Why friendship is just as important as romance | Marisa Franco

Why friendship is just as important as romance | Marisa Franco | TEDxEustis

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Our culture seems to value romance or "finding the perfect mate" over lasting friendships, and yet human history shows this focus to be a relatively recent development. In this talk, Dr. Marisa Franco explores whether friendships are just as important - or possibly more important - than romance. Dr. Marisa G. Franco is a professor, speaker, and friendship expert whose forthcoming book Platonic: The Surprising New Science of How to Make-and Keep-Friends as an Adult debuts with Penguin Random House in September 2022. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities across the country, including Harper Collins Publishers, Cisco, American Association for the Advancement of Science, and The Department of State. You can follow her on Instagram (@DrMarisaGFranco) or sign up for her free quiz (www.DrMarisaGFranco.com) to assess your friendship strengths. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@mikelanns6680 2 жыл бұрын

"Platonic love is enough... your life isn't lesser, and your connections aren't either." Love how this TED Talk elevates the value of friendship! I think the world would be a less scary/less lonely place if we all recognized the value of friendship, and if people knew their friends would be there to catch them regardless of their romantic relationship status.

@Kay-rp1fz Жыл бұрын

The tricky part is that friends often become unavailable when they form a non-platonic relationship and a nuclear family, so it can be disappointing

@shujihy 6 ай бұрын

yeah

@sitialiyaazzahra7654 5 ай бұрын

The true meaning of friendship for me is when two people or more, willing to always be there for each other no matter what happens.

@YuanQ 2 жыл бұрын

I agree, friendships are so important. I think as we transition to adulthood, it becomes harder to maintain those friendships and we prioritize our friendships lower than our partner and family. However I think it's important to know how to maintain these relationships so that we still have friends in our life

@thesetruths1404 Жыл бұрын

I agree. Be friends with me, eh? Lol

@CatarinaRivera 2 жыл бұрын

This talk can really help free us from the constricting narrative of romantic love being the most important. Thank you, Marisa, for your framing, sharing your story, and for dismantling this hierarchy of love. Your work is incredibly important, and I look forward to reading your upcoming book!

@alicialishous 2 жыл бұрын

As more and more people really consider staying single as a better alternative to a subpar relationship, understanding how amazing platonic love can be is so important! Great talk.

@eqrefined2962 2 жыл бұрын

“The wellness group did heal me” but it was because of the friendship and meeting up with people that loved me.” I love this statement. Debunking love, marriage, power and value versus shame, love, expression and friendship. Thank you Dr. Marissa Franco for bringing a microscope on this valuable topic. We need to bring this conversation forward into the mainstream! P.S. I bought your book and the audio version!

@nvinson2010 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this valuable insight and for encouraging people to value platonic friendships. Can’t wait for your book!

@jenniferandthings 8 ай бұрын

Agree. I have a relationship with a friend that is so much more stronger and deeper than some romantic relationships. Platonic soulmates are the best

@KatieNallPhD 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! My friendships are critically important! Thank you for your presentation.

@PhetteHollins Жыл бұрын

As someone who has struggled to maintain romantic relationships but have been good at platonic ones, this video speaks to me. I’ve been told by previous partners (& have even been broken up with) that I value my friends too much. Before I knew about the stats or the research, I intrinsically knew that platonic friendship is important. Good to know that I’m on the right track.

@ivysummer9306 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely loved this talk, Marisa-thank you for bringing this conversation to the world!

@nicholettejones5626 2 жыл бұрын

Platonic Love is Enough

@mrs.tiayoung6736 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations Marisa! Great friendships are just as important as romantic relationships.

@claudiavirga686 2 жыл бұрын

Well done Dr. Marisa Franco. I appreciate your venerability, research, and passion to change the story of what love looks like. Your talk has impacted my life as I have a deeper appreciation for my friends. When we change the hierarchy of love we can positively impact our communities.

@lesreneebaker981 2 жыл бұрын

Love the message of this TedX talk. Friendships are so important.

@kriziagupiteo8692 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for such an insightful talk on the importance of platonic friendships. Looking forward to the book release!

@gretelsmetals 2 жыл бұрын

This was beautiful, I loved every minute. I love reminding my friends of my love for their existence and how grateful I am of our friendship, I think it’s extremely important to have that human connection with someone not in a “romantic” way. Thank you for sharing, I will be showing my friends💛

@briannafarber9247 2 жыл бұрын

This talk is awesome! Love the history. gonna sit with relationship anarchy and romantic friendships - such hopeful, inviting concepts. Especially love what you say about how we had entire communities supporting us so of course friendships are vital!!

@fionamcqueen662 2 жыл бұрын

Way to go Marisa!!!! So so so incredibly proud of you!! What an amazing and important message to get out to so many. Friendships can make you feel so loved and whole, I don’t know what id do without mine. ;)

@tiffanylcollins3631 Жыл бұрын

I think that was a beautiful speech with a beautiful message because friendship is special and it's important.

@ondreatorrence4322 5 ай бұрын

This needs way more views

@bowiehs 9 күн бұрын

Her book on platonic is amazing..

@heathermcqueen4729 2 жыл бұрын

👏 This is the type of TED talk I can return to on a weekly basis as a reminder to be curious and mindful of how I’m judging and experiencing my relationships with others and the world. Thank you so much, Marisa, for sharing your experiences, research, and wisdom with us. Can’t wait to read your book!

@bani209 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience and expertise with us! Such a beautiful message. I'll be sharing with all my friends!

@asdrubalivan18 Жыл бұрын

Wow! I loved this talk! Marisa Franco does it very well. She's an expert I've been following for some time and there's a lot that we can learn from her on friendships. I look forward to continue learning!

@tarachristina3922 Жыл бұрын

I just love your work Dr. Franco! Thank you 🙏🏽 This presentation brought tears to my eyes. Many Blessings to you!

@applesas942 Жыл бұрын

Amatonormativity makes everyone think romance is needed and is more important than any other love when other types of love are just as or even more important. Like, it's crazy how much of a negative effect amatonormativity has on us. It's been hard for me to learn that as an aromantic asexual. But it's necasssary if I am going to be happy. Treat your platonic relationships with as much love and care as you do your romantic ones.

@LetsGetIt689 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful! This is so important.

@stevenandtereseroth616 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful talk! Enjoyed every minute of it

@SabrinaSterlingGA 2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations 👏🏻! What a great message!

@adoptedbykpop Жыл бұрын

I read her book it was really validating. It gave me the vocabulary to talk about relationships that aren’t in a romantic or familial context.

@katzmeows 2 жыл бұрын

So interesting, loved this!!

@Katusa22k Жыл бұрын

Finally someone who understands me. I'd like this woman to be my friend :-D What a wonderful speech and I agree with every single word :-)

@SmileyPoswolsky 2 жыл бұрын

Love this talk!

@Kay-rp1fz Жыл бұрын

Wow, paradigm busting, out of the box, revelatory, thank you

@bakarit08 Жыл бұрын

Excellent work Marisa!

@lilwhales 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

@USA50_ 6 ай бұрын

❤ good Ted Talk 🇺🇸👍

@jamesteodoro Жыл бұрын

SHE SAID!

@brunot68 Жыл бұрын

WHOUAH !! haha moment !! thank you

@NiranjanKumar-fi2dv 2 жыл бұрын

yer lookin fuckin awesome

@susanalexander2908 2 жыл бұрын

You need to go back farther-to the ancient world. Cicero: How to Be a Friend: An Ancient Guide to True Friendship.

@Alexandra_Round 2 ай бұрын

I don't understand getting friends on dates, it's really looks more like polyamory to me. If your friend is in commited and closed relationship with their partner, they can't go dating - it's cheting.