Hey I found you from your Ted talk!

@@personoftheworld5364 Hi!! Welcome!

Found you on Ted talk, I realised I can't access medication for adhd from where I am. So I was wondering how you can recommend me going through your videos. My life is a mess

lol I laughed as you went into more detail about how liquids thicken while cooking during an ADHD video on working memory. Classic! Thanks for your work. I can always relate!

Hey there! Do you recommend Wondrium....or? ;)

Exactly !! I always get distracted by the recommended articles 😅

The struggle is real

Bruh same

Yup!

SPOT ON! Same thing happens at work with using various computer programs... by the time I navigate to the right spot, I forget why I wanted to get to that spot in the first place. It seems to perplex my coworkers how it's even POSSIBLE for me to struggle with it as much as I do.... *sigh*

Aww you both are lucky to have each other, god bless you 💙✨

I often have to stop a youtube video to let myself go to the end of the triggered thoughts otherwise I can't focus on the rest of the video. I love that she had so much patience. I am secretly afraid people would get annoyed with me.

Fancy seeing you here! I'm glad you've got someone who loves and understands you like she does in your life, man. You're great, and you deserve awesome things.

You are a lucky man. She sounds lovely.

My boyfriend and I both read to each other. No official diagnosis for either of us (I'm going to seek help once I'm on my own health insurance, and he was told it was only borderline as a child) but both have the memory issue and I'm rather prone to getting distracted. He'll summarize whatever I miss and doesn't get mad about it! I also reread and clarify when he needs it.

I completely can relate to this. Makes taking test feel like doomsday.

Same here, I cant learn the same way the teachers want me to learn... Its not how I get good at things.

Omg, I can relate to this so much. I love learning new skills but it's so hard to focus on one..

I know I’m really late, but I wonder if you’d benefit/enjoy creating something like a second brain system?

​@@meganfuentes3487please explain in detail about that system...

MANNN!! Exactly!

"No wonder everything is so exhausting!" Oof, that hit hard and close to home.

Yes. 👍 Exactly!

I would like to reccomend u Elizabeth filips channel .Not any promotion 😊

@@Kingkids26 it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

Lmao same, with multiple browser windows on each on. Dunno if it will help yourself, but I've been kinda storing things on a personal discord server for myself. Not great at it as I have both an unorganized folder and multiple open tabs-windows still 😂

yeah i to, but then getting overwhelmed by the number of tabs and forget what i have open already and where and close everything and starts new :(

Yesssssss

Check out the Toby extension for chrome. Absolute life saver because you can name the group 😅

I use to do that till I realized...I never got back to 99% of them, once I hit around 50 or so I end up dragging like 1-5 tabs in their own window that I've actively been using and then nuke the rest without checking. xD

I had the page number problem in church many times, when the preacher would say we would be in the book of so and so, chapter and verse. I would find myself getting to the book and the chapter, but that verse had shot off into the stratosphere, never to be seen again. I finally allowed myself to get to the parts i could, then ask the person next to me what verse. I found that people don't think any less of me for needing to ask for help.

@@mamasaidno1749 Yeah that exact kinda thing happened to me when a teacher would say what page to go to and what line # to look at (like for a literature class) and I'd start to forget exactly what the page # was after they said the line # and then while I'd be trying to remember the page #, I'd completely forget what line I needed. And I'd sometimes miss song #s in church too, but I could usually get by looking at what # a family member had flipped to. 😅

This didn't really hit me until I got to this comment. I don't know why this one just basically smacked me upside the head, but now I'm kinda in tears.

@@RutabegaNG I was diagnosed as a kid and was lucky enough to (mostly) figure out what having ADHD really meant for me during college, and even I'VE had a lot to work through about how it's shaped my self image. There's.. a lot of damage done by not understanding or knowing your ADHD. 😔 (That said, this channel is wonderful for existing and I point everyone I know who has ADHD or knows someone with ADHD here. The practical advice is great, but more than that, I hope it will help them understand themselves and possibly start to "heal" in the same way I did after I found this channel years ago.)

@@katetoolate234 I was diagnosed as an adult. Always through I was super dumb. In high school I self diagnosed myself with dyscalculia which also effects working memory that helped. Struggled a lot in uni had some non specific learning disabilities test done at uni showed I had terrible working memory, great comprehension but it was impacted by my processing speed😒. Ended up being told I had anxiety. Fast forward 15 years I have finally been diagnosed with adhd, high chance of also having dyslexia and if my country tested for dyscalculia I think ild get 100%. I think I’ve done well but it’s sad to think how different things might have been if only I knew what I was working against!!

I've always thought, if I enlisted in the military, even if by some miracle I get past basic training and deploy, I'd probably get my team killed in 5 minutes because I'd forget some crucial order.

ooo if you try to remember it as an image (map/movie scene etc) it might be able to help cuz then you’re only really remembering one thing in the end rather than separated bits of info!!

people can remember stuff like that?

@@user-uu5dc6wr6h I think to an extent it requires training but neurotypicals would definitely find it a lot easier lol

Me when someone explains a game to me. I just need to do or watch it to learn, explanations go in one ear and out the other...

See also: “You don’t need to do this chore RIGHT NOW.” Except YES I DO

If I write it down than I miss everything else because I'm thinking how to write this down.

Best thing if a teacher or professor says/said that and then holds a verbal power point presentation you know he will put in the next text too. Like add this with generations who don't know how to shut the fu up you know you're screwed.

@@emilysmith2965 100%

"I think I know what I NEED to do"

Same!

Haha ditto! 😆 Now I have to go back and watch it again because I skipped ahead to comments....

110% Me!!!

@@MrsJAC23 every damn time 🤣

I’ll put videos in “watch later” but always forget I put a neat video there and forget to look

just had a test today i already practiced the question before but when i read something or think of something i forget a step in the middle ended up doing badly in test even though i understand the question

I didn't have this problem at school, but i do have it now.

I had to read this twice

Mood. Happened while I was talking with my boss and I couldn’t exactly stop her like “hey can I take notes while you talk?”

This is too relatable

ME. OMG writing class comments??

This is why i despise doing presentation without looking at the slides. Till to this day i still dont understand why my tutors doesnt let us look at our notes when presenting. Im good at presenting my ideas through writings rather than talking cos i have no idea what im trying to say

In my latest phone interview I had to read a pamphlet about the company's ideals to prepare for it and they asked me what I liked about it and I said, "I remember I identified with a lot of it, but I'll have to pull it up to get you specifics." I had read it, and I had identified with several things within it, much of it was a part of my very BEING, but for the life of me I could not bring to mind a single thing from the pamphlet.

oh my god, this is so true

Haha this happened to me

Agree. I do this every time I watch something.

I started doing this in the last year or so! I never noticed how much it helped me keep track until I was watching a programme and was struggling to keep track of what was being said! (I don’t have a diagnosis, but the more I’m watching this channel, the more I wonder!)

Oh so that's why I enjoy subtitles with whatever I'm watching 😯

Also helps a lot when the spun balance is bad… I’m looking at you, The Witcher.

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

Happens a lot with me at work plus I keep hiding the tools I need from the job

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….which is why I interrupt people and blurt out what I have to say (before I forget it)

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@@cammie49 this!!

that's a good way of putting it, "mentally squinting"

very good one.. i'm like that with maths i always thought i just had dyscalculi but it seems it might just be an ADHD thing.. i defenitely mentally squint to try and do maths.. and even then i often end up losing count so i end up just giving up on the question and write a random number

Mentally squinting is my new favorite way to describe my head when I'm struggling

I almost spit out my milk

What does mentally squinting mean?

Hey how did it work out? Are you diagnosed now?

How did it go?

Hope you’re doing better.

Same situation for me, partners getting annoyed at me for not remembering every detail of their day and so on, i'm genuinely trying but its just not the way my brain works.

@@M_E_T_R_O__9 it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

I wonder if events in books go to long term after a session? While I'm reading (especially if I'm only listening) I'll have to go back and re-read/listen occasionally, but once the session is over, the events are usually rock solid.

OMG I laughed so hard at this!!!

Man, y you gotta hurt me like this...

Well tbh if they'd been actively using the moves for awhile, seems more likely that they should actually keep forgetting the new move, then forgetting the move they knew so well?

Pffft.

me: MAGIKARP MAGIKARP KARP KARP

Same here, bro. 😂😂😂

I never forget a face but names..? Plenty. I greet familiar faces I don't have names for with "Hey Stranger!" Which is a great way to chuckle internally at my poor memory, and seem friendly while being "ironic" about not remembering the person. It's been 13 years and the longer I go without learning the names of my church-mates the funnier it gets. I almost don't want to learn just to keep the joke up!

I usually give a disclaimer when meeting somebody that I will absolutely forget their name that way there's no expectation of me to remember it.

I learned a trick that works pretty well. Say that person's name three times as soon as you learn it. It can be hard to put their name in context immediately three times, but I also learned that just saying it three times in a row right away helps. It also helps if they have a good sense of humor, because saying "Lisa,Lisa,Lisa." shortly after being introduced can otherwise be really awkward.

@@Sypherz thanks man im gonna try this next time I meet someone new

Some times i sign out 2 times at my job as i am confused if i signed out or not becausei dont remember ! Doese this happen to anyone else please share your thoughts if this happens to you , do one thing twice cause you dont remember the first time ?

Or… why did I come over here for

"What was i just thinking"

I most commonly use the phrase:"How did I already forget this she said it like 2 seconds ago"

Sometimes I say, "What did I just say?" lol

"I was doing something..."

Some times i sign out 2 times at my job as i am confused if i signed out or not becausei dont remember ! Doese this happen to anyone else please share your thoughts if this happens to you , do one thing twice cause you dont remember the first time ?

I did because I was distracted by the pop-up suggestion. Had to go back and watch 3 times.

@@shuazu this happens to me quite a bit!

No, because I can hyper focus when I'm very interested.

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

@@marisad292 it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

This can also be a result of how our brains compartmentalize. Our brains see doorways as separators, and a thought you had in one room can be erased by walking through a doorway, because your brain associated it with that room. So that part isn't exclusively an ADHD effect.

I do that. I'm waiting for my brain to remind me why I opened it, or why I was in the kitchen, or why I stood up, or basically to recall anything from the past few minutes to which I can ascribe some sort of intent.

I just stood in the kitchen randomly in waiting mode because I had started the rice cooker and my brain got stuck. Mind you, the cooker goes for like 20 mins. I did nothing.

@@WhiteWolfDarkpaw I was thinking of that, too. It's really fascinating how it works. Pretty sure I learned about it through a youtube video. :)

thats good to know. i thought i was just weird haha. i often walk back to where i forgot and will remember works almost everytime.

Same!! Everyone at work tells my I look so organised with my lists, spreadsheets (EVERYWHERE) and the fact that I NEED to clear my desk every time someting is finished and cross the task of my list. They really don't understand that i need that to function because if I had to rely on my working memory with a desk full of unfinished tasks I would go cry in a corner and never ever come out..

Ditto! I couldn't tell if I had dyscalculia or if it was a working memory issue from ADHD

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

mine's pretty terrible too. Makes studying incredibly frustrating...

Between poor Working Memory and poor impulse control to find something more entertaining to do..... studying sucks :B

I’m going through this exact same thing, honestly considering dropping out of Uni because my ADHD is so severe

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@@HowtoADHD This particular comment helped me a lot because I always feel incredibly guilty about having such a hard time studying when I'm supposedly quite smart. I read one line on a textbook and immediately forget how it started. It's so draining!

I think you are totally right... I was just thinking yesterday how amazing it would be if more workplaces invested in providing administrative assistance for a great diversity of roles (not that it would ever happen between corporate greed and gov't "austerity"). I have known some brilliant teachers, for instance, who absolutely struggle with organisation; it makes their job so much more stressful than it has to be, and chronic disorganisation sadly does have an impact on students, as well. Imagine if there were people around at every school whose job it was just to collect forms, coordinate field trips, take stock of classroom supplies that need to be refilled, etc...

Wouldn't that be great? But the more that schools are forced to cut back to create "value for money" the less likely this is.

@@MarquisOfHartington My reality. I have always felt I needed an assistant to handle the administrative tasks. That would definitely take a way a whole lot of stress! But yeah...

You are right that more tasks are given so that less staff need to be hired. I've been working for 32 years and there has been such change. It's a combination of technology reducing jobs, higher wages costing businesses, the higher costs of rental/purchases of business space, and amalgamation into large corporations.

I straight off told my boss that I'm not a multitasker. I get confused and fail to distribute time properly when I have more than two tasks to do on a same day, if they're not properly time-boxed.

I don't have enough working memory to read this sentence 😂

Lol

I love seeing your channel 😁 I get excited when both you amd how to adhd post

@@HowtoADHD I don’t wanna brag but I didn’t use any brain power to write that sentence.

@@jewels3846 I like hanging around in How to ADHD video comments. More people here to chat with. I don’t get lots o’ people commenting on my videos… yet.

Totally! I mean... What was I going to say? What were you just saying?

Id take some omega 3s to see if it helps my memory if I could remember.

Disorganized organizer. That’s me. I’m not tidy but I know where everything is. I’m also an “imperfect perfectionist”.

This one hit me extremely hard. I have a meltdown and reagequit nearly every time...then have to come back 30 min later once I've relaxed. I cannot stand that sh*% I am loathe to hand over biodata to companies in general, but the one-touch unlocking feature on the new MacBooks seriously changed my life. I guess we don't usually think about things that are "merely frustrating" as accessibility issues...but the more I reflect on my experiences with technology, they totally are. (I think about how stressful continually-new-fangled security protocols can be for older people with less general comfort with technology, as well...)

@@MarquisOfHartington On the subject of biodata, it's frustrating how many accessibility solutions come with massive breaches of privacy. Alexa and similar technologies also come to mind. I find the lack of privacy laws around that alarming anyways, but it's truly disgusting how disproportionately that affects disabled people.

@@kirathulhu 100%--I have had this same thought many times.

Enter the 4 Digit code here: 5 8 ..... 8am! oh shoot I forgot I have an 8am appointment! I need to call and cancel...cancel..oh no! I forgot to cancel that trial subscription to that website... website? Oh yeah I need to enter the passcode to this website! Here we go.... *Your passcode has expired click here to send another one*

I LITERALLY cant do those! I cant remember the codes long enough to enter them >_

Yes!! That one simple thing has saved me SO much frustration.

This is the good part of knowing your keybord by heart, I can just type the numbers while looking straight at the card the whole time, not looking at the screen or my hands. I still read it out loud as I go half the time though.

@@martelraykin MANY years ago I worked at a Hotel Switchboard & the numbers on the switchboard were in exact opposite as they are on a "regular" phone ! Challenging!

We use landline phones at work, and you get like 2 or 3 seconds to keep dialing before it announces to you that that isn't a real phone number. Our customer data puts phone numbers in a sea of data 🤯

I've been wondering about dyscalculia for a while. Numbers immediately leave my memory. What helps me is to say the number out loud. I remember the sound of my own voice saying numbers way more than the image of them. The order gets jambled in my mind.

So I have a friend who has adhd and got a serious brain injury from a car accident. It took years to recover and she said that thankfully many of the brain injury coping methods were similar to her adhd coping methods. I always think of the ways that brain injured people get frustrated easily and get angry as being so similar to myself.

@@djackio It's so great that your friend already had those coping mechanisms in place! Learning them from scratch is a bit of a nightmare

Did you know ADHD used to be called *Minimal Brain Damage?* It actually makes a lot more sense *to me* to consider it a type of brain injury, rather than a purely "psychological/psychiatric" problem, as it's often treated. I don't even usually tell people I have ADHD because it seems like everyone and their dog is suddenly an expert on how to "fix" my ADHD when I do tell them. Instead I explain I have some permanent brain damage from childhood and they usually leave that alone. Dr Nadine Burke Harris does some interesting talks on Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale and trauma (especially chronic exposure) as it relates to ADHD. Very interesting stuff!! Trauma can be induced physically (injury, chemical exposures etc) and psychologically (abuse, neglect, etc). Chronic exposure to trauma can wire the brain to constantly be scanning our surroundings for threats (very much like PTSD, if not a manifestation of it), which causes us to be constantly "distracted" from the non threatening things we're supposed to be doing. I've had a lot of therapy over the years for the anxiety that comes along with ADHD, but trauma-specific therapies have been the most helpful. I'm still extremely ADHD, but my quality of life is much better just by having the understanding of trauma how to deal with it in general. Sorry for rambling. Not really...lol

@@MrsJAC23 I've found your comment very interesting! 🙏

@@MrsJAC23 Also found it interesting! Thanks !

Absolutely!

100% x

Yes

Yes, it's a "better living through chemistry" moment for me when that happens because if I really cannot focus I will take an anti-anxiety medication (prescribed to me). It really helps me cut out the extra "noise" in my head so I can focus.

This is so true for me! I’m fast approaching menopause and my short term memory has been going downhill for several years and now my working memory feels like it’s made of Swiss cheese. Thanks for the BC tip; I’m going to look into it!

Estrogen drop day is the worst day of my month. I can physically FEEL the serotonin come back once my Estrogen starts building back up. Fingers crossed the birth control I'm on will help with that 🤞

@@malaineeward5249 it did for me, I don’t take the sugar pills though, just skip the “period” entirely since there is no medical reason to have one.

@@desereetouchet9294 mine doesn't even come with placebos. Just 3 weeks of real pills and instructions to skip a week of pills to have a period if you want.

I was wearing a helmet and still got a TBI :(

For real, when I got a concussion it was so scary because I would forget where I was, what I was doing, what I was thinking....and this was a mild concussion! Protect those brains, brains!

This exactly where I'm at!!! Are you taking any meds (adderall) for this? I know I have it ADHD but I could get by some what but now I don't know, feel like I need a push.

@@toobossforchuck yeah for sure, after mine I'd find myself putting something in the microwave, setting the time for several minutes, and then the thing would beep, meanwhile I'd be left thinking 'what was I just thinking about for those several minutes?'

What TBI???? Edit: nvm it's traumatic brain injury

recently i made a coffee, drank half of it while doing stuff... then went & made another one - came back to my desk - forgetting i already had one 😑

@@Celeste-in-Oz oh no but Atleast u got 2 times the energy

this is me i am this

Lol I just get another bowl on purpose

I’ll do that with showers. I will take a shower then a few hours later I can’t remember if I took a shower today or not. Some days I take two showers.

I can relate! I have found that it helps repeating their name back to them, while I look at them. That way 1) it repeats the information, and it actually have to pass (somewhat) through the brain to do so 2) gives me a longer time to memorize the name and 3) has the added bonus of a change to get the name correct if I got it wrong. That being said I still forget names sometimes even of friends. ... I lost my train of thought.. anyway I hope something useful can be found i what I already wrote :)

Openly admitting that you keep forgetting names and asking them again as soon (and as often) as is happens is a massive game changer. Give it a try.

I have trouble remembering one new name :/

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone? i also think i will develop dementia

Yup.

Thank you for writing down my biggest struggles. One on one I can talk like a champ. Any more and I can't find a way to make myself speak. I cannot comprehend their conversation fast enough to make and meaningful input on time. I end up standing their awkwardly and quietly.

Dunno if my brain's actually an ADHD brain, but it likes making multiple lists. Two's a good number. On one, you get down the input - things people are telling you, just the keywords. The other is for output - things you might want to say when you get the chance. It's okay to say, "Hang on, I missed that, can you repeat it?" Just be prepared: if you're taking notes, you might be asked to make them presentable and sharable later, which may take some extra work on top of what it took to get it into your head in the first place.

That’s the biggest mood.

@@DarkGloComics It's more like, if I try to make one list, I end up with (at least) two, but I understand if that still ends up useless... sorry for mouthing off so ignorantly.

Yeah, and that's why in my previous career I was a successful simultaneous interpreter. Your brain needs to switch back and forth at an incredible speed, it's exciting, it's stressful so I enter hyper focus mode, and those constant switches are exactly at the speed of my brain, so my working memory gets filled -- and dumped -- real quick

Yes the hyper focus is a strong advantage for the right job and terribly miss understood by those who don't experience it. My job is heavily cad centered and i use music and youtube to limit distraction and encourage hyper focus. My boss was initially skeptical that they help me, but has 'caught' me hyper focused many times and coworkers have told me that he's watched me several minutes shocked that I was obvious to anything around me. He has since told me he doesn't understand how I do that.... my response was me neither 🙃 ...but I can tear through a drawing fast when it does 😉

@@alexlail7481 Wait, what's your job :O? Are you an artist?

One thing resonated about your comment is that I doodle, highlight, underline, circle, and write notes/comments on my work orders prompting my boss to ask why.... answer: because there's too much running through my head then later he'd ask why'd you do it that way?.... answer: I don't remember but it's important 🙂..... he says well change it to '____' .... okay, a couple hours later he comes in .... change it back to what you had that previous change doesn't work 🙃😉

@@alexlail7481 how do you avoid using KZfaq for procrastination?

This is my biggest problem , It is really hard for me to just put everything in its place if i don't or i get distracted just follow my mess eventually you will find me

i feel like i got really lucky with this because my personal living space is really small. if it's an item i can see myself using within the next week/month, i put it generally somewhere where i can see/spot it. it's extremely messy, but at least i dont lose too many things

it's wierd because i can't remember the important ones.. but the unimportant ones like wich specific bus i was on or what specific metro car i was on ( for example: metro car 5433 or metro car 5309) but when it comes to things i HAVE to remember i'll just forget.. another thing is maths.. i cannot do them for the life of me.. i even have to count out the simplest of questions on my fingers.. if you were to ask me what is 8+13 i'd have to go from 13 and then count that 8 up on my fingers otherwise i just won't know

@@litchtheshinigami8936 No I totally get that sometimes I remember super random and unimportant things easily Also I really struggle with math as well

You are MY people! 🙌🏻

Or we bring everything except the thing we were looking for

This can also be a result of how our brains compartmentalize. Our brains see doorways as separators, and a thought you had in one room can be erased by walking through a doorway, because your brain associated it with that room. So that part isn't exclusively an ADHD effect.

If you are short of AdderaII for your ADHD then get more at darkfax.com No prescription is Required

Yeah, liminal spaces like doorways cause working memory issues even for NT's; what hope do we have? ;_;

​@@iditrirajanI always have doubts that did i close the door or not , did i tap out in train station or not , some times my job requires that i count items on the pallet once i count, than immediately forget what was the count and than i count again .other times when i learn something new than i doubt myself am i doing it the right way? i immediately forget doese this one happen to you ?

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

I have to take notes as I read or draw pictures that illustrate the dense stuff. Synthesizing the information or putting it my own words or even just figuring out which lines are most important to highlight on a page of dense info really helped me in college. My other trick was to create a couple test questions for each page…so basically manipulating the info into a multiple choice question or true/false question etc can be the fast route into long-term memory storage.

great topic idea! Tell me more?

@@HowtoADHD Thank u!🥺 Ok so I was reading a post on reddit and my reply, and the 2 comments under my reply, there I explain it better and link other great posts that explain it! Here: www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/motdce/i_have_this_habit_of_saving_posts_and_screenshots/gu7np82?context=3

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?

it takes me some effort and time to perform complex tasks, does this happen to you? please reply I want to know if I'm not alone?