Why It's Important to Stop Intellectualizing Your Emotions

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In today's video, I talk about what it means to intellectualize your emotions and why it's important to stop.
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00:00 - Intro
00:41 - Intellectualization as a defense mechanism
01:33 - The mind itself is not the problem
02:58 - Allowing emotions to fully express themselves
04:00 - The role of mindfulness in developing emotional intelligence
👇 Do you ever catch yourself using intellectualization as a defense mechanism? Let me know in the comments below! 👇
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// A B O U T
Intellectualization tries to think of reasons why we shouldn't feel a certain way. Unfortunately, when we focus on what we don't want, we actually feed what we don't want with more energy and actually end up creating more of what we don't want. That is why mindfulness is so important. Mindfulness is about observing your emotions without attachment or judgment. Staying present in the moment takes practice. But the benefit is that we can become aware of our full range of emotions. We can develop the emotional intelligence to know whether our emotions are serving us to create the kind of life experiences we desire.

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@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Hey - thanks for watching this video! Do you ever catch yourself using intellectualization as a defense mechanism?

@lenlen876 3 жыл бұрын

Done subscribe hope I will get too Thanks God bless Done watching too

@yuki-vc1yz Жыл бұрын

always^^

@Euniceathome 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, sometimes when I'm feeling down I tell myself I'm being ungrateful and negative. But I need to remind myself that it's okay to let myself feel those emotions and not bottle them in. As my friend tells me, it's important to heal & grow through our emotions. Thanks for this message!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

I feel we are taught that some emotions are good...and some are bad. Which definitely doesn't help us to accept all emotions are valid haha. Thanks for sharing :)

@ElBlancoFinance 3 жыл бұрын

Once you're aware of your emotions, you have greater freedom to let them evolve into a direction you prefer. I love your videos, keep it up 🙏

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Well said! Thanks for the encouragement :)

@LifeWithVinceLuu 3 жыл бұрын

Over the years, I've really learned to accept emotions as they come whereas before there would be certain emotions that I would resist. I've just realized that all emotions are valid and it's okay to feel the way I feel in a given moment. Instead of pushing the emotion away, I just feel whatever it is for the appropriate of time then move on!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

I definitely still have emotions which I resist haha. But I'd like to think I have greater awareness these days to give them some more room to express themselves. Thanks for sharing!

@WagnerSaucedo 3 жыл бұрын

The biggest problem is people letting their emotions control them. Instead of reacting to them, we should observe them and question that emotion. Great video my friend! Just subbed for more :)

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the encouragement! Yes, I believe emotions are more powerful than even our thoughts. And creating space to allow them to pass is so important in living a life that isn't intentional rather than reactive. Thanks for being here!

@MarianaKaiser 3 жыл бұрын

I have a 1 year old daughter and it is such a joy to see her express all the emotions she is feeling. The society will soon teach her that she can't express certain emotions and that she will have to suppress them but for now, she is just on the outside exactly how she is on the inside... and it is beautiful :). I am hoping that the more I am practicing mindfulness, the more she will see it and adopt it as something that is natural and it will be easier for her than it is for me :).

@MobyLife 3 жыл бұрын

Because sometimes we have to stop, we all talk too much. Including ourselves about our emotions. Sometimes we just need to be quiet :)

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Haha, very true! Sitting with "what is" creates anxiety in a lot of people. We have forgotten the silence and stillness within.

@javi7602 3 жыл бұрын

"the mind itself is not the problem" thank you for pointing this out. More people need to see this. Great video my friend. Thumbs up

@AkhilNova 3 жыл бұрын

I used to deny my emotions and try to logically explain why i have them but now i allow them and try to take a moment to understand why i’m having certain emotions in the moment. Being self aware is so important because it could build up your emotional intelligence. Great video, man 😊

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

I think it's a natural coping mechanism that we've all employed from time to time! But like you said, awareness is key in developing emotional intelligence. Thanks for being here :)

@M_SC 9 ай бұрын

What’s the difference between trying to logically explain why you have them and taking a moment to understand why you have them? Sounds the same

@MikeWangCoaching 9 ай бұрын

The examples you gave sound the same to me. The distinction I’m trying to make is fully acknowledging and feeling ones emotions versus using the thinking mind to bypass having to feel those emotions. Hope that makes sense.

@MikeWangCoaching 9 ай бұрын

@empoweredpersonalgrowthboo3787 3 жыл бұрын

The mindfuls like to observe their emotions, n accept the natural course that all things, emotions too, shall pass.

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said :) Thanks for being here.

@75reyna 3 жыл бұрын

Yes sometimes need also to seatback and keep silent. See you around.

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Inviting more silence into our lives definitely gives space for emotions to express themselves more fully. Thanks for being here!

@TwinsTry 3 жыл бұрын

Sitting with your uncomfortable emotion....hit that nail right on the head lol. Great video!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the support :)

@anthony.tai. 3 жыл бұрын

Hey man I really needed this video! it really helped with what im going through at the moment! 😁

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate the feedback. Thanks for being here!

@SwittyKiwi 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, that's deep, Sifu... 'Intellectualizing emotions" is a far-reaching debate, and we like the way you covered it. Negating bad emotions is not effective; accepting them and dealing with them is rather beneficial in the long run. - ✨ *Your Awesome Friends at The S'witty Kiwi Show* 🤎

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for the thoughtful comment. As always :) Thanks for being here!

@MikeDeng 3 жыл бұрын

Hm...definitely agree. It's really easy for me to rationalize why I should be feeling a certain way, but at times you just gotta let your emotions go. Definitely able to reflect on how you are afterwards, though after your emotions have passed.

@janayahanley3398 3 жыл бұрын

Emotions are energy. If we suppress or deny them, that energy will go somewhere else, and can be redirected inwards or outwards in unhealthy ways. Learning to feel emotions without intellectualizing them is tough, but i’m learning!

@robbiegarnz7732 3 жыл бұрын

I think you have hit on a great point. Modern psychiatry has, for too long, been based upon this exact desire to intellectualize emotions and, in turn, stop feeling them. I have seen one too many college professors try to be funny by talking about subjects (that I won't repeat here) that many students find embarrassing and then judging them for their feelings/reactions about the above statements. There is a misconception that learning can only take place when the environment is disrupted; but this just confuses the student more. I prefer some good old fashioned research to accomplish this; ergo my affinity for online classes! lol! Great video my friend!

@TheTattooedRonin 3 жыл бұрын

sometimes when I am upset I overthink and think why am I upset I shouldn't be upset. You are right it never works lol. I am working on staying present to the moment.

@myBSlife 3 жыл бұрын

I am so guilty of this. Far more often than I like to admit.

@AnnaFitz 3 жыл бұрын

So true. Seems like true wisdom is knowing when to use your logical mind and when to just let yourself feel and connect with the emotional part of yourself. You have a great channel, keep it up :)

@SimpleLifeSG 3 жыл бұрын

Fully agreed being mindful need practice. It let us know our own emotion better.👍#13

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

It certainly does! Thanks for the support :)

@TTangFilms 3 жыл бұрын

There are numerous times where I've tried to rationalize something instead of accepting the emotional weight and outcome. I've learned it's better to allow the emotions to flow through you in that moment because intellectualizing them only causes the emotions and mental state to become problematic.

@amado1swgi Жыл бұрын

Valauble inviitation to allow ourselves to expereince emotion and honor that all emotions are valid. Blessings, GV

@MikeWangCoaching Жыл бұрын

Hi Gregory! Nice to connect with you here :) Thanks for the supportive words.

@CoachKev0731 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes we over think things that we need to just take action on. Our minds are a powerful tool when used the right way. One of the biggest challenges in life is figuring out the depth of how the mind works.

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

100%! We are not our minds. But we also can't treat our minds like the enemy haha. Our journey is figuring how we can harness its power to serve our greatest good. Thanks for being here Kev. Looking forward to your next video!

@YahiriJ 3 жыл бұрын

What you saying is true but I think it’s ok to honor your feelings

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

This video is completely about needing to honor your feelings :) Thanks for the support!

@shiftingenergy8112 3 жыл бұрын

Love how you explained this! And a great message as well, all emotions are valid and that’s why, as you said, we should always allow them to just be so we can experience them fully. Really enjoying your content!✨🙏🏼💜

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Stuffing down our emotions never works in the long-run haha. Thanks so much for being here and for your thoughtful comment :)

@yuki-vc1yz Жыл бұрын

I thought this channel has some 100-999k subscribers but then.. YOUR CONTENT IS SO UNDERRATED((

@MikeWangCoaching Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the kind words of encouragement 🙏😊

@wesleyvanpeer1988 3 жыл бұрын

Once again a lovely place where you are at! I really love the way you talk about the mind. You are so right that we cannot use our minds correctly if we suppress and reject certain emotions and/or events. Solving things on a emotional level is often confused indeed with solving a problem. When a problem is solved, it does not necessarily need to mean that it is also solved emotionally. The problem might not be existing anymore externally but still might be existing internally. It is such a great tactic to just sit down and just experience the emotion, instead of losing yourself in it! Like this you are able to regain control and learn from it. Mindfulness is so important and beneficial. Love this video Mike! You explain everything so well!!!

@user-zd7mp9qq2f 3 жыл бұрын

Good morning, Ward, Waffle and Jasmine. I enjoyed watching the video a lot

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for dropping by!

@sillygirl1139 2 жыл бұрын

This is difficult to deal with, but your video was incredibly informative. Thank you.

@MikeWangCoaching 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching and taking the time to leave a kind note 💛

@VillageGirlCooking 3 жыл бұрын

Mr chef is a samurai, did you know that? He has his moves, anyway he supports you fully, hope to see you around

@thefourrrrrsthrifting 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing all your tips and ideas and your knowledge I surely enjoy listening to you full watch 100% support be bless

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being here :)

@DeepRelaxation365Calm 3 жыл бұрын

Great video and share. I guess for example, when a relationship breaks up, one person might focus on different things to avoid the emotional aspect, like the things that that they did before the relationship ended.

@ensocreators767 3 жыл бұрын

Hey mike! Solid video man, i made a recent vid on a tangent of this.. the mindfulness of our emotions can be a powerful tool. Emotional intelligence as you said is big.. I think we have a lot to learn from our emotions as they are there for a reason. Instead of intellectualizing the negative emotion away, we can become more mindful of them and be understanding that they are there for reasons and come to be okay with having them. I think once we understand this concept as you discussed, we can move forwards instead of being caught up in our past.

@AimlesslyDrifting 3 жыл бұрын

Such a great explanation and this was intensely deep. Thank you for this ♥

@makmohssine 3 жыл бұрын

I used to practice Kong fu wushu when i was kid, loved how everything is inspired from nature, Thank you for sharing New fan to join you on your journey, stay connected and stay safe,

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Very neat! It's rare to meet other kung fu practitioners. It being tied to nature on many different levels definitely attracts me to it as well. Thanks for being here!

@mannagarwal5390 17 күн бұрын

You are extremely articulate. Yes. This is correct. University systems and school seems to reinforce this ego defense mechanism.

@MikeWangCoaching 7 күн бұрын

Thanks for the kind words! And yes, I totally agree that formal education often doesn't teach the skills and tools needed to live a happy and fulfilled life. This is a big motivation for me to be inside of the coaching work I'm currently doing!

@atomicfoxtoast647 3 жыл бұрын

Great video!

@MilesBe 3 жыл бұрын

Found you from Charles on enso creators. Hey Mike! I'm Miles. I am super stoked to learn from you. 😁 I am all about learning to be healthier both in the body and mind. I, for sure, block my emotions with reasoning. Thanks for giving me the permission to allow myself to experience my emotions. I am going to try to observe my emotions this weekend. Thanks Mike!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

That's awesome you found this channel through Enso Creators. Charles creates great content. And I believe we all intellectualize emotions as a coping mechanism at times. It's just great to some awareness around it so that when we do it, we can hopefully move through uncomfortable emotions with a bit more ease. Great to have you here!

@lexicalrepository8036 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful.. this is really resourceful.. I try to intellectualize my emotions but unfortunately most of the time i couldn't do so.. these tips are really helpful.. thank you for sharing this👌👌 Keep posting.. awaiting for more..👍👍

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

That's great! It definitely doesn't serve us in the long-term to intellectualize our emotions. Thanks for being here :)

@tatatade 3 жыл бұрын

Nice sharing my good friend ☺Lovely contents,thanks for sharing!I also sent LIKE👍 33

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the support!

@exploringlife4559 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing. Thanks for sharing. Great to have you!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for being here! I appreciate the support.

@NicoleLatchana 2 жыл бұрын

I am very guilty of this, I always try to fix myself as if I'm a computer haha! Thanks for the great video 💙

@MikeWangCoaching 2 жыл бұрын

I can relate! I think it's because in some ways, we can be like computers sometimes haha. Thanks for being here.

@aalegalfocus 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for these deep thoughts!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the support!

@Watermelonbaby37 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent video!! I love how professional your channel is and how well you explain everything! keep posting 😍😍 BIG LIKE 10 & new friend!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate the support!

@goodfoodandtoursjamaica 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much!!

@TheLaughingLion 3 жыл бұрын

So true, i think i have this issue of intellectualizing emotions, lol. Well i learned some strategies to deal with it in this video. like#43

@ShadowCast2020 3 жыл бұрын

as always you bring the best to the community thanks a world

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the kind and encouraging words!

@ShawnsImagination 3 жыл бұрын

Phenomenal video and advice 👍🏽👏🏽

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your support. Thanks for being here!

@theanimatedshow1990 3 жыл бұрын

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@maidlr8470 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the advice. Me I have negative emotion sometimes

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Negative emotions are a part of being human! But having awareness of them and allowing them to move through us can help us process them more quickly. Thanks for watching!

@sureshonline54 3 жыл бұрын

Unbelievable amazing video

@KiaraHargrove 3 жыл бұрын

New sub, I enjoyed this video man! 💯

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the support Kiara!

@KiaraHargrove 3 жыл бұрын

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@ChineseWrestlingCeKungFu 3 жыл бұрын

Excelente tema, eu adoro os seus vídeos. Você faz um trabalho incrível!!

@MikeWangCoaching 3 жыл бұрын

Obrigado!

@emiemaglente3017 3 жыл бұрын

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@LITTLECRUNCHYvlawgs 3 жыл бұрын

🙏 so true

@jsv07018 2 жыл бұрын

i still have problem understanding intellectualization. Do you have any video on that please?

@MikeWangCoaching 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for asking and for the feedback! I will add that request as I plan upcoming videos!

@mhddlifts Жыл бұрын

is it considered intellectualization if you try to understand your emotions and why they arise without being neglectful of them? i used to intellectualize all my problems but i noticed that it consequentially leads to me suppressing some negative emotions as you said, but im starting to practise to feel whatever emotion i feel, understand why i might feel that way and not be self-shaming of it.

@MikeWangCoaching Жыл бұрын

Hi Mohamed, thanks for your thoughtful comment. I believe the key to what you said is that you are practicing to feel your emotions and not suppress them. So to me, I feel you are moving beyond intellectualizing them.

@mhddlifts Жыл бұрын

@@MikeWangCoaching thank you for reaching back!