Exactly. NO ONE tells you "hey I'm going to go on with my life while you have these kids have fun!"

Exactly

Seriously!!! Why do people skip over this fact!!!

Yep and the ones that are supposed to support you and pressured you to have kids don’t ever ask you if you need help and then have the nerve to tell you to have more kids.

In my opinion, it's partially true but not fully... from personal experience - my mom had support from her mom and husband and siblings. My dad was there along all the process. But she still regrets having children. She had a rough childhood and has low emotional energy. Even when she got all the support she was still exhausted. So I belive it depends on the person rather than the circumstance, thought it is still a determining factor.

If someone tries to make you feel guilty, tell them what poor life choices you believe they've made as well. That has always worked for me to get others to mind their own business.

Damn if u do damn if u don't I was a working army wife I worked at commissary overseas. I would hear stay at home moms complain when the kids were home during summer break. I wish I had more time with mine. That's why I only had one. Didn't have the luxury of having family around for babysitting. But we do what we have to do. Bills won't pay themselves. Too busy to ponder about stuff. Husband retired I have my part time keeps me busy. My hobby is gardening keeps me sane. Just got to find balance. I wish the best for all moms married, single, military moms its hard but you got this!

Yup, so sad.

I never felt guilty being a working mom

Lazy

Me too exactly...

Youre not single, try to spend pockets of time with your husband after the full time daily mommy routine. It'll help your mental 💞

I am a single mom of 5 and you have no idea the weight . Set aside time with your husband and let him in on the way you feel. I am about to tap out

Wow, sounds just like me 😔

I did that too but my kids turned out to be selfish. They need me if only they want something from me. Get out and work. Your kids don’t care about you. They feel like they are entitled to everything, your life doesn’t matter to them.

So true...

The trouble is women become mothers and men don't become fathers. It takes 100% to raise children. If only one person is doing that, then they have to give all 100%to the children and then there is nothing left. If a man wants his woman back, he needs to take on 50% of raising the children. It is simple math. Mother 50%, father 50%. And if your family is father father or mother mother, or any other configuration, this still applies. And no, if one partner stays home, the other doesn't get to abdicate their 50%. Obviously, the one staying home is going to take on more of the daily role, but as the other parent, you should still know your child's temperament, likes, dislikes, teachers, school, doctor, how they are doing, etc. If you come home and your child is not doing their chore, it is not your job to yell at the mother to just keep a clean house, it is your job to back her up to teach the child to do their chores and be responsible.There are way too many men out there that have no idea when their kids are out of school, that they had a doctor appointment. And this is not a lack on the mother's part, because she has a calendar on the fridge, another in the front room and an electronic one that is shared with the entire family and hubby just swipes off the notifications without even looking because he is too busy. Or worse, he never even accepts the sharing invitation that his wife, the mother of his children, sent him.

Yes, and then their husbands leave them because they are no longer the fun, interesting, beautiful ( because they don't have time to take care of themselves) girls they married. The. when your kids grow up and leave it can be even worst because now you have nothing.

I think it's really easy to just go and blame men here and I think that completely misses the point of this whole entire video. She took into account available, loving, and involved husbands... Yet the problem remains.

Unfortunately it's true

When you have a child and are with someone, yet feel alone and single anyways, is the WORST. It put things in perspective for me. We just need to focus on ourselves and our babies!

yes same here

Same!

@@caroldirenzo4809 this is me

To all of the Moms here I'm so sorry you're going through this. It shouldn't be like that b/c it takes two.

Niki Lyons , its not that. My baby is well taken care of. He is still breastfeeding at 2yrs3mnths. Yet what I can still say is that a mom needs that moment when someone takes a moment to take care of mom. just a moment to reboot and recharge.

How true! No one is allowed to say how the loneliness is breaking their heart. But it is.

@@santacruzskirtswhy do you think we’re all so lonely?

This or people that don’t have children say things that upset me because they not understanding where you are coming from

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Chin up, shoulders back, spine straight. This too shall pass. You will make it. Just keep on keeping on. Don't give up. I feel you.

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Same her girl ! More power to u ❤️ sending love back ur way

THANKS ZULEIKA ❤️ SENDING LOVE BACK TO YOU & ALL WHO ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION.

Yeah with screaming banshees running all over the place😂

Truth!❤ I miss good sleep

Nah it's not a beautiful thing or fulfilling, that's just an excuse people say

Sad but true ... :/

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Parenting is an obligation to men - his roles are often different than that of the woman. If a lady or man is not prepared for the demands of being a spouse or parent why do they get married and/or have children?

This is absolutely untrue good man love their children and choose to be there for them if you choose a man who is not a good man don't get mad later on when he does not uphold his end of the bargain maybe just choose a man who does the things that are important to you unaccountability on decision making is absolutely insane how much it's run rampant

Good luck, it never gets easier...wish someone would have said that to me ❤

If your entire existence is focused on how happy you are, then you’re too selfish for parenthood anyway.

@@Sheana719LincolnFamilyMan this I just wish I would’ve thought a little more just wish

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish.

im still going through it alone..speaking to my husband about just makes it worse

@@artsoffinanceforex3255how do you do it its so hard he just doesn’t listen seems like all men are just the same

@@artsoffinanceforex3255May I ask why does speaking to your husband make things worse?

Abandoned you? You’re a grown woman who decided to have kids. No one owes you anything, ma’am.

Wow. Thanks for sharing!

kimberly anderson wow that’s some story... wishing u the best 🙏🏻

Well done. Keep it up!

kimberly anderson I support housewives n homemakers with all my heart. I love you.

I drink sometimes now I feel so isolated and depressed I guess I’m not alone

I can definitely relate to this. I was induced with all 3 of my kids and couldn't wait to go to the hospital. It was nice having someone take care of me.

Same with me, wow. I felt like I was so special in hospital and not cooking every night was like being on holidays.

I had my gall bladder removed, staying in the hospital for three days after having my third baby five weeks earlier. Felt like a vacation.

But even being a full time stay at home mom is EXHAUSTING

Lol, yes well I'm sure it is, unless you are very wealthy and you can afford nannies, cooks, & maids. For most women who decide to stay home thats not an option so they will have to make due with what they can.

True story haha I've always been a stay at home mom. We haven't had much $ but we are fine without all the crazy luxuries in life. I know they will come in a few years. It's still worth it to have the stability for my 4 kids. I don't feel like I'm missing out on much. Would be nice to get some help with laundry and deep cleaning.

I think if two parents are working & they are both making some decent income, investing in a housekeeper/nannie will significantly help lessen those extra duties that parents often find themselves to exhausted to do. Rather than spending that time maintaining the daily/weekly tasks of the home or getting their kids ready, with that extra help, they have time to rest and redirect their focus on quality family time. Its not elitist or old fashioned- its actually very practical.

I agree. I just heard one of the main reasons people divorce is over the house mess. I totally believe this! Just hire someone to clean and mow the lawn haha. A lot of people can't afford anything close to that including babysitters though. so hence the stress. change of mindset is in order.

Agreed. Also, the social connections that one may have isn't always one that you can feel 100% comfortable talking about what you really feel that day or any day. Generally people like to talk about themselves or their experiences, very few excel at listening. A friend could be the answer, but finding "the one" isn't easy. Especially since most people spend more time on social media than they do talking to another person on the phone or in person.

Wow. That was remarkable. Yea its rediculous the financial needs to be met now in this world on a family.

Oh man do I agree with that! That is exactly why I am on social media so much. I love my kids I do! And I love staying at home with them, but to say that it isn’t deeply isolating a lot of times would be a lie. It’s such a bummer of a cycle! You are dead tired and have a packed day, so you choose sleep over going out with friends (or you simply don’t have the schedule and finances to do girls night out or date nights) and then you’re getting more sleep yes, but you’re also lonely and that can come with depression (which can make you feel even MORE tired and isolated) and it just spirals. My mother tells stories of when she was growing up the neighborhood women would all get together and take turns cleaning, they would do each house on rotation so that everyone got to have a turn watching the kids and everyone got to have a turn having their house cleaned. Can you imagine the love and community they must have had??

@@nalanihamby3710 wow, that sounds amazing. I wish I lived such a supportive community.

Mulan 121 me too! And that it was just a way of life for them makes it all the more mind blowing for me

Thank you!! Or those who may not have been able to.

They're jealous you don't have all the burdens and responsibilities they do.

Both sides deserve to not be judged and hold space for each other.

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish.

If society still shames you for choosing NOT to become parents, you must ignore them while living alone. There are videos and websites that can teach you how to ignore.

Yep. Same

I am the father who takes cares of the kids and house. Pretty common these days. Hurts and seems counterproductive to talk as if this affects only women for some reason. If you want a more equal culture then we cannot ignore basic empathy for a whole gender when talking about these issues. Talking about how this affects mothers is re-enforcing the very notion that women should be the only ones at home with the kids.

Lol pleasure cruise..no it is not..

Sarah R 👏👍

@@0ooTheMAXXoo0 I acknowledge that this is far from a woman's only issue. I will say though that I have never heard anyone expect the father to stay home with the child. Every woman I know in a stable relationship with a kid, including me got asked that. I will also say that just because I never heard it, fails to mean that people out there expect dads to stay home.

0ooTheMAXXoo0 you’re still very rare Sir but thank you for sharing

Shes gonna regret having one. Everything will change for them.

Some people still manage to do it all with the help of family, if they have it. But nobody can assure it will all go as planned. There are travelling families, lucky ones who can adjust well to this lifestyle, but many people have autistic kids nowadays, who doesn't like changes and need lots of specialists, support.

True😂

I don't think she's gonna be happy unless the baby likes traveling too. Your whole world is shifted to your kids when you're a parent. Everything you do you have to think about how it affects them. When you become a parent you now have become someone else's rock. You're the nurse, the best friend, the shoulder to cry on, the chauffeur, the one to show them right from wrong, usually the one that's the first one up and the last one to go to sleep, and your alone time is gonna consist of what you can get before you have to wake up the next morning. I used to be tired all the time from staying up late to have alone time bc if I don't get it I'm less patient, I get irritated easily, and I get overwhelmed alot easier. I wish your friend luck but she's in for a rude awakening. Having a kid slows you down alot, your lifestyle changes alot, and your priorities for them become number one. With her lifestyle of doing whatever she wants whenever she wants that's gonna be gone when the baby gets here. It's gonna be a rough transition for her if she doesn't accept the truth.

Things done have to change, they can find a way to adjust

Oh man..I've felt this too many times. But then I'd break my own heart doing that.

My thoughts EVERYDAY....

I always dreamt of escaping to an island and travel by myself so I have some solitude timw

Yesssssss Everytime I get overwhelmed, I just set in my car in my yard😒😒😒 just need that moment.

I do it a lot these days

@@Poleeze1 amen

Sesshomaru Uzumaki No she didn’t, but she’s crying and needs to know the source of her sorrows

Poleeze1 There is some truth in your comment.

Take a step back: Those are expectations you've set upon yourself. No one else is judging you for not doing any one of those things.

Louder for the ones in the bacccck 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I can agree with that. I wonder if that's why so many men seem upset by this video? Maybe they feel the same way but can't express that because of course men have even less allowance to be vulnerable than women do. I can understand that.

Hit the nail on the head. When I was a kid, people would come over. Neighbors, friends, and family would come over and we'd go to their houses sometimes. No big plans, just quick get togethers for a bit. Kids would come knock and ask "can Arthur play?" I would go to their houses and ask the same. This is before phones and the internet. There may be some male vs female differences, but on the whole, life after the internet was a HUGE shift for all humans. Same for life after phones. This technology has caused a tectonic shift in social behavior, and I agree 100% " this is a loss of community problem, faced by mother and fathers, women and men. This is a problem facing many in the modern world"

There is no longer a community anymore and it's sad. We need that again more than ever.

No, it's a motherhood problem. Go away with that! This TED Talk is specifically about the isolating nature of motherhood!

Very True. Grandparents who dont feel obligated to fulfill their role and just "visit for holidays" and "call once a week". Granmas should reture when they become a grandma and grandpas take all the finances. And siblings that prefer to be "childless" and dont check in or help. Really, brokeness in familes creates incredible loneliness for sahms.

Yes I'm one of those Mom's and it's the most loneliest places to be.

@@bunnybunny1908 So sorry to hear that....

Omg YES

I have a 7 year old with Autism and he has alot of appointments. I also have 2 other children it can be alot. But I'm grateful all 3 children are healthy and thriving. Life is just tough period women just have that instinct to care for people

Yoko Delgado single mom on that place. I need to find a job to continue providing. Benefits, thank God for them, but that’s not enough. California is so freaking expensive. My daughter gets sick a lot and uhhhh... :,(

Please let me reach out to you. We can sigh together.

Same like I started to feel embarrassed like they don’t want to talk to you

I understand. I was reaching out to people and they wouldn't reply. So eventually I stopped.

Same. I thought I had friends but I guess not

Exactly

Makelle B thank you for this comment. So much this, yes.

facts. The self sacrificing is what brings misery.

@@VisionOfThePhoenix thanks for commenting, I think I would have thought that when I was single, but now that I have children, for me it's actually the opposite. You just have to find balance. You do end up self-sacrificing a lot when you're a mother, that is a big part of being a mother, but when you're able to carve out time for yourself as well, it helps. But, anything worthwhile is going to be a lot of hard work, no matter what it is. And you do end up sacrificing a lot of your wants when you do pretty much anything in life that is difficult.

I agreed w/ your entire comment. The balance part as well with the sacrificing of putting others before self. I'm a SAHM of 5. Definitely difficult but also there is no better way to create healthy wholesome children.

@@VisionOfThePhoenix I'm a SAHM of 5 too!!! 😊

I can relate to this as well.

I regret having my son...became a single mom in a foreign country far from my family and almost with no friends...sometimes I dont know how I manage...I became a different person

I can relate to you and I have only one kid

​@@sandycairo9409 I'm single mother in my own country, but still it's very hard. There must be some other mom in similar situation out there, but I didn't find her yet. Everyone have husband and family around, so not much time to hang out, and busy on the weekends. But only one person would be enough

I feel this so hard. I’m not a single mom but, us non single moms have our own struggles equal to the others. A dependent husband and juggling relationship stuff w the kids and elsewise that’s been discussed is just as heavy. ESP when there’s no family around. We all need to support one another instead of breaking eachother down ❤️

Junior Cruz That is AMAZING that you are actively searching and trying to do more for them. There are so few that do 😩

Hallelujah! 🙏👏👏👏👏❤

That is super sweet Junior.🥰Your daughter and lady are fortunate to have such a self-reflective man in their lives.😍

You Sir, Are A King

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Hey hun, im sure youre doing a great job as a mom. If you ever wan someone to talk to i can be your friend just drop me a msg!

How do you connect when other potential person pushes you away due to too busy? Or potential person is unwilling to have a bit deeper conversation and really listen and exchange real feelings, other than superficial "Hi" and "I'm fine:?

Time and effort. Being vulnerable and present in your conversations. Be what you want. People are likely to open up if you do.

Rachael Kearns Thanks for your words. Effort: Too many of us moms are tired and depressed and lack desire to make an effort, especially when we have been rejected often. Time: Yes, we need to make the time and try again and again. It is hard to muster motivation when feeling depressed. How does a therapist motivate a mom to spend the time and effort to try?

Rachael Kearns Thank you Rachael for your kind words. I've just joined a gym and I'm hopping for the best 🤗

You're sowing seeds of love. Hang in there, mom. It gets better -signed, a mother of six.

My mom died 11 years ago. I might not have been the most appreciative son in existence being the somewhat unexpressive person I am, but I didn't think any less. It's even more true now that she's gone. But even though she's gone, I like to think that her legacy lives on through me, his son. And not even death will kill that love I have for her :) Don't worry. Maybe there isn't any signs of it, but you're leaving your mark in your kid's memories. I'm saying that as a son of a loving mom :)

@@Jugdjay thank you so much for your message. I should add that not feeling appreciated doesn't come from my son, I don't expect appreciation from a child, my love for him knows no bounds as I'm sure your mother's love knew no bounds for you, it is such a deep love. It's more that I feel society at large isn't built in a way to support mothers, especially stay at home or working part time mums. It's a big financial sacrifice to choose to stay home. I've also been an unappreciative daughter, it's pretty common, but now as a mother I know that may cause frustration but absolutely no loss of love. Trust me, your mum wouldn't have worried about this as much as you do ❤️

@@katebee945 I got a great remedy for feeling under appreciated as a Mom….Pay attn to how Dad’s get treated and represented .

@@scream1237 that's funny because my husband always gets praise for doing things that I'm never praised for! And I celebrate him on father's day but he's forgotten every mother's day 🤷🏻‍♀️ I agree that in the media father's aren't praised as much but it's generally because they're serving their children in a different way that's not quite as intense / hands on.

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish.

Thank you for your honesty. I hope things are better for you now. ❤

@@daniela_5542 Ended in a divorce, haha. My kid is great but her dad wasn’t interested in parenting so we split. Remarried, new guy is much more family oriented and life is returning to normal. (how depressing to see this post again… such a sad time for me)

Your story sounds so much like mine! I have zero relatives or friends that have offered to come help us. It’s a struggle taking care of a high energy toddler three pets a demanding husband and a house. I thought my life would be better if I put her in daycare and find a part time job.

Just so I could escape the day in and day out cooking and cleaning. I’ve lost my sense of purpose and self.

@JPelikan are you a woman or a man?

@JPelikan yeah thought so.

@JPelikan so why did you not mention childless men in your comment then?

Single people. My life sucks. Im so alone . Im gonna die alone. Married people. Oh. I wish i was single i never get alone time

@@tinakuczaj3958 May i ask Weather or not you have kids? Or weather or not the man you are married to deserves to bare a child with ? I just want to understand women's point of view on this If you are not interested in sharing Thanks anyway

Glad you mentioned mom's and dad's, Avery one forget to mention the man in this as if a woman is depressed the man is happy😕 right away the man will feel the same as this depressing surrounding gets spill over to the rest of the people in the home. And then there is the question of a girlfriend that one might have and will a single girlfriend understand you or is the cause perhaps for more problems in a merried couple, sometimes one has to ask himself a question of do I need friend that may cause problems or not, one has to remember you can have 100 buddies but true friends only few and it is damn hard to find the few especially in today's world. All the best from Poland, cheers.

Right it's all about the level up 💰

Don't put preasure on yourself to be all at once. If you think you are one of those súper women, think again. If you mother all day, someone else brings home the bread. If you work to están money, someone else takes care of the child while you are at your other job (daycare is a business for a reason). And if you are handling both los and job at the exact same time (say remote work and childcare together) for more than 8 hours a day, then someone else is taking really good care of your husband. We are women, not robots, no one can be all at once doing it well, that is why kids need two parents to even be made. At least Two adults are required for every child.

Karen did you forget? We are judged when we aren’t good looking....this is happening in Europe

Karen Hardie and look good doing it all 😂

There are men who would love to be home witht the kids. We live in world where you have to compete to live and not many women can go into the world and come home without bringing those work issues into the home. Many women go for jobs that are more interpersonal like social work, teacher, etc. Nothing Is wrong with it it's actually great for raising generations but for the family it's not gonna cut it. Stop blaming the other partner and start looking at the reality of your situation. If you want him home more then don't ask to live in the higher priced neighborhood, don't ask get upset if your driving a 20yr old car that is out of style, stop complaining about (Christmas, Valentine's, Halloween, gifts in general). Believe it or not men do alot to impress women. Most men go after the higher competing stressful jobs to have the resources needed for women.

gdolphy you are 100% right. 👍

Sheena Frogoso Same!

Picking up the kids as I listen 😀

Amen!

I should be folding laundry now

Sheena Frogoso me too!

Well it is a routine after all. It happens to me and I am not a mom 🤷🏻‍♀️ The point is: do you enjoy your routine? How can you improve it?

I don't have kids and I work from home and I feel that. It's just being a human. Just find someone YOU enjoy.

Its literally the end of a happy and sad life

Same here. I have never felt so isolated and unhappy. I feel bad admitting it but it’s true.

That's because it basically is 😞

Nicole Johnson I’m here! 🤗

Nicole Johnson i hear ya ,

Nicole Johnson same except im 31

Nicole Johnson finally fate u stepped in!!! Am here😇😇😇

I'm 28 and although I have had besties they now both live over 100 miles away in opposite directions and when we meet up its not the same I don't feel connected to them any more

Same. Mingling exhausts me. Would rather have the occasional loneliness moments than the stress of keeping friendships.

Same. Small talk is crigeful for me

It’s not the loneliness that gets me as much as the boredom. As an introvert I don’t mind solitude and occasional socializing but Jesus what do I do with the hours and hours of monotonous repeating of our lives? And then the anxiety that my son is bored. And I’m probably projecting his boredom cause I’m bored. I definitely don’t ask for help as much as I should, but constantly putting everyone else first feels like my problems are never over.

Being an introvert and a mother is honestly the most difficult thing for me. It really needs to be talked about more.

Tamara Shilling .

I also have a special needs son that is going to be 38 years old. I can’t have a life because it’s too hard caring for my son and trying to have friends or even be a friend, I also keep to myself.

I completely understand I have a special needs son as well, two but one far worse than the other in most ways intellectually and verbally. I feel like a single parent most days but I have a great husband I’ve wanted divorce so bad at time just to get a solid day or two without my kids. I hate pulling him in and out of school teetering on every decision I make for them because I’m not sure of anything when it comes to them. I’m lost and confused and alone but in my heart I want to be the best for them. Keep searching videos of parents of special needs it helps me be okay with myself. I hope things get better for you.

Currently feeling the same way I have a special needs daughter

Aw. ❤️ Hugs, mama.

Some people have the idea of one child to balance their other desires in life. It may work.

I’m so sorry, I was just discussing the type of feeling you described with a girlfriend. Pray you find your balance and this feeling eases. Hugs

There’s this really cool show I recommend you watch, it’s called travel with kids.

Dont worry i already do neither of those things

@@richardcarte139 so you can end up taking care of kids instead of enjoying the trips, it is even worse than taking care of them at home

Violet Blue you hit the nail on the head. My husband acts like I'm pampered and privileged. Refuses to spend real quality time with our child because he works and I stay home with her. And reading your comment, I realize that's why. He thinks I've got it easy. Never considering that I've never wanted to be a SAHM. That I was reluctant to have a child at all because I loved my field and wanted to pursue that passion. Anyway, it's not a solution but it's nice to be able to identify the problem. It's nice to know I'm not the only mom out there that feels this way. I have friend's and family who tell me how lucky I am and how grateful I should be to get to stay home. And I am glad for the time with my daughter, of course. But I don't feel like it's a matter of being lucky, more that it's a sacrifice I've accepted while my child is young.

Jessica Gabrielle Bly Dear Jessica, thank you. As busy as you probably are, it’s important that you take good care of you physical and mental health. Even though I was very busy, I tried to stay in touch with the world and continued to update my knowledge. I also managed to spend time on skincare. I had job offer from my present employer even though I did not work for a long time. My kids are growing up so I started working part time now. As reliable as I feel about my husband, relying on someone financially made me feel insecure. Take care.

Yeah. I HATE when as a housewife people ask you what you do all day..as though their lives are better. Working at home and working in an office are both work. Actually being a stay at home more is more emotionally draining .

TheBooty28 The difference is that career women commute and work all day outside the home, THEN have to come home and squeeze into the few precious remaining hours the homemaking you have have all day to do. The standards of cleanliness and nutrition don’t change just because the wife has a job, and men generally contribute little extra to the household just because their wife Works.

@M Vanity exactly lol sure is drainig, but so as many other jobs

Tina M Fam yes 🙏 Hello, How’s your day going?😊☕️🌹

Tina M Fam Tina! I can’t believe I found you on here. 😂👍🏻 This is Genevieve from Logan.

@@VivKittie32 great minds think alike! haha

What if isolation is healing because your surrounded by negative people that you cannot cut off?

Most people don’t realise it will bring them unhappiness until they actually have them, and by then it’s too late

It's a sacrifice. You do it because your heart is in it. In the end its worth it. The days go by slow & the years pass so fast.

I love my kids and would never change having them. They haven't brought me unhappiness and I would never put something like that on them. Parenthood can be challenging and its not for everyone, but dont blame the kids.

@@HANA-mw1rf if someone is not willing to make the "sacrifice" you have no say in it. In indian society sati (burning women after the husband's death) was considered a noble sacrifice will you be willing to do it?

@KiddRogers so true

Anna J it gets better, I promise...

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish.

Hello Anna,I am equally a mum of two adorable daughters ,and I feel like I am struggling with my identity. It is hard

Beautiful testimony.

Megan Haroldson soooo accurate ✌🏻

Megan Haroldson sounds like Me

I understand what you said

Same here I am a Mom of two and I also work but still have a loneliness

@@christiham9822 I’m glad that I’m not alone. I do have a lot of acquaintances who have kids around the same age as mines and wanting to do a play date or something but it never happens.

Narcissistic mother. I had one and ditched her at 18. Been no contact ever since

tonim ohh that was a general statement I made not about me. I know who the lord Jesus Christ is, but how she’s describing motherhood scenario it seems that women are never happy.

tonim for sure everyone should seek the knowledge to build that relationship. ☺️☺️

tonim How do you explain atheists all over the world such as myself having happy and fulfilled lives? Please don’t bring religious rubbish in to this. Thank you!

Melissa S Morris To some extent it's human nature to want what we don't have, grass is greener on the other side scenario. When we're single we want a spouse, when we're married we long for our single days, when we're stay at home moms we wish we were working, when employed we wish we were home with our kids, when the kids are little we can't wait for them to get bigger, when they're grown we wish they were still kids. We need to stop wishing our lives away & try to be content with the here & now, but that's easier said than done. A little time to ourselves & introspection helps to bring perspective. Another issue is that we don't have to have it all, especially not all at once. Life is filled with many options & choices. I think often we're unhappy because we're not necessarily doing what WE truly want to do. We're busy trying to make others happy all the time & do what they say we should be doing, whether it's our parents, friends, spouses, pastors, teachers, coworkers, the media, etc. It can feel like we always fall short & are never enough - good enough, smart enough, crafty enough, fast enough, perky enough, pretty enough, whatever. It's exhausting & depressing trying to please others all the time. We need to be true to ourselves & make sure that what we're doing is what we really want to be doing. Of course, we all have to do things we don't want to do from time to time, tedious chores & whatnot or maybe we're burdened by past poor choices that include responsibilities that we can't shirk, but generally speaking, we need to make sure that what we're doing is as fulfilling & true to who & what we are as possible. Life is short & we only have one trip here, we all need to feel that we're growing & thriving & not just barely surviving.

Katarina S. You hit the nail on the head. This is so true. I couldn’t of said it better.

Why direct that at women as if there are no men in the same situation? Do you really need to perpetuate the gender roles so hardcore? Would it not be better if things were more equal? If you want more equality then you have to act that way yourself.

@@0ooTheMAXXoo0 She doesn't want equality obviously. Don't give VVomen like her the free attention they *DESPERATELY NEED* man. Stay strong!

I mean, that makes sense ; women-children can't take care of themselves properly so of course they can't take care of another human being ! Plus, it's beter his way, because if you have kids, you will obviously teach them how to be depressed their entire lives.

​​@@lealacey2895kids are very hard job you know that? You will not have sleep in days month and no vacation like corporate job at least you have day free

So why did you watch this video if your so overwhelmed with the joy of motherhood?

@@christierennard4838 curiosity mainly

Being a mom isn't the hardest job. Being a father is the hardest job.

@@thedude6435 that depends. For my ex, being a “father” was quite easy. I couldn’t even leave them alone with him to take a shower

@@cloverstylez I guess you're right, it depends. If what you say is true, then that's what I would call a bad father. I guess what I meant is that being a good father is the hardest job. It obviously was for your ex.

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Couldn't agree more. Yet modern models of family in a capsule prevent this. We don't even connect with the rest of our families!

Only problem is kiddy diddlers. Can’t be too careful these days. TRUST NO ONE

johnwaters777 very well said

johnwaters777 I could not agree more. I was just thinking that the single-family home is unnatural. Then again it's unnatural for a creature like us to have no predators and tribalism often leads to war. So, nothing is perfect. Just have to make the best of what is.

Yes, there are SO many things to do in life! Couldn't children be taught /shown a wider variety of options? Why are they still Railroaded and Forced into marriage and children? When you read internet comments you find out there are SO MANY people raised in unbelievably painful, abusive circumstances. .. and the PAIN they carry with them as adults is just mind-boggling. It's because Parenting Is Not For Everyone. Children are People. Open up their options, please.

Totally agree with you. Motherhood is very tough and gets little recognition. It's not for everyone ... But people assume you are ' missing something' if you are a female without children . I don't have children and am content , fulfilled and I love my life!

Yes! I can't imagine having kids, and I don't think any possible future kids would appreciate the halfway or (hopefully silently) unhappy job I would make of it. It would be selfish of me to have kids to check a box so society would approve of me.

that is very true. Especially if your the first born and a girl. It was always expected of me when I got married to start having children and for 5 years I thought I wanted childern until I realized that mother hood isnt for me and I perfectly fine with no childern and prefer it that way

It isn't about being a mom, fathers face the same problems when they are the ones staying home with the kids.

Waaaaahhhhh

Because of this if you could hire more baby sitters there would be less problems for you but possibly you don't have money

Cosmic K One kid is the secret, most of these moms have 4 kids under 5 and wonder why their overwhelmed. Don't feel like you need to have all your kids at once.

@@jellybeans9283 You're right. One is enough, but if I had more, gotta find a way to make it work with whatever challenges you put yourself in to.

I am a stay at home mom, work from home. three kids and loving life

What do you do working from home?

Congratulations, Mary!

Awesome. Single mothers are awesome....

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish.

What bold faced lie! Stop kidding yourself princess. 🥴

Same!! Just cant be a mother

Many women are clingy and emotionally dependent on others, which is one reason why they feel the need to become mothers. They have the false hope that their children will somehow emotionally support them. They soon find out that their children will disappoint them and emotionally drain them. Great comment!

Marília Diniz why are you here?

Because people who aren’t mothers have every right to hear about those who are if they want to.

It’s time society started talking about this and recognizing burnout.

I hope you can find some peace ❤️

Sheryl Gonzalez Ziegler thank you so much!

I got that mindset recently and I'm almost 30.

Women have been dealing with loneliness and isolation since before the internet.

@@Pirategirl4nightwish Exactly, great point.

I have no social media :) and its fantastic 👌 thats the way it should be. I wish my spouse could do the same

SAME!!! I want kids in the future but not now. (Im 26) I'm enjoying my freedom and not taking it for granted.

Child free and loving life!!! No regrets here! I just watch videos about how unhappy people with kids are, it tells me I'm making the right decision to not have children.

I want my life to be filled with people and purpose... Not a bunch of memories of chill time.

@@carleyhawker221 that's great! I do too but the odds of the marriage imploding into a giant dumpster fire are too high. And that's a risk I'm not willing to take. Of course there are success stories, and I hope you and your marriage are one of them. Good luck! 👍

@@carleyhawker221 yup! I’m so glad we both get that - mine looks different than yours. It’s filled with very deep and meaningful and purposeful time spent with all my family - especially my neice and nephews. I get to pour into them in a very special way that most aunts don’t get to do because they are too busy being a mom. I have a childfree aunt who did that with me and she has a very full blessed life with close relationships with her nieces and nephews. Buuut - I also get to travel the world and indeed - have a lot of chill time enjoying the relationship with my husband. Absolutely no apologies there.

@@drsherylziegler all my old friends had ulterior motives. But I understand what you're saying

So real. Same happened to me.

Why do you gals make babies and then whine about it? And why bother with involving yourself with men since they make you so unhappy, just marry a girlfriend and things will be perfect!

@@michaelmelling9333 oops, well you and your delusional comment. Boy on boy girl on girl = suicide. Go see a psychiatrist.

Sarah _ what..

amen. im a mother of 2, and been a mother since 17

Exactly!!!!

I blame women for this. We love to be in this high fake energy that we can do it all. It's rubbish, but it feeds our ego. We allow our husbands to be external in the process which places all the pressure on us.Women are trying to live up to a role that was written in fairtayles

That’s a dangerous commute, driving and reading the paper.

My husband spends his weekends watching movies and resting. I spend my weekends cleaning, cooking and doing laundry.

I was ganna say I think you need to make sure you have a good partner if you are going to decide to start a family.

Dee A eh... I felt that way in my 20s and 30s as I homeschooled my children. I didn't realize how isolated I was until they became adults and I began to understand the damage staying home had done to my social life, my self-esteem and my individuality

Sounding like a true introvert 😁

Dennis Alarcon what??

Go You! And look up 'introverted mums'. Yes, we're a thing. (Though I confess, I do love connecting on an authentic level with others, just one-on-one, just every now and then). ;)

I agree! Alone time is so underrated!

Laura Whelan yes AND it would be nice if the guys got together at another house and they can hang out too.

@@jessicalt4121 or just leave the kids with the dads,so the mother will have a time for herself

It needs a little effort, and innitiativity ..but l swear its worth it

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish.

I am not a mom, but my mom wants me to have children. She is lonely and she send to think that the cure to loneliness is having a child. Is there some truth in this? Are children good company or help with loneliness? I know it seems silly to ask this but I really don’t know if life without children is unfulfilled

​@@shobanana1 Do what YOU want, not your mother

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish.

Too many holes in your statemenr

愛HiImAmii Those aren’t real feminists. Just like a woman can choose to work, she can choose to stay home too.

@@catgirl6803 They are feminists all the same.

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Well put...❤

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish at all

Same

Real

I’d rather die.

the population control junkie love this

Probably a good thing ha chose*

That's something that should be discussed at baby showers honestly.

Bibi Crom absolutely. Moms can hire a mother’s helper who can just be a tween who watches your kids in another part of the house or in the yard while you are at home.

I was a mother’s helper when I was younger. It was a great way to earn a little money when you aren’t even in middle school yet and the mothers obviously really appreciate it.

Men don't complain because they don't like to bear the burden on their partner. That's one thing women can definitely work on.

Kalyssa my husband complains! I keep things to myself more.

@@kalykalypso Men complain from the moment they open their eyes in the morning after their 10 hours of sleep 'til the moment they go back to sleep.

Agreed

Kalyssa S I agree, men can feel tortured by a sense of failure that they are not perfect providers. Men don’t want to be a burden and this why they don’t share their feelings more. The good ones at least.

Yo go girl, we're not missing out on a damn thing 😊🎉

Too Much-Online enjoy the poppy diapers, the vomit, the stress, the debt and sleep deprivation ❤️

You're name IS mimi (me-me) 🙂

Your living your BEST LIFE!!!

Everyone has their priorities Some people enjoy children some don't.

Crystal evans 😥❤ I feel for you sis 🙏🙏🙏

I hope you’re doing better mama ♥️

I hope u doing well

Who filed for divorce and why?

How are you crystal

perpetuallydancing same!

But you chose this

Go in, put the baby in his arms, and tell him you are going to take a bath. If he knocks on the door, tell him that is strike one and that if you get to strike three he can pack his stuff and go back to living with him mom since that is what he wants, a mom and not a partner. Start now, don't wait until it is too late and he can't even microwave his own food.

@@mandlerparr1 Oh I put him out about a week ago.

The first two years are the hardest! Fifteen months can feel like a lifetime, haha! It can be rough, no matter how long you’ve been doing it :) I hope you can leave the baby with someone and go out with some girlfriends. It has saved my life! Haha!

@shea Williams I'm sure your baby looks like a foot.. Remember what you said... not all babies are cute.

Mine does the same thing. Now he's single. Lol. Life is much better.

You need time for yourself too, get lots of self care its not being selfish at all