Same here bruh 😭

Bankai

His accents gave me flashbacks lmao

I feel

Swear this is top comment on every vid

Medicaid got me some good help fs

You can always compensate your parents when u get a job. It’s not like u immediately have to pay your parents debt

Hasn’t Simi Liu been criticized for being “too douche/bro-y/Westernized” in terms of personality compared to other Asian actors?

@@jomaq9233 Are you agreeing with the criticism?

i specially enjoy when he makes voices of a indian guru or a indian mom XD

​@@nekokna same and he criticizes his own culture for overpressureing their kids similarly to Asians.

@@SemekiIzuio his own culture *is* Asian, so of course he's criticising his own culture

​@@nekokna He is an awesome character actor 🤩

@@pebblebrookbooks4852 the guru's hand thingie jajaj i cant stop laughing! Its soo good!!

The problem is living for other people instead of yourself. If you live for yourself, you'll always feel successful

@Kyle Spevak the thing is in asian culture you're just not told often or even remotely encouraged to do stuff for yourself truly. I'm working on it but it's not easy at all

No, the worst part when you're on the path of a "good asian kid" is that the moment you stumble at some point in your life (which is inevitable cuz that's how lyfe rolls), all hell breaks loose as the world starts crumbling around you as your parents start piling on insane pressure to "get you back on track". That's pretty much the key reason why so many seemingly superstar Asian kids commit suicide.

@@kylespevak6781 in Asian cultures you’re taught from a very young age that living for yourself is selfish and something only “bad people” do. Obviously you become an adult and realize this is bullshit, it’s much harder to reprogram the brain to stop thinking that though

@@williamy3947 yeah Asian parents seem to think burnout is a myth, unless they’re burnt out from the awful burden of having children

You get to play two cards at the same time. Play black card to get into medschool - you just have to turn up to get in. Then, when it gets to getting into residency, start carrying katana with you everywhere :D Beat the system :D

My situation is different then yours in that I'm an adopted Chinese kid. My parents didn't over pressure me or anything (they're white) but I totally get the not being good enough. 1. I was the Asian parent I didn't have 2. I was too Asian to be American 3. I wasn't culturally Chinese to be considered Chinese (within China, but frankly any facet of Chinese culture, ABCs etc). I (random internet stranger) am really proud of you for coming to that realization that you ARE enough.

@@NeuroScientician no. This whole notion that you “just have to turn up to get in” is false and disrespectful to black medical students bro. That’s not how it works at all.

@@themarathoncontinues4211 Well, you quite literally have to do the least to get there.

Precisely the way to live. Like I'm not white, I'm not German, I'm just me. My race doesn't mean anything to my identity. Now I know everyone struggles with their own personal identity struggles but this is where I am at and what I think fits me and could fit other people. Hope you can find out what idea/mindset would help you most 👍

I hope you're in a much better place now. You are an adult who is capable of making their own decisions, if you want to try accounting again I hope you're able to go for it.

@@infinitecurlie thank you for the kind words. I am currently finishing up my accounting degree, and I will soon start working in global finance leadership!

@@Killermunchkins12 Inspiring

Dude I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I've been homeless too for different reasons but also after a falling out with my parents in college (same boat as you as I had only focused on grades during high school and didn't have any of my own money saved. They would also manipulate me into controlling things in my life by threatening financial security. It sucks. I hope you found good resources and I hope you're doing ok now.

My family came as émigré in the revolution, and honestly, the situation for me hasn't been much better. 😓 Thanks for commenting and representing those from our region, (The Eurasian region: North Asia, Eastern Europe, Central Asia ) we don't really get much representation... , at least stateside. And at least that isn't propaganda. >,< Also, shout out to everyone who has dealt with this. Hang in there, we're all here for you, you aren't a failure and it's okay to be human!! ❤

Respect for having to guts to pursue that. I'm sorry for that difficult discouragement... I hope deep down your mother is immensely proud of the person you are.

That's when you start drawing boundaries. Because it's not that you can't do it - what she's saying isn't a reflection of you at all but a reflection of herself and how she feels inadequate. (Tho I understand how difficult that can be. I have some people and there's topics I just don't talk to them about) You can get through these courses and achieve that PhD. You're doing the best you can with what you have, and don't beat yourself up over not having it worse. You are a person who is going through a difficult experience and it is ok to feel down about it.

OMG, are you me?! My mom insisted that I wasn't good enough at math because of some problems I had in 4th grade, never mind that I overcame them and skipped a level of math in 8th grade.

@@infinitecurlie completely agree. there is a point where you realize the things she is saying are her own personal perception which is guided by what she is thinking - it doesn't mean that anything she is saying is actually true or at all applicable/useful to you. I've been berated by my parents for choosing a degree in ecology and told it was a joke, which funnily enough they backtracked on once they saw me get accepted to a PhD at Oxford (and kept pursuing this career regardless of what they told me). At some point I realized that objectively, I'm pretty damn good at what I'm doing if I can get into a university like that, and whatever they believe or say about me isn't the truth. I've learned to selectively tell my dad things about my academic life to minimize the amount of negativity he can throw back at me. Your mom can't speak to you in a helpful way and it's a point where you have to think, why am I still allowing myself to be shaped by someone's thoughts who isn't even an 'expert' at this thing they are judging me on?

That takes alot of courage to say or have a conversation about, and to keep repeating it aswell. Really well done!

I’m really happy you were able to voice your feelings at that time. I suffered with, and still suffer with communication problems, though I’m working on improving it. Watching this video and reading your comment made me realize how differently things would’ve been if I was just able to find the words, like you were able to, even once. However, I recognize and remember that even my lack of communication skills stemmed from earlier experiences. Can’t help but feel I’ve been put at a major disadvantage here, and tbh I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to forgive my family or myself for the shit I had to go through.

My problem is that my mother did that to me. But my second problem is that no matter how I try to bring the problem up, she contradicts everything I say and accepts no responsibility for anything. She has no clue why she behaves the way she does or says the things she says. She just behaves. No matter what she has said or done, even to clearly bully me, it's my responsibility to always have good feelings and accept everything. She always started with "why did you only get B+" and then if I turned sour and bitter enough, a C suddenly became acceptable.

Nowadays, they seem to be evolving, "Oh you did not get into harvard degree? it is ok, there is always masters.", "Oh, you did not get into masters at harvard? It is ok, there is always Phd ( permanent head damage) ", "Oh, you did not get Phd at harvard? It is ok, you can teach there".

My parents acted similar but couldn’t break out of it because they had kids as investments. We were meant to be solutions to their depression and financial issues, which is obviously very stupid. If we didn’t succeed, it gave them panic and anxiety which would lead to the reprimanding, bearings, torture sessions, getting kicked out of the house, etc

Maybe just low key introduce them to Dr K and they might find this one

Best of luck to you both

While you might not be able to show him this video, please tell him you are proud of him for getting good grades because he might not be getting that from his parents

That’s really sad 😢

That's rough buddy. My mom hoped I would get into top schools and be an accountant or something. Instead I went to a mid-tier arts school and graduated to pursue a career in philosophy. She thinks I'm retarded, and tbh I probably am.

Oh man I'm sorry 😞 I'm not Korean, but a large portion of my classmates in middle & high school are Korean. And holy crap, that school was so competitive bcs all the Korean parents want their kids to get into Ivy League, and other parents also got even more competitive because of it. It was hell.

@@meguca201 hopefully she will accept you as time goes on. What it took for my mom to drop the "tough love" bullshit was for me to go through an absolute early life crisis. I worked 80+ hours for a week, fell asleep at the wheel, lost the money I saved from the summer because of the car and medical bills, all while dealing with an abusive girlfriend. My ex had borderline personality disorder, and was incredibly manipulative. Some of the things she did to me included cheating, cutting herself, and threatening to kill herself because of me. Of course I didn't tell any of this to mother. When I needed her the most, she had nothing but vindictive, self pittying bullshit, as she yelled at me for hours straight. I went straight into my second year of college, and my girlfriend left me right before classes started. To rub it in more, she basically called me a loser, and told me that I'm not on her level or whatever. I started off the semester incredibly well. I got good grades initially, but I was running on fumes by that point. It was only a matter of time before I completely broke down. I stopped going to class, I stayed in my room playing computer games all day, learned everything there is to know about Warhammer 40,000, and slept. No matter how much I slept, I just couldn't get any of my energy back. As time went on, I lost my on campus job because I was so fucking depressed, and couldn't bother to show up. When my boss called me in to fire me, I broke down crying and explained my situation. He softened a bit and quietly terminated me. That's when my suicidal ideation really started. I was depressed for a while, yet that was when I actually wanted to kill myself. This went on for months until I had another mental breakdown, and turned myself into the psychiatric ward. The hospital called my parents, and to their credit, they drove an hour and a half to a hospital near campus to check up on me. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder, and was discharged in a few days. I finished my second semester absolutely bombing classes I would have normally thrived in. I was so angry at everyone and everything. Even though it isn't their job, I was mad at my professors for not asking how I was. They didn't ask any questions when a generally high achieving student with a strong aptitude for music, history, and political science suddenly stops coming to class? I was mad at my parents for not being there for me when I needed them the most. I was mad at god for putting me through so much pointless suffering. I finally put my brain together over the summer by working my ass off again, but not totalling a car. I feel like I've aged a million years in the past two years, and had to process so much shit. On the plus side, I'm not suicidal anymore, and I was able to process a lot of the shit I went through. I still have my ups and downs with my mom, but our relationship is getting a lot better. Unfortunately it took me barely winning a battle with suicide for her to care, but better late than never, I guess.

As my parent would say A- .... no good.

1th of a trillion ants , gotta be best ants

Are you USA Asian Kid? Could you explain are there at US Universities some embargo limits for students identifying as Asians or what? dr K said that while being Asian you need to be in 23% top pre-med students who are applying to medical school, Caucasian 30%, Latino 54%, Black 73%... and I don't get it? I understood that he is talking like these all students were applying to the same Medical Schools so don't all these students are competing with each other on the same tests as they are all the same students who are applying? I understood he is talking about USA specific and not that in ASIA CONTINENT there are more applying students for medical schools so there is harder to get there and in AFRICA CONTINENT there are less applying students so it's easier there but he is talking about Medical Schools just in USA? So how is it mathematically and logically possible that the percentages of the best admitted students could differ?

@@bluetank1111 in NA there is a heavy focus on being racially diverse. a good example is how i got a job at my local college not because i was better than the other applicants, but because i'm asian and they had to fill a diversity quota lol (a certain amount of each race to make the company seem like they care about this stuff)

@@unnlucky333 and this makes u self doubt ur worth and actually ability to take on the position

@@91722854 i think i was already having issues with those before, but you're correct that the experience certainly wasn't making it any better lol

I’m really sorry about your little brother. Nothing I say or do will change anything but I offer my sincerest condolences. I wish you all the best in life.

@@enargovesker3507 Appreciate it a lot. Tell your family you love them while you can.

Om Shanti 🕉

Culture can be toxic, but culture is ever changing. Remember to put cultural expectations aside and judge people fairly, regardless of what that culture currently is. It's easy to make that mistake. But I think with you being gay, you are more aware of this issue than most.

Im sorry you had to go through that crap. I have spent the last 6 years in various forms of therapy myself. It took awhile. But i can confidently tell you, that its possible to get better. It can take a long while before you actually start feeling better. For me it was only really in the past year or so. You can make it. I believe in you mate :)

I just want to say I am sorry that you went through all that horror. Your family aren’t Christians at all. They are just religious people that’s all. A true Christian family would have loved you regardless, would even love you more!! I am also undeserving of God’s love but he loves me regardless. I am pretty sure he loves you too! A lot more than you can even imagine actually. Don’t believe in what this “Christian” family said to you cause they don’t even know God. If they knew him like that they would have never treated you with such contempt. Just my two cents 😊

There are three forms or types of Christianity. One is a Socialist version, where Christianity is about worshiping every single human being ever born, because we are all valuable and special and our feelings, desires and dreams are why the universe exists. One is a Nietzschean, Republican or Capitalist version, where Christianity is about worshiping accomplishment, hardiness and moral excellence. The final is a metaphysical one that has God above every human accomplishment and sentiment but also above every material pleasure.

In other words, they thought you were evil because weak and their form of Christianity was about hardiness. Then the version that Karen is offering you is one where they are evil because they were about hardiness and not about every fallen creature as an individual. But according to what I think is the real one, your inclination is still evil because it is the epitome of putting self before God. According to it, man's mental and sensual parts that can't know God should serve the intellect and the will that can, not vice versa.

I'm sure dr. K is proud that your realized that what you wanted wasn't what your parents were pressuring you for.

L genetics.

Don't worry, you got this dude! You can do it

@@DeadRebornKid Majima Everywhere: Dr K Edition

Well, you can *identify* as an Asian kid

Father material

can we please talk because I have the exact same problems as you

Just sending you a massive hug. You'll find your way. You got this!

I’m also a tutor and I have the same worry when it comes to my students!! What strategies do you have to help with that?

Oh yea sometimes i kinda have this idea that i will eventually meet my downfall... a part of me is afraid of what could happen and what is the consequences, but other part of me is waiting for that to happen to justify my feeling that i doesnt belong there (med school/becoming doctor)

Sounds like you got some depression my guy. If you care about rationally optimizing your pursuits in life, acknowledge that depression mindset can be treated and get help

@@ayemaeyalit3354 oh it absolutely was... and there were dozens of other flavors of irresponsible parenting thrown in there too. being indoctrinated into cults + intergenerational trauma = bad time

My family would definitely not introspect... 😢

Amen brother

Hardest part is finding a therapist that you vibe with. Its going to take a few tries but when you get that therapist that you fit with, that's when things start getting much better. It's a struggle, but it's worth it.

Bruv I'm not asian but I have a degree in physics, I can relate to you. The imposter syndrome is real. Give yourself breaks though, I always used to have a day where I went to the bar with my other physics friends. Everyone in the physics program feels the way that you do, they all feel like they are imposters. Talk to the other students about how you feel. Make friends with them and then bring it up, you may find some commaradie there. I got through with that commaradie and working together with other students. Definitely make a study group if you can. But the school thought you were good enough to be there. You're good enough to be there. I could go on and on about this topic, but you'll get through it and you'll be okay. Just do your your best and set time aside for yourself so that you don't burn yourself out and you'll be okay

It took me 4 therapists to finally find the one who I connected with. Been seeing her for four years now and so happy I didn't give up. Keep trying!

thanks ill copy past that comment next time