OK, so you say that you are a narc Mr. Raw motivations are you still married? And if so, what was your breakthrough? Please let me know that because I’m married to one right now, who is an absolute denial and has said everything that you’re saying and he qualifies for all nine on the chart didn’t know that you only needed five, but he certainly does all of them.

I have one in my home and he will notnleave.i have adhd and he says I am the narcissist? He even thinks he doesn't need help like therapy. He is a vulrable nice guy narcissist so he has fooled so many people of his false self. They don't believe he is a nice man he is not. He complains about me when I get frustrated beche manipulates and gaslight me . I'm so tired of this person. Hrs Codependant and has serious abandìssues. Nobody wants to be alone but I would rather be alone than be with a narcissist.

Ben is right. We can’t help but to talk back. They will set you up by recording and your texts but it’s not the whole picture it’s reactive abuse

Brilliant x

Thanks so much for this, thats my ex and things make a lot more sense to me now, what a relief just to understand better

You're not kidding or joking! This video resinates with my life. My narcissistic father has literally made my life a living hell has turned many against me totally ruined my self esteem gave me depression, anxiety issues, fatigue, everything is one sided with him I'm not aloud to know what's on his phone but he has to know what's on mine the double standards and hypocrisy.He invades my privacy he stole friends and turned them into flying monkeys, he's done nothing but gaslight, trianglate me. He even uses my sitemanager and landlord to do his bidding.

This has been some fake movies 🎬. Light cameras action. Toxic..spot on Raw..

They are demons bred from the pit. Nothing is true, its all lies. They will be returned to the pit but that does not return my losses....

I think he thought I was low hanging fruit. He didn’t realize I have self worth beyond his vision. The look on his face when I didn’t chase was priceless… I could feel him back peddling when I was took him to the door out. I miss the relationship - that wasn’t real.

Don"t believe either!!!!

They are 100% cheaters, especially mentally I believe. Nothing is good for them. That's how I felt years with my husband...terrible years...

My grandpa blamed my mom’s MS on my dad. Autoimmune diseases run in the family. I had to stop running for a while because of arthritis. If you want to know how the narcissist feels about you? Get sick or injured. I never could catch my narc lying( he’s done it his entire life. I wish I had found Ben 10 years ago. That’s how long it took me to figure out what the reality was. By the time I walked out my life was ruined. My finances and my family will never recover.

Thank you for this video 🙏🏻❤️‍🩹🤕☠️

My ex would go over and beyond would bend backwards and fight against any holiday in our lives except his birthday.

I am a 41 year old male. Destroyed my marriage and relationship with the 1 person who actually wanted best for me. I don't really know how I got this way. But it's terrible. Subscribed, help.

So powerful 😮

Ya this is me. Literally said it earlier in a text. I just wanna break free of this shit. Sick of the mary go round.

Only when it's sex involved and then she constantly says I love you

He did ALL of these. I ghosted him when he least expected it.

Good advice right at the end.. you don’t want those people in your life anyway, if they will just listen to a smear campaign without questioning it.. at the end of the day.. I would hope that most people would question why someone is smearing another person publicly in the first place.. I have encountered someone like this.. years ago.. he was smearing his ex wife to me.. I didn’t even know him that well.. had only encountered him at gatherings .. ran into him at the shops and asked about his wife and he was all they’re not together and started smearing her.. A LOT.. it felt strange.. I didn’t even know about narcissism back then.. and even then I thought to myself “why is he saying so many bad things about her to me when he doesn’t even know me much at all?”.. I now realise what he was doing and I’ve see that ex wife a few times since then by accident and I remember her feeling like she needed to defend herself.. she had remarried and I think her ex-narc was even more bitter because of that.. I would hope everyone else would recognise these red flags.. thanks for this video and letting me share.. sometimes silence works wonders.. because gossip eventually fizzles out and becomes old news.

PEOPLE.. MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHO YOU HAVE. REACTIONARY ABUSE IS A SERIOUS PSCHOPATHIC ABUSE ON THE KIND AND CENTRAL NERVOUS SYSTEM. THIS ABUSE IS DONE ON PURPOSE.. NOT ACCIDENTS. THIS IS NOT A SELFISH MAN OR WOMAN WHO IS EXTRA DIFFICULT TO LIVE WITH. THESE ARE MONSTERS SEEKING TO DESTROY YOU... THOSE THAT YELL AT YOU ARE NOT THE CREAM OF THE CROP OF REACTIVE ABUSERS.. TRUE REACTION ABUSERS.. ONLY PLAY HEAD GAMES.. THEY DONT YELL... THEY ALWAYS APPEAR TO BE INNOCENT. THEY ARE THE WORST.

Good question right at the end.. “did all these issues exist in your life before him? Or start after him?” (Words by Ben).. it’s a good question to ask yourself when you’re feeling confused and gaslit or if you ever feel like you’re at fault in any way possible.. I think the likely answer for most people would be NO.. a word no toxic person likes to hear 😂

And if anyone thinks this crap is easy to get over, they are wrong. This type of abuse, if long term, can wreck havoc on the body and brain. It will take years to decompress... If that's the case. My husband married me to do this type of abuse... Please teach the children the red flags to look for in these monsters... And teach them to the neglected children especially, please.

I'm learning too many details. I just feel disgust now, in my stomach. So many details come to mind in relation to things they bring in bed/house that just popped out of nowhere.

We skipped #1 Lots of the second stage. I tried the third stage with all my being but he didn't allow it so I made myself the least desirable person, gained weight to stop the sexual assaults while I slept and the intimidation when awake to have to go through with it otherwise he would act bold and break things, blame me for cheating etc. he was so as a matter of fact when he accused me. Fuck him.

Have this reaction towards my toxic father and my hateful sister I have reactive abuse because they like to provoke anger in me after I question their manipulation and gaslighting. He likes to bring the worse out in me. I eventually snap because I am fed up with his double standards, hypocritical behavior, bullying, neglect, silent treatment, triangulation, treating me like shit he pokes at my frickin nerves.

I can only confirm…the narc is just a poor looser after all, but until you don’t understand what’s happening…it’s deeply devastating and maddening! 😢

So true. I wish I would have known this40 years ago. Thank you 🕊🙏🏽🕊🕊🕊

This is just sadistic. I have had some struggles in life...very abusive father both mentally and physically. The amount of trauma over the years has been immense. All of it doesn't hold a candle to my cover narcissistic wife of 20 years (which I just discovered). There is nothing I can say, not a soul I can turn to, no therapist that relates (she manipulates them). I'm isolated and just destroyed by toxic shame and embarrassment. She has turned my neighbors against me in a smear campaign and character assassination. They think I'm a wife beater (not true) and a drug addict (not true). She has dehumanized me, degraded me, and cuckolded me 🤦. All while denying it and turning it around on me and playing the victim.😢 It's a new kid of internal pain that is soul crushing. I fear for my children and our future. I don't have energy, motivation, fight, pride, or dignity left inside me. I'm a shell of my former self. Everyone thinks she is the greatest. The worst is when someone tells me how lucky I am to have her 🤦that's the worst! I'm trapped, I'm lost, and nobody can sympathize with me. That's one of the worst parts. She is so damn good. And I can't fight her...I'm so outclassed in this department. The first session with my therapist who does this sort of thing...I told her a single story and at the end she was in shock and said,"In ally years this is the worst I have ever heard, and I have heard some horrible stuff!". I said DON'T TELL ME THAT!!! I knew it was bad I didn't realize it was that level bad. I feel like this is going to kill me. If anyone reads this pray 🙏 for me!

EVERYTHING is an attack!!! My husband loves walking around the house saying things like "At some point WE should do/fix XYZ...." I ended up doing ALL the maintenance, gardening, etc., thinking I was lessening his load, and in the meantime I was pandering...and not getting any appreciation.

What is a cell 4 narcissist?

He said: “Why do I have to do everything?”. Um because you’re the one who lied and cheated for years! I divorced him in 2021 and he still won’t take any responsibility for what he did. Proof that he would’ve NEVER changed.

🎉🎉🎉🎉 thank you Ben

Thank you so much for sharing this information. It helps tremendously! I thought I was crazy especially when trying to explain to others that it feels like he stole my hopes and dreams, went and did everything I wanted and then rubbed it in my face. My friends said that I was jealous. That of course was another layer of trauma not getting any support from friends and being criticized. A complete mind F*** all around. He stole my character traits and basically became ME to seduce the next person and used it to continue to hurt me. All I ever did was try to love this freak and have healthy communication.

The pain I am in is going to kill me. Discarded w a post it. He promised to try. Even hired Dr.Hawkins at NPD center in Seattle.

Please provide the link to your wife's channel/podcast. Thank you.

My ex narc made himself a DNR on all his medical records that's because he knows his day is coming for all the pain he has done to people

I totally agree. But does that also mean we continue keep quiet and let them berate us with words? Aren't we supposed to stick up for ourselves?

You must

What are the thoughts, emotions and habits that need to be changed to heal from trauma bonding?

They are actually demons. Truth. Narc is putting it nicely.

me ex narc told me she loved me and then took it back a week later. said she must’ve been confused. then a few weeks later she says she’s been thinking about us and we both said “I love you” to each other and had a great night and next day, very affectionate and felt so good. then 2 weeks later she took it back again, she said she was confused and we should just be friends. I said “how can I trust you as a friend after you treat me this way” and she said “ok let’s not be friends then” and she just walked away from me. last I saw her.