relationship? In stead of having 1 main situationship and 9 side pieces? Do they then also need the external supply still or will they behave?

@deborahnelson4608 Жыл бұрын

How to ask the narc about his unfaithfulness…what words, conversation will force him to confess?

@RawMotivations 11 ай бұрын

None often he will still always lie

@emmarae4322 3 ай бұрын

Nothing.

@Bianca2802 11 ай бұрын

I dont know if its possible to become narcissistic after living for many years with a narcissist.. I actually learned from him to not rely on just one person because chances are too high that this person could Betray or leave you. So since i am dating again i started sth like collecting men. I am intimate just with one of them but i have like 7 others who i am talking to and giving them hopes. Sometimes i wish they would just leave bec in reality i feel awful. But on the other Hand i feel more safe with having options. Is this narcissistic or am i traumatized or what is this

@RawMotivations 11 ай бұрын

Narcissistic fleas. In need of healing

@meredithbarrett8395 27 күн бұрын

I was just gonna say you caught “narcissistic fleas” it’s a real side affect from being with an emotionally abusive narc.

@alyajewellery Жыл бұрын

Looks like I caught narcissistic fleas. Enjoying recruiting a roster. I talk to three guys, they fall apart and I take a month break.

@Angel_eyes___ Жыл бұрын

Wow

@debral9651 Жыл бұрын

Enjoy being alone at 70 lol

@kat-75 11 ай бұрын

It's filthy sexual sin n selfishness.

@tinababy86 11 ай бұрын

I told my ex “no” when he said “let me make love to you”.. and I told him not to hit me up if he’s gonna try to be my friend and ask me to have sex because I’m worth more and its disrespectful and he then called me a bitch lol psycho

@user-iu1zl3nz5d 11 ай бұрын

He asked me to be in one side polygamy relationship, bcs he needed 3 years his time to done with other options and then he merry me and will be faithful 🤦🏼‍♀️

@user-iu1zl3nz5d 11 ай бұрын

*marry

@RawMotivations 11 ай бұрын

How did that work out?

@RawMotivations 11 ай бұрын

Hope you are well!

@user-iu1zl3nz5d 11 ай бұрын

@@RawMotivationshe said he wants be honest, he want open relationship for at least next 6 month so he will finish this his important chapter, he wants to feel "sick" from those all girls around then he will never back to this life and will commit fully to me and marry me. i didn't want but i didn't want to loose him, i think all girls here know how its painful to stay apart, no contact. so this time No contact for me was more painful then his openly cheating. But he said he will not tolerate my cheating, because reason why he loves me - because im pure hearted and so loyal to him he never had it before.

@user-iu1zl3nz5d 11 ай бұрын

@@RawMotivationsOne more year passed. Yes i was loyal, yes i kept waiting he stop cheating and will come to me with ring and offer true commitment loyal relationship, i even didn't asked about family, only loyalty and feel myself his oneand only. But nothing changes, yes i visited him in Amsterdam and he visited me in Warsaw during year, we spent together and with his parents Christmas, New year, valentine Day together. But i wasn't happy, because i felt and knew, before he comes to me or after he sleep with other girls, like a lot ( his Instagram keeps growing, he didn't want to put me on his social media etc). I was silent about many crazy painful things, puzzles i saw to not bring bad mood out, because he said if he will be happy with me, he will naturally want to be only with me. I felt women parfums from him, i saw some girls hair in his bed etc...i saw how he prepare himself to go somewhere and i knew its for dates even he said its business. New year eve i saw by mistake photo in his phone - naked girl in his bed he likes to take such photos during seggs ( he did with me too), he offered me to try 3 with other woman but i said no its not cristian, its not for me its painful, he said its joke he loves that im so old fashioned. Last time i was in Amsterdam in July, and he blames me why i always sad, he not enjoying time with me ( i was working on my remote work + know that he keeps cheating, chasing new girls couldn't make me happy) then i back went with daughter to vacation, started to read , watch lot of videos about self love, meditation , manifestations, praying i did all don't know what happened, but something changes in my mind, i puted myself and what i really want first. I think that this guy will never stop cheating, maybe for while, to get what he wants. He will never be able to make family ( he said money also big issue, but he will never have it if he will spend it for parties and girls) Actually i was ready to give him all my help, support, anything to earn together and at least rent a house together. He doesn't want, and reason not money, but he can't live with me and have other girls in same time. I understand even we have family together he will never support me if im sick, with my problems, for him i have to be super healthy, on my own and beautiful always on heels, and i asked myself - what when i will become old - he will blame me for not being beautiful enough for him, another huge issue its really lot of stories how he putted me down about my look, i become insecure with him, but thing is that in my 40 i look like 30, im very spotty, healthy lifestyle lot of guys way younger likes me a lot ( i see it every time i go out). So basically i finally understood that he will never truly love me and he will never be carrying, good husband, one woman never will be enough for him, he will chase some ideal Idea of woman till end of life and keep lot of options around just in case. So i went no contact, praying, meditate every day to have power never back to him and manifest my ideal future husband to come into my life. Because as part of manifestation, i described my future husband on the paper and i was so surprised that i want totally different man than this guy, its also helped me a lot to move on. Thanks for all who read it, maybe i also needed to type it for myself and understand that i moving to right direction to my goal - family with real love of my life, who i believe will find me. P.s. sorry for my poor English and wish you all to love yourself first and always, and all other things will fall into our lives naturally including dream man, just believe.

@deekromie396 Жыл бұрын