Good honest communication is always the key.

Dylan, thanks for sharing. When I hear your story about your marriage that lasted 3 years, my first reaction is "What were they thinking??" when you decided to get married. You talked a lot about lessons learned while you were married, and after the marriage ended, but not a lot about what both of you were thinking before you got married. Considering that marriage is a legal contract that can have a lot of complications to get out of, it should not be rushed into. Both partners should be ready and committed to the long haul. And while you may have been ready yourself, how do really know if your partner is? You really can't know for certain, especially if you haven't known your prospective partner very long, and especially if you are younger (under 30). I think there could be another video in your future about what to look for and how to prepare BEFORE you decide to get married and when you know you are ready to get married. Peace and love to you.

Again, I relate to your story. I was with my husband for over 22 years. But I wasn't happy and became depressed. I had to leave so moved across country. It has been 3 years now and we have remained friends and still care about each other. As time passes, I miss the good times but then recall the reasons I left. Glad you are doing so well. I am too. Thanks for your openess.

You'll learn that throughout your life, experiences and how you deal/dealt with them can guide you down a more peaceful path....if one is inclined to do so.

Dylan, I’m going through it now. It’s great to listen to you. THANK you SO MUCH for sharing yourself with us. You are gold!

I binge-watched your videos from a few years ago till now and I saw how much you have grown and matured. Being 65 now, I can appreciate how you have learned lessons some people have not gotten a chance to learn. Being introspective and evaluating relationships shows your growth. Facing the world with a new set of eyes, I think you will be more than fine. I only ask you to be honest with yourself and value your opinions and worth. Be the partner you would like to have and never look for your happiness inside another. Realize you complete yourself, I feel these are some lessons, that took me 65 years to understand, I feel you will learn these facts sooner as you are developing them now. I look forward to your next video young man, may God bless and keep you.

Dylan-As we grow and go in and out if Relationships, we personally always learn from what went wrong! I feel that it made me grow as a person and come to realize what is needed to make a Relationship Truly Work!! Communication and Give and Take is the Magical Key. After Sex-There has to be a Loving, Trusting Bond and Being Interested in your Partners Interests, although they may not be yours!! ❤️❤️💜💜👍🏼👍🏼

We love You Dylan! Much happiness and continued growing SUCCESS! 😊

When Dylan smiles it is like the sun is shining. What a gift to bestow on your boyfriend .... lucky guy. There is a technique called fair fighting because there is a reason

Unfortunately most relationships are made up of fractured people needing someone else to make them a "whole" person. That's why they fail. No one else can make up for your own inadequacies. The best, long lasting relationships are the ones where either person can walk away. They don't because the other person is not needing anything other than affection. Being independent is very attractive and needing nothing is a sign of strength. The Law of Attraction.

You seem so real, I'm sorry you got divorced,I lost my husband to COVID in 21. Like you I went into a very, very, dark place. I to relapsed. I did boy if you know the slang. I didn't want to be here without him. I got help. You're so special, and it's hard for me to understand who could divorce someone as kind soul, and fine on the eyes also. I was blessed by God for sending me a soulmate, and it was very complicated. Neither live you in Christ sincerely Greg from Maryville Tennessee. Be blessed

Dylan I have found my true companion and partner your videos have set me free please keep it up and look forward to seeing more videos I am in Australia

So true!! Communication means everything between each person! Great advice 👍 ❤

You have summed up it all well. You have said many things that people should do to keep a relationship healthy. Communicating is important. Being honest with one another.

Very insightful, thx for sharing I luv the channel 😮😊

Communication makes a Successful Pairing. Treat this as a Life Lesson ---- now your'e more prepared for Prince Charming!! 17 years here with my guy...lots of Ups & downs ...Communication is KEY! Ps. why are you sooooo Fuking Adorable?

Dylan, fulfilled, fortunate and happy will be the boyfriend who one day is lucky enough to become your husband. He will have found a jewel because that is what you are.

For such a young guy.. you make such good sense.. and you are a kind and caring man who is willing to share what you have learned.. You are so right about communication.. it is definitely the key to a good relationship.. Btw.. really appreciate your honesty.. you inspire others because you admit the mistakes we all make.. the difference is that you took what you learned and make the best of it.. and you got rid of the things in your life that were hurting you.. It is obvious listening to you how much you have been hurt.. even so, you are full of courage and strength, Dylan.. and your kindness in sharing your story will help many.. Take care, mate.. always be the great guy you know yourself to be🌹 Jen999💙

The good thing is that you are growing from your experiences. God put everyone in our lives for a reason, sometimes it's for the good, and sometimes it's for us to learn.

Thank you for the prospective. Love your videos, love you.❤❤

I love you Dylan every day is a new day as you said things happened for a reason but remember you are not alone hugs 🤗

Dylan, I was with my spouse from age 17 when we moved into together for 16 years until I had to get a temporary protective order and put all of my spouse’s belongings in 32 giant contractor sized garbage bags on the front porch per the judge’s order. It was like my spouse died. I couldn’t get out of bed. From the 1st week of November when we split till December 24, I eventually couldn’t breathe. My Mom came over to check on me. Had she not, I would’ve died! I had double pneumonia! Honest communication in a safe place that you both build together where you are free to state your true feelings is the key to a lifelong relationship. The first time either party doesn’t express their truth, it’s over! Me and my spouse never argued!

Relationships, as I’ve learnt, I’m gonna be good if the grounding is right. Marriage on the other hand, especially in our community is something of an issue because of the impermanence of things in life. Nothing last forever. I’m not saying that marriage is wrong, but whenever we go into anything in life, we should always keep in mind the impermanence of life, which means that we enjoy every moment of what is happening to us. I live by the principal of “momento mori” which means simply ‘ you will die’, so taking it to consideration this stoic principle, it means that every moment that you have in your life should be lived to its fullest and enjoy it because of that impermanence of life. We come together we get together, we form bonds, those bonds break, we heal. We learn from what we’ve been through, and then we move forward, having learned from the lessons of the past. I really love your content and I hope one day I can get me a southern who speaks like you😂

I just want to give you a big hug. I went thru a similar “shock” divorce and it was a gut punch. Took me a year to put myself back together. Hoping you can continue to heal.

thanks though hard to listen to the honesty and hurt of it all. I'm impressed with your genuine ss and empathy for people, so nice.

Sorry about your divorce.. going thru the same thing.. 14 years together, 7 years married... it's like a death.. feel sooo fucking LOST.. but we'll walk it off and get back on the horse eventually.. :*

You're a good man, Dylan!

Your posts never cease to amaze me! I'm sure your videos are helping many younger people deal with the complexities of Gay life. Especially those in MAGAand southern states.

Dylan your subscribers are going up because your content from your point of view is interesting. Keep it up. i glance at other comments too and there is a lot of agreement that you are a very mature young man.👍🏼

Dylan, I love to listen to your stories. You are spot on and always tell the truth. But I am looking for the same thing the best friend and a lover. Just not easy to fine.

Thanks for sharing your story with us.

A straight friend of mine once said to me, "Marriage is not so hard if you make your partner your best friend." I'm not sure you can "make" a friend; I think it more likely that you run into one, then let the hormones percolate to their hearts' content, but that will probably pass, given time. Still, you have your friend.

Hi dear ❤❤❤god bless you ❤️

I made a similar mistake the first time. We found we were not compatible under the sheets. Thereafter I'm into developing a relationship daytime and nighttime together before any LT commitment is considered. There is nothing worse than a gay couple discovering after marriage they have completely different sex drives

His loss my friend. Your accent is very sexxxy. I love a man with a southern accent.❤😅

Been with my partner almost 20 years. He has his house, I have mine, and we have no interest in getting married. We like the commitment, but not the feeling of being legally trapped. Instead of a marriage license we met with a lawyer: Singed wills, healthcare POA, durable POA etc... Btw... us old queens were the ones that marched in all those rallies and fought for the rights we have to marry. Keep carrying the torch young ones... there's more work to be done and more rights denied to us. I don't know who the hell is running the pride movement these days, but's it's gone nuts with all these pronouns. It's like the movement has gone one leap forward and two leaps back. And it's turning off our straight allies whom we still need.

My partner and I have been together for just over 43 years. We did get married in 2011 because we found common-law marriage here in Ontario is one of the weakest in Canada so to reinforce our wills and so no one could challenge our intents, we got legally married. We didn't want to get married because philosophically we didn't need any religion or government to approve of our relationship. Common-law marriage is not the same as legal marriage legally. If you do get married, at least here in the province of Ontario, your previous wills even done with your partner as inheritor of your property, become null and void and so you need to redo it in order to have a legal will.

This advice will be useful for me when I get married In the afterlife probably 😂😜

Hello Dylan✋🙏🏻👍💯

Sometimes you're a great spy and you catch him cheaping!

You need to read Dr John Gottman 💯 Listen to This American Life episode *The Sanctity Of Marriage*

People broke up be geting married or after my dad and mom broke up be for i was born not married i am lote older than you by robert

Hi i was with someone for 8years he asked me if we can have a open relationship i said no at that time hiv was going a round he start to sleep a round on me that y we broke up by robert

I winced when you said, "my failed marriage." Try using, "my first attempt at marriage" or "an earlier marriage attempt." You did not fail you were just pruned back and pruning is necessary to promote future growth. Go easy on yourself. Let the comment section offer up the hard knocks.......just kidding.

That which does not kill us makes us stronger. A separation or a divorce is like a death, and you will recover!

Good morning darlin

Never get married! The same for the modern straight man. People are too intrinsic and men are not compatible. Two of the same things are bound to come into conflict. Just have relations with people don’t try to build lifetime connections with them.